As the late Eartha Kitt said, "My flaws make me who I am." What's important is that you are still you, regardless of the scar. You've got this! FYI: they're pricey, but you could even look at getting a shirt with this on it... Eartha Kitt's daughter, Kitt Shapiro, sells them through her website, Simply Eartha, a wonderful lifestyle boutique site. She's an amazing person too...I own several of her shirts and a keychain!
Kimmy's up and I was able to ask her about it -- and she said that yes, that definitely does go away, but it takes a long time before that sensation fades. But that Mederma helped speed the process up a little.
I wont every say "wear it with pride" because I TOTALLY understand what you are going through. I havent walked out of my house without makeup in probably 20 years. (And were talking KatVonD Lockit tattoo covering foundation...) Scars suck and my face is a constant revolving door of them that never heal. Now my scalp is joining the party and Ive officially been diagnosed with Alopecia. The most impactful thing Ive had said to me in recent years is this. "Everyday you put yourself down, and tell yourself how unattractive you are is one more day you are making it true, because the only person it REALLY matters to is you." Ouch. That one hurt. I dont think Ill ever not feel the way I do every day...but I do try to have fewer days/moments/minutes where I put myself down. I promise you this. You are fucking beautiful. Just make sure you try and tell YOURSELF that once in awhile.
I have been happily watching your videos for a couple of years, and I have always thought of you as a very attractive woman! And you keep your look natural, which boosts your beauty. That scar, which I didn't notice until you pointed it out, will fade. In the meantime, until it starts to fade, you can look at it as proof of winning the battle against skin cancer. It's your mark of victory! So, please do not allow it to bring you down. No matter what, you will always be a beautiful woman! :)
I ABSOLUTELY understand where you're coming from on this. But, it's only been a couple months (well, one month when you posted this, I'm behind and catching up since TH-cam decided to be an ass and wasn't displaying your vids in recommended, so now I'm going through manually to see what I missed!) -- I promise it will fade more than that. It's just a slow, slowwwwww process. Even the one on my arm from this same surgery that I still hate so much, I think for me it was a good year or two before the color of it started to really blend in largely with the skin around it (BUT, I also heal way worse than most people, so don't feel like it'll take that long for you just because my skin is dumb ;)). In that same length of time, most people I've known who've had similar done have had their scars more or less fade to near invisibility in that time. Given how well yours is already healing? You're gonna be in that camp :) Just like everything else, it is a process. But I do get the feelings of hating it. I've more or less made peace with the one on my arm (although when it was new, I had a huge hangup about it because teenagers are cruel), but I'll admit that it's been nearly 20 years I've had the scars on my chest, and I still feel immense hate and shame around those (I know, shut up Jenn, not helping) and generally try to just never even wear anything with a neckline that might show them because I still hate the attention they get and the comments and judgement about them. Yours is just a little wee thing -- when it's been long enough to smooth out? A little makeup over it and that baby won't even show at all, and you'll be the only one who even knows it's there :) I wish mine were that little! But even with it visible right now, you are still gorgeous -- hold your head high, and while knowing that it's normal to feel these feelings about the scar, I promise it does not look anywhere near as bad as you feel like it does.
Regarding the stiffness you feel in the scar: that too will improve. I'm not sure if it will 100% leave (I can ask Kimmy since she had a really massive scar on her lip where she split it falling off the top of a jungle gym as a little kid and had to have stitches -- it both faded to where it's hardly noticable but she also puts makeup over it to where you don't even see one at all anymore. But she would know about how it feels to have one in about the same location after it healing like that and time going by), but even just judging by touching my own scars and how they feel, while the skin will forever feel a little bit different -- it is a scar, after all, so different tissue there -- I don't think it's going to keep feeling as stiff and fibrous as it does right now. Mine are ultimately fairly soft to the touch really, so I would imagine that having one like that on your lip would probably translate into over time, you either won't feel it anymore or will only super minimally feel something different there and just grow accustomed to it over time. But I will ask Kimmy about that when she's awake later since I bet she could give an honest answer one way or the other on that.
We're really alike in our veiws I'm exactly the same way..I'm great at giving compliments to my friends but not myself.. I'm not a realist either.. your still my beautiful friend luvs you 💙 xx
The scar will fade away with time and you are pretty and I wish I have your pretty hair! Be positive! I enjoy watching your videos!
Thank you so much. You're so kind. 💙
As the late Eartha Kitt said, "My flaws make me who I am." What's important is that you are still you, regardless of the scar. You've got this! FYI: they're pricey, but you could even look at getting a shirt with this on it... Eartha Kitt's daughter, Kitt Shapiro, sells them through her website, Simply Eartha, a wonderful lifestyle boutique site. She's an amazing person too...I own several of her shirts and a keychain!
Kimmy's up and I was able to ask her about it -- and she said that yes, that definitely does go away, but it takes a long time before that sensation fades. But that Mederma helped speed the process up a little.
I wont every say "wear it with pride" because I TOTALLY understand what you are going through. I havent walked out of my house without makeup in probably 20 years. (And were talking KatVonD Lockit tattoo covering foundation...) Scars suck and my face is a constant revolving door of them that never heal. Now my scalp is joining the party and Ive officially been diagnosed with Alopecia. The most impactful thing Ive had said to me in recent years is this. "Everyday you put yourself down, and tell yourself how unattractive you are is one more day you are making it true, because the only person it REALLY matters to is you."
Ouch. That one hurt. I dont think Ill ever not feel the way I do every day...but I do try to have fewer days/moments/minutes where I put myself down.
I promise you this. You are fucking beautiful. Just make sure you try and tell YOURSELF that once in awhile.
I love you SO fucking much, my beautiful sister. 💙
I have been happily watching your videos for a couple of years, and I have always thought of you as a very attractive woman! And you keep your look natural, which boosts your beauty. That scar, which I didn't notice until you pointed it out, will fade. In the meantime, until it starts to fade, you can look at it as proof of winning the battle against skin cancer. It's your mark of victory! So, please do not allow it to bring you down. No matter what, you will always be a beautiful woman! :)
You are so very kind. Thank you, truly. 🌻
@@PerseveringStar My pleasure! Just speaking the truth! :)
I ABSOLUTELY understand where you're coming from on this. But, it's only been a couple months (well, one month when you posted this, I'm behind and catching up since TH-cam decided to be an ass and wasn't displaying your vids in recommended, so now I'm going through manually to see what I missed!) -- I promise it will fade more than that. It's just a slow, slowwwwww process. Even the one on my arm from this same surgery that I still hate so much, I think for me it was a good year or two before the color of it started to really blend in largely with the skin around it (BUT, I also heal way worse than most people, so don't feel like it'll take that long for you just because my skin is dumb ;)). In that same length of time, most people I've known who've had similar done have had their scars more or less fade to near invisibility in that time. Given how well yours is already healing? You're gonna be in that camp :) Just like everything else, it is a process. But I do get the feelings of hating it. I've more or less made peace with the one on my arm (although when it was new, I had a huge hangup about it because teenagers are cruel), but I'll admit that it's been nearly 20 years I've had the scars on my chest, and I still feel immense hate and shame around those (I know, shut up Jenn, not helping) and generally try to just never even wear anything with a neckline that might show them because I still hate the attention they get and the comments and judgement about them. Yours is just a little wee thing -- when it's been long enough to smooth out? A little makeup over it and that baby won't even show at all, and you'll be the only one who even knows it's there :) I wish mine were that little! But even with it visible right now, you are still gorgeous -- hold your head high, and while knowing that it's normal to feel these feelings about the scar, I promise it does not look anywhere near as bad as you feel like it does.
Regarding the stiffness you feel in the scar: that too will improve. I'm not sure if it will 100% leave (I can ask Kimmy since she had a really massive scar on her lip where she split it falling off the top of a jungle gym as a little kid and had to have stitches -- it both faded to where it's hardly noticable but she also puts makeup over it to where you don't even see one at all anymore. But she would know about how it feels to have one in about the same location after it healing like that and time going by), but even just judging by touching my own scars and how they feel, while the skin will forever feel a little bit different -- it is a scar, after all, so different tissue there -- I don't think it's going to keep feeling as stiff and fibrous as it does right now. Mine are ultimately fairly soft to the touch really, so I would imagine that having one like that on your lip would probably translate into over time, you either won't feel it anymore or will only super minimally feel something different there and just grow accustomed to it over time. But I will ask Kimmy about that when she's awake later since I bet she could give an honest answer one way or the other on that.
We're really alike in our veiws I'm exactly the same way..I'm great at giving compliments to my friends but not myself.. I'm not a realist either.. your still my beautiful friend luvs you 💙 xx
Love you, too!