When Joe yells at the sky that he doesnt want his memories of Clementine to be erased such a powerful scene. By the way love the background song used really captures the melancholic vibe that Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind brings
전 개인적으로 커스틴 던스트가 영화제목과 똑같은 제목의 시 구절을 말할때 나오는 조엘과 클레멘의 영상이 기억에 남아요. 플래시백 시점에서의 과거는 언제나 아름답고 행복해보이기 때문이랄까요ㅎㅎ 그래서 그런지 결혼이야기도 도입부에 찰리랑 니콜이 서로의 장점을 적은 편지를 읽을때 나오는 과거 영상을 좋아해서 예고편을 통해 가끔씩 돌려보곤 합니다ㅎㅎ 새해 복 많이 받으세요!
I always felt like this movie was saying that love isn't a feeling, it's a choice, it's an active decision you have to keep making after the immediate rush. Otherwise you just spend your life chasing that same initial flood of infatuation, not realizing true love isn't a constant excitement, that its a collection of smaller joyful moments over time.
I completely agree, this is so well put. However it is one thing to know this with your mind, but another to not mistake the initial flood for love. This is not as easy as it sounds..
Exactly. First comes the crazy crush which could last weeks, months, or even a year. After that you can really see do you and the other person fit together. After many years I have found a woman that makes me fell in love with her over and over... It's been 10 years now and our relationship is constantly growing. I'm just so lucky
This is true. I've been with my partner for almost five years now and most of the time we don't do anything crazy or exciting, but we find joy in the most mundane of situations. I hope that is real love.
I actually just realized that if it’s true love, it’s more about falling in love over and over again. Even when you see the worse parts of a person, the love can grow with time.
Happy for everyone who has found that💖 For the rest of us, maybe we have to learn to love ourselves first, in exactly that way, before we can experience it with other people.
When I was younger and hadn't much experience with relationships I loved this movie and would watch it regularly. Now that I'm older and have had relationships end, not in painful, quick finalities, but in long, slow, periods of growing apart, I cannot watch this movie. It's too painful. It's too spot-on for what the slow death of human relationships looks like, the guilt, the loss, the realization that most things you gain will in time go away bit by bit until they're just hazy, semi-numb memories, like nerves burnt off at the end giving the sensation of a feeling but no real feeling.
I've been watching this movie multiple times a year since high school. Watching it used to fill me with such comfort, it felt like I was returning home. After stumbling across this video today I realized I hadn't revisited this movie in over two years. Your comment really hit home for me. I feel like I've reached a period in my life where even the idea of rewatching this movie fills me with sadness. I still consider it to be one of my favorites of all time and I am thankful to be able to experience such an intense reaction to a piece of art. In my opinion, the fact that my relationship with the movie has changed so drastically over the years is a testament to its genius and beauty. Even though I am unable to rewatch this movie during this stage in my life, I am still looking forward to the relationship my future self will have with it.
Your comment was so thought out and amazing. What an incredible feeling that you described, I've never felt it before and am really unsure if I ever do want to feel it. haha
That’s really interesting. Because I’ve loved this movie so much for so long and in every stage of relationship imaginable. And when I’m most depressed I’ll watch this movie nightly for weeks. I feel like seeing the painful death of the relationship is what makes them saying “okay” in the end so heartbreakingly beautiful. I don’t think knowing most things in time will go away should be sad. How else do we make room for other things? And even if we don’t want new things and just want to keep what we have, holing on too tight doesn’t leave room for things to evolve and for people to grow. I don’t know, I think it’d be different if in the end they didn’t say (in my opinion, by saying okay) that they thought it was all worth it. Your comment makes me so sad, but I respect it. And I hope you can enjoy the movie again some time soon ❤️
It also shows one of the best quotes from clementine "People have to share things, Joel... that's what intimacy is" - the point is, is that Joel NEVER talks, so as good as the quote is to coming to a middle ground we know that when Joel says this it isn't to find a middle ground he says it to brush her off, just as Clem struggles to find her middle ground with how forward and brash she is. How do we know this? because we know that Joel writes in his journal we know he feels things just as deeply as Clementine, but while Clem is more than happy to be open and share so many things, Joel is more introverted and secretive. There is no wrong way to be, that's sort of the point of both of their quotes being from the opposite ends of the spectrum. And it's super fun to see which of those two quotes that are said almost right next to each other in the film... its fun to see which saying and character people identify with more.
For me, it’s when Joel & Clementine are in Barnes & Noble, in between one of the aisles & says to her, “it would be different… if we could just give it another go around.”
For me it's the "I wish I'd stayed, too. Now I wish I'd stayed.I wish I'd done a lot of things.... I wish I... I wish I'd stayed... I do." Reminds me of my moments when I "didnt stay"...
Just watched it again, I always do for Valentine’s Day, the line that unexpectedly hit me is when Clem and Joel are going to the beach house in Montauk after waking up in snow and humiliation, they both wrestle each other in the snow making it harder to get to the house and at the last part of the memory Clem gleefully exclaims “let go of me Joel” in a double entendre and it immediately cuts to the next memory. It’s so beautifully devastating.
I never got myne, so I had to repeatedly make my own closure. I have hyperMnesia so I involuntarily relive memories, both good & bad. Whereas she has [confirmed & documented] amnesia with split personalities, so she forgets or the more ruthless ones make her, so she can stick to the life & vices she gets through her life with, rather then something better for herself. Whether that would include me or not, it shouldn't have included unethical people beneath us both. We broke up 4 times, twice each and i was the first for that reason both times.. So I made a video-log-diary playlist on Odysee about it to help me escape the loop. Has it worked? Not entirely, but it's still helpful to anyone else.. I can't throw the rarity away of who i am for the sake of someone who can't remember it..... Even for the rarities of her own... some relationships have expiration dates and I don't want to succumb to the societal rot she steeped herself in for it, just to be with an amnesiac who loses herself for others who aren't worth it... at the expense of someone who is... and i am not just talking of myself(s) when I say that, but anyone else more suitable than the 1-in-a-literal-billion, that we were. Should she eventually stumble across it, she'll get to enjoy 2+hours of content better than any of the podcasts and videos *she made me sit through(more than once!)*.... so... theres *that*.
I didn't think the film was ending with an ominous suggestion they'd go through the whole cycle. I thought it was just that they were going to go through the relationship with an acceptance that just because it will probably end, and even end badly, it's still worth experiencing, and remembering. I thought it was about accepting sorrow, anger, frustration, as a part of the whole experience of life. Because rejecting those unwanted parts means losing the whole thing. And relationships are always worth remembering. If you forget them, you learn nothing from them, about yourself, or love, or life.
That's how I feel about relationships in general and how I also interpreted it. Who cares that it's gonna end, you can enjjoy the fuck out of the time up until it ends.
The line that really touched me was when Joel’s friend asks about Clem in the beginning and he says ”just some girl” because they were practically strangers, but towards the ending when every single memory is flashing before his eyes the same chat is played again only this time the ”just some girl” line means so much more. you shared a life with that person.. they were apart of you and now they’re just a stranger that you’ll always remember.
This is probably my favorite film of all time. I saw it with my wife the year we were married and we both shared a deep love of its messages about the meaning of love changing through the passage of time. After 15 wonderful years, she died of cancer in 2020. This film had such a profound effect on us both, I don't know if I will ever have the strength to watch it again without her at my side. But once I do get around to watching Joel try to cling to his memories of Clem as they slip away -- just as my wife slipped away from me -- I imagine it will have an even deeper meaning I can't even comprehend...
my favorite scene from this movie is when theyre in the library and Joel sees clementine and she tells him " Too many guys think im a concept, or i complete them, or im gonna make them feel alive. But im just a fucked up girl looking for her own peace of mind, Don't assign me yours.'
Joel: I can't see anything that I don't like about you. Clementine: But you will! But you will. You know, you will think of things. And I'll get bored with you and feel trapped because that's what happens with me. Young people always looking for perfection and not realizing yet that there is no such thing. Just enjoy the time you have with this person because life is short.
the best line is when she says “this is it joel, it’s gonna be gone soon”. even tho it was about the erasure process, i always felt it relates to the euphoria of love itself. it can’t be intense forever and it’s a finite feeling.
If that's not a hyperbole and you did cry for 4 days straight, you probably shouldn't, unless you've been stocking up on your vacation time and have no one around that will get worried and call a hotline for you
You know this part when Clementine is telling Joel that she was feeling ugly as a kid and then Joel starts kissing her face and telling her that she's beautiful? That part absolutely destroyes me because I didn't get to experience that kind of intimacy with someone I really really really would want to experience with. Long distance sucks man. It's over now. He's avoiding me. I'm obviously not over him and this whole thing AGHHHH it's been 7 months and the pain doesn't go away. I wish I truly had enjoyed everything with you. But now when I try, it brings nothing but awful pain. I'm definitely not made for relationships and that fact breaks my heart ever more. I just walked out the door. And maybe it was the right thing, but....... I wish it wasn't
I'm sorry to hear that. I've been through the same situation with a girl that I really loved. It was long distance as well, so we didn't get to experience a true relationship; the intimacy and all. We tried our best with what we had... but in the end, we knew what had to he done. I've spent so much thinking about what could've been... how different life would've been if it just worked. Unfortunately, life isn't as easy. And I'm still working on picking myself up. One of the ways is not regretting it. And learning to appreciate every moment I've had with her. Learning from anything bad that had happened. And knowing that next time, I'll be prepared for when I finally meet the right one. Life's a really coaster. ...I just realized your post is about a year old, and I already typed all this, so I'm just gonna go ahead and post this lol
I hope you heal and slowly divorce yourself from what could had been and how it felt and focus more on at least it happened and it was wonderful, hard, hopeful, happy and sad
The line that always got me was in the hallway when Joel says, in desperation, "Wait..." "What?" "I dont know....just wait.. just wait" It kind of sums up that feeling of when you see things falling apart, rolling down the hill towards a cliff, that you want to stop time because you know whats next....at least, thats the feeling in breakups for me.
I watched this movie when I was 15 yrs old, when it first came out. I was completely confused, had no idea what was going. 4yrs later, at 19, I decided to watch this movie again. Everything made sense. During that time I entered an on and off relationship that lasted 6yrs. Each breakup, I would watch this movie because it somehow validated my feelings for wanting to forget someone. It helped me cope with my grief. Each scene forced me to reflect back on my own relationship, forced me to cry, be angry and sad. It’s strange to say but it made me feel, well, not alone in my sadness. I related with Joel. Anyway, great video!
I had the same experience with this film. I watched it for the first time in my late teens, but I never fully understood it. I watched it a couple other times later on in my 20s. Ive just now watched it again after my 5 year relationship ended recently. Its strange because the last time i watched it was at the start of that relationship with him. And after watching it again on my own this evening I fully resonate with this film now with both Joel's and Clementine's point of view. It's still one of my favourite films and helped me tonight. Its a mix of being beautiful and painful. It is better to have loved and lost. Always ❤️
@@hannahholmes5861It's one of my favorites too. It's pure poetry. I'm sorry you're going through a break up. I know that you're a stranger but I hope that you're ok. Totally and it's better to have loved than to have never loved at all.
Our love for this movie is like a reflection of love itself. It keeps becoming more and more meaningful as we age, sweeter and more potent like a fine wine. Thank you so much for this little dive, it nearly brought tears to my eyes. I love how it speaks to love and loss and all our senses. I can't think of a more perfect use of the medium.
We assume that relationships are meant for everybody. That romantic relationships are eventual milestones. The truth is not everyone is destined for a good relationship. You can love anyone you want from a distance. The same love would not work in terms of a relationship. A relationship is all about being comfortable in each other's company and working towards the same goals(most of the time). Some of us just need to look for good friends, or parent-like figures. Or even kids for that matter. Romance is not in everyone's destiny. And maturity is accepting this truth.
That is true. :) i mean romance is not the only way a person can find deep intimacy and love. I dont think what you say is negative at all but something more positive because it reminds everyone that they have a chance to be accepted, love and be intimate without romance.
@@archivehans I think a lot of people want a romantic relationship without any understanding of how to make one work, and by the time they realize this, it's too late in life to work out their issues - because there's no time left to do that, _and_ find a good partner out of the dating pool, _and_ have any time to spare to build a life with them. I'm 40 and I'm finally starting to see & accept this about myself. I married someone I had no real relationship with, for our son's sake, but I have no desire to spend the rest of my life caretaking after someone who has never looked at me, or treated me, as anything more than a useful appliance. I know for a fact I will be happier alone, and I know all of the reasons our "relationship" failed. I know what parts were my fault, and assuming they are things I could ever change, they are not things that could ever change overnight. And I can't lie, it hurts a lot. I feel like I wasted my life by attaching myself to that guy, and I wish I could do it all over again and find someone who actually liked me & wanted me. But I try to go back to my first ever relationship. I was reading Harry Potter for the first time, and a question kept bubbling up in my head: "why do I feel more fulfilled living vicariously through these characters, than I do spending time with my boyfriend?" I never felt like he was right for me, but it never occurred to me that what was missing from my life wasn't romance at all - it was just friendship & adventure. My life was so empty, just like it is now. The only difference is that I really fell for the guy I married. And given that our son never got to experience the family life he deserved because of his emotionally absent dad, there is a lot more pain & shame involved in ending this relationship than there was with the first boyfriend. But that's what is helping me get through this period - the hope that I can find a good network of friends and try new things (ie, just _GROW_ as a person, which has been impossible to do with the guy I settled on). I think this is as much as I will be able to get out of what's left of my time, and as long as I am able to process the grief & forgive myself, I will be able to enjoy friendships & adventure (after all, if those things _alone_ made me happy before, then I think they could make me happy again).
This movie is so brilliant. It's just so lush with quotable lines, beautiful colors and scenery and just an unusual plot line in general. It's such an unusual romantic drama
I believe this movie isn't even about love (the relationship/couples kind). In fact, this movie is really about memories. How we perceive our memories, the passage of time, and as you said, the impermanence of life. As we get older, it's as if our cherished memories are being slowly deleted or rewritten/re-altered forever. It's about loss. Dealing with loss and letting go and embracing the beauty in that suffering.
I've watched this movie so many times over the years. It's probably my all time favorite film, and it never fails to make me sob my eyes out. There are exactly two lines in the movie that make me burst into tears the second I hear them. The first is "enjoy it" and the second is "okay". Sometimes, I start crying at "enjoy it" and just keep crying all the way until we get to "okay". Sometimes I calm down in between the two lines and then cry again the second I hear Joel say "okay" in that happy, resigned way. Just the act of choosing to enjoy what time you have together, knowing it'll only end in pain but deciding that temporary love is worth it in the end- it just hits so hard for me
This movie has been a favorite of mine ever since I first watched it as a teenager. It means so much more to me now as a divorced man rapidly approaching my 30s. The message of this movie really helped me get through my divorce.
Now that I’m an adult, this movie, is too painful to watch. I’ve been through several relationships, and there’s one that this movie brings to vivid life. Too many regrets and undone promises, too many “what if”. I can really just close my eyes and imagine myself in that scenario, my 18 self with that one person, thinking “I could die right now, i’m just so happy”. Honestly I’ve never been that happy, even now that I’m married 🙂
Even in your very good video essay, this last scene of "letting go" gave me tears, it's such an important lesson that I've learned with that movie. Which is that even the pain of letting go, the sadness, melancholia that is washed in with it...is still something beautiful, enjoyable and something worth living for.
I last saw it when I was 20 with no real relationship experience. I'm now 28 and have loved and lost. Watching this shortly after the breakup kills me. Such a wonderful film, and such a sad moment in my life now too.
Not only did this make me cry, but also made me remember how much I love this masterpiece of a film. And also how grateful I am for my relationship. You did a great job with this video! Subbed :)
Having gone through a divorce and reliving moments from my past and thinking about what "could've been". I am so grateful for your breakdown of this wonderfully beautiful film. I cried. I saw myself for the first time in Joel. I just wanted to thank you for this video because I'll be rewatching this for a long long time. Please keep creating masterful analysis of film. Much appreciated
My favorite line is "Sand is overrated. It's just tiny, little rocks.". This line resonates with my soul. It's a warm, funny, pitiful comfort, an innocent superficial atempt at desacralisation to bring the world back down at your level, and your sorrow. Joel is experiencing this before with his Corporate Valentine's Day explaination but is not as sweet and innocent.
I watched this for the first time not that long ago and my mother told me my grandfather loved this movie. I never really knew him that much since he died when I was three. But I’ve always thought about how it was weirdly sweet that he loved this film.
my husband and I have been married for 10 years and every few years I will rewatch this movie and it'll hit even harder each time cuz it's so realistic in a lot of ways. Every relationship has it's hardships but always finding each other again and choosing each other is what keeps the relationship going.
I also saw this movie as a young person & it’s profoundly affected me, still does. When the two loves/serious relationships I’ve had in my life ended for at least a year I’d have legitimate flashes of images/memories like in the movie. At the time it felt like being haunted but I’m grateful for it.
My favorite scene is towards the beginning of the film when Joel and Clem are lying down on a sheet of ice and observing stars in the night sky. Clem asks Joel to identify a constellation of stars in the sky and Joel jokingly makes one up, he points to the sky and proceeds to describe its shape and curves - Clem starts laughing in amusement as she senses his bullshit and then she says to him - “shut the fuck up! “ - but it’s the way in which she delivered that line that was so profoundly endearing and sweet. The chemistry between the two was effortless, euphoria.
I've been in love with this film for close to 8 years now, I haven't encountered a better film than this. I used to watch ever single TH-cam video I could find about this film, but now I can't even watch one the entire through because for some reason it hits me harder now more than it ever has before. I really don't know why but I just start crying instantly. This film will always be my No.1 film.
Watching this video was a small miracle for me and I'll explain why. Two hours ago, I was getting texts from a friend who is deep into conspiracy theories (which I don't subscribe to). This conversation was overwhelming me to the point where I couldn't focus on my work at all. She's trying to convince me to share her interests in these awful stories about satanic cabals, I tell her to stop. I tell her that I don't want to go down that road anymore. That the trauma of the last few years has changed my perspective and refined my optimism. And the way I chose to clarify that to her and myself was by telling her that I'm aspiring to be more like Joel Barish looking at his world collapsing around him, knowing that time is limited in this life and responding with "Enjoy it." And just thinking of those two words brought so much peace and finality to that. Two hours later I'm at home and I see this video come up on my feed. I see the mention "two words" and I'm like.... no f--king way. For the five minutes I'm going though this video like with the repeating "It can't be" in my head and there it is. "Enjoy it". One of those coincidences that happens only a few times in your life. Amazing. Unfortunately I can't tell my friend about it because it will only make her spiral into whether phones can read our minds. Thanks for making this.
Good call. I have a few paranoid conspiracy theorist friends of mine too, It's always a struggle with their doom and gloom view of the world and evidence-lacking claims. Anyway that must've felt surreal, thanks for sharing!
I can’t even begin to express my gratitude for stumbling across this video, it said some things that I definitely needed to hear. Thank you for existing man.
I watched this after a recent break up as I felt oddly detached and this is one of my favourite films ever. I laughed at some of the weirdest parts, it felt very dark comedy gallows humour. Not a bad thing necessarily, but so different to my previous watches. It's still beautiful. The whole film is magical.
Nah, it’s hands down ‘meet me in Montauk’ the best line. In a world with mindless and endless superhero movie sequels… I’d hands down watch a sequel of this from Clems perspective.
Forever my favourite movie, I listen to at least one song from the sound track every day. I sat my brother down to watch it with me once because he'd never seen it before and I like sharing films with people. He couldn't make it through to the end because it hit too close to home for him, and reading these comments, it looks like he wasn't the only one who had this reaction. I think that really speaks to the magic of the film, it's so spot on and illicits such strong emotion from the right people. While me and my brother didn't finish watching it that night and I felt bad about triggering him, that event only deepened my adoration of the film because I could only realize through somebody else the power within it.
0:40 said perfectly... somehow, Kaufman, and Jim Carrey's performance and Kate Winslet's reaction made the most simple, overused, and perhaps "meaningless" word out there, "ok", into the most heartbreaking and hopeful word I've ever heard in a movie
Great movie, I was with someone and months into our relationship we found out that we both loved this movie. It also kinda hit a spot for us with our relationship too, we had some similar things going on, she more a more wild background and personality and myself more quiet. We weathered through all of our storms but then we were in the wrong place at the wrong time and became the victims of a robbery gone wrong and I almost passed away but she did pass away and now I find other similarities in ways that I didn't want to feel like how I feel myself starting to forget little things and that really is upsetting but I try to focus on the memories I do have. I haven't watched this movie since and just watching this tells me it'd be pretty hard to do.
The ending of your analysis made me cry. It reminds me of cherishing the memories of the friends and lovers who have passed along the way. Thank you. This movie will always be excellent.
“i wish I’d stayed. I do.” This is my favorite line and favorite scene. When I saw this movie I was going through a long, drawn out breakup which had a lasting impact on me. This scene and the ending in general are a touchstone for me, showing me how far I’ve come over the years. Instead of, “I wish I’d stayed,” it’s now “I’m so glad I knew you in this intimate way.”
I absolutely adore this flick. Had this on my list for years and gave it a try last year after losing the Love of my life due to life being life. Doesn't matter how much times I watch it, I cry everytime. It's a masterpiece.
A beautiful and concise analysis. There's always been a connection between myself and this film, the way it so effortlessly depicts such overwhelmingly complex ideas of relationships, love, and loss. Joel journeys back through his time spent with Clem, reliving the bad ending before reaching the infatuated - yet excitingly blissful - beginning. The blending of real memories, Joel's consciousness breaking through, and his version of Clem and events is so perfectly done. Needless to say that the score is subtle when it needs to be, and pronounced when it needs to be. Such melancholy I didn't think could be expressed through music. The mise-en-scene in the montage at the end is truly astounding; everything collapsing around Joel, all of his memories getting whisked away from him as he's thrown around the whirlpool of his consciousness. Such purposeful use of a non-chronological plotline results in any confusion felt at the beginning being turned into realisation and satisfaction at the end, understanding Joel and Clem's relationship, what happened to it, the beauty that they both return to Montawk and the relief when they both agree to do it all again - even after hearing how it turns out. I'll never get tired of this film, and I'll never get tired of hearing wonderful breakdowns of people's favourite parts. Thank you.
i hate myself for not having watched this film earlier in life. when i hadnt met him yet, when i didnt feel the exact need to erase him from my memories that they express, in hope i would get better. when i was still capable of love. of loving and being loved. now, all i could think about when watching it was how i wished i could do just that. just erase everything. and have watched the movie when i didnt know him at all. i would have loved it.
Still my favorite movie of the 2000's. Not saying it's the best movie of the decade, but it's my favorite. Brilliant in all aspects of film making, for me, it hits on so many aspects that resonate hard with me. The lead casting was so spot on, that I can't really think of anyone else in those roles. I saw it the first week it came out. I was so blown away, I saw it again the next day. Then I took my GF at the time to see it, and she was impressed as well. "Change you heart...look around you. Change your heart...it will astound you."
So the real question is how do you move on in a world without second chances, we know it’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved but how tf do you help yourself move past a relationship that fell apart like this something that was so all encompassing that it felt like you never had a memory without them, what do you do when you want to erase someone but you can’t, the pain comes with the acceptance and the nostalgia I’m assuming it fades but I’m honestly scared of the future I’m scared idk if ima feel the same again and having memory issues I literally have moments/dreams that feel like the scenes in this movie where I know that one day this was all gonna be a fuzzy meet me in montauk but every time I hear those words for the rest of my life I’m always going to think of her every song we listened to every place we went all the inside jokes that stick around and the clothes you can’t wear anymore and this movie is the shining example, watching it makes me hopeful but hopeful for a false reality where everything turns out okay and the boy gets the girl but we didn’t just say nasty shit about eachother like it was fucked from the start but we kept going cus we thought we were in love and now we’re left in a spot where it’s like all I can feel when I think about her is pain and nostalgia and literally the line meet me in montauk but there’s no montauk for us and I have no idea where to go from here sry y’all I’m sure this’ll blend into the walls of text I just wanted anonish venting
so I just realized, when they have there last dinner together, joel indicated that he would like to try the chicken, clementine ordered. But when they first met clementine directly stole his chicken wing. like they are allready a couple joel even coments on said action.
This movie means a lot to me. I watched it around 5 or 6 times before I met my now ex... fiance. After/⁰ we broke up, I watched this movie and now it means so, so much more. The toxic relationship Joel & Clementine had was almost a mirror reflection of us. It became difficult to watch. I'm very much like Joel. Distant, shy, w/depression and anxiety. My ex was outgoing & social but like Clementine, she had so many issues. PTSD, depression, anxiety, bi-polar, alcoholic, and drugs.Our relationship had become toxic. I even found myself saying so many things Joel would say. My ex was so much like Clementine as well . When we started going out, most her hair was dyed green!
Light...and day... Is more than you'll say Cause all...my feelings Are more... than I can let by Or not... More than you've got Just follow the day.... Follow the day and reach for the sun!
Love love love this movie. It's been a favorite since I watched it for the first time when I was a senior in high school. Fresh out of a break up, it was soul crushing to watch but I also loved all the hidden gems and the story of it. Your quote of him saying, "Enjoy it" is something that has been witnessed by me at multiple times in my life in similar situations. Holds so much power. Reminds us to just shut up, put our phones down and enjoy what is here and now at this very moment. Great work on the video.
The genius part of the eternal sunshine of the spotless mind is that it consciously depicts how people lose their memories about their past partners unconsciously. Now when I try to look back at my very first relationship, things are very vague, but there must be a last time I remembered some of those forever-lost moments. I probably lost most of the memories in 2 years time however the movie speeds up the whole process due to the operation.
Your voice, the imagery, the beauty and truth in these comments...my dog is almost 16 and fading each day and the grief is too much to feel, but somehow this all helped me connect to it this morning. Thank you.
I love it when I find something that I love so much and then discover that others love it as much as I do but from so many different places and perspectives. To me this movie is about focus. And how romantic love transcends that. When it happens, and takes your breath away, it’s unmistakable and can’t be chosen. It just is. But you can choose to focus on the good things that come with it or the hard things, but the connection, once made, will always be there. Might as well focus on what you want to see more of and make it as amazing as it can possibly be.
Happy 2023, I really do love how you break everything down This is definitely my favorite movie and its always helped me process somethings when they go wrong. Your comment about "letting go of the things we lost and time we wasted", really hit home. I appreciate you!
A deeply insightful, profoundly eloquent summation and analysis of one of THE greatest romantic films ever made - and a movie that has stood the test of time as my personal all-time fave. THANK YOU, for sharing this!
Happy 2021 everyone. What's your favourite scene from Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind?
'I could die right now Clem'
Clem: “What do we do?”
Joel: “Enjoy it.”
Edit: Yo him and I have the same favourite scene
When Joe yells at the sky that he doesnt want his memories of Clementine to be erased such a powerful scene. By the way love the background song used really captures the melancholic vibe that Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind brings
전 개인적으로 커스틴 던스트가 영화제목과 똑같은 제목의 시 구절을 말할때 나오는 조엘과 클레멘의 영상이 기억에 남아요. 플래시백 시점에서의 과거는 언제나 아름답고 행복해보이기 때문이랄까요ㅎㅎ 그래서 그런지 결혼이야기도 도입부에 찰리랑 니콜이 서로의 장점을 적은 편지를 읽을때 나오는 과거 영상을 좋아해서 예고편을 통해 가끔씩 돌려보곤 합니다ㅎㅎ 새해 복 많이 받으세요!
@@Llewyn_Davis 저도 그장면 엄청 좋아한답니다.. improv로 갑자기 카메라만 들고 뛰려나가 찍게 된 장면이라죠 ㅎㅎ 가장 가슴뛰는 장면인거 같아요
I always felt like this movie was saying that love isn't a feeling, it's a choice, it's an active decision you have to keep making after the immediate rush. Otherwise you just spend your life chasing that same initial flood of infatuation, not realizing true love isn't a constant excitement, that its a collection of smaller joyful moments over time.
I completely agree, this is so well put. However it is one thing to know this with your mind, but another to not mistake the initial flood for love. This is not as easy as it sounds..
Beautifully put, builds upon what Kirsten Dunst quotes during the title drop in the movie
perfectly put and most mistake the initial feeling as "love"
Exactly. First comes the crazy crush which could last weeks, months, or even a year. After that you can really see do you and the other person fit together. After many years I have found a woman that makes me fell in love with her over and over... It's been 10 years now and our relationship is constantly growing. I'm just so lucky
This is true. I've been with my partner for almost five years now and most of the time we don't do anything crazy or exciting, but we find joy in the most mundane of situations. I hope that is real love.
I actually just realized that if it’s true love, it’s more about falling in love over and over again. Even when you see the worse parts of a person, the love can grow with time.
Woah
🥺🥺🥺
Happy for everyone who has found that💖 For the rest of us, maybe we have to learn to love ourselves first, in exactly that way, before we can experience it with other people.
Love this
@@nataliaturner4845 You're absolutely right. You have to fall in love with yourself first. I know I had to before meeting my so
When I was younger and hadn't much experience with relationships I loved this movie and would watch it regularly. Now that I'm older and have had relationships end, not in painful, quick finalities, but in long, slow, periods of growing apart, I cannot watch this movie. It's too painful. It's too spot-on for what the slow death of human relationships looks like, the guilt, the loss, the realization that most things you gain will in time go away bit by bit until they're just hazy, semi-numb memories, like nerves burnt off at the end giving the sensation of a feeling but no real feeling.
damn that's a sad comment
I've been watching this movie multiple times a year since high school. Watching it used to fill me with such comfort, it felt like I was returning home. After stumbling across this video today I realized I hadn't revisited this movie in over two years. Your comment really hit home for me. I feel like I've reached a period in my life where even the idea of rewatching this movie fills me with sadness. I still consider it to be one of my favorites of all time and I am thankful to be able to experience such an intense reaction to a piece of art. In my opinion, the fact that my relationship with the movie has changed so drastically over the years is a testament to its genius and beauty. Even though I am unable to rewatch this movie during this stage in my life, I am still looking forward to the relationship my future self will have with it.
I know that feeling. I'm hoping there will be a day I can watch it again. You gotta hope.
Your comment was so thought out and amazing. What an incredible feeling that you described, I've never felt it before and am really unsure if I ever do want to feel it. haha
That’s really interesting. Because I’ve loved this movie so much for so long and in every stage of relationship imaginable. And when I’m most depressed I’ll watch this movie nightly for weeks. I feel like seeing the painful death of the relationship is what makes them saying “okay” in the end so heartbreakingly beautiful. I don’t think knowing most things in time will go away should be sad. How else do we make room for other things? And even if we don’t want new things and just want to keep what we have, holing on too tight doesn’t leave room for things to evolve and for people to grow. I don’t know, I think it’d be different if in the end they didn’t say (in my opinion, by saying okay) that they thought it was all worth it. Your comment makes me so sad, but I respect it. And I hope you can enjoy the movie again some time soon ❤️
"Constantly talking isn't necessarily communicating".I use that quote in life all the time.
yep me too. One of the best quotes. No one ever knows what its from though.
Thank you. That’s a line I needed
It also shows one of the best quotes from clementine "People have to share things, Joel... that's what intimacy is" - the point is, is that Joel NEVER talks, so as good as the quote is to coming to a middle ground we know that when Joel says this it isn't to find a middle ground he says it to brush her off, just as Clem struggles to find her middle ground with how forward and brash she is.
How do we know this? because we know that Joel writes in his journal we know he feels things just as deeply as Clementine, but while Clem is more than happy to be open and share so many things, Joel is more introverted and secretive. There is no wrong way to be, that's sort of the point of both of their quotes being from the opposite ends of the spectrum. And it's super fun to see which of those two quotes that are said almost right next to each other in the film... its fun to see which saying and character people identify with more.
Hmm haven’t seen the movie but came to that conclusion on a relationship
It’s a good quote, but Joel was a complete dick for saying that in my opinion
"Come back and make up a goodbye at least, pretend we had one" is the line that will always get me without a fault.
For me, it’s when Joel & Clementine are in Barnes & Noble, in between one of the aisles & says to her, “it would be different… if we could just give it another go around.”
For me it's the "I wish I'd stayed, too. Now I wish I'd stayed.I wish I'd done a lot of things.... I wish I... I wish I'd stayed... I do."
Reminds me of my moments when I "didnt stay"...
Just watched it again, I always do for Valentine’s Day, the line that unexpectedly hit me is when Clem and Joel are going to the beach house in Montauk after waking up in snow and humiliation, they both wrestle each other in the snow making it harder to get to the house and at the last part of the memory Clem gleefully exclaims “let go of me Joel” in a double entendre and it immediately cuts to the next memory. It’s so beautifully devastating.
I never got myne, so I had to repeatedly make my own closure.
I have hyperMnesia so I involuntarily relive memories, both good & bad.
Whereas she has [confirmed & documented] amnesia with split personalities, so she forgets or the more ruthless ones make her, so she can stick to the life & vices she gets through her life with, rather then something better for herself.
Whether that would include me or not, it shouldn't have included unethical people beneath us both.
We broke up 4 times, twice each and i was the first for that reason both times..
So I made a video-log-diary playlist on Odysee about it to help me escape the loop.
Has it worked? Not entirely, but it's still helpful to anyone else..
I can't throw the rarity away of who i am for the sake of someone who can't remember it..... Even for the rarities of her own... some relationships have expiration dates and I don't want to succumb to the societal rot she steeped herself in for it, just to be with an amnesiac who loses herself for others who aren't worth it... at the expense of someone who is... and i am not just talking of myself(s) when I say that, but anyone else more suitable than the 1-in-a-literal-billion, that we were.
Should she eventually stumble across it, she'll get to enjoy 2+hours of content better than any of the podcasts and videos *she made me sit through(more than once!)*.... so... theres *that*.
For me it's near the end when Clem repeats her "my own peace of mind" speech and Joel says "I still thought you'd save my life"
I didn't think the film was ending with an ominous suggestion they'd go through the whole cycle. I thought it was just that they were going to go through the relationship with an acceptance that just because it will probably end, and even end badly, it's still worth experiencing, and remembering. I thought it was about accepting sorrow, anger, frustration, as a part of the whole experience of life. Because rejecting those unwanted parts means losing the whole thing. And relationships are always worth remembering. If you forget them, you learn nothing from them, about yourself, or love, or life.
That's how I feel about relationships in general and how I also interpreted it. Who cares that it's gonna end, you can enjjoy the fuck out of the time up until it ends.
Beautifully said.
❤❤❤
It was clear to me that they agree *not* to go through the relationship again.
@@spcwrnglr What made you draw that conclusion?
The line that really touched me was when Joel’s friend asks about Clem in the beginning and he says ”just some girl” because they were practically strangers, but towards the ending when every single memory is flashing before his eyes the same chat is played again only this time the ”just some girl” line means so much more. you shared a life with that person.. they were apart of you and now they’re just a stranger that you’ll always remember.
It’s the whole car ride. His emotions in the car, the music , and words. That part of the gets me every time. 😢
Fuck, spot on, spot on
hit me harder than i was prepared for.
such great scenes because so many people can relate
@@Mylo12321 I got tears in my eyes just by thinking about that scene.
Somebody That I Used to Know ?
This is probably my favorite film of all time. I saw it with my wife the year we were married and we both shared a deep love of its messages about the meaning of love changing through the passage of time. After 15 wonderful years, she died of cancer in 2020. This film had such a profound effect on us both, I don't know if I will ever have the strength to watch it again without her at my side. But once I do get around to watching Joel try to cling to his memories of Clem as they slip away -- just as my wife slipped away from me -- I imagine it will have an even deeper meaning I can't even comprehend...
Sending you a virtual hug and so much loving prayers. ❤️🩹
🫂. Stay strong. I know that you were a good husband. She was very lucky.
I’m so sorry 😞
So sorry for your loss 😔
my favorite scene from this movie is when theyre in the library and Joel sees clementine and she tells him " Too many guys think im a concept, or i complete them, or im gonna make them feel alive. But im just a fucked up girl looking for her own peace of mind, Don't assign me yours.'
Joel: I can't see anything that I don't like about you.
Clementine: But you will! But you will. You know, you will think of things. And I'll get bored with you and feel trapped because that's what happens with me.
Young people always looking for perfection and not realizing yet that there is no such thing. Just enjoy the time you have with this person because life is short.
@@Cinemaphile7783 yess exactly !
Wow.. I love that quote
That's the scene I would've picked! A total meta-take on the film's message
This is the crux of the entire film
the best line is when she says “this is it joel, it’s gonna be gone soon”. even tho it was about the erasure process, i always felt it relates to the euphoria of love itself. it can’t be intense forever and it’s a finite feeling.
beautifully said
@@lindinizini whoa i forgot even making this comment. i impress myself even.
That's up here but for me the best was, "Remember me."
@@drinkingpoolwater😭😭😭
I last watched this movie like 15 years ago, and it made me cry for 4 days straight. I still don't know if I'm emotionally ready to watch it again.
Do it
just watching this made me cry, i don’t think i can either
If that's not a hyperbole and you did cry for 4 days straight, you probably shouldn't, unless you've been stocking up on your vacation time and have no one around that will get worried and call a hotline for you
Makes me cry every time but is worth it
“enjoy it” was my favorite line too and so simply yet with nuance highlights that acceptance of loss
This was a delightful bright spot in my evening.
Mine too. Last night.
"I'm erasing you and I'm happy!" put a lump in my throat cuz we know his heart is breaking and he's lying to himself more than to her
I love how all my favorite movies are yours too.
I see you have great taste in films! ;)
For some reason the line that always gets me Is "clem?, they're erasing you" .. the way he says it is emotional to me
You know this part when Clementine is telling Joel that she was feeling ugly as a kid and then Joel starts kissing her face and telling her that she's beautiful? That part absolutely destroyes me because I didn't get to experience that kind of intimacy with someone I really really really would want to experience with. Long distance sucks man. It's over now. He's avoiding me. I'm obviously not over him and this whole thing AGHHHH it's been 7 months and the pain doesn't go away. I wish I truly had enjoyed everything with you. But now when I try, it brings nothing but awful pain. I'm definitely not made for relationships and that fact breaks my heart ever more. I just walked out the door. And maybe it was the right thing, but.......
I wish it wasn't
Meet me in Montauk. 😉💙
I'm sorry to hear that. I've been through the same situation with a girl that I really loved. It was long distance as well, so we didn't get to experience a true relationship; the intimacy and all. We tried our best with what we had... but in the end, we knew what had to he done. I've spent so much thinking about what could've been... how different life would've been if it just worked. Unfortunately, life isn't as easy. And I'm still working on picking myself up. One of the ways is not regretting it. And learning to appreciate every moment I've had with her. Learning from anything bad that had happened. And knowing that next time, I'll be prepared for when I finally meet the right one. Life's a really coaster. ...I just realized your post is about a year old, and I already typed all this, so I'm just gonna go ahead and post this lol
I hope you heal and slowly divorce yourself from what could had been and how it felt and focus more on at least it happened and it was wonderful, hard, hopeful, happy and sad
The line that always got me was in the hallway when Joel says, in desperation, "Wait..." "What?" "I dont know....just wait.. just wait"
It kind of sums up that feeling of when you see things falling apart, rolling down the hill towards a cliff, that you want to stop time because you know whats next....at least, thats the feeling in breakups for me.
I watched this movie when I was 15 yrs old, when it first came out. I was completely confused, had no idea what was going. 4yrs later, at 19, I decided to watch this movie again. Everything made sense. During that time I entered an on and off relationship that lasted 6yrs. Each breakup, I would watch this movie because it somehow validated my feelings for wanting to forget someone. It helped me cope with my grief. Each scene forced me to reflect back on my own relationship, forced me to cry, be angry and sad. It’s strange to say but it made me feel, well, not alone in my sadness. I related with Joel. Anyway, great video!
I had the same experience with this film. I watched it for the first time in my late teens, but I never fully understood it. I watched it a couple other times later on in my 20s. Ive just now watched it again after my 5 year relationship ended recently. Its strange because the last time i watched it was at the start of that relationship with him. And after watching it again on my own this evening I fully resonate with this film now with both Joel's and Clementine's point of view. It's still one of my favourite films and helped me tonight. Its a mix of being beautiful and painful. It is better to have loved and lost. Always ❤️
@@hannahholmes5861It's one of my favorites too. It's pure poetry. I'm sorry you're going through a break up. I know that you're a stranger but I hope that you're ok.
Totally and it's better to have loved than to have never loved at all.
I hate how emotional this movie makes me
I know how you feel. It's my favourite film but every time I watch it I end up crying so much i can hardly breath.
Our love for this movie is like a reflection of love itself. It keeps becoming more and more meaningful as we age, sweeter and more potent like a fine wine. Thank you so much for this little dive, it nearly brought tears to my eyes. I love how it speaks to love and loss and all our senses. I can't think of a more perfect use of the medium.
you got me crying in the zoom class rn
We assume that relationships are meant for everybody. That romantic relationships are eventual milestones. The truth is not everyone is destined for a good relationship. You can love anyone you want from a distance. The same love would not work in terms of a relationship.
A relationship is all about being comfortable in each other's company and working towards the same goals(most of the time).
Some of us just need to look for good friends, or parent-like figures. Or even kids for that matter.
Romance is not in everyone's destiny. And maturity is accepting this truth.
This is horrible way of looking at life.
Everyone deserves romance
Everyone can get a chance
DO NOT give into despire
If that’s how you want it to be, then so it will be.
That is true. :) i mean romance is not the only way a person can find deep intimacy and love. I dont think what you say is negative at all but something more positive because it reminds everyone that they have a chance to be accepted, love and be intimate without romance.
@@archivehans I think a lot of people want a romantic relationship without any understanding of how to make one work, and by the time they realize this, it's too late in life to work out their issues - because there's no time left to do that, _and_ find a good partner out of the dating pool, _and_ have any time to spare to build a life with them. I'm 40 and I'm finally starting to see & accept this about myself. I married someone I had no real relationship with, for our son's sake, but I have no desire to spend the rest of my life caretaking after someone who has never looked at me, or treated me, as anything more than a useful appliance. I know for a fact I will be happier alone, and I know all of the reasons our "relationship" failed. I know what parts were my fault, and assuming they are things I could ever change, they are not things that could ever change overnight. And I can't lie, it hurts a lot. I feel like I wasted my life by attaching myself to that guy, and I wish I could do it all over again and find someone who actually liked me & wanted me. But I try to go back to my first ever relationship. I was reading Harry Potter for the first time, and a question kept bubbling up in my head: "why do I feel more fulfilled living vicariously through these characters, than I do spending time with my boyfriend?" I never felt like he was right for me, but it never occurred to me that what was missing from my life wasn't romance at all - it was just friendship & adventure. My life was so empty, just like it is now. The only difference is that I really fell for the guy I married. And given that our son never got to experience the family life he deserved because of his emotionally absent dad, there is a lot more pain & shame involved in ending this relationship than there was with the first boyfriend. But that's what is helping me get through this period - the hope that I can find a good network of friends and try new things (ie, just _GROW_ as a person, which has been impossible to do with the guy I settled on). I think this is as much as I will be able to get out of what's left of my time, and as long as I am able to process the grief & forgive myself, I will be able to enjoy friendships & adventure (after all, if those things _alone_ made me happy before, then I think they could make me happy again).
@@archivehans How many people do you actually know of that were still in a loving, passionate relationship when they died?
This movie is so brilliant. It's just so lush with quotable lines, beautiful colors and scenery and just an unusual plot line in general. It's such an unusual romantic drama
I think this is Kaufman's best film, you can come back and find something new each time.
Mastapeece.
I believe this movie isn't even about love (the relationship/couples kind). In fact, this movie is really about memories. How we perceive our memories, the passage of time, and as you said, the impermanence of life. As we get older, it's as if our cherished memories are being slowly deleted or rewritten/re-altered forever. It's about loss. Dealing with loss and letting go and embracing the beauty in that suffering.
underrated comment!!! it's not about love at all
I've watched this movie so many times over the years. It's probably my all time favorite film, and it never fails to make me sob my eyes out. There are exactly two lines in the movie that make me burst into tears the second I hear them. The first is "enjoy it" and the second is "okay". Sometimes, I start crying at "enjoy it" and just keep crying all the way until we get to "okay". Sometimes I calm down in between the two lines and then cry again the second I hear Joel say "okay" in that happy, resigned way. Just the act of choosing to enjoy what time you have together, knowing it'll only end in pain but deciding that temporary love is worth it in the end- it just hits so hard for me
This movie has been a favorite of mine ever since I first watched it as a teenager. It means so much more to me now as a divorced man rapidly approaching my 30s.
The message of this movie really helped me get through my divorce.
Now that I’m an adult, this movie, is too painful to watch. I’ve been through several relationships, and there’s one that this movie brings to vivid life. Too many regrets and undone promises, too many “what if”. I can really just close my eyes and imagine myself in that scenario, my 18 self with that one person, thinking “I could die right now, i’m just so happy”. Honestly I’ve never been that happy, even now that I’m married 🙂
Ouch! The last line hit hard. Hope you feel better now
Oof that is sad man :(
I would cry if I found out my husband felt this way about someone else lmao
@@kikkiq13 like fr
Then why did you choose to marry in the first place? It's not fair for both your wife and yourself
This movie is forever stuck to my soul.
Even in your very good video essay, this last scene of "letting go" gave me tears, it's such an important lesson that I've learned with that movie.
Which is that even the pain of letting go, the sadness, melancholia that is washed in with it...is still something beautiful, enjoyable and something worth living for.
I last saw it when I was 20 with no real relationship experience. I'm now 28 and have loved and lost. Watching this shortly after the breakup kills me. Such a wonderful film, and such a sad moment in my life now too.
Definitely not just a comedic actor, Jim proved so many wrong, great actor indeed
I agree. But the role of Joel was not all that complicated
@@MDcinematic how about Truman show & Man on the moon?
@@iamsidsilver so good!
Jim's an amazing actor in serious roles. I can't stand his comedy stuff now that I'm not 13 anymore.
@@WhiskeyBlack777 so true! Yeah it's hard to see those roles once you know what an amazing serious actor he is
Not only did this make me cry, but also made me remember how much I love this masterpiece of a film. And also how grateful I am for my relationship. You did a great job with this video! Subbed :)
He said that line so perfectly as well. It is so nonchalant and calming, yet it is so intense and speaks so loud. One of my favorite films
Having gone through a divorce and reliving moments from my past and thinking about what "could've been". I am so grateful for your breakdown of this wonderfully beautiful film. I cried. I saw myself for the first time in Joel. I just wanted to thank you for this video because I'll be rewatching this for a long long time. Please keep creating masterful analysis of film. Much appreciated
My favorite line is "Sand is overrated. It's just tiny, little rocks.". This line resonates with my soul. It's a warm, funny, pitiful comfort, an innocent superficial atempt at desacralisation to bring the world back down at your level, and your sorrow. Joel is experiencing this before with his Corporate Valentine's Day explaination but is not as sweet and innocent.
I watched this for the first time not that long ago and my mother told me my grandfather loved this movie. I never really knew him that much since he died when I was three. But I’ve always thought about how it was weirdly sweet that he loved this film.
my husband and I have been married for 10 years and every few years I will rewatch this movie and it'll hit even harder each time cuz it's so realistic in a lot of ways. Every relationship has it's hardships but always finding each other again and choosing each other is what keeps the relationship going.
I also saw this movie as a young person & it’s profoundly affected me, still does.
When the two loves/serious relationships I’ve had in my life ended for at least a year I’d have legitimate flashes of images/memories like in the movie. At the time it felt like being haunted but I’m grateful for it.
My favorite scene is towards the beginning of the film when Joel and Clem are lying down on a sheet of ice and observing stars in the night sky.
Clem asks Joel to identify a constellation of stars in the sky and Joel jokingly makes one up, he points to the sky and proceeds to describe its shape and curves - Clem starts laughing in amusement as she senses his bullshit and then she says to him - “shut the fuck up! “ - but it’s the way in which she delivered that line that was so profoundly endearing and sweet. The chemistry between the two was effortless, euphoria.
Your channel is gonna explode this year, mark my words. This video was absolutely beautiful, thanks man
I will remember this comment
I've been in love with this film for close to 8 years now, I haven't encountered a better film than this. I used to watch ever single TH-cam video I could find about this film, but now I can't even watch one the entire through because for some reason it hits me harder now more than it ever has before. I really don't know why but I just start crying instantly. This film will always be my No.1 film.
This film beats me up every time. And I subject myself to it all over again every couple of years.
Same
Watching this video was a small miracle for me and I'll explain why. Two hours ago, I was getting texts from a friend who is deep into conspiracy theories (which I don't subscribe to). This conversation was overwhelming me to the point where I couldn't focus on my work at all. She's trying to convince me to share her interests in these awful stories about satanic cabals, I tell her to stop. I tell her that I don't want to go down that road anymore. That the trauma of the last few years has changed my perspective and refined my optimism. And the way I chose to clarify that to her and myself was by telling her that I'm aspiring to be more like Joel Barish looking at his world collapsing around him, knowing that time is limited in this life and responding with "Enjoy it." And just thinking of those two words brought so much peace and finality to that. Two hours later I'm at home and I see this video come up on my feed. I see the mention "two words" and I'm like.... no f--king way. For the five minutes I'm going though this video like with the repeating "It can't be" in my head and there it is. "Enjoy it". One of those coincidences that happens only a few times in your life. Amazing. Unfortunately I can't tell my friend about it because it will only make her spiral into whether phones can read our minds. Thanks for making this.
This is just the way the world works. Enjoy it for sure ❤️ I’m loving this comment feed so much
Good call. I have a few paranoid conspiracy theorist friends of mine too, It's always a struggle with their doom and gloom view of the world and evidence-lacking claims.
Anyway that must've felt surreal, thanks for sharing!
I can’t even begin to express my gratitude for stumbling across this video, it said some things that I definitely needed to hear. Thank you for existing man.
I watched this after a recent break up as I felt oddly detached and this is one of my favourite films ever. I laughed at some of the weirdest parts, it felt very dark comedy gallows humour. Not a bad thing necessarily, but so different to my previous watches. It's still beautiful. The whole film is magical.
The Oscar’s snubbed Jim for this role
Comedians don't usually get taken seriously as actors. Only Robin Williams was able to break the stigma.
Nah, it’s hands down ‘meet me in Montauk’ the best line.
In a world with mindless and endless superhero movie sequels… I’d hands down watch a sequel of this from Clems perspective.
"I wish I would´ve stayed, I wish I would´ve done a lot of things..."
Forever my favourite movie, I listen to at least one song from the sound track every day. I sat my brother down to watch it with me once because he'd never seen it before and I like sharing films with people. He couldn't make it through to the end because it hit too close to home for him, and reading these comments, it looks like he wasn't the only one who had this reaction. I think that really speaks to the magic of the film, it's so spot on and illicits such strong emotion from the right people. While me and my brother didn't finish watching it that night and I felt bad about triggering him, that event only deepened my adoration of the film because I could only realize through somebody else the power within it.
Omg this is my fav line from the movie too! I love how such ostensibly simple dialogue like “enjoy it” or “ok” can convey such profound insights.
I just watched this movie this morning for the first time. My friend just put it on and didn’t tell me anything about it. I am so thankful for that.
"Sand is overrated. It's just tiny little rocks "
Joel should have a beer with Anakin.
0:40 said perfectly... somehow, Kaufman, and Jim Carrey's performance and Kate Winslet's reaction made the most simple, overused, and perhaps "meaningless" word out there, "ok", into the most heartbreaking and hopeful word I've ever heard in a movie
My favorite part had to be the title drop , that quote is just so god damn beautiful and so deep I loved it
it is neat how you can notice new things each time you watch it again...especially if you read the Closed Caption subtitles
This is the film I choose when asked what my favorite movie is. I absolutely adore it.
This movie is great when what's happened in the movie hasn't happened to you.
Great movie, I was with someone and months into our relationship we found out that we both loved this movie.
It also kinda hit a spot for us with our relationship too, we had some similar things going on, she more a more wild background and personality and myself more quiet. We weathered through all of our storms but then we were in the wrong place at the wrong time and became the victims of a robbery gone wrong and I almost passed away but she did pass away and now I find other similarities in ways that I didn't want to feel like how I feel myself starting to forget little things and that really is upsetting but I try to focus on the memories I do have. I haven't watched this movie since and just watching this tells me it'd be pretty hard to do.
This is and will always be my favorite movie I have seen it so many times
Tell me why I teared up at the end. You did quite well with this video
The ending of your analysis made me cry. It reminds me of cherishing the memories of the friends and lovers who have passed along the way. Thank you. This movie will always be excellent.
I keep coming back to this video again and again. i love it and I love your insights
I love this movie, one of my all time favorites. For sure under my Top 3 Movies of all time!!!
This movie hits the core of my existence.
“i wish I’d stayed. I do.” This is my favorite line and favorite scene. When I saw this movie I was going through a long, drawn out breakup which had a lasting impact on me. This scene and the ending in general are a touchstone for me, showing me how far I’ve come over the years. Instead of, “I wish I’d stayed,” it’s now “I’m so glad I knew you in this intimate way.”
Great piece. I Love that film. Always something more to see in it on new watches. And of course, contemplate on ❤
This is like one of the greatest movies ever.......
I absolutely adore this flick. Had this on my list for years and gave it a try last year after losing the Love of my life due to life being life. Doesn't matter how much times I watch it, I cry everytime. It's a masterpiece.
Your words made me cry. Thank you they were so beautiful
That "okay." was the heaviest okay I have ever heard
A beautiful and concise analysis. There's always been a connection between myself and this film, the way it so effortlessly depicts such overwhelmingly complex ideas of relationships, love, and loss. Joel journeys back through his time spent with Clem, reliving the bad ending before reaching the infatuated - yet excitingly blissful - beginning. The blending of real memories, Joel's consciousness breaking through, and his version of Clem and events is so perfectly done. Needless to say that the score is subtle when it needs to be, and pronounced when it needs to be. Such melancholy I didn't think could be expressed through music. The mise-en-scene in the montage at the end is truly astounding; everything collapsing around Joel, all of his memories getting whisked away from him as he's thrown around the whirlpool of his consciousness. Such purposeful use of a non-chronological plotline results in any confusion felt at the beginning being turned into realisation and satisfaction at the end, understanding Joel and Clem's relationship, what happened to it, the beauty that they both return to Montawk and the relief when they both agree to do it all again - even after hearing how it turns out.
I'll never get tired of this film, and I'll never get tired of hearing wonderful breakdowns of people's favourite parts.
Thank you.
Hola
The most BEAUTIFUL film ever!
watched your essay for a second time and this time your thoughts on the word 'okay' stood out. thank you
This movie found me when I has heart broken An it truly shared something beautiful an showed me how to understand. Great film
i hate myself for not having watched this film earlier in life. when i hadnt met him yet, when i didnt feel the exact need to erase him from my memories that they express, in hope i would get better. when i was still capable of love. of loving and being loved. now, all i could think about when watching it was how i wished i could do just that. just erase everything. and have watched the movie when i didnt know him at all. i would have loved it.
Still my favorite movie of the 2000's. Not saying it's the best movie of the decade, but it's my favorite. Brilliant in all aspects of film making, for me, it hits on so many aspects that resonate hard with me. The lead casting was so spot on, that I can't really think of anyone else in those roles. I saw it the first week it came out. I was so blown away, I saw it again the next day. Then I took my GF at the time to see it, and she was impressed as well. "Change you heart...look around you. Change your heart...it will astound you."
This is one of my favourite TH-cam videos
your love for this movie is like how i feel about 500 days of summer, such a good film so much to learn from it
What a mindful piece of yours
The most important part of this movie was the message that happy endings are possible.
So the real question is how do you move on in a world without second chances, we know it’s better to have loved and lost than to never have loved but how tf do you help yourself move past a relationship that fell apart like this something that was so all encompassing that it felt like you never had a memory without them, what do you do when you want to erase someone but you can’t, the pain comes with the acceptance and the nostalgia I’m assuming it fades but I’m honestly scared of the future I’m scared idk if ima feel the same again and having memory issues I literally have moments/dreams that feel like the scenes in this movie where I know that one day this was all gonna be a fuzzy meet me in montauk but every time I hear those words for the rest of my life I’m always going to think of her every song we listened to every place we went all the inside jokes that stick around and the clothes you can’t wear anymore and this movie is the shining example, watching it makes me hopeful but hopeful for a false reality where everything turns out okay and the boy gets the girl but we didn’t just say nasty shit about eachother like it was fucked from the start but we kept going cus we thought we were in love and now we’re left in a spot where it’s like all I can feel when I think about her is pain and nostalgia and literally the line meet me in montauk but there’s no montauk for us and I have no idea where to go from here sry y’all I’m sure this’ll blend into the walls of text I just wanted anonish venting
Sending love ❤️ you got this
how are u 2 years later?
I love how every time I watch this movie I take something new from it.
That movie is so powerful, just a clip with that music and one line can bring me to tears.
I have watched this movie over 10 times by now. I still catch new things every time. So amazingly written.
I just gotta say kudos for the unforgettable title. Took me longer than it should have to get why it was so smart.
"Enjoy it" has me crying my eyes out. I miss my dad so much.
so I just realized, when they have there last dinner together, joel indicated that he would like to try the chicken, clementine ordered. But when they first met clementine directly stole his chicken wing. like they are allready a couple joel even coments on said action.
This movie means a lot to me. I watched it around 5 or 6 times before I met my now ex... fiance. After/⁰ we broke up, I watched this movie and now it means so, so much more. The toxic relationship Joel & Clementine had was almost a mirror reflection of us. It became difficult to watch. I'm very much like Joel. Distant, shy, w/depression and anxiety. My ex was outgoing & social but like Clementine, she had so many issues. PTSD, depression, anxiety, bi-polar, alcoholic, and drugs.Our relationship had become toxic. I even found myself saying so many things Joel would say. My ex was so much like Clementine as well . When we started going out, most her hair was dyed green!
Watching this movie and understanding it's message can give you a glimpse of what total Nirvana feels like.
Light...and day...
Is more than you'll say
Cause all...my feelings
Are more...
than I can let by
Or not...
More than you've got
Just follow the day....
Follow the day
and reach for the sun!
Love love love this movie. It's been a favorite since I watched it for the first time when I was a senior in high school. Fresh out of a break up, it was soul crushing to watch but I also loved all the hidden gems and the story of it. Your quote of him saying, "Enjoy it" is something that has been witnessed by me at multiple times in my life in similar situations. Holds so much power. Reminds us to just shut up, put our phones down and enjoy what is here and now at this very moment. Great work on the video.
The genius part of the eternal sunshine of the spotless mind is that it consciously depicts how people lose their memories about their past partners unconsciously. Now when I try to look back at my very first relationship, things are very vague, but there must be a last time I remembered some of those forever-lost moments. I probably lost most of the memories in 2 years time however the movie speeds up the whole process due to the operation.
Your voice, the imagery, the beauty and truth in these comments...my dog is almost 16 and fading each day and the grief is too much to feel, but somehow this all helped me connect to it this morning. Thank you.
Sending love ❤️
I love it when I find something that I love so much and then discover that others love it as much as I do but from so many different places and perspectives. To me this movie is about focus. And how romantic love transcends that. When it happens, and takes your breath away, it’s unmistakable and can’t be chosen. It just is. But you can choose to focus on the good things that come with it or the hard things, but the connection, once made, will always be there. Might as well focus on what you want to see more of and make it as amazing as it can possibly be.
Happy 2023, I really do love how you break everything down This is definitely my favorite movie and its always helped me process somethings when they go wrong. Your comment about "letting go of the things we lost and time we wasted", really hit home. I appreciate you!
A deeply insightful, profoundly eloquent summation and analysis of one of THE greatest romantic films ever made - and a movie that has stood the test of time as my personal all-time fave. THANK YOU, for sharing this!
Your channel is hands down my new favorite one after seeing this.. I've been binge watching