As an Orthodox Jew, I want to thank you not just for your positive outlook and interest in our culture but for something a little deeper. There are so many things we do that are meaningful and special but have become normal and routine to us. Your insights and questions have made me think deeper into why we do the things we do and by answering your questions to myself or reading other comments, I’m reminded of the importance and reasoning behind things that are so second nature by now. Thank you for making me more conscious and appreciative of my own lifestyle! Keep up your amazing work.
@PortuguesePai I'm not in Canada but I'd be honored to host you for a Shabbos meal or even an entire Shabbos. You have been so open-minded and respectful in the time you've been investigating Orthodox Jewish life that I have no doubt that many, many of your viewers would also feel honored to host you
Every year at Thanksgiving & Christmas time the local news sends reporters out to interview people about how hard they're working to prepare a feast for family and guests. My wife just laughs because we do out every weekend
I'm extremely impressed that you knew the wool and linen thing. I don't think that's what he was talking about, I believe he was just talking about dressing nice and proper, but I'm very impressed.
I think it's so interesting, that while you are getting to observe the Hassidic Shabbos experience, in many ways it's very similar across the Orthodox spectrum. We don't all have maids or huge kitchens, but the singing and the light and happy feeling in the air are a real part of the experience.
Something that really stuck out to me about this video was the songs sung at the table, how timeless they are. These same songs have been sung at basically all shabbos tables for decades. I find it fascinating that a jew can meet another random jew from somewhere accross the world, maybe even generations apart, and be able to sing the same song together.
Also regarding the electricity, there are houses with a built-in clock with lugs, that when you want fuel you move it inside, and when you want the electricity in the house -or in certain areas of it- to be turned off, you move it outside, so it definitely helps...
Why he spoke to 5 Rabbis... I think a few possible reasons. Each Rabbi has their specialty, area of expertise and experience. He may have spoken to one who recommended him to speak to another who was more knowledgeable in this area. Also, different people have different Rabbis they follow. He may have had to get the okay from a few different Rabbis to make sure everyone involved in the event was satisfied that they were acting according to Jewish law.
1) there's a minimum requirement of 2 loaves of challah in order to make the blessing 2) surprised you didn't recognize him because you usually recognize faces well, but the guy who joined them in middle of the meal when they were singing was Lipa Schmeltzer who's a neighbor of the family. Peter did a full video with him as well which I'm sure you'll watch 3) the hasidic education system focuses primarily on Jewish texts, mostly the talmud. Learning talmud is not just reading a book. There's a ton of in depth analysis and it helps sharpen analytical skills, critical thinking and even incorporates mathematics at times. It's very complex. They also set aside time for teaching typical math, science and history but it's much less of a focus. Regarding college, the community has alot of its own courses that are accredited to get a degree without going to secular college. Some do online college to avoid being on secular campuses. But for some things such as medical school or law school there really is no choice and many will attend secular schools 4) shabbos is intended to be a time of enjoyment, not a time to be somber! The prayers typically have more singing incorporated into it. During the week the prayers are focused on asking for our needs, but on shabbos the prayers are all about praising God and reading from the weekly Torah portion. We are supposed to relax and enjoy ourselves on shabbos and avoid things that will make us sad or stressed
Oh wow, that was Lipa?? Maybe because his face wasn't painted silver 😂😂😂 That was something I thought of after (specifically law school), because I've heard many lawyers are Jewish, or at least get into that profession. I don't think there's anything really wrong with that educational system. As someone who attended catholic school all my life, we did the same in regards to religion. Obviously not as in depth I would say as the kids attending Jewish school, but I don't see how it would make the education system a problem.
@@PortuguesePai haha I was thinking that might be a reason you didn't recognize Lipa. You're excused on that. You'll learn alot more about him if you watch the interview Peter does with him. He's quite a fascinating person and has many songs that aren't pop like the one you saw In regards to education, I'm glad you're someone who can respect our system. Unfortunately there are many out there who can't just let us educate as we see fit and insist we are robbing our children of a "better education" and are out to legally force us to conform to certain standards. The saddest part is that some of the leading voices in this are resentful people who grew up in the community and are now trying to get revenge at the community
My dude, you’ve officially become too much of a scholar in Jewish law 😜 The guess about the wool/linen blend (A.K.A. shaatnez) was such an interesting and sharp guess, but it’s actually just as simple as putting on a suit and tie to better blend in and show respect, as we typically dress up for shabbos. The fact that you even thought of that, though, really shows how much you’ve learned about our religion in such a short period of time. It’s quite remarkable. I’m still watching, but thoroughly enjoying, as always. Keep up the good work!
The video was fascinating - it also showed a blend of different families from different Hassidic groups. The house was clearly owned by a Lubavitch (AKA Chabad) hassidic family as the large picture on the wall was of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Menachem Mendel Schneerson, who lead the Chabad Hassidic movement until his death in 1994. All Chabad Hassidim will have a prominent picture of him in almost every room in the House. Chabbad Hassidim normally wear a fedora, not a fur hat. Chabbad a headquartered in Crown Heights, in one of the earlier videos you saw their world headquarters. They have branches in over 100 countries throughout the world where they try to spread their message to Jews allover the world. Lippa Shmeltzer was born and raised as a Skver Hasid which is one of the most isolated Hassidic group, isolated even from other Hassidim. The Skver Hassidic dynasty began in the city of Skvyra, Ukraine, but today are based in in the county of New Square in New York. Lippa is very non-typical of a Skver Hassid, but still wars the tall shtreimel (fur hat) that identifies their community. The host is probably a Breslov Hassid, who also wear Shtreimels, although their dress-code is less strict than some of the other Hassidic groups. Breslov hassidim are followers of Rabbi Nacham from Bresolv who emphasized worshiping G-d through happiness. The reason I assume that he is Breslov is that he says he makes an annual pilgrimage to the town of Uman in the Ukraine which is where Rebbe Nachman is buried. Tens of thousands of Jews, especially Bresolv Hassidim go to Uman every year for Rosh Hashana (although this year far fewer went because of the war in the Ukraine right now). I don't know which hassidc group Shlomie belongs to. The host is clearly more wealthy than an average Hassidic family - not all hassidim travel to China every week and have a house keeper. Many live in much more modest apartments, some live in poverty, but all make a Shabbat meal fit for royalty.
Great insight/information as always Michael, thank you! In regards to the picture of Lubavitch, is the purpose more to pay respects to him and his work? Because the way I was seeing it as like a catholic household that has a picture of Jesus/God up...but I would assume that seeing Lubavitch is that way would be a problem because it might fall under Idolizing? Also, is the Uman pilgrimage a lengthy journey/event?
@@PortuguesePai Pictures of the Lubavitcher Rebbe are ubiquitous in Lubavitcher households. The relationship between a chossid and Rebbe in Chabad philosophy is extremely close, loving, reverent. Don't remember who said this, but I've heard someone explain putting the picture up as like putting up a mirror - except with a mirror you see how you are right now, when looking at the Rebbe, you see how you can be (as the Rebbe holds his chasidim to a very high standard, and was constantly encouraging people to grow and do more good things in the world and become closer to Gd.) Another note, you can tell by their accent and clothing that they most likely did not grow up Chabad. Hard to know if they actually identify now as Chabad chasidim, or if the Rebbe is simply a source of inspiration for them. Going to Uman is not common at all among Lubavitcher Chassidim.
@@hadasgottlieb9069 that is a really cool way of looking at it in regards to the picture/mirror. Another note, I wouldn't be able to tell 🤣, but I get what you're saying. Would Uman be like how the Saudis travel to Mecca?
@@PortuguesePai Haha I was using the royal "you" lol I can't claim to know a ton about Islam - I imagine the closest analogy for the Muslim Mecca pilgrimage would be like a Jew visiting Jerusalem...although with such different traditions, a lot gets lost in the comparison. It is a widespread Jewish custom to visit and pray at the graves of righteous people - there are many ancient and modern graves of great sages and holy people that are visited often throughout the year. A righteous person's soul remains near their grave, and people will go and ask for blessings, and for the person to intercede with Hashem on our behalf. Uman is the location of the grave of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov, the Breslover Rebbe, and so people who feel connected to him will go to Uman especially during certain times to pray by his grave.
sabbath starts Friday sundown and ends when the stars come out Saturday night. we have jewish schools and the curriculum is a little different-they schedule it to include a lot of Jewish law study, jewish history etc. some communities will frown upon going to college while some other communities set up separate/ jewish college for people to get their degrees the singing is called zemirot -different poems and prayers about sabbath that we sing during the meals. not all of us have a house keeper- your allowed to wash dishes on shabbath if you will need it for the rest of the day, we can clean so the house looks nice the rest of shabbath , just no heavy duty cleaning, cooking and nothing that is not immediately necessary for shabbath.
Ahhhh, that makes sense. I was wondering about what you would do if you didn't have a house keeper. I was thinking of that huge mess you'd have to deal with on Sunday 😅
@@PortuguesePai we still end up with a little merss to clean when shabbos is over, like washing the floors and the extra dishes from the last meal etc...😀 just like after any party..
@@PortuguesePai We do have a huge mess to clean up! Shabbos is the calm before the storm. I spend all Friday prepping and cleaning for Shabbos and spend all Sunday cleaning up from Shabbos, but at least I have Shabbos to nap, read, relax, spend time with the family and I dont worry about the mess because we feel super laid back on Shabbos.
most families today have both parents working but generally the mom would have a shorter "mother job" so she can be home with the kids during the afternoon, there are also families where the men don't work rather study torah when the wife chooses to be the main supporter. either way in a healthy family setting our husbands whenever they are home will do as much as they can to support and help the wife around the home
We can clean dishes with restrictions. A whole complicated subject. She can't do anything for us if we can't do it, though she can use a method that's easier that we wouldn't be allowed to use. For example she would be allowed to vacuum even though we would only be allowed to sweep. Since it's easier for her, she is using the vacuum for herself. Peter is only allowed to turn on the bathroom lights, if he intends to or may use the bathroom in the future. Then he's doing it for himself. It's super complex. There's a lot more too it.
Hi, the tone of a Shabbos meal can vary based on personality of partcipants- some can be more formal, others more casual, but goal is always atmosphere of connection with family members and God. Certain songs sung are universal, others depends on family/ community background. Definitely helps when family members can carry a tune well, but it's not a requirement 😀. As other people commented, in this family the wife is from a chabad background, and husband traditionally hasidic one, so seems like they kind of incorporate traditions from each community. In hasidic families, each person makes their own blessing, but in Orthodox, non hasidic homes, specifically at Shabbos meal, the father makes a blessing on the challah and everyone else just answers "amen", they don't make their own blessing as they would when eating food during the week. Many people don't necessarily have meat every week, saving meat just for the holidays. many people have chicken instead ( I know people who actually have vegetarian Shabbos meals, although that's not traditional, it's more common among observant people than it used to be) The fish next to the morrocan salmon was gefilte fish with beets/horseradish dip on top, a traditional sabbos food. The meal for Shabbos day, the main dish will be a stew called chulent that's put up in crock pot before Shabbos starts, and left to cook overnight.
I am a woman and we have a 2 person family income. I even have a masters degree and a professional career (this is not unusual). However I do only work part time because I care for my family as well. Because I have a masters degree I can make a decent income even working part time.
Fathers have no restrictions on touching their daughters, I believe this is a blended family and those are his wives daughters from a previous marriage so in that case since they are not biologically related to him, he can't touch them.
I assumed the napkin was just because lots of girls are reeeeallly finicky about people touching their hair, especially on Friday nights when they've just washed it and don't want it to get oily or messed up since they can't wash it again until after Shabbos. :D
I'm pretty sure it's because you are not supposed to touch your scalp, bottom of shoes, etc, and if you do you can't learn Torah, or say Hashem's name without doing netilas yedayim(a special hand washing).
Hi @PortuguesePai, I like your observations 🙂 just want to make a note - that there are many versions of an Orthodox Shabbat. my family is very observant - but we're also vegetarians - which means we don't have meat. actually, out of quite a few children, only one isn't and all the rest are vegan - so on Shabbat we don't even have fish. the Mitzvah is to give ourselves joy through the food, so, if Fish and meat don't give us joy -there's no reason to eat it. the only place where there's an actual Mitzvah to eat meat (in certain ways) is in the Holy temple, which is what we'll do when we'll rebuild it, hopefully soon. I saw in this video many costumes that we don't have. it depends on the tradition of your family and community. in my family - only the Father blesses on the wine and not all the other guest men, unless it's a guest who chooses to. same thing on the Challah bread. My Father never put something between me and his hand while blessing. we never had a special sink for "Netilat Yadayim" (the hand washing), simple because we just didn't have. it's not a necessity, it's just more convenient. we wash our hands in the kitchen. When my late Grandmother used to come to us - we brought it to her with the special cup, an empty pail and a towel. what you see here, has many different versions and everything is OK, as long as it's according to the basic Jewish laws. not all traditions are Mitzvahs. the different traditional foods are according to which diaspora the Jew came from - because of course, along the almost 2000 years of exile, Jews ate whatever was available in that country. lots of root vegetables from Europe, lots of spices from north Africa etc... women work and provide also in traditional communities, but as a woman, I would prefer to be able to focus on raising my kids and not having to provide... not all the Jews have maids 😉 we DO wash our dishes, but with special cleaning sponges that don't absorb water, and in houses with electric water heating systems we also don't use hot water. anyway, you are definitely invited to come to us in Israel 🙂
Throughout the videos I'm always thinking should I answer all your questions, and then by the end I see how all the other commentators already have explained everything so thoroughly, and basically answered your questions already 😊. Did you notice Lipa in the video? Thanks again for your quality reactions!
Few notes about Shabbat meals: - Peter mentioned 4 things needs to be at the meal Wine - the blessing before the meal starts, called a Kiddush - we welcome the Shabbat by saying the verses from Genesis about God creating the world in 6 days and then rest on Shabbat, and we bless God for giving us the day of Shabbat. Challah - since bread considered as the main food of humans, a meal is called a meal only if it has a bread in it. Challah is just the special bread for Shabbat to make the Shabbat special than a regular day. Fish - eating fish on Shabbat is an ancient Jewish custom that dates back to the time of the Talmud, according to which it is customary to eat a portion of fish at Shabbat meals in order to fulfill the mitzvah of enjoying Shabbat with an important dish. Meat - same as fish - eating something special to honor the Shabbat day. Obviously you don't have to eat fish / meat if you don't like it. The mitzvah (command) is to enjoy on Shabbat, not to suffer. About the singing - Zemirot or Z'miros are hymns, usually sung in the Hebrew or Aramaic languages, but sometimes also in Yiddish or Ladino. There are specific hymns for every Shabbat meal (there are 3 meals during the Shabbat), and people add other songs they like to sing. The purpose of the Zemirot is to make Shabbat meals enjoyable, to make them more special from weekday meals and to say some Torah words (Dvar Torah, Torah thought that is shared with others) at the meal. As many of the hymns contain customs and rules of Shabbat, some use to sing them instead of saying Dvar Torah. Shabbat meals are all fun. Food, laughing, talking, updating of the week events, singing... it's very much alive. If you ever come to Israel, you're more than welcome to come over for Shabbat with our family 🙂
That would be an amazing experience! In regards to the 4 items, in terms of the wine. I noticed there were quite a few bottles on the table. Now I myself am not a wine drinker, so what would someone do in regards to that? Also, is there ever the issue of someone over indulging and maybe getting too drunk/tipsy? Or is it always well behaved?
@@PortuguesePai I think some of the bottles were actually water and not wine. You don't have to drink wine, it mostly needed for the kiddush, but it's on the table, beacause it considered as something that increases the joy. Yes, sometimes people get a bit drunk ( I think Shloime got a little drunk in the end...) but most people take care of themselves and just get more merryer.
@@Tzippy.Lankin haha, that's awesome. Now because shabbos would go until the next sundown and they're not allowed to drive. Would Shloime and his family stay over at Elis house?
@@PortuguesePai lol 😂 I do have to say that most people don't drink that much on Shabbat, but anyhow, if Shloime doesn't live nearby and needs to drive back home, he'll definitely stay over at Eli's until Shabbat is over. Oh, now I get it: you mean he let himself drink cause he's staying anyhow... I guess that's possible 🤣
@@Tzippy.Lankinno no, I wasn't trying to imply that 😅. I was only asking if shabbat is from sundown to sundown, and someone wasn't close to their house, would they then spend the night at whoever's house they were at? Since you wouldn't be using your car?
I'm actually a chasidish college graduate. I have a Masters in social work. I was raised in a ultra orthodox jewish home, and a yeshiva education system. I had most of the undergraduate knowledge from our education system. Say hi to Danny for me 🐱
1:22 - By proper attire, he just means getting ready for dinner in a suit & tie. 5:55 - Every person, men and women, make the blessing over the bread. (On a side note, we don't bless the bread. We bless God for giving us the bread to enjoy.) We make the blessing on at least two loaves to signify the double portion of manna that God provided us every Friday when we left Egypt. 10:00 - There's nothing against women working. It's just that the men are the ones *responsible* for providing, while the women are *responsible* for the caretaking and homemaking. A woman going out to work *supports* her husband by supplementing the income, and vice versa. 13:15 - Being that twilight is not fully day or night, on Friday we start Shabbos at sundown and it goes on until it is fully night on Saturday, so both twilights are part of Shabbos, resulting in approximately 25 hours of Shabbos. 17:08 - The curricula are very focused on the Jewish learning, value systems etc. The more conservative the sect, the larger the spread in the ratio between Religious studies and secular studies. If you recall the boy in the Williamsburg video, didn't speak the best English. 20:08 - Correct, this is just a song, which is very much part of the Shabbos meal. Karaoke style because playing music, both live or recorded, would be forbidden. 21:42 - Correct, although, the reason they have a maid is not *because* they can't do it themselves. They probably have this housekeeper all week, but because she is not Jewish, she can was the dishes etc. 23:06 - He's had some wine as well... 😀 As always, great stuff @PortuguesePai
That would be an awesome experience. I guess I figured I would need a special exception, but in Peters experience I suppose that was only due to the camera/recording aspect.
Father can touch his daughter no problem. It's only when doing prayers thst one cannot touch hair at all in general, while praying, so when he blesses each of his chosen on Friday night, he puts a kerchief on the hair because he is praying while blessing each child
Ok so I don't remember if you reacted Lipa Shmeltezer but he is the guy who is sitting in the first side seat in the middle of the video. (Next to Shloime)
The song they are singing at around the 19:20 mark is a very well-known song called Ka Ekhsof. It was written by Rabbi Aharon of Karlin, an early Chassidic Rebbe who lived in the Eighteenth Century. You can find a nice version of it here: th-cam.com/video/EGLA79z_Brk/w-d-xo.html
The song that they sing to honor their wife is called aishes chayil. You may remember the Benny Freedman video where he used that term to refer to his wife .
Contrary to what these folks told Peter, the Torah actually does not command us to eat or drink anything specific on Shabbat. Wine for kiddush is not a Torah commandment, as the Talmud Nazir teaches us and is cited by the Rambam Hilchos Nezirut 7,11 that kiddush wine is of rabbinic origin not directly from the Torah; otherwise how could the Nazir (people who do not drink alcohol, like Samson the Nazirite) abstain from kiddush wine. No, none of these food items are commanded directly by the Torah. The Torah itself commands us to sanctify Shabbat (Shemot 20:8). And these foods are all rabbinic precepts, ways the rabbis thought of to honor and sanctify Shabbat. Even the two loaves of bread at each meal, called lechem mishneh, are only a rabbinic commemoration of the two portions of Manna that fell on Friday. Not a Torah commandment, but a commemoration.
In the Jewish community the main purpose in life is to serve God, making money is a means to a end so we don't spend our younger years focused on it but rather in learning how to learn Torah and love life according to Judaism. Therefore in some sects they don't teach any secular studies that are not necessary for Jewish studies (so no English, science...) And some do a little because it is necessary to learn (to know how Jewish law applies nowadays you need to know the modern world...) And some day we have to be like the regular world so they learn everything they learn in public school (except for sex Ed which Jews strongly oppose)in addition to Jewish studies. If I'm order to save lives or needs a job then some people will take the necessary courses to get that degree (I know some people the didn't get any secular education who taught themselves how to read and write, did their GED in 2 months went to afternoon college and became doctors and lawyers). Because Jewish studies has way more thinking then secular studies, religious Jews are very successful in college with a near 100% pass rate.
Most orthodox Jewish day schools provide secular and religious curriculums. Homeschooling is very, very uncommon. Schools are a part of general orthodox tradition. Some Hasidic communities in NY and some ultra-orthodox communities in Israel do not teach anything but Talmud to high school boys. The reason being the amount and difficulty of material Talmud study presents.
As promised, part 2! A lot to say here! 1. It's unfortunate Shloime forgot to coordinate with the Shul, that would have been nice to see. But yeah, in the middle of the service isn't really the time to explain to everyone what's going on. Oh well! 2. So the wool/linen rule wouldn't apply to Peter since he isn't Jewish, he's simply saying that it's a suit & tie affair. 3. Oh no!! I'm really surprised they kept this in the video, because Peter kinda messed up... Yes, he can manipulate the lights, etc. for himself since he's not Jewish, but what he's not allowed to do is manipulate them solely for the sake of the Jews. So he probably shouldn't have turned the light back on after he mistakenly turned it off, unless he either used the restroom again or had some other reason to use the light for his own benefit. Oops! 4. I'll be honest, I'm not sure why there was a napkin on the girl's head. As far as I know, a father is allowed to touch his daughter, and if a particular sect was super strict and didn't, then the napkin wouldn't help, so I'm not exactly sure what that's about- sorry! 5. Just a point on what Peter said about "bread being sacred in Jewish culture" - that's not exactly accurate. Regular bread is regular bread, although we do have several mitzvos when we eat it, including the hand washing, not talking, etc. but the Challah specifically has a lot of symbolism and meaning. You can read more at aish.com/a_brief_history_of_challah/. 6. I want to highlight the Kiddish at ~3:30. We make a blessing signifying the sanctity of the Shabbos over wine because wine is considered a high-class drink and elevates the sanctification. (Grape juice is also acceptable for kids or people who prefer no alcohol.) Some have a custom that only the head of the house makes it, others have a custom that all the men do. You can learn more about it at aish.com/48967396/. 7. Yeah, the extra sink is nice if you have a lot of people (and money!) so the washing goes more smoothly rather than having everyone waiting by one sink. Alternatively, it means that guests don't need to go into a kitchen while it's in use. ;) 8. Much like the Kiddish, there are different customs determining whether only the head of household makes the blessing on the bread versus all of them. Two loaves are mandatory (aish.com/48969636/), and the rest are because of the number of people. 8a. I also want to point out that we don't bless the wine, loaves, or really anything like that- when we're making those blessings, we're really saying G-d is the source of all blessings and has given us . While there's less ceremony/singing, we make these same blessings anytime we eat bread, not just on Shabbos. 9. It's true that in recent years (decades) it's become a lot more normal to have both parents working, but Peter's talking about the ideal scenario, and the "defaults". Who changes the diapers isn't codified in Torah law, so things can be adjusted if needed, but it would be after the fact, not the desired dynamic. 10. Shabbos is from Friday sundown to Saturday nightfall, so ~25 hours. 11. The conversation at ~13:30 was definitely for Peter's benefit- this isn't typical Shabbos table talk. ;) While we'll talk about almost anything (appropriate), we try to talk about the weekly Torah portion, kids often bring projects from school or have an insight that they learned in school, etc. 12. Now I'm not sure- I can't tell if that's a portrait of Rav Schneerson or not! 13. Yes, the curriculum has become a huge topic of discussion, even more so in the past couple of months since New York State is trying to regulate what the schools are required to teach even though they don't really fund them (outside of some security and compliance funding). This is a very complicated subject and one that people are passionate about on both sides, so I'll try to explain it as best I can. - With few exceptions, Orthodox children go to Orthodox schools where the primary focus is religious studies, as you say, and learning about the values and how to serve G-d. The secular studies curriculum varies from one end of the spectrum to the other, with more Chassidish school generally teaching less secular studies and less Chassidish teaching more, especially as you move to the Yeshivish and Modern Orthodox sides of the spectrum. - One one extreme, students will learn very little secular studies, and even very little about the English language, since everything is taught in Yiddish. - There are people, including alumni of these schools who then decided to try to pursue further education, who are upset at the low level of secular studies. - Chassidim will be very quick to point out that you don't need a college degree to make a living, especially today, and that there are plenty of Chassidim who can barely speak English who are making 6 figures, and there are plenty of other Orthodox schools available if you want to have a better secular education. - There are even vocational programs to teach trades to people who may not even have a New York State-recognized High School Diploma or GED. - Recently New York State has proposed several laws that would not only require Yeshivos to teach certain subjects to certain levels, but even dictate how much time must be spent on each. For context, even in schools with a very high English curriculum (at least when I was there, my High School boasted that no one had ever failed the English regent's exam, and many in my class received Advanced Regents Diplomas, which required taking additional exams beyond the required), secular studies take up only a few hours per day. These proposed time requirements would take up most of the day, leaving little time for religious studies. - College is its own discussion. (As a disclaimer, I myself am a college graduate.) As an idea, men should spend as much time as possible every day studying Torah. What this means varies depending on the same spectrum as above, with many on one side committing to learning Torah all day for as long as possible (often being supported by their in-laws after they get married), to the other side where you have a "normal" job and try to find time to study when you can. Regardless, the traditional college experience is seen by many as a waste of time and not necessary to learn job skills, and is just time wasted from learning Torah. Even worse, not only do most colleges require you to take courses with subject matters that go against Torah values, just the college experience itself is often rife with socializing with people who don't hold your values, being expected to socialize with the opposite gender, or being exposed to styles of dress that go drastically against our modesty standards. More and more, there are ways to get educated that don't involve a formal degree, but there are definitely many that still require one, especially specialties like Law and Medicine. There are a few Jewish schools (Touro/Landers and Yeshiva University) that cater specifically to us, but those are the exceptions. It's a very sticky situation and gets into what Yeshivos should be forced to do (i.e. it's not right for a whole swath of the population to be ignorant of so much, and many of them will end up on welfare) vs. the argument that the Public School system isn't much better anyway. I, personally, have been in the secular workforce for over a decade, and I've found that with very few exceptions, I've been the most highly-educated one in the room, at least when it comes to grammar and math, not necessarily in history, media studies, or sociology. 14. ~19:00 - Yeah, I'm pretty sure celebrity cameos aren't typical of every Shabbos dinner. ;) 15. Ahh, zmiros, one of the highlights of the Shabbos meal! These aren't prayers per se' but songs about Shabbos and G-d. Typically they have low stanzas and a high repeating verse, and the stanzas are often acrostics of the author's name. Some talk about the beauty of G-d's world (th-cam.com/video/_x7CyYMoESw/w-d-xo.html - totally a react recommendation!) and some talk about Shabbos itself (like what they're singing here and others linked to). If you have a musical family it can be quite an experience. 16. Hello Danny! One day we'll discuss why almost no Orthodox Jews have pets... 17. Having a maid is definitely a luxury! She still wouldn't be able to break Shabbos for them, but thinks like washing dishes with cold water and general cleaning can be done. 18. ~23:00 - I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure they don't usually sing that much around bentching (the grace after meals), that was probably for Peter. But who knows, I could be wrong! I will say, though, singing and dancing spontaneously like that is normal enough that many can just click into it, completely unrehearsed. Also, I think the word you're looking for to describe Shlomie is "inspired." 19. Just a quick pronunciation correction- Shlomie is "sh-loy-mee", and Eli is "eh-lee". Until next time!
3) he's allowed to do it for the Jews as long as he's not asked to do it, and besides, it looked like he really enjoyed turning it back on so he did it kind of for himself 4) the napkin is just because it's hair, just like you would put a napkin on a child under 3 years old
4- it's his stepdaughter not his biological daughter. 14- in this case it has nothing to do with his celebrity status. A-They're neighbors, B- back when Lipa had his shul in Airmont, Eli was one of his biggest donors, C- Lipa is not married currently, it is very common to invite guests for Shabbos meals especially older singles or divorced people. 17- pretty standard in every Orthodox Jewish home to have a cleaning lady/caretaker. Maybe not every single day, but at least once or twice a week. 18- Definitely common to spontaneously dance and sing after the meal. My father always did that and so does my husband.
My father blesses on the head every kid on the sabbath/shobbos. But doesn’t have a napkin as a barrier.. never heard of that maybe his hands were wet or something
1. In the ultra orthodox schools for boys [chadorim or cheder], there's very little secular education. 2. Going to college or university is frowned upon where it includes social mixing and learning the arts. 3. Singing is the norm for Shabbos meals. 4. Washing up dishes etc is permitted on Shabbos.
Those are the basic roles, priorities and values of Jewish family but i think the majority of women work today both bec of need and bec of career interests. I think today almost every woman i know is a professional as well, usually working part time of course, but.....speech therapist, OT, PT, PA, CPA, JD, MD, DDS, PharmD, social worker, psychologist, etc etc. The PRIORITY is family but most women are also involved in the career world to SOME DEGREE OR ANOTHER.
Maybe it's a Hasidic custom, but in Israel it's accepted by the majority (at least from what I've seen from most families and events) that The head of the family blesses the bread and resolves the rest of the diners by saying... Without others blessing separately...
Yeah - I was wondering about that. Normally the head of the household makes a blessing over 2 loves of bread, and then cuts or breaks a piece for everyone. Occasionally is there are several families eating together, the head of each family will get 2 loaves for his own family. But I have never seen the head of each family blessing over the same loves before they are cut, that may be a family custom in their family.
In terms of education- our private schools actually teach all general secular subjects what we need to learn- plus all religious subjects. So we actually are quite educated and well rounded in that sense- but the emphasis isn’t on “education” and being a intellectual in the secular sense. Some do. And some are. But it’s not the focus. We need to know basic things for life. And we take all required state exams and most yeshivas score pretty high actually. I never understand when people talk negatively about yeshiva education. When compared to Public school- yeshiva students generally do very well. And that’s in addition to the whole religious curriculum that is also pretty high level and competitive. Collage is fine. Many people go to college to get work in a specific career, but it’s not a must. We don’t usually go for the sake of education alone. It would be goal oriented. We don’t usually join the college culture of parties and fraternity houses and such. It’s goal oriented- we get the education and move on. Our communities even teamed up with some colleges and made private colleges where you earn the degree through a secular collage but never actually go to that campus.
This is an overly favourable generalisation. There is a significant portion of Chassidic schools which do not successfully impart basic English literacy and numeracy skills or general history.
Girls yeshivas typically have adequate secular studies, but not all boys yeshivas do. The majority of Orthodox schools do. But within the Chassidish world in particular there are schools that teach MAYBE an hour of secular studies out of an 8+ hour school day. It's not uncommon for Chassidish boys to graduate high school in the United States barely able to read and write in English and without any of the prerequisites they'd need to go to college or a specialty school. College is very frowned upon in some Chassidish communities. Again, what I'm describing above is a minority of Orthodox school, but it's definitely an issue that some of us wish were different. (I, personally, went to an excellent girls yeshivah that had both a full Jewish and full secular curriculum with the opportunity to take college-level classes in Senior year to start earning college credits.)
Ahhh okay. It has been mentioned that there's certain attire worn on shabbos, but with Peter it confused me. But him going from his t-shirt to a suit makes sense now haha 😆
@@PortuguesePai hey, love your reaction videos (actually kinda enjoy the "cultural" videos more than the music, but you do you). Is there a way to contact you? Perhaps email, since you mentioned that you don't have any socials.
If you are ever is Israel, you're more than welcome to our Shabbat dinner 😋 experience some Mizrahi Shabbat. A little different but very close in every aspect that matters :)
While spending time with family is a wonderful side benefit of shabbos, it is not the purpose. The entire reason for shabbos is for us to stop and remember each week that God created the world in 6 days and rested on the 7th. It is about us acknowledging that God is the Creator of the world, is the Provider for all our needs and the Source of all blessing. All the dos and donts of Shabbos are specific and there to remind us of these ideas. Shabbos is a wonderful time to spend with family, connect with ourselves, but ultimately to connect with God!
I moved from Toronto to Israel a month ago, so you'll have to come here for Shabbat and a multitude of cultural experiences that can only be offered here. You're more than invited! If you ever want to AMA, I have a Jewish studies degree from York and have been deeply involved in my Jewish identity for my whole life, please feel free to reach out!
Singing is typical and obligatory at a Shabbos meal. It falls under the same obligation of what we require at a Shabbos meal. Meat, wine, bread, singing...
I would not put it as an "obligation". It is something that is done to enhance the joy. I know families that just don't like singing and don't really sing at all!
And college is a loaded topic. Really depends on the type of orthodoxy, etc. Also there are some jewish colleges that have changed the landscape a bit. But much longer discussion than a youtube comment can provide.
You should check out some videos on Spharadi (Spanish/Portuguese) Jews or Yemenite or Persian Jews. I think you might find it interesting. Personally my favorites
I think it’s not about the guy working and bringing in all the money. It’s about what the priority for a man and a woman. Men often strife to earn more and more, as much as possible, while women often choose jobs that pay less and cause less stress, so that she can pay more attention to the children. I think it’s a natural, instinct driven dynamic in most families.
Today many women work out of the house, it is not prohibited! If a woman wants to, she can definitely go work. Yes, ideally women are stay at home moms, but in today's society there are many women who have regular jobs or own businesses.
Just to clarify the fish and meat is not a must it is a recommended thing as they are more "important" foods but if someone doesn't like them he doesn't have to have.
So there is a mitzvah of oneg Shabbos - enjoyment of Shabbos. Oneg is defined traditionally as fish, meat ( which can be chicken) and all the good things. I actually heard one Rabbi say that if the person hates fish, he should specifically not have fish because it would decrease his enjoyment and the point of oneg Shabbos is enjoyment.
I've seen a few comments mention that. What would give the indication for that? Was it that simple action? Or is there something obvious that I didn't notice?
@PortuguesePai Nothing would indicate it. Aside from what you observed. Lol You'd have to know them personally or know that detail. The point is, fathers would touch their daughters head when blessing them. Or so Is my understanding
1. proper attire = means a suit. nicely dressed. 2. Actually, he shouldn't have switched the light again for them :) 3. Generally speaking, just the head of the household makes the blessing over the two loaves [though each person can make their own private blessing when they receive a piece]. 4. Generally, two loaves. 5. We'd love to have you. ;) 6. This meal is both on Friday evening and Saturday day. 7. The idea of only having fish on Friday is Christian [catholic, i think]. 8. (Btw, nowhere in the Torah does it say one *has* to have fish. In the halachic code, a meal is defined by having bread. Meat [or chicken] is generally had but is no way obligatory.)
@@aaronjapha2317 you're stepping on the concept of a shabbos goy, but I guess that one is problematic to begin with. Although in this case, one might say though that he did it for his own benefit as well, because he got to explain the situation to his followers, so it's ok 🙂
Don't worry, the vast majority of orthodox families are 2 income because it's needed. However, the "general mindset" still exists. Many mothers will try to work "kid friendly" hours, etc.
It's interesting to see people like Peter be more intrigued so to speak by hasidic jews, I guess it's more the way they dress, but if he'd try to do a similar documentary into the life of the litvish community he'll find in my view they're more "ridged ", then what he found by most hasidim,
They are a few families so every head of the family the father bless for his family okey the bread, wine etc. It's 25 hours, sundown to one hour after sundown the day after, also holidays. In Judaism the holiday and shabbat starts in the evening before the day of shabbat or the day of holiday. It's not forbidden to go to college it's just not common so we won't mix with other religions who will keeps us from our religion. They don't have an housekeeper for shabbat, she is am housekeeper every day including shabbat
While most Orthodox Jews are happy with the educational system, I was resentful as a teenager that I needed to spend up to 8 hours each day on Torah studies, especially because I already knew at the time that I didn't believe in the religion. I also lived in a dormitory with strict rules on how you spent your free time. I'm glad I at least got a basic secular studies education, because many Hasidic Jews do not. I was able to leverage that education to go to college, even though I had no idea what I was doing during the application process because I had no support. While I am not happy with the Orthodox education system, I also spent a year working in a public charter school and I am not happy with the general education system either. We need to fundamentally rethink the education system and make it more democratic and student-directed model. Many schools today are authoritarian nightmares run almost like prisons.
I agree with you about the public education system. We need a MASSIVE overhaul as a society in terms of what we value in education and how we go about it! I hope you continue to work in education if you can (and want to) as we need more people like you who do get it. As for your experience in school, I feel horrible about that. I had a somewhat different experience, but I still experienced both social and academic prejudice towards what I needed. I find it so sad that many Jewish communities get tied up in the "politics" of being frum, and aren't making the effort to include all of our nation. Instead, we ostracize them! It NEEDS to stop! G-d bless you, and all of us.
Im quite an observant Jew and i dont even know why he put the napkin there to bless his daughter. I have never seen that before. Im wondering if its not a religious thing at all or if shes just asked her father not to get her hair oily 😂.
Not sure why the father has a tissue under his hand when he’s blessing his daughter. It’s definitely not an issue for a father to touch his daughter in Judaism. Regardless I must say, I find your videos very interesting. As someone who is orthodox its fascinating to see our customs and laws through the eyes of someone outside the community, always done so respectfully. Kudos to you
As an Orthodox Jew, I want to thank you not just for your positive outlook and interest in our culture but for something a little deeper. There are so many things we do that are meaningful and special but have become normal and routine to us. Your insights and questions have made me think deeper into why we do the things we do and by answering your questions to myself or reading other comments, I’m reminded of the importance and reasoning behind things that are so second nature by now. Thank you for making me more conscious and appreciative of my own lifestyle! Keep up your amazing work.
As an Orthodox Jew I agree
Very well said. Thought about it as well
I third this. You have made me see my own religion in a fresh light.
Me too
@PortuguesePai I'm not in Canada but I'd be honored to host you for a Shabbos meal or even an entire Shabbos. You have been so open-minded and respectful in the time you've been investigating Orthodox Jewish life that I have no doubt that many, many of your viewers would also feel honored to host you
Agreed!!!❤
👋 me, too!
Agreed!
Yes
Every year at Thanksgiving & Christmas time the local news sends reporters out to interview people about how hard they're working to prepare a feast for family and guests. My wife just laughs because we do out every weekend
Hahah, it is definitely a laughable thing to see on the news when you have the perspective of that happening 52times a year 😂
@@PortuguesePai plus the holidays that are (set up) like shabbos
I'm extremely impressed that you knew the wool and linen thing. I don't think that's what he was talking about, I believe he was just talking about dressing nice and proper, but I'm very impressed.
I watched Peter’s series when it first came out, and am enjoying rewatching it with you.
I think it's so interesting, that while you are getting to observe the Hassidic Shabbos experience, in many ways it's very similar across the Orthodox spectrum. We don't all have maids or huge kitchens, but the singing and the light and happy feeling in the air are a real part of the experience.
Something that really stuck out to me about this video was the songs sung at the table, how timeless they are. These same songs have been sung at basically all shabbos tables for decades. I find it fascinating that a jew can meet another random jew from somewhere accross the world, maybe even generations apart, and be able to sing the same song together.
They are actually not blessing the loaves, but rather blessing G-d for the loaves of bread.
Also regarding the electricity, there are houses with a built-in clock with lugs, that when you want fuel you move it inside, and when you want the electricity in the house -or in certain areas of it- to be turned off, you move it outside, so it definitely helps...
Why he spoke to 5 Rabbis... I think a few possible reasons. Each Rabbi has their specialty, area of expertise and experience. He may have spoken to one who recommended him to speak to another who was more knowledgeable in this area. Also, different people have different Rabbis they follow. He may have had to get the okay from a few different Rabbis to make sure everyone involved in the event was satisfied that they were acting according to Jewish law.
1) there's a minimum requirement of 2 loaves of challah in order to make the blessing
2) surprised you didn't recognize him because you usually recognize faces well, but the guy who joined them in middle of the meal when they were singing was Lipa Schmeltzer who's a neighbor of the family. Peter did a full video with him as well which I'm sure you'll watch
3) the hasidic education system focuses primarily on Jewish texts, mostly the talmud. Learning talmud is not just reading a book. There's a ton of in depth analysis and it helps sharpen analytical skills, critical thinking and even incorporates mathematics at times. It's very complex. They also set aside time for teaching typical math, science and history but it's much less of a focus. Regarding college, the community has alot of its own courses that are accredited to get a degree without going to secular college. Some do online college to avoid being on secular campuses. But for some things such as medical school or law school there really is no choice and many will attend secular schools
4) shabbos is intended to be a time of enjoyment, not a time to be somber! The prayers typically have more singing incorporated into it. During the week the prayers are focused on asking for our needs, but on shabbos the prayers are all about praising God and reading from the weekly Torah portion. We are supposed to relax and enjoy ourselves on shabbos and avoid things that will make us sad or stressed
Oh wow, that was Lipa?? Maybe because his face wasn't painted silver 😂😂😂
That was something I thought of after (specifically law school), because I've heard many lawyers are Jewish, or at least get into that profession.
I don't think there's anything really wrong with that educational system. As someone who attended catholic school all my life, we did the same in regards to religion. Obviously not as in depth I would say as the kids attending Jewish school, but I don't see how it would make the education system a problem.
@@PortuguesePai haha I was thinking that might be a reason you didn't recognize Lipa. You're excused on that. You'll learn alot more about him if you watch the interview Peter does with him. He's quite a fascinating person and has many songs that aren't pop like the one you saw
In regards to education, I'm glad you're someone who can respect our system. Unfortunately there are many out there who can't just let us educate as we see fit and insist we are robbing our children of a "better education" and are out to legally force us to conform to certain standards. The saddest part is that some of the leading voices in this are resentful people who grew up in the community and are now trying to get revenge at the community
The fact that you think it is mind-blowing will allow us to appreciate it that much more.
My dude, you’ve officially become too much of a scholar in Jewish law 😜
The guess about the wool/linen blend (A.K.A. shaatnez) was such an interesting and sharp guess, but it’s actually just as simple as putting on a suit and tie to better blend in and show respect, as we typically dress up for shabbos.
The fact that you even thought of that, though, really shows how much you’ve learned about our religion in such a short period of time. It’s quite remarkable. I’m still watching, but thoroughly enjoying, as always. Keep up the good work!
There is countless professional both men and women in thrbortodox world. Countless therapists, attorneys, accountants etc, you name it...
Danny is so cute, for a minute there i was sure you are talking about one of the kids in the video (danny is a pretty popular jewish boys name too)😄
Every shabbos meal includes specific songs dedicated for shabbos only
This is only the Shabbos night dinner, there's still Shabbos day lunch!
And there is a third meal called Shalosh Seudos which is not as major as the Friday Night Dinner and Shabbos Day Lunch.
The video was fascinating - it also showed a blend of different families from different Hassidic groups.
The house was clearly owned by a Lubavitch (AKA Chabad) hassidic family as the large picture on the wall was of the Lubavitcher Rebbe, Menachem Mendel Schneerson, who lead the Chabad Hassidic movement until his death in 1994. All Chabad Hassidim will have a prominent picture of him in almost every room in the House. Chabbad Hassidim normally wear a fedora, not a fur hat. Chabbad a headquartered in Crown Heights, in one of the earlier videos you saw their world headquarters. They have branches in over 100 countries throughout the world where they try to spread their message to Jews allover the world.
Lippa Shmeltzer was born and raised as a Skver Hasid which is one of the most isolated Hassidic group, isolated even from other Hassidim. The Skver Hassidic dynasty began in the city of Skvyra, Ukraine, but today are based in in the county of New Square in New York. Lippa is very non-typical of a Skver Hassid, but still wars the tall shtreimel (fur hat) that identifies their community.
The host is probably a Breslov Hassid, who also wear Shtreimels, although their dress-code is less strict than some of the other Hassidic groups. Breslov hassidim are followers of Rabbi Nacham from Bresolv who emphasized worshiping G-d through happiness. The reason I assume that he is Breslov is that he says he makes an annual pilgrimage to the town of Uman in the Ukraine which is where Rebbe Nachman is buried. Tens of thousands of Jews, especially Bresolv Hassidim go to Uman every year for Rosh Hashana (although this year far fewer went because of the war in the Ukraine right now).
I don't know which hassidc group Shlomie belongs to.
The host is clearly more wealthy than an average Hassidic family - not all hassidim travel to China every week and have a house keeper. Many live in much more modest apartments, some live in poverty, but all make a Shabbat meal fit for royalty.
Great insight/information as always Michael, thank you!
In regards to the picture of Lubavitch, is the purpose more to pay respects to him and his work? Because the way I was seeing it as like a catholic household that has a picture of Jesus/God up...but I would assume that seeing Lubavitch is that way would be a problem because it might fall under Idolizing?
Also, is the Uman pilgrimage a lengthy journey/event?
@@PortuguesePai Pictures of the Lubavitcher Rebbe are ubiquitous in Lubavitcher households. The relationship between a chossid and Rebbe in Chabad philosophy is extremely close, loving, reverent. Don't remember who said this, but I've heard someone explain putting the picture up as like putting up a mirror - except with a mirror you see how you are right now, when looking at the Rebbe, you see how you can be (as the Rebbe holds his chasidim to a very high standard, and was constantly encouraging people to grow and do more good things in the world and become closer to Gd.)
Another note, you can tell by their accent and clothing that they most likely did not grow up Chabad. Hard to know if they actually identify now as Chabad chasidim, or if the Rebbe is simply a source of inspiration for them.
Going to Uman is not common at all among Lubavitcher Chassidim.
@@hadasgottlieb9069 that is a really cool way of looking at it in regards to the picture/mirror.
Another note, I wouldn't be able to tell 🤣, but I get what you're saying.
Would Uman be like how the Saudis travel to Mecca?
@@PortuguesePai
Haha I was using the royal "you" lol
I can't claim to know a ton about Islam - I imagine the closest analogy for the Muslim Mecca pilgrimage would be like a Jew visiting Jerusalem...although with such different traditions, a lot gets lost in the comparison.
It is a widespread Jewish custom to visit and pray at the graves of righteous people - there are many ancient and modern graves of great sages and holy people that are visited often throughout the year. A righteous person's soul remains near their grave, and people will go and ask for blessings, and for the person to intercede with Hashem on our behalf.
Uman is the location of the grave of Rebbe Nachman of Breslov, the Breslover Rebbe, and so people who feel connected to him will go to Uman especially during certain times to pray by his grave.
From the names, I think the wives grew up in Chabad homes, while the husbands are from different chassidishe homes
sabbath starts Friday sundown and ends when the stars come out Saturday night.
we have jewish schools and the curriculum is a little different-they schedule it to include a lot of Jewish law study, jewish history etc.
some communities will frown upon going to college while some other communities set up separate/ jewish college for people to get their degrees
the singing is called zemirot -different poems and prayers about sabbath that we sing during the meals.
not all of us have a house keeper- your allowed to wash dishes on shabbath if you will need it for the rest of the day, we can clean so the house looks nice the rest of shabbath , just no heavy duty cleaning, cooking and nothing that is not immediately necessary for shabbath.
Ahhhh, that makes sense. I was wondering about what you would do if you didn't have a house keeper. I was thinking of that huge mess you'd have to deal with on Sunday 😅
@@PortuguesePai we still end up with a little merss to clean when shabbos is over, like washing the floors and the extra dishes from the last meal etc...😀 just like after any party..
@@PortuguesePai We do have a huge mess to clean up! Shabbos is the calm before the storm. I spend all Friday prepping and cleaning for Shabbos and spend all Sunday cleaning up from Shabbos, but at least I have Shabbos to nap, read, relax, spend time with the family and I dont worry about the mess because we feel super laid back on Shabbos.
we also involve the kids (depending on age also). growing we never had a cleaning lady and every child had chores
@@4bakersdozen haha 😂, some would say that's what kids are for.
most families today have both parents working but generally the mom would have a shorter "mother job" so she can be home with the kids during the afternoon, there are also families where the men don't work rather study torah when the wife chooses to be the main supporter.
either way in a healthy family setting our husbands whenever they are home will do as much as they can to support and help the wife around the home
Great video per usual! You should definitely check out the vid Peter made with lipa shmeltzer he gives a great insight into hasidic music:)
We can clean dishes with restrictions. A whole complicated subject. She can't do anything for us if we can't do it, though she can use a method that's easier that we wouldn't be allowed to use. For example she would be allowed to vacuum even though we would only be allowed to sweep. Since it's easier for her, she is using the vacuum for herself. Peter is only allowed to turn on the bathroom lights, if he intends to or may use the bathroom in the future. Then he's doing it for himself. It's super complex. There's a lot more too it.
The song about praising their wives is the song "Woman of Valor" which is a poem at the end of the book of Proverbs (Chapter 31).
Lipa shmaltzer was actually a guest at the shabbos meel!
Haha, ya someone else pointed that out too. I didn't recognize him without his Silver skin! 😂🤣
@@PortuguesePai love your videos watched evrey single one ofthem! Keep up the amazing stuff love it
Hi, the tone of a Shabbos meal can vary based on personality of partcipants- some can be more formal, others more casual, but goal is always atmosphere of connection with family members and God.
Certain songs sung are universal, others depends on family/ community background. Definitely helps when family members can carry a tune well, but it's not a requirement 😀.
As other people commented, in this family the wife is from a chabad background, and husband traditionally hasidic one, so seems like they kind of incorporate traditions from each community.
In hasidic families, each person makes their own blessing, but in Orthodox, non hasidic homes, specifically at Shabbos meal, the father makes a blessing on the challah and everyone else just answers "amen", they don't make their own blessing as they would when eating food during the week.
Many people don't necessarily have meat every week, saving meat just for the holidays. many people have chicken instead ( I know people who actually have vegetarian Shabbos meals, although that's not traditional, it's more common among observant people than it used to be)
The fish next to the morrocan salmon was gefilte fish with beets/horseradish dip on top, a traditional sabbos food.
The meal for Shabbos day, the main dish will be a stew called chulent that's put up in crock pot before Shabbos starts, and left to cook overnight.
I am a woman and we have a 2 person family income. I even have a masters degree and a professional career (this is not unusual). However I do only work part time because I care for my family as well. Because I have a masters degree I can make a decent income even working part time.
Fathers have no restrictions on touching their daughters, I believe this is a blended family and those are his wives daughters from a previous marriage so in that case since they are not biologically related to him, he can't touch them.
I think some chasidim are stringent once the girl is over the age of bas-mitzvah, so it is possible that might be the reason.
I assumed the napkin was just because lots of girls are reeeeallly finicky about people touching their hair, especially on Friday nights when they've just washed it and don't want it to get oily or messed up since they can't wash it again until after Shabbos. :D
I'm pretty sure it's because you are not supposed to touch your scalp, bottom of shoes, etc, and if you do you can't learn Torah, or say Hashem's name without doing netilas yedayim(a special hand washing).
Could be, I once read an interview by Shterny saying this is her second marriage so could be a mix of all these reasons
You are invited to come to us for shabbos in New Jersey.
Hi @PortuguesePai, I like your observations 🙂
just want to make a note - that there are many versions of an Orthodox Shabbat.
my family is very observant - but we're also vegetarians - which means we don't have meat.
actually, out of quite a few children, only one isn't and all the rest are vegan - so on Shabbat we
don't even have fish.
the Mitzvah is to give ourselves joy through the food, so, if Fish and meat don't give us joy -there's no reason to eat it.
the only place where there's an actual Mitzvah to eat meat (in certain ways) is in the Holy temple, which is what we'll do when we'll rebuild it, hopefully soon.
I saw in this video many costumes that we don't have. it depends on the tradition of your family and community.
in my family -
only the Father blesses on the wine and not all the other guest men, unless it's a guest who chooses to.
same thing on the Challah bread.
My Father never put something between me and his hand while blessing.
we never had a special sink for "Netilat Yadayim" (the hand washing), simple because we just didn't have. it's not a necessity, it's just more convenient. we wash our hands in the kitchen. When my late Grandmother used to come to us - we brought it to her with the special cup, an empty pail and a towel.
what you see here, has many different versions and everything is OK, as long as it's according to the basic Jewish laws. not all traditions are Mitzvahs.
the different traditional foods are according to which diaspora the Jew came from - because of course, along the almost 2000 years of exile, Jews ate whatever was available in that country.
lots of root vegetables from Europe, lots of spices from north Africa etc...
women work and provide also in traditional communities, but as a woman, I would prefer to be able to focus on raising my kids and not having to provide...
not all the Jews have maids 😉 we DO wash our dishes, but with special cleaning sponges that don't absorb water, and in houses with electric water heating systems we also don't use hot water.
anyway, you are definitely invited to come to us in Israel 🙂
He means like the whole getting dressed thing when it’s sabbath
There has to be a minimum of 2 whole loaves of unsliced bread, but obviously if there are many guests, you can add as many as needed.
Throughout the videos I'm always thinking should I answer all your questions, and then by the end I see how all the other commentators already have explained everything so thoroughly, and basically answered your questions already 😊.
Did you notice Lipa in the video?
Thanks again for your quality reactions!
Few notes about Shabbat meals:
- Peter mentioned 4 things needs to be at the meal
Wine - the blessing before the meal starts, called a Kiddush - we welcome the Shabbat by saying the verses from Genesis about God creating the world in 6 days and then rest on Shabbat, and we bless God for giving us the day of Shabbat.
Challah - since bread considered as the main food of humans, a meal is called a meal only if it has a bread in it. Challah is just the special bread for Shabbat to make the Shabbat special than a regular day.
Fish - eating fish on Shabbat is an ancient Jewish custom that dates back to the time of the Talmud, according to which it is customary to eat a portion of fish at Shabbat meals in order to fulfill the mitzvah of enjoying Shabbat with an important dish.
Meat - same as fish - eating something special to honor the Shabbat day.
Obviously you don't have to eat fish / meat if you don't like it. The mitzvah (command) is to enjoy on Shabbat, not to suffer.
About the singing - Zemirot or Z'miros are hymns, usually sung in the Hebrew or Aramaic languages, but sometimes also in Yiddish or Ladino. There are specific hymns for every Shabbat meal (there are 3 meals during the Shabbat), and people add other songs they like to sing. The purpose of the Zemirot is to make Shabbat meals enjoyable, to make them more special from weekday meals and to say some Torah words (Dvar Torah, Torah thought that is shared with others) at the meal. As many of the hymns contain customs and rules of Shabbat, some use to sing them instead of saying Dvar Torah.
Shabbat meals are all fun. Food, laughing, talking, updating of the week events, singing... it's very much alive. If you ever come to Israel, you're more than welcome to come over for Shabbat with our family 🙂
That would be an amazing experience!
In regards to the 4 items, in terms of the wine. I noticed there were quite a few bottles on the table. Now I myself am not a wine drinker, so what would someone do in regards to that? Also, is there ever the issue of someone over indulging and maybe getting too drunk/tipsy? Or is it always well behaved?
@@PortuguesePai I think some of the bottles were actually water and not wine. You don't have to drink wine, it mostly needed for the kiddush, but it's on the table, beacause it considered as something that increases the joy. Yes, sometimes people get a bit drunk ( I think Shloime got a little drunk in the end...) but most people take care of themselves and just get more merryer.
@@Tzippy.Lankin haha, that's awesome. Now because shabbos would go until the next sundown and they're not allowed to drive. Would Shloime and his family stay over at Elis house?
@@PortuguesePai lol 😂 I do have to say that most people don't drink that much on Shabbat, but anyhow, if Shloime doesn't live nearby and needs to drive back home, he'll definitely stay over at Eli's until Shabbat is over. Oh, now I get it: you mean he let himself drink cause he's staying anyhow... I guess that's possible 🤣
@@Tzippy.Lankinno no, I wasn't trying to imply that 😅. I was only asking if shabbat is from sundown to sundown, and someone wasn't close to their house, would they then spend the night at whoever's house they were at? Since you wouldn't be using your car?
13:15 Yup. Shabbos is for 25 hours
But I am quite impressed that you knew about the wool and linen (shat-nez(
I'm actually a chasidish college graduate. I have a Masters in social work.
I was raised in a ultra orthodox jewish home, and a yeshiva education system. I had most of the undergraduate knowledge from our education system.
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Shabbos is from shortly before sunset till shortly after nightfall.
We sing songs called zemiros during the Shabbos meals
1:22 - By proper attire, he just means getting ready for dinner in a suit & tie.
5:55 - Every person, men and women, make the blessing over the bread. (On a side note, we don't bless the bread. We bless God for giving us the bread to enjoy.)
We make the blessing on at least two loaves to signify the double portion of manna that God provided us every Friday when we left Egypt.
10:00 - There's nothing against women working. It's just that the men are the ones *responsible* for providing, while the women are *responsible* for the caretaking and homemaking. A woman going out to work *supports* her husband by supplementing the income, and vice versa.
13:15 - Being that twilight is not fully day or night, on Friday we start Shabbos at sundown and it goes on until it is fully night on Saturday, so both twilights are part of Shabbos, resulting in approximately 25 hours of Shabbos.
17:08 - The curricula are very focused on the Jewish learning, value systems etc. The more conservative the sect, the larger the spread in the ratio between Religious studies and secular studies. If you recall the boy in the Williamsburg video, didn't speak the best English.
20:08 - Correct, this is just a song, which is very much part of the Shabbos meal. Karaoke style because playing music, both live or recorded, would be forbidden.
21:42 - Correct, although, the reason they have a maid is not *because* they can't do it themselves. They probably have this housekeeper all week, but because she is not Jewish, she can was the dishes etc.
23:06 - He's had some wine as well... 😀
As always, great stuff @PortuguesePai
@Portuguesepai did you notice that Lipa was at the table sitting next to Shloime while they were singing?
Haha, I did not! Some people have brought that up though, and I think it's because his face wasn't Covered in Silver paint 😂
You really should go experience this for yourself firsthand! It's not hard to get an invitation!
He can definetly find a family in Canada who would host his for this ... exciting
That would be an awesome experience. I guess I figured I would need a special exception, but in Peters experience I suppose that was only due to the camera/recording aspect.
@@PortuguesePai if you need help arranging it your subscribers can easily put you in touch with people, either in Toronto or Montreal.
@@PortuguesePai 18:56 that’s lipa
@@PortuguesePai I was part of a program in Tennessee and we invited a catholic guy and his wife to our Friday night prayers
The bread blessing is their custom. Most only the head of the household makes the blessing. You need 2 loaves but if you have more that is nice.
Father can touch his daughter no problem. It's only when doing prayers thst one cannot touch hair at all in general, while praying, so when he blesses each of his chosen on Friday night, he puts a kerchief on the hair because he is praying while blessing each child
I'm this case it is his step daughter
Peter just wants to fit in that’s why he’s saying proper attire
Love this series
Ok so I don't remember if you reacted Lipa Shmeltezer but he is the guy who is sitting in the first side seat in the middle of the video. (Next to Shloime)
Ya I have reacted too him, however his face was covered in Silver paint haha, so probably why I didn't recognize him.
LOL I'm one of those women who is not happy when my husband wants to go to Uman! haha
The song they are singing at around the 19:20 mark is a very well-known song called Ka Ekhsof. It was written by Rabbi Aharon of Karlin, an early Chassidic Rebbe who lived in the Eighteenth Century. You can find a nice version of it here: th-cam.com/video/EGLA79z_Brk/w-d-xo.html
The song that they sing to honor their wife is called aishes chayil. You may remember the Benny Freedman video where he used that term to refer to his wife .
Shabbat is from Friday sundown until Saturday at time we call 3 stars. It is about 72 minutes after sundown
Contrary to what these folks told Peter, the Torah actually does not command us to eat or drink anything specific on Shabbat. Wine for kiddush is not a Torah commandment, as the Talmud Nazir teaches us and is cited by the Rambam Hilchos Nezirut 7,11 that kiddush wine is of rabbinic origin not directly from the Torah; otherwise how could the Nazir (people who do not drink alcohol, like Samson the Nazirite) abstain from kiddush wine. No, none of these food items are commanded directly by the Torah. The Torah itself commands us to sanctify Shabbat (Shemot 20:8). And these foods are all rabbinic precepts, ways the rabbis thought of to honor and sanctify Shabbat. Even the two loaves of bread at each meal, called lechem mishneh, are only a rabbinic commemoration of the two portions of Manna that fell on Friday. Not a Torah commandment, but a commemoration.
Hair can cause your hands to become impure and you need to wash it to say a prayer
He’s blessing his child so his hands can’t become impure
@@freespeech100 I think some chasidim have a chumrah about hair because it's close to the scalp.
In the Jewish community the main purpose in life is to serve God, making money is a means to a end so we don't spend our younger years focused on it but rather in learning how to learn Torah and love life according to Judaism.
Therefore in some sects they don't teach any secular studies that are not necessary for Jewish studies (so no English, science...) And some do a little because it is necessary to learn (to know how Jewish law applies nowadays you need to know the modern world...) And some day we have to be like the regular world so they learn everything they learn in public school (except for sex Ed which Jews strongly oppose)in addition to Jewish studies.
If I'm order to save lives or needs a job then some people will take the necessary courses to get that degree (I know some people the didn't get any secular education who taught themselves how to read and write, did their GED in 2 months went to afternoon college and became doctors and lawyers).
Because Jewish studies has way more thinking then secular studies, religious Jews are very successful in college with a near 100% pass rate.
Most orthodox Jewish day schools provide secular and religious curriculums. Homeschooling is very, very uncommon. Schools are a part of general orthodox tradition. Some Hasidic communities in NY and some ultra-orthodox communities in Israel do not teach anything but Talmud to high school boys. The reason being the amount and difficulty of material Talmud study presents.
As promised, part 2! A lot to say here!
1. It's unfortunate Shloime forgot to coordinate with the Shul, that would have been nice to see. But yeah, in the middle of the service isn't really the time to explain to everyone what's going on. Oh well!
2. So the wool/linen rule wouldn't apply to Peter since he isn't Jewish, he's simply saying that it's a suit & tie affair.
3. Oh no!! I'm really surprised they kept this in the video, because Peter kinda messed up... Yes, he can manipulate the lights, etc. for himself since he's not Jewish, but what he's not allowed to do is manipulate them solely for the sake of the Jews. So he probably shouldn't have turned the light back on after he mistakenly turned it off, unless he either used the restroom again or had some other reason to use the light for his own benefit. Oops!
4. I'll be honest, I'm not sure why there was a napkin on the girl's head. As far as I know, a father is allowed to touch his daughter, and if a particular sect was super strict and didn't, then the napkin wouldn't help, so I'm not exactly sure what that's about- sorry!
5. Just a point on what Peter said about "bread being sacred in Jewish culture" - that's not exactly accurate. Regular bread is regular bread, although we do have several mitzvos when we eat it, including the hand washing, not talking, etc. but the Challah specifically has a lot of symbolism and meaning. You can read more at aish.com/a_brief_history_of_challah/.
6. I want to highlight the Kiddish at ~3:30. We make a blessing signifying the sanctity of the Shabbos over wine because wine is considered a high-class drink and elevates the sanctification. (Grape juice is also acceptable for kids or people who prefer no alcohol.) Some have a custom that only the head of the house makes it, others have a custom that all the men do. You can learn more about it at aish.com/48967396/.
7. Yeah, the extra sink is nice if you have a lot of people (and money!) so the washing goes more smoothly rather than having everyone waiting by one sink. Alternatively, it means that guests don't need to go into a kitchen while it's in use. ;)
8. Much like the Kiddish, there are different customs determining whether only the head of household makes the blessing on the bread versus all of them. Two loaves are mandatory (aish.com/48969636/), and the rest are because of the number of people.
8a. I also want to point out that we don't bless the wine, loaves, or really anything like that- when we're making those blessings, we're really saying G-d is the source of all blessings and has given us . While there's less ceremony/singing, we make these same blessings anytime we eat bread, not just on Shabbos.
9. It's true that in recent years (decades) it's become a lot more normal to have both parents working, but Peter's talking about the ideal scenario, and the "defaults". Who changes the diapers isn't codified in Torah law, so things can be adjusted if needed, but it would be after the fact, not the desired dynamic.
10. Shabbos is from Friday sundown to Saturday nightfall, so ~25 hours.
11. The conversation at ~13:30 was definitely for Peter's benefit- this isn't typical Shabbos table talk. ;) While we'll talk about almost anything (appropriate), we try to talk about the weekly Torah portion, kids often bring projects from school or have an insight that they learned in school, etc.
12. Now I'm not sure- I can't tell if that's a portrait of Rav Schneerson or not!
13. Yes, the curriculum has become a huge topic of discussion, even more so in the past couple of months since New York State is trying to regulate what the schools are required to teach even though they don't really fund them (outside of some security and compliance funding). This is a very complicated subject and one that people are passionate about on both sides, so I'll try to explain it as best I can.
- With few exceptions, Orthodox children go to Orthodox schools where the primary focus is religious studies, as you say, and learning about the values and how to serve G-d. The secular studies curriculum varies from one end of the spectrum to the other, with more Chassidish school generally teaching less secular studies and less Chassidish teaching more, especially as you move to the Yeshivish and Modern Orthodox sides of the spectrum.
- One one extreme, students will learn very little secular studies, and even very little about the English language, since everything is taught in Yiddish.
- There are people, including alumni of these schools who then decided to try to pursue further education, who are upset at the low level of secular studies.
- Chassidim will be very quick to point out that you don't need a college degree to make a living, especially today, and that there are plenty of Chassidim who can barely speak English who are making 6 figures, and there are plenty of other Orthodox schools available if you want to have a better secular education.
- There are even vocational programs to teach trades to people who may not even have a New York State-recognized High School Diploma or GED.
- Recently New York State has proposed several laws that would not only require Yeshivos to teach certain subjects to certain levels, but even dictate how much time must be spent on each. For context, even in schools with a very high English curriculum (at least when I was there, my High School boasted that no one had ever failed the English regent's exam, and many in my class received Advanced Regents Diplomas, which required taking additional exams beyond the required), secular studies take up only a few hours per day. These proposed time requirements would take up most of the day, leaving little time for religious studies.
- College is its own discussion. (As a disclaimer, I myself am a college graduate.) As an idea, men should spend as much time as possible every day studying Torah. What this means varies depending on the same spectrum as above, with many on one side committing to learning Torah all day for as long as possible (often being supported by their in-laws after they get married), to the other side where you have a "normal" job and try to find time to study when you can. Regardless, the traditional college experience is seen by many as a waste of time and not necessary to learn job skills, and is just time wasted from learning Torah. Even worse, not only do most colleges require you to take courses with subject matters that go against Torah values, just the college experience itself is often rife with socializing with people who don't hold your values, being expected to socialize with the opposite gender, or being exposed to styles of dress that go drastically against our modesty standards. More and more, there are ways to get educated that don't involve a formal degree, but there are definitely many that still require one, especially specialties like Law and Medicine. There are a few Jewish schools (Touro/Landers and Yeshiva University) that cater specifically to us, but those are the exceptions.
It's a very sticky situation and gets into what Yeshivos should be forced to do (i.e. it's not right for a whole swath of the population to be ignorant of so much, and many of them will end up on welfare) vs. the argument that the Public School system isn't much better anyway. I, personally, have been in the secular workforce for over a decade, and I've found that with very few exceptions, I've been the most highly-educated one in the room, at least when it comes to grammar and math, not necessarily in history, media studies, or sociology.
14. ~19:00 - Yeah, I'm pretty sure celebrity cameos aren't typical of every Shabbos dinner. ;)
15. Ahh, zmiros, one of the highlights of the Shabbos meal! These aren't prayers per se' but songs about Shabbos and G-d. Typically they have low stanzas and a high repeating verse, and the stanzas are often acrostics of the author's name. Some talk about the beauty of G-d's world (th-cam.com/video/_x7CyYMoESw/w-d-xo.html - totally a react recommendation!) and some talk about Shabbos itself (like what they're singing here and others linked to). If you have a musical family it can be quite an experience.
16. Hello Danny! One day we'll discuss why almost no Orthodox Jews have pets...
17. Having a maid is definitely a luxury! She still wouldn't be able to break Shabbos for them, but thinks like washing dishes with cold water and general cleaning can be done.
18. ~23:00 - I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure they don't usually sing that much around bentching (the grace after meals), that was probably for Peter. But who knows, I could be wrong! I will say, though, singing and dancing spontaneously like that is normal enough that many can just click into it, completely unrehearsed. Also, I think the word you're looking for to describe Shlomie is "inspired."
19. Just a quick pronunciation correction- Shlomie is "sh-loy-mee", and Eli is "eh-lee".
Until next time!
16. Yaakov Avinu had at least 600000 dogs, (possibly 1.2M)
Great commentary!
3) he's allowed to do it for the Jews as long as he's not asked to do it, and besides, it looked like he really enjoyed turning it back on so he did it kind of for himself
4) the napkin is just because it's hair, just like you would put a napkin on a child under 3 years old
4- it's his stepdaughter not his biological daughter.
14- in this case it has nothing to do with his celebrity status. A-They're neighbors, B- back when Lipa had his shul in Airmont, Eli was one of his biggest donors, C- Lipa is not married currently, it is very common to invite guests for Shabbos meals especially older singles or divorced people.
17- pretty standard in every Orthodox Jewish home to have a cleaning lady/caretaker. Maybe not every single day, but at least once or twice a week.
18- Definitely common to spontaneously dance and sing after the meal. My father always did that and so does my husband.
I'm surprised you didn't recognize the person who made an appearance at 18:56
My father blesses on the head every kid on the sabbath/shobbos. But doesn’t have a napkin as a barrier.. never heard of that maybe his hands were wet or something
It's his stepdaughter, so the laws of not directly touching someone from the opposite gender applies in this case.
@@lcs8967 oh wow I never knew that but it makes sense. Thanks for writing!
1. In the ultra orthodox schools for boys [chadorim or cheder], there's very little secular education. 2. Going to college or university is frowned upon where it includes social mixing and learning the arts. 3. Singing is the norm for Shabbos meals. 4. Washing up dishes etc is permitted on Shabbos.
Those are the basic roles, priorities and values of Jewish family but i think the majority of women work today both bec of need and bec of career interests. I think today almost every woman i know is a professional as well, usually working part time of course, but.....speech therapist, OT, PT, PA, CPA, JD, MD, DDS, PharmD, social worker, psychologist, etc etc. The PRIORITY is family but most women are also involved in the career world to SOME DEGREE OR ANOTHER.
Maybe it's a Hasidic custom, but in Israel it's accepted by the majority (at least from what I've seen from most families and events)
that The head of the family blesses the bread and resolves the rest of the diners by saying...
Without others blessing separately...
It's definitely just a family minhag, although a very beautiful one, imho.
Yeah - I was wondering about that. Normally the head of the household makes a blessing over 2 loves of bread, and then cuts or breaks a piece for everyone.
Occasionally is there are several families eating together, the head of each family will get 2 loaves for his own family. But I have never seen the head of each family blessing over the same loves before they are cut, that may be a family custom in their family.
In terms of education- our private schools actually teach all general secular subjects what we need to learn- plus all religious subjects. So we actually are quite educated and well rounded in that sense- but the emphasis isn’t on “education” and being a intellectual in the secular sense. Some do. And some are. But it’s not the focus. We need to know basic things for life. And we take all required state exams and most yeshivas score pretty high actually. I never understand when people talk negatively about yeshiva education. When compared to
Public school- yeshiva students generally do very well. And that’s in addition to the whole religious curriculum that is also pretty high level and competitive. Collage is fine. Many people go to college to get work in a specific career, but it’s not a must. We don’t usually go for the sake of education alone. It would be goal oriented.
We don’t usually join the college culture of parties and fraternity houses and such. It’s goal oriented- we get the education and move on. Our communities even teamed up with some colleges and made private colleges where you earn the degree through a secular collage but never actually go to that campus.
This is an overly favourable generalisation. There is a significant portion of Chassidic schools which do not successfully impart basic English literacy and numeracy skills or general history.
Girls yeshivas typically have adequate secular studies, but not all boys yeshivas do. The majority of Orthodox schools do. But within the Chassidish world in particular there are schools that teach MAYBE an hour of secular studies out of an 8+ hour school day. It's not uncommon for Chassidish boys to graduate high school in the United States barely able to read and write in English and without any of the prerequisites they'd need to go to college or a specialty school. College is very frowned upon in some Chassidish communities.
Again, what I'm describing above is a minority of Orthodox school, but it's definitely an issue that some of us wish were different. (I, personally, went to an excellent girls yeshivah that had both a full Jewish and full secular curriculum with the opportunity to take college-level classes in Senior year to start earning college credits.)
Proper attire just means that we dress up for shabbos. We wear nicer clothes than we would the rest of the week
Ahhh okay. It has been mentioned that there's certain attire worn on shabbos, but with Peter it confused me. But him going from his t-shirt to a suit makes sense now haha 😆
@@PortuguesePai hey, love your reaction videos (actually kinda enjoy the "cultural" videos more than the music, but you do you).
Is there a way to contact you? Perhaps email, since you mentioned that you don't have any socials.
Shabbos is the most beautiful thing
From Friday night till Saturday night time depends on when the sun disappears and the moon comes out it’s every week different
Good question! They NEED 2 loaves! More than that is only dependant upon how many people they want to feed.
If you are ever is Israel, you're more than welcome to our Shabbat dinner 😋 experience some Mizrahi Shabbat. A little different but very close in every aspect that matters :)
While spending time with family is a wonderful side benefit of shabbos, it is not the purpose. The entire reason for shabbos is for us to stop and remember each week that God created the world in 6 days and rested on the 7th. It is about us acknowledging that God is the Creator of the world, is the Provider for all our needs and the Source of all blessing. All the dos and donts of Shabbos are specific and there to remind us of these ideas.
Shabbos is a wonderful time to spend with family, connect with ourselves, but ultimately to connect with God!
No not each men has to bless the bread only one has to do it but it’s their custom to do it.
At 20:42 that person is Lipa schmeltzer from the song you reacted
The hymn they sang to honor the women is taken from the Book of Proverbs, chapter 31.
I moved from Toronto to Israel a month ago, so you'll have to come here for Shabbat and a multitude of cultural experiences that can only be offered here. You're more than invited! If you ever want to AMA, I have a Jewish studies degree from York and have been deeply involved in my Jewish identity for my whole life, please feel free to reach out!
Singing is typical and obligatory at a Shabbos meal. It falls under the same obligation of what we require at a Shabbos meal. Meat, wine, bread, singing...
I would not put it as an "obligation". It is something that is done to enhance the joy. I know families that just don't like singing and don't really sing at all!
@@yeshevishman True. Not written in the Torah, but definitely written in halacha.
And college is a loaded topic. Really depends on the type of orthodoxy, etc. Also there are some jewish colleges that have changed the landscape a bit. But much longer discussion than a youtube comment can provide.
I'm at the beginning and wondering if you will recognize the famous guy later.will wait and see.
We sing Happy songs during the meal.
You should check out some videos on Spharadi (Spanish/Portuguese) Jews or Yemenite or Persian Jews. I think you might find it interesting. Personally my favorites
I think it’s not about the guy working and bringing in all the money. It’s about what the priority for a man and a woman. Men often strife to earn more and more, as much as possible, while women often choose jobs that pay less and cause less stress, so that she can pay more attention to the children. I think it’s a natural, instinct driven dynamic in most families.
A lot of the haredi educational system learns mostly Torah and very little if any of Stem. But home school is not very common
Today many women work out of the house, it is not prohibited! If a woman wants to, she can definitely go work. Yes, ideally women are stay at home moms, but in today's society there are many women who have regular jobs or own businesses.
sundown to an hour or so after sundown Saturday night
Just to clarify the fish and meat is not a must it is a recommended thing as they are more "important" foods but if someone doesn't like them he doesn't have to have.
So there is a mitzvah of oneg Shabbos - enjoyment of Shabbos. Oneg is defined traditionally as fish, meat ( which can be chicken) and all the good things. I actually heard one Rabbi say that if the person hates fish, he should specifically not have fish because it would decrease his enjoyment and the point of oneg Shabbos is enjoyment.
I believe the barrier on the daughter's head is due to her being non biological. She may be the wife's child from a previous marriage
I've seen a few comments mention that. What would give the indication for that? Was it that simple action? Or is there something obvious that I didn't notice?
@PortuguesePai Nothing would indicate it. Aside from what you observed. Lol
You'd have to know them personally or know that detail.
The point is, fathers would touch their daughters head when blessing them. Or so Is my understanding
1. proper attire = means a suit. nicely dressed. 2. Actually, he shouldn't have switched the light again for them :) 3. Generally speaking, just the head of the household makes the blessing over the two loaves [though each person can make their own private blessing when they receive a piece]. 4. Generally, two loaves. 5. We'd love to have you. ;) 6. This meal is both on Friday evening and Saturday day. 7. The idea of only having fish on Friday is Christian [catholic, i think]. 8. (Btw, nowhere in the Torah does it say one *has* to have fish. In the halachic code, a meal is defined by having bread. Meat [or chicken] is generally had but is no way obligatory.)
2. They did not ask him to do it, he did it on his own, so it's fine.
@@sheerayb if he did it for them it would be problematic
@@aaronjapha2317 you're stepping on the concept of a shabbos goy, but I guess that one is problematic to begin with.
Although in this case, one might say though that he did it for his own benefit as well, because he got to explain the situation to his followers, so it's ok 🙂
Don't worry, the vast majority of orthodox families are 2 income because it's needed. However, the "general mindset" still exists. Many mothers will try to work "kid friendly" hours, etc.
It's interesting to see people like Peter be more intrigued so to speak by hasidic jews, I guess it's more the way they dress, but if he'd try to do a similar documentary into the life of the litvish community he'll find in my view they're more "ridged ", then what he found by most hasidim,
I don't think the kid at the beginning is not happy.i think it is just a kid getting distracted.
I invite you to my house for Shabbat but I live in Israel.a bit far from Canada.
We dress up for Shabbat. Most in the states wear a suit and tie. in Israel most wear white pants and slacks
No, not about wool and linen. We just wear suits on Shabbos.
I am willing to talk to you if you have any questions
They are a few families so every head of the family the father bless for his family okey the bread, wine etc.
It's 25 hours, sundown to one hour after sundown the day after, also holidays.
In Judaism the holiday and shabbat starts in the evening before the day of shabbat or the day of holiday. It's not forbidden to go to college it's just not common so we won't mix with other religions who will keeps us from our religion.
They don't have an housekeeper for shabbat, she is am housekeeper every day including shabbat
Gotta look at the Lubavitcher rebbe
It's not China . It's shiners which is a synagogue.
2 loaves of bread needed. Can add more if needed.
While most Orthodox Jews are happy with the educational system, I was resentful as a teenager that I needed to spend up to 8 hours each day on Torah studies, especially because I already knew at the time that I didn't believe in the religion. I also lived in a dormitory with strict rules on how you spent your free time. I'm glad I at least got a basic secular studies education, because many Hasidic Jews do not. I was able to leverage that education to go to college, even though I had no idea what I was doing during the application process because I had no support.
While I am not happy with the Orthodox education system, I also spent a year working in a public charter school and I am not happy with the general education system either. We need to fundamentally rethink the education system and make it more democratic and student-directed model. Many schools today are authoritarian nightmares run almost like prisons.
I agree with you about the public education system. We need a MASSIVE overhaul as a society in terms of what we value in education and how we go about it! I hope you continue to work in education if you can (and want to) as we need more people like you who do get it.
As for your experience in school, I feel horrible about that. I had a somewhat different experience, but I still experienced both social and academic prejudice towards what I needed. I find it so sad that many Jewish communities get tied up in the "politics" of being frum, and aren't making the effort to include all of our nation. Instead, we ostracize them! It NEEDS to stop! G-d bless you, and all of us.
Nothing against going to college but a lot of men focus on Torah
You have to try the song from. חנן בן ארי אני אלוף העולם (just copy this few Jewish words)
Im quite an observant Jew and i dont even know why he put the napkin there to bless his daughter. I have never seen that before. Im wondering if its not a religious thing at all or if shes just asked her father not to get her hair oily 😂.
17:25 it would really depend on what sect of Judaism your in
Not sure why the father has a tissue under his hand when he’s blessing his daughter. It’s definitely not an issue for a father to touch his daughter in Judaism.
Regardless I must say, I find your videos very interesting. As someone who is orthodox its fascinating to see our customs and laws through the eyes of someone outside the community, always done so respectfully. Kudos to you
Also it might seem crazy that we do this every week, but it literally is the highlight of my week! I don’t know how I would live without Shabbos