Men Who are Jealous of Light Skinned women!

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  • @pinkthing249
    @pinkthing249 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +248

    I personally had similar experiences with all races of men. I think men in general are just jealous of pretty women.

    • @baddiezone
      @baddiezone 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@jciv9149I’ve seen that too , it’s sad

    • @lauramitchell_
      @lauramitchell_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      yup, they call every beautiful woman "mid"

    • @Mstorrance
      @Mstorrance 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      ​@@jciv9149get over yourself...out here on a women's channel 🙂

    • @ras3024
      @ras3024 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      They definitely are. Some men genuinely think that being a pretty woman is just endless compliments and free dinners with no problems whatsoever. They're jealous of the validation and attention they think women get, and completely ignore the misogyny women face. They're so jealous of the feminine because they deny the feminine within themselves.

    • @ras3024
      @ras3024 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Feminine men love to argue, especially with women, pay it no mind.

  • @BlossomHigh
    @BlossomHigh 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +152

    Wesley Snipes punched Halle Berry so hard on the side of her ear that it damaged some of her hearing and he is now married to an Asian woman . He definitely wanted Halle to be humbled

    • @ccblack3983
      @ccblack3983 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Every time I read the comments on one of these videos I learn more horrific facts about women in the entertainment industry. Blows my mind that this stuff has been swept under the rug after all these years.

    • @sophiam9886
      @sophiam9886 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +28

      Yes, Wesley ugly Snipes sure did do that to beautiful Halle!😔 And to add insult to injury towards exoticals overall, the blame has been placed on Christopher Williams for literally decades. It was so bad that the rumors destroyed Christopher Williams' career. He was on top of the charts at that time! Then, those rumors started, Christopher denied it, and Halle denied that he did it. But the problem was that Halle didn't tell the name of who actually did it. She just said that it wasn't Christopher. The media speculated that it was between Christopher Williams and her ex, David Justice. Nobody was pointing the finger at Wesley! DSBM are always getting a pass to abuse MLS women. This has been going on for so long.

    • @RecklessInspirer
      @RecklessInspirer 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      What?! I didn’t know about this smh! That’s absolutely terrible!!

    • @smooothsynergy652
      @smooothsynergy652 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Woah thank you for sharing this I had no idea he was an abuser poor halle💔💔

  • @sylmanyeki9323
    @sylmanyeki9323 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +91

    Im a lightskinned black woman and I’ve been told that “I’m not really black” because I don’t like rap music! How shallow!

    • @kbflawless93
      @kbflawless93 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I love rap it is my favorite genre. Rap music has helped me get through some of the hardest times in my life.

    • @mesmile8076
      @mesmile8076 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ⁠@@Arela1164Exactly 😂 I keep seeing their comment, they refuse to go to a man’s channel! 😂

  • @angelinq13
    @angelinq13 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +275

    Diddy is definitely jealous of Cassie

    • @Zoemaria_1998
      @Zoemaria_1998 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

      Yes !! He wanted the attention she got

    • @apinkheel
      @apinkheel 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +21

      Perfect example 👌

    • @AlmazB
      @AlmazB 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +56

      He wanted to be her

    • @honeybee19892
      @honeybee19892 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +42

      He treated like a puppet, dressing and styling her etc. Almost like he secretly wanted to be her. He is a very disturbed man.

    • @divinebeaute
      @divinebeaute 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

      i’ve noticed that about closeted queer uadsbm. they secretly want to be mls women.

  • @racheladams6670
    @racheladams6670 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +26

    I am 49 years old and just realized this. They go from desiring you then being so jealous and angry that you have so many options.

  • @TheExoticBrownSkin
    @TheExoticBrownSkin 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +88

    My UAB ex used to hold my arm up to his and say “hmm you’re getting dark” when I was tan in the middle of July. I’m cinnamon color but get deeper toned in the summer. He took my tan as an opportunity to humble me. He was jealous.

    • @PrincessPink-x
      @PrincessPink-x 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +40

      People be so weird smh

    • @ravanjanae
      @ravanjanae 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

      Lmaooo omggg his self hatred is real ‼️ my dark skin ex use to do that LMAOO “your getting darker “ duh it’s summer then he use to always call me “red bone” never my actual name😂😂 I am petty so I use to say “as long as I am not as dark as you I am fine” because ima try to humble you back 🥴

    • @c4tmh133
      @c4tmh133 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      That's really sad because I had a former co-worker who was Vietnamese and we would joke about him getting as dark as me in the summer and put our arms together and just laugh!!! There's nothing wrong with getting some sun!!! Some people really need to get therapy!!!

    • @ravanjanae
      @ravanjanae 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      @@sarahbrown3938 omggg I hope he finds self love and that’s exactly why they love procreating with lighter people so their can be a chance their kid is lighter than them 🤣 but then they also tries to humble us knowing if we was darker they would’ve give us the Time of day

    • @user-kp3rc4eq8x
      @user-kp3rc4eq8x 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@sarahbrown3938 It's bad idea for ls women to get with colorist bm. If you have kids big chance they will be drk,and big chance he will leave if you fail to produce him ls kids

  • @mikhalaa746
    @mikhalaa746 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +127

    They are definitely jealous of use YET they want our beautiful genes for their children.

    • @Beautifully_me350
      @Beautifully_me350 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Fr

    • @chucky3285
      @chucky3285 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Y'all act like y'all don't take a dump and pee

    • @poisonivyy0404
      @poisonivyy0404 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      @@chucky3285what does peeing & taking a dump have to do with anything? Just comment just to comment sounding dumb along with the 3 others that like your comment!

    • @Universal_Rose
      @Universal_Rose 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@poisonivyy0404 That’s the best excuse he could come up with 💀. He’s the type to keep asking why you won’t fart around him lol

    • @Redacted24-r2h
      @Redacted24-r2h 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      ​@@chucky3285Thank you for showing us an example of your hatred

  • @prettygookbaby
    @prettygookbaby 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +80

    Those men are on the down low.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

      That’s exactly what it is 😂

    • @prettygookbaby
      @prettygookbaby 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @ExoticalsUnited Yep! I've had so many men compete with me throughout my life. Most of them end up being g@y. They side eye you in public, especially if you're attractive. When I'm with my man in public, they just stare. Straight men don't want them, and they can stay mad about it. 🤣

    • @VivSees
      @VivSees 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Yup..,,,and usually raised by a single angry black mama. Which is what they end up becoming: an angry effeminate DL male jealous of MLS women like mama was.

    • @camille3083
      @camille3083 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Yes! A lot of them will team up with their jealous wives or girlfriends against you.

  • @CocoFranklin
    @CocoFranklin 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +105

    As a dark skinned woman I have the same experiences with dark black males. I kinda like when they are mean to me so I'm not obligated to talk to them. For example the complimenting all the other girls around and doing that black male STARE. Then I'm allowed to ignore them and they just STARE. And every time they see me afterwards they just STARE. But when it comes to other races of males I don't often have this issue unless they are from Europe but then you can shut them down easier and start making fun of them and they STOP immediately...

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +44

      yup, ive noticed they triangulate us against one another

    • @annastashawashington6177
      @annastashawashington6177 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      @@keekssssthank youuuuu- I believe it’s called pathological jealousy/envy. It’s definitely considered by most..unhealthy.

    • @nugget3393
      @nugget3393 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      @@jciv9149”as a lsm” lol girl bye

  • @kbflawless93
    @kbflawless93 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    I love my light skin and no one is going to make me feel bad for being light skin.

    • @MichaelDavidson-e7n
      @MichaelDavidson-e7n 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      How do you think the majority of lightskinned/mixed women feel about lightskinned/mixed men? Because I’ve seen them say some very hurtful things about us on twitter.

    • @keke813
      @keke813 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@MichaelDavidson-e7nthey say those things because Lightskin people are a minority in the mostly unambiguous black American population . They take advantage of being dark skin unambiguous black men’s preference

  • @BellazziEnt
    @BellazziEnt 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    I’m glad you spoke on this. Not only do we have to deal with jealous women but men too. Whew 😮😂

  • @Luxelife07
    @Luxelife07 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +57

    I’ve actually noticed uadsbm can sometimes act very similar to their counterparts.. uadsbw. As it pertains to the dislike they have for us.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

      Yes! I had never thought about it until the trolls came to this channel giving red pill talking points such as “you’re mediocre” (that’s what red pill black men say. “You’re average at best” or “you’re a 6” etc)

    • @c4tmh133
      @c4tmh133 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

      They hate themselves and want to be you. It's just sad.

  • @Mackenzietkd526
    @Mackenzietkd526 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +64

    I remember I was doing a common (but illegal) u-turn and there was delivery truck with 2 UABM driving, I stuck my head out and smiled and very sweetly gestured "give me a sec I'll be out the way"... the truck drivers started yelling and screaming at me, i was shocked. Anyway them yelling caused a white state police trooper to come over, I was so worried I was about to get a ticket but to my surprise the cop yelled at them to calm down and used his cruiser to stop traffic so I could turn, the truck drivers looked PISSED.

  • @Highwizardd
    @Highwizardd 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +33

    bougie is not an insult. yes i am too expensive for you.

  • @TheExoticBrownSkin
    @TheExoticBrownSkin 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +39

    Wowww I have experienced black men excluding me in groups or ignoring my presence on purpose too and it makes me chuckle now.

  • @bluerain1719
    @bluerain1719 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +65

    This is such an insightful topic to dive into because it’s not talked about as much, and there are so many different reasons I believe that BM are jealous of light skin women. Sometimes they’re jealous because of the advantages an attractive unambiguous woman can receive, and other times they’re upset because they believe that they can’t get with her.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Yes ! I had never thought about the jealousy dynamic until that girl mentioned it !

    • @EnlightenedGoldenBeauty
      @EnlightenedGoldenBeauty 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      The amount of times I experienced this is crazy. If I told other people who couldn’t relate they would think that I was just making it up.

    • @c4tmh133
      @c4tmh133 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      Oh and please don't have any confidence or self-esteem and project that you don't NEED them for anything, then they go off the charts crazy!!! I've had guys I didn't know get mad because I didn't speak or give them my number!!!

  • @ExoticalT369
    @ExoticalT369 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +29

    ♥️👏
    …calling me bougie or uppity isn’t the insult that people think it is.
    I feel flattered when I’m called those things.
    😂🤷🏻‍♀️

    • @ras3024
      @ras3024 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      Right, it's like a neon sign that says they have an inferiority complex. Which means you're automatically on a pedestal.

  • @AnnaGrace603
    @AnnaGrace603 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +53

    Im white so I usually dont comments on these vids but this one reminded me of sth. I once dated a black guy and he sadly didnt like himself and his dark skin tone. He humbled me at every opportunity. Im too white, I should get a tan, Im not stylish, not as hot as other girls. He showed me many light skin mixed women and he compared me with them all the time...Helly Berry, Tyra Banks... all these beauties. I started to feel undesirable for being just a regular white girl. And all these other nasty comments about my looks and body.
    He really managed to make me hate myself and feel insecure as hell. Took a long time to recover.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

      Omg I’m so sorry that he projected his inferiority complex onto you by trying to triangulate you with women of a different phenotype. Insecure men use that tactic all the time .

    • @Chingchinglotto
      @Chingchinglotto 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +19

      They can't get their type!!!! He sound like he was short.

    • @AngelicaEstherxo
      @AngelicaEstherxo 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Wow that’s crazy! He was definitely projecting and wanted you to feel down about yourself! Just know that the problem was in him and never in you!

    • @MichaelaHill-kk6xg
      @MichaelaHill-kk6xg 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      Girl you are beautiful, don’t let a man convince you otherwise

    • @deedeepolishtontv7858
      @deedeepolishtontv7858 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      He knew deep down that you were using him to feel cool. Bro said "not so fast sweety"

  • @domtheedonn__
    @domtheedonn__ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +34

    Clock it- they are insecure about their skin, their features, noses, their naps, and take it out on everyone else.

    • @hmmm2564
      @hmmm2564 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You don't look exotical

    • @hmmm2564
      @hmmm2564 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      You don't look exotical

    • @NurseRatchedTV
      @NurseRatchedTV 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Yep.👍🏽

    • @deedeepolishtontv7858
      @deedeepolishtontv7858 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      I have had this experience. They are mad that they get treated badly and want to be seen with us

    • @keke813
      @keke813 17 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@hmmm2564I’m an exotical 😂

  • @CocoCove0
    @CocoCove0 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +50

    When triangulation first happened to me I thought I was crazy. I was at the grocery store and this uabw we were on the same aisle, even standing close to each other. We also looked the same age. This uabm like ran up to her and kept saying how beautiful she was etc and she was shocked. But when he was doing it, he was so loud and boisterous, it looked like he was doing it for attention. I ended up walking away because it was a weird situation because of his demeanor. I then heard him say “oh y’all aren’t friends?” And she responded “no I don’t know her.” I did see them walking and talking from time to time, but i was really confused that he even said that, until I saw a yt video comment of a guy saying he purposely talks to the less attractive friend to get a rise out of the attractive friend. He said he purposely ignores the attractive friend because it gives him pleasure to see her squirm and be irritated at not being notice. When I read that, it clicked and I knew that’s what he was trying to do at the store. “Men” are disgusting.
    I found the comment and a response, I’ll put it under here. This is how pathetic ‘men’ are. This is why I do them the way I do them 😂…

    • @CocoCove0
      @CocoCove0 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      “@russr5128 • 4y ago
      The juice isn't worth the squeeze. I once asked a plain Jane woman a question at Walmart while I ignored her attractive friend.
      The attractive friend kept trying to interject herself into the conversation. I continued to ignore her. It clearly made plain Jane feel good. I could see it in her face. It made me feel good too.”
      A reply,
      “@fuzzypanda1684 • 1mo ago
      1 forget the name of that tactic, but it's basically to give 75% attention to the ugly friend and 25% to the hot one, then flip once the ugly friend is interested and the hot one is feeling confused.
      That way, when you switch and give 75% of your attention to the hot one, the ugly one can't protest because she was just singing your praises, and the hot one is happy because she's getting the attention she's used to.
      Anyway, how'd it end up working out for you?”

    • @CocoCove0
      @CocoCove0 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      The comment
      “@russr5128 • 4y ago
      The juice isn't worth the squeeze. I once asked a plain Jane woman a question at Walmart while I ignored her attractive friend.
      The attractive friend kept trying to interject herself into the conversation. I continued to ignore her. It clearly made plain Jane feel good. I could see it in her face. It made me feel good too.”
      the reply,
      “ @fuzzypanda1684 • 1mo ago
      1 forget the name of that tactic, but it's basically to give 75% attention to the ugly friend and 25% to the hot one, then flip once the ugly friend is interested and the hot one is feeling confused.
      That way, when you switch and give 75% of your attention to the hot one, the ugly one can't protest because she was just singing your praises, and the hot one is happy because she's getting the attention she's used to.
      Anyway, how'd it end up working out for you?”

    • @CocoCove0
      @CocoCove0 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      The comment,
      “The juice isn't worth the squeeze. I once asked a plain Jane woman a question at Walmart while I ignored her attractive friend.
      The attractive friend kept trying to interject herself into the conversation. I continued to ignore her. It clearly made plain Jane feel good. I could see it in her face. It made me feel good too.”
      A reply,
      “1 forget the name of that tactic, but it's basically to give 75% attention to the ugly friend and 25% to the hot one, then flip once the ugly friend is interested and the hot one is feeling confused.
      That way, when you switch and give 75% of your attention to the hot one, the ugly one can't protest because she was just singing your praises, and the hot one is happy because she's getting the attention she's used to.
      Anyway, how'd it end up working out for you?”
      Disgusting.

    • @Chingchinglotto
      @Chingchinglotto 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      These games don't work on attractive women. These men are lying. And when I go out with my friends and I'm the prettiest, everyone must follow my lead on the guys we engage with. And baby all my home girls are cool with it. No one guy gets both of our attention. They hate that. I can only hang with pretty women that have the same mindset.

    • @Mstorrance
      @Mstorrance 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      ​@@CocoCove0wow absolutely disgusting

  • @poppyhazard4526
    @poppyhazard4526 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +25

    Thank god for your channel! Finally we light-skins can share our side of the story.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes! I hope you make a channel too! It’s time to share our sides of the story!

  • @TheThrse13
    @TheThrse13 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +51

    I had a lot of boys and men act mean towards me when I was a child. I had many instances of boys always pulling my hair even when I was at church. So many boys and men wanted to either try to be with me even as a child or want to just hurt me.

    • @c4tmh133
      @c4tmh133 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      The boys were so mean to me in school too. They called me terrible names. I had to actually fight one too!!! I didn't date any of them. They were so immature!!! I dated boys from other schools who were nice to me.

    • @bougiepeaches5497
      @bougiepeaches5497 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@c4tmh133I’ve experienced that from black boys and white boys.

    • @c4tmh133
      @c4tmh133 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@bougiepeaches5497 They tried to make me think I was ugly, but I didn't care what they thought!!! I made sure they KNEW I didn't want to date then anyway!!!

  • @JaushaWu
    @JaushaWu 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +60

    Public humiliation from darker skin black men has become such a normal occurrence in my life. It was always that I wasn’t light enough or I’m just a brown skin black girl. There was even one point in my early 20s where a group of dark skin black men in the neighborhood were trying to persuade my brother (a light skin black man) to talk to me about what they perceived as self-hate on my part me because I refuse to date them. I was always too good for them or to bougie. I’ve even been told I fetishize men from other races so I can have children with light skin to escape the “black curse.” Yes, they view their skin complexion as a curse.

    • @ravanjanae
      @ravanjanae 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      I had this experience also my dark skin exes (few of them) always tried to find a way to “humble me”

    • @c4tmh133
      @c4tmh133 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

      ​@@keekssssYes!!! I've got the most hate in my life from DSBM!!! From school to dating to work. I never understood it. They tried to humble me by saying they could get someone lighter!!! I told them to go ahead and get one!!! Then I started dating other races and they NEVER made me feel terrible about my complexion or appearance. It's sad the self hate some of them have.

    • @c4tmh133
      @c4tmh133 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      @@keekssss You're right!!! That's why I gave up trying to figure them out!!! But the ones that I did date, some of them still wanted kids!!! I'm like not with you and I left!!!

    • @annastashawashington6177
      @annastashawashington6177 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      To me that last part feels pretty accurate. Tbh- it makes so much more sense that is actually colorism. I’m told if I turn a dsbm ect down I’m immediately a self hating colorist omgg

  • @brittbebop3276
    @brittbebop3276 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    5:17 is soooo true! I dance in the salsa community & there are a certain *type of black men in the community who intentionally mistreat black women to uplift other races of women as if it’s a ‘gotcha’. It’s so unnecessary & uncomfortable bc they don’t have to do alla dat. (Where is the solidarity?) But boyyy will they stare you down at all moments. It’s weird. Like they are taking out their high school rejections onto exclusively the black women in these environments.

  • @MsLexKnows
    @MsLexKnows 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +38

    You’re so right about low status men! They always have something to say knowing most women wouldn’t give them the time if they asked!

    • @mesmile8076
      @mesmile8076 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      That’s all they can have is an opinion because it’s free 😆

  • @brianalashawn0828
    @brianalashawn0828 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    It is such a turn off when a man compliments me & then, without breath, tells me not to get a big head. My father even talks to me like that. Or a men will withhold compliments because I “already hear it all the time”.

    • @lauramitchell_
      @lauramitchell_ 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      women are only allowed to be pretty when a man tells them they are

  • @terrylu1843
    @terrylu1843 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +32

    Now that I think about it, most of my bullies were black men. I knew there was a reason why I’ve never been attracted to them… unfortunately is probably why or maybe it’s something deeper.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Yea I’d never thought about the jealousy thing until recently. I’ve noticed I tend to not get along with BM because a lot of them have not been able to get over the fact that I’m “privileged” or “think I’m better” and some have even said I’m sheltered or basically that I don’t have their traumas, or even that I “act white” aka I don’t relate to their experiences and traumas enough

    • @terrylu1843
      @terrylu1843 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ExoticalsUnited I think my own father shares that same sentiment, that’s why there is a lack of sympathy from them.

    • @mesmile8076
      @mesmile8076 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Yes same, then you go home and tell your parents & they say “they just go a crush on you”. 🤮🤮

  • @newestbarbee3250
    @newestbarbee3250 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +36

    Yes, i remembered leaving a comment on the channel about this dsbm who said lightskin women are just not attractive and I remembered i said its because i believed he felt inferior. I knew this sort of thing has been happening.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

      Yes I feel silly for having never thought about this until recently because I’ve heard men use the same talking points of “she’s conceited” or “she thinks she’s better” etc

    • @newestbarbee3250
      @newestbarbee3250 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      @@ExoticalsUnited Yes! So true

  • @BENZ_ASMR
    @BENZ_ASMR 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I had a lot of them even a LS man assume I was “needy” off the rip of seeing me because I was LS, pick out my flaws or try to act as if I can’t be mixed with what I’m mixed with. Also this reminds me of Katt Williams and Kodak Black and the things they say about LS Woman

  • @Jbelly275
    @Jbelly275 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +35

    Omg. I never got to speak about this but a dark skin man once came up to me and said wow you have two black parents, very curly hair and your light skin?! And when I said I guess so yeah. He goes well.. “caramel” smirk. 🙄 lol ok and? Ill be caramel too who cares. But he said it to spite me.

    • @ravanjanae
      @ravanjanae 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

      Yup they try to make it like your “brown skin” to humble you 😂 clearly I am not or you probably wouldn’t be trying your best to humble me

    • @Jbelly275
      @Jbelly275 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      @@ravanjanae 😂right👏

    • @MzIntrovert
      @MzIntrovert 12 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      We all must know the same men!

  • @cpcks18
    @cpcks18 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    This correct
    I’ve seen this in both of my brothers and my ex.
    They assume that you will be complimented a lot and that means you’re stuck up and probably don’t like black men. They feel like you’re out of their league and that bothers them deeply

  • @Shelby-s2w
    @Shelby-s2w 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Omg the stories i have of them trying to humble me, especially in the presence of Latino women. And like you, i stopped dating them due to their negative low energy and always trying to make me feel unsafe and insecure. And its crazy because physically they were more my "type" as i was more attracted to dark skin guys growing up. But i eventually grew out of it and started only dating guys who didnt care about my skin tone or hair texture (which was usually men caramel and lighter)...speaking of hair texture they're jealous of that too and would try to control how i wear my and would get mad when i wore extensions. It was so weird because not one light skin man ever even noticed or mentioned my hairstyles lol

  • @SageJack87
    @SageJack87 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +74

    Yes!! This has happened to me. I had a guy tell me “I wasn’t his lightest, and that he’s had girls lighter than me.” I was like okayyy what’s your point?
    Just jealous. They wanna be us sooooo bad.

    • @AntajuanGrady
      @AntajuanGrady 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

      lol wow. That's crazy!

    • @jezzybelleminx9275
      @jezzybelleminx9275 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

      They always say that...

    • @SageJack87
      @SageJack87 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@AntajuanGrady sooo crazy!!

  • @ernestinewilson6209
    @ernestinewilson6209 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +16

    The men too geesh we Exotical LS women can never get a break 😩

  • @Ruchasf
    @Ruchasf 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    I am a light skin guy and I understand you very well, I mean that’s life , I live in a community where majority are dark skin women and men ,I receive that same treatment as well from both men and women ,it doesn’t matter what I do people find something to say ,but I perfectly understand from a light skin guy perspective how life can be for a light skin women ,I love them but they think I’m soft and feminine they always choose dbm over me ,I have hit the gym I’m in a great shape ,visible abs muscles on point my money up, but somehow I cant stop the jealousy or criticism , I just find a cope to escape it but most time it gets to my skin 😢

    • @seginusu.3994
      @seginusu.3994 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

      I have heard women say that light men are soft. I think they haven't been around enough light skin people or people in general to see that people have different personalities. That's is what I think it is.

  • @divinebeaute
    @divinebeaute 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    I’ve experienced this as well. The lack of relatability to us literally makes them go feral at times. In my experience even when they do try to approach me, they end up being passive aggressive. I’ve ended up not really feeling interested in them as well because of this despite the fact that I do find them physically attractive.

  • @seginusu.3994
    @seginusu.3994 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    I think some men feel really uncomfortable around young beautiful women (especially that supermodel type). I don't know if it is jealousy or fear of asking her out or what it is.

  • @WilliamsPinch
    @WilliamsPinch 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +22

    The amount of dark skin people who like to use lightskin emojis for themselves always confuses me so the NBA 2k thing doesn’t surprise me.

    • @Chingchinglotto
      @Chingchinglotto 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      This need a new whole video we need to speak on. I'm glad I'm not the only one to notice. They would cry if their shade wasn't available. But still won't choose it.

    • @happycamper91up71
      @happycamper91up71 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      This!

  • @alexistaylor7483
    @alexistaylor7483 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    The light skinned privilege is so weird to me. I said I never got privileged. So where is that coming from?? People would tell me I think I am better than everyone. I was like what??? I never understood it. Made me feel like an outkast.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

      Right. Usually when you ask them to describe light skinned privilege they’ll say light skins get less jail time. Ok but I’m not trying to be a criminal so now what? Or they’ll just bring up that light skinned women get compliments ….

    • @alexistaylor7483
      @alexistaylor7483 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @ExoticalsUnited smh people are filled with to much ignorance. They will have to wake up soon. Smh. Hopefully before it's to late. I pray for so many in the mighty name of Jesus Amen 🙏🏼 🙌🏼 ✝️ ❤️

  • @user-bx2wl7we5k
    @user-bx2wl7we5k 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +18

    This channel is a Truth Nuke on the BC! Oh, the stories I could tell about bm Esp being jealous like a Mean girl esp around WM.

  • @kathiaserrano7740
    @kathiaserrano7740 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I’ve noticed that UADSBM approach me the most because they think I’m just a light skin BM. And when I tell them I’m a mixed race Latina, they get furious. It’s so weird.

  • @AprilHarmony9
    @AprilHarmony9 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    The commentary on this very is a truth pill. Most (not all but most) of the UADSBM men I've encountered will try to humble the very minute any type of insecurity starts to set in. I've only dated been the gf of two DS men but I've experienced exactly what you've talked about and it's hard for me to relate to many of them too b/c I didn't have a father who was filled with alot of vitriol about things (only when his health went bad, that's when his personality changed) but... alot of what they expect from other MLS women, I just don't have it for them to emote off of and I'm being serious. And the triangulation aspect is spot on b/c some of the most chaotically manipulate (in the bk community they use the word "messy") men that I've known have been straight UABM who were also DS. To make other women compete for their affection a regular occurrence. Now, I like a good game, I do but it's hard to want to continue being that game when the final boss knows he's rig the game so everyone involves loses except for him. That's when the MLS/MGM woman who doesn't have a gutter-trash mind has to walk away and only treat those type of men in helpful manner but you can't get too close. They need help but they don't need you. They'll feed off you until you don't even recognize yourself anymore. Great video💯💯💯

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      yes i had never thought about it until recently. ive noticed that the guys who have inferiority complexes about their own skin tone have issues with women in general, of all shades 😂😂

    • @jezzybelleminx9275
      @jezzybelleminx9275 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      I'm going through it right now...

  • @HoneySnowflake
    @HoneySnowflake 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +11

    Omg, guys who are jealous of women are such a waste to society 😆 I remember in high school one of my boyfriends friends would talk shit about me because I wasn't interested in having sex with my BOYFRIEND. Meanwhile, my boyfriend could careless about us having sex. Weird as hell 😅

  • @IndigoCosmic
    @IndigoCosmic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I came across an email from 10 years ago recently from an ex who wrote that he's so jealous of how beautiful I am.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow 😮

    • @IndigoCosmic
      @IndigoCosmic 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @ExoticalsUnited Yes, he had asked for a picture of me and that was his response.

    • @saramatthews7159
      @saramatthews7159 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      lol just pathetic

  • @andreahenderson8719
    @andreahenderson8719 2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

    You are so right. I remember being younger and in school and sometimes you try to feel confident and the others would taunt me and say something to the effect of”look at her y’all she think she look good” Then they would start to mock and clown me. That would make me feel so low. It’s like light skin girls are not allowed to have any self confidence or feel good about themselves.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  2 วันที่ผ่านมา +1

      Right. You’re not allowed to love your own features because they think it’s colorism

  • @Raven88s
    @Raven88s 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Omggggg this 🎯 I had this experience with a guy I was dating. He is a biracial brown skin and I’m UABW but more on the fair skinned side. I remember the comments he would say to me about my skin color and thinking on it now, it was jealousy. I remember one time I was talking about my heritage (which I’m not biracial, my father is) and him making it a whole point to make sure I didn’t refer to myself as mixed. Such an experience to me glad you made this video because to even discuss a topic like this seemed so weird but it’s SO relevant.

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

      omg yes! ive had UABM randomly bring up skin tone as well! and its weird that they also track how light or dark you get in the summer too. i've even has UABM ask me to compare my skin tone to someone non black, or they'll compare their skin to mine to see the difference etc. but if i DARE do that to a Darker skinned person i would be called colorist.

  • @sylmanyeki9323
    @sylmanyeki9323 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +9

    Also, I have family who are both light and dark skinned. My dad has cousins who are dark and their kids are light, and people have actually asked them if their kids are adopted! Seriously!!

  • @aj.meso26
    @aj.meso26 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Men were definitely jealous of me in the past, "friends" and even boyfriends. The moment I hear from a dsbm, I love your skin, I already know it's a skin tone thing
    Edit: I have to omit this video as there is so much trauma from jealousy, but will listen in again once ready
    2nd edit: I was talking to a DSBM who told me that he preferred me because of my light skin.. time to listen now

    • @Chingchinglotto
      @Chingchinglotto 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Thanks for the warning. I'm currently not in a good head space after severe bullying

    • @aj.meso26
      @aj.meso26 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@Chingchinglotto Take care of yourself 🤍

  • @MaisonMargiela-ch9co
    @MaisonMargiela-ch9co 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    I definitely agree with your point about the trauma bonding. For some odd reason, black people(men and women alike) feel some type of way when you can't relate to their struggles. They get this feeling of us thinking we're better than them, but that's not the case. Not only that, they happen to be the main ones always trying to humble someone. Whether it be each other or outsiders.

    • @victoriahaughton7591
      @victoriahaughton7591 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      I think we go through just as much or worse cuz we always targets

  • @theconceptofmentalwellness355
    @theconceptofmentalwellness355 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    You are so right about this!

  • @Beenabela
    @Beenabela 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    Unfortunately, based on the signs here I have a boss who is jealous of me and he's a white man! Smdh

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

      I’m not surprised at all

  • @nugget3393
    @nugget3393 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I know several dsm like this. When I was in high school I was literally the only ls girl that actually preferred ls boys and ds boys hated me for that. Whenever I would be out with my bs sister in public they would speak to her and completely ignore my existence.

    • @TheFlower1234
      @TheFlower1234 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

      They hate when you prefer non-dark or nonblack men.

  • @Real_Michael_Jordan
    @Real_Michael_Jordan 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I’m some white dude, that was an interesting lil video thanks!
    Def hoping God blesses me w some light-skin beauty, never seen such beautiful women in all my life than them. I work at a gas station in the hood and some of these females that come in are just beyond stunning

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Lmao thanks for watching !

  • @cynthiapickett7403
    @cynthiapickett7403 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +17

    Even more toxic than the women (case in point: Diddy and his women).

    • @Chingchinglotto
      @Chingchinglotto 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Diddy would never been anything without the support of UABW. He works for them as an agent of chaos. He is one of them. There are no bw and bm, they are literally the same spirit in male or female bodies. Chile, it's scary

  • @RecklessInspirer
    @RecklessInspirer 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This one really hits home. I haven’t dated any BM or even befriended any in a long time bc they are usually oddly threatened/fixated on my features. It doesn’t feel right. I’ve also noticed a lot of them deflect their insecurities and can be very cruel towards me and other women. So I have to tread lightly in my interactions with them, especially after rejecting one of them.
    I was actually having a convo with a friend recently and told them that I don’t really date bm (even though I’m black) bc we don’t have much in common. I almost don’t get them lol. And I think it’s bc I grew up in a 2 parent Christian household on a 6 acre farm 😂

  • @RoshonVocational
    @RoshonVocational 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I think your right on and yes I've had some of these experience s. I'm African - American with mixed heritage ( the grands and greats) .I would love to be a part of this and support

  • @edithturner6119
    @edithturner6119 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    It's really bad in Dallas. I'm tired of people thinking I'm bougie because I'm mixed and not hood.

  • @RoshonVocational
    @RoshonVocational 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    A lot of this is so true

  • @sAMiAm1
    @sAMiAm1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I had this happened to me when I was with a group of dark skin people, this man was saying something about me not being included or something idk (random af) because during slavery I would have been in the house and they would have been outside which is crazy cause I'm caramel so in the summer I get darker so I probably would have been outside too tf...and my ex bestfriend who is dark skin didn't even have my back there or afterward when I was venting but she expected me to have her back but I realized she would say weird stuff about my skin color too.

  • @edithturner6119
    @edithturner6119 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I had a couple of people try to humble me trying to complement other women in front of me to make me feel bad. These are grown men acting immature. They may not be ugly but I think they feel there are.

  • @MariamAli-dn8ur
    @MariamAli-dn8ur 3 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Very true sis ❤

  • @nicoleslade213
    @nicoleslade213 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Some of those people also have a tendency to compliment your entire outfit and refuse to say you're attractive . Many women feel it may subtract from themselves to compliment a lighter sis... Not ALL, yet some😘👌👍 . It's so sad for us as women to be at silent war amongst shades.🤷😥Little do they know , we're often treated the same ways behind CLOSED doors. A lighter skin tone doesn't guarantee proper treatment , period...Simply food for thought PRETTY ones. 🌬️💕💕💕💕

  • @66109CM
    @66109CM 2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I took a teaching position a couple of years ago, and I resigned after one week. I’m chipper, probably it annoys others. The admin has dreads and was very dark skinned. I would say good morning to him and he wouldn’t even look my way. One time, there were yt women in the room and we were meeting about our rosters…he spoke when he entered the room. I spoke as well. He literally said, “I’m speaking to THEM. Not you.” Hurt my feelings so bad. Why do I relate to how exoticals are treated by UAB???! I’m UAB myself! It’s weird and exhausting…especially when I hear how my ppl are victimized. Again, when I’ve been called derogatory names like Oreo or blackie, it’s always been a UAB…

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  2 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Wow ! He was extremely self hating and an incel .

    • @66109CM
      @66109CM 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@ExoticalsUnited yup🤢

  • @laptopproject7978
    @laptopproject7978 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    Can you talk about the exotial relationship on this season of 90 Day Fiance, Happily Ever After? A male exotical is bullying his exotical wife to tears every episode

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Omg can you send me a link and the couples name? I don’t have cable or Netflix etc so I will have to ask to use someone’s account to take a look at it

    • @laptopproject7978
      @laptopproject7978 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      @@ExoticalsUnited yes!! couple is Rob and Sophie, Happily Ever After on HBO

  • @jay-555
    @jay-555 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    I’ve experienced the opposite fr it’s sad

  • @divadolljlm
    @divadolljlm 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    This video is making me think of the G thang video with Dr Dre and snoop where they pour the 40oz on the light skin girl at the party.

  • @tribecalledquest4188
    @tribecalledquest4188 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Keep up the good work.

  • @Zerina-i6m
    @Zerina-i6m 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    One of them in my own family HATES Beyonce and all similarly light skinned women in his own family with a bizarre obsession.
    Much of what you said resonates with some weird and shallow individuals I've encountered over the years but the fact is ass holes come in all colours across both genders.

  • @lawdhammercy4448
    @lawdhammercy4448 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Ya know, i never thouggt of it like that. I thought it was just negging. But i get it. When i first rrsd ur title, i thought of nature boy and how he was putting doem lightskinned women in the pettiest, most nonsensical way.

  • @inexisle
    @inexisle 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +13

    That trauma bonding part is SCARILY TRUE. I’ve never been into a girl for her race, phenotype or skin tone so I’ve dated almost every race but I have noticed a particular small sect of black women that just can’t seem to stand me and I’m pretty sure it’s cuz I’m friendly and don’t display any behaviors consistent with someone from the hood 🤷🏽‍♂️

  • @divadolljlm
    @divadolljlm 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    In my family my daughters grandmother is the one mean to lite skin boys and the girls too. The only reason she isn't mean to my liteskin daughter (her granddaughter) is because the child looks just like her. But all the other cousins and nieces and nephews that are light she is straight up mean to. But the other cousins that are not light any other of the kids she isn't mean to. When it comes to her dark skin siblings unlike the cousins and the kids that are dark she is mean to them her own siblings. I mean who is this old a grandmother and sets out to be mean to a 8year old boy because he is light with light eyes. This family I married into is so hard to understand this light skin war going on.

  • @RoshonVocational
    @RoshonVocational 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Would love to be a part of this conversation I'm kinda caramel brown light?

  • @AntajuanGrady
    @AntajuanGrady 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    *Exoticals United* I think men are jealous or rather have something against LS women is that a lot of men want to play women and they dislike that because LS women are the most preferred in the ADOS community, LS women are able to have their pick of the men.
    Someone looking like Beyoncé can pick whoever she wants; men who want to humble women get upset a successful, beautiful woman like her can't be humbled. I mean how he's going to diss her, she has "too much money" and "looks too hot"?
    NOT all men are like this of course but the one you describing definitely exist and are rarely called out like they should be!

  • @arayaday1774
    @arayaday1774 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Jealous or Insecure. I think it’s both. I also get a lot of U look INTIMIDATING OR U LOOK STUCK UP.

  • @littlebodypr3ttyheart
    @littlebodypr3ttyheart 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    im a light skinned mulatto mixed race that's also black tis dark skin man is mad jealous of me and always lying on me cause of my complexion

  • @user-qr8xt6sg4w
    @user-qr8xt6sg4w 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Ddg is jealous of Halle bailey. He always humiliated her. He called his baby light skin recently…. He has the same skin as Halle.

  • @yahainHotPink
    @yahainHotPink 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Here

  • @tippymoody804
    @tippymoody804 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    My brother used to tell me oh we black men treat you light skin women like we treat the latino women we just use y'all then ignore y'all that was hurtful to hear especially from a family member

    • @GB_008
      @GB_008 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Wow 😦

  • @utubewatcher1
    @utubewatcher1 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    bout time yall start standing up 4 yourself

  • @diamondlewis5185
    @diamondlewis5185 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    ❤❤❤

  • @MzIntrovert
    @MzIntrovert 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Im lighter than a biracial woman but im not mixed. Im hated on by most men. Its crazy because im the nicest person. I didnt ask to come into this world this color. I dont get it!

  • @oromochic1993
    @oromochic1993 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Really? I thought they worship them

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      It’s the same dual experience as you’d have with the women, either worship or hatred lol

  • @nicoleslade213
    @nicoleslade213 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    The women won't trust you & the dudes will throw FALSE labels on you.🤷
    Sounds familiar, PRETTY ones???👀🤔🫣🌬️💕💕💕💕💕💕🙋‍♀️

  • @sys691
    @sys691 5 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    @exoticalsunited where can i send my picture in ❤ thank you

    • @ExoticalsUnited
      @ExoticalsUnited  5 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

      Hey! Please send pics to exoticalsunited@gmail.com so I can add them to my stock library!