Last story is an example of how money can corrupt the gentlest souls. OP, ask your husband if he thinks "Anna" would have stuck around when his friend was penniless just like him, hell, would she even breath his way if it wasn't for the money? I didn't mean to presume Anna's a gold digger, but it's more common than not to be the case in these circumstances. In any case it does sound like that your husband is blatantly cheating on you and doesn't deserve you, I do not know how you could get money out of this mess, but he should at least pay for child support, right? Seriously, f his money, these kinda guys self destruct and I'll go on a limb here and bet he'll have an affair with Anna, destroying the entire thing he has there, and come crawling back to you for support for the ego he developed, but don't fall for that bs.
Could somebody explain the "ten year rule" and what that has to do with a prenup. Also, why would she sign a prenup when both of them were broke anyway. I could understand if one of their family's were wealthy, or one own a house before they got together or something, but signing a prenup in their circumstances kind of says that he had motives at the very beginning.
I've never understood where the idea came from that anyone who has darker skin than caucasion (white) people are automatically criminal, right out of the womb.
That particular Karen would love me and my grandson. I’m a middle-aged white Gen X and my grandson is biracial. He sometimes sits on my Harley. She would freak out
Actually googled how many people think this way and its 280 million, and there are 8 billion people in this world, meaning that's over 2 thirds of theUnited States of America population
For The last story - OP needs to save as much as she can for the next year or two and she needs to divorce him, that way she has a safety net for her and her daughter and doesn't have to depend on him holding a prenup over her head. And honestly the behavior of her husband is completely disgusting. This woman has been with him since day one (when he had nothing) has been the cheerleader/rooted for him and everything; and this is how he treats her? No, she needs to tell him to kick rocks with flip flops. Lol!
@@rollitup419 An apology to the OP’s family when he can find time would be the least he could do, he made a promise he couldn’t keep and needs to own up for it.
@@rollitup419 I worked at a job for 7 years where I had to switch from day shift to night shift and I never overslept and missed events. That boyfriend absolutely has no excuse.
Sounds like they both aren't ready for a serious relationship, one, the guy constantly not listening and trying to propose and, two, the girl for giving mixed signals on whether she wants to get married or not as well as thinking it's going to be some magical romantic movie proposal
It doesn't seem like she's giving mixed signals at all, though I personally think there's no point in being engaged if you're too young to get married. Because while it is a slightly lesser commitment, it is still a promise that you have chosen this person. Maybe she's giving him mixed signals by giving him too many chances? But five times? The guy clearly can't or won't listen. He's definitely not ready to get married.
@@stadot1427 yes! I really can’t tell what’s going on with this guy. I think it’s weird that he kept proposing like that. And then doing it in public where there were a ton of people including her friends just doesn’t seem right.
@@stadot1427the second part of your comment is literally answering the other guys comment. If she’s not ready after 5 time despite trying different ways which I’m sure it was all different. She’s either not sure what she wants in a relationship or putting too much into the proposal in her head. Either way she’s not making it easy for this guy to figure it out.
Man. He got warned not to propose randomly or in public, just in a romantic area. And she told him not to propose at the fair but he did. It’s all on him.
7:31 I believe that the boss talked to someone about the possible not so professional feelings and they told him they were wrong and that he had to cut the OP off.
Story 4: As someone who has a lot of trouble sleeping even when I really try if I don't sleep one night my schedule is screwed till someone forces me up and I really try to get up and go to bed around 10-11 but I just can't I wonder if the boyfriend is like that to it might explain some of the way he is but ofc he needs to apologize not just blow it off like it was her/his fault I empathize with him but at the same time he seems like a jerk
For the Oversleeping boyfriend, I have a friend who has the exact same problem. They oversleep all the time and even if they are trying to be on time, it is still very difficult for them to wake up. Granted, a good sleeping schedule can help but sometimes the buried stress in the back of their heads just takes a great toll on them. I have been on their case about it for years and they have even under gone a sleep study for their excessive sleeping habits. They ALWAYS apologize to me for oversleeping and they feel really bad for cancelling or having to change plans and I can admit that I get tired of hearing it. But truthfully, those concerns all boil down to these questions: Do you love the person enough to adapt to their sleeping habits? Do you have the patience to help them find better ways to set a more productive schedule for themselves that they will eventually adjust to? Because that is really all you can do. I don't think your boyfriend doesn't care, sometimes people just have habits that may need helping in improving. If you feel it's too much pressure on your end then my advice is to not be with them. But don't let go of a great person just because their sleeping habits are interfering with your time together. Maybe next time, invite your family over to his place instead and then wake him yourself so you know that you'll have the time to see him. I know that may sound like a lot of effort but to those who have trouble waking up, sometimes the best thing to do is to meet them halfway.
Story 2 the narrator is likely incorrect. It sounds far more likely that romantic feelings surfaced to the point the boss felt he couldn't act first, so instead changed tact in an effort to push you away. Hopefully the OP finds out the truth instead of leaving it up in the air, to gain some closure on the relationship.
Or maybe the boss understands that the the narrator is very good at what they do and understood that the company they work in is good enough to keep the narrator there and pushes the narrator away the best way possible so the narrator doesn't feel the need to work there anymore
Last Story: OP needs a PI, proof that can be used as a smear campaign against the company and a damn good lawyer. The husband is playing dirty, and OP needs to beat him with his own whip.
3rd story: where is he supposed to propose huh a restaurant nope public in house you don’t want the only way in specifically at a hotel/beach hotel inside there like cmon
Story 3: ah good AITJ with the female narrator bias. Well more on that later. On to OP. I shall break it down. “I told him to please try again.” That is incredibly selfish. This is not just *OPs* engagement but *the BFs* as well. Ontop of that *he* is proposing. If OP wanted it done a certain way then *she* should do it herself. No, that is jerkish. “I honestly don’t know what to do next” leave him. If you cannot be happy someone proposed to you then you do not deserve that person. “He’s not the problem.” Of course he isnt, you are. You are basically stringing him along. If you actually cared you would not have all these requirements. “I do not know how to bring him out of this rut or is my request too much?” I personally think the relationship is probably over. Any rational guy would see the red flags at this point and just dip. However, lets say this is not the case. Well yes your requests are too much. You do not want it public, but you want it romantic, but you want it as a surprise. That is not possible and just further solidifies why you are stringing him along. Now for AITJ. “I don’t think your requests are too much.” Yes, yes they are. This is again your bias. So how exactly is the proposal suppose to be done? Romantic? Okay well lets look and see the fact all the romantic areas are public. Not at home? Well there goes a romantic private event. A surprise? Okay well that ruins a good portion of private places. What does she want? A five star vacation + hotel trip into a proposal? Because I am unsure about others in the comments but that is all that comes to mind and if that is what OP wants then it shows that the BF needs to leave her. “You obviously want to try and get married to this guy.” No…no she doesnt. If she did she would be happy with him proposing *at all* “You want him to do it in a way that you want it to happen.” Which makes it impossible outside the most outlandish, monetary thing in the world which, tbh, is not worth it. That said, I will agree that the BF should of listened to OP. He, truthfully, should of listened and planned how the proposal should go and if he has issues with it then he brings it up to her. That said the same way it is a red flag he ignored her, which admittedly it is, it is a red flag that she is being as insane in her requests as she is. Ultimately, you are showing narrator bias by not focusing on the BF and not calling out OP on her BS.
I see your point but being watched by everyone is sometimes not someone’s favorite thing, if it were me in that moment I’d still say yes but the clapping would definitely make me feel a certain way. Sounds like he’s more in love than she is but idk
@@pennywisethedancingclown7761 I cannot remember the exacts of this story but my issue is moreso on the extreme of her request. Wanting it to be a surprise and private it fine. But then she needs to recognize this is going to sacrifice a good amount of typical romance spots and if doing it at home is not satisfactory then, genuinely speaking, she needs to be the one to purpose. It is 100% fine to have preferences for how a proposal goes. And as the guy proposal it is there job to get as close to that as possible. However, if she has an exact vision she needs to state it verbatim or accept whatever he can that is close to it.
I know what it’s like quitting a job with people you made friends with. It really sucks and it makes you hate the new job even though you’re better off with the new job.
Am I the only one who thinks the boss in story 2 might be exhibiting some early signs of Alzheimer's? If it was just op he was being short with, sure that could be personal, but it sounds like he'd changed on everyone?
Story 4 I sympathise with the boyfriend, as working nights all depends on the person. Working in a hospital I find that some people are better at waking up after a night shift than others. Personally I find it hard to wake up but I can move back to a normal routine after 24 hours. Some people I know can’t and others I know can sleep for 2 hours and be fine.
Bingo. And if you work nights like in this story, it's unbelievably hard to swap your sleep cycle for the weekend or whatever it was in that story. I can't blame the bf for sleeping after being up all night, and then being concerned about getting sleep for work the next night. The only caveat to this is the OP and bf need to communicate this better with each other. He should have voiced that concern well in advance and then plan around it. The OP doesn't sound like she truly understands the havoc flipping your sleep schedule on a whim can cause .
For the first story An act like that should be punished. "False accuses" And "peace disturb in property". Thx that im an asian so this kind of thing rarely happened.
AITJ for asking my aunt if she liked my older sister: These stories reminded me of something that happened a couple of years ago, some things you should know I was 16 when this happened and I am still wondering if I was the jerk another thing is I have autism not like really up there but just enough to be on it so some times I will say what is on my mind, my family say it’s like I have no filter. Anyway I was visiting my grandma’s house and I stayed the week now my relationship with my grandma is great we’ve had some bad times but all in all I love her and she loves me. My grandma’s sister visited one day and we had fun we talked laughed and ate some homemade dinner I thought it was going great so after dinner I FaceTimed my sister telling her how much fun I was having with grandma and auntie. Later in my conversation I asked my sister if she wanted to say hi to our aunt she said “she doesn’t like me.” Which confused me very much so I hanged up and asked my aunt if she liked my sister I said “aunt (insert her name here) do you in general like (insert my sister’s name here).”. The room went silent then after a second my grandma screams “ OP how could you ask her that you can’t ask your aunt if she likes one sibling over the other’s .” Which again confused me because I wasn’t asking that question all I asked is if she liked my sister in general. At first I thought my grandma was confused so I tried retelling her “no I’m not asking that I’m asking in general does she like my sister.” I don’t get a answer from my aunt because my grandma jumps in and just keeps yelling about how it’s so rude of me to ask that again saying “ you can’t ask your aunt if she likes one sibling over the others.”. I am very confused at this point and am still trying to explain to my grandma what I was asking at some point it She told me to go into the house and not come out and me being vary confused on why I tell her no and she gets very shocked by this and starts doing stuff to try and scare me into the house at one point she threaten to call the cops on me. So I took her on that bluff and it was just that a bluff finally I get my answer from my aunt and she said “I don’t feel like answering that question.” I am shocked and angry my grandma started to talk again about how I should not have asked that so I blew my fuse at her and started tearing into her on why she’s single and how she treats her boyfriend like yelling for stupid reasons. After I am done this rant my grandma just tells everyone to go somewhere else to get away from me. You think the story ends there no later that night my grandma took me aside and started crying and saying how she didn’t feel safe with me in the same house as her to which I knew as bullcrap because I have been that angry at her but that is a different story so my dad comes to pick me up and he asked me what happen and when I tell him he doesn’t seem mad more or less confuse like me because just like me he knows Grandma can get out of hand but what do you think am I the jerk for asking my aunt if she liked my sister. One more thing my sister is a half sister but I see her as a full sister and it’s a hill I’m willing to die on. So I’m not sure if they see her as not part of “there” family but if that’s what it is neither am I
You are not the jerk at all. You were told something that was shocking and asked for your aunt to tell the truth. Your grandma's reaction was way out of line and your aunt seemed eager to keep quiet, which gives suspicion that your sister was telling you a very sad truth. I am happy that you stand by your sister and love her no matter what. I'm truly sorry you had to witness all that, but you were not in the wrong. Your grandmother was in the wrong for what she said. As for your aunt, I'd have your dad or another family member you trust talk to her and get to the bottom of why your sister feels that your aunt doesn't like her.
story 4:i generally dont think the boyfriends in the wrong mainly because he has a nightshift job so perhaps he over slept because his body is used to sleeping till late in the day and maybe thats the reason he couldnt make it or he simply was tired after a lot of work in my opinion he isnt the jerk he is in the wrong but he isnt the jerk
I personally hate racists too, I personally get to know someone before I decide if I like them or not, I give people the benefit of the doubt, as I know that there are good and bad in every culture, I judge people on a more per person basis, rather than their entire culture, so I too hate those who are racist and think those people should be sent to a deserted island to fend for themselves!
Ren Faire proposal guy IS the problem. You asked him for a private, romantic proposal and specifically asked him to NOT propose at the Ren Faire. He ignored you and repeatedly did it at home in a really basic way, then ignored your very definite request about the Ren Faire. He's trying for some kind of dominance play to get you to accept him by "his rules" so to speak. All it would have taken is a bunch of roses and a nice dinner. It's a HUGE red flag.
While the BF is a jerk for not listening and ignoring her about how to do the proposals there are some odd things on the OPs side I just don't understand. She says she's too young to get married but doesn't say how old she is or her BF is. Also accepting a proposal doesn't mean you have to get married right away. They could always get engaged and still get married in 2025.
Their ages aren't really relevant. And in all likelihood op is likely early 20s which can be too young for them to want to get married. I was engaged back in 2021 when i was around 17/18 and it was the biggest mistake I had ever made. Even engagement is a huge commitment. I am no longer engaged and not in that relationships at all because it was not at all good or healthy. Ops partner seems very pushy about it which is kinda a red flag becoming of him consistently ignoring her wishes and what she is saying
personally, the OP is being childish in the proposal story. not because of the restrictions for the guy to propose, although she really should have specified more. but like, if her boyfriend really has proposed so many times, would it even make her heart beat faster or whatever she wants when he actually does it that way? the novelty wears off, doesn't it? like how saying "I love you" isn't as sentimental the more you say it. idk, I might just be jaded
Story 3: what about his -probably- dream of having a public proposal? Yes, he didn’t listen to you and that’s not cool, but did you ask him about what he wanted and maybe meet each othef half ways? It is his proposal to remember forever too.
THANK YOU! i was thinking the same thing! Also, of course he's upset! you gave him back the ring and told him to do it all over again. In my opinion that shows she has no interest in compromising, it has to be her way or the highway. They could do it in the park during a picnic, that way she gets somewhat privacy and he gets to propose in a public setting. and the biggest thing..... if OP HATES being the center of attention, how is OP expecting the wedding to go? That everyone will just ignore her during her wedding? It just sounds like she wants to have everything go her way and if it doesn't then she throws a fit. That being said I do agree that the Boyfriend shouldn't do it in places that she specifically asked him not to, like at the fair. Honestly I feel they both need to do a little more growing up before they even get engaged. Her on compromising and him on actually listening to her.
Then he should’ve mentioned to her that that’s what HE wanted when she specified what she wanted/didn’t want out of a proposal. Wanting the exact opposite of something your partner wants isn’t bad, but not talking about it to warn them or compromise with them to just go with your own choice is just stupid and not what a good partner does.
I wholeheartedly agree with this guy is saying maybe you should think twice about wanting to marry him if he doesn't care about your feelings then maybe he's not the right one for you you can do a heck of a lot better
Yeah that would be awesome if she did it I'm a woman and I wouldn't mind proposing to my love I know he'd like it and say yes 😊but we still need a little more time finding a place to live and all
Because she didn't want to marry him at this time because she was too young, and the guy decided he could at least propose. She said what she wanted and why.
@@jerome-persogrieu1574 that’s not what OP was saying whatsoever. As you are clearly glossing over (or somehow missed entirely); she was perfectly willing to string him along with a “long engagement”, so if the proposal was the only problem, why not do it herself?? Well (in case you missed it when I said it the first time), that’s because she’s stringing him along. “…I do want to get married *someday*…”; “…I want to spend the rest on my life with you EVENTUALLY…” …Any woman who tells you they “want to spend the rest of their life with you”, but doesn’t want to make it official, IS NOT PLANNING ON STICKING AROUND (period).
it sounds lkke story 2 the boss was kind while op was in school so he could get professional work for cheap. as soon as the schooling began to be completed the boss got rude and mean so op would quit and he can get another person to fill the job cheap
Story 4: your Boyfriend could gave packed an overnight bag and drove to your place to sleep, ensuring that he be ready ... this is serious Red Flag & imo you should dump his a$$ by using the same tactic against him
To be honest I think the framing in the proposal story isn’t fair at all. Are we gonna pretend that hinging the whole choice to be married on something as arbitrary as her criteria of the proposal? That silly.
I think her main reason she was upset is because it was in public, and she doesn't like being the center of attention Also she said that she wanted to wait to be married, and she wants to be married in 2025, so I can see why she was reluctant at the first few times he tried And wouldn't you want to have that moment be special, and just doing it while doing chores is really weird and it kinda takes away to happiness from the moment when you're just at home and your boyfriend says, "Hey wanna get married" kinda understandable
@@Onifans69 So why doesn’t she propose then? Truthfully, yeah, she’s being a little jerkish; she can’t be happy for the fact that there is someone that wants to spend their life with her? Not on.. if she’s got cold feet after all this, there’s a reason; leave the man so he can get on with his life. Staying is just being selfish.
@@locomadman that’s what I’m saying, like if you kept saying you wanted to work at a place and they offered you the position you want are you really gonna turn it down because they didn’t ask good enough? No you just don’t want to work there.
You are ignoring the elephant in the room, the BF doesn't listen to her, not even one bit, then victimizes himself when confronted. If she proposes all it does is put a band aid on a decapitation wound, as the problem is not the proposal, but extreme communication issues.
Although normally I'd agree with this, he specifically asked her how she wanted to be proposed to. Yet he still decided to not put any effort in the proposal and then shut down after doing the one thing she requested SPECIFICALLY he doesn't do: proposing in public. On one hand she could've accepted when he first proposed, although it wasn't the way she wanted to. On the other hand he shouldn't have asked her what she wanted it to be like, let her have those expectations, and then not deliver at all
Story 4: If you don't have issues with sleep, you don't understand how difficult it can be to "just go to bed early". Imagine if you had to try and go to bed at 10am on your day off, so you can go out at midnight the next night, and then return to your normal sleep schedule the next day. I feel bad for her and her family, but I also understand how hard it is to adjust your sleep schedule so dramatically.
I have insomnia that requires meds to deal with. Even then, I sometimes can't sleep You still _try_ for that time frame. Even if you can't sleep, at least you can show you are trying
Story 1 - Only YT people are surprised by the comments that the Karen made about the OP's nephew. This is something that I and people like myself have had to deal with all of our lives. And if this story took place in the US none of what she said should be a shock. I have literally been sitting in my own vehicle and have had cops harass me for just existing and having a nice vehicle. Due to those experiences I decided that I do not need a really nice vehicle because I do not feel like having to battle Ken's and Karen's over something that should not be an issue. Story #3 - If the OP does not want to get married then why is the OP wasting the guys time? Clearly everything is about her and I hope that he sees that and moves on to a woman that is not so self-centered. The OP will be the same one in 10yrs saying I can't find a man that wants to marry me.
NGL I would have called the cops in the first one: hello, oh yeah this lady is practically harassing me and being racist as f*** in threatening to call the cops so I'mma give her a taste of her own medicine Edit 3 seconds after I tapped Play. I realized that they did call the cops but still I would have done it in the first place
Third story... Girl you need to propose to him, the way you wanted to be proposed to. 40 years ago, I proposed to my husband. I'm not a super modern woman, but I'm not waiting around for him to figure it out either. We had 33 years together before he passed away. I'm a mess without him, he was my Prince Charming. But I didn't wait for him, I proposed. 👵☮️🖖
For first story, I can absolutely agree that people of more colored skin have to watch their back because of the racism we face, Which I (A brown Skinned Muslim) have experienced as well. Unrelated: W for the kid who doesn’t care he is adopted
Story 4: most things are done during the day so for him to sleep all day and not make time or take into consideration what you and your family has to do to be there and cook or whatever. Sorry for the loss of your relationship.
I Farley sure they said he works nights, and if so then he deserves some leeway. Working the night shift is hard on someone and op and the BF either needs to accept that they are on different schedules and try to plan around that, or they need to brake it off
Story 4: Why is it a massive red flag if a guy doesn't make the gf or her family his priority, but totally okay if a girl makes herself her priority? Honestly, I do know how shitty nightshifts can be and how they mess with your rhythm. Last story: Play along with him until the 10 year mark and then drop his own prenup on his head.
Because they're trying to form a relationship! And special times like this are key to forming them! If he just wants to live his life and not sacrifice for the relationship, maybe he should be single! I get nightshifts can be bad, but when you have a commitment you're actually committed to showing up to, you'll make time. If you really can't, you'll suggest alterations or compromises instead of just not showing up. And yes, maybe she could have suggested some compromises as well, like moving the meeting to his town or making it a time that's easier for his sleep schedule. But if he were committed, he'd be apologetic when he messes up, like the daughter was with the family, not happy he is to sleep. It kinda sounds like he's happier about keeping his sleep schedule than he is sad about missing her family. As someone to whom sleep is precious: he's not invested in this relationship. I know men on nightshifts who are more committed to getting to church!
@@stadot1427 Not the point. AITJ always does this. When it's a female who prioritizes herself, she gets a pat on the back, while when it's a male who does so, he gets chewed out. What annoys me is just the double standard here. Now, I wouldn't do things the way the bf here did, but I can understand him. I also usually had a cordial or even close relationship to the families of all the women I've dated. Except for one religious nut who believed I was Satan for being catholic. I would agree that he does not prioritize her family. Which in itself is ok. I would love to know more about how he treats her when they are just the two of them. Usually when guys are happy about missing such a thing there is an underlying problem. Maybe a family member said something to him that OP doesn't know about for example.
The story with the boyfriend sleeping in... Ive been there. I was with my ex for 4 years and he would either be late or just not show up to events with my family despite agreeing previously, the final straw was a my birthday dinner when he was 2 hours late when i text and told him not to bother showing because my family and i were starving and when he did call me he screamed at me for being controlling and not respecting him
First story makes me think it's a good thing I'm not a mother because I'd have done something prison-worthy if some crazy Karen abused my kid and made racist assumptions about them.
ive always thought of proposing in public rude. you are putting someone in a situation where if they say no, people might judge, and a lot of people dont want that.
3rd story: the guy had 3 years to look for a nice place, good restaurant to eat, then go to the nice place and propose, with only the 2 of them, but no I can 100% relate to the girl, hate being the center of attention
The Grandma thing broke my heart back in 2020 and my grandma got covid and mixed with a infection in her bladder caused her memory to fade in and out mimicking Alzheimer's when the woman who helped raise me looked me in the eyes and ask me who I was my heart shattered spend time with your grandparents or parents especially if they're elderly we don't know how much time they have left
that one with the boss, it's obvious he never truly intended to hire the person as a professional since they would've needed to pay more, they probable bullied others into quitting just so he didn't have to
Story 4. There is NO excuse for this guy to keep “over sleeping” on date days. I work a rotating shift of 2days then 2 nights. I may get to bed 2 -6 hours aster I get home from the last night shift but I am always able to do things on the other 3 days I have off.
I think oversleeping IS the excuse. isn't the timing just "really really unlucky"? the 1st time was a program organized 2 weeks beforehand. I guess that was a concert or something like that. the 2nd and the 3rd time was to meet with the family. and he "overslept" all of these. he simply didn't want to go. and this was the excuse. "Once An Accident, Twice A Coincidence, Three Times A Pattern"
I think it all depends on the person. Working in the hospital I find that some people are better at waking up after a night shift than others (see other comments). Seriously I find it hard to wake up but I can move back to a normal routine after 24 hours. Some people I know can’t and others I know can sleep 2 hours after a night shift and be fine.
I OP in the last story leaves this selfish bastard, I hate to say this but you should have never signed that you were with him when that company had nothing
I find it ironic that the Karen in the first was saying Jason was being a bad influence on her because he is black when in reality she is the one that is actually being the bad influence to her son by being racist
Story 3 - the bf should just bail on you at this point. Sure he doesn't listen but you accepted the proposal and then expect him to "try it again", personally I'd walk away from you at that point and be done. Story 4 - Get over it. He works the NIGHT SHIFT. You sleep during the day and are awake All night. It doesn't change if you have a day off or anything. That Is the sleep pattern. If its such a problem for You then don't date someone who works it.
Yeah I am inclined to agree. Story 3, No proposing in public and no proposing in places that aren't romantic enough. Seriously what is the bf supposed to do? Most romantic places are out in public and typically have an element of surprise in them. If he were to make a date night at home and try to make it fancy and romantic it would probably have the opposite affect since she already knows the proposal is coming. Also the whole too young to marry is basically a soft rejection but she doesn't want to lose him as an option an just let the man go and find someone else with marriage in mind. Story 4 seems like poor planning, but there's not enough detail to say that definitively. Had a friend who worked nights and they were basically nocturnal and changing back to a normal schedule was a gradual process, not something that can be typically be done on a switch. Why not just plan something around the time the bf is normally active instead of when he is typically sleep. In the story it seems like his sleep time was pretty normal for him which just brings the question of why plan something that would make him have to change for one day? The fact that it has happened more than once makes it seem like the activities were planned for around the same time as well. If the bf was involved in the planning, or specifically picking the time then I could see a reason to be mad, but otherwise there are a lot of details missing for me to say one person is definitively the jerk.
My husband propose 3x in front of family. The 3rd time I said yes but kept telling him I wasn't rdy for marriage. I was dealing with a loss of another relationship. I was glad to be with him but I wanted more time because he was on having kids etc. I finally told him formally that we can be together for good because the other guy enlisted. By the time, he came back wedding plans were in placed. He proposed to me with most outrageous yet gorgeous ring. I told my ex now friends. I show him my ring. I'd appreciate the gesture but it's too late. I said I told you since HS I prefer simplicity and not materialistic. Now I'm taking care of my husband whose health is complicated. I added salt to injury to my ex now you to get wait and feel what you did to me. I said you never abandon the person you claim to be the one and the friend who was always there. I love my husband, he is genuine though his age and health is not good I'm always there like he has been for me.
I work night shift and it is hard but I also make sure I am awake for plans or just don’t sleep I am about to see my family at 11:00 after this 13 hour shift and if I can’t sleep to get there I won’t bc I said I would be there or take a nap at my parents place before family gets there
I’d need a bit more back story with story 3 I’m a DV who has had a TBI and have trouble going to sleep and staying asleep and then waking up and since then I’ve always had trouble sleeping my energy is honestly like an energy bar in a video game the more time I have to rest before or after work then I’m able to do in general but that bar runs out a lot faster since my TBI. I’m not saying this guy is the same but if need to know more of the story
for story 4, dude works night shift. what do you expect? ofc he's gonna be tired. I disagree that he's the jerk. the gf is the jerk for not being understanding.
It's uncommon to plan an engagement with your partner in three days example like saying babe you want me to supposed to you tomorrow at noon and engagements are usually a surprise anyway so the timing for what she wants is going to be weird no matter what. While the guy should have stopped asking her every time, it's understandable that he felt down when she yelled at him in front of their friends. We don't know the whole story, and they just need to work out some issues. It's not necessarily a big red flag, and many couples go through this. They are in love and want to get married, they just need to plan it better. It's possible that the guy was jokingly asking her to marry him, and it became a running joke between them. But in the end, she asked for advice on how to deal with him because of his emotional state. It's not necessary to break up, as they are clearly in love and want to get married at a later date. They just need to have better communication and plan things out better
Story 3: everyone is down on the bf but how about her? Everything has to be her expectations without any regard to his desires. They are both toxic together. Break up for people who consider each other.
Last story is an example of how money can corrupt the gentlest souls.
OP, ask your husband if he thinks "Anna" would have stuck around when his friend was penniless just like him, hell, would she even breath his way if it wasn't for the money? I didn't mean to presume Anna's a gold digger, but it's more common than not to be the case in these circumstances.
In any case it does sound like that your husband is blatantly cheating on you and doesn't deserve you, I do not know how you could get money out of this mess, but he should at least pay for child support, right?
Seriously, f his money, these kinda guys self destruct and I'll go on a limb here and bet he'll have an affair with Anna, destroying the entire thing he has there, and come crawling back to you for support for the ego he developed, but don't fall for that bs.
The first red flag for me was the prenup. Who needs a prenup for the wife that's been in and out of the gutter with them?!
Could somebody explain the "ten year rule" and what that has to do with a prenup. Also, why would she sign a prenup when both of them were broke anyway. I could understand if one of their family's were wealthy, or one own a house before they got together or something, but signing a prenup in their circumstances kind of says that he had motives at the very beginning.
Story 1. I really hope that Karen's kid can overcome his mother faulty upbringing and became an upstanding man. Poor kid, some people has bad luck.
I've never understood where the idea came from that anyone who has darker skin than caucasion (white) people are automatically criminal, right out of the womb.
Story 1: that Karen was just so cruel. It's sad that there is people like that.
That particular Karen would love me and my grandson. I’m a middle-aged white Gen X and my grandson is biracial. He sometimes sits on my Harley. She would freak out
I live in the land where black people originally came from and I have no problem with that.
BUT THAT, I'D SAY IS RACIST AGAINST MY ENTIRE COUNTRY
Episode 165 of Naruto shippuden is what i would do
Actually googled how many people think this way and its 280 million, and there are 8 billion people in this world, meaning that's over 2 thirds of theUnited States of America population
If anyone’s a thug. She is
For The last story - OP needs to save as much as she can for the next year or two and she needs to divorce him, that way she has a safety net for her and her daughter and doesn't have to depend on him holding a prenup over her head. And honestly the behavior of her husband is completely disgusting. This woman has been with him since day one (when he had nothing) has been the cheerleader/rooted for him and everything; and this is how he treats her? No, she needs to tell him to kick rocks with flip flops. Lol!
Only he wouldn't meet his "friend" he wouldn't have turned out like this 😂
She needs to save all of her income she can and make sure anything household is coming out of his accounts. even if it's a grocery list etc.
Story 4: I seriously wanted to cry when I heard that her grandma started frowning. It was so sad. That man needs to go apologize to her grandma rn.
Nah y'all too harsh. Just changing a schedule from nights to days takes weeks, not hours. You guys have no idea what it's like to work, and it shows.
@@rollitup419 An apology to the OP’s family when he can find time would be the least he could do, he made a promise he couldn’t keep and needs to own up for it.
@@rollitup419 I worked at a job for 7 years where I had to switch from day shift to night shift and I never overslept and missed events. That boyfriend absolutely has no excuse.
@@fullmetalgamer6062 not everyone can be like you man no offense
@@notme3104 You mean not everyone can keep their promises? Never make a promise you can't keep.
If there's one thing I cannot stand in this world today is racial discrimination.😡
I love racists.
You know, the people who drive car fast
And fat people discrimination
@@mrcriticism5511 You mean racers.
But yeah. Racists suck.
@@PokekaiPJArchives no, racists
Sounds like they both aren't ready for a serious relationship, one, the guy constantly not listening and trying to propose and, two, the girl for giving mixed signals on whether she wants to get married or not as well as thinking it's going to be some magical romantic movie proposal
It doesn't seem like she's giving mixed signals at all, though I personally think there's no point in being engaged if you're too young to get married. Because while it is a slightly lesser commitment, it is still a promise that you have chosen this person. Maybe she's giving him mixed signals by giving him too many chances?
But five times? The guy clearly can't or won't listen. He's definitely not ready to get married.
@@stadot1427 yes! I really can’t tell what’s going on with this guy. I think it’s weird that he kept proposing like that. And then doing it in public where there were a ton of people including her friends just doesn’t seem right.
It’s a ridiculous thing to be concerned about. It’s one tiny moment in time. First world problem for sure
Yeah I think she needs to get over herself. She's being a drama goddess
@@stadot1427the second part of your comment is literally answering the other guys comment. If she’s not ready after 5 time despite trying different ways which I’m sure it was all different. She’s either not sure what she wants in a relationship or putting too much into the proposal in her head. Either way she’s not making it easy for this guy to figure it out.
Man. He got warned not to propose randomly or in public, just in a romantic area. And she told him not to propose at the fair but he did. It’s all on him.
Putting in a 2 week notice when your boss is disrespectful is crazy that warrants a walk out
7:31 I believe that the boss talked to someone about the possible not so professional feelings and they told him they were wrong and that he had to cut the OP off.
Where I'm from Love + Love = Love. And skin color doesnt play a Goddamn part in that math equation.
Hmm color + different color doesnt go in my math equation
@@WizdowsI love this answer you gave! 👍
Right on! 👍
Story 4: As someone who has a lot of trouble sleeping even when I really try if I don't sleep one night my schedule is screwed till someone forces me up and I really try to get up and go to bed around 10-11 but I just can't I wonder if the boyfriend is like that to it might explain some of the way he is but ofc he needs to apologize not just blow it off like it was her/his fault I empathize with him but at the same time he seems like a jerk
For the first story I thought the Karen would do that to get the car and steal it herself
For the Oversleeping boyfriend,
I have a friend who has the exact same problem. They oversleep all the time and even if they are trying to be on time, it is still very difficult for them to wake up. Granted, a good sleeping schedule can help but sometimes the buried stress in the back of their heads just takes a great toll on them. I have been on their case about it for years and they have even under gone a sleep study for their excessive sleeping habits. They ALWAYS apologize to me for oversleeping and they feel really bad for cancelling or having to change plans and I can admit that I get tired of hearing it.
But truthfully, those concerns all boil down to these questions:
Do you love the person enough to adapt to their sleeping habits?
Do you have the patience to help them find better ways to set a more productive schedule for themselves that they will eventually adjust to?
Because that is really all you can do. I don't think your boyfriend doesn't care, sometimes people just have habits that may need helping in improving. If you feel it's too much pressure on your end then my advice is to not be with them.
But don't let go of a great person just because their sleeping habits are interfering with your time together.
Maybe next time, invite your family over to his place instead and then wake him yourself so you know that you'll have the time to see him.
I know that may sound like a lot of effort but to those who have trouble waking up, sometimes the best thing to do is to meet them halfway.
finally, a smart person
Story 2 the narrator is likely incorrect.
It sounds far more likely that romantic feelings surfaced to the point the boss felt he couldn't act first, so instead changed tact in an effort to push you away.
Hopefully the OP finds out the truth instead of leaving it up in the air, to gain some closure on the relationship.
Or maybe the boss understands that the the narrator is very good at what they do and understood that the company they work in is good enough to keep the narrator there and pushes the narrator away the best way possible so the narrator doesn't feel the need to work there anymore
Last Story: OP needs a PI, proof that can be used as a smear campaign against the company and a damn good lawyer.
The husband is playing dirty, and OP needs to beat him with his own whip.
3rd story: where is he supposed to propose huh a restaurant nope public in house you don’t want the only way in specifically at a hotel/beach hotel inside there like cmon
Imagine if one of the Karen's actually saw this 0-0 what would she act like?
Story 3: ah good AITJ with the female narrator bias. Well more on that later.
On to OP. I shall break it down.
“I told him to please try again.” That is incredibly selfish. This is not just *OPs* engagement but *the BFs* as well. Ontop of that *he* is proposing. If OP wanted it done a certain way then *she* should do it herself. No, that is jerkish.
“I honestly don’t know what to do next” leave him. If you cannot be happy someone proposed to you then you do not deserve that person.
“He’s not the problem.” Of course he isnt, you are. You are basically stringing him along. If you actually cared you would not have all these requirements.
“I do not know how to bring him out of this rut or is my request too much?” I personally think the relationship is probably over. Any rational guy would see the red flags at this point and just dip. However, lets say this is not the case. Well yes your requests are too much. You do not want it public, but you want it romantic, but you want it as a surprise. That is not possible and just further solidifies why you are stringing him along.
Now for AITJ.
“I don’t think your requests are too much.” Yes, yes they are. This is again your bias. So how exactly is the proposal suppose to be done? Romantic? Okay well lets look and see the fact all the romantic areas are public. Not at home? Well there goes a romantic private event. A surprise? Okay well that ruins a good portion of private places. What does she want? A five star vacation + hotel trip into a proposal? Because I am unsure about others in the comments but that is all that comes to mind and if that is what OP wants then it shows that the BF needs to leave her.
“You obviously want to try and get married to this guy.” No…no she doesnt. If she did she would be happy with him proposing *at all*
“You want him to do it in a way that you want it to happen.” Which makes it impossible outside the most outlandish, monetary thing in the world which, tbh, is not worth it.
That said, I will agree that the BF should of listened to OP. He, truthfully, should of listened and planned how the proposal should go and if he has issues with it then he brings it up to her. That said the same way it is a red flag he ignored her, which admittedly it is, it is a red flag that she is being as insane in her requests as she is.
Ultimately, you are showing narrator bias by not focusing on the BF and not calling out OP on her BS.
Yea... good comment, gotta agree. I quite felt the bias in this video for once.
I see your point but being watched by everyone is sometimes not someone’s favorite thing, if it were me in that moment I’d still say yes but the clapping would definitely make me feel a certain way. Sounds like he’s more in love than she is but idk
@@pennywisethedancingclown7761 I cannot remember the exacts of this story but my issue is moreso on the extreme of her request.
Wanting it to be a surprise and private it fine. But then she needs to recognize this is going to sacrifice a good amount of typical romance spots and if doing it at home is not satisfactory then, genuinely speaking, she needs to be the one to purpose.
It is 100% fine to have preferences for how a proposal goes. And as the guy proposal it is there job to get as close to that as possible.
However, if she has an exact vision she needs to state it verbatim or accept whatever he can that is close to it.
I know what it’s like quitting a job with people you made friends with. It really sucks and it makes you hate the new job even though you’re better off with the new job.
Am I the only one who thinks the boss in story 2 might be exhibiting some early signs of Alzheimer's? If it was just op he was being short with, sure that could be personal, but it sounds like he'd changed on everyone?
Story 4
I sympathise with the boyfriend, as working nights all depends on the person. Working in a hospital I find that some people are better at waking up after a night shift than others. Personally I find it hard to wake up but I can move back to a normal routine after 24 hours. Some people I know can’t and others I know can sleep for 2 hours and be fine.
The late boyfriend did you not say he worked nights. If you get in the habit of not sleeping at night it’s hard to sleep at night.
Bingo. And if you work nights like in this story, it's unbelievably hard to swap your sleep cycle for the weekend or whatever it was in that story. I can't blame the bf for sleeping after being up all night, and then being concerned about getting sleep for work the next night.
The only caveat to this is the OP and bf need to communicate this better with each other. He should have voiced that concern well in advance and then plan around it. The OP doesn't sound like she truly understands the havoc flipping your sleep schedule on a whim can cause .
Story 1: bro I just looked up the car and my God you have a good car meaning the car is with the hood not the ones without it like such a good car
That karen in that first story
is: r a c i s t
For the first story
An act like that should be punished.
"False accuses" And "peace disturb in property". Thx that im an asian so this kind of thing rarely happened.
AITJ for asking my aunt if she liked my older sister:
These stories reminded me of something that happened a couple of years ago, some things you should know I was 16 when this happened and I am still wondering if I was the jerk another thing is I have autism not like really up there but just enough to be on it so some times I will say what is on my mind, my family say it’s like I have no filter. Anyway I was visiting my grandma’s house and I stayed the week now my relationship with my grandma is great we’ve had some bad times but all in all I love her and she loves me. My grandma’s sister visited one day and we had fun we talked laughed and ate some homemade dinner I thought it was going great so after dinner I FaceTimed my sister telling her how much fun I was having with grandma and auntie. Later in my conversation I asked my sister if she wanted to say hi to our aunt she said “she doesn’t like me.” Which confused me very much so I hanged up and asked my aunt if she liked my sister I said “aunt (insert her name here) do you in general like (insert my sister’s name here).”. The room went silent then after a second my grandma screams “ OP how could you ask her that you can’t ask your aunt if she likes one sibling over the other’s .” Which again confused me because I wasn’t asking that question all I asked is if she liked my sister in general. At first I thought my grandma was confused so I tried retelling her “no I’m not asking that I’m asking in general does she like my sister.” I don’t get a answer from my aunt because my grandma jumps in and just keeps yelling about how it’s so rude of me to ask that again saying “ you can’t ask your aunt if she likes one sibling over the others.”. I am very confused at this point and am still trying to explain to my grandma what I was asking at some point it She told me to go into the house and not come out and me being vary confused on why I tell her no and she gets very shocked by this and starts doing stuff to try and scare me into the house at one point she threaten to call the cops on me. So I took her on that bluff and it was just that a bluff finally I get my answer from my aunt and she said “I don’t feel like answering that question.” I am shocked and angry my grandma started to talk again about how I should not have asked that so I blew my fuse at her and started tearing into her on why she’s single and how she treats her boyfriend like yelling for stupid reasons. After I am done this rant my grandma just tells everyone to go somewhere else to get away from me. You think the story ends there no later that night my grandma took me aside and started crying and saying how she didn’t feel safe with me in the same house as her to which I knew as bullcrap because I have been that angry at her but that is a different story so my dad comes to pick me up and he asked me what happen and when I tell him he doesn’t seem mad more or less confuse like me because just like me he knows Grandma can get out of hand but what do you think am I the jerk for asking my aunt if she liked my sister. One more thing my sister is a half sister but I see her as a full sister and it’s a hill I’m willing to die on. So I’m not sure if they see her as not part of “there” family but if that’s what it is neither am I
No
You are not the jerk at all. You were told something that was shocking and asked for your aunt to tell the truth. Your grandma's reaction was way out of line and your aunt seemed eager to keep quiet, which gives suspicion that your sister was telling you a very sad truth. I am happy that you stand by your sister and love her no matter what. I'm truly sorry you had to witness all that, but you were not in the wrong. Your grandmother was in the wrong for what she said. As for your aunt, I'd have your dad or another family member you trust talk to her and get to the bottom of why your sister feels that your aunt doesn't like her.
story 4:i generally dont think the boyfriends in the wrong mainly because he has a nightshift job so perhaps he over slept because his body is used to sleeping till late in the day and maybe thats the reason he couldnt make it or he simply was tired after a lot of work in my opinion he isnt the jerk he is in the wrong but he isnt the jerk
But he had "overslept" two times before, when he was *unemployed*
It was said that he was on a day off.
@@tsuyuasui8083 oh...xd
@@kaijumastergaming6713 but I can understand why he would do that. It's hard to break a habit.
First story is literally dhar mann irl 💀
I personally hate racists too, I personally get to know someone before I decide if I like them or not, I give people the benefit of the doubt, as I know that there are good and bad in every culture, I judge people on a more per person basis, rather than their entire culture, so I too hate those who are racist and think those people should be sent to a deserted island to fend for themselves!
Ren Faire proposal guy IS the problem. You asked him for a private, romantic proposal and specifically asked him to NOT propose at the Ren Faire. He ignored you and repeatedly did it at home in a really basic way, then ignored your very definite request about the Ren Faire. He's trying for some kind of dominance play to get you to accept him by "his rules" so to speak. All it would have taken is a bunch of roses and a nice dinner. It's a HUGE red flag.
While the BF is a jerk for not listening and ignoring her about how to do the proposals there are some odd things on the OPs side I just don't understand. She says she's too young to get married but doesn't say how old she is or her BF is. Also accepting a proposal doesn't mean you have to get married right away. They could always get engaged and still get married in 2025.
Their ages aren't really relevant. And in all likelihood op is likely early 20s which can be too young for them to want to get married. I was engaged back in 2021 when i was around 17/18 and it was the biggest mistake I had ever made. Even engagement is a huge commitment. I am no longer engaged and not in that relationships at all because it was not at all good or healthy. Ops partner seems very pushy about it which is kinda a red flag becoming of him consistently ignoring her wishes and what she is saying
personally, the OP is being childish in the proposal story. not because of the restrictions for the guy to propose, although she really should have specified more. but like, if her boyfriend really has proposed so many times, would it even make her heart beat faster or whatever she wants when he actually does it that way? the novelty wears off, doesn't it? like how saying "I love you" isn't as sentimental the more you say it.
idk, I might just be jaded
nah, you're right. fair comment.
She also said not to do it at home
Story 3: what about his -probably- dream of having a public proposal? Yes, he didn’t listen to you and that’s not cool, but did you ask him about what he wanted and maybe meet each othef half ways? It is his proposal to remember forever too.
THANK YOU! i was thinking the same thing! Also, of course he's upset! you gave him back the ring and told him to do it all over again. In my opinion that shows she has no interest in compromising, it has to be her way or the highway. They could do it in the park during a picnic, that way she gets somewhat privacy and he gets to propose in a public setting. and the biggest thing..... if OP HATES being the center of attention, how is OP expecting the wedding to go? That everyone will just ignore her during her wedding? It just sounds like she wants to have everything go her way and if it doesn't then she throws a fit.
That being said I do agree that the Boyfriend shouldn't do it in places that she specifically asked him not to, like at the fair. Honestly I feel they both need to do a little more growing up before they even get engaged. Her on compromising and him on actually listening to her.
Then he should’ve mentioned to her that that’s what HE wanted when she specified what she wanted/didn’t want out of a proposal. Wanting the exact opposite of something your partner wants isn’t bad, but not talking about it to warn them or compromise with them to just go with your own choice is just stupid and not what a good partner does.
Wait, my skin is brown. Does that mean everything in my house is stolen including my wife?? 😅
I wholeheartedly agree with this guy is saying maybe you should think twice about wanting to marry him if he doesn't care about your feelings then maybe he's not the right one for you you can do a heck of a lot better
Story 3: If you have such specific rules about proposing, why don't you do it yourself?
Ha! That’s exactly what I said!! Like, “Lady, go ahead & see if you can do it; proposing is hard!”
Yeah that would be awesome if she did it I'm a woman and I wouldn't mind proposing to my love I know he'd like it and say yes 😊but we still need a little more time finding a place to live and all
@@yourface7179 Best of luck for you two!!!
Because she didn't want to marry him at this time because she was too young, and the guy decided he could at least propose. She said what she wanted and why.
@@jerome-persogrieu1574 that’s not what OP was saying whatsoever. As you are clearly glossing over (or somehow missed entirely); she was perfectly willing to string him along with a “long engagement”, so if the proposal was the only problem, why not do it herself?? Well (in case you missed it when I said it the first time), that’s because she’s stringing him along. “…I do want to get married *someday*…”; “…I want to spend the rest on my life with you EVENTUALLY…”
…Any woman who tells you they “want to spend the rest of their life with you”, but doesn’t want to make it official, IS NOT PLANNING ON STICKING AROUND (period).
it sounds lkke story 2 the boss was kind while op was in school so he could get professional work for cheap. as soon as the schooling began to be completed the boss got rude and mean so op would quit and he can get another person to fill the job cheap
In the first story, they should have called the police. This is disgusting. She is disgusting.
Story 4: your Boyfriend could gave packed an overnight bag and drove to your place to sleep, ensuring that he be ready ... this is serious Red Flag & imo you should dump his a$$ by using the same tactic against him
To be honest I think the framing in the proposal story isn’t fair at all. Are we gonna pretend that hinging the whole choice to be married on something as arbitrary as her criteria of the proposal? That silly.
I think her main reason she was upset is because it was in public, and she doesn't like being the center of attention
Also she said that she wanted to wait to be married, and she wants to be married in 2025, so I can see why she was reluctant at the first few times he tried
And wouldn't you want to have that moment be special, and just doing it while doing chores is really weird and it kinda takes away to happiness from the moment when you're just at home and your boyfriend says, "Hey wanna get married" kinda understandable
@@Onifans69 So why doesn’t she propose then? Truthfully, yeah, she’s being a little jerkish; she can’t be happy for the fact that there is someone that wants to spend their life with her? Not on.. if she’s got cold feet after all this, there’s a reason; leave the man so he can get on with his life. Staying is just being selfish.
@@locomadman that’s what I’m saying, like if you kept saying you wanted to work at a place and they offered you the position you want are you really gonna turn it down because they didn’t ask good enough? No you just don’t want to work there.
You are ignoring the elephant in the room, the BF doesn't listen to her, not even one bit, then victimizes himself when confronted.
If she proposes all it does is put a band aid on a decapitation wound, as the problem is not the proposal, but extreme communication issues.
Although normally I'd agree with this, he specifically asked her how she wanted to be proposed to. Yet he still decided to not put any effort in the proposal and then shut down after doing the one thing she requested SPECIFICALLY he doesn't do: proposing in public.
On one hand she could've accepted when he first proposed, although it wasn't the way she wanted to. On the other hand he shouldn't have asked her what she wanted it to be like, let her have those expectations, and then not deliver at all
Story 4: If you don't have issues with sleep, you don't understand how difficult it can be to "just go to bed early". Imagine if you had to try and go to bed at 10am on your day off, so you can go out at midnight the next night, and then return to your normal sleep schedule the next day.
I feel bad for her and her family, but I also understand how hard it is to adjust your sleep schedule so dramatically.
I have insomnia that requires meds to deal with. Even then, I sometimes can't sleep
You still _try_ for that time frame. Even if you can't sleep, at least you can show you are trying
Story 1 - Only YT people are surprised by the comments that the Karen made about the OP's nephew. This is something that I and people like myself have had to deal with all of our lives. And if this story took place in the US none of what she said should be a shock. I have literally been sitting in my own vehicle and have had cops harass me for just existing and having a nice vehicle. Due to those experiences I decided that I do not need a really nice vehicle because I do not feel like having to battle Ken's and Karen's over something that should not be an issue.
Story #3 - If the OP does not want to get married then why is the OP wasting the guys time? Clearly everything is about her and I hope that he sees that and moves on to a woman that is not so self-centered. The OP will be the same one in 10yrs saying I can't find a man that wants to marry me.
Bro is a pro in talking tom run
Your husband isn't the man you fell in love with
NGL I would have called the cops in the first one: hello, oh yeah this lady is practically harassing me and being racist as f*** in threatening to call the cops so I'mma give her a taste of her own medicine
Edit 3 seconds after I tapped Play. I realized that they did call the cops but still I would have done it in the first place
there are so many red flags in this vid that six flags is jealous
Anyone else wanna see the ring footage from the first story?
Third story... Girl you need to propose to him, the way you wanted to be proposed to. 40 years ago, I proposed to my husband. I'm not a super modern woman, but I'm not waiting around for him to figure it out either. We had 33 years together before he passed away. I'm a mess without him, he was my Prince Charming. But I didn't wait for him, I proposed.
👵☮️🖖
For first story, I can absolutely agree that people of more colored skin have to watch their back because of the racism we face, Which I (A brown Skinned Muslim) have experienced as well.
Unrelated: W for the kid who doesn’t care he is adopted
Story 4: most things are done during the day so for him to sleep all day and not make time or take into consideration what you and your family has to do to be there and cook or whatever. Sorry for the loss of your relationship.
I Farley sure they said he works nights, and if so then he deserves some leeway. Working the night shift is hard on someone and op and the BF either needs to accept that they are on different schedules and try to plan around that, or they need to brake it off
that single phrase "annoying work mom" somehow triggers me in such a way i've never felt before. I'm a male for your information
Unfortunately, I can't spell the f word, but that's what I think of this Karen in the first story. Also, I think you're not the jerk
Story 4: Why is it a massive red flag if a guy doesn't make the gf or her family his priority, but totally okay if a girl makes herself her priority? Honestly, I do know how shitty nightshifts can be and how they mess with your rhythm.
Last story: Play along with him until the 10 year mark and then drop his own prenup on his head.
Because they're trying to form a relationship! And special times like this are key to forming them! If he just wants to live his life and not sacrifice for the relationship, maybe he should be single!
I get nightshifts can be bad, but when you have a commitment you're actually committed to showing up to, you'll make time. If you really can't, you'll suggest alterations or compromises instead of just not showing up. And yes, maybe she could have suggested some compromises as well, like moving the meeting to his town or making it a time that's easier for his sleep schedule. But if he were committed, he'd be apologetic when he messes up, like the daughter was with the family, not happy he is to sleep. It kinda sounds like he's happier about keeping his sleep schedule than he is sad about missing her family. As someone to whom sleep is precious: he's not invested in this relationship. I know men on nightshifts who are more committed to getting to church!
@@stadot1427 Not the point. AITJ always does this. When it's a female who prioritizes herself, she gets a pat on the back, while when it's a male who does so, he gets chewed out. What annoys me is just the double standard here.
Now, I wouldn't do things the way the bf here did, but I can understand him. I also usually had a cordial or even close relationship to the families of all the women I've dated. Except for one religious nut who believed I was Satan for being catholic. I would agree that he does not prioritize her family. Which in itself is ok. I would love to know more about how he treats her when they are just the two of them. Usually when guys are happy about missing such a thing there is an underlying problem. Maybe a family member said something to him that OP doesn't know about for example.
The story with the boyfriend sleeping in... Ive been there. I was with my ex for 4 years and he would either be late or just not show up to events with my family despite agreeing previously, the final straw was a my birthday dinner when he was 2 hours late when i text and told him not to bother showing because my family and i were starving and when he did call me he screamed at me for being controlling and not respecting him
First story makes me think it's a good thing I'm not a mother because I'd have done something prison-worthy if some crazy Karen abused my kid and made racist assumptions about them.
ive always thought of proposing in public rude. you are putting someone in a situation where if they say no, people might judge, and a lot of people dont want that.
3rd story: the guy had 3 years to look for a nice place, good restaurant to eat, then go to the nice place and propose, with only the 2 of them, but no
I can 100% relate to the girl, hate being the center of attention
Send that Ring footage to the police...
The Grandma thing broke my heart back in 2020 and my grandma got covid and mixed with a infection in her bladder caused her memory to fade in and out mimicking Alzheimer's when the woman who helped raise me looked me in the eyes and ask me who I was my heart shattered spend time with your grandparents or parents especially if they're elderly we don't know how much time they have left
About that Karen. Find where she works, if she works at all, share your doorbell video with boss and co-worker.
that one with the boss, it's obvious he never truly intended to hire the person as a professional since they would've needed to pay more, they probable bullied others into quitting just so he didn't have to
The 1st story: Me at the first part: What
Second part: the
Last part: WHAT THE F-
Story 4. There is NO excuse for this guy to keep “over sleeping” on date days. I work a rotating shift of 2days then 2 nights. I may get to bed 2 -6 hours aster I get home from the last night shift but I am always able to do things on the other 3 days I have off.
I think oversleeping IS the excuse. isn't the timing just "really really unlucky"? the 1st time was a program organized 2 weeks beforehand. I guess that was a concert or something like that. the 2nd and the 3rd time was to meet with the family. and he "overslept" all of these. he simply didn't want to go. and this was the excuse.
"Once An Accident, Twice A Coincidence, Three Times A Pattern"
Not everyone is you, princess. We're not robots
I think it all depends on the person. Working in the hospital I find that some people are better at waking up after a night shift than others (see other comments). Seriously I find it hard to wake up but I can move back to a normal routine after 24 hours. Some people I know can’t and others I know can sleep 2 hours after a night shift and be fine.
Story 1: never correct your opponents when they make a mistake. Bury them.
I OP in the last story leaves this selfish bastard, I hate to say this but you should have never signed that you were with him when that company had nothing
First Karen was in a speed run to get shot
Story 1 the man shouldn’t have told the woman that he had a ring doorbell and just waited for the police
I find it ironic that the Karen in the first was saying Jason was being a bad influence on her because he is black when in reality she is the one that is actually being the bad influence to her son by being racist
To the first Keren
"Excuse me ma'am, aren't you late fer your Klan rally,?"
story 1: the op definitely have world's best uncle mug
So many stories where OP isn't being treated as a priority by their SO's. It's really disheartening.
Only because that's what this simp picks
..She didn't say young man, she said "I caught this "N💥 stealing your car"
story 2, I don't know why people think that being adopted is bad, you get chosen specifically, not just chance
2025!!!!!!!! That's like in year that I like a million years
AS A afrolatina i delt with this type stuff for YEARS!!!
For the first story, Ring doorbells, gotta love them.
Dogs: this is why I bite people like Karens and base**
Me and my sister used to play the game in the background
Story 3 - the bf should just bail on you at this point. Sure he doesn't listen but you accepted the proposal and then expect him to "try it again", personally I'd walk away from you at that point and be done.
Story 4 - Get over it. He works the NIGHT SHIFT. You sleep during the day and are awake All night. It doesn't change if you have a day off or anything. That Is the sleep pattern. If its such a problem for You then don't date someone who works it.
📠
Yeah I am inclined to agree.
Story 3, No proposing in public and no proposing in places that aren't romantic enough. Seriously what is the bf supposed to do? Most romantic places are out in public and typically have an element of surprise in them. If he were to make a date night at home and try to make it fancy and romantic it would probably have the opposite affect since she already knows the proposal is coming. Also the whole too young to marry is basically a soft rejection but she doesn't want to lose him as an option an just let the man go and find someone else with marriage in mind.
Story 4 seems like poor planning, but there's not enough detail to say that definitively. Had a friend who worked nights and they were basically nocturnal and changing back to a normal schedule was a gradual process, not something that can be typically be done on a switch. Why not just plan something around the time the bf is normally active instead of when he is typically sleep. In the story it seems like his sleep time was pretty normal for him which just brings the question of why plan something that would make him have to change for one day? The fact that it has happened more than once makes it seem like the activities were planned for around the same time as well. If the bf was involved in the planning, or specifically picking the time then I could see a reason to be mad, but otherwise there are a lot of details missing for me to say one person is definitively the jerk.
My husband propose 3x in front of family. The 3rd time I said yes but kept telling him I wasn't rdy for marriage. I was dealing with a loss of another relationship. I was glad to be with him but I wanted more time because he was on having kids etc. I finally told him formally that we can be together for good because the other guy enlisted. By the time, he came back wedding plans were in placed. He proposed to me with most outrageous yet gorgeous ring. I told my ex now friends. I show him my ring. I'd appreciate the gesture but it's too late. I said I told you since HS I prefer simplicity and not materialistic. Now I'm taking care of my husband whose health is complicated. I added salt to injury to my ex now you to get wait and feel what you did to me. I said you never abandon the person you claim to be the one and the friend who was always there. I love my husband, he is genuine though his age and health is not good I'm always there like he has been for me.
Please instead of saying scandalous say devious, it works so much better
story 4 and people wonders why i prefer to be single
My frustration with this Karen is immeasurable
Why is that happen to you not somebody?
story 4 was sad
I work night shift and it is hard but I also make sure I am awake for plans or just don’t sleep I am about to see my family at 11:00 after this 13 hour shift and if I can’t sleep to get there I won’t bc I said I would be there or take a nap at my parents place before family gets there
He could have napped at his gf place and came the night before i don’t think he cares enough if he won’t go
Vin diesel approved
Story 1: i think they should let the Karen call the cops to teach her a lesson
I want to see the ring footage from the first story
I’d need a bit more back story with story 3 I’m a DV who has had a TBI and have trouble going to sleep and staying asleep and then waking up and since then I’ve always had trouble sleeping my energy is honestly like an energy bar in a video game the more time I have to rest before or after work then I’m able to do in general but that bar runs out a lot faster since my TBI. I’m not saying this guy is the same but if need to know more of the story
I just woke up
my guy sounds like quandale dingle
for story 4, dude works night shift. what do you expect? ofc he's gonna be tired. I disagree that he's the jerk. the gf is the jerk for not being understanding.
Yooowassup
Ah cool, im first.
Amogus
It's uncommon to plan an engagement with your partner in three days example like saying babe you want me to supposed to you tomorrow at noon and engagements are usually a surprise anyway so the timing for what she wants is going to be weird no matter what. While the guy should have stopped asking her every time, it's understandable that he felt down when she yelled at him in front of their friends. We don't know the whole story, and they just need to work out some issues. It's not necessarily a big red flag, and many couples go through this. They are in love and want to get married, they just need to plan it better.
It's possible that the guy was jokingly asking her to marry him, and it became a running joke between them. But in the end, she asked for advice on how to deal with him because of his emotional state. It's not necessary to break up, as they are clearly in love and want to get married at a later date. They just need to have better communication and plan things out better
It's just annoying to me that EVERYBODY telling these story's uses "And I could not possibly be more upset"
Can I upload a story?
Story 3: everyone is down on the bf but how about her? Everything has to be her expectations without any regard to his desires. They are both toxic together. Break up for people who consider each other.
How young was she?