Guys, study how Penuel interviews his guests, he says he is having a conversation with them but trust me there is a skill and technique behind it🔥🔥🔥How he provokes Noxolo's thought process with his questions making her answer from her most honest and personal perspective, it keeps the conversation so authentic throughout
I thought I was tripping when I first noticed this. He first asks a question then makes a short story to align the question with real life situations or the situation he wants u to have a bias perception. And that's fire🔥🔥🔥😂😂
one of the moments I love was when he was interviewing VT an he asked something like " do you consider yourself smart? " as he was answering he said " is that you being humble" and VT gave a perfect answer
I couldn't have said it any better. Penuel knows how to pick his guests, you have to be able to think on your feet, he's 👌👌and his guests are equal to the task!
Please bhuti can you invite bab steve komphela because he has so much knowledge, wisdom and understanding not on only in football but in life as a whole
This is another reason why I never got used to my academia years ending. It’s really refreshing speaking to diplomats. Now all we do is spin on a chair all day and rot in a desk doing non-mentally stimulating things everyday.
When she was speaking about high value man and high value woman, only facts were spoken. 🙌🙌🙌🙌📢✅✅✅ . Also Penuel’s take on a high value woman..I totally agree that purity & exclusivity takes precedence over beauty (although it also counts) regarding a high value woman.
definition of a high value man. not Money but high Moral , High disciple (Self-Discipline & Purpose),Emotional Intelligence,Strong Leadership & Confidence ,Health & Fitness ,Mastery Over His Environment , but thats why women marry So called High Value Man with Money and forget a good Men.
How doomed we are as a people, we curse the birth of a child and we glorify abortion. Married or not married, rich or poor I don't care a child is a blessing ! You was also born probably not in an ideal time or situation but you survived and look at how you're blessed today.
As someone who's been in n out of cannabis now i understand my addiction S/O to you Boet Pen n Sis Noxolo you really elevated my consciousness throughout this episode. i suffered a lot of what you talking about besengicabanga ukth maybe i wasn't good enough coz of "societal norms". now I'm gonna embrace my mental state n work on myself as a person Danko is thank you bafethu🙌
On the topic of Cannabis, I started using CBD infused gummies for my anxiety. I take 5g a day, usually in the afternoon and they work well for me. I am not addicted to them because I can go weeks without taking any. I have also shared them with friends and they found that it helps alleviate pain and are less sad with their lives. And this was sparked from a conversation Penuel had with a gentleman here last year on the show about microdosing on mushrooms. So since they are expensive I opted to take CBD infused foods.
True, Reason why Most man in prison are from SIngle Mothers is because of Too MUCH Freedom, When a Father is present A Male Child Grows up knowing that There is someone in authority Which Leads To ORDER & DISCIPLINE in a fathers Life, The Minute a Woman has FULL CONTROL on the Childs Life, this can Lead to the child Feeling SHE CAN DO WHATEVER She or He wants
@@Nthabeleng507 u mean 1976, I don't think so, Many Jobs Nowadays Require You To speak Afrikaans , Even if U Have a Grade 10 They Willing to Hire U If U speak Afrikaans I grew up Learning Zulu from Gr1-12 , It served No Purpose to me Except Communicatinh with My Parents It's a 12 years Waste for Me, Unless U Somehow end up working For Izindaba at SABC 1 other than That It serves No Purpose
She's very in-tune with her self and senses. I wonder if she has some spiritual lessons she can share with us next time, because she shows great concern for so many matters, but calm about knowing all that.
Definitely learned a lot from this convo...glad to see self-awareness still exist and that not everyone is influence by maimstream media even thpugh we live in a world that is.
As a 2000 ,i believe it when she says a high value man is man with money ,right now i am still finding my way trying to get the money ,no one sees me or even acknowledges the hard work i am putting .i am the first born at home and the only one working ,so i haven't met a girl who is willing to be on my side while i am still growing .but as soon as i am "Good," i can imagine how my dms would look like.
Money or no money, all men are high value men. It will always depends on how you apply yourself in "any situation". It's a mindset...it's how you maneuver self within any situation. Like will always be binary, 2 sides within one, like good and bad, opportunities and challenges...life is set and qualified to always be an experience of the 2 sides.It will always boil down to "HOW" men/women engage with such.
Dope Konvo, I just wish more people could see this. so much wisdom was shared here. It's the kind of insight that can shift perspective and spark deeper conversations.
definition of a high value man. not Money but high Moral , High disciple (Self-Discipline & Purpose),Emotional Intelligence,Strong Leadership & Confidence ,Health & Fitness ,Mastery Over His Environment , but thats why women marry So called High Value Man with Money and forget a good Man
I think this convo needed a matured human myb like dj sbu in it cus ul r really mislead on some issues but great show n our youth needs these types of postcasts
The brain is responsible for both voluntary and involuntary processes, even those we may not consciously notice. Involuntary actions, such as reflexes, breathing, and autonomic functions, are managed by different regions of the brain and spinal cord, while voluntary actions involve conscious control from the cerebral cortex. While we may not always be aware of these processes, the brain plays a fundamental role in regulating them all.
Big ups for bringing this wonderful, independent thinker, Ousi... she definitely hit a nerve when she talked about her ideal men being able to slaughter, and I just did my first slaughter ka December...
A 5 year marriage completely defeats the purpose. Marriage is, by definition, permanent. Monogamy is defined as mating for life, not mating for five years with an option to renew. If you can’t handle the commitment, just don’t get married
@jancovander well said, so what happens to the CHILDREN when people are jumping around from marriage to marriage? What's f dad's new wife is abusive? What if mum's next husband is a paedophile? These are the kind of conversations you get from dysfunctional people and/or people who grew up in dysfunctional homes
Oh girl you just described my father and that is literally my idea of a high value man also more often than not if you find a culturally inclined man you find a provider the therefore finance should not be a priority.
This conversation had to be a bit laid back and casual, but sometimes how you set things up Pen, it makes it seem like the speaker has to come prepared
Not spending time with yourself can cause issues with others. If you cant spend 10 minutes with your self you probably have a lot of problems with othera
On topic around 58:00, President Zuma suggested that children who impregnant/get pregnant while there are still in school should be isolated to discourage learners pregnancy. People can insults Zuma but we still need a solution to this crises
Why are we trying to get everything right? I feel like what makes human kind interesting is not getting everything right in our lifetime after all the pursuits. Whether it’s obsessive love, caring love or whichever kind. We’ll always have flaws unfortunately and you can never have the right/perfect partner. All these efforts to try and shape our lives through therapy or whichever medium, is it really the way? Yes we are a broken society but i believe we should try and live life without having much pressure to get perfection, whether from love, our intimate partners, colleagues, family etc.
Everything, every act, thought, habit etc can be part of or a form of mental illness or an expression of it. I think its more important to try and get help so that you can get an alternative view of what could possibly be happening with you. The attitude and refusal to be helped/teachable is what causes all this pain. It takes a certain level of humility to learn/experience something properly.
Great question, i also have a great question. Why procreate with people you know will dodge....the responsible ones are boring and not fun i guess. 👉👈🔄 The blaming game is not what we want in 2025
@@Zimboprenuer Our community is in a mess because parents are not instilling *values* in their children, and there is no sense of *collective responsibility.* Back in the day, education began in the home, parents were constantly preaching virtues be it in the course of the day, or in the evening telling stories around the fire. Nowadays? Parents shoot out to go to work and come home tired. In terms of education they are more interested in whether the child has done their homework or if they have good grades. The only time they correct the child is when the child has done something wrong, and to this end they smack! Also, intergenerational living allowed for other people to have an input in educating the child, be it grandparents or aunts and uncles! If you interrogate various African cultures, Aunties were responsible for teaching the girls about sex (how to keep ones legs together (virginity) and save the big O for matrimony, by masturbating, kegel exercises etc); likewise boys were taught how to rub off one on a girls thighs without penetration, and how to make a woman orgasm/squirt. Both girls and boys were encouraged to value virginity. If a boy got a girl pregnant he'd have to marry her, thru were expected to marry, or be stoned to death! Guys were just as vigilant to avoid out of wedlock sex, because they didn't want to impregnate a girl ND then part with their cattle (ilobola) for the wrong girl!!! Also, girls and boys were divided into age sets and age groups. The girls considered each other sisters. Likewise, the boys considered each other brothers. If a boy impregnated a girl from a particular age set, the reputations of both age sets would be tainted, and the boy would have to pay a fine not only to the girl's father, but TO ALL THE GIRLS IN THAT AGE SET. Subsequently, collective responsibility encouraged both boys and girls to behave to avoid disgracing the age sets! With urbanization came westernization. Colonisation and Apartheid were physically, spiritually, intellectually and psychologically oppressive. We have lost a lot of our values, who we were. With urbanization came the loosening of familial ties. In towns and cities, people took to behaving anyhowly because they could easily evade censure. Throw in the obssessive aping of western culture thanks to media influences such as TV and movies and it's wrap. Little wonder we are having conversations about 5 year marriages, instead of how to raise children with morals, values and virtues, do that we can contract good marriages, build strong, families and lineages and leave behind strong legacies.
I like Penuel and am big fan of all his platforms from the very beginning but as a doctor I've always felt he doesn't like us very much for some reason
Women deal with the consequenses of having kids outside of wedlock by raising the kids alone. Even if the father is present, if he does not live with the child, the woman (who is most of the time the primary care giver) has all the responsibility, must compromise, her life must change.
spirituality, religious, desire, bored, love , money, psychological problems, community, pressure, perfect, pretending , seeking , sickness, sex , blood , even spirituality possess the living, not the dead . so life is expanding sexually . a quiet place is when u take it day by day .
Corinthians 3:19 King James Version (KJV)For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.
The reflex arc is what Pen is talk about but that only applies in dangerous that basically require your reflex, what happens when you hand feels a very hot stove? Exactly that’s the reflex arc it basically bypasses the brain to get a quicker response to pain or touch… what happens when you feel like something is crawling on you, you rush to hit it or grab it. unexpected cold water in the shower? You move away from it. That’s your reflexes due to the reflex arc other than the that brain is the HQ of the body.
Social media doesn’t represent an entire community. Out of a million people that part take and consume on social media regularly , there are millions of people who live in an entire different life from what we discuss on social media platforms. So the whole conversations about high value men and the likes are just based on algorithms and the limited perceptions we have as an online community.
@ushaymamba The girl is confused, in one breathe, she says she's not about culture cause she's a rebel, and then she turns around and says she needs a man who knows how to slaughter during a funeral. The slaughtering is zinto za culture angithi? This chick is just shooting her mouth off, her opinion is fundamentally based on NOTHING other than the now. A mature tight thinking person filters these things from a historical and political perspective.
The mother will never tell her kids, "I was the wrong person that is why I broke up with you father" or even," I denied your father access to visit you..." you'll never hear stories like that. It is always the father who is a villain and antagonist in the story. We hate our fathers and we wonder why we have so many problems in this world particularly the black people.
Christoff Aucamp in the live comments: - Nicotine is addictive, but not bad for you. - Tar is bad for you. You get hooked by Nicotine, then Tar destroys you.
Why have we made getting older such a bad thing. Getting older means you now know better, you're wiser so you will definitely now want to do things differently, and unfortunately/fortunately the "turning to God" is what most turn to, but is that such a bad thing?
Hi team, if the host and the guest would slightly turn at an angle because the side view disengages us abit I feel like we are on the side spectating, making it hard to connect. Just my opinion anyway amazing work 👌🏼
This conversation around 6:19 - 10:18 about contraceptives is incomplete and misleading. It is not helpful to have a conversation when you leave out a lot of relevant information. Let's begin with reproductive biology of functional adult woman. Women are at their reproductive peaks between the ages of 15 years old to 25 years old. I begin with 15 even though 15 is not a legal age for consent in majority of nations in the world, but I have to begin there because I'm limiting this discussion just to biology of reproduction. Women 50 years ago and beyond everywhere in the world started having children around 14-16 years of age, and would continue to have children right up to 25-28. Often ending with 7-10 children, with other various children who would have died in child birth or after child birth. Also women lose 90% of all their eggs by the time their 30 years old, and they have lost95%-98% by the time their 40 years old. 35 years old is considered Geriatric pregnancy age or not (the more politically correct Advanced Maternal Age), and 40 years old is considered the Very Advanced maternal Age. So enter modern world which tells women that they should wait and not have kids early, and have later (advice which is contrary to biology), and also introduces contraceptives to women as early as possible. What exactly are you expecting will happen when a woman foregone having during the times that best suited for her to have kids (15-25) and have spent at least 10 years on pharmaceutic products that alter their bodies, and are only beginning to start trying to having kids only after they are left with only 10% of their eggs and sometimes even less? What do you think will happen? So is it contraceptives? Not really it is all of these things combined. A 24 year old who was having casual sex in college (18-22) and starts having kids and getting off contraceptives at 24 will not have any problems conceiving, but a 30 year old after losing 90% of her eggs and having been on contraceptive for 10 years, right through college and the first 6 years of her working life, will have a much more difficult time, It is as if all the advice being given to women is bad advice unless they want to be childless without a family, slaves to corporate.
Money or no money, all men are high value men. It will always depends on how you apply yourself in "any situation". It's a mindset...it's how you maneuver self within any situation. Like will always be binary, 2 sides within one, like good and bad, opportunities and challenges...life is set and qualified to always be an experience of the 2 sides.It will always boil down to "HOW" men/women engage with such.
Guys, study how Penuel interviews his guests, he says he is having a conversation with them but trust me there is a skill and technique behind it🔥🔥🔥How he provokes Noxolo's thought process with his questions making her answer from her most honest and personal perspective, it keeps the conversation so authentic throughout
This true brother!!!!!!!!! 100000000000000% true!!!!!!!
I thought I was tripping when I first noticed this. He first asks a question then makes a short story to align the question with real life situations or the situation he wants u to have a bias perception. And that's fire🔥🔥🔥😂😂
A talent!!
one of the moments I love was when he was interviewing VT an he asked something like " do you consider yourself smart? " as he was answering he said " is that you being humble" and VT gave a perfect answer
I couldn't have said it any better.
Penuel knows how to pick his guests, you have to be able to think on your feet, he's 👌👌and his guests are equal to the task!
Please bhuti can you invite bab steve komphela because he has so much knowledge, wisdom and understanding not on only in football but in life as a whole
The amount of knowledge dropped on this episode is something that deserves a thesis in communities.
This is another reason why I never got used to my academia years ending. It’s really refreshing speaking to diplomats. Now all we do is spin on a chair all day and rot in a desk doing non-mentally stimulating things everyday.
I totally agree with you, noxolo is a well-articulated and intelligent lady.
There you have folks. This is why we watch The Convo Show. 🔥👊🏾🇿🇦
When she was speaking about high value man and high value woman, only facts were spoken. 🙌🙌🙌🙌📢✅✅✅ . Also Penuel’s take on a high value woman..I totally agree that purity & exclusivity takes precedence over beauty (although it also counts) regarding a high value woman.
Great episode!
Brilliant on-camera chemistry between them both.
Noxolo is a vibe for those that know, ❤.
I really enjoyed this episode and noxolo is such a well-informed lady, I agree with her thoughts on high-value men and contraceptives.
definition of a high value man. not Money but high Moral , High disciple (Self-Discipline & Purpose),Emotional Intelligence,Strong Leadership & Confidence ,Health & Fitness ,Mastery Over His Environment , but thats why women marry So called High Value Man with Money and forget a good Men.
and that is our biggest downfall he can have money and still be emotionally unavailable
How doomed we are as a people, we curse the birth of a child and we glorify abortion. Married or not married, rich or poor I don't care a child is a blessing ! You was also born probably not in an ideal time or situation but you survived and look at how you're blessed today.
This convo is deep , me I have always said that women are the reasons why there are shows like utatakho and khumbulekaya
As someone who's been in n out of cannabis now i understand my addiction S/O to you Boet Pen n Sis Noxolo you really elevated my consciousness throughout this episode. i suffered a lot of what you talking about besengicabanga ukth maybe i wasn't good enough coz of "societal norms". now I'm gonna embrace my mental state n work on myself as a person Danko is thank you bafethu🙌
I have enjoyed this show. She needs to come back ❤
On the topic of Cannabis, I started using CBD infused gummies for my anxiety. I take 5g a day, usually in the afternoon and they work well for me. I am not addicted to them because I can go weeks without taking any. I have also shared them with friends and they found that it helps alleviate pain and are less sad with their lives. And this was sparked from a conversation Penuel had with a gentleman here last year on the show about microdosing on mushrooms. So since they are expensive I opted to take CBD infused foods.
Where can I buy them or even LSD?
Owhhh she is very good at articulating herself I could watch this converse over and over literally hooked😂❤
Freedom without guidance leads to chaos!!
And responsibility.
True, Reason why Most man in prison are from SIngle Mothers is because of Too MUCH Freedom, When a Father is present A Male Child Grows up knowing that There is someone in authority Which Leads To ORDER & DISCIPLINE in a fathers Life, The Minute a Woman has FULL CONTROL on the Childs Life, this can Lead to the child Feeling SHE CAN DO WHATEVER She or He wants
It produced great results with The youth of 1967.
@@Nthabeleng507 u mean 1976, I don't think so, Many Jobs Nowadays Require You To speak Afrikaans , Even if U Have a Grade 10 They Willing to Hire U If U speak Afrikaans
I grew up Learning Zulu from Gr1-12 , It served No Purpose to me Except Communicatinh with My Parents
It's a 12 years Waste for Me, Unless U Somehow end up working For Izindaba at SABC 1 other than That It serves No Purpose
I love this girl!
Mxm 10/10 !!! You can argue with Jan van Rieberk!!!
Purity in the form of innocence and holistic approach towards life...
She's very in-tune with her self and senses. I wonder if she has some spiritual lessons she can share with us next time, because she shows great concern for so many matters, but calm about knowing all that.
I love your interaction guys Penual and Xolo, thank you for the Konvo
Very intelligent young lady I've seen her TikTok videos and she always speaks sense , this will be a very interesting interview.
I agree Bro, she's already dropping gems! 🙌
This sister explains me in every word as the man she will want as her man. I'm married to someone who almost dislike everything about me.
Definitely learned a lot from this convo...glad to see self-awareness still exist and that not everyone is influence by maimstream media even thpugh we live in a world that is.
This was a powerful conversation especially on the family matters I enjoyed the most.
I have been a fan for years and this episode was unmatched for me. 💯
I love the way this lady thinks 🤔 more young girls should follow her🌷
An excellent engagement, very informative, insightful, asibonge, keep up the great work and bring more of these engagements, we need them. Danko!!!
Ntokozo could become an iconic podcaster. It's up to her.
No way I spent 2hrs here, a very educative episode
As a 2000 ,i believe it when she says a high value man is man with money ,right now i am still finding my way trying to get the money ,no one sees me or even acknowledges the hard work i am putting .i am the first born at home and the only one working ,so i haven't met a girl who is willing to be on my side while i am still growing .but as soon as i am "Good," i can imagine how my dms would look like.
Money or no money, all men are high value men. It will always depends on how you apply yourself in "any situation". It's a mindset...it's how you maneuver self within any situation. Like will always be binary, 2 sides within one, like good and bad, opportunities and challenges...life is set and qualified to always be an experience of the 2 sides.It will always boil down to "HOW" men/women engage with such.
@lepantsula___ True🤝🤝
I really like the way you think ma'am and the way you unpack... i so wish you guy had enough time to unpack some of the issues .
❤
Dope Konvo, I just wish more people could see this. so much wisdom was shared here. It's the kind of insight that can shift perspective and spark deeper conversations.
She’s 100% right about the definition of a high value man. You need money 💰
You need a good character first. What's the point of loads of money with a bad character? Money doesn't make a man high value.
@ like they said, a lot of people will overlook red flags when you have money / have the looks
definition of a high value man. not Money but high Moral , High disciple (Self-Discipline & Purpose),Emotional Intelligence,Strong Leadership & Confidence ,Health & Fitness ,Mastery Over His Environment , but thats why women marry So called High Value Man with Money and forget a good Man
And you need to be a virgin to be a high value women
You still missed the point😂😂😂@@_theerealnono_7694
Eish,I would have really loved to hear why Penuel is saying love is an illness!
Because uthandol luyak'hlanyisa. Makes you do things that are out of character because of your love for someone.
This was such a great conversation, can't wait for my turn to sit at this table
BABE your energy is lit today. I LOVE YOU!
PENUEL U ARE LOVED AND INTELLIGENT❤❤
YOH PENUEL. MAY GOD KEEP YOU!
I think this convo needed a matured human myb like dj sbu in it cus ul r really mislead on some issues but great show n our youth needs these types of postcasts
I'm following 4 sure...I've learnt a lot
Wow king penual you have done it again brother, I'm learning do much , newcastle rising kzn
The brain is responsible for both voluntary and involuntary processes, even those we may not consciously notice. Involuntary actions, such as reflexes, breathing, and autonomic functions, are managed by different regions of the brain and spinal cord, while voluntary actions involve conscious control from the cerebral cortex. While we may not always be aware of these processes, the brain plays a fundamental role in regulating them all.
I lost a very wonderful woman last year and I feel like she was more emotional intelligent than me because she tried until she couldn't
takes a wise and strong man to admit this
I love their conversations, they are very unfiltered.
Big ups for bringing this wonderful, independent thinker, Ousi... she definitely hit a nerve when she talked about her ideal men being able to slaughter, and I just did my first slaughter ka December...
Penny please tell noxolo to write a book about love cos she is very intelligent about what she's saying 🤝🤝
A 5 year marriage completely defeats the purpose. Marriage is, by definition, permanent. Monogamy is defined as mating for life, not mating for five years with an option to renew. If you can’t handle the commitment, just don’t get married
@jancovander well said, so what happens to the CHILDREN when people are jumping around from marriage to marriage? What's f dad's new wife is abusive? What if mum's next husband is a paedophile?
These are the kind of conversations you get from dysfunctional people and/or people who grew up in dysfunctional homes
@@lekis5975great question
I fully agree with you
Oh girl you just described my father and that is literally my idea of a high value man also more often than not if you find a culturally inclined man you find a provider the therefore finance should not be a priority.
She wanted this heat on her when she posted that high value man video, it was well thought out
Eversince I came across Noxy's contents I'm hooked. She's an intelligent young lady, personally an ideal candidate to replace Naledi Pando..
shes Not smart, REAL man Dont look at Beauty as HIGH VALUE, Its VIRGINITY
You two would make a nice couple...
This conversation had to be a bit laid back and casual, but sometimes how you set things up Pen, it makes it seem like the speaker has to come prepared
What an awesome insight guys👏👏👏👏👏🙌
Dope Conversation 👏
Most interesting conversation what a way to start the year 🎉
Can Penuel please consider the possibility of inviting the citizens concerned host, katlego (politics & social content). Great episode once again
Eish man, that lady is a brilliant mfwethu. I really need her in this podcast. But I trust in Penuel. One day will see her.
Penuel is just so intelligent kodwa, he always asks questions that require a deep level of thinking.
I really like this lady
Panuel I will forever be a fan you guys are so clever every guest you bring learns me something new 🎉🎉🎉
Not spending time with yourself can cause issues with others. If you cant spend 10 minutes with your self you probably have a lot of problems with othera
Great Konvo
Nice video.What would then be the point of marriage ? Why would people choose to get married under contract vs just dating for 5 years?
Big Up to the show penuel and the gang 👏💯
On topic around 58:00, President Zuma suggested that children who impregnant/get pregnant while there are still in school should be isolated to discourage learners pregnancy. People can insults Zuma but we still need a solution to this crises
Going to prison for cheating or having a child before marriage is the most logical reasoning I have had.
Why are we trying to get everything right? I feel like what makes human kind interesting is not getting everything right in our lifetime after all the pursuits. Whether it’s obsessive love, caring love or whichever kind. We’ll always have flaws unfortunately and you can never have the right/perfect partner. All these efforts to try and shape our lives through therapy or whichever medium, is it really the way? Yes we are a broken society but i believe we should try and live life without having much pressure to get perfection, whether from love, our intimate partners, colleagues, family etc.
Try telling that to enigma 😂
So we should opt for chaos?
Everything, every act, thought, habit etc can be part of or a form of mental illness or an expression of it. I think its more important to try and get help so that you can get an alternative view of what could possibly be happening with you. The attitude and refusal to be helped/teachable is what causes all this pain. It takes a certain level of humility to learn/experience something properly.
When will we enjoy another Miranda Ntshangase episode?
Pen there’s the subconscious and conscious part of the mind-in a laymen’s term
Why is it a question of what are single mothers doing wrong in raisung their children instead of asking if the absence of a father is what's wrong?
Well said!
Great question, i also have a great question. Why procreate with people you know will dodge....the responsible ones are boring and not fun i guess. 👉👈🔄 The blaming game is not what we want in 2025
@@Zimboprenuer Our community is in a mess because parents are not instilling *values* in their children, and there is no sense of *collective responsibility.*
Back in the day, education began in the home, parents were constantly preaching virtues be it in the course of the day, or in the evening telling stories around the fire. Nowadays? Parents shoot out to go to work and come home tired. In terms of education they are more interested in whether the child has done their homework or if they have good grades. The only time they correct the child is when the child has done something wrong, and to this end they smack!
Also, intergenerational living allowed for other people to have an input in educating the child, be it grandparents or aunts and uncles! If you interrogate various African cultures, Aunties were responsible for teaching the girls about sex (how to keep ones legs together (virginity) and save the big O for matrimony, by masturbating, kegel exercises etc); likewise boys were taught how to rub off one on a girls thighs without penetration, and how to make a woman orgasm/squirt. Both girls and boys were encouraged to value virginity. If a boy got a girl pregnant he'd have to marry her, thru were expected to marry, or be stoned to death! Guys were just as vigilant to avoid out of wedlock sex, because they didn't want to impregnate a girl ND then part with their cattle (ilobola) for the wrong girl!!!
Also, girls and boys were divided into age sets and age groups. The girls considered each other sisters. Likewise, the boys considered each other brothers. If a boy impregnated a girl from a particular age set, the reputations of both age sets would be tainted, and the boy would have to pay a fine not only to the girl's father, but TO ALL THE GIRLS IN THAT AGE SET. Subsequently, collective responsibility encouraged both boys and girls to behave to avoid disgracing the age sets!
With urbanization came westernization. Colonisation and Apartheid were physically, spiritually, intellectually and psychologically oppressive. We have lost a lot of our values, who we were. With urbanization came the loosening of familial ties. In towns and cities, people took to behaving anyhowly because they could easily evade censure. Throw in the obssessive aping of western culture thanks to media influences such as TV and movies and it's wrap.
Little wonder we are having conversations about 5 year marriages, instead of how to raise children with morals, values and virtues, do that we can contract good marriages, build strong, families and lineages and leave behind strong legacies.
@@Zimboprenuer and how exactly do people know if the person who gets them pregnant is going to dodge?
Whataboutism. The biggest killer of society. And women are very good at it. We are addressing women they will want to address others.
Dope conversation 🎉
This was insightful
I like Penuel and am big fan of all his platforms from the very beginning but as a doctor I've always felt he doesn't like us very much for some reason
Penuel is a realist , always on point.
Women deal with the consequenses of having kids outside of wedlock by raising the kids alone. Even if the father is present, if he does not live with the child, the woman (who is most of the time the primary care giver) has all the responsibility, must compromise, her life must change.
Yey part time faculty at Gibs
I agree on laws and you look at the Arab/muslim society it has managed to stick to their laws and it’s working to a certain degree.
spirituality, religious, desire, bored, love , money, psychological problems, community, pressure, perfect, pretending , seeking , sickness, sex , blood , even spirituality possess the living, not the dead . so life is expanding sexually . a quiet place is when u take it day by day .
Penny you are the god question of asker 😂😂😂😂😂 am frozen that you had the balls to ask it like that salute question (31:51)😂
She's intelligent
This conversation is too central, it's not making me angry or happy 😂
nothing is moving until it is advertised.
Option to renew and return lobola if not renewed 😅
Corinthians 3:19 King James Version (KJV)For the wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. For it is written, He taketh the wise in their own craftiness.
Like this like this like this 👍🏽 👍🏽 👍🏽 ❤❤❤
The reflex arc is what Pen is talk about but that only applies in dangerous that basically require your reflex, what happens when you hand feels a very hot stove? Exactly that’s the reflex arc it basically bypasses the brain to get a quicker response to pain or touch… what happens when you feel like something is crawling on you, you rush to hit it or grab it. unexpected cold water in the shower? You move away from it. That’s your reflexes due to the reflex arc other than the that brain is the HQ of the body.
Social media doesn’t represent an entire community. Out of a million people that part take and consume on social media regularly , there are millions of people who live in an entire different life from what we discuss on social media platforms. So the whole conversations about high value men and the likes are just based on algorithms and the limited perceptions we have as an online community.
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Penuel: Kmele sfike ngama overall ??😳
Noxolo: YES
Penuel: Ewuh 😞
@ushaymamba The girl is confused, in one breathe, she says she's not about culture cause she's a rebel, and then she turns around and says she needs a man who knows how to slaughter during a funeral. The slaughtering is zinto za culture angithi?
This chick is just shooting her mouth off, her opinion is fundamentally based on NOTHING other than the now. A mature tight thinking person filters these things from a historical and political perspective.
The mother will never tell her kids, "I was the wrong person that is why I broke up with you father" or even," I denied your father access to visit you..." you'll never hear stories like that. It is always the father who is a villain and antagonist in the story. We hate our fathers and we wonder why we have so many problems in this world particularly the black people.
Christoff Aucamp in the live comments:
- Nicotine is addictive, but not bad for you.
- Tar is bad for you.
You get hooked by Nicotine, then Tar destroys you.
Greetings Mr, please consider a very brilliant woman of @citizensconcerned, Katlego Moagi.
virginity is equated with being a high-value woman
we discovered most marriages long tym ended during 70s further down
Penuel ngivume wena mina mfwethu
there people who are not interested in love and stories like me . 😅😅😅😅😅
Just like Nicotine in Tobacco is addictive , The THC compound in Cannabis can be addictive due to its psychoactive component
Having laws that are centered around cheating is just too far-fetched for me.
Why have we made getting older such a bad thing. Getting older means you now know better, you're wiser so you will definitely now want to do things differently, and unfortunately/fortunately the "turning to God" is what most turn to, but is that such a bad thing?
Hi team, if the host and the guest would slightly turn at an angle because the side view disengages us abit I feel like we are on the side spectating, making it hard to connect. Just my opinion anyway amazing work 👌🏼
This conversation around 6:19 - 10:18 about contraceptives is incomplete and misleading. It is not helpful to have a conversation when you leave out a lot of relevant information.
Let's begin with reproductive biology of functional adult woman. Women are at their reproductive peaks between the ages of 15 years old to 25 years old. I begin with 15 even though 15 is not a legal age for consent in majority of nations in the world, but I have to begin there because I'm limiting this discussion just to biology of reproduction.
Women 50 years ago and beyond everywhere in the world started having children around 14-16 years of age, and would continue to have children right up to 25-28. Often ending with 7-10 children, with other various children who would have died in child birth or after child birth.
Also women lose 90% of all their eggs by the time their 30 years old, and they have lost95%-98% by the time their 40 years old. 35 years old is considered Geriatric pregnancy age or not (the more politically correct Advanced Maternal Age), and 40 years old is considered the Very Advanced maternal Age.
So enter modern world which tells women that they should wait and not have kids early, and have later (advice which is contrary to biology), and also introduces contraceptives to women as early as possible.
What exactly are you expecting will happen when a woman foregone having during the times that best suited for her to have kids (15-25) and have spent at least 10 years on pharmaceutic products that alter their bodies, and are only beginning to start trying to having kids only after they are left with only 10% of their eggs and sometimes even less?
What do you think will happen?
So is it contraceptives? Not really it is all of these things combined.
A 24 year old who was having casual sex in college (18-22) and starts having kids and getting off contraceptives at 24 will not have any problems conceiving, but a 30 year old after losing 90% of her eggs and having been on contraceptive for 10 years, right through college and the first 6 years of her working life, will have a much more difficult time,
It is as if all the advice being given to women is bad advice unless they want to be childless without a family, slaves to corporate.
I feel like Penuel just overpowered her, but good conversation, nonetheless.
Money or no money, all men are high value men. It will always depends on how you apply yourself in "any situation". It's a mindset...it's how you maneuver self within any situation. Like will always be binary, 2 sides within one, like good and bad, opportunities and challenges...life is set and qualified to always be an experience of the 2 sides.It will always boil down to "HOW" men/women engage with such.
the matter is the problem per child that is born 😊😊😊😊😊.