What women want
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David Buss is an evolutionary psychologist at UT Austin. He is one of the founders of the field of evolutionary psychology. His current research is on sex differences in mate selection, mate attraction, infidelity, and the emotions of jealousy, lust, and love.
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I like how Lex is seeking relationship advice so he contacts the leading American evolutionary psychologist on dating and sex. This is a resourceful man!
its not that complicated man. you just gotta keep messing up. the more you mess up the more you know what to not do next time. Then its a no biggie. you'll probably sometimes get nervous but you'll be aight.
@@yarik12341 I got dumped 5 times in one week and then jumped off a bridge. Boy did I learn my lesson
with this shitty dating market...
even world expert can't help him or anyone else LOL
@@antagonist8629 😆
Evolutionary psychology is a sham. They're the new mystics - pulling out the crystal ball that evolutionary "psychology" is.
It betrays the same old, same old: desire for the unearned, desire for automatic knowledge - without expending effort.
'What women want' clip is 2x longer than 'What men want' clip, interesting.
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Was thinking about exactly the same. 😄 But eventually the whole clip included some other topics as well (which included talking about men's taste as well).
😂😂
My thoughts exactly
😂😂 becoz men will be men
Men want a woman without a history and women want a man with a future
straight to the point :)
This is good
Woman don't want a man with a future. They want a rich guy already. How many "Miss Universe" you see stick with a poor or decent guy til he rich ?
Man don't have any problem with any thing of woman beside look. Janitor, Teacher, Police Woman, House Keeper,....etc as long as she's hot, there is nothing else to thing about.
That's fact. Look at Amber Heard, the fact that James Franco could have any woman he want, but he still f*vk AH say that man doesn't have any problem with woman as long as she's hot. There is tons of guy want to deep ball Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande, Miley Cyrus even they f*vk with tons of guy.
Guy who want a 18+ virgin mostly sore loser can't get laid.
I like men who have a future and women who have a past.”
― Oscar Wilde
Well thought 💭
:)
High confidence
High potential
Intelligence
Moral decency
Leadership amongst other men
Physically attractive
Eye contact
Good dress sense
All things I’ve found to play apart in females being attracted to a man
@@tropicalterrarium1742 the characteristics I’ve shown demonstrate high value. If women like you it’s because you have these and more characteristics of high value so women liking men that other women like is a result of high value, not just because they’re high sought after by women
Nice
@@DR650-x2j that’s the point. Women want men that want themselves and are sure of themselves.
Also for the most part if you have all these attributes you are a financial magnet or you already have wealth.
moral decency lol
Theres always the women who will look past alot of that for attractiveness.
- What do women want?
"Who cares" - Roger Sterling, Mad Men.
Classic Rog.
@Advice from a stupid cat what a stupid quote. On everything I hold dear, I do not need a woman. The freedom and inner peace that comes with being single and not caring about the opposite sex or subjecting yourself to a master-slave relationship is second to none. And make no mistake about it, caring what women want and giving a woman what she wants just so you can taste the fruit…the juice just isn’t worth the squeeze. I’d rather masturbate than subject myself to that bs.
What do women want? Who cares.
If a woman has an affair, she no longer loves you. See through the lies and move on.
That's the male ego protecting itself.
@@JPS-sc1zn Not so simple for her, it seems...
@@JPS-sc1zn That's not love. That's commitment to an ideal. And you never loved her if all you saw her as was as a sex slave. Humans fuck up and have needs. Cheating is often the result of a need not being met, especially for women. You can love someone deeply and still fuck another person or have feelings for another person. That's how humans are designed biologically.
Yep 👌🏼
@@JPS-sc1zn it’s a Bot. Don’t worry you’re right 👌🏼
I've always thought these conversations have a funny element to them; Women are all around us, they're in our families, they're in our work place, they speak the same language, they could presumably give us all these answers, but they're either totally unaware of the workings of their own mechanisms, or can't reliably interpret them, so we have to hypothesize about them as if they're a different species that we can't directly communicate with. There's something absurdly silly about it all.
Because they Will lie when asked.
I'm a mathematician. I don't work with them nor do we speak the same language(; formally we do, but they can't speak direcly.)
The same thing is, if some of them ask you something. Sometimes they just cry, try to hit me or just ask random people, until they get some other response...
I wonder, how they survive without clearing around them or if they also get responses, that males get.
You don't ask a fish how to catch a fish, you ask a fisherman.
I once had a older lady tell me to never try to understand women as a warning. Says a lot actually.
Lol 😂 👵
People here are saying humor is the best. But what if you're automatically funnier if she likes you? I've found this to be the case. Some women say a guy has to make her laugh, but if s girl likes you she usually will laugh at the littlest things.
So I would argue that attraction causes men to have more humor in her eyes, not the other way around.
Absolutely, if a woman doesn't like you or isn't attracted to you you can be Eddy Murphy and she won't find you funny, she'll think you're obnoxious.
I am a man and while I generally agree with you, I also think it works the other way around as well.
Women will think you're funnier if you're attractive, but also think you're more attractive if you were funny.
She could be undecided when it comes to you, so human will certainly tip the scale in your favor
Well saidb
But humour work for sure but not necessarily in short term. It helps in the start of conversation provides an ease to start
Be a man of value to the world. Do the right thing without letting people walk all over you. Be a leader and have good morals. Also, being detached to the outcome and not being needy is huge. After years of studying game I’ve realized there really aren’t any shortcuts. You just have to work on yourself and become a man who has earned the right to choose the women or woman he wants.
yeah, just be a good person
Women don’t care about that stuff. It’s looks, game, then status. Everything else is a bonus
@@folatooreal8582 a man looks his best when he’s DISCIPLINED and takes care of his body. When he’s COMMITTED to his health, fitness, grooming, etc. Someone who lacks character isn’t going to look their best. Having game is part of understanding that it’s not about being entitled to the woman, but about what you can provide her in exchange for her company. Again, it’s about giving and not just receiving, which relates to game. I also mentioned detachment which is part of game. Your status is also higher if you’re a leader. If you’re the scrub in your group and not the leader than you don’t have very high status, right? It gets much easier when you realize that it all ties together.
Of course it’s about looks, game and status. I could go on and on about it in more detail. I think what I’ve said so far is more helpful than just telling someone it’s about looks, game and status. The average person struggling with women doesn’t know why their looks, game and status aren’t working. They need to start with the basics otherwise women will pick up on their lack of character. There are exceptions to the rule but I’m talking about long term successful relationships.
@@IvanBustos NO what I said was actually far less convoluted and confusing than what you said. looks, game status, so simple a little kid could understand it. It's when you start adding all this other stuff like moral character etc that people get confused. the fact you needed a three-paragraph answer to explain what you really meant proves that.
@@folatooreal8582 there is nothing convoluted or confusing about what I said. I said everything plain and simple. What you’re trying to do is over simplify things without really saying anything at all. I can play that game too. Money, power, respect. You need to elaborate otherwise you’re just throwing words out there. Don’t act like women don’t care about all the things I said, because all women care about those things. You’re wrong about that for sure. Idk what kinda women you actually date, but if they don’t go for a man of character and values then they must not be worth being with.
"Why does boob size matter?"
"This isn't something I've studied..."
"Scientifically."
"Yeah."
Legend.
Its pretty obvious why it matters considering their actual function and if something is also for show, the more it stands out the better. That said, shape also matters; knees to nipples is not a good look.
quite simple... no boobs = its a man.
Just remembered when Baron Sasha Cohen as Ali G asked Jerome Friedman why that girls Babylons defy gravity
Lol. That was hilarious
Never sign a contract with someone who gets rewarded for breaking it
Marriage
WOW! ✅💯
no shit sherlock
Dude some ppl can’t get over divorce easily male or females so I doubt there rewarded and both man and woman can get rewarded
@pennilessjester211 Is this why you're penniless?
'This is something I haven't studied directly... Scientifically' We need more people like this wonderful man in the scientific society. He is funny and honest and tries to loosen it up as best as he can. Such a good chemistry in this episode. Calm, collected yet really compelling in a entertaining way. Thank you!
lol i caught that too
Hearing Lex say "cushion for the pushin'" made my day
Lol I know right 😂
When I was learning guitar, I learned to play songs by ear. I was absolutely obsessed with music and I just *had* to know how my favourite riffs and solos were played so I could feel the power of playing them myself. Eventually I became able to hear exactly how almost every song I heard was being played as I heard it. Now I am like a junky, 99% of music is not interesting enough to keep my attention. Disenchanted with music I spend far more time chasing a song with something that will give me a novelty high than I do listening to and enjoying music.
I have a feeling the more we learn about mating psychology the less viscerally we can experience it. We weren't designed to understand implicitly the things evolution drove us toward enjoying. I sometimes wish we could go back to just enjoying life in its complex simplicity.
This is truly profound
Amen, amen. I've been thinking lately how trying to understand everything is ruining my mind.
Now that's a Novel Idea, Thanks for sharing. !
If you haven’t, please watch the movie Everything, Everwhere, All At Once!
You are touching on some very introspective truths.
Very cool concept
Chris Rock already covered this in one of his standups- 'What do women want? -'Everything!
And more
As a guy. Have integrity. Stand on your principles. Work hard. Be humble. Learn a martial arts discipline and remember - nobody gives a shit so be yourself and live your life as happy as possible. Peace ✌️ ya
Correction: Don't work hard, work efficient.
@@GreenEnvy. Agreed. Work smart, not hard.
@@Sushi-Katana Working smart is just a given. There are too many people who work smart. You have to work smart and hard.
He said women don’t like a Mr. universe type body, please don’t translate that into wanting more of a dad bod
Too late
Yeah, athletes absolutely clean house with women. A super fit man doesn't look like an inflated bodybuilder
@@johnnybyrne9999 good one😆😆
@@canchero724 My tubby ass learned this as soon as I got into shape again. Women often say they don’t like interacting with men out of fear, but apparently looking more attractive to them makes you less f a threat lmao
Im convinced dad bod is a conspiracy pushed by people who don't want to go workout
It is interesting to witness so many celebrities trying to wear absurd looking clothes, signalling that they are high status and different from the regular folks. Essentially what they are indirectly signalling is, I think, "Look at me, I can survive and thrive despite looking this absurd."
Which is why to me, its crazy how the hyper rich and famous are all dressing like us the regular folks.
Notice how balenciaga is making a parody with his exagerated clothes.
Kardashians wearing sneakers and appropriating streatwear.
@@alejandroserrano7755 Well, yes, we all face the challenge of fitting in with an ingroup and distancing from the outgroup simultaneously. Furthermore, people also like to distinguish themselves from their ingroup members in the hope of ascending the status hierarchy. Whatever serves that purpose "clothing, absurd idelogies, etc" will be adopted.
The CONGOLESE DANDIES
“Maybe we are not good at selecting, or maybe we’re not good at monogamy.”
Or maybe we are not good at commitment anymore, and people don’t have same values and morals.
And our Gods now are money and pleasure. Meaning people prioritize these two (money and pleasure) than marriage and partnership.
Yes I want to be attracted to my mate and beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I'm not into superficial status. My goal is to be healthy and I've always had a curvy/slim figure.
.. and a beautiful smile
He didn't say women want dad bods...smh...
He said women want on average lean and muscular guys but not as swole as pro bodybuilders...
Please don't alter your guest words.
Some women think Dad Bods are hot surprisingly. Im not one, but I know them that do. I guess its kinda likw men and beards. So, still proves attraction isn't a one size fits all! Beauty is still in the eye of the beholder. I know this to be true because with My Bestie we rarely are attracted to the same guy. So it's a good thing for different tastes and preferences!
So basically Kevin Costner.
@@kevinfinnerty8414 Well I like him in "The Field of Dreams", but he's not My Dream Guy body type. Probably some women, Yes, just not mine. Lol ☺️
@musclesimp I guess I define a dad bod clearly. It's that unhealthy spare tire around the middle that makes it harder on their organs, more susceptible to heart disease and or heart attacks. To me it's the belly that over hangs or puffs out that used to be flatter. Whether its from drinking or overeating. The kind that majority of men seem to get, especially after marriage, kids etc. Some men, work at not letting themselves go, others don't put the effort into staying healthy or in shape. And the same goes for women, but for us it's different. I wouldn't know the changes that being pregnant bring upon a woman's body. So, I can't think its as difficult for a man to keep in shape.
Like men, all women want something different, and that different changes depending on mood, so don't get too caught up in what they want, worry about what you want. If your mother was a narcissist, then chances are you'll be attracted to a narcissists who catches you in her web.
In regards to the penis size question:
In most cultures, the sex organs are covered until just before the sex act. By that time, most women are already moving forward with sexual intercourse.
So, unless the male’s performance is underwhelming, I doubt penis size is a concern - unless the male is on either end of the size spectrum.
Lol men have made it to be covered because that use to be a sign that man is most likely a stronger male . 😂
@@1rider3bluee31 how does that correlate. Height and muscle would be far more bigger signs of strength yet those werent covered.
Thank God! I’m safe then!!
@@1rider3bluee31 what a dumb thing to say.
@@Keno313 wrong, you can have all the height , and muscle you want but with a micro penis. Come on man. Its all about mental strenght.
So basically they find you the most attractive when you're the most independent. Where nothing is holding you and you don't depend on anything nor anymore. Got it.
So basically when you need them the least is when they want you the most, I’m sure that leads to long lasting relationships 😑
That’s because that’s their best opportunity to find attach themself to you.
Dont hate the player hate the game … women when giving birth is very vulnerable the least thing she needs is someone who is dependent …
Spot on!
When my kids asked me why people have sex, I replied, "to procreate". That's my story and sticking to it.
Just make sure you prepare them for any kind of disappointments, better safe than sorry. My mum never learned anything about sex, she had to learn on her own and didn't want to commit the same mistake with me.
I think the boob thing, or the big boob thing, is at least partially connected to clothing. That is breasts are a dimorphic signifier, but are largely covered up by clothing. So men's attraction to big boobs is partially because they stand out despite the clothing and get men's brains all revved up. But if we were all running around sans clothes, the size of boobs might lose some of their power.
That's an interesting thought and I think you may be onto something. I think it's a good point. There may be something to the element of mystery and imagination that makes big boobs so desirable. And if women didn't believe men wanted bigger boobs, I doubt there'd be the need for implants. If you think about it what happens in Nudist Colonies. I mean do they all just have some crazy amount of self control being around naked people all the time. It would be an interesting experiment. If there are any "Nudists" or those that have lived in one of those places or visited, I'd be curious of your perspective on this. Thanks.
Boobs will always retain their power
I mean it can also signal how much a woman can breastfeed, so I have heard that women that have too small of a chest might have the problem of running out of breastmilk for the baby, whereas women with lager chests, well that isnt a problem for them - of course there must also be a cultural side to the matter on HOW MUCH men are attracted to breasts depending on the time and the place, and the era that men find themselves in, but there must be some evolutionary factor in the reason why. After all, breasts are essential in feeding babies and therefore in procreation, whereas other parts of the body, such as the knees, have no part in procreation, and are not deemed attractive in most cultures (none that I have heard of)
Stats are now showing, males are more attracted to a larger rear end then what's at the front.
Men are attracted to firm breast and wide hip to waist ratio not bigger breast because firm breast means youth and fertility and wide hip means she can conceive healthy baby without problem like nowadays we have c section for narrow hip women
Simple, they want someone that's handsome, 6ft or over , and has money
Lex's face when he is told that 70% of the side girl fall in love. I was told many years ago from a girl, "my v is attached to my heart".
U can't hide lex, I see u taking notes
I’m in my 30s and don’t feel like I’ll ever find a partner at this point. Every decade or so the expectations get higher and higher from what they think you can do for them and it becomes increasingly taxing as a man to try to keep this whole charade going. The most peace I had in my life were the years where I was completely single and not looking for women to be in a relationship with. Worked on my goals and dreams and tried things that I otherwise would not have. I feel like humanity still has many evolutionary road blocks that it needs to get over because it doesn’t mesh with our current cultures.
Women want someone to love and be loved in turn. That’s what PEOPLE want. Your autistic incel take on “women” as a group most likely makes them think you’re a freak and to stay away.
This doesn't make sense to me. I'm married but I feel like if I had to like for a game show or something could find and get another suitable wife in 3 or 4 weeks if I had nothing else I had to do.
Absolutely delusional and borderline idiotic, Merlin. In 3-4 weeks you know nothing about the person and would fall in a trap in 99% cases. Enjoy the divorce and donating 50% of your net worth.
Marry a muslim women
Go to a psychic, a legit one will talk about meditation practices that she uses and recommends to you.
Lex talking with a floating head. this is what i singed up for! oh and the content is nice too
That is what women want, floating heads with knowledge.
That really made me laugh at out loud 😂😂😂😂😂
Dr. Buss is correct re. "size" mattering. It's correlative to a woman's physiological needs, I believe. The "size" only matters in terms of how it "fits" with the woman's anatomy and response. Every woman is different. Keep the faith. There is someone that "fits" everyone--- physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. :) In terms of height and breadth of shoulders, I see it as also correlating to the woman. I'm a tall woman with broad shoulders, so having someone taller with strong, broad shoulders is attractive. Women want men to be *more*. That's my theory. Ha. Taller, larger, smarter, more emotionally self-possessed, more secure, more of a leader, including spiritually. Did I mention smarter? ;) Someone she can look up to, be stimulated by, feel safe with, and be proud of. And I don't think this is age-dependent. I'm over 50 and nothing has changed.
Very true. I’m just under 5’4 but I’ve noticed I’ve developed a preference for men just above my height (around 5’7-5’9) after I dated a guy who I loved that was that height. I still date tall guys (in fact, I date more above average height men than below) but the last couple of guys I got really attached to were just slightly taller than me.
So they want someone superior to them
You want a man to be more than you, then you hate being less than.. and what the fuck do you have to offer? To you have huge tits? Doubt it.
@@Didja1980 yep, they want someone superior and who provides more and then they like to call it an equal relationship. Lol.
@murphymomof9 This is why I feel women should not have power and control in society. Most women will agree that they want a man who is more than them. That is their nature. They want men to be providers and protectors. They want men to lead. Having a society that favors entitled, narcissistic women that offers more opportunities and privileges to them at the expense of men is a recipe for disaster and guarantees the collapse of all social mores and values. The signs are clearly showing that we are slowly circling the drain.
In regards to the breast question, it's very important to highlight that Human Females are one, if not the only animal to have permanently enlarged breasts, this is a fact. However if you ask why, you might become very confused. Breasts for most animals develop while nursing, the female becomes engorged, nurses her child, and the breasts eventually shrinks back to its original size. The reason for this is because breasts themselves are very encumbering, if you think from the perspective of hunter/gatherers, having 2 spheres of fat bouncing on your chest as you hunt an animal seems very counter-intuitive, so again, why have them?
The reason isn't what many people want to hear, but nature isn't concerned with equality. Breasts are one of many commodities women have to attract a male, and in doing so the women circumvents the necessity of having to hunt herself. Therefore, from an evolutionary perspective, the further women 'lean' into developing physical, sexual commodities, the less they will be responsible to hunt, and they themselves will be much safer because again they aren't hunting.
Evolution ALWAYS has a purpose, NOTHING is wasted, evolution only progresses if it reaps benefits. The implication of this is that women sexualizing themselves evolutionary, actually lead to so many benefits, that's the route they went down.
However for men this isn't just some treat they get to enjoy, they will compete for what they perceive as the most fertile female. This is identified again by the physical attributes of the woman. This again benefits women because this process is a self fulfilling prophecy, the dominate male will conquer the weaker males, ensuring the women gets the male with the best genes.
So, although women in modern society hate the idea of being sexualized, it was exactly that trait which benefitted women for the majority of Humanities existence.
Other traits include soft skin, women typically have less ridged facial features, wider hips to assist in birth, while doubling as a desirable sexual trait, similar to breasts.
Overall it's very interesting to muddle through this, and I could be entirely wrong, however this is my interpretation.
Also, breasts double as floatation assists. In order to escape predatory animals on land, women would be safest going into the water. (This assumes the camp was in a place with no hippos or crocodiles) They might have to wait in water too deep for predators for a little while with their children clinging to them. Subcutaneous fat and fat gathered at the chest level would make women more buoyant. As you say--evolution doesn't waste anything.
Women always had breasts that’s not something that evolved onto their bodies. The first humans had breasts.
@@MarcAndrewII Yes but they increased in size over our evolution
@@InferiorGamer I believe it’s because all the hormones they put in foods actually…. Women in Africa always had HUGE breasts and butts
@@MarcAndrewII That's false
If you guys are really into this subject, I would suggest to add the sociological aspect into the mix as well. One of the best in the business is Stéphane Edouard. He is French, but if you could get his videos translated, you gonna make tremendous progress in your understanding.
I have no clue what they want, man. But for sure the whole flowers, chocolates, teddy bears and romantic dinners angle doesn't work because I have tried it a lot and failed spectacularly every single time. They just get used to it and it doesn't impress them at all. My favorite was that one time when I organized a candlelit dinner on one of the rooftop buildings in my city and the entire time she wouldn't stop talking about her hilarious dance class instructor who always used her to demonstrate the moves to the class and told funny jokes and invited her to help him with his other classes. Wow I was so happy I spent so much time and money on organizing this event so I can hear about some other dude hitting on her. Trully riveting experience.
Careful you gonna get called an incel
What's yours will find you someday. You don't have to push it bro.
Good learning experiences I guess. Probably tone it down a bit on the next date. Just be neutral. It seems like you were showing alot of interest.
I would recommend reading the book "no more Mr. Nice Guy", I think it would help you out based on your story. It sure helped me bc I was like this too
The sound Lex makes at 8:56 is an acceptable response to just about anything
:p
I think we as humans need to recognize our inherent vanity before we can truly make ethical and proper decisions in relationships
Vanity isn't inherent though. If you change vanity to value, I think you'd be right.
The only thing that is not vanity: would be to lay down and starve till you die. Every desire in this world, including the desire to eat is vanity.
@@100mphFastball I see we're not using the same dictionary. What do you think vanity means, and how is not starving vain?
@@humblecatpie4512 why do you want to eat? To fulfill your vain desires, that’s why. No other reason. There is nothing under the sun that is not vanity. You want to believe you’re not vain but, your entire existence is vanity.
@@100mphFastball you didn't define vanity or vain. Can you? I would find it hard to believe you can recognize vanity if you didn't know the definition.
Women simply just want a smart, sensitive, sweet, 6'4" muscle bound Abercrombie model jock billionaire who lives to fulfill all of their needs and wants. Is that too much to ask?
Dude Lex Hileious questions, " Do women care about biceps, thas what I am asking", Love it bro
We all have a image of a perfect mate reality is we settle with what we can attract.
Sometimes what you settle for turns out to be so much better than what you thought you wanted
13:04 - Variability in female anatomy should not be discounted. The old saw that "all vaginas are the same" is simply not true. The female reproductive anatomy is greatly varied in size and shape. To put a fine point on it, some vaginas are snug at two fingers, and other can accommodate an entire hand. It appears that female "size queens" may simply be looking for "the right fit". Too be sure some women love the novelty of a "large penis", but living with one on a day-to-day basis is not preferable. And yet, around this very point a Madison Avenue marketing industry has developed to cater to male insecurities about themselves. The human psychological condition is frail, vulnerable, ultimately self-centered, and perhaps our greatest existential undoing.
The attraction to dad bod is not at all about repulsion from narcissism. It’s 100% about indicating long term stability and access to resources
"Women tend to prefer men who are physically fit and well-toned, but not muscle bound."
I've been sayin this for a long time. Even More Plates More Dates on youtube said it best. Going to the gym and getting fit is great, and definitely attracts women. But at some point, when your muscles reach a certain size and goes beyond, the only ones who will be impressed will be other men.
Most women don't give two shits about overly big muscles. If anything, it scares most of them away. Something like Brad Pitt in Fight Club is the LIMIT if we're talking about attracting women purely from a body composition perspective. Going beyond that is a male gaze magnet.
Dad bod is out of shape. It's not super out of shape. It's on the level of when a single guy says "I'm outta shape, need to get back in it," the friend doesn't think/say "No, you're fine," but instead "Yeah, getting back into shape after the winter weight is what we gotta do." It's noticeable, but nothing a generic Spring workout routine won't get rid of.
Sense of humor always worked far beyond abs in my experience
Why not both?
@@HORNGEN4 Humor is something you don't need to work at, fat people tend to have self-deprecating humor, the others take themselves too seriously.
@@carpecervisiam9366 That's a real generalization. I think being fit is a sign of self-respect, and it's totally possible to have both self-respect and not take yourself too seriously. I understand your point.
U never had abs 🤣
@@jakethomas6583 Yes I have abdominal muscles, otherwise my organs would fall out on the ground, I just choose to keep them warm with a thick layer of subcutaneous fat
Wow what a cool dude. I like that he gives examples in pretty much every question. Makes things very clear to put in perspective.
There are young, middle and older women. They each have different needs due to their stage in life. Don't think "one type fits all". Chemistry is the key to it all, in my years of experience.
What we need to do is restrict women and be harsher with them to keep them in check! Giving them sexual liberation was the worse thing that could have happened to the western culture.
He is so wise and articulate, i can listen to him all day! Plus it seems like the interviewer is making and asking these questions for himself to get laid.
Even women don't know what women want, it depends on the day of the week.
Hour!
Any guy on here that struggles with women and are upset about it, I ask you, do you play video games? If you aren’t willing to give that up to find a “mate” then stop complaining because what girl or woman would be attracted to that honestly. Nobody’s gonna think you’re sexy if you aren’t sexy. Get a clue.
god tier bait
@@callanc3925I appreciate it, but I wasn’t intending it as bait, like in a trolling way. I just mean it lol.
@@lr2357 I think thats some very specific advice for basement dweller video game players. I know a lot of dudes that play video games but are able to get some pussy because their skin sees the sun at least once a day
he didn't say they prefer a "Dad bod", a Dad bod is big but not in great shape e.g. Louis CK or Ricky Gervais. He said they prefer LEAN in shape men - think Ronaldo, David Beckham as opposed to Dwyane Johnson
Its super easy and complex at the same time.
Most women want stability = For you to have recources for her to use when she needs it for whatever it is.
YOU cant make a woman happy but she needs tools och toys so she can be tolerable.
Women are attracted to the law of sixes:
Make six figures
Be six feet tall
Have a six pack
Have at least six inches
Have six weeks of vacation
Pretty simple....lol.
Superficial women are attracted to superficial men. Great relationships are built on character, trust and reciprocity. If you can spot the superficial people, and if you can build yourself f into a man of character, a man of his word you will have a chance to meet a woman that embodies similar traits and then you will have a chance at a lifelong relationship in which both of you support each other, love each other and thrive.
If you are interested in topics related to manhood, presented in a challenging way, I invite you to use the resources on the Mastery Order Channel and challenge yourself with some ideas about masculinity to become the kind of man you would look up to.
We can only better ourselves together, as men among men, so I invite you to use what I share and, of course, share your own opinions so that others can benefit from them as well.
Looking forward to your points of view.
All the best to you!
@@MasteryOrder You may be right but at present the world is full of superficial women thanks to the drug known as social media. You can certainly better yourself but finding a woman who feels the same is like finding a needle in a haystack that's laying in a bigger haystack. Good luck.
@@paulmurphy8993 I already found my other half a long time ago, and am happily married for a decade. Indeed trustworthy women of character as rare, just as rare as trustworthy men of character.
But if you strive to become a man like that you will never be attracted to superficial women at all, and your chances of observing and connecting with women that embody similar traits will increase.
All the best to you!
@@MasteryOrder Great Advice to Paul and for all Men! Thanks for sharing.
@@paulmurphy8993 My advice then is find the women that aren't on Social Media and then you'll better your odds that you won't find a superficial one. And as was given, if you yourself aren't superficial and build traits within yourself that you would desire in a partner, then that's what you'll attract. And who you'll end up being with is your "Needle in the Haystack". You attract who you are not what you want to attract. So just embody the good man you are and you'll find a good woman to match. I call it being in Allignment. Good Luck to you Paul!
Woman want one thing: *MORE* , never ending *more* , regardless of that it is, if they want it , they want *more*
Exactly. More attention, more money, more drama.
His "mate switching hypothesis" already exists. It's called hypergamy and monkey branching
Edit: also, the dad bod meme is just virtue signaling. That's not truly desired
Strong dad bod is probably attractive in the way that thick/curvy can be.
Dad bods being mainstream is a virtue signal, but there are definitely women who prefer it. However, you’ll have a much better time in general if you look athletic (not gym bro, athletic) and well kept. Guys who rock the dad bod often have a different exceptional trait that does the heavy lifting. This is why many bigger guys who are good with women often have great voices or are hilarious people. But most guys aren’t like that and would be better served trying to loom presentable
Physically what women are attracted to based on the scientific studies I have read. 1- Height generally ranks the highest as creating visual attraction, tied at 2nd place is hip to shoulder ratio and pens size, the optimal hip to shoulder ratio being the golden ratio. Also all humans are drawn to people with better facial symmetry. A couple of interesting random studies I read, one showed that women's level of attraction to men with more square jaw lines increased to a higher level when they were ovulating, and another study I read showed that when a woman is ovulating that men found the sound of her voice more attractive then when she wasn't.
As always, another great interview from Lex👏🏼👏🏼
Women want both - we wish we could have Prince Charming, gorgeous, rich, loyal, nice - but fantasy isn't reality.
The old advice for wealthy girls was "It's just as easy to fall in love with a rich boy as a poor boy."
Daisy Buchanan (The Great Gatsby) "Rich girls don't marry poor boys, Jay Gatsby. Didn't you know? Rich girls don't marry poor boys."
For women, money is security, and that's major. We're nesters. We love a safe, secure nest - especially a comfortable, pretty one.
Think of how much women love beautiful houses, furnishings.
Yikes, expectations are high it seems, just gonna work on myself and go monk mode
Great video I wish it was a longer discussion , I’ve listened to David Buss speak before & has interesting points. I would like to add that dealing with affairs (generalizing) 70% women who’ve had affairs do build an emotional connection hence falling in some fashion of love. And affairs that female teachers have with young men can’t because of the young man’s status or earning potential. I believe it’s a desire for novelty. Women and men differ when it comes to long term monogamy. Women on average tire of monogamy after 1-3 years factoring in a history of having many sexual partners, men who tire of sex after is generally 9-12 years. For women oxytocin is a bonding hormone and like dopamine it’s addictive. After a high number of partners it effects bonding to a degree. For men it’s vasopressin that is the bonding hormone. This could be argued against but the release of high amounts of oxytocin for women during sex and breastfeeding is an element in pair bonding. The amusing point about oxytocin for men it causes the penis to become flaccid after completion. The mention of penis size, an average size of erect penis is 5.1” and many women don’t prefer a large penis during monogamy so the itch to have a hung partner might be for a one night stand or an affair. This is probably more biological I’m male so I don’t know. Fashion is interesting because of the color red having a sexual appeal and of course the studies done on how high heels accentuate a woman’s appearance and appeal.
The points about a man being a provider, some of the material I’ve read a woman (again generalizing) prefer a mate to have earning potential for the future. Interesting is the fact that around 30% of households women out earn men in America (age differences, health and children also factor in) so I don’t believe all women want a rich man but someone who has potential to acquire resources. So not to offend all women about pair bonding, multiple sex partners and oxytocin. I find it interesting that heavy pornography use with men and how vasopressin is a male bonding hormone. Pornography could probably lead to ED with men being more visually stimulated. And a lot of the data can be found from the NIH, Brookings Institute, and colleges.
Listen to Andrew tate my man, to much analysis
Loved this!
This is true
-Coming from a woman with her Masters in Psych. & 10 years of mental health experience
This is a brilliant piece of information
@@Rachel-wr4zy this is false lmao, coming from a guy who studied anthropology and it is tired of gender roles against men and sexist duties like courtship and so on
There are clearly aspects of both gene gathering and mate switching in women's psychology. We must bear in mind that human psychology developed for a troop (as in group of gorillas or other apes) lifestyle. Monogamy in the form of a single partner for life was risky behavior. A man--even a strong man--could die at any time. A woman without a backup plan had an uncertain future. A woman who had other men on the side had options in the event that her primary died. Let us bear in mind as well that a woman during our troop lifestyle time--more than 95% of human history--spent a lot of her time pregnant and with young children in her care. She would be engaged in a never-ending quest for security. This security would take many forms at many levels, including her social standing in the troop. Her strategies had to be flexible enough for her to adapt to a wide variety of circumstances, given that our evolution took place under conditions that are somewhat static from a birds-eye view but intensely dynamic from the perspective of individuals. Illicit sexual relationships, or non-monogamous sexual encounters sanctioned by rites and rituals, would have functioned as a glue binding the troop together. Obviously, non-monogamous sexuality would have been only one of the glues binding a troop together, but this form of cohesion would have functioned distinctly differently from strict hierarchical and other forms of cohesion, as well as reinforcing those means of cohesion by dint of operating in a different dimension. Human beings are complex and adaptable, even as we try to impose rigidity for the sake of security. I would go so far as to say that human sexuality is only partially about reproduction. The social aspect of sexuality is extremely important because it helps create opportunities for women to have the maximum number of surviving children with the maximum variety of men through the establishment of social dynamics that enable the troop as a whole to survive the various stressors that would have been in effect throughout our evolution.
As a woman I would say that I don't care at all about the hip to shoulder ratio. I think men and women are attracted to pretty much the same things - a nice face to look at, a healthy body weight, and an interesting mind.
You're not aware of it but you probably are. If you were shown a picture of two men with the same face but slightly different builds you'd more than likely find the one with the more ideal hip to shoulder ratio more attractive even if you can't explain why. Same way men would find a woman with a more shapely body and specific hip to waist ratio (even if it's subtle) more attractive.
And a huuuuuuuuuuge……… bank account
woman love visible washboard abs lol.
@@levity90 Yes, but her point I think was: Not having a good waist to hip ratio isn't a dealbreaker... Just like a girl not having a big booty/bobz isnt a dealbreaker for most guys
@@levity90 No, I would be attracted to the kinder and more interesting one. It's difficult enough to find a person you truly relate to. hip , shoulder or any kind of other ratios are completely irrelevant. lets get real...
anyway you look at it, locking yourself to one woman is a bad deal
ive been with over 200 women and turned down a lot and ive been in a gym 10 times in my whole life. and all have been 6-7 ratings. is not about body is about face eyes and if you can talk to them. Height is also a crucial thing ive notice
On behalf of all the dudes, thank you Lex for asking the right questions
Betrayal eats at the soul of the betrayer.
How so?
i like men who are brave enough to be honest about their emotions
Women want a man to lead, provide and make her feel safe and loved. A man wants to be respected and needed.
When I was young some girlfriends didn't like me being in good shape because it made them feel insecure about their own bodies, they felt insecure about other women being attracted to me and they felt insecure about me feeling attractive and confident.
I find this rather interesting, my guess would be people get married and try to have life long relationships because they don't want to be alone. Also when we get old there is a chance of being very lonley if we don't find a partner before. I think we should work on the lonley part in our society, you don't have to be alone just because you don't have a deep relationship.
Agreed but most societies in this day and age are geared towards punishing single people. Government programs and subsidies revolve around couples and their families meanwhile single people are expected to just pay into the systems get little in return.
@@anduin1 have seen it during covid as a single young male you feel kinda misrepresented. You still work 8 hours from home, while living there alone for 24 hours for month on end without leaving. This was legit mental torture.
Mating is an emergent property of one not wanting to be alone. As such it is not sex per se. Instead it's about companionship. - Wald Wassermann, Physicist
What women want: be a chad, be a psychopath, be competent, or be rich. Or a mix of those 4 things.
Short-term: *Good genes*
Long-term: *Resources*
New theory: *Women practice "Mate switching"*
Bonus tip: *Good genes+Resources+Don't piss her off*
Actually, if you have ability to piss her off, then you’ve got her.
What you don’t want to do is turn her off, by being needy or week.
Pissing them off is actually a plus believe it or not.
Damn. Had the craziest connection with a girl that's 26 recently -> I'm 29.
She's engaged, I'm single; the chemistry was off the charts. Her fiancé came in at some point and he wasn't.. very impressive.
He was not an attractive dude at all; physically or mentally, but guess what? He made it in his industry and makes himself and her a ton of money.
She still highly attracted to me, yet made it clear that she'd stay in the relationship with him.
This video seems to have explained my situation.
I feel sorry for that dude sounds like she belongs to the streets. I would never wanna be with a woman who is throwing choosing signals that some other guy
It's all genetic and don't pretend like the short guy with a below average penis can be as good as the bull by lifting weights. I don't wanna get married.
bro she is just a social parasite lmao, no one biolgical evolutionary theory will justify her.
absolutely demonic wench. Poor guys a betabuxxer
Like someone else pointed out, "What women want" is 2x longer than the "What men want" video... Talk about DOUBLE standards.
I love that no matter the combined iq of the men in the room that we still can’t crack the code to a woman’s heart
Heres all you have to do as a man: Just date women because you like meeting new people. Be yourself and relax. Don't worry about what is down the road, just enjoy the moment. Don't worry about what they want from you (that doesn't mean act like a dick on purpose, it means being polite like you would with anyone else, it just means no unnecessary sucking up or trying to fit who you think they want). There is really not much else you can do. The more you try to force things, or expect things, fake things, or overload on hope, the more disappointment you set yourself up for. Also stop going for the best looking person you can possibly attain, try and vary things a bit, you're not under any contract to commit to someone on a first date, and holding out so long for that perfect 10 is just going to harm your confidence and make you more inexperienced.
Thank you for your Great Advice for Men! I say just be yourself, if the best Man you can be, isn't good enough for her, than it isn't a good fit. So, move on and know there's a better fit for you if you keep being yourself. When you find a woman that's got you singing "Blessed Union Soul's" - She likes Me for Me than You'll know, because you'll feel Blessed by having her in your life. So, in the meantime, just keep focusing on building good things for your life while keeping your plan intact. I think, it's better a Man has a Plan for his life in place already, because how else will you know if the Lady fits in with your life, goals and dreams. My thought is, if your a Man that sticks to your plan then you'll end up finding the perfect hand to come beside you and help you keep sticking to your plan!
@@alliccat5482 I don't think this is good advice... some of it is good, but not all of it.
@@Feber2001 well ain't that the "Ugly Truth " and the good and bad.😅 First. I want to Thankyou for taking your time to read my writing on thewalll. I appreciate the feedback, if it's Not for you then it's not for you. I suppose I deserve as much giving unsolicited advice. Yet. one females thoughs out of billions and one female of six billion or seven billion peopled. So, there is bound to more disagreeqnved. Imagine how boring thevworld would be if we're all the same and thought same. Differences our good, as long as we use them to complement each other, Males & Females. IF what I share speaks ro someone, or not Cool..if it helps someone cool, even if it gets a person to smile or laugh then I 'm happy with my good deed.! It's good that men and womn havr a different "Point of View" were able yo have more understand of others🎶Again, Thanks for your insight ,No worries!
@@alliccat5482 ❤️❤️
"you share your meat and then they reciprocate"
naughty boy - Hindu voice 😂
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An halterophilist champion from 100 years ago would be just a 'beginner' in the nowadays gyms. This is why the women are not 'hard wired' for the over muscular men that there is today.
Dad bod is real!! And also more relatable. We aren't perfect, you aren't perfect. There is a connection and understanding.
Well, as a woman, I can give my input:
When I analyse people I fall in love with - those are the people who make me grow and experience parts of me I didn't know existed. Age, sex or looks has little influence...
Interestingly You didn’t mention resources as something with little influence.
@@djp3525 The people I fall in love with are dreamers or artists, lack of recourses actually makes them even more interesting
@@KaraNodrik come on you know looks Matter well at least height
@@ThroughDarknessComesLight I am only stating about my own experience, for me looks isn't the most important, but in general - Yes, looks matter for most people man & women, that has a biological explanation.
No point in mentioning this. The regular/ugly guy isn’t even noticed so she doesn’t really reject him consciously since he doesn’t EXIST.
I think what they are describing is more applicable to a concept of general attraction. And I’ve always said that money is the language of love. However evolutionary they still can’t explain real love. A woman can be very much in love even with a partner who becomes disabled or poor and cannot support her or the family. Like how do you explain that? I know such instances are real, even I once was so in love that I would be with that person no matter what.
What Women Want
Short-Term:
Physical Attractiveness: cues that may represent health and good genes.
Masculine Features: a strong jawline and a high shoulder-to-hip ratio (markers of good genes) and are considered attractive.
Long-Term:
Resources: man's ability to provide and willingness to share those resources
Height: men who are taller than they are and a bit above average in height.
Both
Physical Fitness: men who are physically fit and well-toned but not overly muscle-bound.
Not worth it guys. Don't worry be the best and one day one will find you
Great Advice! Just be yourselves and you can't help but you finding each other.
@@alliccat5482 no luck yet but I have faith 🤣
He asks a man who wrote a book about sex relationship the most common questions and the guest failed to answer any.. :))))) .... This was so funny... Thanks for sharing!
Best question ever: "Do women care about biceps?" Hahahahahahaha XD Excellent!!!
That’s why body builders are stereotypically homosexuals….guys did biceps more than chicks.
@@darbyheavey406 Sure, any evident for that statement?
So satisfying to hear someone talk who knows what are men and women.
Women prefer the Dad bod because any guy who is more physically fit than her will make her feel insecure and afraid the man will leave her for someone who can keep up. That's legit the main reason women gave in the Dad bod study.
Can we see a video called what women provide (and what can they expect in return?)
Women want four things, in this order:
1) a feeling of security
2) the most comfortable possible way through life
3) good conversation and some laughs here and there
4) good sex
To get no. 1) and no. 2), you need money in this world. So women go after money.
If they can choose between a guy who can provide no. 1) and no. 2) but can't do much with no. 3) and no. 4) or a guy who can provide no. 3) and no. 4) but can't do much with no. 1) and no. 2), they'll pick the former. It can be the other way around only with girls, young women up to perhaps 25 maybe.
And ultimately what each woman gets comes down to her options, which depend on her 1) looks, 2) homeliness, 3) inheritance, 4) intelligence (in this order).
That's it, case closed.
Can’t believe this smart guy on youtube just cracked the code, and the so called “scientist” in this video dedicated his life work to it for nothing!
Omg very weird list… doesn’t apply to a lot of women including myself
@@Oktaviii so what did I get wrong?
@@PiCheZvara I think you missed several other good qualities such as
1. Intelligence (many want a partner who can make thoughtful decisions in variety of situations)
2. Good looks and good health (not just good sex)
3. Kindness and ability to make compromises (nobody wants extremely stubborn partner who wants everything to be his way)
4. Balance of feelings (sometimes partner cannot give you financial comfort but you love him anyway. I don’t know why, you just do. And he loves you back, even without comfortable things. It’s rare but it happens and if both people have that love for each other it’s truly a blessing and probably more important than any other item on the list)
Lol, better send these researchers an email so they don't waste their time anymore, your genius closed this case forever.
Whatever they want you better withhold it.
I love that grown men still have no clue what women want
Women of culture, we meet again.
Greetings to women of culture, from men of culture.
Woman of culture I’m curious what you think of this discussion ? Fair theories or mad science ?
Ah another woman of culture, I see. 🧐 Hello there
First time I see a women of culture comment 🤣
@@danielbedi6568 it's quite science based and doesn't take into account how individualistic we've evolved into being, it really comes down to a case by case basis at this point. however I think most women of culture want to be with someone who wants to be with them. Simple as that. sometimes the chase is better than the catch, but at the end of the day I think people over complicate this topic. People just want to be happy. People just want to have fun. Be someone that adds those things to a person's life and they'll be more likely to stick around. And if you encounter a size queen and you don't measure up, don't let your ego get in the way, get learnt on those mouth moves or go full good *_vibes_* only if you know what I mean 👉😎👉 I'm not saying bring a girl to your dungeon on the first date, but if you aren't born with the tools to get the job done, women could care less when she sees you got that Hitachi "back massager" in your arsenal 😂😂😂 we live in the future take advantage of it✌😂💓
"What does your woman want?"
Everything you will do, after you get dumped and are Single again! You know! You just became complasent
Best mates are those that are best at helping women bring up their kids. i.e. most likely to lead to successful kids in their adult life. Whether they have kids or not, this is the trait that women are looking for the most. It's their judgement of whom is best at bringing kids up, that varies from one woman to another, and at different stages of their maturity, but the traits mentioned here pretty much covers a lot of it.
I call it the "Take the Money and Run" hypothesis 🤣
Can we call you Doctor Kevin cause you hit the nail with the hypothesis!
"What women want"
WHO CARES ?
Live your life for yourself
I think there's a significant psychological component missing here. A distinction could be made between what women say they want and who they actually end up falling for. I don't think good looks and ability to provide can carry a relationship on the long-term. You see women who marry the physically-fit and wealthy guy the first time around, and then go for a chubby bald guy, who is still pretty wealthy, the second time. And it's probably because the latter treats them better, or they have more in common. Personally, I go for brains first. If you can't carry an intelligent conversation, your wallet and appearance won't matter.
Intelligence is very low on the list for gals. In reality is a big turn off. There is a reason why they send letters to convicts instead of Nobel laureates.
Also nobody goes for chubby bald guys today. lol
Question: would physical attractiveness become more important when women increasingly have the oppurtunities to take care of themselves and their offspring?
hate these types of debates lol...not every man or woman want the exact same thing and just bc one person wants specific criterias for a mate doesnt make it a auto rule for the remaining entire gender