I had someone like this and ended up blocking them for good. They tried contacting through other means but told them to get stuffed and walked away. I choose not to be reckless with people’s hearts and don’t put up with those who are reckless with mine.
I sure do know about breadcrumbing! It is a "no cost" way for a guy to keep in touch with you....the daily "hi, how are you? or "Good morning" texts. I know it all too well. lol. They don't ask you out on a date, it is just "breadcrumbing." And, if they are doing this to me, they are doing this to half a dozen other women too... to a group of lady friends. lol. I've ignored these texts for the most part especially when I've recognized it as just breadcrumbing or I might send a quick "hi" back text. But, one time I called this guy out and told him he was just breadcrumbing me. They are just cheap guys.
Ladies are notorious for "breadcrumbing". They'll put a dude in the friendzone and still expect him to waste time and resources on her and keep validating her. Nope! 😆😅😂
Yes. I have been a people pleaser all my life and have been bread crumbled I don't even know the count anymore. But now I realize I am the prize and I don't deserve to be treated like this anymore! I have now learned my boundaries and I can now walk away fron relationships that don't respect me with my head straight up and without my "tail " in between my legs!
@@pcooper0010 💯✅ 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 That’s my story in a nutshell! After one really messed up “relationship”, I developed boundaries that I haven’t let be broken since! Living my best life with no regrets whatsoever!
Although all people engage in this behavior, in my experience I have found this to be very common behavior among women. Men do this too, and we often hear about this, so this comment is to call out the women engaging in this behavior, which often is not talked about enough. When women so this, there can be many reasons why, but often they just want validation, or attention, or to feel they have a roster, or to keep options open in case the guy they really want doesn’t work out. To all my brothers out there- stand firm and communicate boundaries in a respectful but assertive manner against increasingly toxic behavior from females. Don’t be afraid to walk away. You have worth. You are enough. Leave these women playing games in the dust so you can have a relationship with a serious woman who respects your time and what you have to offer her.
I'm going through this right now, and I'm afraid to let him go because I'm scared of being alone again, dealing with the breakup, going back to my single routine, and having to rebuild myself.
I know it might feel difficult but know that you deserve the love you give. Take baby steps in owning your worth by saying affirmations out loud. You will find the love that is reciprocated.
@@AmieLeadingham I appreciate your words and am trying to take them to heart, though it feels challenging at the moment. I understand the importance of self-love and am committed to working on it, even if it feels difficult right now. Thank you again!
Just when you start to pull back and get distance, the Breadcrumbers will reach out to you out of nowhere! I can’t believe I fell for this, but after realizing that this is what was happening, I’m solidified in my decision to leave them alone for good.
I find that in the USA, the culture has become so corrupted with materialism and entitlement that breadcrumbing is standard operating procedure for most women. As a man, I'm kind of checked out of dating in the USA and have been dating foreign women for 12 years now.
Happened to me 1,5 year ago. Incredibly painful and devastating. Still is. He kept leading me on for months until he found the one he's marrying now. And left me broken in pieces, as if I had never existed at all. Discarded me as a piece of trash.
I’m so 😢 sorry. That’s got to be so painful to go through. Often it’s hard to see these signs when you’re excited about a person. Moving forward I hope this video gives you the tools to avoid being breadcrumbed. You deserve real love 🫶
Can I ask if you have returned the energy? Because... that's what happened between us. At first, I was the one who always initiates talking, but she... she always leaves me on delivered for hours, even days. That hurts a lot... After that, I stopped. Later on, she's always the one initiating the talk and of course, I always responds on time. Still... she only reached out to me, in days or weeks of no contact. We go out and I always try to flirt with her. Still, she denies all of my advances and everytime she does that, my love for her lessens... until one day, it's gone. I just woke up one morning, got tired of all her games and dropped it all off... doing that fking hurts. But what can I do? Our mutual interests just... aren't the same. I even asked for her to give me signs if she loves me back, but the only thing I received was a pat in the back... how hard is it to hold my hands or cling to my arm...
I have just got rid of mine after 18 months. Thought he was my everything. Clearly not to be. Kept telling him how his behaviour has changed and then he wandered why he thought I wasn’t in the pedestal lol. Goodbye mofo 😅 thanks for yr advice . Will look out for it earlier next time xx
Ha! This just happened to me. Been talking to this coworker(I know I already messed up there😂). She never initiates contact, doesn't get into deeper conversations. When I started talking to her, I was caring for a sibling that eventually passed away from her cancer. All this time, my breadcrumber would listen to me and was a friend throughout my ordeal. I tried setting up dates but due to my situation, I had to cancel and told her that maybe it's best we get together in the near future because my sister was dying. She agreed. Well it's April now and I locked a date with her, but then her communication started becoming more sparse. And when I confronted her on a time to meet, she tells me she got drunk and isn't sure, and ends it with an LOL. Well, I'm done, deleted her off my socials, and stopped contacting her. I know my worth and will not stoop to that level, neither should anyone.
I'm non monogamous and it (bread crumbing) is waaaaaay worse in that community. So I get breadcrumbed a lot. And I find that people in that community typically see non NP as simply a booty call. So they will go dark all the time then ring you up when they are horny. Its kinda gross. Even though I'm a guy I like to talk with my partners or get a drink together...or go to the range. But when someone is breadcrumbing me I just don't engage. I just ignore them. But....if they try to reengage after days or weeks of silence I just type "you know this is really boring me". Then I just block them. Boom done.
Yeah I allowed myself to be breadcrumbed through my situationship. I believed it was because of a bad breakup in her past but she actually used that as a manipulation tool. The things she said her ex said about her actually waa displayed in our situation.
I had someone like this and ended up blocking them for good. They tried contacting through other means but told them to get stuffed and walked away. I choose not to be reckless with people’s hearts and don’t put up with those who are reckless with mine.
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I sure do know about breadcrumbing! It is a "no cost" way for a guy to keep in touch with you....the daily "hi, how are you? or "Good morning" texts. I know it all too well. lol. They don't ask you out on a date, it is just "breadcrumbing." And, if they are doing this to me, they are doing this to half a dozen other women too... to a group of lady friends. lol. I've ignored these texts for the most part especially when I've recognized it as just breadcrumbing or I might send a quick "hi" back text. But, one time I called this guy out and told him he was just breadcrumbing me. They are just cheap guys.
Ladies are notorious for "breadcrumbing". They'll put a dude in the friendzone and still expect him to waste time and resources on her and keep validating her. Nope! 😆😅😂
I’m sorry you’ve experienced this and yup. You got to see the signs and avoid people that do this to you!
@@AmieLeadingham Life is a journey with many lessons along the way; learn from experiences and get better along the way to the final destination...
Yes. I have been a people pleaser all my life and have been bread crumbled I don't even know the count anymore. But now I realize I am the prize and I don't deserve to be treated like this anymore! I have now learned my boundaries and I can now walk away fron relationships that don't respect me with my head straight up and without my "tail " in between my legs!
@@pcooper0010 💯✅ 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 That’s my story in a nutshell! After one really messed up “relationship”, I developed boundaries that I haven’t let be broken since! Living my best life with no regrets whatsoever!
thanks for the video, yes i have breadcrumbed before, i just walked away.
Thanks for sharing. And so happy you walked away!
@@AmieLeadingham thank you i appreciate your comment!
Although all people engage in this behavior, in my experience I have found this to be very common behavior among women. Men do this too, and we often hear about this, so this comment is to call out the women engaging in this behavior, which often is not talked about enough.
When women so this, there can be many reasons why, but often they just want validation, or attention, or to feel they have a roster, or to keep options open in case the guy they really want doesn’t work out.
To all my brothers out there- stand firm and communicate boundaries in a respectful but assertive manner against increasingly toxic behavior from females. Don’t be afraid to walk away. You have worth. You are enough. Leave these women playing games in the dust so you can have a relationship with a serious woman who respects your time and what you have to offer her.
I'm going through this right now, and I'm afraid to let him go because I'm scared of being alone again, dealing with the breakup, going back to my single routine, and having to rebuild myself.
I know it might feel difficult but know that you deserve the love you give. Take baby steps in owning your worth by saying affirmations out loud. You will find the love that is reciprocated.
@@AmieLeadingham I appreciate your words and am trying to take them to heart, though it feels challenging at the moment. I understand the importance of self-love and am committed to working on it, even if it feels difficult right now. Thank you again!
Just when you start to pull back and get distance, the Breadcrumbers will reach out to you out of nowhere! I can’t believe I fell for this, but after realizing that this is what was happening, I’m solidified in my decision to leave them alone for good.
Good for you. Proud of you lady! 💪
your videos are soo good and calming!!💕 you also mention really important point which opened my eyes, thank you 💖
I’m so glad the video was helpful and thank you for being part of this community. I appreciate you 🙏
I find that in the USA, the culture has become so corrupted with materialism and entitlement that breadcrumbing is standard operating procedure for most women. As a man, I'm kind of checked out of dating in the USA and have been dating foreign women for 12 years now.
It is the same in Europe.
Happened to me 1,5 year ago. Incredibly painful and devastating. Still is. He kept leading me on for months until he found the one he's marrying now. And left me broken in pieces, as if I had never existed at all. Discarded me as a piece of trash.
I’m so 😢 sorry. That’s got to be so painful to go through. Often it’s hard to see these signs when you’re excited about a person. Moving forward I hope this video gives you the tools to avoid being breadcrumbed. You deserve real love 🫶
Reason to keep to 100 miles away or less . Long distance they do this 80% of the time .
@@JCcanU that’s also a good sign to look out for. If this is a pattern for them. It may show they’re emotionally unavailable too!
Can I ask if you have returned the energy? Because... that's what happened between us. At first, I was the one who always initiates talking, but she... she always leaves me on delivered for hours, even days. That hurts a lot... After that, I stopped.
Later on, she's always the one initiating the talk and of course, I always responds on time. Still... she only reached out to me, in days or weeks of no contact. We go out and I always try to flirt with her. Still, she denies all of my advances and everytime she does that, my love for her lessens... until one day, it's gone. I just woke up one morning, got tired of all her games and dropped it all off... doing that fking hurts. But what can I do? Our mutual interests just... aren't the same. I even asked for her to give me signs if she loves me back, but the only thing I received was a pat in the back... how hard is it to hold my hands or cling to my arm...
I have just got rid of mine after 18 months. Thought he was my everything. Clearly not to be. Kept telling him how his behaviour has changed and then he wandered why he thought I wasn’t in the pedestal lol. Goodbye mofo 😅 thanks for yr advice . Will look out for it earlier next time xx
I’ve been there. Totally feel for you. And glad you’re no longer going to put up with those behaviors any more!
Ha! This just happened to me. Been talking to this coworker(I know I already messed up there😂). She never initiates contact, doesn't get into deeper conversations. When I started talking to her, I was caring for a sibling that eventually passed away from her cancer. All this time, my breadcrumber would listen to me and was a friend throughout my ordeal. I tried setting up dates but due to my situation, I had to cancel and told her that maybe it's best we get together in the near future because my sister was dying. She agreed. Well it's April now and I locked a date with her, but then her communication started becoming more sparse. And when I confronted her on a time to meet, she tells me she got drunk and isn't sure, and ends it with an LOL. Well, I'm done, deleted her off my socials, and stopped contacting her. I know my worth and will not stoop to that level, neither should anyone.
What about of a "jobfinding"
Happens all the time…got two dogs…stay to myself and my small circle…problem stopped.
What if it's your own children
I'm non monogamous and it (bread crumbing) is waaaaaay worse in that community. So I get breadcrumbed a lot. And I find that people in that community typically see non NP as simply a booty call. So they will go dark all the time then ring you up when they are horny. Its kinda gross. Even though I'm a guy I like to talk with my partners or get a drink together...or go to the range. But when someone is breadcrumbing me I just don't engage. I just ignore them. But....if they try to reengage after days or weeks of silence I just type "you know this is really boring me". Then I just block them. Boom done.
Yeah I allowed myself to be breadcrumbed through my situationship. I believed it was because of a bad breakup in her past but she actually used that as a manipulation tool. The things she said her ex said about her actually waa displayed in our situation.