I get your parents loves you but their reasons pushing you to stay with someone who hurts you is STUPID! According to your dad there is still many good husband out there yet he want you to suffer, is that love? You can’t be a woman of your own, still rely on mommy n daddy decisions for you so suffer it is. Good for you being a good obedient daughter and wife.
The moment I feel cold and no longer can love nor sleep with him, I don't know if it worth staying anymore. I understand my kids need us, but honestly I think my kids will feel more destroyed having a parents who longer can love each others. :(
Agree damaged has be done. Wounds and scars are deeply planted. I think she wasting many years that she could have find happiness. Kids would rather see their parents happy living separately then living together in misery. It sucks she is a grown woman but can’t make a decision for herself letting her parents be her decision maker. As a parents, I wouldn’t want my child to be in a situation where she/he is being hurt mentally or physically.
Hmmmm I was happy about her parents and their support for them UNTIL he (dad) gets to the advice about life and adultery THAT IS NOT OKAY to stay. Then I was disappointed in her father.
Right? The beginning sounds like a million bucks…..then… went downhill to negative. Hmong guys’ mindset will all along still be hmong guys’ mindset. Doesn’t matter how much he pretends to love his daughters, he will still see them daughters as dirt low.
This is just another irritating story where women suffer, complain then brag that their husband came back after having all the fun while young. Boring!
Yog lawm os tus me viv ncaus cov kwv tij thiab niam pog txiv yawg nkauj muam tsis hlub tsis nyiam yus mas tu siab tshaj plaws thiab yus niag txiv tsis hlub thiab ua hluas mas tu siab tshaj plaws thiab chim siab lwj siab tshaj plaws os lawv
What wonderful loving supportive parents u have, although i don't agree with him telling u to go back to a cheater, but his intentions were good. However, him telling u to "ua siab ntev" doesn't make him a bad dad or erase all his goods he's done for u. His mentality is old style, but he's still a loving dad.
Tus mi niam aw cas kuv niam koj hais koj cov lus tas kuv nco nco kuv niam kuv niam nca kuv mus tau12 xyoos luwm ntsiag nti tsis nhov ib moo li os ua lub neej nyob ces yus niam thiaj li nlub yus xwb mog
Kuv xav tau ib leej yawm txiv zoo li no xwb tab ma cas kuv cov neej qhau e to tsi nyhoo yus muaj lus sib cav sib ceg xwb ces twb yuav kom nrauj xwb os mloog zaj dab neeg no tag ma tu tu yus siab heev li vim yus yog ib tug tub ntsuag xwb yuav tau luag ntxhai lo luag twb tsi xav hlb xav pab thiab tsis xam tia yus yog luag vauv li os
Yog ma yu niam thiab yu txiv ce thiaj lis hlub yu xwb ho luag niam thiab luag txiv ce koj tseev ua zoo npaum lis ca los yu yog tu luag tsis nyiam ce luag yeej ntxub koj tuag nthis xwb
Getting manipulated to stay in a toxic marriage by the “hmoob elders(parents,grandparent,relatives) is not a solution to being happy. If you as a parent tells your children to stay wen they are hurting pls pls dont be a parent. You are not helping but adding to it! Women dont be stupid enuff to stay wen you are hurting everyday jus becus yo daddy said so. No one who wants nothing but happiness for u will never tell u to stay. Sounds more like the dad was worried about his reputation more.
You think you won? No you didn’t. He only want you now because his brother doesn’t work. Yog kuv tsis tau noj zog thaum hluas mas thaum laus kuv yeej tsis yuav. Very annoying to here stories from women like you.
Yeah I don’t like these type of stories too. Then they try to give advice as if they could really use their own advice for themselves. She told her story like she won and proud of of it and she told her story like her dad is her hero. Ummm no lady! She wasting so many good years where she could have happiness. True loving parents wouldn’t want to see their kids suffer in pain
Same here. My in-laws never done anything for me, my husband, and kids. Its always been my side of the family. So sad, but its true. If they don't like you, they will never help you.
That’s unfortunate, but look at it this way, you don’t owe them anything. I’ve learned to never expect anyone to help you in life so you will not be disappointed.
Hmong people, STOP telling your daughter to “stay with a cheater and uas siab ntev because men are supposed to cheat. He will love you when he is old and can’t perform.” Dumbest advice ever! Only stupid people still believe that. 🤦♀️
For reals!!!! He wasted all his energy/youth to someone else outside and only came back when he has nothing left, but the wife is so happy he’s back. 🙄 He’s only back so you can start changing his diaper. 🤦🏻♀️
She stayed, not for her husband but for her dad out of respect and love for her father. She did not want to hurt her dad. Your father is a very good father and you are a good daughter. Much respect for you and your dad.
These type of Hmong women need to learn how to protect their future and be independent. Dont depend on your parents, they are not responsible to take care of you. If you keep waiting for someone else to save you, you only to be forced to stay in a toxic marriage. There are resources out there.
You’re talking to a shaman woman. In her culture/religion, it’s ok for her husband to marry other women. If you too are shaman, you need to support her bc she is doing what Hmong kev cai teaches.
Your father loved you but he was always on your husband’s side. A chauvinist brainwashed you to stay with another chauvinist. You were stupid to listen to him. My dad would never tell me to stay with a cheater.
Your dad is very wise but one thing he will never understand is being a woman. You can be patient all you want but once the love isn’t there, it’ll be very hard to come back.
Tsis yog overused naj. Expired lawm xwb. Txiv neej thia siv kom txaus2 thaum lawv tseem hluas. Nej cov poj niam yuav tsum nrog nej tus txiv sib do kom txaus nkaus thaum lawv tseem muaj zog ces lawv yeej tsis mus nrhiav sab nraud li. Nej txhob tos thaum lawv expired es nej mam mus kho nej lig dhau lawm.
es ua cas pheej npav qhov yuav rau yav thaum laus na..thaum matter the most es nws twb tsis care txog koj na...es thaum nws twb yuav mob stroke los yog mob ko taw vwm es mam hlub yus es nej ho yuav zoo siab ua luaj na...kav tsij muab pov tseg es txhob tos txog thaum twb mob stroke es mam los so quav es ho qhuas tias nws hlub yus..people you need to get a grip of yourself!
Idk if this lady is smart or dumb, listening to her father by “ua siab ntev” and suffering all those years just so she can grow old with someone who doesn’t love her but settled because they’re too old now. Hmong OGs have got to stop with this nonsense of being patient no matter what. Everyone needs to do what makes them happy and leave when necessary. Everyone deserves to be with someone who loves them and doesn’t cheat, lie or abuse. SMDH… I feel sorry for this lady enduring such a miserable life.
Definitely dumb. Wasted her best years being “patient” while her husband lived his best life cheating. Now that he’s old and can longer get it up, he comes back and controls her even more. Raum is what she is
I can relate to this story..:my parents always try their best to be there for me, my husband and kids…even though they had many kids! Still, they tried their best to split their time among their children/grandchildren. My in-laws on the other hand, never…yet when my fil passed away, they expected me and the husband to pay his funeral…
40-50 xyoo tseem need daddy kom husband thiaj tsis lawb yus xwb no es yuav ua cas ua neeg txog hnub tuag naw. Saum taub hau txawm tsis muaj ib teev hlwb li ntag los? Hnub daddy tuag lawm ces cov poj niam no noj av lawm xwb las as. Daddy hais koj yuav ces yuav, daddy hais kom rauj ces nrauj, daddy hais kom tuag es puas mus tuag ne?
Kudos to you sister but this doesn't work for everyone. You went through hell with a cheating husband just to be told by your father to stay because when your cheating husband gets OLDER he will come back and love you!!.??
What a waste. Good father but lacking in his daughter pain and needs. Regardless sister it is fair play. Time to stoo giving a damn on your husband. Too old now just concentrate on doing you. Let him wallow in hiss own insecurities and miserable self.
Your dad never care for you he help you so much because he didn't want to lose face that was it. A loving parents would never allow their kids to stay unhappy and broken heart for years . Plus you didn't know how to love ur self.
This story is suppose to be a feel good story, but her father definitely was not a good father. No good father would tell their daughter to stay in a toxic relationship. I really hate old Hmong traditions.
ntuj aw 50 xwb tsis work lawm tsis tim age o. koj niag txiv tsis healthy xwb. Peb 50 tseem khov kho yog ntsib tus tsw haum yus. Ib nrab txiv neej khoom tsis work yog tim nej pojniam tsis ntxim hlub lawm xwb o.
Why we women who don’t love us self enough. If you have a bachelors degree and still waiting for your parents to make decisions than txim nyog mag tus txiv tsim lawm thiab mas. Remember to love yourself first. We women are stupid enough to stay with a cheating person.
Idky you even allow your dad to dictate your life, telling you to wait until your husband is 50 years old to come back and love you. Why? When u are the only one going through the struggle . No thanks, horrible advice from your dad.
I can’t understand the logic in the father forcing the daughter to stay in an unhappy marriage. What is even more absurd is the daughter thanking her father for forcing her to stay in the unhappy marriage. 😮
Yeah 1975 parents. This dad is ridiculous. Ruin his daughters best years. All she got for show is her old cheating no longer able to obtain an erection husband. Wow such good ending 😂
Zaj neej neeg no tus nyab yog tus tsis zoo vim nws twb yog tus kawm tag 4 xyoos tsim nyog nws yog tus hlub niam pog txiv yawg, tsis yog nws tos niam pog txiv yawg hlub lawm
I’m not going to waste my time, 50 years, with a toxic relationship like this. Ua neeg ib zaug xwb, yog koj txiv hlub koj ces koj txiv yeej tsis muab koj yuam nyob lub neej lwj siab es yuav uv, li uv nkaus li no xwb. Tsam no koj niag txiv lub zog twb tag es mam los khoo koj li ko, nkim koj lub neej rau tiam no tshaj plaws li os tus sister. We live in America and why let your parents control your marriage for you?!
This story is a sad way to live. There's nothing empowering to learn. The husband put you through misery in your 20s and now he's doing it again in your middle age because of he is insecure???? Just kick the guy to the curb! Geesh...
I don't know why you listen to your dad for soo long. You think that 50 year he came back to you and be happy about it. 50 year he came back because he has nothing left. Your father is not a good father if he loved you he would not let your husband hurt you all these years. I would not let my daughter suffer. I will support my daughter, let her decided what she wants to do and what will make her happy. I will never let my daughter stay with a person who hurt my daughter over n over. Ua Neeg zoo make you suffer be a mean person and find happiness.
I would never have that kind of patience for a cheating dog! Sorry, but I don’t agree with some of your advice. But one I do wish is that I wished I knew what’s like to have a fathers love. Just 😢 I never knew my rip dad!
She did win at the end like her dad promise right? An old 50 year old that can’t get it up anymore. 😂. Such a terrible life she lived because she listened to her dumb dad and couldn’t make a decision for herself.
Yes, I understand your parents' love in the beginning, but once close to the end, I just don't understand, plus I think your parents don't love you. That's not parents' love to force daughter to stay with the suffering life.
It's good that your father knows how to support you but he's wrong for making you stay miserable with your husband. Kind of sounds like your father has his own hidden agenda in protecting his reputation that's why he still make you stay. Learn how to live for yourself and not let other's run your life for you. Why wait until he's useless to have him turn around to love you?
Koj tsis tas los hais neej neeg ntxiv lawm neb ib niam txiv thiab nej tsev kwv tij muab meej muas lub neej nrhuav tag lawm nej lam tuaj nyob lub teb chaws vam meej tab sis nej yog dev xwb yom koj cov neej neeg ko yog koj qhia kom hmoob ua dev sib tshov kuv xav mas txawj tham li koj ntshe sib tshov ua tau heev yuam niam ntsuab teev
Thaum koj niag txiv dev zog ntaug tas mam rov tig los ua zoo es koj ho xav tias koj yeej lawm no? Ruam dhau lawm os. Nws los vim nws kev tws tsis muaj chaw nyob lawm xwb tseem qhuas tias yus yeej. Nej ib txhia niam tsev no xyov cas yuav ruam ua luaj li lau. Niag txiv mus ua2 hluas zog tag tws kev mam los tseem khav tias yus yeej lawm nws thiaj rov los. Rov los rau koj tu lawm xwb es zoo abtsi nawb?!😅
Your dad loves you and dont want to see your marriage fall apart. But the thing he think is best for you, is also destroying you mentally. Men in their mid 40s and over, will be useless in bed lol. By then, they turn into a big baby that block your happiness and freedom. If he didnt cheat, you have every right to love him even more when he is incapable taking of himself. But how he treated you poorly as his wife, he dont deserve to be serve as a husband. He deserve to be toss at the elder home hahha. Well, good luck!
Hmoob ruam tej niam tej txiv lawv tsuas yug tau yus xwb lawv tsis tau kawm ntawv tug ntawv luaj twm lawv tsis paub vim li cas koj thiaj li mus mloog lawv tej niag lus xyoo 1950 ma lov ? tam sis no peb nyob tebchaws mékas lawm tsis yog nplog teb, peb tuaj txog luag ntuj lawm peb yuav raws li luag txuj, peb tuaj nyob luag teb lawm peb siv raws li nom tswv txoj cai xwb, hmoob txoj cai ib txwm haistias yog dev npua cai hais tau ua tsis tau nej cov ntxhais cov pojniam tsis txhob cug pob ntseg thiab uv2 leej twg ntxiv li lawm. Yog nws ncaj ncee ces yus los yuav tau ncaj ncee rau nws thiab, yog hnub twg nws ntxeev siab kiag ces yus ua pauj kiag seb leej twg mob siab tshaj leej twg xwb ? tebchaws no ntuj twb tig ko diav rau nej cov pojniam tseem muaj power tshaj txiv neej lawm vim li cas nej ua neej rov qab lawm los cas nej tseem cia lawv caij tsuj nej li tiam 75 thiab ntshe nej lub hlwb tsis txwm 100 lawm poj ? tus kwvtij thiab neej tsa twg tseem tuaj quab yuam nej ces sau kiag nws npe coj mus rau nom tswv tub ceev xwm xwb ces txiv neej hmoob npuav dej txhua tus. Twg kom koj ruam koj mus mloog koj txiv tseem ruam tshaj koj tej lus ces koj thiaj tau lub khuv xim rau thaum laus no. kuv tus no tsis tooj kam leej twg los ntuas kuv, kuv lub neej kuv yog tus txiav txim kheej thiab tsuas muaj kuv mus ntuas luag tej xwb tsis pub kom leej twg tuaj ntuas kuv qhia kuv ua neej. Yog li no thiaj yuav tau maim tej yam tsis zoo hauv lub neej tsis txhob xyaum ua yam phem yam tsis zoo.
I get your parents loves you but their reasons pushing you to stay with someone who hurts you is STUPID! According to your dad there is still many good husband out there yet he want you to suffer, is that love? You can’t be a woman of your own, still rely on mommy n daddy decisions for you so suffer it is. Good for you being a good obedient daughter and wife.
The moment I feel cold and no longer can love nor sleep with him, I don't know if it worth staying anymore. I understand my kids need us, but honestly I think my kids will feel more destroyed having a parents who longer can love each others. :(
Agree damaged has be done. Wounds and scars are deeply planted. I think she wasting many years that she could have find happiness. Kids would rather see their parents happy living separately then living together in misery. It sucks she is a grown woman but can’t make a decision for herself letting her parents be her decision maker. As a parents, I wouldn’t want my child to be in a situation where she/he is being hurt mentally or physically.
Hmmmm I was happy about her parents and their support for them UNTIL he (dad) gets to the advice about life and adultery THAT IS NOT OKAY to stay.
Then I was disappointed in her father.
Same
Same here
Right?
The beginning sounds like a million bucks…..then… went downhill to negative. Hmong guys’ mindset will all along still be hmong guys’ mindset.
Doesn’t matter how much he pretends to love his daughters, he will still see them daughters as dirt low.
Same.
Yep. Same here too. A true loving parents wouldn’t want to see their kids suffering in pain.
This is just another irritating story where women suffer, complain then brag that their husband came back after having all the fun while young. Boring!
Yawm txiv zoo. Thov Vaj tswv foom koob hmoov zoo rau koj niam thiab koj txiv.
Yog kawg 👏🏻
Yog lawm os tus me viv ncaus cov kwv tij thiab niam pog txiv yawg nkauj muam tsis hlub tsis nyiam yus mas tu siab tshaj plaws thiab yus niag txiv tsis hlub thiab ua hluas mas tu siab tshaj plaws thiab chim siab lwj siab tshaj plaws os lawv
What a wonderful father...one in a million! However, I wouldn't wait that long for a cheater to be faithful!!! Wish you the best, sister.
Cov lus nos muaj tseeb tais muaj ib los dag kiag li nawb!
Yog tshaj!! Good story…
You have a good foundation. Good story.
Your father is a loving father, but I will never "ua siab ntev" for a cheater. My happiness & well being come first. My children deserve better too.
Nyob ntiaj teb no, tsis muaj leej twg hlub yus tshaj yus niam yus txiv.
❤😂yog lawm os tus hlub tus coj ces yog yus niam yus txiv xwb os 😂😂😂❤
I would like to hear the niam pog side of the story. I’m a niam pog and l support my son and dil 100%.
I wouldn’t say this is a loving father. Because a loving father would NEVER tell his daughter to “ua siab ntev” in a toxic relationship.
Agreed
Exactly. So you don’t agree with shamanism/hmong kev cai right?
What wonderful loving supportive parents u have, although i don't agree with him telling u to go back to a cheater, but his intentions were good. However, him telling u to "ua siab ntev" doesn't make him a bad dad or erase all his goods he's done for u. His mentality is old style, but he's still a loving dad.
Koj txiv mas yog ib tug neeg hlub me nyuam tshaj xav tau ib leej txiv zoo li koj txiv kawg os
koj muaj moo kawg koj niam, txiv hlub koj2 tau kev hlub ntawm niam txiv ntshaw ib leej txiv zoo li kom
Kuv Yog ib tug nyab hlob es muaj me nyuam es qaug me nyuam qaug lwj qaug liam ua neeg ntxub thiab dhuav tshaj plaws li os. Yus lub npe nrov thoob zos.
Omg lub neej qaug me nyuam mas tshuav tuag tiag tiag
Mloog zaj no mas nco nco txog kuv yawm txiv tshaj plaws li os.
😥😥😢
Tus mi niam aw cas kuv niam koj hais koj cov lus tas kuv nco nco kuv niam kuv niam nca kuv mus tau12 xyoos luwm ntsiag nti tsis nhov ib moo li os ua lub neej nyob ces yus niam thiaj li nlub yus xwb mog
txiv neej ce ib nqaj kab nrov ib lub suab os lawv aw
Li no thiaj yos ib leej txiv zoo os hu tej me nyuam los tsev li qub thiaj yos
Kuv xav tau ib leej yawm txiv zoo li no xwb tab ma cas kuv cov neej qhau e to tsi nyhoo yus muaj lus sib cav sib ceg xwb ces twb yuav kom nrauj xwb os mloog zaj dab neeg no tag ma tu tu yus siab heev li vim yus yog ib tug tub ntsuag xwb yuav tau luag ntxhai lo luag twb tsi xav hlb xav pab thiab tsis xam tia yus yog luag vauv li os
Yog ma yu niam thiab yu txiv ce thiaj lis hlub yu xwb ho luag niam thiab luag txiv ce koj tseev ua zoo npaum lis ca los yu yog tu luag tsis nyiam ce luag yeej ntxub koj tuag nthis xwb
Omg........ this story remind me of my dad so much. Listening to this this makes me miss my dad so much. Thanks for sharing. 😊😢
Getting manipulated to stay in a toxic marriage by the “hmoob elders(parents,grandparent,relatives) is not a solution to being happy. If you as a parent tells your children to stay wen they are hurting pls pls dont be a parent. You are not helping but adding to it! Women dont be stupid enuff to stay wen you are hurting everyday jus becus yo daddy said so. No one who wants nothing but happiness for u will never tell u to stay. Sounds more like the dad was worried about his reputation more.
I think he’s more worried about saving face and his reputation than his daughter’s happiness.
You think you won? No you didn’t. He only want you now because his brother doesn’t work. Yog kuv tsis tau noj zog thaum hluas mas thaum laus kuv yeej tsis yuav. Very annoying to here stories from women like you.
Yeah I don’t like these type of stories too. Then they try to give advice as if they could really use their own advice for themselves. She told her story like she won and proud of of it and she told her story like her dad is her hero. Ummm no lady! She wasting so many good years where she could have happiness. True loving parents wouldn’t want to see their kids suffer in pain
Ruam npaum ko ces nyob twjywm tu koj niag txiv rau yav laus os peb cov poj niam tiam 21 no thov txhob coj li nej cov old2 lub hlwb
Same here. My in-laws never done anything for me, my husband, and kids. Its always been my side of the family. So sad, but its true. If they don't like you, they will never help you.
I agree. I'm on the same boat
That’s unfortunate, but look at it this way, you don’t owe them anything. I’ve learned to never expect anyone to help you in life so you will not be disappointed.
Cov txiv neej nyiam2 nrog poj niam pwg ces thaum nwg muaj 50 rov saum ces nrog tsis txhua tau nrog poj niam ua niam txiv lis lawm. Ntawm kuv lub sij hawj no muaj 60 tseem nrog tau poj niam pwg tabsi tsis zoo2 lis thaum yus muaj 15 xyoo txog rau 30 xyoo ntawm lawm os.
Hmong people, STOP telling your daughter to “stay with a cheater and uas siab ntev because men are supposed to cheat. He will love you when he is old and can’t perform.” Dumbest advice ever! Only stupid people still believe that. 🤦♀️
Agreed 100%! Kick the loser to the curb.
For reals!!!! He wasted all his energy/youth to someone else outside and only came back when he has nothing left, but the wife is so happy he’s back. 🙄 He’s only back so you can start changing his diaper. 🤦🏻♀️
@sonihawj these kind of wife think they won the battle by ua siab ntev. 😅
@@pkcyang2910 Exactly, ruam thiag!
Parents are the best!! After they lectured you they CANT never judge you.
❤❤❤❤😢😢 I miss my parents…!
I love the support of the dad UNTIL it comes to the son inlaw cheating 🙄
If all hmong fathers are like these no daughter will stuff....
😭 parents love is never irreplaceable. That is true unconditional love.
She stayed, not for her husband but for her dad out of respect and love for her father. She did not want to hurt her dad. Your father is a very good father and you are a good daughter. Much respect for you and your dad.
your parents are wrong, when someone repeatedly cheat on you, they don't love you enough for you to stay.
These type of Hmong women need to learn how to protect their future and be independent. Dont depend on your parents, they are not responsible to take care of you. If you keep waiting for someone else to save you, you only to be forced to stay in a toxic marriage. There are resources out there.
They don’t know how to think for themselves.
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You’re talking to a shaman woman. In her culture/religion, it’s ok for her husband to marry other women. If you too are shaman, you need to support her bc she is doing what Hmong kev cai teaches.
Qub neeg qub siab, cheater will always be a cheater. Peoples never change.
Your father loved you but he was always on your husband’s side. A chauvinist brainwashed you to stay with another chauvinist. You were stupid to listen to him. My dad would never tell me to stay with a cheater.
If your dad made you leave, he is not acting according to Hmong kev cai. I hope you’re not shaman!
Yea yea yea
Your dad is very wise but one thing he will never understand is being a woman. You can be patient all you want but once the love isn’t there, it’ll be very hard to come back.
I liked your dad until he told you to “ua siab ntev”. Sorry that you had to endure that all your life. Your husband doesn’t deserve you.
qia neeg
Love this story. I miss my dad - he was a very wise and loving father to all children !!!
So true!!!
Love my parents so much. I can relate to your parents & you. We are bless to have great parents. Not all parents are the same unfortunately.
Tsis yog overused naj. Expired lawm xwb. Txiv neej thia siv kom txaus2 thaum lawv tseem hluas. Nej cov poj niam yuav tsum nrog nej tus txiv sib do kom txaus nkaus thaum lawv tseem muaj zog ces lawv yeej tsis mus nrhiav sab nraud li. Nej txhob tos thaum lawv expired es nej mam mus kho nej lig dhau lawm.
50 years old to 60 still work ok, why 50 years has problems for someone? Life in America is so freedom and has too much problems for some family.
Thank you for sharing the love of your father. Such a loving and understanding story of your family.
If an ok woman with ok body says, "Let's do it ,I'm not hesitating, lol
Hmong men to valuable 😊
Wishing you the best, sister. May you and your husband find love in each other again and may you find forgiveness for him.
It's really sad that these stories are always the parents helping, and in the end, it's always the cheating husband.
Omg such a depressing story. I now have high blood pressure. Hahahaha
Let me go listen to Koos loos. Hahaha
so what's your point?? let a man use you ans cheat on you and hope they'll stop at age 50?
dumb story
es ua cas pheej npav qhov yuav rau yav thaum laus na..thaum matter the most es nws twb tsis care txog koj na...es thaum nws twb yuav mob stroke los yog mob ko taw vwm es mam hlub yus es nej ho yuav zoo siab ua luaj na...kav tsij muab pov tseg es txhob tos txog thaum twb mob stroke es mam los so quav es ho qhuas tias nws hlub yus..people you need to get a grip of yourself!
Idk if this lady is smart or dumb, listening to her father by “ua siab ntev” and suffering all those years just so she can grow old with someone who doesn’t love her but settled because they’re too old now. Hmong OGs have got to stop with this nonsense of being patient no matter what. Everyone needs to do what makes them happy and leave when necessary. Everyone deserves to be with someone who loves them and doesn’t cheat, lie or abuse. SMDH… I feel sorry for this lady enduring such a miserable life.
Definitely dumb. Wasted her best years being “patient” while her husband lived his best life cheating. Now that he’s old and can longer get it up, he comes back and controls her even more. Raum is what she is
Soon you will have to suffer too
I can relate to this story..:my parents always try their best to be there for me, my husband and kids…even though they had many kids! Still, they tried their best to split their time among their children/grandchildren. My in-laws on the other hand, never…yet when my fil passed away, they expected me and the husband to pay his funeral…
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40-50 xyoo tseem need daddy kom husband thiaj tsis lawb yus xwb no es yuav ua cas ua neeg txog hnub tuag naw. Saum taub hau txawm tsis muaj ib teev hlwb li ntag los?
Hnub daddy tuag lawm ces cov poj niam no noj av lawm xwb las as.
Daddy hais koj yuav ces yuav, daddy hais kom rauj ces nrauj, daddy hais kom tuag es puas mus tuag ne?
Kudos to you sister but this doesn't work for everyone. You went through hell with a cheating husband just to be told by your father to stay because when your cheating husband gets OLDER he will come back and love you!!.??
Tus niamTsev aw
Koj tau koj tusTxiv thaum laus nws tus kwvntxawg twb tsis work lawm xwb os
What a waste. Good father but lacking in his daughter pain and needs. Regardless sister it is fair play. Time to stoo giving a damn on your husband. Too old now just concentrate on doing you. Let him wallow in hiss own insecurities and miserable self.
This is such a stressful life.. get married to a man and a family who does not love you.. even your husband is a cheater.. love yourself and kid
Your dad never care for you he help you so much because he didn't want to lose face that was it. A loving parents would never allow their kids to stay unhappy and broken heart for years . Plus you didn't know how to love ur self.
This story is suppose to be a feel good story, but her father definitely was not a good father. No good father would tell their daughter to stay in a toxic relationship. I really hate old Hmong traditions.
Tus niam tsev aw... koj hais koj niag txiv dev xwb los mas, koj txhob muab peb cov txiv neej zuag rau hauv, nej cov poj niam hnub nyoog laus 50 xyoo ces cev twb qhuav tag twb tsis muaj kua li lawm thiab ne es cas pheej yuav qhuas nej cov poj niam ua luaj li thiab na...koj tuaj hais ces hais koj niag txiv dev liam xwb, txhob hais hais peb cov txiv neej nrog, peb ib co txiv neej siab yeej zoo zoo kawg yeej tsis mus tham ib tug hluas nkauj li, thov hais koj niag niag txiv dev liam xwb, nej ib txhia poj niam los yeej liam kawg thiab
ntuj aw 50 xwb tsis work lawm tsis tim age o. koj niag txiv tsis healthy xwb. Peb 50 tseem khov kho yog ntsib tus tsw haum yus. Ib nrab txiv neej khoom tsis work yog tim nej pojniam tsis ntxim hlub lawm xwb o.
Why we women who don’t love us self enough. If you have a bachelors degree and still waiting for your parents to make decisions than txim nyog mag tus txiv tsim lawm thiab mas. Remember to love yourself first. We women are stupid enough to stay with a cheating person.
Idky you even allow your dad to dictate your life, telling you to wait until your husband is 50 years old to come back and love you. Why? When u are the only one going through the struggle . No thanks, horrible advice from your dad.
I can’t understand the logic in the father forcing the daughter to stay in an unhappy marriage. What is even more absurd is the daughter thanking her father for forcing her to stay in the unhappy marriage. 😮
If only all parents know how to speak and support their kids like this……
But I would never tell my daughter to stay with a cheater like this father.
Yeah 1975 parents. This dad is ridiculous. Ruin his daughters best years. All she got for show is her old cheating no longer able to obtain an erection husband. Wow such good ending 😂
Zaj neej neeg no tus nyab yog tus tsis zoo vim nws twb yog tus kawm tag 4 xyoos tsim nyog nws yog tus hlub niam pog txiv yawg, tsis yog nws tos niam pog txiv yawg hlub lawm
I’m not going to waste my time, 50 years, with a toxic relationship like this. Ua neeg ib zaug xwb, yog koj txiv hlub koj ces koj txiv yeej tsis muab koj yuam nyob lub neej lwj siab es yuav uv, li uv nkaus li no xwb. Tsam no koj niag txiv lub zog twb tag es mam los khoo koj li ko, nkim koj lub neej rau tiam no tshaj plaws li os tus sister. We live in America and why let your parents control your marriage for you?!
This story is a sad way to live. There's nothing empowering to learn. The husband put you through misery in your 20s and now he's doing it again in your middle age because of he is insecure???? Just kick the guy to the curb! Geesh...
I don't know why you listen to your dad for soo long. You think that 50 year he came back to you and be happy about it. 50 year he came back because he has nothing left. Your father is not a good father if he loved you he would not let your husband hurt you all these years. I would not let my daughter suffer. I will support my daughter, let her decided what she wants to do and what will make her happy. I will never let my daughter stay with a person who hurt my daughter over n over. Ua Neeg zoo make you suffer be a mean person and find happiness.
I would never have that kind of patience for a cheating dog! Sorry, but I don’t agree with some of your advice. But one I do wish is that I wished I knew what’s like to have a fathers love. Just 😢 I never knew my rip dad!
What a waste of your life suffering from your 20s until your 50s until he is finally a good husband? I wouldnt be so proud of 30 years of misery.
She did win at the end like her dad promise right? An old 50 year old that can’t get it up anymore. 😂. Such a terrible life she lived because she listened to her dumb dad and couldn’t make a decision for herself.
@@TubLaibVaj 😂😂😂
Tus me viv ncaus aw kav tsij yuav zoo22 hnav thiab noj kom 66 noj qab22 xwb os cia kom nws yog tus khib yus lawm xwb mas
Viv ncaus koj tus niam pog ntxim ntxub tshaj kuv yog koj ces twb said goodbye rau niam pog lawm os😮
Ua cas hais mus hais los tsis make sense li!
Yes, I understand your parents' love in the beginning, but once close to the end, I just don't understand, plus I think your parents don't love you. That's not parents' love to force daughter to stay with the suffering life.
wow cas es niam pog txiv yawg yuav nkaus thiab phem ua luaj no od puas muaj tseeb ma
It's good that your father knows how to support you but he's wrong for making you stay miserable with your husband. Kind of sounds like your father has his own hidden agenda in protecting his reputation that's why he still make you stay. Learn how to live for yourself and not let other's run your life for you. Why wait until he's useless to have him turn around to love you?
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Koj tsis tas los hais neej neeg ntxiv lawm neb ib niam txiv thiab nej tsev kwv tij muab meej muas lub neej nrhuav tag lawm nej lam tuaj nyob lub teb chaws vam meej tab sis nej yog dev xwb yom koj cov neej neeg ko yog koj qhia kom hmoob ua dev sib tshov kuv xav mas txawj tham li koj ntshe sib tshov ua tau heev yuam niam ntsuab teev
Disagree with your father’s advice. Bad father - we need to move away from this type of fatherhood teaching.
This woman wasted years of her life, being Siab ntev. Wouldn't take this woman's advice.
Right. I feel like these type of women shouldn’t be giving advice too.
@@PajTswb it's all good, for her to share her story. But to give this kind of advice is a no.
@@houavue7711 she should use the advices on herself first. Lol
Thaum koj niag txiv dev zog ntaug tas mam rov tig los ua zoo es koj ho xav tias koj yeej lawm no? Ruam dhau lawm os. Nws los vim nws kev tws tsis muaj chaw nyob lawm xwb tseem qhuas tias yus yeej. Nej ib txhia niam tsev no xyov cas yuav ruam ua luaj li lau. Niag txiv mus ua2 hluas zog tag tws kev mam los tseem khav tias yus yeej lawm nws thiaj rov los. Rov los rau koj tu lawm xwb es zoo abtsi nawb?!😅
Your dad loves you and dont want to see your marriage fall apart. But the thing he think is best for you, is also destroying you mentally. Men in their mid 40s and over, will be useless in bed lol. By then, they turn into a big baby that block your happiness and freedom.
If he didnt cheat, you have every right to love him even more when he is incapable taking of himself. But how he treated you poorly as his wife, he dont deserve to be serve as a husband. He deserve to be toss at the elder home hahha. Well, good luck!
Cas nej tej txiv 50 xyoo xwb es txawm siv ua kav ywm hlab lawm na….
Come on woman that’s why you have to find a husband with a diesel engine that could a long way
Your father is wrong. I don't think your parent love you. They forced you to stay with a cheater.
Right now in this generation. If you don’t live near your own parents. Your life will suffer more.
I disagree. If you can’t live your life on your own and still need your parents close by then you’re not ready to be married.
@@heysoniher your own parents will help you babysit not your in laws. Your in laws go babysit their own daughter’s kids
Your story so one sided.
Am I the only person who thinks this is a horrible advice? Be patient in a toxic relationship. I’m so confused.
Hmoob ruam tej niam tej txiv lawv tsuas yug tau yus xwb lawv tsis tau kawm ntawv tug ntawv luaj twm lawv tsis paub vim li cas koj thiaj li mus mloog lawv tej niag lus xyoo 1950 ma lov ? tam sis no peb nyob tebchaws mékas lawm tsis yog nplog teb, peb tuaj txog luag ntuj lawm peb yuav raws li luag txuj, peb tuaj nyob luag teb lawm peb siv raws li nom tswv txoj cai xwb, hmoob txoj cai ib txwm haistias yog dev npua cai hais tau ua tsis tau nej cov ntxhais cov pojniam tsis txhob cug pob ntseg thiab uv2 leej twg ntxiv li lawm.
Yog nws ncaj ncee ces yus los yuav tau ncaj ncee rau nws thiab, yog hnub twg nws ntxeev siab kiag ces yus ua pauj kiag seb leej twg mob siab tshaj leej twg xwb ? tebchaws no ntuj twb tig ko diav rau nej cov pojniam tseem muaj power tshaj txiv neej lawm vim li cas nej ua neej rov qab lawm los cas nej tseem cia lawv caij tsuj nej li tiam 75 thiab ntshe nej lub hlwb tsis txwm 100 lawm poj ? tus kwvtij thiab neej tsa twg tseem tuaj quab yuam nej ces sau kiag nws npe coj mus rau nom tswv tub ceev xwm xwb ces txiv neej hmoob npuav dej txhua tus. Twg kom koj ruam koj mus mloog koj txiv tseem ruam tshaj koj tej lus ces koj thiaj tau lub khuv xim rau thaum laus no. kuv tus no tsis tooj kam leej twg los ntuas kuv, kuv lub neej kuv yog tus txiav txim kheej thiab tsuas muaj kuv mus ntuas luag tej xwb tsis pub kom leej twg tuaj ntuas kuv qhia kuv ua neej. Yog li no thiaj yuav tau maim tej yam tsis zoo hauv lub neej tsis txhob xyaum ua yam phem yam tsis zoo.