10 Secrets You Should NEVER Tell Coworkers
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 26 ก.ย. 2024
- If you don’t want drama at work, there are a few things your coworkers should not know. But everyday ambitious professionals who work hard and are trying to get ahead make the mistake of spilling tea on these ten things to coworkers and accidentally insert themselves in office gossip, workplace drama, and find themselves in the center of a toxic work situation. In this video I’m going tell you exactly what you need to keep secret from your coworkers so save yourself stress, and keep your career trajectory high.
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Never tell your coworkers anything. They are pure jealous evil.
Even if the guy I'm telling it too is a handsome charming bonified ladies man? He would still be jealous of low status me??
Obviously
@@paleperson8296 No. Not obviously. You might be forgiven for thinking they were not arseholes only to be unpleasantly surprised.
@@paleperson8296 would he still be jealous of low status me?
100%
Don't gossip, bad mouth another employee, don't share anything personal about yourself. You should only talk about only work related things. Just do your job and go home.
The only comments I have about co-workers are praise or compliments about how they handled a situation. I do my best to bite my tongue about the people who skate at work.
What amazes me is the number of co-workers who think nothing of asking personal questions at work. Often times they'll become offended when I politely decline answering them. When did asking personal or financial questions become the norm?
Unfortunately the "quiet ones" are often targeted for that reason alone - the gossip and speculation only being limited by the imaginations of your coworkers who get to write your story for you. There isn't really anything you can do about this other than hope it doesn't happen to you, or simply move on each time it happens.
😊😊I never say anything that I don’t want broadcasted.
That's everyday me! 😁
@@Bunkerhillburning: Agree, I was asked by Payroll how many times a week do I have sex!
Three golden rules in the workplace, 1) mind your own business 2) worry about yourself 3) keep your own personal info to yourself. If no one else needs to know, don’t say anything
100% but there will always be flying monkeys.
Love this !
@@AnthonyManzio flying monkeys??
My female colleague hangs out a lot with a one male colleague at work. They eat lunch together and gossip about other people. And they don't hide it. They often stick together. Recently a meeting was held without that male colleague and some people complained about his way of working.
That female colleague who hangs out with him, took the opportunity to tell the director that the male colleague was not fit for the job and that she was willing to take over his part of the job.
The director was delighted and praised the female colleague for her ability. After the meeting in which she spoke against that colleague, that female colleague again went to lunch with the colleague she had just beaten up to her boss acting like nothing was happened. I work in such a terrible environment.
I'm in a terrible work environment too. I constantly pray.
😢😮😮😮
😢🙁
Email that supervisor and tell them they are about to promote a snitch
@@gmar7836 I hear you. But it doesnt make a sense, because if I tell my supervisor that and he ask me to prove it, I cant prove to it to him. It will be like I gossip her.
Never discuss your personal finances at work. If you are having debt issues, do not bring it u at work. Your co-workers can use it against you. Always understand that you can be friendly with your co-workers, but they are not your friends. And there are co-workers who will act like a friend who are not.
The power dynamic shifts if people perceive financial insecurity - they'll know how much you need the job. This can be exploited by colleagues and leaders sadly.
@@JenniferBrick Exactly! They will give you as many sh#t detail jobs they can because you are in personal debt trouble.
Yup 2face is not just a Batman villain they're work villains too 😎
A current coworker always mentioned that she was broke. So embarrassing on her part.
Yes
My rule of thumb is to ask how everyone else is and get folks talking about themselves.
Good deal. It's human nature that people love talking about themselves. But they also love talking sh*t about others!!! 😒🙄😜
This is what I do. They love to talk about themselves so it works very well
One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was from a teacher who was known for keeping secrets hidden. Her motto: "Zip it, lock it, keep it in your pocket." Words to live by!
😂😂😂. Love it!!!!
All this things are the ones that make me want to work remotely. No drama, no gossip and more than all no worrying about what others think, do or not do.
It can still come up but the day to day drama is such easier to avoid!
Yet it’s impossible to get a fully remote job nowadays
Then when you get fired, it’s by zoom 😂
@fabis0902: In my head I call my home coworker "Sir Demand-Alot", and he is either wandering around, napping or bitching about food as he's on a diet. Yes it's my cat
@@victoriagraham6470 You just made me laugh 😂
I now get why one of my bosses NEVER discussed his personal life. Just be aware that some coworkers will be nosy enough to reserach ANYTHING about you if you are the quiet type as well. I have noticed this with nosy coworkers who think you might be rich from the type of car you drive or where you live (if they work in an office and can see where you live or they know you from the neighborhood especially). They will literally try to look up info on you or use other coworkers to ask various questions so the information gets back to them.
they pryed me so much bc of my car? asking me what my parents do? how much THEY MADE? Because i’m young and don’t believe i can afford my own materials.
"I trusted karma to do it's job, so that I can do mine." =GOLD
Not true bullies always get away since manager are scared of the bullies.
@@AnthonyManzio they'll have to bear those sins in the next life anyways, so don't worry
@@sagi5461 So true
Also avoid ppl who gossip and tell personal info of others
If they're talking about others 💯 they'll talk about you too
@@JenniferBrick yes
Hit the nail on the head 📌🎯
I never discuss anything personal at work even with coworkers that I like and im friendly with. The less people know the better it is. Its easier to let it be a mystery to them, and less for them to gossip about
My husband and I , after 27 yrs marriage, bought our dream house. We worked very hard to get to this point in our life. But I’am uncomfortable talking about it at work because people think you are bragging or that you must have a lot of money. No, I wish they could understand that we suffered and sacrificed to buy this home and we are very proud of it.
I might of heard this on here. People don’t mind if you do well, but do like it if you do better than they are. I’ve noticed this also includes family.
People make all sorts of assumptions, which never include working hard, saving money, and sacrificing short term for long term in those assumptions.
Where did you buy your house?
They don't care, quit it
Agree! I saw this firsthand with a few family members
Why talk about it? Not everyone can buy a house. Share this with your best friend and leave it at that.
Don't talk about
Sexually history
Criminal history
Negative work history
Financial history
Keep work and private life seperate.
Trust nobody. I have experienced this first hand. I was accused of saying something I never said because someone was determined to misinterpret what I said. It backfired.
Walls tend to be much thinner in workplaces than most of us think. If you ever have any doubts about sharing something with even one person at work, you probably shouldn't share it at all.
This is so perfectly said, Ian.
@@JenniferBrick thank you. I wish I'd found your channel sooner, your content from the past year would have been a life saver when I went through an awful job situation last summer. Regardless, keep doing what you do.
Whenever my coworkers ask me what I'm doing on the weekend, I always say nothing that matters here. I have to maintain that wall between the world of the job and the world of me.
That's totally fair. You're entitled to boundaries.
@@JenniferBrick Thank you.
@@Stinger522 I think they like to ask personal questions so they can find a way to gossip about you behind your back. Hence why they hate quiet workers.
@@Uksoapfan in my experience, quiet pros are the best pros.
@@Stinger522 If I was a boss I would be down like a tonne of bricks on employees who like to gossip and talk and their mind rarely on the job. Sadly unions and laws seem to protect useless workers, if you call them workers.
Don’t tell anybody not even your boss your personal matters unless you want it shared with everyone. I understand you have to tell the boss why you have to go hiatus aka leave for a while like a family emergency, medical leave but don’t give too much away.
I had coworkers who constantly overshared, telling me details of their private life I didn't ask and didn't want to know, it really got on my nerves, they got offended when I didn't want to listen to them, so glad I no longer work there
very true. In my office, a co-worker was out on disability for two months due to a psychiatric condition. How do I know this- because her pissed off supervisor who was having to pick up the slack in her absence let it 'slip'. Assume everything you say to anyone at the company will become as public as putting it in an email to all of your co-workers.
I had a coworker open her my chart and asked me to read her the results to her 😬 I was mortified, like wtf is going on. I told her no and she proceeded to place her phone on my desk and open it anyway. I dont need to know what you have unless its covid lady get away from me 😂😂
My motto is always 'keep it civil,keep it moving'
I like it!
Yesss! I’m like this with my store manager. I keep it civil. I talk work related, do not get personal and maintain job task. I don’t trust him at all. He is two-faced. Don’t trust someone that gossips to you about others. Make sure to keep your life separate from work.
I never go to any company parties
true
Same never I tell them straight up I’m antisocial I will not enjoy it and they leave me alone
I just lost it at work....today. A co-worker I never trusted or liked it was confirmed. This is a gutter toxic workplace, and I fell into the gutter. I hate that I have joined the gutter ranks. Pray I get out of this toxic place so I can heal, please
Sending you soooo many vibes.
I have lost out on 10 years of raises due to the perception at work that I come from money all due to me inheriting enough money for a downpayment for a house in a SoCal suburb. I was 25 and stupidly thought my co-workers were friends so I explained how I bought my house and asked for time off for the closing, etc. 10 years later- all my co-worker have heard from a chatty co-worker about my 'winfall'. I'm the one who doesn't need a raise-ever. When I sold that house for a nice profit- I told no one but HR that my address changed. Tell co-workers nothing! the same chatty co-worker told everyone another co-worker was rich merely for taking horse riding lesson because apparently only rich people do that.
I'm sorry you went through that 💜
Oh, that was bad! Sorry to hear that.
I'm sorry to hear that, people can be so mean 😓 What about looking for another job?
Your videos are very helpful but what we really need is not just "don't tell your personal business to co-workers and bosses" but HOW EXACTLY to shut them down WITHOUT making a scene or getting them all twisted up. This is especially hard when you work in a small office or department where grudges thrive. I've had co-workers ask directly "are you married? Do you have kids' etc.?" What exactly is the response to that line of questioning if you don't want to share but don't want to start major drama because IT WILL. They will keep coming back and gossip loudly "SHE/HE/THEY are hiding something/don't want to be friendly/are not team players, etc" if you stay quiet. People are relentless. And now IF you get past probation depends on whether your co-workers "like you or not", not only on the work you do. (Oh yes, this is real!). Next level advice is needed.
I made a video on how to shut down coworkers. Just go to my recent videos, it's there!
Try to give short answers then ask them what they like in regards to pop culture, movies, etc. People love to talk about themselves. Just keep the spotlight focused on them and keep the conversation superficial so you seem friendly and there's no drama 🎭 good luck🍀
That's pure harassments. Tell them to stop harassing you. They will stop. Don't be afraid to put your foot down.
@@dijoxx No that's how you regain respect by confronting them. If you don't it will only escalate.
Two teachers (who were friends) both applied for the same assistant principal position. The interview was on a Friday. That night they went out drinking. Catherine (name changed) had too much to drink and slept on Jen's (name changed) couch. That Monday Jen went in and told everyone Catherine had too much to drink and it got back to the interview committee. Who got the job? Catherine! In my opinion for two reasons. 1. No one likes a back stabber. 2. We all make mistakes. It is sixteen years later and Catherine moved up to principal. Jen is still trying to become assistant principal. She has literally been passed over in the district 40 plus times. Jen is now approaching 60 and still trying. So dumb.
That didn’t apply to my case. The covert narcissist woman who backstabbed me, STOLE my ideas, was condescending, patronizing etc. is the one who was promoted. So, it all depends on the company. Of course she was a sweetheart to all managers.
WHAT does OUTSIDE activity have to do with TRUE JOB ABILITY?
@@pibly7784 Unfortunately, when you work with children, everything you do is scrutinized.
I have a co worker that is always telling everyone her personal stuff. Besides telling everyone at work she posts it on Facebook. I’m the opposite I believe that you should keep your personal life to yourself.
Zero sharing. Happiness loves privacy!
Always listen to gossip. Never spread it. Don't believe it but be prepared for it being true.
And be prepared when it is used against you...ALWAYS!
I used to share tips with my coworkers when something happened to me and I learned something new, and I wanted to share it because I didn't want them making the same mistake or encountering the same issue but I've realized they don't do the same for me, either of them. They don't share any new info or tips, it's always just me, and I feel like that makes my "mistakes" more noticeable or obvious, when they make mistakes I don't even realize it until our supervisor brings it up as a "learning experience" without pointing fingers. One time I gave a coworker that was being misunderstood by our supervisor advice, I told her to explain the situation and clear things up but then they both became cold and disregarded me altogether and even made me look or feel like I was being difficult ....this is something I've had to learn the hard way too, don't try to give "advice" or tips when it is not asked of you, people don't like that and instead it makes you look bad. I just don't want people making the same mistakes I am if it can be avoided, but oh well we all gotta learn somehow and I need to stop with my hero complex lol...
Had one co-worker that told another co-worker about his wife not having a period 😂. Man that's just crossing the line right there. People tell way too much of their personal business and they aren't even your friends outside of work.
Yes, i had one co worker who im cool with tell my other coworker who likes her by the way about her personal life and when he didnt get what he wants from her or he gets pissy with her he starts spreading around her business and she just takes it. He even did it in front of her and still she just sits there and lets it happen its crazy
When I started a different in a new dept, dude told me about another dude (who I have no clue about) something about the guy got some chick pregnant and has multiple sexual misconducts.... he told me something about EEEEVERYONE. Automatically could not trust him. Had to stay away as much as possible.
I know my big mouth prevented me from from advancing into management at my Company. Listen to this advice and shut up!!!!😂
I'm sorry you learned the hard way 🥺
Hearing all of these, is making me realize, I may not have played it as safe as I thought I had.
I tried very hard not to share too much with my coworkers, (because I didn’t trust them anyway). There were times I did feel it necessary to share things happening in my life. Like having too much on my plate, and asking my supervisor for time off. Telling my supervisor about my engagement, and answering questions about my plans for the wedding…guess where my supervisor is going for HER wedding, after she railroaded me into getting fired?
Yeah the $25,000 in debt thing was something I had one coworker do that. We all started judging her even if we didn't want to think about her that type of much.
But everyday she was talking about how much money she DIDN'T have. Which roommate wasn't paying and how much she lost on scratch offs.
She has no boundaries.
When I hear stories like this I imagine myself jumping into the situation like 'nooooooooo shhhhhhh"
@@JenniferBrick Right!!
She is older than me, so she certainly doesn't take suggestions or advice from me. She made that clear.
But she started talking about drama with her daughter and I walked away from her. With a "must be tough," over my shoulder.
It's literally always some Debbie Downer drama.
1. With the neighbor
2. With her roommates
3. With the front desk
4. With the new coworker
If you're good at your job coworkers know it and will be jealous so do your best to get even better it drives them nuts
I wouldn’t even tell my co workers that I have kids
Some people just blurt out everything you tell them. They won’t do it maliciously, they just say everything. Like children. Better not to say too much.
Law 4 of the 48 Laws of Power: Always say less than necessary.
Genuinely everyone needs to read this book. My copy is basically all highlighted with notes written all over it - it was everything I intuitively knew or had learned the hard way in corporate.
I would rephrase this to saying only what is necessary.
Also Law 5: "So much depends on reputation - guard it with your life"
I work alot of overtime because I am saving up to buy a house. I am reluctant to talk about my home ownership goals at work because some people might assume that I have money coming in from somewhere else since the housing market here in Los Angeles makes it very hard for a young person to buy anything as first time buyer.
People project their stories into it and make strange assumptions. Sending you savings and dream real estate vibes!
Not having children can influence salary and promotion counter intuitively.
FIle it in the damned if we do damned if we don't column 🤦♀️
What’s interesting about this is at a previous job gossip was totally weaponized and management encouraged it.
That sounds toxic af
@@JenniferBrick it totally was toxic AF.
They are all scared of bullies that's why bullies never get fired
This is a mad world. Always watch your back.
Your social acceptance and your tactical social skills are so underrated for workplace survival.
I agree. Just gonna keep sharing till they catch on!
I'm very open at work. Very direct. I tell everyone what I think about everyone, in front of everyone. I do what I want too.
If you have a problem with a co-worker especially your boss, or vice versa, DO NOT TALK TO THEM ON THE PHONE 📞. They will record you and y’all conversation without you noticing.
Same with having the convo recorded on a cell phone
I straight up told my boss I am financially well off in hopes he wouldn't offer me MORE promotions. I just need the check. Not responsibility.
Real talk. 👏
The thing is, you don't have to talk; people will makeup things about you simply if you exist and provoke things in them just by existing.
I only tell them info that adds to my legend. 😮
Haha I like this policy
I remember talking to a guy in the lunch room about some private matters, and of course everyone was listening in. Never, never again will I say things out loud like this. It took 6 months, or longer for them to quit hassling me over what I said.
I think the self-tattling is situational. It's good to take ownership if you messed up especially if you're a leader or trainner. Ive worked with people who cannot admit they messed up so they gaslight everyone else, and had a lot of colleagues quit within a year.
true but don't quit and never let these lazy bums ever win.
So glad I work from home cause these office politics…whew 😩
Politics still exist remotely - anytime you have human interaction there's psychology and power at play.
@@JenniferBrick yup, even on our virtual meetings one of my coworkers suck up to and brown noses the boss so much.
People definitely don’t like it if you’re getting paid more than them and you’re in the same position as them. So don’t talk about finances or pay rate aka wages at work or outside work either.
I'm here for pay transparency, but it sucks when you find out your underpaid, you your colleague is underpaid and then knowing doesn't fix it. I'm going to talk about this in another video!
@@JenniferBrick thank you Jennifer
Honestly that’s important to know
I've followed you from the beginning. Your videos get better every time and you have helped me a lot!
You're so kind to say that, Chris.
I tell people I have no mortgage and I have lots of money in the bank. They get jealous because they are Loser's 😂
100%. Same here being mobbed, gaslighting, harassed at the hospital for over 12 years. Top workers for 38 years have never been suspended. Jealousy and misery. Union, manager, HR and the police are all totally useless. Bullies are lazy bums and stupid managers are scared of the bullies. They say about me I'm crazy, I drink, I'm a stalker all bs defamation of character. They removed disciplinary measures. They should arrest the bullies and fire the manager. Action speaks louder than nasty words. It destroys my reputation. I will never quit to make these bums ever win and if I transfer to another hospital and mobbing starts again I don't know all the managers ect like in every department like now. So best to not change hospitals. Never let bullies try to control you from quitting. Never let bums win in life.
100% same here
I love your way of thinking 🥇🥇🥇🥇
Good Morning 🌞 Jennifer ! I learned the hard way , not to share fiscal information with some coworkers as I was hit up for loans which I was uncomfortable doing & had to refuse. Mums 🤫 the word at work when in doubt ! Hope you & your family have a great summer ☀️ !
Loaning money is such a loaded thing when it's to friends and family (I always expect not to get it back, because mostly you won't) - but with coworkers. So inappropriate for them to ask. Hope you have a great summer too!
Male work bestie = Side dude. 💯💯💯
Yup
Petty coworkers make stuff up.
Don’t confuse gossiping and reporting someone for an illegal behavior.
Harassments at work is a joke. 70% of the staff are bullies
But their your "friends"!
@@terrytitus5291 Good friends don't gossip and harasser you.
It's not realistic to completely clam up about personal details to coworkers. To not share anything personal at all is a red flag and essentially comes across as an admission that you have things to hide. I think the best approach is to consciously decide ahead of time what you are willing to share, assuming that it will be known by everyone else. Keep the juicy stuff to yourself and disseminate gossip fodder sparingly, but mindfully. Let them gossip about the trivial stuff that doesn't really matter to your professional reputation.
I use to tell people I didn't trust a secret mostly not true ....only them to see if it got back to me.
I got promoted to a lead position in April. I was so excited for my new role, but immediately was shocked at the amount of gossip that goes on between all the leads and supervisors in my department. They talk about EVERYONE and whatever they have going on in their personal lives. I know they must do the same about me. Needless to say I am looking for a different role elsewhere because I can’t deal with the toxicity.
Never share anything do your job and go home.........😊
That's reality..
I will plan to left corporate soon.
you are going right path, please make more video on the office politics handling
I link to one of the videos I made about office politics at the end of this one!
@@JenniferBrick Thank you, is it any Live sessions ma'am
You soo Correct.,
People are Selfish- and cruel.
Keep Private Business to yourself.. 🎉
Recently my boss(female) felt the need to ask me if I am s*xually active in front of my co workers and if I(female) am interested in some Co workers...all I said was I am not interested and not searching, I found it disturbing that a boss can have no level of professionalism....m married and don't feel the need to be announcing that to co workers or bosses. How do I handle such people/questions other than being busy coz work is involving so sometimes I want to take a sit?
I just talk about my cats🤣
I hate office politics. I never played it at my former companies. I never worked to please my bosses or anyone, I jst did my fckin job, full stop.
Yep I’m just doing my job and hoping I’m good enough, I’m not licking any behinds, just being my polite self
Just had some of these issues, but mostly with difficult coworkers. One had a pretty bad mental health problem so it was hard for me to hide my dislike for her when she was being moody and prolbematic because management didn't want to do anything either. I just have certain buttons and her behaviors kept pressing them. It also doesn't help when management won't manage so you really can't trust them to deal with your concerns reasonably or consistently. It can leave you without a way to really deal with the stress and understandable venting can become perceived as toxic by the same managers who won't do anything to help minimize the problems. It's very frustrating.
What's behind all of this? Politics. But they don't need to be dirty, gross, or complicated. Actually, they're easy AF once you know the five power moves to play office politics and win. Learn them here: th-cam.com/video/dmHuvikWcqM/w-d-xo.html
PS: Who got the Schrödinger's cat reference? Short yourself out here 📦🐈
I'm really sorry I haven't watched this video 6 mothns ago when I got a new job. The amount of stress I felt after making the 1st mistake that was mentioned in the video, and it was right in the beginning, so it felt x2 harder. I mean srsly, if anyone at your work tells you something, you should ALWAYS think before you decide to share this info with anyone. Anything can be used against you, and somtimes by people, you would less expect it from.
Knowledge is power when you use it correctly. It's a liability if you don't. I hope things are going better for you now 💜
My husband told everyone at his job about my surgery. I told him it's none of their business. He's friendly and thinks everyone is. Also, when a new employee is hired he finds out how many kids they have, marital status and country of origin and tells them where my parents are from. I wish he'd stop.
finally it will happen. I wish he would stop either
Move in silence ☻
Also, never send gossip text or phone call/voicemail because ppl saved them and will use them against you when y’all fall out. And yes they will record y’all conversations without you knowing it.
I'll do you one better: tell nobody anything EVER at work. Be a pleasant robot. That is the ONLY way you MIGHT not get fired. MIGHT.
Sometimes we are too joyful and kind hearted at the workplace which makes others just mind their own business, but that's not true. Always be like a spy with a smile on your face, never reveal what matters to you....limit to few generic and corporate conversations which are too general. But the question is how we are going to make our friends or supporters around... Please make a video guide on this topic
You are my work bestie, Jen!!
I can really relate to your comment about the pandemic creating this isolated work situation. Thankfully, I’m starting to branch out and connect with people in other departments now. Yet, for the last few years, I was too close to “the team”. Sharing too much. I’m wiser now!
@@juleshappy741 I was trying to be on a friend-level. I have been working on some extreme self awareness because I messed up some relationships that I really cared about because of it. And I am not being promoted, though I --maybe naively-- think I am a good candidate for that. It's been character building nonetheless!! It'll set me up great for my next career move. They haven't seemed to forgive some of the over-chattiness in the past, and I am working on leadership skills/political stance within myself, so there's no room for me to grow here anymore. But that's okay because it's really not anything I want to be doing -- everything's a learning lesson!
I hate that I can't just shut my mouth... I am such a dumb open book because I was always taught being open and honest was best... but now all it is doing is biting me in the ass and making me lose everything...
Nobody needs to bring anyone down, simply because a bad seed will grow a rotten tree anyway.
So well said!
I’ve been forced to share aspects about my life. I had an interview recently where they wanted to know about my private life. I have health issues too. Then I’m discriminated against in the hiring process too. The jobs market is terrible in the UK though.
As always, excellent and precise advice from Jennifer. Just listen to her whenever you have a career-based question and you can't go wrong, regardless of what endeavor you're pursuing. She should be teaching personnel management at a post-grad level with her knowledge base and invaluable insights.
I appreciate you 💜
@@JenniferBrick Bullies should all be fired on the spot.
When I worked as a tech operator for a company in New Zealand where I used to live all this negative politics and back stabbing was very common amongst the co workers. People who you got along with well and had good common ground with would turn on you in a jiffy. You would be pulled aside by management because some overzealous and jealous co worker told on you for something you weren’t originally involved with but somehow all became your fault as you were the one left dealing with the problem in the end. Favoritism was rife and only those who were on the same playing field or followed the trends were promoted over hard working genuine employees who’ve been there years longer over these new comers who knew very little but were promoted because they rubbed shoulders with management. Toxic workplaces are dangerous to your mental health and well being the job was soul destroying to say at least dealing with crazies on the phone and then dealing with crazies in the office who are out to get one another. I made the mistake of telling a co worker about my financial situation in my early 20s back in the 2008 era, the person I rented an apartment with was allergic to paying bills and paying his rent causing so much stress and anxiety with endless phone calls letters txts and emails plus pop ins from the landlord which drove me bat shit crazy to say the least, this girl at my job told my boss about it and then things became rather unpleasant in the workplace after that.
Sounds like an intensely political environment.
I somewhat disagree, I reached out to my boss I had trouble with my car constantly because it was old. It was affecting my work because I didn't want to buy a new one and pay a lot of money. He got me a solid raise and helped me get the new ride. I talked to him about it and he was very cool about it.
What an interesting clip. My initial thought is that you are worried that you might give away information to co-workers so perhaps others feel this way.
I gave up working a over a decade ago. This video just makes me want to give up again even though I was considering returning.
I hate politics, why can't people just let someone exist.
Humans gonna human 🤷♀️
I agree with you! I have a new co working that came in one day showing me a mug that her late husband gave her and how much it meant to her. Her marriage anniversary was coming up. Her husband had passed away 2 years ago. Then a couple days later she comes in during her lunch with her boyfriend that she has been with for 1 year. 😂
I've been supporting my parents for a long time and about 10 years ago I stopped telling my co-workers and bosses about it because they used that information against me and to judge me. I literally lie because everyone thinks everyone else's life is their business instead of judging me by my work.
I wished I had heard these advices many years ago. Last year I landed a new role and my new boss gave me a growth opportunity path. I shared that with a coworker, who I thought was on my side, went to my boss and asked for the same opportunity. Felt very betrayed. I was more bothered by the fact that I betrayed my boss. Lesson learned. 😢. The good news is that now I know how ambitious this person is and she has no qualm about promoting herself at others expense. Poor decision on my part. She still thinks I am oblivious about. Best to keep my enemies close.
Considering coworkers adversaries seems like a self fulfilling prophecy...
it's always best to keep work business info all the way, if you have personal problems rather speak to someone outside the work circle or see a counsellor.
Also, remember if you share sensitive personal info and those co-workers leave for new companies they never interact with you but they now know all your secret info.
Remeber, your coworkers are not your friends out side of work. So don't bring personal information into the work place.
I remember this one nurse cursed soo much but she was actually funny. I kept thinking "yo how is she getting away with that?" Lol
When a major employer in a smaller town has the monopoly ...it becomes a very lonely place, because no one can be trusted.
Too many I know told when they were job hunting, some genuine folks that showed interest rarely got promoted or took longer, seems the unskilled or low skilled git them and some were no different than one that didn't get it..and I know a lot talk of money
Correct... you always want to put on a smiley game face and then politely make your exit when you can. Do this repeatedly to set expectations. No one will notice and you get to come across as super nice and fun BUT never provide drama fuel.
"Everything's great! 😄 Summer weather sure is heating up! 😎Saw the funniest cat video on TH-cam!😸 Another work email just came in, gotta go! Let's catch up at lunch! 🥪 " (Narrator: They didn't catch up at lunch. Ever.)
Lol at the narration
Huge facts on not letting people know your next move. Stay Focused!
I have some of the nosiest coworkers ever, but i dont tell them a single thing about my personal life. And it drives them crazy lmao i know they talk so much shit about me but idc. I cant stand nosey people. I'm here to work and go home, i aint tryna hang out with none of y'all 😂
I really try to keep work and personal life separated. People from my job (hospital setting) constantly spend weekends and even vacation time together…oh hell no… I can’t imagine. I leave at 4pm and I don’t want to hear from any of them past that time lol
One of the reasons why I think EAP’s are program. It eliminates your or others discussing personal business outside the workplace that can be a stressor. As for secrets within the workplace and me working in HR, it’s a lot of stuff you cannot talk about. Keep to yourself because it will fall in the wrong hands.
Co workers are little kids unhappy with themselves so they are broken and empty inside and full of negativity, jealousy, double standards, hate, opinions, sneakyness etc.....programmed robot slaves of the system working from 9-5 thinking that happyness starts with extern factors like status, money, material things that means nothing and its relativ and an illusion create by society.....if your happyness depend on extern factors you will never be because extern factors are endless.
If you are truly happy inside you will love another what shows how many aren't so you get all those points i say....
The more people around you, the more expectations, talk about others, lying, frustrations, negativity, jealousy, double standards, violent, hate, violent, own benefits etc.....
I am happy to live my life alone and have more strength, peace, power, happyness, freedom and time.....no co workers or other around me.....
I learned this the hard way recently, I will NEVER put myself in that position again. From now on, I will only speak when spoken to - anything and EVERYTHING you say can and WILL be used against you.
Lady, where were you 20 years ago. When you are young and entering the workforce, my direct experience is all the older bitter fugly 40-60 somethings just want to bring you down and not mentor you or help you. Co-workers Are NEVER YOUR FRIENDS and Are NEVER There to Truly Help You.
20 years ago I was in school 🤣
@@JenniferBrick Me too and working full-time 🤣
I really need this video reminder! Thank you Jennifer!