I am an older guy with the age related knee and back problems. The other day, I was standing in line at a supermarket and a young lady cut in front of me. I nicely told her that there is a line and she has to go the end of it. Suddenly, Mr. hero who was standing in line behind me comes to her rescue, he verbally insults me for not allowing her to get in front me. An average guy would do any stupid thing to impress a woman. Part of the problem is not the women.
Hi there older guy, I’am an older Gal Stupid is as Stupid does, real nice to see your point of view, I do agree with much of what Paul Elam saids about life & the ways women don’t know how to behave; but you point out that here is a young man not knowing how respect works! Many come from abusive homes and without a father figure, so many don’t have a teacher to show them so nice of you to take the higher road! & share your story ✌️🦋
My ex wife was not happy. I didnt earn "enough" money. We didnt travel "enough". And when she wanted to do something, eat out, travel, etc, i would remind her we didnt have the money, then over time she basically said i would just repeat back what she said and put a "not" in front of it. She was bonkers. She ended up destroying our 12 year marriage and our 7 year olds life by sleeping with her married boss
Both men and women have unrealistic expectations. The difference is that women's expectations are unrealistically high, while men's are unrealistically low. It's not a realistic expectation to think you can just set your standards as low as possible and end up with a healthy relationship.
Agree. From what I’ve seen, most guys will immediately latch on to any woman that shows the slightest interest in him. From there he will pursue and try to win her over by giving her everything she wants .. sometimes they end up dating seriously and getting married but the guy now has set himself up for disaster
@@vamp6767yes and most men will break They’re back trying to give their wife everything she wants. It’s just too bad the result is the opposite of what they want to happen - their wife just becomes spoiled and expects and wants more more
I heard that the original “catholic” interpretation of “love”, the “love” Shakespeare wrote about, was A genuine wish for the good fortune, well being, success, good health and prosperity of another person. Far from the misinterpretation of “love” we have today, which is a mash up of infatuation, lust and commercialised “romance”
Paul wearing a cross like he just got back from Ozzfest. Glad to have you advocating for us men Paul. Thank you for fighting the good fight out there everyday 💪🏻
Paul, we need more gentlemen like you succinctly explaining facts in a calm and "I've seen it all" voice. It's an un-thankful work, especially when talking to a spoiled person that just wants to hear their (mainstream propaganda) biases confirmed (which obviously this video is NOT an example of), so I personally appreciate that you're still here, "holding the line". Thanks.
This is the first time I’ve heard Paul and I like what he’s saying. What I’m puzzled about is where to go from here? There is a horde of simps out there and more being born every day .. what are the chances that we can even get 5% of them To change? Even the guys I know that are a bit more “red pill” still make really dumb decisions when it comes to women
@@brianmeen2158 "Where to go from there?" is a question asked countless of times with many different answers. My in-the-moment answer to this is: some of these simps will find a single mother or a high notch count 30-year-old woman, and they will be somewhat "happy" in their obliviousness (provided the woman in question decided to settle down, which isn't a given). Most of these simps will eventually connect the dots that what they do does not bring them closer to their goal, and will start asking questions in google, and will find many good answers. One of which is to not pedestalise women (i.e. simp). What we can do is to be an example of "if not to simp, then what?". It seems to me that Paul is turning or has turned to the (original patriarchal?) Christianity, which is one of the better answers to "then what?". I say "better", because the red pill's answer is "don't bother holding yourself to any standards in a declining civilisation -- just learn game and spin plates [me: contributing to the decline]". I personally don't fancy that. I don't believe anything actionable can be done to stop simping from happening in the first place because that requires that free speech can be practised in the mainstream debate, and for a long time now putting to question female nature in the mainstream results in one's life/career being cancelled. What we can do is perhaps to give hints to the oblivious men raised by women, often in private. This comment turned quite long, and I'm not crazy about producing comments on social media. Have a good day, sir.
@@Paul_Elam Mr Elam, 6:13 for as much as I agree with much of what U say& like how U are trying to educate men I have to say the romance has left Ur heart 😢mainly because of the crappy experiences! As a woman I know there R some women who SUCK, money hungry who haven’t been taught Morals, or self ♥️, that just aren’t worth anything but others R & should be treasure like they R diamonds this is where Men have failed! True, there doesn’t need to be a ring that is that valuable, marriage can B tied through real love with just a tin can opener be demonstrated through actions of ♥️seems U haved been wronged 1 too many times& let me B the first to let u know how sorry I am! U seem like a wonderful, intelligent caring man don’t loose ❤️A good woman is out there for You, but I think U want everything! U gotta give /to receive, open your heart to 💕😍I hope my reply can help like your show helps me✌️🦋
Thanks brother Paul. As usual, you are spot on. I have 25 years as a sworn police officer and 35 overlapping years as a licensed private investigator and investigation agency owner. So you can imagine the number of domestic disturbance calls I handled, and the infidelity and child custody cases I investigated. I shared many of my experiences and observations in a book I wrote. I mailed an uncorrected galley copy to you a couple of years years ago, but I don't know if you received it or remember my email to you about it; "Modern Women: A Tutorial For Modern Men". I also enjoyed your substack 425 podcast, episode2, part 1. You passionately expressed the sentiments and frustrations that many of my Christian brothers have lamented for years. Keep up the good work. Sam W Wright
@@Paul_Elam I'm afraid there is no audio book. It's only in paperback from Amazon. If you send me a good mailing address, I would be honored to send a copy to you as a gift. Even if you don't have time to read it all at once, you might be able to read an occasional page or two. Amazon shows the front and back cover. The back has a brief description of my background. I selected a baroque art work for the front that seemed to work with the title.
Always good to hear from you Paul. I don’t know what kind of hell I would have been in if I hadn’t found your videos and advice. About 6 years ago I got into a very brief relationship with a borderline woman. The old me would have fallen victim to the damseling and love bombing like a moth to the flame. After only 3 dates I decided to hit the eject button and have never regretted the decision. I recently found out she died of a drug overdose and had hidden the fact she had children. Thanks for sharing your wisdom Paul!
I always respond the same way. “What else do you have besides con artist feminine shaming technique?” They usually act surprised I don’t take the knee to their nonsense.
I found a great comeback when that BS was thrown at me. With the divorce rate at over 50%, if I get married, and she asks for a divorce, are you willing to pay for my lawyer’s fees?
And, the cure to all the problems of the human condition are based in ruthless Darwinian natural selection. If all would stop (there's no good reason to keep reproducing), eternal peace could be achieved.
You can get a man's stainless steel ring for under $10 and a woman's equivalent wedding ring and cubic zirc engagement ring for under $30. They look good and serve the function of telling others you're married (as in, off the market). People can hold out for the more expensive stuff if they both want that, but they can't expect everyone to show up for that narrative.
“I have no sympathy for guys in these situations - they make horrible decisions” They sure do! I find it necessary to call women on their bs but we also need to call men out on their bad behavior and terrible decisions. I have an old friend that married a woman - he knew she had kids by Multiple men and that she had borderline pd. 2 years after they married they are now both miserable and at each others throats. I am baffled as to how my buddy didn’t see this coming from a mile away
Learn by 3rd grade the way things leaned. Especially when there was females teachers...the proof of my thinking then was when I had my first male teacher in the 6th grade...since then my gut was my teacher and so was my tech education and not college BS
I learned females nature by 6th grade and definitely freshman year.. they always went for the top tier dudes as in their parents had money or really good looking or some kind of status that the women could gain from
The 3% of all single women being marriage material is absolutely correct. I did my own backward look at the women I’ve dated and used the same metrics (no kids, in shape, no mental health issues, no substantial debt, no daddy issues, no big tattoos, etc) and of the 50-60 women I’ve dated or been in relationship with (most were 1 or 2 dates and were disqualified immediately) only 1-2 were marriage qualified. That’s 1 or 2 outta 50/60 - 2.5-5%
Also with living on farms children were seen as cheap labor..... We live in condos now so children are seen as expensive furniture in the words of Peter Zeihan.
In many families up to modern times, even the children had to work to make ends meet. If they were lucky, they worked together with other family members or in a small family run business (fe. this was typical for weavers). If they were not so lucky, they worked in mines, were sent away to work on farms during harvest season, or in factories. One can find this still in many places all over the world. If you are into sports - most football stitching is done by children in Asia.
2:34 - 2:40 "It's a failure of men in my book." And Sir? THAT is why I would buy you're book!! Fifty-three year old Cat right here - no kids, never married - who's been saying JUST what you said for years!! You are DEAD ON ACCURATE, and what the Simps say be damned.
You should buy a few feminist books to. Feminist have been blaming men for the worlds problems for more then a hundred years. Go to any store in America that sells books and you can find a book blaming men for all of the worlds problems.
Well, I'm confused. I don't hate women, but I'm ok on my own. I've been alone since 2019. It seems like I should try to get a date, it seems like there is something I want. Yet, I don't "need" it, I don't get very lonely.
Hey Paul, Ive followed you for years. Are you still in my hometown Roanoke VA? I live here, I would love to meet you one day if possible even if it was just for coffee.
Hi Paul I'm curious if You still have access to a podcast about emotional inc....st published 10 years ago on BlogTalk Radio? Whenever I try to play it nothing happens and people on resdit have had this problem also I think the topic is worth attention since it's horrifying how acceptable this is in the modern society and the effects are destructive Take care and best regards
This stupid diamond ring thing, was started a 100 years ago by the de Beers diamond co., their ads said, "show her you care"..Women of course embraced this idiocy, because they're easily distracted by shiny objects..Diamonds are the most over priced objects on earth, and a total waste of money..Paul is right on, "you want a diamond? go buy one"..
Guess who holds a monopoly on diamonds. “There is a dormant volcano in Russia that has so many diamonds that it would make them just about worthless. So they take a very few amount as jewelry and more for industrial, but still highly restrict the mine.”
The problem really isn't men's expectations or women being different. It's that men can no longer oblige women to behave properly. The old rule of thumb.
We are all responsible for our own happiness, and also if we wish to marry we each have a duty to protect and nuture that. It's sad that so many men and women think women have to be entertained, fawned over and aren't capable of exercising judgement and responsibility. They system is a mess and romantic love as a basis of marriage is likely at the core of that mess. Marriage was a partnership intended to create stability for raising children, bringing families closer and making sure recognised means of passing on wealth with less risk of violent dispute were in place. There was an understanding that couples should try to be nice and sweet and friendly to each other as a side result of that but it wasn't a priority. In most cultures men had to court women and that meant getting on with her parents, especially her father, and showing they were going to be a responsible adult. People raised daughters and bragged about their virginity, management skills, sense of duty and things like that - today we only focus on beauty and how we feel when the hormones rush in. It was also governed by religious and cultural tradition - the secular authorities usually have limited involvement. Sometimes secular and religious authority overlapped though. It was a very, very different set up to what modern western people have and do. Technology, the economics of almost everything and the new focus on entertainment (we raise our children with endless play, movies, experiences etc then are baffled we have a generation of babies in adult bodies who have no sense of self governance and duty beyond their own temporary pleasure). It needs a lot more examination - marriage produces better outcomes for society when it works. The problem is it's not working and most people don't even know what it's for anymore. And that's producing endless broken homes, bitter men, irresponsible women and so many missed opportunities for men and women to actually work together to create families that will make a positive mark on their communities and society.
You're forgetting a few things. Like the rampant prostitution, incest, child abuse and pedophilia that was also way more common in the past. Over 80% of all civilizations were polyginist in the past which means the top few percent of men basically bought women as wife's and the other 80% of men never had family s and either had to use prostitutes or livestock to have any form of physical intimacy. That is why the bible has so many rules against bestiality. It was vary common for that to happen in the past because of how few men ever had the opportunity to get married.
I would venture to say that certain men love the "modern" institution of marriage because it's a brainless way for one to compete and "outdo" other men. As much as women may gossip and titter about their relationships, too often it was men that I would see bragging and spouting stories about their courting a woman, or how they "won her over", which is an automatic declaration of inferiority. They'd brag about what they spent on the wedding, the reception, the rings, the honeymoon, always waiting for the wide-eyed responses and people saying "Wow! You went all out!" They'd joke about her moodiness and how she calls the shots, how they'd know they needed a promotion in order to afford the house SHE wanted, and her spending. But, "anything to keep my baby happy." And meanwhile she stands by like the cat that ate the canary.
He rightly points out that monogamy is very difficult for both men and women. I think at this point everyone in both sexes and every walk of life can admit that. But his further point is that when it doesn't work out, men are always seen as the ones to blame, and they are the ones who receive all the punishments, and the most severe punishments. And that's just wrong.
Exactly. What a joke - these guys getting down on one knee. And what's really funny, is when these guys do this in a big public place, and the woman says no.
After watching "Daniel Boone" shows for a while, I was thinking that at the end of the day both people are too tired to argue over what's a man's job and what's a woman's job. There were things that needed to be done before nightfall. If it wasn't done, they'd suffer or pay for it in some way. Maybe some things could get done tomorrow if it wasn't done today, but you couldn't keep putting it off. Should civilization go back to pioneer or frontier times?
To be fair, this 3% of marriageable women number is kinda b*llsh!t. They just added different categories together, without accounting for overlap. Doesn't change the fact most women s&ck, though.
I differ in quite a few points. One of them: I don't see any of the Gynocentric traits are natural. And even if they were, we don't have to accept them. Women have definitely worked more, and even harder, than before, true. Especially before the X century or XII. Then courtly love came and fucked it all up. However, men have always done the lion's pride when it comes to really hard jobs.
Man, what are you talking about? Women worked physically even 70-100 years ago. In many places they still do. Most men and women in Europe have been serfs working as laborers in the fields even 150 years ago. No need to go back to 10 or 12 century.
@@carlrogers1412 it's necessary to go back to X Century because we're talking about the before and after women's efforts decreasing, much more than they already had it compared to men's. It's not accurate to come, bring up the minority of women having to work physically 150 ago, and claim "yeah, WOMEN (all women) worked physically". It's not honest to bring up, say, the only 2 blacksmith sisterhoods there existed in XV century compared to the 34 brethrens then and claim "oh, WOMEN (not some women, a few women, no... WOMEN) really worked hard". No. It's pathetic. Women working physically 150 ago were not as many as those back in X Century, neither were their efforts as hard. And never in life have they been as many and as hard workers as men. Never. Because either in X Century or 150 ago, there was always this thing of "ok men and women are in charge of breaking that gigantic stone. Women will bring the tools to get them ready; men will climb the stone, stick the stakes, and start hammering hard". Women have always, in general, done the lighter part. Men have always, in general, done the lion's pride.
@@carlrogers1412 majority? Only the orphans (both girls and boys), widows who couldn't get everything from their dead "slaveband" and women who couldn't have a husband had to even work. The rest practically were "lazyess" of the house, who worked at very much more comfortable jobs than men, and who weren't even forced to pay for the family as men were. Now women working physically hard were the majority... 😆 A new one.
I am an older guy with the age related knee and back problems. The other day, I was standing in line at a supermarket and a young lady cut in front of me. I nicely told her that there is a line and she has to go the end of it. Suddenly, Mr. hero who was standing in line behind me comes to her rescue, he verbally insults me for not allowing her to get in front me. An average guy would do any stupid thing to impress a woman. Part of the problem is not the women.
Hi there older guy, I’am an older Gal Stupid is as Stupid does, real nice to see your point of view, I do agree with much of what Paul Elam saids about life & the ways women don’t know how to behave; but you point out that here is a young man not knowing how respect works! Many come from abusive homes and without a father figure, so many don’t have a teacher to show them so nice of you to take the higher road! & share your story ✌️🦋
Stupid guy. If I was there I would confront him for being an idiot white knight.
Over population of white knights!
Men are their are own jailers
He just wanted to get laid and his natural default reaction was to simp.
A big part of my awakening consciousness experience has been realizing what a simp I had been for 50 years.
#MeToo, lol
Same here.
These women aren't worth the motel room.
Yes, same. It was in more details than I initially realized.
@@Paul_Elam Glad you are guiding the younger generation like me before it's too late ❤
Same
My ex wife was not happy. I didnt earn "enough" money. We didnt travel "enough". And when she wanted to do something, eat out, travel, etc, i would remind her we didnt have the money, then over time she basically said i would just repeat back what she said and put a "not" in front of it.
She was bonkers.
She ended up destroying our 12 year marriage and our 7 year olds life by sleeping with her married boss
Both men and women have unrealistic expectations. The difference is that women's expectations are unrealistically high, while men's are unrealistically low.
It's not a realistic expectation to think you can just set your standards as low as possible and end up with a healthy relationship.
Hell No!!!!!
Agree. From what I’ve seen, most guys will immediately latch on to any woman that shows the slightest interest in him. From there he will pursue and try to win her over by giving her everything she wants .. sometimes they end up dating seriously and getting married but the guy now has set himself up for disaster
👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾
2:48 "if we don't make women happy, we're not men" that is so succinctly put!
Yeah. Men many men subconsciously think like that.
That's exactly what media AND real life women will tell you.
@@vamp6767yes and most men will break
They’re back trying to give their wife everything she wants. It’s just too bad the result is the opposite of what they want to happen - their wife just becomes spoiled and expects and wants more more
The very brain-washing that many, and many young boys where made to beleive.
Now many men, today, must reverse all those decades of lies..
I heard that the original “catholic” interpretation of “love”, the “love” Shakespeare wrote about, was
A genuine wish for the good fortune, well being, success, good health and prosperity of another person.
Far from the misinterpretation of “love” we have today, which is a mash up of infatuation, lust and commercialised “romance”
Shakespeare made a mockery of romantic love in Romeo and Juliet
He did write it as a tragedy that ended badly. It’s our “modern” values that reinterpret it as a romantic ideal
Paul wearing a cross like he just got back from Ozzfest. Glad to have you advocating for us men Paul. Thank you for fighting the good fight out there everyday 💪🏻
That’s strange he identifies as an atheist. I know he believes in evolution and science. I hope he has not let religion brainwash him
@@Scorned405 It appears that Christianity has broken through his secular-atheistic brainwashing. Come out of the dark and consider it yourself.
At 4:16 Paul nailed it. Men accept such poor treatment from women in relationships. I have seen it all my life
Paul, we need more gentlemen like you succinctly explaining facts in a calm and "I've seen it all" voice. It's an un-thankful work, especially when talking to a spoiled person that just wants to hear their (mainstream propaganda) biases confirmed (which obviously this video is NOT an example of), so I personally appreciate that you're still here, "holding the line". Thanks.
This is the first time I’ve heard Paul and I like what he’s saying. What I’m puzzled about is where to go from here? There is a horde of simps out there and more being born every day .. what are the chances that we can even get 5% of them
To change? Even the guys I know that are a bit more “red pill” still make really dumb decisions when it comes to women
@@brianmeen2158 "Where to go from there?" is a question asked countless of times with many different answers. My in-the-moment answer to this is: some of these simps will find a single mother or a high notch count 30-year-old woman, and they will be somewhat "happy" in their obliviousness (provided the woman in question decided to settle down, which isn't a given). Most of these simps will eventually connect the dots that what they do does not bring them closer to their goal, and will start asking questions in google, and will find many good answers. One of which is to not pedestalise women (i.e. simp). What we can do is to be an example of "if not to simp, then what?". It seems to me that Paul is turning or has turned to the (original patriarchal?) Christianity, which is one of the better answers to "then what?". I say "better", because the red pill's answer is "don't bother holding yourself to any standards in a declining civilisation -- just learn game and spin plates [me: contributing to the decline]". I personally don't fancy that.
I don't believe anything actionable can be done to stop simping from happening in the first place because that requires that free speech can be practised in the mainstream debate, and for a long time now putting to question female nature in the mainstream results in one's life/career being cancelled. What we can do is perhaps to give hints to the oblivious men raised by women, often in private.
This comment turned quite long, and I'm not crazy about producing comments on social media. Have a good day, sir.
I’m glad to come across Paul after divorce and am putting my needs first
This is the happiest I’ve been in my 57 years
No hymen no diamond . That's just the way it is.
I'd say no diamond, period. I can't think of a single reason to give a woman such a frivolous thing.
No hymen?
Good luck with that. Unless you're planning to get with a 10 year old....
@@DiegoB0525 getting together with a 10 year old is sick. As far as the hymen part is concerned, I'm afraid you're right.
@@Paul_Elam Mr Elam, 6:13 for as much as I agree with much of what U say& like how U are trying to educate men I have to say the romance has left Ur heart 😢mainly because of the crappy experiences! As a woman I know there R some women who SUCK, money hungry who haven’t been taught Morals, or self ♥️, that just aren’t worth anything but others R & should be treasure like they R diamonds this is where Men have failed! True, there doesn’t need to be a ring that is that valuable, marriage can B tied through real love with just a tin can opener be demonstrated through actions of ♥️seems U haved been wronged 1 too many times& let me B the first to let u know how sorry I am! U seem like a wonderful, intelligent caring man don’t loose ❤️A good woman is out there for You, but I think U want everything! U gotta give /to receive, open your heart to 💕😍I hope my reply can help like your show helps me✌️🦋
@@Paul_Elam I'm glad to see you're back mr. Elam.
Women should be respected without men being disrespected.
Either get the respect and disrespect they earn. Courtesy should be extended , but, respect??? Hell no. That is Earned.
Lol that's a pretty tall order.
The great thing about getting older for me has been dissolving the fantasies and coming back to earth. Romance is bullsh*t and unicorns don't exist.
Same here but at the same time it makes dating and relationships much less fun or desirable.
Great presentation, Paul. Glad Pearl is broadcasting guys like you and Aaron Clarey.
Pure Wisdom Here....!!
Thanks brother Paul. As usual, you are spot on. I have 25 years as a sworn police officer and 35 overlapping years as a licensed private investigator and investigation agency owner. So you can imagine the number of domestic disturbance calls I handled, and the infidelity and child custody cases I investigated. I shared many of my experiences and observations in a book I wrote. I mailed an uncorrected galley copy to you a couple of years years ago, but I don't know if you received it or remember my email to you about it; "Modern Women: A Tutorial For Modern Men". I also enjoyed your substack 425 podcast, episode2, part 1. You passionately expressed the sentiments and frustrations that many of my Christian brothers have lamented for years. Keep up the good work.
Sam W Wright
Thanks for the kind words, brother. I don't recall getting the book, though. Is it available in audiobook?
@@Paul_Elam I'm afraid there is no audio book. It's only in paperback from Amazon. If you send me a good mailing address, I would be honored to send a copy to you as a gift. Even if you don't have time to read it all at once, you might be able to read an occasional page or two. Amazon shows the front and back cover. The back has a brief description of my background. I selected a baroque art work for the front that seemed to work with the title.
Always good to hear from you Paul. I don’t know what kind of hell I would have been in if I hadn’t found your videos and advice. About 6 years ago I got into a very brief relationship with a borderline woman. The old me would have fallen victim to the damseling and love bombing like a moth to the flame. After only 3 dates I decided to hit the eject button and have never regretted the decision. I recently found out she died of a drug overdose and had hidden the fact she had children. Thanks for sharing your wisdom Paul!
Paul, Glad to see new content from you. The new haircut & beard are looking good my friend. All the best to you. 👍👍
Thanks!
Dude, I’m told “marriage is a commitment, your just afraid of commitment” that’s your shame based society right there.
Said another way, "Getting married is a roll of the weighted dice with lifetime implications. You're just afraid of rolling the weighted dice."
@@Vince3C Nothing wrong for a man to say "I'm just doing what I think is best for me."
Women are so committed that they file for divorce 80% of the time. 90% if they are college educated. They are the ones you should be addressing.
I always respond the same way. “What else do you have besides con artist feminine shaming technique?” They usually act surprised I don’t take the knee to their nonsense.
I found a great comeback when that BS was thrown at me. With the divorce rate at over 50%, if I get married, and she asks for a divorce, are you willing to pay for my lawyer’s fees?
Were it not for sex, the sexes would be separate species, today.
And, the cure to all the problems of the human condition are based in ruthless Darwinian natural selection. If all would stop (there's no good reason to keep reproducing), eternal peace could be achieved.
So glad to see a new vid come out.
You can get a man's stainless steel ring for under $10 and a woman's equivalent wedding ring and cubic zirc engagement ring for under $30. They look good and serve the function of telling others you're married (as in, off the market).
People can hold out for the more expensive stuff if they both want that, but they can't expect everyone to show up for that narrative.
I laughed when u mentioned matrimony & women putting aside childish ways cuz Scarlett Ohara popped into my mind. 🤣
PAUL💪❤ is amazing !
Shout out to Aaron Clarey!!!
I am so unbelievably thrilled that you two found each other.
“I have no sympathy for guys in these situations - they make horrible decisions”
They sure do! I find it necessary to call women on their bs but we also need to call men out on their bad behavior and terrible decisions. I have an old friend that married a woman - he knew she had kids by
Multiple men and that she had borderline pd. 2 years after they married they are now both miserable and at each others throats. I am baffled as to how my buddy didn’t see this coming from a mile away
love to see two of my favorites together!
He’s 100% right.
Learn by 3rd grade the way things leaned. Especially when there was females teachers...the proof of my thinking then was when I had my first male teacher in the 6th grade...since then my gut was my teacher and so was my tech education and not college BS
I learned females nature by 6th grade and definitely freshman year.. they always went for the top tier dudes as in their parents had money or really good looking or some kind of status that the women could gain from
The 3% of all single women being marriage material is absolutely correct.
I did my own backward look at the women I’ve dated and used the same metrics (no kids, in shape, no mental health issues, no substantial debt, no daddy issues, no big tattoos, etc) and of the 50-60 women I’ve dated or been in relationship with (most were 1 or 2 dates and were disqualified immediately) only 1-2 were marriage qualified. That’s 1 or 2 outta 50/60 - 2.5-5%
Great video!
Also with living on farms children were seen as cheap labor..... We live in condos now so children are seen as expensive furniture in the words of Peter Zeihan.
In many families up to modern times, even the children had to work to make ends meet.
If they were lucky, they worked together with other family members or in a small family run business (fe. this was typical for weavers).
If they were not so lucky, they worked in mines, were sent away to work on farms during harvest season, or in factories.
One can find this still in many places all over the world. If you are into sports - most football stitching is done by children in Asia.
2:34 - 2:40
"It's a failure of men in my book."
And Sir?
THAT is why I would buy you're book!!
Fifty-three year old Cat right here - no kids, never married - who's been saying JUST what you said for years!!
You are DEAD ON ACCURATE, and what the Simps say be damned.
You should buy a few feminist books to. Feminist have been blaming men for the worlds problems for more then a hundred years. Go to any store in America that sells books and you can find a book blaming men for all of the worlds problems.
Well, I'm confused. I don't hate women, but I'm ok on my own. I've been alone since 2019. It seems like I should try to get a date, it seems like there is something I want. Yet, I don't "need" it, I don't get very lonely.
Hey Paul, Ive followed you for years. Are you still in my hometown Roanoke VA? I live here, I would love to meet you one day if possible even if it was just for coffee.
Thank God I was broke, back when I was a simp. Otherwise, I would have been cleaned out, with intent. And that might've been it for me.
A gu-ru is not someone you like, but it is someone you cannot stay away from, guru translates to mean dispeller of darkness.
Hi Paul
I'm curious if You still have access to a podcast about emotional inc....st published 10 years ago on BlogTalk Radio?
Whenever I try to play it nothing happens and people on resdit have had this problem also
I think the topic is worth attention since it's horrifying how acceptable this is in the modern society and the effects are destructive
Take care and best regards
Quote from a middle-aged straight guy "Happy Life No Wife.
This stupid diamond ring thing, was started a 100 years ago by the de Beers diamond co., their ads said, "show her you care"..Women of course embraced this idiocy, because they're easily distracted by shiny objects..Diamonds are the most over priced objects on earth, and a total waste of money..Paul is right on, "you want a diamond? go buy one"..
debeers = rockefellers
Guess who holds a monopoly on diamonds.
“There is a dormant volcano in Russia that has so many diamonds that it would make them just about worthless. So they take a very few amount as jewelry and more for industrial, but still highly restrict the mine.”
@@decadeyt5891 very interesting
@@bingochoice fairchilds + rockefellers = rothchild
they are the same family
@@decadeyt5891 got it
The problem really isn't men's expectations or women being different. It's that men can no longer oblige women to behave properly. The old rule of thumb.
We are all responsible for our own happiness, and also if we wish to marry we each have a duty to protect and nuture that.
It's sad that so many men and women think women have to be entertained, fawned over and aren't capable of exercising judgement and responsibility. They system is a mess and romantic love as a basis of marriage is likely at the core of that mess.
Marriage was a partnership intended to create stability for raising children, bringing families closer and making sure recognised means of passing on wealth with less risk of violent dispute were in place. There was an understanding that couples should try to be nice and sweet and friendly to each other as a side result of that but it wasn't a priority. In most cultures men had to court women and that meant getting on with her parents, especially her father, and showing they were going to be a responsible adult. People raised daughters and bragged about their virginity, management skills, sense of duty and things like that - today we only focus on beauty and how we feel when the hormones rush in.
It was also governed by religious and cultural tradition - the secular authorities usually have limited involvement. Sometimes secular and religious authority overlapped though.
It was a very, very different set up to what modern western people have and do. Technology, the economics of almost everything and the new focus on entertainment (we raise our children with endless play, movies, experiences etc then are baffled we have a generation of babies in adult bodies who have no sense of self governance and duty beyond their own temporary pleasure).
It needs a lot more examination - marriage produces better outcomes for society when it works. The problem is it's not working and most people don't even know what it's for anymore. And that's producing endless broken homes, bitter men, irresponsible women and so many missed opportunities for men and women to actually work together to create families that will make a positive mark on their communities and society.
You're forgetting a few things. Like the rampant prostitution, incest, child abuse and pedophilia that was also way more common in the past. Over 80% of all civilizations were polyginist in the past which means the top few percent of men basically bought women as wife's and the other 80% of men never had family s and either had to use prostitutes or livestock to have any form of physical intimacy. That is why the bible has so many rules against bestiality. It was vary common for that to happen in the past because of how few men ever had the opportunity to get married.
I would venture to say that certain men love the "modern" institution of marriage because it's a brainless way for one to compete and "outdo" other men. As much as women may gossip and titter about their relationships, too often it was men that I would see bragging and spouting stories about their courting a woman, or how they "won her over", which is an automatic declaration of inferiority.
They'd brag about what they spent on the wedding, the reception, the rings, the honeymoon, always waiting for the wide-eyed responses and people saying "Wow! You went all out!"
They'd joke about her moodiness and how she calls the shots, how they'd know they needed a promotion in order to afford the house SHE wanted, and her spending. But, "anything to keep my baby happy." And meanwhile she stands by like the cat that ate the canary.
Just Pearly IS the modern y’all describe….
The best lifestyle choice is to stay single.
The second best lifestyle choice is to find a good, traditional woman and stay single.
He rightly points out that monogamy is very difficult for both men and women. I think at this point everyone in both sexes and every walk of life can admit that. But his further point is that when it doesn't work out, men are always seen as the ones to blame, and they are the ones who receive all the punishments, and the most severe punishments. And that's just wrong.
Exactly.
What a joke - these guys getting down on one knee. And what's really funny, is when these guys do this in a big public place, and the woman says no.
After watching "Daniel Boone" shows for a while, I was thinking that at the end of the day both people are too tired to argue over what's a man's job and what's a woman's job.
There were things that needed to be done before nightfall. If it wasn't done, they'd suffer or pay for it in some way.
Maybe some things could get done tomorrow if it wasn't done today, but you couldn't keep putting it off.
Should civilization go back to pioneer or frontier times?
1:23 wahmen didn't use to complain back then , dear.... take your "women always most affected" crap out of here
We're simply doomed
Also, men want the false advertising to be true.
As right as you are, you can't fight reallity. You'll end up alone and tired. As me how I know.
maybe the older gals have empathy
If you have to do things to keep a wom happy, you are not in a relationship. You are in an never ending transaction. You might as well be alone.
my god i feel lucky, my wife is a savage
Her work husband and side dude both agree with you.
💯 this is mens fault. Ive been saying for some time, too many simpy dudes
who is this female ?
Pearly Things
Pearl, a very well known advocate for men!!!
If it comes from Mr Elham..treat it as gospel...walk away from the table
Fortunately, I have a reason for not doing that. I'm a Sforza. We dont kneel. Ask the Pope. Or the Holy Roman Emperor... haha, Ich Verghes Nit.
Can't make a 304 a housewife.
Under the age of 35? How about under the age of 25?
Henry the 8th 🪚
SHCLAPP💥
She couldn't process accountability.
Good riddance.
You're someone else's issue now.
To be fair, this 3% of marriageable women number is kinda b*llsh!t.
They just added different categories together, without accounting for overlap.
Doesn't change the fact most women s&ck, though.
maybe the monthly periods mess them up.
It may be a gross overestimate. None of the criteria mentioned even touched on personality/personality disorders. My guess, 1.5% are marriageable.
@@Paul_Elam they keep drinking diet coke what a cluster fukk for your brain and body.
@@Paul_Elamthank you for your insights
that woman is a terrible actress....she can't or isn't trying to disguise her sarcasm
shes a terrible actress?? What video did you watch?? Also why should she or anyone disguise sarcasm?? What a weird observation..
I differ in quite a few points. One of them: I don't see any of the Gynocentric traits are natural. And even if they were, we don't have to accept them.
Women have definitely worked more, and even harder, than before, true. Especially before the X century or XII. Then courtly love came and fucked it all up. However, men have always done the lion's pride when it comes to really hard jobs.
Man, what are you talking about? Women worked physically even 70-100 years ago. In many places they still do. Most men and women in Europe have been serfs working as laborers in the fields even 150 years ago. No need to go back to 10 or 12 century.
@@carlrogers1412 it's necessary to go back to X Century because we're talking about the before and after women's efforts decreasing, much more than they already had it compared to men's. It's not accurate to come, bring up the minority of women having to work physically 150 ago, and claim "yeah, WOMEN (all women) worked physically". It's not honest to bring up, say, the only 2 blacksmith sisterhoods there existed in XV century compared to the 34 brethrens then and claim "oh, WOMEN (not some women, a few women, no... WOMEN) really worked hard". No. It's pathetic. Women working physically 150 ago were not as many as those back in X Century, neither were their efforts as hard. And never in life have they been as many and as hard workers as men. Never. Because either in X Century or 150 ago, there was always this thing of "ok men and women are in charge of breaking that gigantic stone. Women will bring the tools to get them ready; men will climb the stone, stick the stakes, and start hammering hard". Women have always, in general, done the lighter part. Men have always, in general, done the lion's pride.
@@JonatanCarmiOK "minority of women having to work physically 150 ago" - Wrong! it's not minority it was majority! You need some education, man!
@@carlrogers1412 majority? Only the orphans (both girls and boys), widows who couldn't get everything from their dead "slaveband" and women who couldn't have a husband had to even work. The rest practically were "lazyess" of the house, who worked at very much more comfortable jobs than men, and who weren't even forced to pay for the family as men were.
Now women working physically hard were the majority... 😆 A new one.
@@carlrogers1412 Nah. Go to fucking study.
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