1. Can you be yourself when you are with your partner ? 2. If someone says you are exactly like your partner in nature, are you happy with ot or not ? 3. Are you afraid to tell about your past or future dreams to your partner? 4. Think like a parent and would you be happy if your child in future is in relationship with a person exactly like your partner now ? 5. Does your partner respects those people visions or factors that you values very much in your life ?
My partner is the best and satisfied all the conditions. But right now she is not with me😢 She said that even I've satisfied all the conditions. She referred to watch this video. Waiting for her🥺😔
I was suspicious about my first love. I was always thinking that whether that person is right or wrong for me. I asked myself those 5 questions and realized that something was wrong....Anyway I convinced myself and moved on. I have destroyed 4 golden years of my life because of those stupid things . But, this video was helpful to me to get rid of those toxicity . My mental health was totally destroyed, but Now what can I do is to focus on my career. oh,,,,Thanks to God for saving me ...
*NO* , look running from natural things is not solution it is the law of nature which if not practice *human race will diminish* the best solution is to *find a person and test him with ur love instead of asking money or iPhones.* also you must give him time and respect him. MY STORY : I GOT BREAKUP FROM MY GF AND I GET TO KNOW SHE WAS HUNGRY OF MONEY THEN WHAT I DO WHEN WE FALL IN RELATIONSHIP I TAKE HER TO WROST HOTEL WHERE ROACHES. ARE COMMON BUT SHE IGNORE THEM AND ONLY CARES ME. I ALSO LIED ABOUT MY UNFERTILITY BUT SHE STILL IGNORE AND THEN I TELL HIM WHAT I AM AND CHOOSE THIS BEST GIRL AND MAŔY WITH HIM❤❤❤
Yes, bcz... All these qualities can't be visible in one person.... But one thing can sure... If that person have true Love, he or she will, otherwise everything is relative
I feel finding the perfect partner is nearly impossible because we don't fully understand ourselves, making it difficult to predict our preferences over the span of several decades. Instead, we establish criteria to convince ourselves that we've made the right choice. Survival and procreation are fundamental human instincts, driving our actions and contributions to society. Happiness is a bonus that comes when we are secure and responsible individuals, leading to fulfillment in various aspects of life.
Meri life to barbaad ho gyeee,age 33 ho gyee h,6 attempt upsc ke chali gyee...ab ristedaar to burayeee aur karte h aur kuch to yaad bhi nhi karte... Hard work itna kiya ki ankho pe chasma lg gya gya, chote chote work bhi kiya swiggy zomatao me...ab last me gaav a gya ab kheti karta hu .shadi ke riste to door maut ka bhi ristA nhi ata ab..lekin jeee raha hu zindgi aur apne ma baap ki seva kar raha hu.
@@dipankarroy9752Meri life to barbaad ho gyeee,age 33 ho gyee h,6 attempt upsc ke chali gyee...ab ristedaar to burayeee aur karte h aur kuch to yaad bhi nhi karte... Hard work itna kiya ki ankho pe chasma lg gya gya, chote chote work bhi kiya swiggy zomatao me...ab last me gaav a gya ab kheti karta hu .shadi ke riste to door maut ka bhi ristA nhi ata ab..lekin jeee raha hu zindgi aur apne ma baap ki seva kar raha hu.
Wowww mam so nicely explain .....i hv spent 25 years with wrong partner ...i dont get angry .....i ended with wrong husband. .but now no other option ..😢😢...now in next janam i will find my soulmate 😢
@@prabha927 thanks Punam ya i know it's never late I wish I cld , but I can't I hv 20 year old son ... But I truly i appreciate your compassion for me ...thank u Dil se .
One bold step and you see the other side of life which is so much better, that first step is most difficult! But of course, it’s your life, you know what’s best for you 🙏🏼 I have someone in this similar situation, even she is unable to come out of this toxic relationship 😔 Can understand 🙏🏼 But one try and you can see rainbows , life is beautiful 🙏🏼
@@sudrakshyapanda2102 ya thank u sudrakshya , wld luv to see that rainbow ...but as I m a mother so I can't ...thank u for your compassion... Aaaaaaaaa i feel like screaming....u know I can't see any couples 😞😭😭 and smtimes I see and I feel their happiness .
@@zankarpanchani9886 Stay positive, ignore people around you what will they say, take strong decisions about your life. Think what is best for you and your son. Best of luck for everything.
Thankyou so much ma'am, this video was much needed for me. Though I already broke up my relationship with my boyfriend, and it's been more than 15 days we're not talking, but I was in a dillema if I have taken any wrong decision or not, but after watching your video I am now clear about my decision, though it's very tough for me to move on, lekin kehte h na thokar khate khate log Sikh jaate h, toh m v rote rote pata nehi kab Sikh gai Bina roye khudko usse dur kar dena, bahut disrespect mental torture blame saha h Maine, ab aur nehi, Jo insaan mere past ko leke mujhe har waqt taana mare just because wo apni present m ki hui galtiyan chupa sake,jiske sath m harwaqt ek ajeeb sa Darr leke rehti hu ki kuch galti na ho jaye or wo insaan phirse mujhpe chillayen, mujhe abuse kare, blame kare, I don't deserve to be with such kind of person. Thanks mam❤ Ab jitna v dukh ho bas ye confirm ho gai he is not a perfect partner and never could be a good partner as well. He is a man with full of toxicity and ego. Thankyou so much for this video.❤
Most girls find toxic boys as attractive subconsciously during their prime age. Somehow they confuse toxicity with great masculinity. There are guys who are calm quite,having good morals like ram. They hv control upon their emotions. But because of good nature;;girls consider them as boring. They are attracted towards guys like ravan who always trying to show their dominance upon others. But once their lust is over;;their relationship is over. Then they have 2nd option to pick those gentle guys whom they find unattractive during their prime time. Edit:-if u consume bad things,,u have to suffer in the end. U can't blame that bad thing.
Mujhy aik ladka mila hai... Or us mai ye sab qualities hain...wo har tareeqy se best and perfect hai... And we both really love, respect and care for each other... When we r together we are happy and at peace. But there is one problem which is not gonna unite us😢and that's the religious issues... I'm a muslim girl and he is a hindu guy... And in islam A muslim woman is strictly prohibited to marry a hindu guy😢 that's is why we know that we can never marry... And we still respect each other's religion ..infact he celebrated Eid for my happiness and i celebrated Holi for him...---And we r absolutely sad about this...😢 we just want now to make some memories in our lives.. I am feeling kinda emotional right now... But it's how it is! We can never be one. 😢
see, I must say, Take these tests and if it's successful, never lose him !!! u r lucky if he passes all these levels!! no matter what, be with him and after sometime, all parents will consider ur love, don't worry, but never lose him
Greatest asset you can have in accordance to me when you like or love someone is patience -- being patient while you’re alone in your journey even though you’re friends , your greatest asset is your patience - neutral capacity mein kam karein - chaahe relationships ki baat ho -- I’ve never been in a relationship even though I’ve slept with people for my own desires -- but at last I can say there’s a beautiful connection in front of me and by being patient I’m seeing and moving forward slowly and carefully - if this works I will be married within 2 years ❤🎉
It's too late to know these rules. Without say, I'll share it. It's much needed discussion we youngsters need. When, such open conversation would start among parents and child, many lives could be saved.
i have passed test no. 1(yes,i use to behave with him as i'm..no show off),2(i feel complimented whenever someone says that me and he are same),4(definitely,vibes and secureness that i got from him can't be expected from anyone else.so i'll be happy if my child go in relationship with that person who is just like my partner),5(yes we use to talk once in week just because i'm preparing for state pcs..so he decided to talk once in week in order to focus on studies)..but can't pass test no. 3 because i had tried to commit suicide last year due to my mistake of distracting from my studies and start chatting with a guy whom i don't even met. but the person who is currently in my life likes me because he thinks that i'm descent girl that he had never met a girl like me in his life..he told me this himself when i asked him about my quality for which he likes me..but i afraid that if i tell him about my past i'll lost him..what should i do..suggest me mam😟
Tanu Mam 🥰bilkul ek Maa ki trah pyar se smjhati hai kyuki enke chehre se Maa ki chavvi jhalkti hai❤jb bhi mein inko sunta hu to apni mummy ki yaad aa jaati meri mummy to mujhe Covid ke time chodkar chli gyi thi 🥺Miss u maa.... mam selection ke baad aapse milne zarur aayunga...
Thank you ma'am for sharing though I have came out many years back from this type of toxic relationship, but it could be a reference for all the teenagers and also for the adults who did not take the right decision for some emotional reasons. Also it can be a reference for our next generation too. ❤ Always love your personality ma'am. Although I am not an UPSC aspirant but I have implemented in my life and get the desired results.Thank you for the guidance ma'am. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Ma'am aapko psychology ka itna deep gyaan kaise hua aapne konsa course padha kosni book padha. Wow hau aapka ek ek word bada soch samjkar bola h ji maam.
There should be a good understanding too. Kavi kavi love ke liye thodi thodi change karna v padta hai khud ko , that does not mean u r doing according to his / her choice , this show the love how u love ur partner ( in special case of changeing urself , I am telling about) . And last thing jyada tara ladkiyan bahut shak karte hai ye me ni puti duniya kehe raha hai.❤
Madam.. Responsibility is when you take without expecting something in return. Only dare to enter into relationship or chose a partner if you have the ability to take responsibility. If not stay single. Tiday we are chosing so called partners to fulfill each others desires and expectations. Thars called barter system of give n take and we package into something called marriage..no wonder marriages nowdays dont last long , besides todays generation is smart enuf not to enter into such contracts..
My partner has all these things.and I'm sure he will not change but still my parents aren't accepting this relationship on the note of that he don't have a job as I'm a lecturer. But just to convince our parents my partner started studying after 8 years of gap. He is preparing for lectureship in political science.he gave last set exam and got enough marks to pass but still there is fear what if he will not qualify this time. Literally speaking I don't want to go against my parents as I love them but do love him also Mam. Right now I can't able to take decision. In our society 99% of employed men can marry unemployed women but opposite of this not possible or acceptable. I know that the man I chose for me is perfect and he can do anything for me . So why all these parents are not supporting us. Please let the daughters take their own decision. I can't live without him . I will be happy with him in any situation. What should have to do though he has all these qualities to be a perfect life partner. Because I'm helpless before my parents. Mam do you have any suggestions. Life is very unpredictable. I have everything except him. I want him except everything.
If you are still searching for solution then listen as you are a lecturer there are some opportunities you can make for your own partener as he is also preparing for Political science lecturer. First you can arrange a private institutions for him to become employed. Or you can help him creating a TH-cam channel where he can teach his subjects You can also make some arrangements for him to start his own coaching classes so his unemployed status can be removed. Then you can convince your parents about his future jobs.
1. Do you feel you have to make an effort to be somebody you are not? 2) Are you happy when someone says you are just like your partner? 3) Do you feel you have to hide your past or your future visions from him? 4) How would you feel if your child were to fall for the same kind of person? 5) Do you share the same kind of values? Eg, respect for oarents, importance to career, empathy, love etc.( Shree Krishna)
I am telling you don't follow her words she is female. she talks to you with feminine nature. Masculinity say just love no matter what is perfect or not.
So well said, and how you said you are old school... Honestly your thought process is next level and brilliantly explained, I have not heard such sensible thoughts for many years now. Really impressed and a great help to my current mental state. Keep it up 👍 Thank you
Ek inshan ne mujhe bina btaye bina reason k chhor k chla gya.. Ghost kr diya.. Maine move on krn kosish ki mgr ni hua... I have wasted my 4 years .. Still can't feel the love.. Dhokha ek inshan deta h or Bharosa puri duniya se uth jata h.... I don't even know ki vo Zinda bhi h ya ni... Vo kisi social media m ni... Uska no. Bhi band 4 saal se .. Koi 3rd person bhi ni.. Na hi uska koi address totally clue less i juat wanna move on man... Koi solution nazar ni aata m.. Use bhul jana chachti hun... Bas.. Ni sochna ki vo us dunia m knha h.. Usn ek bar bhi palat kr mujhse contact ni kiya.. Kya koi inshan itna patthar dil ho skta h bhala.. Or m yhn bevakoof social media m help dhundh ri hun . . Bas move on krna mujhe or ek normal life jeeni h
Mam thankyou❤️..im in a perfect relationship acc. to these tests...we clear all tests with good marks mam😂.. we(Me and her) are literally Same in lot of things ..literally ...past se leke vision tak..birth month se leke country ke liye kuch karne ki feeling tak ..! 80% same ! Mai jab relationship mein ayaa to bilkull serious nahi tha ,socha 2-3 month chalega hadd se hadd but her caring nature and as i said ' we are same ' ..these some things really changed me alot..i was so agressive and rude before i met her..but her love make me Kind( atleast in comparison to before relationship days)
I love you ma'am...aapke baato se he lagta hae aap bohot ache ho Dil se... Huge respect to you. Main life me atleast ekbar aapse jarur milna chaungi... Stay happy and healthy ❤
GREAT MAM! GREAT SUGGESTION 🙏 Actually you know, we love the person, respect from the core of our heart. And it's not for a day or month, it's the fact of years after years. But how will you know, the other one's feelings, that also sometimes make us to think.
Ma'am yahan per to koi confusion ni rehta h,,,,, bas darr ki wajah se confusion create hota h ki parents ni manege kyunki hamare India me aaj bhi jaat aur dharam ko priority di jati h sabse pehle,, aisi situation me to relationship ke bare me soch bhi ni skte,,,,,
Firstly be a best partner.. instead of finding qualities in other start developing those in your own self. In nutshell we forget to give our 100% in hope of others 110%
It felt like ma'am spoke to me, heart to heart about the things I've been struggling alot lately seeing answers here and there, how simply you put it in words ma'am.... Thanks alot for the pep talk!!!
You have a smile of an angel, appreciate your help here, you gave me clarity, you are super intelligent, Didi I am not a upsc aspirant ek upcoming writer, painter and cricker will you give me your autograph if I come across you in my life?
1. Can you be yourself when you are with your partner ?
2. If someone says you are exactly like your partner in nature, are you happy with ot or not ?
3. Are you afraid to tell about your past or future dreams to your partner?
4. Think like a parent and would you be happy if your child in future is in relationship with a person exactly like your partner now ?
5. Does your partner respects those people visions or factors that you values very much in your life ?
Such a list of compromisation get some self love in ur life.
Answer is no
No
No
All five factors are with me at this time . And I feel very lucky to have such one . 😊
My partner is the best and satisfied all the conditions.
But right now she is not with me😢
She said that even I've satisfied all the conditions. She referred to watch this video.
Waiting for her🥺😔
@@jayasankarkumar7352bhai tera cutt gya
Perfect test. I lost 6 years of my life due to toxic relationship. Thank God that I am still alive. But career and mental health ki band bajj gyi.
I spent 2 golden year of my life for this stupid thing.
@@BongOnYatra I can understand. Don’t let this spoil more. Start your journey here….it’s never too late in life to seek a newer world.
@@kirangrover9317 yes absolutely.
Mera bhi vahi haal huwa Bhai
@@Mahesh...........55 koi na Sikh Lo aur aage bero bro
Ye wo discussion h jo parents apno baccho ke saath nhi krte ❤❤thank u mam😊
I was suspicious about my first love. I was always thinking that whether that person is right or wrong for me. I asked myself those 5 questions and realized that something was wrong....Anyway I convinced myself and moved on. I have destroyed 4 golden years of my life because of those stupid things . But, this video was helpful to me to get rid of those toxicity . My mental health was totally destroyed, but Now what can I do is to focus on my career. oh,,,,Thanks to God for saving me ...
Same situation 😭😔😭. As your situation..
So true.
So the answer is stay single and love youself forever.♡!!!
*NO* , look running from natural things is not solution it is the law of nature which if not practice *human race will diminish* the best solution is to *find a person and test him with ur love instead of asking money or iPhones.* also you must give him time and respect him.
MY STORY : I GOT BREAKUP FROM MY GF AND I GET TO KNOW SHE WAS HUNGRY OF MONEY THEN WHAT I DO WHEN WE FALL IN RELATIONSHIP I TAKE HER TO WROST HOTEL WHERE ROACHES. ARE COMMON BUT SHE IGNORE THEM AND ONLY CARES ME. I ALSO LIED ABOUT MY UNFERTILITY BUT SHE STILL IGNORE AND THEN I TELL HIM WHAT I AM AND CHOOSE THIS BEST GIRL AND MAŔY WITH HIM❤❤❤
Yes, bcz... All these qualities can't be visible in one person.... But one thing can sure... If that person have true Love, he or she will, otherwise everything is relative
Ya true single and love yourself is best .
I like this sister❤❤
Yes but after some years seeing our peers,we will regret and feel lonliness
I feel finding the perfect partner is nearly impossible because we don't fully understand ourselves, making it difficult to predict our preferences over the span of several decades. Instead, we establish criteria to convince ourselves that we've made the right choice. Survival and procreation are fundamental human instincts, driving our actions and contributions to society. Happiness is a bonus that comes when we are secure and responsible individuals, leading to fulfillment in various aspects of life.
My girl is one among the lakhs...! Simple, honest, dedicated, caring and of loving nature...!❤
I had lost my 5 years but now I am so happy in my relationship.. all these 5 rules have in my recent relationship ... I Love him so much ❤
Meri life to barbaad ho gyeee,age 33 ho gyee h,6 attempt upsc ke chali gyee...ab ristedaar to burayeee aur karte h aur kuch to yaad bhi nhi karte... Hard work itna kiya ki ankho pe chasma lg gya
gya, chote chote work bhi kiya swiggy zomatao me...ab last me gaav a gya ab kheti karta hu .shadi ke riste to door maut ka bhi ristA nhi ata ab..lekin jeee raha hu zindgi aur apne ma baap ki seva kar raha hu.
I found mine as an angel.......and i m very lucky to have her in my life....❤❤❤❤.....Thank to the almighty....
Naya naya pyaar
@@Kamal_MaaldeIski bajegi baad mein. 10 saal baad is comment ki notification dekh ke khud ko GAALI dega😂😂😂😂
How old are you?
😂 @@Kamal_Maalde
Thank You So much Madam... this video was posted at a right time.......very useful
Yes I pass the 5 questions, my relationship is of 8 years..... He always support me in my career, in all aspect of life... Thank you shiva❤❤
It means I have got the right one. Thank you very mush shree Krishna . Thank you to you too maam for making us analytical.
Regards 🙏🙏
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Thanks alot Mam For Such Valuable and Remarkable Words,
I lost my10yrs with out any happiness ...... Now I lost a person to adjust also now I am completely vulnerable condition with one lovey boy kid......😢
Same to you 😢..... Now time to go back to the state like before birth
@@dipankarroy9752Meri life to barbaad ho gyeee,age 33 ho gyee h,6 attempt upsc ke chali gyee...ab ristedaar to burayeee aur karte h aur kuch to yaad bhi nhi karte... Hard work itna kiya ki ankho pe chasma lg gya
gya, chote chote work bhi kiya swiggy zomatao me...ab last me gaav a gya ab kheti karta hu .shadi ke riste to door maut ka bhi ristA nhi ata ab..lekin jeee raha hu zindgi aur apne ma baap ki seva kar raha hu.
I'm lucky and fortunate my partner has all this qualities its been 1decade already
Congratulations maam ✨️✨️🙏🙏
Same here❤
Girl check the back of ur men . men never have anything good , and this is coming from me as a men.
Shadi kiya ki sirf relationship me hi ho
Nothing is better than solitude. Marriage and relationships are overhyped. Being single is the new normal in current times. Thanks
I really needed these things...tnx a lot mam❤
Ye 5 qualitys mere riste me hai or ham dono hi bahut khush hai thankyou mam ❤❤
Wowww mam so nicely explain .....i hv spent 25 years with wrong partner ...i dont get angry .....i ended with wrong husband. .but now no other option ..😢😢...now in next janam i will find my soulmate 😢
Never think it's late. We can always restart a new life.
@@prabha927 thanks Punam ya i know it's never late I wish I cld , but I can't I hv 20 year old son ...
But I truly i appreciate your compassion for me ...thank u Dil se .
One bold step and you see the other side of life which is so much better, that first step is most difficult! But of course, it’s your life, you know what’s best for you 🙏🏼 I have someone in this similar situation, even she is unable to come out of this toxic relationship 😔
Can understand 🙏🏼
But one try and you can see rainbows , life is beautiful 🙏🏼
@@sudrakshyapanda2102 ya thank u sudrakshya , wld luv to see that rainbow ...but as I m a mother so I can't ...thank u for your compassion... Aaaaaaaaa i feel like screaming....u know I can't see any couples 😞😭😭 and smtimes I see and I feel their happiness .
@@zankarpanchani9886 Stay positive, ignore people around you what will they say, take strong decisions about your life. Think what is best for you and your son. Best of luck for everything.
One of the must spoken topic nowadays but many don't thanku thankuuu for the message.
Thankyou so much ma'am, this video was much needed for me.
Though I already broke up my relationship with my boyfriend, and it's been more than 15 days we're not talking, but I was in a dillema if I have taken any wrong decision or not, but after watching your video I am now clear about my decision, though it's very tough for me to move on, lekin kehte h na thokar khate khate log Sikh jaate h, toh m v rote rote pata nehi kab Sikh gai Bina roye khudko usse dur kar dena, bahut disrespect mental torture blame saha h Maine, ab aur nehi,
Jo insaan mere past ko leke mujhe har waqt taana mare just because wo apni present m ki hui galtiyan chupa sake,jiske sath m harwaqt ek ajeeb sa Darr leke rehti hu ki kuch galti na ho jaye or wo insaan phirse mujhpe chillayen, mujhe abuse kare, blame kare, I don't deserve to be with such kind of person.
Thanks mam❤
Ab jitna v dukh ho bas ye confirm ho gai he is not a perfect partner and never could be a good partner as well.
He is a man with full of toxicity and ego.
Thankyou so much for this video.❤
Now r u okk?
Are you even a perfect partner.
@@shikhamaurya0404 yes I am much better now , no false blames, no more insecurities, only focusing on my studies and job.
Most girls find toxic boys as attractive subconsciously during their prime age. Somehow they confuse toxicity with great masculinity. There are guys who are calm quite,having good morals like ram. They hv control upon their emotions. But because of good nature;;girls consider them as boring. They are attracted towards guys like ravan who always trying to show their dominance upon others. But once their lust is over;;their relationship is over. Then they have 2nd option to pick those gentle guys whom they find unattractive during their prime time.
Edit:-if u consume bad things,,u have to suffer in the end. U can't blame that bad thing.
Thank you so so so infinite much
mujhe is video ki bahut jyada jarurat thi or koi bhi sahi guidance nahi de raha tha
You are the best ❤❤❤❤❤
He is perfect for me😌😌😌, He has all these qualities.❤❤
Ma'am apke sare question mere mind me the step by step .aap use openly share krke clear diye. ❤
I am so so lucky to have her my in my life because the answers of the questions is positive for me.
Thank u so much God for sending her in my life ❤❤
Mujhy aik ladka mila hai... Or us mai ye sab qualities hain...wo har tareeqy se best and perfect hai... And we both really love, respect and care for each other... When we r together we are happy and at peace. But there is one problem which is not gonna unite us😢and that's the religious issues... I'm a muslim girl and he is a hindu guy... And in islam A muslim woman is strictly prohibited to marry a hindu guy😢 that's is why we know that we can never marry... And we still respect each other's religion ..infact he celebrated Eid for my happiness and i celebrated Holi for him...---And we r absolutely sad about this...😢 we just want now to make some memories in our lives.. I am feeling kinda emotional right now... But it's how it is! We can never be one. 😢
First verify and validate...with reference that you can't marry him...think about your beloved.. profit parents...are they?
see, I must say, Take these tests and if it's successful, never lose him !!! u r lucky if he passes all these levels!! no matter what, be with him and after sometime, all parents will consider ur love, don't worry, but never lose him
Intercaste marriage to nahi mante parents. Tumhara to interreligion ho gaya. Ab bhugto parinaam
Sonakshi can marry zaheer so why can't you. You can if you will. Itna kattar na bano
@@pragatimishra4503 exactly
Perfect discussion❤
I have found mine on same virtues you have mentioned. I am lucky to have found suitable partner.
I was more like self healing 😀
Mam's voice is very soothing 🎉
4th test bahut kuch clear kr dega😍.
Greatest asset you can have in accordance to me when you like or love someone is patience -- being patient while you’re alone in your journey even though you’re friends , your greatest asset is your patience - neutral capacity mein kam karein - chaahe relationships ki baat ho -- I’ve never been in a relationship even though I’ve slept with people for my own desires -- but at last I can say there’s a beautiful connection in front of me and by being patient I’m seeing and moving forward slowly and carefully - if this works I will be married within 2 years ❤🎉
It's too late to know these rules.
Without say, I'll share it.
It's much needed discussion we youngsters need. When, such open conversation would start among parents and child, many lives could be saved.
Isse khud ko improve Kiya ja skta h thank you mamm
दुनिया का कोई भी रिश्ता परफेक्ट नहीं है और ना ही टिकाऊ है...यही सत्य है.
Yes. Taking short gaps for gaining attention in some work doesn't mean , any decrease of feelings or respect.
My partner is best❤ .... He gave all the quality 🦋🌸🌸🌸🌸🌸
😂😂
@@GameOver-mq2og 😡
नजर मिले न मिले नजरिया मिलना चाहिए ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ i think also About someone special
🎉❤
i have passed test no. 1(yes,i use to behave with him as i'm..no show off),2(i feel complimented whenever someone says that me and he are same),4(definitely,vibes and secureness that i got from him can't be expected from anyone else.so i'll be happy if my child go in relationship with that person who is just like my partner),5(yes we use to talk once in week just because i'm preparing for state pcs..so he decided to talk once in week in order to focus on studies)..but can't pass test no. 3 because i had tried to commit suicide last year due to my mistake of distracting from my studies and start chatting with a guy whom i don't even met. but the person who is currently in my life likes me because he thinks that i'm descent girl that he had never met a girl like me in his life..he told me this himself when i asked him about my quality for which he likes me..but i afraid that if i tell him about my past i'll lost him..what should i do..suggest me mam😟
Rationality se decisions le sakthe hei …!
Magar vo rationality ko follow karne ko emotions ki jarurat hei 👌
Tanu Mam 🥰bilkul ek Maa ki trah pyar se smjhati hai kyuki enke chehre se Maa ki chavvi jhalkti hai❤jb bhi mein inko sunta hu to apni mummy ki yaad aa jaati meri mummy to mujhe Covid ke time chodkar chli gyi thi 🥺Miss u maa.... mam selection ke baad aapse milne zarur aayunga...
You are absolutely right mam 💯
Best part is Accept the people how they are since negative part/habit also comes with the package.
I feel very very comfortable with him nd i am always real with him😊
Most important decision in life, if not correct leads to suffer whole life. Thank you very much mam for helping to make good decisions....😊😊❤
Thank you ma'am for sharing though I have came out many years back from this type of toxic relationship, but it could be a reference for all the teenagers and also for the adults who did not take the right decision for some emotional reasons. Also it can be a reference for our next generation too. ❤ Always love your personality ma'am. Although I am not an UPSC aspirant but I have implemented in my life and get the desired results.Thank you for the guidance ma'am. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻
Thank you ma'am ❤
Ma'am aapko psychology ka itna deep gyaan kaise hua aapne konsa course padha kosni book padha. Wow hau aapka ek ek word bada soch samjkar bola h ji maam.
VERY NICE TIPS DEAR MA'AM
Thanks a lot ! 🎊🎉👏👏👏
There should be a good understanding too. Kavi kavi love ke liye thodi thodi change karna v padta hai khud ko , that does not mean u r doing according to his / her choice , this show the love how u love ur partner ( in special case of changeing urself , I am telling about) . And last thing jyada tara ladkiyan bahut shak karte hai ye me ni puti duniya kehe raha hai.❤
"Har Kisi ko nahi milta yahaan pyaar zindagi mein", this is not just a song but bitter truth of life especially in toxic relationship😓
Absolutely 💯
Madam.. Responsibility is when you take without expecting something in return. Only dare to enter into relationship or chose a partner if you have the ability to take responsibility. If not stay single. Tiday we are chosing so called partners to fulfill each others desires and expectations. Thars called barter system of give n take and we package into something called marriage..no wonder marriages nowdays dont last long , besides todays generation is smart enuf not to enter into such contracts..
Extremely essential topic explained excellently.
I really love the way u guide or teach us mam... really appreciated this life lesson video ❤
Explained beautifully....Thank you Dr. Tanu Jain❤
After a long long time... Got something good to watch on YT / Internet. 😊
Ye (5) qualities🎉 hai our relationship....
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Bilkul sahi kaha aapne ma'am aapke sare hi rules true h ❤❤❤❤
My partner has all these things.and I'm sure he will not change but still my parents aren't accepting this relationship on the note of that he don't have a job as I'm a lecturer.
But just to convince our parents my partner started studying after 8 years of gap.
He is preparing for lectureship in political science.he gave last set exam and got enough marks to pass but still there is fear what if he will not qualify this time.
Literally speaking I don't want to go against my parents as I love them but do love him also Mam.
Right now I can't able to take decision.
In our society 99% of employed men can marry unemployed women but opposite of this not possible or acceptable.
I know that the man I chose for me is perfect and he can do anything for me .
So why all these parents are not supporting us.
Please let the daughters take their own decision.
I can't live without him .
I will be happy with him in any situation.
What should have to do though he has all these qualities to be a perfect life partner.
Because I'm helpless before my parents.
Mam do you have any suggestions.
Life is very unpredictable.
I have everything except him.
I want him except everything.
If you are still searching for solution then listen as you are a lecturer there are some opportunities you can make for your own partener as he is also preparing for Political science lecturer.
First you can arrange a private institutions for him to become employed.
Or you can help him creating a TH-cam channel where he can teach his subjects
You can also make some arrangements for him to start his own coaching classes so his unemployed status can be removed. Then you can convince your parents about his future jobs.
Self respect must be priority
1. Do you feel you have to make an effort to be somebody you are not?
2) Are you happy when someone says you are just like your partner?
3) Do you feel you have to hide your past or your future visions from him?
4) How would you feel if your child were to fall for the same kind of person?
5) Do you share the same kind of values? Eg, respect for oarents, importance to career, empathy, love etc.( Shree Krishna)
Started as a UPSC coaching channel and now venturing into matchmaking 😮
All true points ma'am 😊, thank u for sharing 🙏🏻❤
Well said❤ perfectly explained thanks a lot Madam❤
Thanks for sharing your thoughts! I wish i had this video long time back.
Ye sab baate unke liye jinko career nhi banana..ya jinka koi dream nhi.......ye start hi karte hai relationship banane se .....
In love there should no any conditions to love her/him.
If any little condition will occur then it is enough to break the relationship.
I am telling you don't follow her words she is female. she talks to you with feminine nature. Masculinity say just love no matter what is perfect or not.
Sahi Kaha Madam 💯
So well said, and how you said you are old school... Honestly your thought process is next level and brilliantly explained, I have not heard such sensible thoughts for many years now. Really impressed and a great help to my current mental state.
Keep it up 👍
Thank you
Radhe Radhe❤
Ek inshan ne mujhe bina btaye bina reason k chhor k chla gya.. Ghost kr diya.. Maine move on krn kosish ki mgr ni hua... I have wasted my 4 years .. Still can't feel the love.. Dhokha ek inshan deta h or Bharosa puri duniya se uth jata h.... I don't even know ki vo Zinda bhi h ya ni... Vo kisi social media m ni... Uska no. Bhi band 4 saal se .. Koi 3rd person bhi ni.. Na hi uska koi address totally clue less i juat wanna move on man... Koi solution nazar ni aata m.. Use bhul jana chachti hun... Bas.. Ni sochna ki vo us dunia m knha h.. Usn ek bar bhi palat kr mujhse contact ni kiya.. Kya koi inshan itna patthar dil ho skta h bhala.. Or m yhn bevakoof social media m help dhundh ri hun . . Bas move on krna mujhe or ek normal life jeeni h
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Nice explanation useful for everyone 😊😊
Mam thankyou❤️..im in a perfect relationship acc. to these tests...we clear all tests with good marks mam😂..
we(Me and her) are literally Same in lot of things ..literally ...past se leke vision tak..birth month se leke country ke liye kuch karne ki feeling tak ..! 80% same ! Mai jab relationship mein ayaa to bilkull serious nahi tha ,socha 2-3 month chalega hadd se hadd but her caring nature and as i said ' we are same ' ..these some things really changed me alot..i was so agressive and rude before i met her..but her love make me Kind( atleast in comparison to before relationship days)
I love you ma'am...aapke baato se he lagta hae aap bohot ache ho Dil se... Huge respect to you. Main life me atleast ekbar aapse jarur milna chaungi... Stay happy and healthy ❤
Thank you so much for this video.....
Regards
Mam, l like you and your way of teaching and saying things very much ♥️👍
Sometimes you feel to dedicate everything in your relationship then expect the same from the other one too.
" लम्हों ने खता की थी सदियों ने सजा पाई " ❤❤
LAMHON NE KHATAYEN KI THI, SHADIYO NE SAZA PAYI ✅
Thank You Ma'am ❤.
Very good advice and very practicle
Abslutally right 👍😊....
Thanks 🙏
GREAT MAM!
GREAT SUGGESTION 🙏
Actually you know, we love the person, respect from the core of our heart. And it's not for a day or month, it's the fact of years after years. But how will you know, the other one's feelings, that also sometimes make us to think.
Excellent points. No wonder you were a topper. Such amazing clarity of thoughts.
Ma'am yahan per to koi confusion ni rehta h,,,,, bas darr ki wajah se confusion create hota h ki parents ni manege kyunki hamare India me aaj bhi jaat aur dharam ko priority di jati h sabse pehle,, aisi situation me to relationship ke bare me soch bhi ni skte,,,,,
Same problem hai yaar.
Perfect. Very nice explanation and to the point
Mam..I love your sweet smiling face ...good lesson ...
Thank you so much Bhagwaan mujhe itta accha jivan sathi dene ke liye❤ I wish ki sabhi ko ek accha jivan sathi mile❤
Beautifully explained, ma'am!
Mam baat aapne bilkul sahi kahi 😂🤣
Ghr Wale kitna bhi bole pr manege nhi relationship toh chlana hi h 🤣😂
Mere partner me ye sare gun hain ❤😍🤗
Very simple,,
Maa baap ka diya hua sabkuch hai,, Ghar, hai khet hai,, Family hai,
To shadi bhi unka hi diya ho to better hoga.
Hume lagta hai
Well said Mam. Kudos to you🎉🎉
Love means respect and caring
Thanks mam❤❤
Very nicely explained ❤
Firstly be a best partner.. instead of finding qualities in other start developing those in your own self. In nutshell we forget to give our 100% in hope of others 110%
It felt like ma'am spoke to me, heart to heart about the things I've been struggling alot lately seeing answers here and there, how simply you put it in words ma'am.... Thanks alot for the pep talk!!!
Life is in balance. We should and must compromise things in life to keep balance. Everything has good and bad qualities and is good at its limit.
You have a smile of an angel, appreciate your help here, you gave me clarity, you are super intelligent, Didi I am not a upsc aspirant ek upcoming writer, painter and cricker will you give me your autograph if I come across you in my life?
Beautiful video with the beautiful explanation . ❤