Marriage Issues? Trying To Conceive again? Parental Values? *VERY* Honest Q&A
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ต.ค. 2024
- It's been a little while since we caught up! So we decided to sit down and answer some of your questions around Married life and the struggles we have faced, how we keep the spark alive, our new lives both self employed and how we navigate that, our parental values, how we tell our identical twins apart, what irritates us about each other and much more!! As always, we are honest and upfront about our life, both positive and negative. If you enjoy watching this then hie the thumbs up and subscribe :)
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We hope you enjoy this catch up with us! We love hearing what you think of the videos, so lets chat in the comments x
Love seeing what you're up to. Stay calm and chill out together.
You are such an honest couple, sharing your personal life with us all. Good things will come as long as you both stay strong, never change who you are,we are all cheering you on, just have fun!
We really think that being open and honest is the best way to be! Thank you for supporting us x
Beautiful couple. Love your videos x
I am an identical twin and there are times I myself have wondered how on earth we could be raised by the same parents, in the same household and be so different
It’s crazy, right?!
The likeliness of having twins again after identicals is the same as everyone else. It’s non-identical that are hereditary; meaning more of a chance of having another set🙂 identical twins are a one in 250 chance regardless of if you’ve had a set already or not x
Ell talking about the mum guilt with CMPA absolutely broke my heart
No one understands the toll it has on a nursing mother
Thank you for sharing and normalising it
My son has CMPA and egg allergy, so nervous about starting solids
Its not just loving each other you have to really like each other and respect one other. Communication is key. Don't take anything or each other for granted. Sending love and prayers for yall
Great advice! Thanks for the support
It's so tre. They say opposite atract but you need to like each other. The truth is that after years of marriage, friendship is the strongest foundation. Having little kids takes its toll, too. Look after yourselves, and about your relationship. This year I will be celebrating 10 years. I have 2 young children and it's not easy sometimes. But that's life. Make sure you guys do lots of fun things together. Make each other laugh. That is so important. And don't believe in perfect relationship everyone have their ups and downs.
Hi lovely catch up! I have 8 children 4 boys and 4 girls I fell pregnant with twins at 40 years old! They were my last babies! They will be 13 in August! Please cherish your twins as they grow way too fast! Enjoy x
Oh wow that’s amazing!! Go you ❤
You’re only more likely to have twins if you’ve had non identical. The chances of having two sets of identical twins are very very slim
This was lovely we’ve been married for 42yrs been going out since we were 15 went to the same school from the ages of 11 got 3 children 3 grandchildren who we adore. You are a beautiful family xx
How beautiful! It’s a honour to get a compliment ❤
You should be able to get some free hrs for the boys from Sept? Xx
We have identical twin girls (12 months old now) and as crazy as it sounds, we describe the differences between them the exact same way as you just did in your video - both the physical and the character differences. :-D I keep watching your channel as your boys area few months ahead so it's always great to see what's to come ....
I’m an identical twin. Identical twins don’t run in families and you’re not anymore likely to have more. Non identical twins run in families so if they were non identical you’d be more likely to have more 🙂
Never go to bed on an argument ❤
I agree that money might not bring you happiness. But surely money can buy you time and health and with these two happiness come.
Money is a tool that if used correctly can unlock a happy life but sadly many people get greedy and don't see it like that. The phrase 'more money, more problems' is one that can mess up a lot of people
Marriage is not easy guys. Always make time for each other. Always remember to kiss each other before you go to sleep. Always be able to communicate. Work
Good advice! x
It's simple guys, cut down on all the stuff you do and the money you spend. Wouldn't even be thinking of another child, isn't two boys enough?
The best advice I gave to my children is to follow your dreams and be happy.
Love you guys! Such a precious family! ❤️🇺🇸
Loved this guys, we defo feel the same as you when it comes to time! So hard juggling jobs and doing the vids but you're smashing it! Bringing up a lovely pair of twins and grinding on top!! Thanks so much for the shout out too ❤ exciting vids for us coming in the next couple of weeks 👀🎉
Go Fab’s mum…. ❤
She’s an absolute saint ❤
Good morning all happy Friday and I enjoy your channel and you all amazing happy
Ell and Fab, I just love when you do this type of video. You two are so loving and caring, a great role model for your boys and for us out here. I'm looking forward to seeing your DIY projects, especially the garden. Always love and respect each other and definitely always communicate! Thank you for sharing your life! Hugs & Love from California.
Thank you so much for being so open and honest, I love these kind of videos form you guys ❤
That's true money doesn't make you happy, I have friends who just bought a water front house but there relationship isn't the best, My husband does the same when he has a shave 😄
Is it just me or does fab look so drained lately 🫣
I'd be drained after a 6 day stag do, too 😅
@@elleeberrybeeYes totally drained from the stag do! I thought he was going to say he'd been away working..... But No!! 😂
Great Q&A . I agree with you Ell about the boys future for them to know that money doesn’t bring happiness and for them to do what makes them happy. Aww Ell I understand Mum guilt especially as a first time parent trying to get going with breastfeeding and to know that dairy in your milk was making them sick it must of been awful and the guilt must of been horrendous. I’m so pleased all is well with the boys milk allergy and everything is fine now. Hope Ari and Noah feel better soon. Sending all my love to you all 🥰
Money may not lead to happiness but lack of it is the biggest cause of divorce - debt is a major worry for many ( especially if you are both not on the same page) so I would say that being happy is the biggest hope of most parents for their children and that (unfortunately) does mean prudence where money is concerned. As with most things it is a balance.
For sure. Balance is the key! Money and career are super important but can be a massive distraction that leads people away from actually doing things with their family
Absolutely loved this sit down chat ❤ Thank you for always being so open and raw with us.
I think it's funny how I thought I was busy before having a baby...the balancing act is no joke 😂✨
Much love to all of you. Such a beautiful family. Just slow down and enjoy each other.
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Any marriage needs work it just doesn't happen
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I can completely relate to the first year or so of marriage being a struggle. We just celebrated our 2 years and I’ve basically had 2 kids within those 2 years of marriage so it’s really been all about our kids and not necessarily just enjoying our marriage. We have completed our family now with our girl and boy and I’m excited to be able to enjoy my husband and celebrate our love more once the crazy newborn stage is over. Love this chill content guys, keep up the great work!!🥳
My twin girls are polar opposite’s too & their differences are similar to the boys with one with a rounder face and the other slimmer! Apparently the chances for twins after identicals is the same as before so a 1 in 250 chance whereas if they were fraternal, it jumps to a 1 in 12 chance of having them again!! 😬
Your point about money is interesting. I've got a couple of male friends who'd absolutely INSIST that without money you'll never find a girlfriend. They're constantly complaining about the picky girls out there. :D
I can't remember but are your twins mo di? If so there's not a greater chance of having twins again, it is fraternal twins that are genetic.
My daughters expecting identical twin girls - mo di
Oh dear, how could you feel guilty? A mom's milk has NOTHING to do with a cow's milk processed 10x over! It's definitely not your fault!
Love your content…Ell your looking beautiful
Thank you so much!!❤️
First love you guys great video thanks for an honest Q&A ❤
Thank you for the comment!
My Mum's friend had identical twin girls and then went on to have non identical twin girls. I don't know how common it is statistically. Of the 3 sets of twins I've know over the years, they all had older siblings that weren't twins. So if you start off with having twins who knows....!😊👯
My husband always worked away 2-3 nights a week. The thing that helped us was that he missed us and was obviously delighted to see us, even if things were in a mess and I was frazzled. My adult daughter has seen how important this was when some of her in-laws have split under the same pressures, she really sees the difference. We both had to accept the situation with grace, but not like it soo well that the other partner doesn't feel valued and important.
So happy that you aren’t moving at this time. I’ll follow your journey from Nova Scotia, Canada. 🍁
Awww thanks for supporting! Yes, time to get stuck into DIY
Fabs mum is a legend, how involved and caring she is!
You are such great parents, never doubt yourselves. Your boys are adorable. I hope they get well soon.❤❤❤❤
Thank you for your ongoing kindness ❤
Loved this real, raw catch up!! your life will fall into place when it’s supposed too🫶🏼
Your only more likely to have twins if you have non identical twins as it means the woman releases 2 eggs rather than just 1 when ovulating……….my friend has this and I can confirm she has got 2 sets of twins. she also had a ‘singleton’ so has 5 children in total and are all boys
Goes without saying just how much we invest into our children and the positive outcomes we gain . The trick is to not get complacent about what started out as two ....... keep investing in each other , and when life’s busy just remind yourselves what made you fall in love . Terrific footage as always guys ! Simply keep up the work . Sending love from the North 💐🥰
I have fraternal twins. If you have fraternal twins you are more likely to have them again as having twins from two eggs means you are prone to releasing more than one egg at a time. However identical twins happen by chance so in fact if you’ve already had identical twins you are less likely to have another set than someone who has never had them. It’s a bit like winning the lottery or lightning not striking in the same place twice!
You might be able to find a parent & child group for their social interaction. For them and yourselves.
Yes we do already take them to classes 😊
My cousin have 9 kids 21 year old 2 year old and 1 year old twins you are more likely to have twins 😊 x
You guys just keep on doing what you are doing it as you are an amazing family ❤
Thank you for the support 🫶🫶
Brilliant episode, but remember some things are private guys you don't have to be an open book it's your lives not you tube the you if that makes sense from a very wise old lady xxxx
Glad you enjoyed! We understand that but our goal with our content is to show the reality of marriage, parenthood etc.. it’s not all plain sailing! And people hopefully take comfort in seeing that. Social media is full of fake content and we don’t want to follow suit ❤️
After MCDA twins your chances of multiples again actually reduces! Still possible but lower than before you fell regnant 💙💙 fellow MCDA boy twin mama haha
Very interesting!! Yayyy big up the twin parents ❤
Lovely catch up, thank you! ❤
Such a beautiful couple..so open and honest!!I'm an identical twin and both me and my sister have different personalities and we are very close ❤
Awww beautiful!! Love hearing twin stories. Thanks for the support ❤
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As I recall biology class in nursing school, identical twins are not hereditary. However fraternal twins run in the female lines ( mothers, sisters) or rise with the mother's age and number of pregnancies
How was the garden renovation 3 years ago 😮. That means I’ve been here watching for 4 years! Time goes sooo quickly!
Crazy how fast that time has gone!! Thank you so much for sticking with us
A very open and honest video. ❤Marriage isn’t always smooth running. It takes work from both sides and good open communication. We’ve been together for 18 years married for 8 of those and it can be tough at times. Remembering to talk to each other, actively listen to the concerns raised and act upon them, don’t compare (a tit for tat on chores for example), make time to have 1-2-1 time even if it’s once a month and finally never go to bed on an arguement. You two are adapting to the life of parenthood which changes all of the time too.
Just remember in marriage, It’s not always a 50/50, sometimes one of you will have to put in more effort to balance out your partner who may have less energy etc. it’s always about balance between the two of you. X
I have multiple issues,diseases that are all food based. It takes time and patience. Love you all❤❤❤❤
Sorry you have to deal with that!
My son had a tomato allergy and a egg allergy from weaning until 2.5 years so so hard, there's tomato powder in everything
I always wanted a girl, no idea why 😂 but I have a boy who's almost 2 and I love being a boy mom now! Won't change him for the world!
Wow nearly 50K I remember when you was nearly 6k well done.(Lynn)
We appreciate you for sticking with us all that time!! Thank you so much ❤
Loved this vid, i love your action packed videos but also like your sit down chatty content too. ❤
Thank you for the feedback, glad you like these ones too!
Love your videos..Marriage is very , very hard without open communication and patience for each others short comings. Also being content with what you have..always wanting more is sometimes impossible to reach. Spend time with each other not doing reno's just a simple picnic etc. Something fun and crazy! I think filming has taken over some folks lives never let films come first. You and Fab are the BEST..always have each others back..❤❤❤😊❤❤❤
Ps I have two sets of twins the boys are 37 and my girls are 29 so be warned
Wow!! 😂
Very honest as always guys and thank you for sharing. I just looked it up and if you have identical twins the chance of having twins again is the same as other mothers 1 in 250, very surprised by that, but it is much higher if you have non-identical twins. Very good idea to make sure you take time out to be a couple as once the children have grown and left home it is just the two of you x
Too much exercise and bad diet too causes infertility
My girl still reacts occasionally to milk products now. She had milk and egg intolerences. I've been told it takes until at least 7 years to get better. She's hardly ever bad now though. It is awul, its like its burning inside them
Oh bless you both you are so honest about things. Love your videos and so glad the boys are doing well on the,milk ladder. Something less to worry about and it is a worry cause my grandsons were the same. Thanks as always take care and keep on living each others life is precious
Always enjoy watching you guys. Don't put too much pressure on yourselves, you're on human. But making time for one another is one of the best things you will do for your relationship ❤
Just watched this my Ari who is also a identical twin is a Velcro baby and emotional 😂 must be the name .
Keep in mind that they can be lactose intolerant later on! You can buy lactose free products.
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Iv got twins snd iv had 4 pregnancies since and never had more twins x
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June is winter over here so very cold Australia
Favourite day of the week!!!❤
yayyy we appreciate you!
You are doing all the right things xx
Nice call a baby
Fab do you spend much time in Hythe Kent?
Lots mate 😂
My sister had twin girls followed by a single birth boy and then twin girl. I lost twin boys after having single girls. 🤷🏼♀️
So sorry to hear that ❤️❤️
@@fabandell with all sorrow are great blessings. But it doesn’t stop me each October from wondering what they’d be like today. They were identical as well.
Xsugar causes fietilitu issues
No I eat cakes like four strawberries tarts and bars chocolate s coffee irnbru and at 43 had 9.4 son give him a brother two years later at45 9.9 my last just lots of sex like four times a dayx😂❤🎉
Just love you guys. Look forward to all your videos ❤
Thank you, Jackie!
If you do have more children, or even if you dont, it would be so nice to see Fab as the stay at home parent for a change. Nice to see dads in this role, and mums binging home the bacon 🥓 lol 😊😅 I know you share, but I do think its important for dads to get their turns at home. Good video.
So what do you think @fab and ell
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