I’m glad u are a better person than anyone myself included..u only did it for your kids although u dont love her completely like before she is still your kids mother hopefully ur kids in return and all of us can follow that same foot steps
Wow.....tus txiv tsev....koj yeej ua tau yog lawm mog. Vim peb ua neeg ib zaug xwb. Ua rau neb cov me nyuam thiab koj txoj kev zoo. Neb lub neej twb zoo2, koj tus pojniam yeej ua tau ntau yam zoo2 rau koj lawm thiab. Kuv thov qhua & zoo siab rau koj ua tau ib yam zoo rau koj tus niam me tsev tiam no. Soooo sad.....peb cov pojniam ces....hmoov phem2 es txhob raum2 mog tsoom viv ncaus.
I blame both side. The wife can't expect the husband to be like everyone else, and at the same time the husband shouldn't have kept the wife like a caged animal. The lack of communication and understanding is what caused this marriage to turmoil. However, if it was me I would run away as far as possible. This cheat bitch doesn't deserve my apologise. Everything else is okay, but having an affair is beyond unimaginable.
Koj yog kawg lawm thiab txoj kev ua sib daj sib deev ntaw nyob ntawm tus neeg siab phem thiab siab zoo xwb thiab tus neeg xav ua lub neej xwb hos zoo li kuv lub neej tej Koj hais twb muaj tag los yeej tso tau Kuv cov txiv tub ntseg yog koj thiab tseem siab zoo cov los ua koj tus poj zaum ob xwb. Nws twm muaj koj tua kiag lawm yog yam koj tuag ces koj twb taug lawm os
Peb txhua tu poj niam ces yeej ntshaw2 kev hlub os... txawm tsi ua rau yus los tsi txhob mus ua rau lwm tu ces tsi ua rau yu los tsi tus siab.. tiam si yog nws tsi ua rau yus es hos mus ua rau lwm tu ces tu2 yus lub siab ces kawg ua siab phem xwb...
You only know what you know, and you don't know what you don't know. No one is perfect. You turned around and did the right thing in the end. And I believe both you and your wife learned a lesson. Just unfortunately for your wife, it was too late. If you know better, then do better. If you want to be better, then seek and learn how to be better.
You want flowers or you want a husband with no flowers but has eyes only for you?....guys who sent flowers to their wives are more likely to do it to others
You are a forgiving man... may God bless you with happiness. This is a classic story of hmong couples. The men always thinks they, being home and providing for thr family is love, the women needs attention here and there to feel loved and not taken for granted. Many women mistake attention for love and walks out on marriages only to find that its not all wine and roses. It's hard all around. I hope future generations do not repeat this cycle.
Tus txiv tsev aw koj tus poj niam yog ib tug tswv yim tsawg ua luaj nws thiaj ua yuav kev rau koj. Koj ua yog kawg lawm thaum kawg nws thiaj xav los tuag rau koj lub xub ntiag cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj
Tu me txiv tsev aw koj ua yog lawm os mog To peb tej niam txiv es sib222 ceg tag lo pheej khiav tsi tau lo vim yog xav ntawm tej me nyuam xwb lo ma mog Tseem yog xav li koj xav no ma mog
Grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Some are too sheltered and when they venture out then they can’t control their emotions. Just because she’s starting to work and seeing other lives/love differently then she comes home and starts complaining. Sometimes it’s best to see what’s in front of you rather than comparing others to your life especially when there hasn’t been any problems.
Tus poj niam zoo li koj tus ntawm ko peb hmoob muaj ib lo lus hais tias niag neeg kuag kab kuag hlau. Yuav ntse tsis ntse yuav ruam tsis ruam ces zoo li ko tiag.
Luag tej laus ib txwm muaj ib lo lus tias ( neeg qub txig nrog kua si, hos plees plees ruaj nrees ) no ne. Lam coj tus lam qub txig xwb thaum twg tau ua mas haj yam heev Aw
Poj niam ruam.phej ntshaw lub paj dab tsi.mekas txoj kev hlub yeej ntev li lub paj xwb.ob peb hnoob ces tsuag tag,nyias mus nyias.es phej vam dab tsi,cov poj niam ruam ces yeej yog zaj no xwb.
Koj tsis ruam. Koj hlub thiab siab zoo tiag tiag.. yog nws tsis muaj cov me Nyuam ntawv ces koj twb tsis ua li Ko os.. thiab Yog koj muaj Poj niam lawm ces ntshe koj twb tsis ua li KO thiab...Thov lub Ntuj foom koob hmoov rau koj os mog
Tim cov txiv tsev xwb os yog pom tej chaw ua yus yuav tsum xaum ua kev hlub kev zoo rau koj tus niam tsev es nws thiaj li muaj lub siab ua neeg zoo txawm tias res paj 2 3 dua xwb los twb muaj nqis tshaj li koj hais los lus os
yawg kuv yog koj mas coj tus puav laib mus muab tus laib ntawd caws ib npaj kom tsim nyog tso mam tha koj poj niam mas yeej tim thaub laib ntawd thiab.
Thov qhuas koj yog ib tug txiv tsev koj paub koj qhov koj ua txhaum ua li ko yog lawm os yav tag nws twb ua zoo rau koj niam koj txiv lawm ces koj ua yuav tau ua pub rau koj tus niam tsev zoo heev li os tus tij laug aw thov qhuas koj muaj peev xwm heev.
Kuv tsis totaub hmoob qhov uas "laig" lossis "laig dab" hlo li. Vim thaum tuag lawm twb muab ntawg mus rau tom dab teb, ntuj txiag teb tsaus, ntuj nqha teb nqhuab lawm, es ho laig tau licas thiab? Hmoob ho hu tau tug tuag ntawd tom ntuj txiag teb tsaus, ntuj nqha teb nqhuab rov los noj no lov?
Late to the game but here's my 2 cents. Ladies, men are simple creatures. They don't have telepathy. They can't read your thoughts. Lmao. If you want something, SAY IT!!! If you need something, SAY IT!!! Don't make your man guess it and if he gets it wrong, you get mad for DAYS!!! That's childish. Just STOP. Love doesn't have to be flowers and cards. Many men give those things to their spouse but it means nothing. I'd rather have a man who works hard and supports the family instead of one who constantly cheats then buys his wife flowers and gifts to buy her happiness. No thanks. Some of y'all need to quit being so materialistic. Those things fade away.
You are never too old to love or to want love. The problem with our Hmong people is that they married at such a young age and really had no time to enjoy each other or experience each other as lovers. Just like she said; she had kids right away and became a mother and a caregiver most of her life. She never even worked outside of the home until her kids are grown and the in laws are gone, that’s when she finally start living for herself. The husband in this story have been busy all his entire life trying to provide for his family and really have no time to enjoy his wife. It’s too bad that your wife have to leave earth so quickly and you didn’t get a second chance to prove your love to her. I am glad to hear that you have enough well power to decide against your relatives decision and see that your beautiful 8 children are more valuable to you. Money can’t buy love or time. When your calling come, you have to go. For the children, I am glad to hear that you guys have such a strong family tides that you were able help your father open his eyes and find it in his heart to do the right thing for your mom. For the people that thinks that she doesn’t deserve it, don’t judge because you have not walk in her shoes.
Qhov koj ua rau koj cov tub nws yeej yog qhov zoo tab sis ntshai tsam tom ntej no koj laus koj cov nyab ua nai ces koj cov tub nti tsis taus ces hnub ntawv koj ho yuav paub li ces yog paub lig lawm xwb os tus phooj ywg
Pojniam thiab txiv tham nkauj nraug lawm ces yeej muaj tus cwj pwj li ntawm kov os. Txuas yam ntawm yus nws yuav tib kom dim ntawm yus mus. Siab phem heev li os cov neeg tham hluas na
Txhua txhua tus poj niam mag tus txiv neej twg deev tshaj ces nws ncawg tus txiv neej ntawv dua ntais xwb. Ob niam txiv twg tias yog tus txiv tsis kam tsoob tus niam, tus niam quaj kua muag poob. Tab sis yog tus niam tsis pub rau tus txiv deev, tus txiv chim npau taws pes vog thiab liam kiag tias nws tus poj niam deev hluas lawm thiaj xyeej nws. Tom koj tus poj niam khiav koj mus deev lwm tus txiv neej los twb vim yog koj ruam. Koj tus poj niam twb tsis tsim nyog rau koj thiab koj cov kwv tij tab kaum lawm los nej tseem mag tab kaum nws thiab.
This man dont show her love and appreciation. He enslaved her from teenage till she in her 40's. She care for the kids and his parents and never receive ANY FLOWERS or birthday appreciation. How the FUCK can you MESS UP??? Come on. This is the man side of the story.
Most Hmong men are selfish lovers. They love it when wives shower them with affections but they dont see the importance in reciprocating. Note that humans are not mind readers, you have to show your affection by your actions. Being faithful and coming home to your wives are not enough. That is what is expected. What else are you doing to give life and sparks into your relationship instead of the everyday mundane routines?
After listening to the whole story I’m glad you did what you did for your kids and not listen to your relative because your kids are everything to you and your future
Lesson: men if you don’t know how to read our minds because we are stubborn and expect you to know... send us flowers for no reason and all the holidays, especially our birthdays and Mother’s Day! Take us out to eat - our choice. Take us on trips - to see the world, tell us how beautiful we are. Desire us and fall in love with us now that the kids are grown. Our love will be deeper than when we first loved.
Brother, things happened for a reason and what you did for her is an act of love. You did the right thing for her and support you. May you be blessed by 1000 more times.
Thaub aw! Ib sim neej koj tsis tau yuav ib lub paj rau vim koj muab nws cia nyob tsev xwb es tgaum nwd n7s hauj lwm nwd pom luag ua rau luag tej es nws ntshaw nws taij koj ces kuj ua rau kiag zoo dua li nws ntshaw2 es nws cia li pauv siab mus tham hluas nraug pob. Thaum ntawv nws lub puas los koj lub twb puas lawm thiab ne. Yuav tau ua rau poj niam ua ntej poj niam tsis tau mus ntsib tus tshiab. Koj cia thaum mus ntsib tus tshiab lawm ces thaum ntawv koj txawm yuav pauv es yuav is puas tsav yam rau nws los tsis work lawm vim nws twb tsis hlub koj lawm na. Kuj zoo tias koj rov coj nws los ua dab ua qhua vim nws twb tsis tau yuav txiv thiab ua rau koj cov menyuam li koj hais ces zoo lawm.
This dude is right about him being stupid to the point where he doesn't know what his wife desire. He is to blame partially, for all that his wife has done for him and his family, burying her and giving her a path to the afterlife is the least he can do for her. In reality I think he was in denial and he let his big ego get in the way of satisfying her needs. Also I don't understand why some men don't cherish their woman by showering her with flowers and gifts when she's still alive/around but cries of regret and buying her big bouquet of flowers when she's gone. Don't let it be too late, the reason you are together is so you can shower each other with love and happiness. Let go of the big ego and learn to understand your woman needs and want. 365 days a year and there's only a few holidays that should be celebrated with your love one, that's not asking for too much.
There are very very few hmong men who can let go of that grudge that his wife cheated on him. He knew her one mistake was because of him yet he was able to look pass that and considered ALL the good that she had done for him and his family in the pass. Good for you for having such a heart. Again, only a handful of Hmong men are this way.
Yog nws tsis pom dej dag ces nws twb tsis ntshai twb tsis kam tus qub txiv yuav nws dua...ntshe nws tseem npuaj pob tais rau nws tus txiv saib xwb. Tsis tas li ntawd, ntshe nws tseem rov qab los rub child support ntawd tus txiv uas rau tus txiv ua tsis tsheej neeg li
Tus brother, Cas koj lam tuaj txog lub teb chaw Ameslika xwb es koj twb tsis tau pom neeg Ameslika tseeb li. Pab nrog koj tusiab heev uas koj tuaj pom Ameslika lig dhau heev lawm. Txij no lawm tov koj yuav tau mus kom txog Ameslika lub teb chaw nawb. Tom ntej no yog koj tseem tsis kam nce Ameslika lub teb chaw thiab koj kawg rov tsuj tib tug qub hneev taws. Pab koj khuv xim koj tus niam tsev kawg nkau, tiam sis yog tim koj 70% ho tim nws 30% xwb.
Men, women just want love and attention from you. We communicate differently to our needs. Pay attention to her and yes, do all the things that makes her feel loved, it’s all the little things for us. It’s true that she didn’t communicate her needs to you because you can’t read her mind. Just communicate that’s all it is.
tus txiv tsev ntawm zaj no yog tseem tsis kam faus nws tus poj niam thiab ces yuav npam nws ntag mas vim cov txiv tsev ruam tsis paub poj niam txoj kev ntshaws tiam no yus twb qhia rau nws tias kuv xav kom koj hlub kuv li no rau nws tag los nws yeej tsis quav ntsej li ces kawg mus rau tus sab tov xwb tus niam tsev no tsis yog liam nawb vim nws pom luag tsis ua li yus na cas yus niag yeej hlub yus mas tab sis hlub qhov ruam ruam xwb tsis kaj siab na yog nws tsis ua txhua yam kev hlub rau yus tus niam nkauj txhav qaib yus tus niam nkauj txhav qaib tuag lawm yus hos mus yuav dua lwm tus los yus hos ua txhua yam rau tus tshiab ces yuav npam yus thiab nawb vim yus tsis nco poj niam txiaj ntsim na cov txiv tsev ruam li tus no tseem muaj coob heev nawb
Many txiv tsev nowadays wants their niam tsev to be a "maum dev" in bed and learn all these sexy positions and still know how to be a good cook in the kitchen, so it's vice versa as well for a lot of the niam tsev... they want the husbands to spoil them with love and romantic gift gestures as well... we all need to learn how to love outside of our comfort zone for our spouse's sake no matter what age you are...
The flowers, birthday cards, and gifts does have meanings. It may not mean anything to others but it does having meanings to others. It’s the thought that counts. Not a lot of Hmong men would do this, I applaud you for being a wonderful dad to your kids and the favor for your wife.
This story is so sad. Your wife was a good person and take care of your kids and your parents. She never got to do anything for herself. She does deserve to be love that’s why she fall in love with the other guy. Thank you for bringing her back at the end. She deserves that.
@@ChewyVangPYSH not true. Men or women both deserve love. But this story I believe she was a good person just made a mistake by cheating because she wanted love.
You sound like a controlling man typical like the OG generation. You try to twist the story to make it like it's your wife's fault. You control her all her life by being a good wife to you, not letting her be independent by staying home and raising your children and taking care of your parents. You are so wrong to do that to your wife. You never gave her the opportunity to live life to make her happy too. You are so at fault that she turned the way she did. Because you buried her you want to make yourself a hero but truly you owed her more than that.
I’m so proud that you were courageous to break the traditions and did what’s was best for your kids and you. You’re an awesome role model for many Hmong men out there. After all, despite of good and bad health, your kids will always be there for you no matter what. These extended family members choose whenever they want to help out. Most Hmong men have high egos and are stubborn and hard headed to change. In a relationship, both husbands and wives crave for the same thing; love and affectionate; something small like a call to say I love ❤️ you , a kiss on the cheek, how was your day? a helping hand with cooking or washing dishes. It’s these small things that touch and melt us women’s hearts. Men forget we, women have needs. Just because we don’t ask for it, men should ignore the intimate feelings. This result in the marriage of falling apart, crying out for desperation and infidelities.
Nyob laug tag li ko lawm yog g nrog yus nyob ces ua tsaug ntau ntau rau xwb yog mus lawm mas cov laus tias tua qaib ntim su xwb yus mas tua npua ntim su ntag hos Yawg
You did the right thing. Forgiveness is a form of love. There are a lot of Hmong people with small hearts. Plus they always say if it was them they would never do what you did...until it is them and they do the exact same thing.🤦♂️ Always do what best for you don't worry about what others think of you.
koj ce to koj niag poj niam thuam koj tia koj ruam no koj yeej ruam tiag2 thiab tsi tag thiab tsi tag li ntawd lo tej zaum thaum uab ntshai koj yeej muaj kev npam kev khaum rau koj niag poj niam ko lawm thiab es nw twb khiav ntawd koj mu tham dua lawm tu hlua nraug lawm lo koj tseem mu coj rov qab lo ua nw lub ntee li nw tseem yog koj tu poj niam thiab qhov no n tsi nw npam tu neeg muaj txoj kev npam ntawd nw yog koj nawj.
Koj ces tseem ruam tshaj tus maum dev thawj thiab ko lawm thiab. Tseem rov coj xob txhiaj los tsev dua mas ntshe koj thiab koj cov minyuam yuav us ib lub neej xyai lau thaub hlwb rwj...
Your wife was dumb and naive. Wow what a wonderful man! You do what's right for you and your family. Now that's true love. The love your wife was looking for. Thank you for being an example for all Hmong men.
Hais rau nej cov txiv tsev paub tias Nruab hnub peb xav tau ib tug txiv tsev Hmo ntuj peb xav kom nej ua ib tug txiv dev. Hais txog txoj kev hlub saum lub txaj lub chaw Poj niam tsis hais tab sis yog tus txiv muab tsis tau ces kawg nrhiav tus tshiab li nej cov txiv neejj thiab xwb.
This is when people are in denial and refuse to learn and change, like this guy. He thinks he got her young and naive so he will just cage and control her. I would leave, too. He slaved her her whole marriage life and in the end all he saw in her was just an animal that he fed that he could kill at any minute, if she rebel. Even it’s only 1 year of living after she escaped, it’s a year of freedom, a year to be a human, a year to be herself. Even if she only found love for a short time, it’s probably worth the run for freedom from slavery. She’s freed at last!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼 Just a funeral for her death ain’t do any justice for all the decades that he slaved her, ain’t making him the hero. She’s dead.
Zoo heev li
ua tsaug tu txiv tses siab zoo heev li
Zoo tshaj plaws ua koj muab koj lub neej tuaj qhia rau peb cov niam txov hmoob uas yog feem coob tseem coj lub siab li koj os! Pab koj tu siab kawg tiam sis zoo siab tias koj kuj tseem muaj lub siab ntev los hlub koj tus niam ua zaum kawg!!
Good man!!
I’m glad u are a better person than anyone myself included..u only did it for your kids although u dont love her completely like before she is still your kids mother hopefully ur kids in return and all of us can follow that same foot steps
You are a good man
Ntuj os ntuj e....😥😥😭😭😭
Peb cov tub thiab peb cov niam os lawv ...
Yuav tau zam txim thiab ma
Wow.....tus txiv tsev....koj yeej ua tau yog lawm mog. Vim peb ua neeg ib zaug xwb. Ua rau neb cov me nyuam thiab koj txoj kev zoo. Neb lub neej twb zoo2, koj tus pojniam yeej ua tau ntau yam zoo2 rau koj lawm thiab. Kuv thov qhua & zoo siab rau koj ua tau ib yam zoo rau koj tus niam me tsev tiam no. Soooo sad.....peb cov pojniam ces....hmoov phem2 es txhob raum2 mog tsoom viv ncaus.
Koj yog ib tug txawj xav thiab siab zoo heev txawm koj mus lub neej tom ntej los koj yeej yuav tau lub neej zoo kuv ntseeg li ntawd
Yaim tiag nawb
I blame both side. The wife can't expect the husband to be like everyone else, and at the same time the husband shouldn't have kept the wife like a caged animal. The lack of communication and understanding is what caused this marriage to turmoil. However, if it was me I would run away as far as possible. This cheat bitch doesn't deserve my apologise. Everything else is okay, but having an affair is beyond unimaginable.
Koj yog ib tus txiv tsev siab zoo heev os
Koj yog kawg lawm thiab txoj kev ua sib daj sib deev ntaw nyob ntawm tus neeg siab phem thiab siab zoo xwb thiab tus neeg xav ua lub neej xwb hos zoo li kuv lub neej tej Koj hais twb muaj tag los yeej tso tau Kuv cov txiv tub ntseg yog koj thiab tseem siab zoo cov los ua koj tus poj zaum ob xwb. Nws twm muaj koj tua kiag lawm yog yam koj tuag ces koj twb taug lawm os
You made the right decision. Live for your kids not your relatives.
Money! If you have money, you can do anything. If you have money, don’t listen to relatives.
Xyo cas txiv neej pheej ntshai kev hlub ua luaj li....ua neej nyob twb tsis ntev es txiv neej hmoob aws....cas nej yuav qia dub txoj kev hlub ua luaj os....
Txoj kev ua zoo thiaj tau ntuj ntoo ua qhov phem thiaj tau kev txom nyem swb ua qhov zoo xwb os.
Nws twb mag yawg nrauj yaim nws tus kaus ntsav tshee mos nyoos lawm mas thaub...
Peb txhua tu poj niam ces yeej ntshaw2 kev hlub os... txawm tsi ua rau yus los tsi txhob mus ua rau lwm tu ces tsi ua rau yu los tsi tus siab.. tiam si yog nws tsi ua rau yus es hos mus ua rau lwm tu ces tu2 yus lub siab ces kawg ua siab phem xwb...
Koj mas siab zoo zoo kuwg li ntiaj teb no muaj koj ib leeg xwb koj siab zoo
Kuv. Tsis ntshaw paj
Nyuam ghuav hum nws siab xwb los mas tsawg sawm tuag tsis tuag
Me muam koj tus txiv hlub koj kawg tsis xav ua rau koj mob nqaij mob tawv , tabsi tus txiv neej txawj hais lus qab zib ces yog tus txiv neej uas ua rau koj mob nqaij koj tsis txawj xav pab koj tu siab kawg
Tsis tau paj los tuag nws faus zoo lawm
Niam Ntsuab teev! Koj pab hais rau tus Txiv neej ko tias, kom nws yuav tau mus kawm ntxiv no nawb. Yog nws tsis kawm ntxiv ces nws yuavtsawg tus los yeej yuav zoo ib yam no nawb. Kuv xav tias nws yeej ruam tiag2. Txoj kev hlub ib tug yeej tsis qhia rau ib tug lawm nawb.
You only know what you know, and you don't know what you don't know. No one is perfect. You turned around and did the right thing in the end. And I believe both you and your wife learned a lesson. Just unfortunately for your wife, it was too late. If you know better, then do better. If you want to be better, then seek and learn how to be better.
I never get flowers from my husband either
You want flowers or you want a husband with no flowers but has eyes only for you?....guys who sent flowers to their wives are more likely to do it to others
You are a forgiving man... may God bless you with happiness. This is a classic story of hmong couples. The men always thinks they, being home and providing for thr family is love, the women needs attention here and there to feel loved and not taken for granted. Many women mistake attention for love and walks out on marriages only to find that its not all wine and roses. It's hard all around. I hope future generations do not repeat this cycle.
Kj yog tu txiv neej hlub poj niam tiag2 thov qhua kj od
Tsis tau keej txaus
Tus txiv tsev koj ua yg lawm o koj siab Zoo heev ntiaj teb no ntshe tsua yg muaj koj lawm xwb
Tus txiv tsev aw koj tus poj niam yog ib tug tswv yim tsawg ua luaj nws thiaj ua yuav kev rau koj. Koj ua yog kawg lawm thaum kawg nws thiaj xav los tuag rau koj lub xub ntiag cas yuav txaus tu siab ua luaj
Tu me txiv tsev aw koj ua yog lawm os mog
To peb tej niam txiv es sib222 ceg tag lo pheej khiav tsi tau lo vim yog xav ntawm tej me nyuam xwb lo ma mog
Tseem yog xav li koj xav no ma mog
Kuv. Ntshaw kom kuv. Tus. Txiv. Txhob yws 222. Neeg. Xwb
Koj Tsis tas yuav Lwm Qaib dua lawm, yog Cov menyuam xav hlub es yuav npws laig los yeej tau kawg vim nws yug lawv. Koj Lo lus faj tias yuav tau ua txhua yam rau pojniam kom nws hlub yus yeej yog tabsis yog yuav pib ces pib ua ntej nws muaj hluas pojniam thiaj pom txiaj ntsim thiab thiaj Lees txais nawb. Yog nws twb muaj hluas lawm koj mam pib txawm yuav txij ntuj los Tsis Muaj qabhau rau nws lawm vim nws twb pom Lwm tus zoo dua koj lawm
8 kids already?
Grass isn’t always greener on the other side. Some are too sheltered and when they venture out then they can’t control their emotions. Just because she’s starting to work and seeing other lives/love differently then she comes home and starts complaining. Sometimes it’s best to see what’s in front of you rather than comparing others to your life especially when there hasn’t been any problems.
Txoj no koj twb hai xyoo tag Los lawm sab Hnub 14 2 2019
Tus poj niam zoo li koj tus ntawm ko peb hmoob muaj ib lo lus hais tias niag neeg kuag kab kuag hlau. Yuav ntse tsis ntse yuav ruam tsis ruam ces zoo li ko tiag.
Luag tej laus ib txwm muaj ib lo lus tias ( neeg qub txig nrog kua si, hos plees plees ruaj nrees ) no ne. Lam coj tus lam qub txig xwb thaum twg tau ua mas haj yam heev Aw
Poj niam ruam.phej ntshaw lub paj dab tsi.mekas txoj kev hlub yeej ntev li lub paj xwb.ob peb hnoob ces tsuag tag,nyias mus nyias.es phej vam dab tsi,cov poj niam ruam ces yeej yog zaj no xwb.
Koj tsis ruam. Koj hlub thiab siab zoo tiag tiag.. yog nws tsis muaj cov me Nyuam ntawv ces koj twb tsis ua li Ko os.. thiab Yog koj muaj Poj niam lawm ces ntshe koj twb tsis ua li KO thiab...Thov lub Ntuj foom koob hmoov rau koj os mog
Tim cov txiv tsev xwb os yog pom tej chaw ua yus yuav tsum xaum ua kev hlub kev zoo rau koj tus niam tsev es nws thiaj li muaj lub siab ua neeg zoo txawm tias res paj 2 3 dua xwb los twb muaj nqis tshaj li koj hais los lus os
Koj ua yog lawm zoo dua cov me nyuam ntxub koj
Mu ua lub nyav2 nes paum thiaj mob cancer
Yog koj ua yog lawm
poj niam yeej ntshaw2 kev hlub ib lub paj xwb lo zoo zoo poj niam lub siab lawm
yawg kuv yog koj mas coj tus puav laib mus muab tus laib ntawd caws ib npaj kom tsim nyog tso mam tha koj poj niam mas yeej tim thaub laib ntawd thiab.
ruam tiag2 tseem tau luag zam txim rau nws twb muab koj tsuj zoo li koj tsis yog nws tus txiv cia kom txhob muaj lub chaw tuag
Thov qhuas koj yog ib tug txiv tsev koj paub koj qhov koj ua txhaum ua li ko yog lawm os yav tag nws twb ua zoo rau koj niam koj txiv lawm ces koj ua yuav tau ua pub rau koj tus niam tsev zoo heev li os tus tij laug aw thov qhuas koj muaj peev xwm heev.
Txiag koj thiab koj niag maum dev khaus pim khaus qhov quav!! Cia nws tuag nws thiab lau!!
Kuv tsis totaub hmoob qhov uas "laig" lossis "laig dab" hlo li. Vim thaum tuag lawm twb muab ntawg mus rau tom dab teb, ntuj txiag teb tsaus, ntuj nqha teb nqhuab lawm, es ho laig tau licas thiab? Hmoob ho hu tau tug tuag ntawd tom ntuj txiag teb tsaus, ntuj nqha teb nqhuab rov los noj no lov?
Late to the game but here's my 2 cents. Ladies, men are simple creatures. They don't have telepathy. They can't read your thoughts. Lmao. If you want something, SAY IT!!! If you need something, SAY IT!!! Don't make your man guess it and if he gets it wrong, you get mad for DAYS!!! That's childish. Just STOP. Love doesn't have to be flowers and cards. Many men give those things to their spouse but it means nothing. I'd rather have a man who works hard and supports the family instead of one who constantly cheats then buys his wife flowers and gifts to buy her happiness. No thanks. Some of y'all need to quit being so materialistic. Those things fade away.
You are never too old to love or to want love. The problem with our Hmong people is that they married at such a young age and really had no time to enjoy each other or experience each other as lovers. Just like she said; she had kids right away and became a mother and a caregiver most of her life. She never even worked outside of the home until her kids are grown and the in laws are gone, that’s when she finally start living for herself. The husband in this story have been busy all his entire life trying to provide for his family and really have no time to enjoy his wife. It’s too bad that your wife have to leave earth so quickly and you didn’t get a second chance to prove your love to her. I am glad to hear that you have enough well power to decide against your relatives decision and see that your beautiful 8 children are more valuable to you. Money can’t buy love or time. When your calling come, you have to go. For the children, I am glad to hear that you guys have such a strong family tides that you were able help your father open his eyes and find it in his heart to do the right thing for your mom. For the people that thinks that she doesn’t deserve it, don’t judge because you have not walk in her shoes.
Qhov koj ua rau koj cov tub nws yeej yog qhov zoo tab sis ntshai tsam tom ntej no koj laus koj cov nyab ua nai ces koj cov tub nti tsis taus ces hnub ntawv koj ho yuav paub li ces yog paub lig lawm xwb os tus phooj ywg
Pojniam thiab txiv tham nkauj nraug lawm ces yeej muaj tus cwj pwj li ntawm kov os. Txuas yam ntawm yus nws yuav tib kom dim ntawm yus mus. Siab phem heev li os cov neeg tham hluas na
You are a Humble man for admitting you did not give her the kind of love she longed for.
Txhua txhua tus poj niam mag tus txiv neej twg deev tshaj ces nws ncawg tus txiv neej ntawv dua ntais xwb. Ob niam txiv twg tias yog tus txiv tsis kam tsoob tus niam, tus niam quaj kua muag poob. Tab sis yog tus niam tsis pub rau tus txiv deev, tus txiv chim npau taws pes vog thiab liam kiag tias nws tus poj niam deev hluas lawm thiaj xyeej nws. Tom koj tus poj niam khiav koj mus deev lwm tus txiv neej los twb vim yog koj ruam. Koj tus poj niam twb tsis tsim nyog rau koj thiab koj cov kwv tij tab kaum lawm los nej tseem mag tab kaum nws thiab.
NEJ MUAJ TXIV LAWM G ZOO HAIS
LUS QAB ZIB LOS TXHAWB NEJ LUB
ZOG KOM NROV MUS NTO TOJ TXHOB XAV LI XAS NAWB MOG
This man dont show her love and appreciation. He enslaved her from teenage till she in her 40's. She care for the kids and his parents and never receive ANY FLOWERS or birthday appreciation. How the FUCK can you MESS UP??? Come on. This is the man side of the story.
Cov txijnkawm coj li neb nyob2 hauv tsev tawm plaws ces vwm2 tuag kiag rau tus tshiab coob tus. Lam laus dawb xwb tsis ntse, thiaj yoog tsis tau lub neej xws luag. Leejtwg siab phem ces npam tus ntawd sai2 kawg li.
Most Hmong men are selfish lovers. They love it when wives shower them with affections but they dont see the importance in reciprocating. Note that humans are not mind readers, you have to show your affection by your actions. Being faithful and coming home to your wives are not enough. That is what is expected. What else are you doing to give life and sparks into your relationship instead of the everyday mundane routines?
After listening to the whole story I’m glad you did what you did for your kids and not listen to your relative because your kids are everything to you and your future
Nyob zoo os niam ntsuab teev kuv xav muab kuv zaj neej neeg xav tuaj rau koj pab hai rau peb tau mloog es koj pab teb kuv tom messenger ua tsaug
Koj ua yog lawm os koj tus niam tsev yuamkev los yeej tim koj thiab os
Peb Es twb nyuam qhuav 20 tawm xyoo xwb peb cov txiv tsis ua rau peb li los peb twb tsis nco qab ntshaw as cas ib co neeg hos txawv ua luaj ne
Because it’s not your love language.
Lesson: men if you don’t know how to read our minds because we are stubborn and expect you to know... send us flowers for no reason and all the holidays, especially our birthdays and Mother’s Day! Take us out to eat - our choice. Take us on trips - to see the world, tell us how beautiful we are. Desire us and fall in love with us now that the kids are grown. Our love will be deeper than when we first loved.
Tus txiv tsev no tsab ntse dhau lawm tos pojniam tsis nyiam
Yog yog yog.
hom tsab ntse tab sis ruam ntag.
Ua ib tug qauv tsis zoo rau cov tom qab lawm
Brother, things happened for a reason and what you did for her is an act of love. You did the right thing for her and support you. May you be blessed by 1000 more times.
Thaub aw! Ib sim neej koj tsis tau yuav ib lub paj rau vim koj muab nws cia nyob tsev xwb es tgaum nwd n7s hauj lwm nwd pom luag ua rau luag tej es nws ntshaw nws taij koj ces kuj ua rau kiag zoo dua li nws ntshaw2 es nws cia li pauv siab mus tham hluas nraug pob. Thaum ntawv nws lub puas los koj lub twb puas lawm thiab ne. Yuav tau ua rau poj niam ua ntej poj niam tsis tau mus ntsib tus tshiab. Koj cia thaum mus ntsib tus tshiab lawm ces thaum ntawv koj txawm yuav pauv es yuav is puas tsav yam rau nws los tsis work lawm vim nws twb tsis hlub koj lawm na. Kuj zoo tias koj rov coj nws los ua dab ua qhua vim nws twb tsis tau yuav txiv thiab ua rau koj cov menyuam li koj hais ces zoo lawm.
This dude is right about him being stupid to the point where he doesn't know what his wife desire. He is to blame partially, for all that his wife has done for him and his family, burying her and giving her a path to the afterlife is the least he can do for her. In reality I think he was in denial and he let his big ego get in the way of satisfying her needs. Also I don't understand why some men don't cherish their woman by showering her with flowers and gifts when she's still alive/around but cries of regret and buying her big bouquet of flowers when she's gone. Don't let it be too late, the reason you are together is so you can shower each other with love and happiness. Let go of the big ego and learn to understand your woman needs and want. 365 days a year and there's only a few holidays that should be celebrated with your love one, that's not asking for too much.
There are very very few hmong men who can let go of that grudge that his wife cheated on him. He knew her one mistake was because of him yet he was able to look pass that and considered ALL the good that she had done for him and his family in the pass. Good for you for having such a heart. Again, only a handful of Hmong men are this way.
Ntshai mus ua pog npla kawg thiab...
Yog nws tsis pom dej dag ces nws twb tsis ntshai twb tsis kam tus qub txiv yuav nws dua...ntshe nws tseem npuaj pob tais rau nws tus txiv saib xwb. Tsis tas li ntawd, ntshe nws tseem rov qab los rub child support ntawd tus txiv uas rau tus txiv ua tsis tsheej neeg li
Tus brother, Cas koj lam tuaj txog lub teb chaw Ameslika xwb es koj twb tsis tau pom neeg Ameslika tseeb li. Pab nrog koj tusiab heev uas koj tuaj pom Ameslika lig dhau heev lawm. Txij no lawm tov koj yuav tau mus kom txog Ameslika lub teb chaw nawb. Tom ntej no yog koj tseem tsis kam nce Ameslika lub teb chaw thiab koj kawg rov tsuj tib tug qub hneev taws. Pab koj khuv xim koj tus niam tsev kawg nkau, tiam sis yog tim koj 70% ho tim nws 30% xwb.
Koj yaj neej neeg no zoo nug kawg ua lis ntawv koj puas laib tu txiv tsev tus xov tooj koj muab xa rau kuv seb ca nw hai tau tus siab ua luaj
Men, women just want love and attention from you. We communicate differently to our needs. Pay attention to her and yes, do all the things that makes her feel loved, it’s all the little things for us. It’s true that she didn’t communicate her needs to you because you can’t read her mind. Just communicate that’s all it is.
tus txiv tsev ntawm zaj no yog tseem tsis kam faus nws tus poj niam thiab ces yuav npam nws ntag mas vim cov txiv tsev ruam tsis paub poj niam txoj kev ntshaws tiam no yus twb qhia rau nws tias kuv xav kom koj hlub kuv li no rau nws tag los nws yeej tsis quav ntsej li ces kawg mus rau tus sab tov xwb tus niam tsev no tsis yog liam nawb vim nws pom luag tsis ua li yus na cas yus niag yeej hlub yus mas tab sis hlub qhov ruam ruam xwb tsis kaj siab na yog nws tsis ua txhua yam kev hlub rau yus tus niam nkauj txhav qaib yus tus niam nkauj txhav qaib tuag lawm yus hos mus yuav dua lwm tus los yus hos ua txhua yam rau tus tshiab ces yuav npam yus thiab nawb vim yus tsis nco poj niam txiaj ntsim na cov txiv tsev ruam li tus no tseem muaj coob heev nawb
Many txiv tsev nowadays wants their niam tsev to be a "maum dev" in bed and learn all these sexy positions and still know how to be a good cook in the kitchen, so it's vice versa as well for a lot of the niam tsev... they want the husbands to spoil them with love and romantic gift gestures as well... we all need to learn how to love outside of our comfort zone for our spouse's sake no matter what age you are...
The flowers, birthday cards, and gifts does have meanings. It may not mean anything to others but it does having meanings to others. It’s the thought that counts. Not a lot of Hmong men would do this, I applaud you for being a wonderful dad to your kids and the favor for your wife.
This story is so sad. Your wife was a good person and take care of your kids and your parents. She never got to do anything for herself. She does deserve to be love that’s why she fall in love with the other guy. Thank you for bringing her back at the end. She deserves that.
If it was a guy you would not be saying this...
I agree!
@@ChewyVangPYSH not true. Men or women both deserve love. But this story I believe she was a good person just made a mistake by cheating because she wanted love.
@@staceymoua1332 I thought cheating was never an excuse!!! Leave before you do it. There’s reason why people defend people like that
Niag poj niam liam poj niam xuab xum muab lub paj coj los pauv lub neej yog ib tug neeg xav ua neej tiag yeej tsis xum xaiv lub paj
What about all the man who deserted their children for their own pleasure and selfishness? Women are human too. They have felling and desires to.
That rose is just an excuse to cheat and get out of the marriage. If she had told him once before then I would think twice. In this case not
😭😭😭
You will get good karma for loving your wife again
You sound like a controlling man typical like the OG generation. You try to twist the story to make it like it's your wife's fault. You control her all her life by being a good wife to you, not letting her be independent by staying home and raising your children and taking care of your parents. You are so wrong to do that to your wife. You never gave her the opportunity to live life to make her happy too. You are so at fault that she turned the way she did. Because you buried her you want to make yourself a hero but truly you owed her more than that.
Yeej yog li koj hais tos nws yuam kev los twb yog nej cov txiv neej npab nauj dhau.
Tej tus puj niam kuj tsi ntshaw luv paj. Ib txhia ntshaw2 lub paj ib xyoo ib zaug nawb mog cov txiv neej npab nauj aw...
I’m so proud that you were courageous to break the traditions and did what’s was best for your kids and you. You’re an awesome role model for many Hmong men out there. After all, despite of good and bad health, your kids will always be there for you no matter what. These extended family members choose whenever they want to help out. Most Hmong men have high egos and are stubborn and hard headed to change.
In a relationship, both husbands and wives crave for the same thing; love and affectionate; something small like a call to say I love ❤️ you , a kiss on the cheek, how was your day? a helping hand with cooking or washing dishes. It’s these small things that touch and melt us women’s hearts. Men forget we, women have needs. Just because we don’t ask for it, men should ignore the intimate feelings. This result in the marriage of falling apart, crying out for desperation and infidelities.
Nyob laug tag li ko lawm yog g nrog yus nyob ces ua tsaug ntau ntau rau xwb yog mus lawm mas cov laus tias tua qaib ntim su xwb yus mas tua npua ntim su ntag hos Yawg
You did the right thing. Forgiveness is a form of love. There are a lot of Hmong people with small hearts. Plus they always say if it was them they would never do what you did...until it is them and they do the exact same thing.🤦♂️ Always do what best for you don't worry about what others think of you.
Yawg ruam aw ruam kav tsij pam niag poj liab ov
koj ce to koj niag poj niam thuam koj tia koj ruam no koj yeej ruam tiag2 thiab tsi tag thiab tsi tag li ntawd lo tej zaum thaum uab ntshai koj yeej muaj kev npam kev khaum rau koj niag poj niam ko lawm thiab es nw twb khiav ntawd koj mu tham dua lawm tu hlua nraug lawm lo koj tseem mu coj rov qab lo ua nw lub ntee li nw tseem yog koj tu poj niam thiab qhov no n tsi nw npam tu neeg muaj txoj kev npam ntawd nw yog koj nawj.
Niam ntsuab teev tus txiv tsev zaj neej neeg koj hais no mas yog ib zaj raug rau qee leej neeg kawg li os hais tau zoo kawg ua tsaug rau koj tus hais
You’re such a great man and did the right thing! I’m glad you did it for your kids.
Koj ces tseem ruam tshaj tus maum dev thawj thiab ko lawm thiab. Tseem rov coj xob txhiaj los tsev dua mas ntshe koj thiab koj cov minyuam yuav us ib lub neej xyai lau thaub hlwb rwj...
Your wife was dumb and naive. Wow what a wonderful man! You do what's right for you and your family. Now that's true love. The love your wife was looking for. Thank you for being an example for all Hmong men.
Hais rau nej cov txiv tsev paub tias
Nruab hnub peb xav tau ib tug txiv tsev
Hmo ntuj peb xav kom nej ua ib tug txiv dev.
Hais txog txoj kev hlub saum lub txaj lub chaw
Poj niam tsis hais tab sis yog tus txiv muab tsis tau ces kawg nrhiav tus tshiab li nej cov txiv neejj thiab xwb.
Lub neej zov menyuam
This is when people are in denial and refuse to learn and change, like this guy. He thinks he got her young and naive so he will just cage and control her.
I would leave, too. He slaved her her whole marriage life and in the end all he saw in her was just an animal that he fed that he could kill at any minute, if she rebel.
Even it’s only 1 year of living after she escaped, it’s a year of freedom, a year to be a human, a year to be herself. Even if she only found love for a short time, it’s probably worth the run for freedom from slavery. She’s freed at last!👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Just a funeral for her death ain’t do any justice for all the decades that he slaved her, ain’t making him the hero. She’s dead.
I'd she did not die, he would not have guilt n realized that he should of just got her flowers w out ger having to ask for it...so sad
Hmoob men like him, won’t realize. He has not realized, he still think he put a funeral show in the sake of the children and now is a hero.
Cas peb cov og no pheej tseem old fashion ua luaj li
Koj ua yog lawm vim koj tus poj niam twb los pab tu koj niam thiab txiv tuag taag lawm...ces koj yeej tsuav nws nqe.
1 tsoom Moob suav dlawg kuv ntseeg tas peb yog 1 haiv neeg kws muaj kev hlub zoo tab sis yog rua saab tub xwb, tug txiv tsev nuav nwg ua tau kuv ntseeg tas txhua tug yeej ua tau. Kuv tsi tau kom peb moog coj cov quas puj lam2 rov lug thaa, tab sis yog peb tug ntxhais lawm tsim nyog peb yuav tsum hlub hab ua tau os Moob aw.