Positive & Practical Islamic Parenting | Sr. Hina Khan-Mukhtar

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  • Based on her popular 1997 parenting article "Raising Children with Deen and Dunya," Hina Khan-Mukhtar gives spiritual and practical insights road-mapping ten ingredients to raise God-conscious children in the West:
    1.) Dua, Dua, Dua
    2.) Suhba (companionship) will make you or break you.
    3.) The Prophet (salallaahu alaihi wasallam) was a living, breathing reality in our lives.
    4.) Having fun wasn’t “haraam” in our home, but we kept the home environment as pure as possible.
    5.) Our parents didn’t just “talk the talk”, they “walked the walk”.
    6.) I wasn’t afraid to be the Bad Guy, but I never behaved badly.
    7.) I always kept them close by.
    9.) Talk to your kids…with love.
    8.) We didn’t spoil our kids nor did we praise them too much.
    10.) They had a pious father who engaged them.
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    Sr. Hina delivered this seminar on May 7, 2016 at Institute of Knowledge in Diamond Bar, California. This talk was delivered via the Muslim Community Center - East Bay (MCC East Bay) in Pleasanton, California.
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    Hina Khan-Mukhtar is a married mother of three young men and one of the founders of the homeschooling co-operative known as ILM Tree in Lafayette, California, which now serves over 35 homeschooling families in the East Bay. In addition to teaching Language Arts to elementary, middle, and high school students, she is also involved in interfaith dialogue. Hina was a monthly contributor to The Muslim Observer’s “Raising Our Ummah” column. She also writes for Seeker’s Guidance, where she shares parenting advice and ideas for nurturing spiritual traditions in childhood. Learn more about her at hinakm.com
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  • @queenslove92
    @queenslove92 ปีที่แล้ว +35

    Forget TED talks this was GOLD.

  • @RIMJANESSOHMALOOG
    @RIMJANESSOHMALOOG ปีที่แล้ว +31

    when I was 10, I started to pray at masjid, although my parents are not religious. I think my teachers had a part in this, but not all kids in my situation were interested in deen. I was drawn towards truth and to being good. There's qadr of course

  • @halim2788
    @halim2788 4 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Amazing lecture, I have learned so much from this video.
    My Allah blesses her.

  • @farwinarshad388
    @farwinarshad388 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +41

    1) dua..
    2) Comapanionship
    3) Talk about prophet muhammad
    4)Having fun( keeping the environment as pure as possible
    & The media how to handle )
    5)Practiced with preached (islamic principles )
    6)Friendly with children
    7)Keep the kids close to u .
    8)Do not praise too much
    9)Talk to kids with love
    10) engage the children( pious father )

  • @febfabulous9391
    @febfabulous9391 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +6

    I actually listened to this whole presentation and I cannot thank you enough. You've touched on the most pertinent points. Can you please highlight in the comments the 10 points. Dua etc etc

  • @hanansheriff8308
    @hanansheriff8308 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Hold on to your kids why parents need to matter more than peers

  • @febfabulous9391
    @febfabulous9391 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    A story in suratul Kahf speaks about a boy whose father was pious, so yes the true piety of parents has surely a positive impact on children

  • @mohamedsh9435
    @mohamedsh9435 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Masha Allaah Sister, jasaaka Allaah khayr. I benefit a lot of dua which I don't do when I'm praying my children.
    Thanks

  • @njendu616
    @njendu616 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Ma sha Allah ❤

  • @VOUSTUBER
    @VOUSTUBER ปีที่แล้ว +8

    I watched the weird stuff as a child...the days of VHS tapes. It was summer time in the 80's. It was group of us teenagers. Somebody in our group had a big brother and got the tapes and we would watch them in the day time when our parents were out to work. Fortunately for us it was mostly curiosity and nobody in our group acted out with each other and the group was mostly boys and a few girls. Thank Allah my curiosity was met during that summer and I never had a desire to consume more of those types of films later. I had a conservative nature and really thought those videos were very vulgar...I thank Allah for his protection during those years. I wasn't a Muslim during those years.

  • @safdarali7019
    @safdarali7019 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Great speech
    Masha Allah
    🤲🏼🤲🏼🤲🏼
    Keep doing this SADQA JARIA

    • @wellborn5200
      @wellborn5200 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Sadaqathun jari'a

  • @febfabulous9391
    @febfabulous9391 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    SubhanALLAH! I will try and rmbr the 3 parenting ways I'm the word APA = Authoritarian Permissive Authoritative

  • @longloismariam7767
    @longloismariam7767 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Mashaallah Allah bless you . Plz share this incredible video

  • @drgasbashir7817
    @drgasbashir7817 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I thought that I can't have practicing family in western but after this video, I think it's possible and depends on your approach in shaAlh

  • @azeezatadigun7171
    @azeezatadigun7171 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Masha Allah. Thanks 😊

  • @rashdakhanam8763
    @rashdakhanam8763 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Maa shaa Allah, excellent tips.

  • @shrkn1105
    @shrkn1105 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Really helpful video. May allah bless you for this.

  • @bozenagaek2264
    @bozenagaek2264 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    MASHA ALLAH

  • @Amish07
    @Amish07 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    maa sha Allah tabarakallah❤

  • @maalimmaanur1993
    @maalimmaanur1993 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Thankiyufrmac

  • @HaseDin-o4j
    @HaseDin-o4j 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤HASE❤DIN❤ok

  • @HaseDin-o4j
    @HaseDin-o4j 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤hi

  • @khaledfateh5487
    @khaledfateh5487 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    اللة اكبر اللة اكبر اللة اكبر يااااااااااااااااارب كتر من أمثالها آمين يارب العالمين ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @malaqutub5499
    @malaqutub5499 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Can someone please write the parenting book she mentioned

    • @MCCEastBay
      @MCCEastBay  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      “Hold On to Your Kids” by Gabor Mate

  • @susi-ch
    @susi-ch 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    There are good advices. But some are not advices, but personal experiences. So you dont have to take all the advices, make your own based on your family and your deen of course. This has to be clear.

  • @mehrunisa9241
    @mehrunisa9241 ปีที่แล้ว

    Book name?

    • @MCCEastBay
      @MCCEastBay  9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      “Hold On to Your Kids” by Gabor Mate

  • @megnelli
    @megnelli ปีที่แล้ว +127

    I decided to re-parent myself as an adult starting in my late 20s after much struggle growing up. This is helping me tremendously to understand how to provide myself with an upbringing I needed. Thank you.

    • @Amy623
      @Amy623 ปีที่แล้ว +6

      Masha'Allah! I feel exactly the same. Alhamdulillah

    • @jessicaelkins2192
      @jessicaelkins2192 ปีที่แล้ว +2

      Mashallah! How did you go about this? I’m interested for myself.

    • @queencess93
      @queencess93 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Same situation and same goals! We got this Insha’Allah

    • @tayyebafaisal296
      @tayyebafaisal296 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    • @МагомедовМагомед-е6л
      @МагомедовМагомед-е6л 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ✊🏿✊🏻✊🏼

  • @meeraalgheryani3345
    @meeraalgheryani3345 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +14

    Incredible lecture, HIGHLY recommend

  • @aytoz4232
    @aytoz4232 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +10

    When I looked at her, I thought she was a young girl, but when she said my first child was born in 1997, I was shocked. Allahuma barik her age .

    • @DHEXDHEXADIYE
      @DHEXDHEXADIYE 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Say acuudu bilaahi minishaydaani rajiim

  • @khalaydaaziz864
    @khalaydaaziz864 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +12

    Assalaamoalikum i am from trinidad i have four kids n all practise their islam from an early age like yor friend son n all marry to muslim n practising muslim family alhumdulillah our second house is our masjid n our kids grow up their also alhumdulillah jus sharing

  • @shaziarizwan4277
    @shaziarizwan4277 ปีที่แล้ว +12

    JazakAllahu khairan kaseeran! I wanted to express my sincere gratitude to you.
    Rehmas, Barakah, and Fazal from Allah be upon you and your family for your efforts to uphold this lovely Islamic lecture! Ameen

  • @adzzed6422
    @adzzed6422 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    Salaam sister, you are truly an inspiration to muslima sisters, wives, grandmothers and etc. Culture is still a dominant influence in so many western Islamic societies perhaps 🤔 you can research and share your 💭 thoughts. (My bad if I haven’t seen it yet). You also touched on the subject of “family bond” In my opinion this implemented the core family values for which all parents (not only Muslim) should adopt. Thank you for such a thought provoking seminar and please forgive me if my words have offended anyone. Blessings Z

  • @tibzig1
    @tibzig1 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +5

    Our maulvi saheb in Pakistan would come to the house on Honda 175 cc (Bright blood red) to teach us three brothers the Quran. I was 13, the 2nd one was 11 and the youngest 9. Our maulvi was about 40 ish but a very jolly and talkative fellow. This was the mid 1970s and telephones were an elitist luxury in Pakistan, and we had one! Thus, the following arrangement emerged. Two of the younger ones would recite and learn the Quran while I would take off on maulvi saheb's Honda around the block for a few rounds. He had initially taught me the basics of riding the bike. Maulvi saheb would teach the Quran and use the telephone while I would make a few quick passes and return to finish up my lesson. We all finished our Quran and eventually all also learned to ride that bike! Wonderful memories!

  • @abdessalambenbushayb
    @abdessalambenbushayb ปีที่แล้ว +7

    Awesome. Thank you for sharing. May Allah bless you and your family. Please, keep more like this coming. I shared this video with several Muslim friends. May Allah reward you.

  • @hanoosh1100
    @hanoosh1100 ปีที่แล้ว +9

    What a fantastic lecture, jazzak Allah kola khyr ❤

  • @kubrasth2760
    @kubrasth2760 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +8

    Such an inspirational talk! It also gave me a lot of anxiety as a mother of a 4 year old boy. I’m aware of the struggle raising a child in non-muslim community but the stories about the kids whose environment not controlled well and turn out to unfixable problems is very scary. May Allah guide us to the righteous path and help us maintain.

  • @locosmiley2008
    @locosmiley2008 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +7

    This woman is a gem

  • @momof3boyz
    @momof3boyz ปีที่แล้ว +5

    Excellent talk! JazakiAllah khair. I'm halfway through just wanted to mention instead of saying, "they do weird things." I'd rather say inappropriate, disrespectful, or harmful.

  • @abaeem1694
    @abaeem1694 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +20

    May Allah reward you for this wonderful gesture and efforts and May Allah guide the rest of us to the right path. Ameen

    • @mosaviola1178
      @mosaviola1178 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

      Aameen Yaa ALLAH

  • @Amro-elbosaty
    @Amro-elbosaty 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    @29:15 - Tip 4 Having fun wasn’t “haraam” in our home, but we kept the home environment as pure as possible.

  • @amominflorida
    @amominflorida 6 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    I'm so glad I came back to this talk. ❤

  • @mrsme2859
    @mrsme2859 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    May Allah reward you sister that was packed with practical and applicable lessons. Very up to date. Every parent should listen to this.

  • @skmehetabahamed5194
    @skmehetabahamed5194 26 วันที่ผ่านมา +2

    Love from India❤

  • @mdjanina8308
    @mdjanina8308 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Asslamualikum amazing subhanalla alhamdulilha ameen keep it up for intaire world 🌎 🙏 ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @sayedpritom
    @sayedpritom 11 หลายเดือนก่อน +4

    Thank you. May Allah reward you for the good work 😊

  • @abdullaha4686
    @abdullaha4686 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Well detailed explanation thank you sister

  • @imim9955
    @imim9955 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Mashallah the best lecture ever!

  • @mohammadabu5061
    @mohammadabu5061 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    alhamdulillah great, Allah huakbar from Bangladesh mujahid salafi manhaj Cumilla Victorians brand

  • @tyncha1
    @tyncha1 6 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    May Allah help the Family who struggles with the addiction, I imagined the pain and cried. never thought that pornography could affect that much , thank you for sharing with us the information and stories.

  • @YushauIbrahimYakubu
    @YushauIbrahimYakubu 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    You Impressive me

  • @MohemmadUmar
    @MohemmadUmar หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Bareedduudha

  • @missiborauna
    @missiborauna 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I was not prepared to find a reference to 'Hold on to your kids' in this talk. It is a wonderful book and an eye opener.

  • @shimmeringsunshine4312
    @shimmeringsunshine4312 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    I’m so happy i came across this vedio. Jazakallahu khair sister for doing the hardwork for gathering so many examples for us. May Allah reward you immensely and bless you and your family with righteousness and guidance forever.

  • @coneemathew9786
    @coneemathew9786 ปีที่แล้ว +4

    Salaam. Great job sister

  • @thinkactwisely1618
    @thinkactwisely1618 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    Jazakallah sister very good advises

  • @febfabulous9391
    @febfabulous9391 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Beautiful prophetic dua is regarding friendship. اللهم اني اعوذ بك من خليل ماكر عيناه ترياني و قلبه يرعاني and I think that's beautiful. Please translate it for your followers shukran

  • @saadamwasi
    @saadamwasi 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    true practising make perectt hence we need to take care and make a routine to our kids to practise all these

  • @NyowinNyowin-q7p
    @NyowinNyowin-q7p 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    VERY HIGH CREDID LECTURE
    ###LIKE FOR RECMMEND

  • @naumanmustafa7728
    @naumanmustafa7728 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Masha Allah, very inspiring talk
    We Muslims usually are ignorant the factual life, and donor get educated, its right time to start now

  • @DofirObalobal
    @DofirObalobal 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Mantap

  • @abahruslan937
    @abahruslan937 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Assalamualaikum war wab,is good

  • @NamatovuAsia-k8h
    @NamatovuAsia-k8h 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    MashaAllah 👌 ❤

  • @mohammadkamal9795
    @mohammadkamal9795 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    You are very high educated person and you have well knowledge of islaam

  • @sarkaraltaf5457
    @sarkaraltaf5457 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Congratulations 🇧🇩🌺💐

  • @LetsSeeAfghanistan
    @LetsSeeAfghanistan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    May Allah give me such a spouse like you ❤

  • @jcfnurkamal5259
    @jcfnurkamal5259 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Mashaallah excellent job❤❤❤

  • @birjeesshamim8602
    @birjeesshamim8602 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Excellent lecture
    Very beneficial
    Jazakallahukhairan kaseeran kaseera

  • @nazirsarker890
    @nazirsarker890 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Alhamdulillah good

  • @saimatx
    @saimatx ปีที่แล้ว +4

    JazakAllah khair ❣️

    • @birjeesshamim8602
      @birjeesshamim8602 ปีที่แล้ว +3

      Jazakallahukhairan kaseeran kaseeran
      Excellent lecture, very beneficial for all of us Insha Allah

  • @zahraibrahim3351
    @zahraibrahim3351 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Mashallah ,Excellent lecture. Thanks for posting it again

  • @FoziyaMustefa
    @FoziyaMustefa 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    MashaALLAH thanks

  • @shaistahussaini6580
    @shaistahussaini6580 ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Jazak Allah khair for such a valuable input

  • @PeymanSultan-wn6iw
    @PeymanSultan-wn6iw 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Masha Allah

  • @MZLifestyle665
    @MZLifestyle665 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    JazakAllah ♥️

  • @bozenagaek2264
    @bozenagaek2264 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    MASHA ALLAH ❤️

  • @floyddboss3862
    @floyddboss3862 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    Really great advice ❤

  • @abahruslan937
    @abahruslan937 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    ❤❤❤

  • @sGaming_EDITZ
    @sGaming_EDITZ 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hadith book
    📕
    Shamail characteristics of the prophets

  • @corazondimasangcay8723
    @corazondimasangcay8723 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    salam po ustad I hear your discussion is good for children get learning about the Quraan.alhamdulilah.

  • @МагомедовМагомед-е6л
    @МагомедовМагомед-е6л 9 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    🦅
    ✊🏼✊🏻✊🏿

  • @SearomJung
    @SearomJung ปีที่แล้ว +2

    Thankyou ❤

  • @hasaneurope4603
    @hasaneurope4603 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +2

    💚💚💚💚

  • @khanofcaledonia6413
    @khanofcaledonia6413 ปีที่แล้ว +1

    Parenting in the west by Mohammed Bashir..

  • @shamaelasosan
    @shamaelasosan 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    The Life of perfection

  • @discoveringclouds6198
    @discoveringclouds6198 7 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    Well said

  • @febfabulous9391
    @febfabulous9391 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +3

    I would like to add another special Quranic Dua in chapter 46 verse 15 for all parents رب أوزعني ان اشكر نعمتك......

  • @GulPana-z7q
    @GulPana-z7q 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Very nice my friend to the Muslim people to my house wife is best wife ok❤

  • @hockeysquad3468
    @hockeysquad3468 8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

    selam alkem can you link the book ? or a picture of the book

    • @MCCEastBay
      @MCCEastBay  8 หลายเดือนก่อน +1

      Hold On to Your Kids: Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers a.co/d/2R3XvpR