Laura: Ex-Porn Performer || Consider Before Consuming Podcast
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- Trigger Warning: This discussion includes frank, explicit, discussions about pornographic content, suicide ideation, and abuse that may be triggering to some. Listener discretion is advised.
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Laura grew up in a small town in Pennsylvania but had a challenging childhood. She experienced childhood neglect, and from a young age, porn was normalized in her life.
Her warped understanding of love led her to seek out validation from men, which eventually led to her working in the porn industry.
During this conversation, podcast host Garrett Jonsson talked with her about her misconceptions about the porn industry, how her time in the porn industry negatively impacted her, and what she’s up to today since leaving porn.
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Laura seems like such a wonderful person. I hope she finds peace, and settles down to a long fruitful life.
I spent over 25 years editing adult films. I've seen girls like this go through the 'system' and its really awesome to hear a good story!
Would you be interested in speaking with someone at Fight The New Drug about your experiences?
Would be awesome to hear your story on their show. :)
Give yourself a upper cut mate 😂
Yes please go on the show
@@FightTheNewDrug👌👌amazing efforts by fight the new drug team..
Can someome please tell, Is there a video recorded version of this audio podcast?
Please guys, if possible for u, make a "video" podcast , bcos many peple (including me), understand things in a better way & with much better focus & retension time in a particular video , when we see things visually.. thank you again..🙏
Please keep these videos coming......they destroy the fantasy of porn!........ TRUTH
If a person is not mentally stable then their participation with the porn industry is not informed consent, Anyone who has been involved in porn should have a right to revoke their material at anytime. No corporation should have forever rights to someone's explicit material, that is slavery not freedom.
I would say that nobody in porn is right on their minds. Are we gonna say that nymphomanism isn't a thing? Is that normal that a girl enjoys being ravaged by 15 dudes in a gangbang or even DP's? Hardcore BDSM's? Or even saying that they aren't bissexual at the very least if they do same sex scenes? A lot of stuff in porn is straight out parafilia realm. These epople are addicte to sex in a very unwealthy way. No wonder that majority of them come from screwed familiar backgrounds.
there are no mentally stable people among p0rn performers, in most cases they come into the business with huge ''baggage'' starting from the early age... it can be prolonged exposure to p0rn, broken families, abusive relationships, drugs, whatever... you can't open your mouth and swallow urine from multiple d((cks excuse me on camera if you are stable.
Thank you, FTND, for producing these podcasts for all of us who struggle! You have helped educate and inspire us to keep fighting! Keep doing what you do!
when I was about 3 or 4 years old we had a box full of vcr tapes, I would always go thru the box and see what each movie was and some were unlabeled. I once put in one that was a porn and when I saw what was happening I immediately started crying and feeling very very disgusted. I ran to my older brother and said I saw butts 😢 he knew exactly what it was and he smashed the tape in front of me and got pissed at my dad cuz it was obviously his. since then I choose to keep my mind as pure as possible, I recently deleted my Instagram too because I’m convinced that they are slowly starting to normalize pornography/ the sexualization of things and I don’t want to be exposed to any of it. Just doesn’t feel right in my spirit. praise Jesus everyday for keeping me pure
Hope you are able to distinguish sexuality from the other aspects you fear
It feels to me that your rigid religious upbringing has caused you to overreact to the thought of your sexuality. Sure, the VCR tape is a valid reaction, but you sound like you have gone on to reject your sexuality completely. This is normal for those raised in the extreme religiosity of an evangelical home. For your own sake you need to break from this rigid religious world.
Yea I don't have my own Facebook and Instagram. Over it.
I've just come across this TH-cam channel. There's a healing quality hearing real life stories.
@@tonycook7679 I think you are assuming way to much about her. Her experience is valid she was child and seen porn… purity has nothing to do with denying sexuality
I was made to sit down and watch porn with my step dad when i was 13.
Real gross stuff. Freaks of nature stuff.
This led on to him coming into the bathroom and perving on me in the shower and many other things.
I was and still am just as disgusted believe me.
And i had no religion in my upbringing just fyi.
I'm so glad comments are open right now!
These podcasts and other media from ftnd means so much to me! I am a post addict to porn. It destroyed me, it lead me so close to suicide. I have such a powerful story that brought me to where I am. I'm so extremely thankful for you guys
I’m so glad you are better
all the Blessings from heaven to all the fighters . Winning thr battle shoulf be our goal
Now, spread the information and help others break free of that trash industry.
@@DX-d I couldn’t get myself to stop using it. I hated how it made me felt but I couldn’t leave it alone. I just got more angry with myself and more distant from what I wanted to be. I didn’t see the point in living anymore because I thought so low of myself and because life was so painful. Part of that shame was from my religious beliefs. But a lot of it was from the knowledge of what is behind porn itself. I couldn’t stand the thought of myself feeding that industry. I also felt like fighting it didn’t make a difference. Because of it I didn’t see a future. So I had no reason to keep going.
@@hogibunz834May I ask you a question? It's not about anything personal, it's about your opinion on something.
Appreciate the conversations that are happening here. I struggled with porn for decades and have recently found a way to let it go. Life is so much better without it.
Way to go ! It is so profoundly damaging. I'm so happy for you because you have let it go. Never go back !
Thank You. Very powerful and eyes opening.
Coercion is not limited to threat. It is also under the guise of manipulated means under the pretense of one reasoning that is known, yet is set in motion for something completely different and unknown to the person being manipulated.
@EeliusAstaroth Wow. Thank you.
Porn completely ruined my life I've been trying to quit but keep relapsing hope to god I can give it up for good it's not right
Yup, I am familiar with what you're going through. Praying for you!
Remember, you can’t usually quit something unless you “replace” the addiction with something else. Try a hobby, a sport, a religion, anytime you want to look at porn, tell yourself NO and than go spend time doing your hobby or other healthy activity.
Stay strong, bud. 🙏🏻💪🏻
Stay strong man💪
stop buying that crap.
These are sick times.
By comparison to when ? Looking back I see slavery, world wars in which millions were killed, exploited, and raped. You have the Holocaust, genocides, and etc. In the dark ages torture was a common thing for even the smallest offenses. So I say again.. these are sick times compared to when ?
The devil is looking for more souls to take to hell...may the Lord help us
I think the worst response to me telling people about this is “well that’s that person’s experience” 😑 no it’s the majority.
I'm so thankful for your channel! Thank you for your work, and if you need volunteers to help, I'd be happy to join you.
How can a man stop watching porn for good?
Pennsylvania, that's my state! PA Gang, what up!
I have been on the verge of tears because of some of the porn I've been exposed to and I know what I viewed was relatively 'mild' compared to what is out there.
@devonrexcatz on the verge of tears? I know some of it is gross but don't you think you are exaggerating.
@@mnkwazi Exaggerating? It's disgusting. Porn is damaging society, families, and hearts. No she is not exaggerating.
You are probably a man, so you can't relate to women feeling vulnerable and more in danger💀💔
You have a beautiful innocent mind clearly ❤
@@kannot1 yep like when men watch ("have been exposed to") action or war movies and feel vulnerable and in danger
It's sad that so many of these women legit don't realize they were targeted and coerced. Blows my mind, actually. But frfr, the stats on how long it takes these women to get some measure of clarity after leaving the industry are wild...like 7 years or more with intensive therapy. Most of them I've listened to so far on this channel aren't there. I hope they get there someday. Breaks my heart to hear the numb dissociation and lack of true awareness. Best wishes to this young lady in her healing journey. I hope she gets some real help.
Thanks for sharing and supporting the movement!
-FTND
Anxiety, depression, and dysfunctional families are far too common today. It seems like our country is spiraling out of control. We really need to return to strong family values, focus on raising our children, and showering them with love and attention. The fact that parents today are focused on finances, a direct result of the dollar constantly being devalued by terrible leaders and bureaucrats, results in ignoring children. My dad bought a new car for $500 and his 2500 sq ft house in the burbs for $25k in the 60s. Try doing that today!
People don't have to have kids. Maybe they shouldn't consider it. Especially if they are just doing so to check off a socially conditioned box and aren't genuinely interested in making and developing a nurtured well adjusted human that has to exist in the world. Or if they don't make six figures and have the capacity to do so independent of one specific job. Humans are overpopulated as it is, it's totally fine to sit that one out if you aren't completely cut out for the job and daily investment and EQ required.
I've reached a point where I have blunted sexual desire and the complete shutdown of my mind
Porn has burnt out your dopamine reward system. In a way, that's a blessing because it makes it easier to go cold turkey and quit porn for good. On the other hand, it makes you feel like less of a man, so you will keep wanting to go back to see if you can get that feeling of arousal again. All I can say is, resist that urge. The more times you go back, the less you can recover. If you go full monk mode for a year or two, your body can restore itself. Physically that is. Mentally, you will always be vulnerable to porn. You have to keep it out of your life at all costs. If you go back, it will reel you back in. Find other interests to rebuild your dopamine reward system. Good luck, man.
👌👌amazing efforts by fight the new drug team..
Can someome please tell, Is there a video recorded version of this audio podcast?
Please guys, if possible for u, make a "video" podcast , bcos many peple (including me), understand things in a better way & with much better focus & retension time in a particular video , when we see things visually.. thank you again..🙏
When she was talking about her childhood it felt like she was describing mine, except my parents got divorced when i was in elementary school and my step dad turned out to be a p*do. But even when she was talking about school, i had the same experience. No relationship with dad, tried to look for male affection in my peers, relationships fizzled out once they realized i wasnted to wait til marriage to have sex. How crazy, the only difference is i started dating my then boyfriend once i turned 18 who is now my husband of 11 years who probably saved me from going down a similar path or something equally as destructive.
I’m so proud of these men and women talking about the truth. It’s so sad and so creepy that 25 is too old in porn is beyond gross!!!
I think it's almost the same that happens with prostitutes in brothels.
Generally, they are considered too old when they're 30.
These are businesses that mostly exploit very young women/men.
That's so sad but true.
@@ramone2720 it’s beyond gross and sad. Especially because I’m sure the majority of the customer base is 40 years +
@@alessandrajackson3768 Yes, you're right.
Too old for who? Isn't Steve Holmes 61, doing chicks that are 18/19?
@@alessandrajackson3768 a lot of the men in porno are 40+
What was the name of the book or author, when he talks about the importance of being authentic?
Thanks for the work
Thanks for the interview, but the host was talking too low compared to the guest. Constantly had to adjust the volume.
I hate when it's like that.
I (female) was exposed to pornography at a very early age. being a curious child, as soon as I had unsupervised internet access I started to seek out that kind of content to contextualise what I had seen when I was younger. It definitely warped my understanding of sexuality and intimacy in ways I'm only just realising now (20+ years on).
I agree with the host that the effects of pornography do not discriminate and I am grateful for this channel and its resources. They are helping me unpick how that young exposure fuelled some of my dysfunctional behaviour as I got older.
Thanks everyone at FTND❤
Hey comments are open.
Please what was that melody 🎶 playing in the first minute of this video ??
Thats a lofi remix of “gymnopedie no 1” by Erick satie
I'm surprised comments are being allowed.
why wouldn't they be allowed?
Why's that?
People bend over backwards to reject the Biblical reason to avoid this. You guys / gals try to do everything your own way and then get exposed to the reality of sin. The Bibles commandments are not rules to make life boring or oppressed they are rules to follow to protect us from the evil of this fallen world. God created man and woman. He designed us to fit together in a great way. We abuse that gift and look what happens. Both men and women face the consequences of sin even if you don't want to acknowledge it.
too bad there is horrible corruption and abuse within all religious institutions
@@sweetwater2128 yeah of course there is in false religions as those religions are generally there for selfish desires.
Even those in the truth still have sin but there should be obvious signs of a changed person. It certainly doesn’t help to have scandals from professing Christians.
@@sweetwater2128This is why Jesus never told us to follow religious institutions but to follow HIM!
@@Metal197yep, i always get this ignorant comment when i advocate for Yeshua. Of course religion is corrupt, its made by man, only God is the true way.
17:00-- I admire her for resisting the leading question. And I hope the interviewer works harder on avoiding falling into a pattern that must be too-familiar for the woman he interviews-- a man "encouraging" a woman to go along with his views on sex. I basically agree with him, but I'm not always sure that the women he interviews do.
"he kept on encouraging me, and against my better judgment I created a profile, as I was fearful of losing him" That's coercive!!!!
The people world wide is addicted to it
Hang in there. Sanctification takes time.
Where are the videos to these podcasts?
Probably on their website.
Thank you for your interest in the Consider Before Consuming podcast. While we have produced a few podcasts with videos, most of our podcasts have been audio only.
@@FightTheNewDrug okay thank you, keep up the great work!
vids are easier to watch then audio only. that is one of the reasons people do not even bother with podcasts .
@@BBRAIN1977 But you can play a computer game while you listen. Much more fun that way.
I think we need to stop excusing people who haven't experienced abuse for their lack of understanding/empathy. People need to stop being mentally lazy, read something relevant, and use the imagination God gave them.
Interview with Erika Lust?
Consuming what
I think she talking about onlyfans
@@itslauraleigh that u in video
she needs cats