Violet is a liar and a gas lighter. Watch the series. She blames everyone but doesn’t take ownership of the chaos ahead has created. Props to Christy and Bonnie.
Imma be honest, while I took Don't like violet as a character, she is actually a good representation of children growing up with addict parents. Despite growing with and seeing the negative effects of drugs and alcohol on people, there is a cognitive dissonance that they know it's bad bad but are more likely to repeat the same destructive behavior. Even violet blaming Chrissy for everything, including her own bad decisions is accurate , as the parent become the beacon of blame for everything. There is a lot of fascinating, and sad material on why children of addicts often continue the cycle. Hell, we see it with Christy and Bonnie We follow Chrissy from bad to good and see and understand her position, so we give her more of the benefit of the doubt while cheering her on, but violet will always see the parent that has disappointed her in childhood and becomes the easy target to project everything that is bad is Christy fault. This is something that violet learned growing up, with not taking self accountability ironically because she saw Chrissy never did when violet was a kid. Again, even with the writing kicking in to tilt the reality like the podcast ep, violet is a pretty decent example of a child of an addict repeating the same mistakes.
@sigma1328 This is so accurate, I used to be best friends with someone who had an addict mother and she did a lot of what you mentioned. As a result everyone left her and when I confronted her about it all she did was verbally assault me and the final straw was when she resorted to slapping me when I wouldn't fall for her bs anymore. After that, I told her to her face "Congratulations, you're officially your mother's daughter" and left her. Last thing I ever said to her. Don't know where she is now but I stopped caring
How is a child supposed to be when having to raise an alcoholic parent? The only way for her to learn accountability is from therapy . 😂 people really don’t know how a child shouldn’t have to grow up to raise their parents..
Exactly. She blames Christy for all of her problems, even long after Christy got her life together and started taking care of her, but then wants nothing to do with Christy because she can't blame her bad choices on her anymore. I get that child abuse affects you even as an adult (dealing with that myself) but at some point, you need to start taking it upon yourself to heal and stop blaming your bad choices on your parents. Violet drives me crazy.
Bonnie is 100% right on that because you know what if our lives screw up it's not our Parents fault it's our fault Our parents were only supposed to give us life and what we do with that that's on us. So for anybody who wants to blame their parents for the way their life turned out because of the choices that they made only thing I would have to say is be quiet and suck it up and move on And take accountability for your actions. The only reason why I say that is because my grandmother was an alcoholic my mom was a pill Addict and my younger brother was a drug addict My mom did not blame her mom for her being an addict and my Grandma did not blame anybody else for her being an Alcoholic but my brother he never took accountability for his actions he blamed everybody else for his actions. And it always made me angry that he did that. Unfortunately I lost my mom and my little brother because of their addictions but thankfully my Grandma overcame hers And I got to have 10 wonderful years of her being Sober until she passed away last year.
Long ago, I was living in Jefferson City. I moved in with my sister who was also in AA (I was in NA) . At times, I had to react towards my nephews the same way Bonnie reacts with Violet in order for them to understand, and btw it's not fun. It's actually heartbreaking to give a tween or teen that explosive "wake up" talking to, or take the heat from the passive aggressive second wife. My sister and I were in the same boat as Bonnie and Christy for 6 years. That's why I love this show so much. And I'm proud to say that we're both sober!
That's wonderful! Great for both of you! And don't worry about your nieces, that advice is hard to give but it does help in the long run. I give myself talks like that all the time
So what is your relationship like with your nephews and your sister's relationship with cuz it seems to me like they have a right to be angry with her. But you and to some degree, your wife going off on them aint helping.
@BIGEAGLEDUDE My nephews have no discipline, no respect, nor a proper father figure. At the time, my sister didn't want to say anything to her kids because she was thinking the boys would hate her (basically wondering if I could talk to them for her). I was more independent but still going to NA while my sister was in AA but she wasn't improving. But the boys would bite, kick, and punch her. With how her children behaved, I did what my sister wasn't doing. Establishing boundaries and rules. Sometimes I had to raise my voice so they actually listened. Like I said, it's heartbreaking having to do that. But I did it for my sister since she was terrified of her own children.
Kids always blame their parents for every problem they caused in their lives. But they are responsible for their own choices when they grow up not their parentss
Had the show continued and had Christy not left the series, I can imagine that there would’ve been a storyline where Christy gets a job as a lawyer and her own place and finally has a stable life. Eventually, Violet comes back into her life as if she wants to reconcile but it turns out that she’s in legal trouble and just wants Christy to bail her out again. Christy would be torn between helping her or staying out of it because she feels if she does help, Violet will never learn from her mistakes. Bonnie manages to get through to Violet and she finally decides to take responsibility.
More grandmothers should feel free to be like that. I have neighbours with a grandson who sounds much the same. He comes over every now and then and just dumps himself for an indefinite period of time.
Y'ALL KNOW MISS BONNIE PLUNKETT DON'T PLAYYYYYYY😭😭😭😭🤚🏿I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS PART FOREVERRRRRR AHHAHAHHHHHAHAHAHAH I'M CRACKING UP RIGHT NOWWWW😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 WHY IS BONNIE SO FUNNYYYYYYY I CAN’T BREATHE 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿😭😭😭😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😂😭😂😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂0:23 (0:35 when she said “SHUT UP!” like that) my girl allison janney is so funny hahahahhhh😂😂😂😂😂😂 it was about time Bonnie held Violet accountable for her behavior along with Christy doing that 😂 Christy isn’t the only one
as much as I disliked violets character and how she was written, the show missed an opportunity to deal with her postpartum. Sure they mentioned that she felt guilty over giving her baby up for adoption but some of the ways she acted could have been a symptom of postpartum depression. I think having her character put into therapy would have addressed a lot of her issues and anger towards Christy.
Mom rage is bad. But when you screw up so much GRANDMA is pissed at you, you better be a fast runner cause she's coming for ya and she ain't stopping
Violet is a liar and a gas lighter. Watch the series. She blames everyone but doesn’t take ownership of the chaos ahead has created. Props to Christy and Bonnie.
She probably got it from her dad considering he abused Christy, it must run in his bloodline.
Imma be honest, while I took Don't like violet as a character, she is actually a good representation of children growing up with addict parents. Despite growing with and seeing the negative effects of drugs and alcohol on people, there is a cognitive dissonance that they know it's bad bad but are more likely to repeat the same destructive behavior. Even violet blaming Chrissy for everything, including her own bad decisions is accurate , as the parent become the beacon of blame for everything. There is a lot of fascinating, and sad material on why children of addicts often continue the cycle. Hell, we see it with Christy and Bonnie
We follow Chrissy from bad to good and see and understand her position, so we give her more of the benefit of the doubt while cheering her on, but violet will always see the parent that has disappointed her in childhood and becomes the easy target to project everything that is bad is Christy fault. This is something that violet learned growing up, with not taking self accountability ironically because she saw Chrissy never did when violet was a kid.
Again, even with the writing kicking in to tilt the reality like the podcast ep, violet is a pretty decent example of a child of an addict repeating the same mistakes.
@sigma1328 This is so accurate, I used to be best friends with someone who had an addict mother and she did a lot of what you mentioned. As a result everyone left her and when I confronted her about it all she did was verbally assault me and the final straw was when she resorted to slapping me when I wouldn't fall for her bs anymore. After that, I told her to her face "Congratulations, you're officially your mother's daughter" and left her. Last thing I ever said to her. Don't know where she is now but I stopped caring
How is a child supposed to be when having to raise an alcoholic parent? The only way for her to learn accountability is from therapy . 😂 people really don’t know how a child shouldn’t have to grow up to raise their parents..
Exactly. She blames Christy for all of her problems, even long after Christy got her life together and started taking care of her, but then wants nothing to do with Christy because she can't blame her bad choices on her anymore. I get that child abuse affects you even as an adult (dealing with that myself) but at some point, you need to start taking it upon yourself to heal and stop blaming your bad choices on your parents. Violet drives me crazy.
"Get back in there!" - Bonnie
😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣😂
Violet-yes grandma sorry grandma 1:06
Not bad. But if I were Bonnie, I’d tell Violet *”SHUT THE F@CK UP!”*
This is one of my favorite scenes hands down... Especially when Christie puts her finger to her temple and says "ow"
Bonnie rage can be so extreme at times when she gets pushed to far at times ❤
0:23 When Bonnie is pissed off, look out. 😏
Bonnie: you’re life is falling apart cause you’re stupid!!!
Hmm 🤔, good strategy
Well it’s true 😂
I’ll remember that phrase, when someone plays the my life is falling apart card. Lol
Especially if their behavior was willful and stupid.
Bonnie is 100% right on that because you know what if our lives screw up it's not our Parents fault it's our fault Our parents were only supposed to give us life and what we do with that that's on us. So for anybody who wants to blame their parents for the way their life turned out because of the choices that they made only thing I would have to say is be quiet and suck it up and move on And take accountability for your actions. The only reason why I say that is because my grandmother was an alcoholic my mom was a pill Addict and my younger brother was a drug addict My mom did not blame her mom for her being an addict and my Grandma did not blame anybody else for her being an Alcoholic but my brother he never took accountability for his actions he blamed everybody else for his actions. And it always made me angry that he did that. Unfortunately I lost my mom and my little brother because of their addictions but thankfully my Grandma overcame hers And I got to have 10 wonderful years of her being Sober until she passed away last year.
Reddit relationships would disagree. Since their AITA communities always think parents are the problem
Long ago, I was living in Jefferson City. I moved in with my sister who was also in AA (I was in NA) . At times, I had to react towards my nephews the same way Bonnie reacts with Violet in order for them to understand, and btw it's not fun. It's actually heartbreaking to give a tween or teen that explosive "wake up" talking to, or take the heat from the passive aggressive second wife. My sister and I were in the same boat as Bonnie and Christy for 6 years. That's why I love this show so much. And I'm proud to say that we're both sober!
That's wonderful! Great for both of you! And don't worry about your nieces, that advice is hard to give but it does help in the long run. I give myself talks like that all the time
So what is your relationship like with your nephews and your sister's relationship with cuz it seems to me like they have a right to be angry with her. But you and to some degree, your wife going off on them aint helping.
@BIGEAGLEDUDE My nephews have no discipline, no respect, nor a proper father figure. At the time, my sister didn't want to say anything to her kids because she was thinking the boys would hate her (basically wondering if I could talk to them for her). I was more independent but still going to NA while my sister was in AA but she wasn't improving. But the boys would bite, kick, and punch her. With how her children behaved, I did what my sister wasn't doing. Establishing boundaries and rules. Sometimes I had to raise my voice so they actually listened. Like I said, it's heartbreaking having to do that. But I did it for my sister since she was terrified of her own children.
One of the best things I have seen in life, were times my grandma would defend my mom. Even as a little girl, I found it so adorable!
She needed a massive wake up call
Bonnie-No more blaming Christy for your life falling apart Violet 0:43
Kids always blame their parents for every problem they caused in their lives. But they are responsible for their own choices when they grow up not their parentss
I don't care how far along I get my adulthood whenever my mother steps in and steps up for me when I need it and makes me so very happy
Bonnie always said she wanted to make up for how she failed back in the day, wishes can come true I guess.
I don’t remember this show. The acting and timing is amazing! Naturals!
Had the show continued and had Christy not left the series, I can imagine that there would’ve been a storyline where Christy gets a job as a lawyer and her own place and finally has a stable life. Eventually, Violet comes back into her life as if she wants to reconcile but it turns out that she’s in legal trouble and just wants Christy to bail her out again. Christy would be torn between helping her or staying out of it because she feels if she does help, Violet will never learn from her mistakes. Bonnie manages to get through to Violet and she finally decides to take responsibility.
They should've carried on the show like that. Violet is a brat
THE BEST SHOW EVER ❤
That’s awesome! Sometimes tough love is just someone telling the truth.
Bonnie get back in there 1:06
episode is Atticus Finch and the Downtrodden.
you’re welcome.
Violet was hands the absolute worst character
Demon child!!!!
Bonnie sounds like my mom. That’s one way to put a spoiled teenager in their place
Grandma of the year
0:23 0.25=Drunk Bonnie fed up with Drunk Violet
Good on ya Bonnie!
I thought Violet is going to be very different from her mother (Christy) and grandmother (Bonnie) but I was wrong.
More grandmothers should feel free to be like that. I have neighbours with a grandson who sounds much the same. He comes over every now and then and just dumps himself for an indefinite period of time.
Bonnie's reaction was out of control!😅😅😅😅😅
Y'ALL KNOW MISS BONNIE PLUNKETT DON'T PLAYYYYYYY😭😭😭😭🤚🏿I WAS LOOKING FOR THIS PART FOREVERRRRRR AHHAHAHHHHHAHAHAHAH I'M CRACKING UP RIGHT NOWWWW😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂 WHY IS BONNIE SO FUNNYYYYYYY I CAN’T BREATHE 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿😭😭😭😂😭😭😭😭😭😭😂😭😂😭😂😂😂😂😂😂😂0:23 (0:35 when she said “SHUT UP!” like that) my girl allison janney is so funny hahahahhhh😂😂😂😂😂😂
it was about time Bonnie held Violet accountable for her behavior along with Christy doing that 😂 Christy isn’t the only one
The fact that I’m on the next episode from that
Grandmas there to yell/discipline/humble your child when you don't have the energy or strength
Man, is this satisfying😁
❤ was there a main reason Bonnie felt a whole lot of extreme rage at violet just asking
Because Violet’s a brat, who plays the victim and gaslights people into feeling sorry for her so she gets her way.
Violet wasn't just asking. She was laying around, doing nothing, smoking pot..
Christy was a crappy mother to Violet growing up, and Bonnie was a crappy mother to Christy growing up. They don’t really have room to talk.
@@deadoralivefan12at least Christy doesn’t lay around being a mooch
@@kittynorville9125 no. Instead, at Violet’s age, she was an alcoholic, gambling addicted stripper.
Violet was horrible she never took responsibility for anything just blamed her mother and used men to get what she wanted
as much as I disliked violets character and how she was written, the show missed an opportunity to deal with her postpartum. Sure they mentioned that she felt guilty over giving her baby up for adoption but some of the ways she acted could have been a symptom of postpartum depression. I think having her character put into therapy would have addressed a lot of her issues and anger towards Christy.
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Violet was totally opposite towards Christie and Bonnie though she hated Christie way more than Bonnie 😅
What episode and season
Season 3 episode 22 Atticus Finch and the Downtrodden
Violet is a loser
Lazy mother lazy daughter zzzzz
“Because your stupid!” Lol I felt that sadly cx