Who needs therapy anyway? | Malome's Mic
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 27 ธ.ค. 2024
- In this episode we spoke on self discovery and how therapy might impact our lives. After graduating and starting work, a lot of our child hood traumas creep up on us, and these can challenge how we work and live. So we decided to touch on self discovery to see how we are doing, how we are growing and what we can do to improve our quality of life.
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I literally have the same sentiment with EVERY episode. Matladi is smart. I suspect he either doesn’t know it or downplays it.
We should just accept…Thato is the king of SA TH-cam
True
We never denied it🎖
No doubt.
It's always heart warming and refreshing to see men talking about getting help, getting in touch with their feeling and getting clarification on all that. It has definitely opened my eyes to dealing with people and theories behind going to therapy. Love y'all ❤️
"When you allow people into your space you become more conscious of what energy you portray" That's true, and is another way of learning to be self-conscious.
Lucas is so good at articulating things man. Beautiful.
Please let's gather here to applaud for Matlali's growth
I've watched him grow through these conversations and I love it for him ❤
Right?🙌🏿✨😍
I could literally listen to Lucas speak all day 🥺❤️
When matladi said thato's youtube gives u a tangible way to reflect I was like dats actually true from the sit down to now guys let's clap for thato ND matladi's growth ND Lucas for his intelligency ❤️❤️😊😊😊
Felt this 💕💕💕💕
This should go on forever ❤️
And you learn a lot about yourself absolutely love it
I liked how Lucas explained what therapy is: comprehension. I'd also define it as an honest conservation with yourself and having some listen to you and asking questions to help you get the answer you are looking for.
"Comprehension separates you from understanding and knowing" 🔥🔥🔥 bars boy!!
I think for me therapy has meant I have a safe space to breakdown and release my frustrations without the societal expectation of "indoda ayikhali"... I am not in a space where I am happy or content with myself, I thought I would have so much to show for my 20s but I also have the understanding that things take time. Thank you guys for giving us a space to relate and learn. 🌻
"Therapy is root-cause analysis" - Brilliant⚡
Also you guys are so intelligent🤞 and one can tell through your choice of analogies that you guys studied science🤣
😂😂😂
For me I went to therapy because I realised I hadn't dealt with grieving my parents' deaths. Which created coping mechanisms like numbing pain by drinking, mindless sex etc. I also realised I had childhood trauma that affected my self image and overall temperament. These things resulted in heavy anxiety, depression, anger issues even. Now I knew I had these problems so I needed a way to firstly forgive people, forgive myself and most importantly go through the emotions. So I needed therapy to help me through getting through and understanding why I had these issues. Therapy helped me understand these issues and uncover other things that I also had to work through. The result was healing and growth.
In addition. I don't necessarily believe therapy is a forever thing. I don't want to go to therapy for 5 years about the same issue. As human beings we grow and learn and go through seasons. Sometimes we just need help along the way. It's like maintaining a garden. After winter the things are dry and brown and they need fertaliser, not just water. Therapy is like fertiliser.
Lastly. Find a therapist that relates to you (my opinion). If you're a black man, find a black man. If you're a black woman, find a black woman.
I listened to this a few days ago on Spotify and I noticed how Matladi is always reluctant on sharing without apologising. Just incase you didn't know Matladi, I (we as the listeners) literally look forward to hearing what you have to say in these meaningful conversations and it's okay for people to not always agree with you and vice versa😅at least you acknowledge when you need unlearn some things, which we all have to do. Big ups to your brotherhood where you guys actually listen to each other to understand one another. Yall are such adults 😅 re lokeleng mo industring
Crazy thing... That 1hr 19mins got me excited for some good conversation 😂
It's great to see the different perspectives. Matladi sees therapy as a tool for crisis management, Lucas sees it as tool necessary even in the absence for crisis...more to optimize self awareness.
Always looking forward to what Matladi has to say to the " how are you" question😂
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Can we get more of the 1 hour long conversations. This was needed and so relatable . ❤
2023 Malome’s mic is giving ✨Eloquent speaking boys✨ loveeee it
Dankie my friend 🔝
I often like to think of therapy (whatever form it comes in because there is a multiplicity, traditional and non traditional) as wisdom. It gives you a better grasp on self which, if anything, helps you navigate yourself and your experiences better. Which is why an open mind is encouraged. For Thato, his session may not have been the most helpful however, he got wisdom out of that. For someone else, it could be understanding that you’re simply human; flawed and growing. Moving with a better sense of self awareness. I look forward to seeing how your perspectives change in the next few months
marn one thing i’ve learnt from Matladi without him even saying it is the power of listening.. he will sit there and listen and later reply with gems and speak so much sense got me realising how important listening is you can really take away a lot from someone by just listening.. aways thank you for being honest with how y’all really are it really feels good hearing that y’all in a good space 💗💗 it wouldn’t really matter if y’all were alwayyss fine/ok in a nutshell thank you for the authenticity ❤..
Matladi is just amazing man😢 you guys always put him down
"Live in the moment and stop fixating on the future" uhm I don't know but that kinda went straight to my kop. I definitely needed to hear that.
Pretty sure people around me are getting tired of me recommending this Podcast. Genuinely hope God fuels ya'll up to keep producing wholesome conversation/ content. IM OBSESSED. Wholesome chat ! Also i hope this never stops being fun for ya'll .
Thank you 🔝🔝
I for one totally get Tladi's views on therapy. Some of us really exercise self analysis.
I've been to therapy Matladi and I would say it has served multiple purposes for me. I'll mention 3 which have been very key in helping me to understand myself. The first is that there is an external observer with years of experience who listens to my thought process and interrogates it with me. Why does the thought keep coming up? What are the tools to manage it?
The other purpose is the ability to offload without disturbance and without the feeling that there's a limit to the number of times you can bring something up before you start being burdensome. So let's say you're struggling with a thing. You go to a friend, and they listen the first time and might even give a solution. The next time you're struggling with that same thing, now you feel a way about bringing it up again, but you're still struggling. With therapy, you can offload your struggles without the feeling that you are burdening someone with your repeated struggles.
Lastly, it has given me tools that have helped me to cope with anxiety because, at every moment, I was always either regretting the past or stressed about the future. But I didn't know that. I thought they were just thoughts. It taught me how to be mindful and live presently so that the present does not become a past that I regret and I can manage a future that has not happened yet.
This episode is literally all about being self aware as a young adult
I just love seeing positive young black men with amazing minds👌🏾
The Bromance between the three of you is 👌🏾
I love how Lucas will first think his words before speaking, and then articulate himself the best way possible. Matladi, speak your mind and that’s OK. You do not have to apologise. You might learn that from therapy as well, and I’m sure you know that you can speak your mind but therapy sort of confirms a lot of things we might be doubtful about, and guides us. However, I commend you for holding your stance that you don’t need therapy.
"& if you just shut the F###k up, you'll succeed "🤣🔥Thato is mad MAD🤣
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I love how you are helping each other grow even mentally🥺This conversation will help men to start talking about their mental health and understand the importance of talking than just putting it aside.Waits I want friends😂
Matladi’s growth!!!🥺👏🏽
I love how Matladi knows when to be quiet and listen when needed be, and I love how he is true to himself, what he stands for, and his feelings regardless of who doesn't agree with him. Also I love how in all of that , he still is teachable.🤍
Best episodes of Malome's mic by far!!
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It’s funny how immediately after Matladi asked what’s the importance of therapy I immediately thought about that, it’s called the Johari window. So therapy can also help with that…
Shoutout to y’all, le botlhale man …this podcast is giving what it’s supposed to give. 🔥😅
To be honest this podcast is what you guys say it is, and the educational part is the one I like fall into the most because right now I just paused the video where Thato said "if you were to just shut the fuck up" and I'm like yeah dude because I've been experiencing this late umm self critic and when you come across people like Lucas who represent self love and a high esteem is just.. dude thank bro continue navigating us to our future, much love.
I love Malome’s Mic so much. I can listen to you guys talk all the time and just hear everyone’s insight and perspective🫂…You guys can talk about literally anything I will watch/listen over and over again 🥺🥺❤️❤️
The gents are on a healthy self discovery journey and it's beautiful to watch
As an avid TH-cam-video watcher, it's thoroughly refreshing to watch young black men having a positive conversation, that's focused on their physical, mental and emotional health without bashing the opposite gender. Thank you for spreading positive energy, during these dark times in South Africa (no pun intended) ❤.
Matladi's emotional intelligence is so high and different💯
Tladi is a gem wow
Ever since Lucas said Matladi is internalizing stuff.. he literally went in that zone 😂😂😂
Spoke too soon he came back as a better man!! S/o man
Lol Thato gets so impatient when they exceed the time😂😂!
I've always enjoyed listening to Matladi's perspectives, since Episode 1.
If I can take the good things happening in my life - I should be able to take the bad as well. It's just life and it will pass.
The expectation is to improve self. And any opportunity to better myself proven by science, I WILL. 24:52
I love that Matladi is in a good place ♡ I used to think he is emotional and tries to mask it with jokes. LOLS I even decided that if I ever saw him I would genuinely check on his well being.
P.s Adbreaks are a good time to type comments♡
Did I hear Thato say HE IS IN A RELATIONSHIP??? OMG!! Finally! I've beeeeeeen saying that he is. But why the teary eyes when he speaks about it😥 I'm glad you're in a good place bro! I thought your breakup would keep you depressed. Glad you bounced back♡
I love the fact that you guys are straightforward about these issues of mental health because we go through alot but we dont want to vent out about those issues and also keep up the good work ....hands down you guys are our voice in a good way❤❤thanks best trio ever
You are the content you consume!!! Taking notes📝
Yah noh, leya apeya straight 🔥
What a great way to start a year with this episode 💯 I think the episodes where you guys have different opinions are top tiers ❤
Really enjoyed this chat and how open and honest it was.
A lot of the times when people think of therapy they think its going to shrink who will help you sort out your life's problems when in actuality it's not what it was designed to do. Therapy or therapists are more of the tour guides of your emotions and behavioural patterns, the goal isnt to tell you what's wrong or right with with you, but it's to help you figure it out whatever it is that brought you there in a safe space.
I would also like to add that, it doesn't mean something is wrong with you if you're going to therapy. It's just an outlet to talk, IN A SAFE SPACE. sometimes we just need to talk, about anything and nothing and it's totally ok. Sometimes we just need to in a place that helps us feel grounded and safe and for some people its their therapist, for others its their family etc. But we need to let go of the notion that something must be wrong/ go wrong upstairs/ internally in order to start seeing a theri.
It's also important to have a good connection with your therapist because that will determine how safe you feel and which has an influence on your progress at times. I've heard stories from some people about havinv bad experiences with mental health professionals, for those you who have, I would like to apologise on behalf of the professionals in my field, there's still so much training and monitoring that needs to be done in this field of work. Don't let that experience prevent you from getting the help you may need because there are really good therapists and counsellors out there.
For the self-healers check out the holistic psychologist on IG, thats the link to her page instagram.com/the.holistic.psychologist?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
And selfhealers.circle instagram.com/selfhealers.circle?igshid=YmMyMTA2M2Y=
I hope you'll find them helpful in some way.
But amazing work guys. Keep it up
Danko Malume, Matladi and Lucas y’all are holding us down ❤ 🇿🇦💯
Argh mahn! The three of you are so intellectual... such a wholesome topic. I enjoyed every ounce of it. Keep up the great work. Love y'all and peace be with y'all.👑
Me and Lucas have completed our Masters coursework🥳🥳🥳🥳🥳 Let's push the thesis and get this Masters degree!🔥
Get it 🔥🔥🤌
Matladi your listening skill is on another level and the response that comes afterthat are relevant and very educative
Notification Gang on Malome’s Mic🔥🔥🔥I love watching you guys cause you guys are so educated and articulate towards each other also I love how you guys actually embody each other’s career and not look down on each other’s journeys. I love genuine connections and you my guys have that 🔥🔥🔥❤️
Big S/O to Thato,Lucas & Matladi. These podcasts have been so therapeutic for me! You guys are great 🔥❤️
I’m so glad 🙏🏾🙏🏾
Matladi is catastrophizing life before it happens
No matter how much you do that you wont feel any less emotions when life happens
I agree that eskom should be privatized but it can't be privatized at this current moment due to the fact that the shareholders/owners will have too much power over the country in terms of being a monopoly in supply of electricity. I think the best solution is to have other means of electricity supply which can give eskom a wake up call resulting in the fixing their issues to try stay relevant in the market. But that also comes with another issue because the alternative suppliers of electricity will definitely be more expensive as eskom is subsidised by the government which makes It more "affordable" to everyone so its a very tricky situation because then it will create a whole other issue.
Thato's work ethic inspires me❤
Lucas is right. Its not just about "privatizing" Eskom. Its about putting competent people at the helm of Eskom. South Africa has 300 - 400 years of coal reserves. We can only focus on finding alternative energy sources once we have professionals who run Eskom and its power stations well. The skilled professionals exist, they need to be given a chance.
Privatising Eskom is not the answer for ordinary South Africans. Maybe NERSA should give licenses to alternative private electricity suppliers. The country's electricity grid cannot be held ransom by a private company. We should have the option of using Eskom or a private company, not turn Eskom into a private company.
Lucas is so right about Twitter! IF You're looking to work on yourself and being the best version of yourself... The negativity on Twitter and the disgusting views will discourage you 😒
Ale pila byana!!! S/o to another dope episode of Malome's Mic!! Consistency gents this content is kindly, informatively & aspiring curated for SA young adults. S/o gents this is top tier.
First and foremost, ke le Vrostana blind 💌
Secondly, Tron ain't capping le ko Braai stand and la fisha!!! Mogodu Monday 😭
Lastly, Thanks for an amazing Session, learnt and discovered alot, I Appreciate you guys 🙌
Dankooooo 💌
appreciate you!!!!
Big up
Appreciate this episode. Shoutout to the gang, my favour trio. Love from Durban
Yeah this conversation is the one! I've been slowly getting back to this self discovery journey and taking care of self. Got takeaways from this ep. 🙏 keep it up.
Good stuff
best episode so far, i'd love the current affairs to be a constant in the podcast - very insightful
Did Matladi just say " Understanding what you did and what the implications are.... If you put yourself in a position where you open to things going bad and not affecting the YOU". That's a whole therapy session there, could put my money on it.
Thank you guys for enlightenment. I really enjoyed this... Matladi is so smart yazzi shout out to you dude.
Glad you enjoyed it
Gents Thank u for this podcast Game changer
Shout out to you gents you're doing a great job
I enjoyed this episode thoroughly. This is probably my favourite episode on Malome's Mic❤
Lol Tladi2.0 MIGHT need therapy. He doesn't realize it yet but he soon will. Lucas said something about Tladi being a hectic emapth. Usually, people who are emotional empaths have anxiety or depression💀😬. He just like me
I'm here for Matladi's skin❤️! It's giving!
I think the value of therapy is awareness. You get diagnosed by a professional and are given tools or treatment that is able to help you in ur daily life.
Therapists are objective and knowledgeable which I think is better than any person could offer to themselves.
Anyone can think back to situations where an objective opinion from someone carried more weight than what you could offer to yourself.
Your uploads make me happy .🤌❤️🌻
You are so kind
And you give premium content .Keep at it 🤌❤️
Black men in therapy. Llove it for yall. It's beautiful to watch.
This episode is giving different perspective and the way y'all are analyzing things is impressive...superb episode
#NotificationGang!!#malomesmic
Thank you so much 😀
Didn't know the whole load shedding thing is that bad in SA, it has become such a joke on the socials we don't understand the limitation of it.
Truly enjoyed this whole episode ❤️
🙌🏼Siyabonga!!! Malome’s Mic is 🔥🔥🔥🔥
First time watching this podcast series and must say very informative.
Keep up the great work 🔥
Thank you! Will do!
ONE STEP AT A TIME CANNA GUY !!👊🏾 😂
Came straight from Mpoomy's channel after watching thato speak, the eloquence and vulnerability is beautiful l love malome's mic
Thank you 🔝
Me too...I enjoy Thato man
Bros👏🏾🔥I got mentors in you, enjoyed this morning therapy session❤️
Wish you the best of 2023
Good done Gents 👍
Dankie Malome TH-cam ♡♡♡
May God give you more blessings
Also I am up to date with all these episodes. They are a breath of fresh air! Even though certain things I'm like Hake sure🤣 but with most of their conversations I am impacted, inspired and I get to laugh! Keep up the amazing work. May God reward all your efforts and bless your hearts.💕
Glad you like them!
Dope the current affairs chat is low-key a must cause at the end of the day this is some real life shit
Thought I should share this, since Thato said he only went to therapy once and never went back..well the first 2 sessions are the hardest, and if you feel like your therapist is not working for you, one can request to change therapists.
This episode was very insightful, loved it soo much
Thank you ✨
Lucas really is that guy 😆 🤣 I see him in that topic
Tladi is so attentive.
Extremely 🤞🏾🤞🏾
I'm having the worst experience currently and this podcast just carried me. I love you guys. Matladi actually lifted me. "This too shall pass"😭🩵❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹❤️🩹
Thank you guys for this. It has put alot into perspective.
Glad you enjoyed it!
Have not watched this one yet but already liked and shared cause Thato you are a great UTuber together with your boys. I wish you endless growth. You are the only local UTuber I've subscribed to cause I'm just fussy with my time,yet your content is worth listening to.
You're the best!
The therapy talk boys 👏🏿👏🏿 Lucas breaking it down 🤯 talking about technic 💯💯💯💯
Guys we love what you share with us on this platform 😢❤ dont ghost us like the THREE FINE GUYS 💔
This podcast was just what I needed to hear!😭😭
“Let’s wear black shirts and not tell him”😭😭😭
😂😂 it’s always him
At least he's wearing black pants