Children of veterans with PTSD describe the stress of stepping up at home | 60 Minutes
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- Hundreds of thousands of veterans have been diagnosed with PTSD. The children living with injured veterans are stepping up to help these wounded warriors and their families.
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This is why I say the any person who has served in our military should be able to see any doctor anywhere at anytime. Let’s give free healthcare to the who have served!
Nothing is free
Actually yeah stuff is free
We pay more taxes than countries that have universal healthcare. Remove the blatant profit motive and get everyone covered for the basics shouldn’t even be a point to argue over. Besides, the current system shows how sick the population itself actually is with little to no help it gets helpless
@@jhanturandall2519 are you familiar with what happened when the gov got involved with college loans? Did prices go down or skyrocket??
With that example, what does dumping the tax payers money into "free" health care solve? ...
@@jhanturandall2519also, what did Obama care do?
Did prices go down or up?
Personally mine doubled to $600/mo, and that was after work supplemented it.
Millions also lost their doctors.
Dumping money on a fire solves nothing
My father was on the Baatan Death March and spent WWII in an internment camp in Manchuria. I spent more than forty years trying my best to care for him. It personally devasted me in a way I can never recover from--the daily screaming, the threats of violence, etc. I can only hope I grew a more loving heart from the weight of it all. It truly destroyed my life.
God bless you. I’m sorry you had to go through all that pain and suffering.
I'm so sorry for your story, here's truly hoping your life and future only gets brighter and brighter
Your father went through a living hell beyond comprehension. I never considered how that would affect his family. I pray you find peace in your heart and enjoy the rest of your life.
I know exactly what you mean. You are not alone.❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
Anncarter1663. OMG !! My father was with the walking dead in Vietnam and so was there for the entire inFamous siege of Khe Sanh and also the battle for Con thien (spelling?). And your one sentence spoke to me they way only someone who has been there can. If at all possible I would love to talk to you if not by phone at least email I’m begging you! The hope being I may be able to learn from your testimony. Please reply
"You saved his life." "I helped out, yeah." No hint of seeking recognition for it, he probably doesn't think he did anything out of the ordinary, just what anyone should do.
That is how my man described it, nonchalantly, he saved a man when a catapult cable took his leg off.
PTSD just gets passed down unless it's greatly controlled. My dad was a Vietnam Veteran who suffered from PTSD (flashbacks back then). He suffered from alcoholism and became extremely violent and abusive when he drank. He drank all the time, trying to drown his pain. That abuse affected all four of us children and my mother. It's not fair for yhe children to have to suffer, yet it happens. It is sad and something needs to be done. I pray for all who suffer from PTSD. I pray they get the healing and management they desperately need. 🙏 ❤
Tots and pears 🍐
how are things now might i ask?
My dad is a vietnam vet too, he grew up with a ww2 vet father who was an abusive alcoholic. It affected him a lot, he had anger problems and personality issues, but he never laid a finger on us. He genuinely tried his hardest to not be like his father, reading many self-improvement books and attending therapy. He struggles with issues to this day but he was able to break that cycle.
My husband was boots, 1st Cav in Nam and last year our 23 yr old son tried committing suicide 2x’s, I became an alcoholic just trying to balance everything they couldn’t. PTSD came out full blown 50 years after the war. It was awful but our son is receiving help and my husband now has lymphoma from agent orange so his focus has semi-shifted.
Why the hell did parents of wounded warriors rely on their children to help? If you are doing that, you need to re-evaluate or ask for community support. Why do parents do this to young kids or expect this of 11 year Olds and younger? WTF? This means they should have not had 4 kids. This is insane. Making kids have bad habits of the mom making "her (daughter) go out and pick up the pieces that she can't".
- Does anyone else see how terrible of the mom / non-military parent? I don't care how stressed the parent is. That is UNACCEPTABLE BAD PARENTING (coming from a disabled amputee who was undiagnosed - took 8 yrs to get the amputation level (had BKA before when I knew it wouldn't work not high enough and it didn't). I did it all myself and continue to do it as I now work on getting an autoimmune issue under control, start driving using adaptive controls, etc.
The wounds you can see get treated.
It is the wounds you can not see that can go on forever.
Please be kind and understanding!
Thank You for Your Service ❤
Your words are that what i am searching for so long time! Thank you very much!
He doesn’t deserve kindness
one of my veteran patients told me about this segment yesterday. so heartbreaking that our veterans sacrifice so much and neither they nor their families get adequate help.
Nope the family's dont get help. I had to leave home because of how bad things got. I am now 22, broke, without healthcare I have to pay for tricare even as a dependent which I cant afford, I had a bad launch into life no one cares or understands its lonely.
@@jacobfettuccine4587This is heartbreaking! Can you go to the VA? I wonder if you could find a therapist who specializes in trauma and maybe they would help? Not saying it’ll happen, but I believe someone out there would give up their time. It’s maddening the trauma you endure! I’m so sorry. 💔
My Dad was a 9/11 First Responder who thankfully survived on that tragic day. He suffered from severe PTSD. From my point of view, he was abusive towards my family and I. I hated him for it. I didn’t understand why he was like that until I got older. I remember confessing how I felt to him years later, and he gave me a hug and apologized. He told me he suffered greatly on and after that day.
Tremendous respect for our military and first responders. They deserve to be treated WAY BETTER.
Yes they do!!!!!
I am a child of an injured veteran of the Korean War. My father was paralyzed freward. months, learned to rewalk. I know what it is like to live with someone living with PTSD.
Look what South Korea has become today. You should be proud. Your father is a hero.
@@Legoman69469very true. The east would look much different
Our veterans need our support and love
Speak for yourself
@@firstlast8258 I am.
@@teddytheodoris6778 nope
Yep
Growing up in a military family and seeing my father struggle with PTSD, I appreciated everything people do to support our troops, and now I’m in the Air Force, it means a lot this has gain awareness ❤️God Bless everyone.
I am so glad people are starting to understand. I went through this with my dad, a DDay vet. He was finally diagnosed with PTSD late in life. After our family handled it all the best we could.
Some of these kids are the BEST people you can ever imagine. Uber responsible, dedicated and caring. They are the soldiers, protectors of their veteran parent. There contribution deserves to be recognized. They need resources to help.
Magic mushrooms can cure it quickly.
As an Iraq vet, I thank you. Thank you for doing what you did for your father. It takes courage and dedication to help someone in their darkest moments when you’re going through some of your own.
My wife and I have discussed adopting or fostering since it’s been years that I’ve been out of the service, and we’re not sure on our chances of getting pregnant. But god, I’d be lying if I said I wasn’t worried about my mental health being an issue with a kid in the house.
I got diagnosed with PTSD after some years of alcohol abuse and being a less than stellar husband to my wife, and though I’m sober and attending counseling, I worry about putting kids through panic attacks, episodes etc…
@@JedRayner ❤️ I am thankful you have been able to get some resources to help. And I hope life is fulfillng for you, whatever decisions you make. The fact that you are thinking it through carefully tells me that you care.
@@morgainedepolloc4161 thank you! That means so much. We’re on the fence about it, but I’ve wanted to be a father for years and my wife and I never really committed to bringing a kid along after I came home.
It just wasn’t in the cards with me as messed up as I was. She had to call 911 on me a few times, and I was in and out of inpatient facilities.
I hope now that I’m doing better, that can change, but PTSD will likely be a lifelong struggle for me.
I don’t want to make it someone else’s burden, especially not a young person, because I know I’m not over the hill with it all. Lord knows I’ve got about 10 lifetimes of love and care to repay to my wife.
@@JedRayner I agree, it is a lifelong process. I myself am a Pentagon 9/11 survivor. I have felt the impact of that.
I am grateful I had a Dad that demonstrated to me how important it is to ask for and get help. He never gave up.
My father was a wwII vet...childhood was extremely stressful. I understand how much the family takes on. My therapist was the first person to ever tell me thank you for your service...she said families serve and sacrifice too.
my pap too...he ran ammo to the front lines Korea
❤❤ god bless you all
God Bless all the spouses and children of Veterans. 🙏🙏
Gawd bless Murica 🤓 🖕
Grew up an Army brat, dad did 28 years total, WWII, Korea and VNM. I'm also acquired ptsd as a result of military service. Difference between my father's ghost's and nighttime visitors and mine is, counseling for ptsd, 38 years of recovery, involvement in a 12-step program and being retired from and continued to be active in Veteran's related issues. My children all had to go through some things because of my behavior and speech, but thank goodness, nothing close to what I experienced and observed with my father and his rage, usually drunken and misplaced.
My family struggles with this every single day. My hubby has PTSD and we have five kids I am his caregiver plus my children as well. This breaks my heart because I had to rely on my children as well to help him cope and day to day we struggle. I can totally relate to this.
Stay strong, Mama. You are never alone, for God is always with you. Be blessed, mighty warrior, as you've taken up the mantle since the warrior you married has trouble fighting.
He loves you, even when it seems like he isn't there. May God bless you with his peace and love, that is Jesus!!
This segment brought tears to my eyes.
Dealing with combat trauma recently this video hit home
all we are as society is traumatized from every war fought before us and the trauma passed down generation to generation. humans will never learn.
Fabulous program! I'm an Army mom & kid. I am a forensic mental health counselor who wants to work with veterans and first responders. It's so important
I grew up with a father who had massive PTSD from his exp in Vietnam and treated it with a lifetime of alcoholism. He eventually took his own life in 2007 on Mothers Day (this was a man who hated his own mother with the fire of 1000 suns) so I understand this story so much. I hope that the people today being impacted get better treatment then those like my father. Seventeen years later as of this month, it still effects me. Not as much, not consciously every day but sometimes. Also, I have to say it struck me that the young man in the story's name is Chris listening to some of what they were talking about. My father told me a story once when I was 16 something that happened in Vietnam and I understand the pain he must have carried with what he told me. The story was brutal as war can be. I truly wish so much we could have focused more on mental health in my family, I really do. My father deserved better and so did we and a lot of other vets and families.
Thank you for honoring us with his memory. ❤
Chris, i lost my dad in 77 . Vietnam vet with untreated pstd. I would love to talk with you or connect.
I think we kids of vietnam vet need to find support with each other
This was an excellent episode. So sad the effects PTSD has on families, even children.
I sincerely wish peace to those families.
My father had PTSD from Korea. He was a navigator, flew night flights. Very stressful being raised that way, back then no help or info
Thank you so much for bringing this story to us. I feel terrible for these families. I sincerely hope they can get the help they need. I have so much care and respect for these families. Know that people are thinking and praying for you. These families deserve whatever they need to feel support from the rest of us ❤
My sister asked me to temporarily care for her three children because her suicide thoughts and nightmares had come back. She tried to voluntarily check in at a hospital for mental health care, but was denied because she was out of state (we live in different states). They would only admit her with a suicide attempt. Why do vets have to go to that extent to get help? She stayed with me for three months as her husband worked back home. We found a volunteer therapist who was willing to council her for free, and she registered for yoga classes. She was only able to get a VA appointment after about 5 months. It's so sad. This illness doesn't just hurt immediate families, but extended families as well.
That's fantastic that she could tell you and protect herself and her children. It's a shame when we beg for help it's never immediate.
i am glad she was able to get help but i’m sorry how it has affected you all in those ways and i’m sorry the VA isn’t helpful. i feel like most viewers and commenters don’t understand what you have explained here, as many are just saying ohh they don’t seek help because of pride- like sure that can be a part of it for some but most of it is bc the VA is unhelpful and vets aren’t helped until it’s too late or almost too late. the lack of trauma informed care and support for our veterans is sad.
❤Thank all for their service. The wars don't stop afterwards.
Serving the elite
I've seen my daughter do some of the things I hear these kids are talking about. As the parent you do feel some guilt about it and what makes it worse is you're not trying to harm them, you just don't know how to deal yourself and react badly.
My daughter had seen me multiple times go back and she already knows how to get me back here. I wish it wasn't so but ptsd is a long term thing, just when you think you're good it kicks back to life.
You are loved and appreciated for all of your flaws and strengths ❤❤❤
As a current service-member (marine) and already feeling the early stages of PTSD, I urge all active duty soon to EAS, and reserve personnel to seek help. Because it’s a downward spiral. Once you go down that path there’s only getting worse.
Thank you for featuring this topic. ❤ My heart goes out tto all the families going through similar situation. You deserve more support.
The shame is not in having PTSD. The shame is in knowing you have a problem, being to proud to get help, and taking it out on your family; especially kids.
You’re not wrong on the surface. Issue is that you get punished by the system for seeking that help. So of course they take it out on others than don’t deserve it because that’s where the vent hole is. When you can’t vent anywhere else, that steam gets pushed in the wrong direction.
@@jenniferhiemstra5228 I get what youre saying. But those that make the conscious choice to refuse help AND take it out on kids with no end in sight disgust me
@@cfamillytravelgroup3318abuse is absolutely disgusting i agree and there’s no excuse. but let’s not stigmatize ptsd and pretend like “pride” is the only reason people don’t get help. there is not enough proper trauma informed care especially for our vets. there’s not enough education on it and many cannot afford it. that being said i do agree ptsd is no excuse for abuse, as i am someone with ptsd from a mas shooting and i would never and have never treated anyone abusively
@@fluttershypi Agree to disagree
I agree with you on that my husband is a Vietnam veteran and as PTSD is not 🚫 funis sad 😢😢😢😢
That's why we need to stop fighting. War doesn't solve anything
Wars will never end 😢
Thank Bush for all of this.
There will always be evil in this world. Need to combat it daily.
@@Constitutionalist76it’s always nice to have one clueless individual make a comment
Solved fascism in Europe, and slavery in the United States.
The war on terrorism was a farce on its own, which is why it did nothing but make things worse. Shame on Washington DC
I'm a female wounded warrior. I spent so much time in therapy and hospitals trying to learn to be a person again and deal with PTSD. Women veterans often suffer from Post partum depression, after having babies which is what happened to me. The VA is behind on women veteran programs and we lack care. When I had my son, I knew I had to take care of my issues to keep them from becoming his. I have service dog who helps me and changed my life, go to my appointments and never give up. My little boy is happy and knows mommy was in the military but loves our shopping trips "with the puppy", our family vacations and everyday life. He doesn't see me as a disabled veteran, he sees me as him mom. We fight so hard in the military but I feel we fighter harder at home. Our loves ones deserve the best version of us, and to get that we need help sometimes.
I am praying everyday for the veterans ❤❤❤
I'm the child of a WWII veteran who had undiagnosed PTSD. Growing up was a constant attempt to keep Daddy from getting upset while listening to him regularly verbally abuse my Mother and older brother. Greatest generation???
yes, definitely the greatest generation. The inventions and investments made by that generation built the best things we have today not to mention they went to fight a true evil in Germany at such young ages and came back with problems the government and society didn't understand.
Definitely not
@@kevinprzy4539 America fought most of their war in WW2 in the Pacific. Nice try
@@MarksTournaments What's even your point? they still fought in plenty of bloody battles against Germany throughout western Europe. If your arguing that Japan wasn't also a true evil you're either dense or mistaken, tell that to the victims of group 731 or the people of Nanjing
Wish someone would of figured this out sooner. Being a daughter of a Vietnam vet that was 101st Air Bourne and on Hamburger Hill. Would of nice to have support for my family.
I sorry for your hurt. I too lost my vietnam vet dad . He had really severe untreated pstd.
If you ever want to connect please reach out.
I feel us vietnam vet kids need each other to help woth our own healing
@@suebittner7517 My dad is still here with us, thank god. Sending condolences for your dad. My dad went a long time with untreated PTSD. It was ruff. Sending you positive vibes
I saw this on tv and it just broke my heart. The children always paying for the adult's mess.
Adults mess? That’s a little insensitive. These guys went and fought for their Country in a place nobody else wanted to go to, to preserve our freedom here and saw and experienced a lot of really ugly things. But upon return that’s just their mess??? Ok
This is exactly why people historically haven’t taken PSTD seriously. They all saying ‘can’t control their emotions’ or ‘can’t hack it’ or ‘their a burden to themselves and their families’ this video was to raise awareness on the affects on families, not for people to bash the family members with PSTD for having it.
What I meant by my original comment is that war is mess. And who creates wars? Adults do, that's who. You all continue if you wish now. Bye.
@@edyann oh you referring to the old age phrase, ‘young men fighting a war on behalf of old men.’ But the comment you commented due to the video being Children of PTSD veterans, implies at first glance that its the parents with PSTD making their children’s life miserable and deliberately.
Your original comment wasn’t in bad taste and you’re correct for saying that. Nobody asked them to serve but unfortunately because they did serve they came back with baggage which the children unfortunately endure.
Im a child of a mogadishu veteran, black hawk down. I remember when I was little my dad would get really angry sometimes. Then one day I watched him take his own life. He could have gotten help but he didn’t go get help. I was so little that I couldn’t help him. It’s been 20 years since I watched my father take his own life. I still have no idea how to cope with it. I’ve gotten help but that pain still lingers
I went through this. Dad had PTSD and severe mental illness. I was his caregiver but was traumatic to take care of my dad. Now i have mental illness as well. Definitely don't want children of my own.
How about 60 Minutes doing a segment about all the Military Dependents diagnosed with serious learning and behavioral disorders while growing up in military housing contaminated with Black-Mold, Mildew, PCBs, Asbestoses, and Lead-Base Paints and how the DOD has turned a blind eye to the whole mess for over seventy-years.
60 Minutes Overtime reported on the jet fuel issues in Hawaii. This usually means they are working on a more in depth piece. 🤞
That always shocks me to hear how bad the housing on base is. Where does all the money go? They don’t pay them what they’re worth. At least give them a proper roof over their heads.
This was heartbreaking 💔
You act like it’s a dod problem lmfao
Heartbreaking in the extreme.
I don’t think this documentary did a good job explaining the experience children of Military parents endure. The constant moving, not fitting in, angry parents who can’t be reasoned with, the unnecessary standards, absent parents both physically and mentally etc..
It's a short news piece. It's not meant to do a deep dive, but highlight the situation to the public.
My dad wasn't in the military but, he had a severe stroke that destroyed his brain, I had to take over a lot of his roles in the house when I was 16. I like to think I helped but, honestly I'm 33 now and, I have never been able to convince myself that I ever helped at all. That feeling has bled over into my adult life and even when I do accomplish something I still get that same feeling like, you're worthless. Good luck to anyone who has a family member with a serious injury like that.
We must show our veterans love and support!
When a family member joins the military the entire family will change in ways they will not foresee. When that family member goes to war, every single family member will suffer the lasting effects. The worst part is that medical care and mental health services are not easily accessible. As a country we need to take care of our veterans and their families.
Thank you for sharing your story. God bless you all 🙏💙
Thank you for your service, you are a hero. God bless you and your family.❤️❤️🇺🇸🇺🇸
This video brought back so many memories. My mom had to step up hate seeing my dad all medicated up 😢
From 1 veteran to another……. Definitely understand 🙏🏻🙏🏻😭😭🙏🏻🙏🏻.
I have adult children who still suffer from secondary PTSD.
When the wounded came back from Iraq or Afghanistan they were called Wounded Warriors and there was "Gold Star Mothers"
And They are getting the help and the recognition as they should
The Veterans from the Korean came back and nobody besides their Families even acknowledged them coming back
When us Vietnam veterans came back everybody called us Baby killers spit on us and in general made us feel like S---t
It would be nice if you could acknowledge the Vietnam Veterans who still are living with PTSD and make sure their families are getting the same thing (They may be older but they still have the very same problems)
Amen!
Please make more of these videos so us who fought these wars can continue to be harrased and called crazy
I am a spouse to a ptsd vet. I was so exhausted and traumatized at work. My boss told me “everyone has problems.” 😢
What a heart felt beautiful story.❤❤❤❤
Thank you
My dad was a combat veteran in Nam, 65-66. Most of my child hood can be membered with great memories, which where over shadowed from him being a mean angry man.
To this day my dad screams and fights in his sleep. Like throwing punches and kicking yelling profanity. He was USMC in Mogadishu when things went south.
When the spouse/parent serves, the family serves.
When I got out of the army I said I’d never let my kids join the military. Luckily I didn’t have kids then. Now that I’m out of the army and I have a kid if my kid ever told me they wanted to join the military I’d give them two rules.
1) Pick a job that translates to the civilian world. That way if the military doesn’t work out for whatever reason you at least can pick up a skill you can fall back on. Also in this same vein try to get into the Air Force. But they’re pretty uppity so the Army or Navy is fine. And conversely the Marines are out of the question. Also Infantry doesn’t translate to being a cop. Infantry only translates to infantry. If my kid wants to go infantry, they’ll have to sign up for something else and then reclass to infantry. Infantry is a vital MOS of the military and I respect those guys. But that MOS will wreck your body and leave you with no marketable skill after you become a civilian again.
2) Probably more important than the first and that is, don’t start a family while you’re in. Don’t get married. Don’t get anyone pregnant. Don’t even get a girlfriend who wants anything more than a good time. Probably don’t start a family until you’ve sorted yourself out as a regular civil adult. Before you even have to think about the PTSD of it all there’s a lot of moving around. There’s a lot of time away from the family that moves around. It’s just not fair to the kids. The spouse will barely have time to find a job and settle in before it’s time to move again. You’re not getting paid enough to really support a family. I saw too many soldiers families that had to rely on food stamps. It’s just not a lifestyle I want to put a kid through. And then you throw in PTSD, yikes.
@@claudia-Silva "From the heart of a Daughter who's father was forced to go to War against he's will" If you're talking about the draft, then I can assure you we haven't had a draft in about 52 years, so any man or woman who served in the armed forces did so on their own accord.
Dad served 25 years and deployed 10 times during gwot, him coming home was nice but man he was just never mentally home. We never really had a strong relationship until two years after he retired, thanks to therapy and time.
My dad went over seas 5 times. He is constantly dealing with it. I have been there to help. But it’s but always easy for sure. He retired after 25 years. There was a bomb explosion, he got a brain injury. He was there during 9/11 times.
The war at home not downrange is the toughest battle
"Less than 1% serves in the military." Well, can you blame people that they don't want to serve, if government doesn't take proper care of veterans and their families for decades.
Mrs. Dole's part seemed more like recruitment rather than true care for soldiers and their families for some reason.
I truly hope soldiers, veterans and their families get the best healthcare and guidance as they sacrifice so much.
As a non-American living under one of the evil regimes of the world, I just want to say to all the US vets: your country, your army and your soldiers are the last beacon of hope for millions of people around the world to fight against these evil regimes, your pain and sacrifice is not for nothing, it is actually the most noble, important, meaningful thing to keep people believing in freedom and a better world. Brave people choose to become soldiers, and soldiers die, the only way you can survive this pain is to be proud and honour them, you cannot cry and pity yourself over this.
Although this is a great thing and honorable thing to do. The families of these military people suffer because of it.
Thank you for this video. It brings light to our deeply embedded situations.
That is scary so sad wars going around.
No fear
My uncle was in war here on Balkan in 90's. He got PTSP and became alcoholic. He was a simple man, living in rural area, not educated. He died in 2020 from alcohol. I feel sorry that he never get help he needed or had someone to talk to. Including me. 😔
He’s free, don’t blame your self. Set yourself free from guilt.God knows everything.
@@PaulaSanders-tp1wr Thank you Paula.
@@webeto5902 you are welcome, stay strong and pray for all God’s people, we’re in a spiritual Battle.
@@PaulaSanders-tp1wrgawd bless Murica 🤓🖕
It's so SAD how the system has failed our Men and Women that have served in the Military. When they came home and start having problems in any way physical mental finding work where ever it was our government should of been their 100% for them SHAME ON THEM.
As least they diagnose them today.
My sister's X kids all had breakdowns because their dad had such bad PDST
No one talks about somalia. The ptsd my dad has from there is insane. I can feel this on a personal level. I could not wake my dad up when he asleep. Its scary and i wish he could get help.
This is horrific to hear man
I had two attempts by the age of 18, first one at age 13. One more to follow at I think age 23.
My parents wanted me gone asap, like at age 16, and their only desire was to become empty nesters. I was a good kid, not a bad kid at all, but they just didn’t want to be parents anymore. They wanted us gone, and out of their lives.
I bet that this young man’s main goal and desire, and what would make him internally happy and satisfied is to continue to help and serve his parents and family, and I bet that his dad likely wants him out of the house and gone so he can go “be happy” and “do his own thing…”
But what if what would make him happy is serving his family?
I bet there’s a huge point of contention there.
In the majority of the entire world, families stick together and stay under one roof. Even many families from other countries that live here in America live with their entire family under one roof. It helps cut costs for every one there who contributes financially, allows all of them to live a better and more comfortable and higher class lifestyle than they would be able to afford individually on their own otherwise, there’s multiple people around to help get all of the various and necessary tasks done, and it allows families to stick together and remain close-knit. It’s a win-win for everyone involved.
Meanwhile in the white American culture that I grew up in, the imaginary “expectation” is to send kids out on their own asap, to acquire their own large expenses and even debts, even if they have no idea what they’re doing and have no guidance. Then if the kid fails or suffers from depression or something like substance abuse or other poor habits, decisions, or relational choices to try to cope, then it’s considered all on them even if they have no mentorship, fall victim to employers or others whose only goal is to take advantage of them for their labor or their time and money, and are just struggling to try to stay afloat.
Our culture when it comes to this topic is sick and twisted, and nobody can ever convince me otherwise. The “nuclear family” doesn’t mean sending your kids out into an ever-changing modern world that they don’t know how to navigate on their own, and just hope that it all works out somehow. The kids in that situation don’t thrive, they suffer. Then if these young adults end up having kids at younger ages, they struggle to raise them and the sufferings of the adult end up getting taken out in the child either physically, verbally, mentally, emotionally, etc…and thus the hellish cycle continues.
America was much stronger with real and legitimate nuclear families. Small family farms and small family businesses desperately need to be commonplace again.
Help us!!!!
The Battle is Real
#MentalHealthMatters
Give peace a chance.
"why are recruitment numbers down?"
Unless you have been there you have no understanding of any of this. Luckily I was self aware enough that had the kids and I in therapy the day after my husband’s diagnosis. It was a long road and some days are still tough but our family has tools now that work.
Should’ve Interviewed Kids of WW2,Korea,Vietnam,Desert Storm & OIF Veterans. You would’ve Got a Wide Rage an how it Effected the Different Generations
We need to treat them as soon they’re home!!!!
If anyone deserves the funding it’s them.
God bless our veterans
Our leaders have a history of being quick to send our servicemen into battle in stupid wars with no regard to the scars these people come home with...
My dad served in the Vietnam War and was a Marine for 20 years. He was also a Drill Instructor for 2 years. He had PTSD that was never diagnosed. My son joined the Marines in 2021. His papa was able to share some stories of his service that he couldn't share with us. Dad died in December 2023. I am forever grateful to those who served and continue to do so.🫡🇬🇺🇺🇸
This is so Heartbreaking....God, I know.
Vets aren't the only ones. Their are regular people diagnosed with PTSD and can't get help!
Bless Elizabeth Dole.
I’ve spent a total of 37 months overseas inside the 75th regiment C company 1st battalion my last deployment was in 2014 I’ve seen it all overseas between Iraq and Afghanistan. I have complexed PTSD myself. Most will never understand, for an example when I wake up in the middle of the night 2-5 times every single night. I need to get up and clear my house.
I joined after 9/11. Two weeks after I joined, we invaded Iraq. Ended up doing two tours over there. Didn't get help for years. Everybody around me told me there was something wrong with me but I just thought they didn't understand where I was coming from. My platoon hit 11 IEDs during my first tour and we were involved in a lot of gunfire and dead body removal. I tried to forget I was in the USMC but when everybody in your family tells you you have a problem, at some point you've got to start listening. I often tell young kids never to join the military. People tell me I'm wrong for that but if they have the same experience that I had, it's definitely not worth it. If I could go back in time to that young high school kid, I would have went to college and done something else.
I am a daughter of a vietnam vet who lost her father in 1977 due to act of patricide. My dad had untreated pstd that devastated our family. I cannot find a support group for kids of vietnam vets. Nor any acknowledgement from the VA that some of us have secondary PSTD
There is support for agent orange birth defects which i am grateful for. But what about those of us who lost a parent to suicide, homicide and just deal with our mental health from living with a family member with PSTD? I feel like collateral damage.
With much respect for our service members and our country
God I really hope these veterans get DIRECT help and not some system where 20 "middlemen "in the way.
My Dad was a paratrooper in WW2. He was good man but also an alcoholic. At least now they talk about it.
Chuck looks so young too.
Alcoholism, verbal and physical abuse, or just plain dealing with your 'strong' parent waking up screaming in the middle of the night...
You have no idea. Some born in the '70's had two dads, gramps and a dad: WW2 vet, 'Nam vet.. If you know, you do. Your job has always been to make them not die, and also to stay alive yourself..what they experienced.
These are our silent soldiers. They all fight quietly in the shadows. We owe them far more than we give them.
We should do a study addressing this in our youth. We NEED to intercede on our vets behalf and be their best advocates.
im looking forward to the episode on domestic violence victims and their children with ptsd
Equal rights equal fights
It's called intergenerational trauma.
I really can’t watch this. My ex is retired special operations. In addition to his countless deployments, we had a special needs child who died shortly after his retirement. I don’t think our family will ever fully process the years of complex traumas. I sometimes wonder how any of us are still alive. We are really just walking shadows.
"WMDs are north south east and west of Takrit."
- Donny Rumsfeld.
"Lemme tell ya about Halliburton"
- Richie Cheney.
I was diagnosed with PTSD in 2004 and instead of the U.S. Army telling me about it they redeployed me. I didn’t find out that I was diagnosed with PTSD until 2017 through a FOIA request. I love my country dearly but I absolutely hate our political figures.
If you tried to take your own life once because of passed down/transferred PTSD, why would you sign up to go into a situation that you KNOW causes PTSD and just might ACTUALLY be too traumatic to process and possibly be your breaking point?
I have wondered the same thing, but they probably do it because they feel like there's no other choice.
The kid was 12 at the time. It’s called mental resilience. After all this time I’m sure he’s built up his mental health to a state where he knows he can confidently be able to handle stress and whatever the military brings on mentally. I delt with anxiety and depression all through my teenage years and now I’m in my mid twenties and am working on becoming a law enforcement officer because I have spend the past couple years in therapy and gone through some of the toughest years in my life and am getting out on the other side knowing I can handle anything. It’s all about perspective. I know I’ll see terrible things as a first responder. But I know how to handle that stress and anxiety now and not let it build up and enjoy life a lot more.
Is there veterans that don’t experienced PTSD when they come back from war or anything that does with war. Is it more common in man veteran or a woman veterans or is it the same percentage?
Whats sad is seeing service members argue over disability pay. crabs in a barrel