my mom was the same way. we were not close when I was younger and lived in the same house but now that I moved out, our relationship got so much better.
hot take: being a "tiger mom" is just a thinly veiled excuse for having a terrible personality and when you become old and frail you now somehow think you're just allowed to revert that. hell no. there's a reason why asians never reach out to their families. esp their dads.
It's not just a personality issue either. It's a behavioural issue, & probably along with generational trauma, & so on. Cycles might continue on unless someone breaks it for their future family &/or if the current parents are able to heal & work on themselves.
It depends on the family dynamic obviously, but in general a lot of first gen Asian parents are coming from a place of having struggled surviving in the U.S. as immigrants and their strict/harsh parenting is due to them wanting their kids to live comfortable lives. They deeply care about their children, unfortunately many don’t realize that’s not how it’s going to be perceived by the kids, instead leading to them harboring resentment.
@@boyofin-j5g these abusers KNOW that their behavior is terrible. wanting your children to live comfortable lives is hardly an excuse for abuse. because that's literally what it is. do you know why they think their objectively terrible behavior would be well-received? you know what they say? they just fully bank on the fact that "we are their parents", and so their children would love them back. that's it. that's the only line of defense they have. i know this because that is VERBATIM what these abusers have said and i've heard it coming out of their mouths. after their children stopped contacting.
Hot take: they’re human just like you and did the best they could. Most likely moved from a different country, learn a new language, and work 50-60 hrs a week while raising children isn’t easy. You probably get offended by pronouns and internet comments, yall not the same 😂
@@peters4115 It all depends. Some still have good intentions but have troubles with their toxic/unhealthy traits. Some are just abusive. It all depends on the human
I swear the way most of otv and friends talk about their parents concerns me so much. cuz wdym they don't say ily and don't hug u and just wanna humiliate u???? thats....so fucked
but that's just most Asian families.. and this is coming from someone from an Asian household.. Probably most Asians have trauma from our own families, like our family is the cause of our mental health issues :]
This is completely normal Asian parents. I never hug my parents. Once my ex-girlfriend who is white went to hug my Mum and she was so visibly confused. I pretty much never heard my Mum say I love you until I was about 28 when I had a big health issue.
@@staticgeeked2270 even if she were a millionaire, their neglectful or extremely controlling and toxic parents still do not deserve a thing, it has nothing to do with what you currently have but how u were treated
my mom was the same way. we were not close when I was younger and lived in the same house but now that I moved out, our relationship got so much better.
hot take: being a "tiger mom" is just a thinly veiled excuse for having a terrible personality and when you become old and frail you now somehow think you're just allowed to revert that. hell no.
there's a reason why asians never reach out to their families. esp their dads.
It's not just a personality issue either. It's a behavioural issue, & probably along with generational trauma, & so on. Cycles might continue on unless someone breaks it for their future family &/or if the current parents are able to heal & work on themselves.
It depends on the family dynamic obviously, but in general a lot of first gen Asian parents are coming from a place of having struggled surviving in the U.S. as immigrants and their strict/harsh parenting is due to them wanting their kids to live comfortable lives. They deeply care about their children, unfortunately many don’t realize that’s not how it’s going to be perceived by the kids, instead leading to them harboring resentment.
@@boyofin-j5g these abusers KNOW that their behavior is terrible. wanting your children to live comfortable lives is hardly an excuse for abuse. because that's literally what it is.
do you know why they think their objectively terrible behavior would be well-received? you know what they say? they just fully bank on the fact that "we are their parents", and so their children would love them back. that's it. that's the only line of defense they have.
i know this because that is VERBATIM what these abusers have said and i've heard it coming out of their mouths. after their children stopped contacting.
Hot take: they’re human just like you and did the best they could. Most likely moved from a different country, learn a new language, and work 50-60 hrs a week while raising children isn’t easy. You probably get offended by pronouns and internet comments, yall not the same 😂
@@peters4115 It all depends. Some still have good intentions but have troubles with their toxic/unhealthy traits. Some are just abusive. It all depends on the human
"Annual Check", she is probably being a mom and saying she needs her annual doctors wellness visit.
Dang I am getting emotional it's sad what a lot of kids are put through.
I swear the way most of otv and friends talk about their parents concerns me so much. cuz wdym they don't say ily and don't hug u and just wanna humiliate u???? thats....so fucked
but that's just most Asian families.. and this is coming from someone from an Asian household.. Probably most Asians have trauma from our own families, like our family is the cause of our mental health issues :]
This is completely normal Asian parents. I never hug my parents. Once my ex-girlfriend who is white went to hug my Mum and she was so visibly confused. I pretty much never heard my Mum say I love you until I was about 28 when I had a big health issue.
@ yeah totally agree
Very normal in Asian households. Our love language is very different to western cultures.
I feel so bad for Yvonne 😭
I feel u yvonnie 😭😭🫂
my mother in law
XD my mother
I’ve redacted my own personal stories of having a Korean mother lol. But I relate heavily. We need more warmth and kindness 🫠
So ungrateful
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Ur children owe u nothing if u were a terrible parent, actually, even if u were a good parent, they still do not owe u squat
Mom?
@@misslen575 oh yes the hard life of being a LA influencer living without money issues
@@staticgeeked2270 even if she were a millionaire, their neglectful or extremely controlling and toxic parents still do not deserve a thing, it has nothing to do with what you currently have but how u were treated