‘Doing more for them does not make them like you. How you make them feel does. It’s how you make him feel. You have to make him feel good in relation to you’
It’s crazy because we could think that pleasing them sexually is what we should do in the moment because they do want that, but ultimately if you do it too soon it could have the opposite effect and they might lose respect for you and it sucks when that happens.
Thank you. Yesterday I had a man call me a "princess" because I told him I didn't want to go on a date after he ghosted me for over a day. He did it before too (left me on read for four days) and I gave him this last chance. When I said I needed someone communicative he said I was expecting way too much. Hahaha. Like boy, if you think texting a woman back within a reasonable amount of time is princess treatment then I know I'd never even get flowers from you on birthdays. NO THANKS.
@@Ark-ys2upyeah she's also forgetting that feminine energy will move away from masculine energy that is not strong or balanced she will feel either unprotected or smothered if they move to closely towards you because we don't want his toxically masculine energy to rub off on us I don't agree with treating men like toddlers either but I also don't agree with letting them treat you like a toddler because it's gross if that's why he's attracted to you. And once again if that man doesn't know how to balance his emotions in a healthy way he's not going to go very far in life with any woman because the kind of woman he's asking for doesn't find him attractive and she may never will because he's looking to deeply into it that it doesn't feel natural or healthy anymore for her to continue pursuing him for any reason. If he doesn't have his emotions in check or his shit together she will always be turned off by this because it's just dumb for a man to play dumb like that because it doesn't work for them. There trying to be someone there not and that's what's pushing women away from them is the aggression and overly loud obnoxious stories about all there ex lovers cheating on them. I find it funny when they sit there and have the nerve to wonder why she cheated on them too some women have very good reasons for it even if it's not socially acceptable some women just don't care about men to that level because they found out it wasn't worth it. They convinced themselves that they were the prize here and that's how they would up with a less attractive woman.
Work on yourself. SELF LOVE. Once you discover that, the wrong people will dismiss themselves and the good ones will rise to your level. Thats really it!
@@lifeofamodernwomanits because you're still not focusing on yourself so you're not getting the self love you need to carry with you. Focus on loving yourself, being kind to yourself, healing your past and taking care of your body for the sake of loving yourself, knowing yourself and setting the standard for how you are to be loved, not for "it to work." That shows that you are focused on them, outward and not inward, drawing them close etc. and probably have that energy targeted toward someone specific. There will be people who will not level up with you, some might, but you have to be willing to let go. You're inner work also helps you to do that and lean on your faith.
The older I get, the more this realization keeps hitting me. No matter what, no matter if you do more, if you do less, if someone does not want you, or is unhappy with themselves. Nothing will change that. Nothing. Stop putting so much pressure on yourselves ladies. If you don’t like how they are treating you, as you are, just quietly leave and move on.
That's is why you have to do less, so that incase he is a player, and does not want any commitment, you saved yourself from mental trauma and emotional headache!
In fact the very first thing we ought to do is to check if he is the type for us we should have some standards and one of them is ( a gentleman and a provider mentality)
Dang as a dude this is a super good video. I’m doing the best to stop worrying about what a woman can give me and instead how can I be a good man for her. It’s refreshing hearing a woman talk about woman learning how to appreciate a man. That’s what we are starving for. I just ordered the book “Love & Respect.” Can’t wait to dig into it.
A whole word and then some! I'm an older woman and I am so proud of the younger generation of women speaking up about these dynamics between men and women that have become skewed over time for various reasons. This was an incredible breakdown.
I needed to hear this. My current boyfriend and I are on a break right now and hearing this made me realize he is just immature and will never give me what I truly want and need. Throughout the relationship I drove him everywhere, always paid, always planned the dates, all while i was just begging for the bare minimum that I rarely recieved. He told me he isn’t ready for a relationship right now and I just sat their and cried and begged for him to reconsider basically saying I'd do anything to make it work. I told him I would throw away all of my standards and desires just to be with him because I love him. But honestly staying in a relationship because I love him and am scared of him finding someone else while I allow him to do whatever he wants probably isnt very good. I was starting to think that what I am asking for is too much but it wont be too much from the right person, and I hope he realises what an amazing girl he is losing.
Break up already and move on! Do not wait to see him "Realize" cuz we both know if it were to happen it already would've but it wont! He had you easy and does not intend to put any efforts for you! Starting fresh with a new man with new standards is your answer! Leave this man like he never happened.. ❤️
Girl, I wish you the best! Give yourself time to get over him and to heal yourself after the breakup, and I promise, you will have so much better! He won't realize you're worth, but someone else definitely will
Hey, Can some1 pls guide me here.... Recently I met this guy who gave all the Healthy Masculine vibes... but later I saw him withdrawing n I matched his energy and distanced myself with an open heart.... later as thanks giving I sent him a gratitude note too as we weren't dating or something but still as a guy frnd he stood up for me when occasion demanded..... My quest here is when he has withdrawn n me sending this gratitude note will it be considered as me playing games to get him back or am simply dng it out of my nature (sending to all gratitude notes) I know my intentions but how it comes across to the other person matters too:) Thanks❤
There are so many women who take on the majority of the mental load in a relationship. As soon as they get married or are in a long term relationship so many men love to hand that responsibility over to their partner I see it so often and experienced this. I broke up with my fiance because I had to organise house applications, bills, repayments, handing any conflicts, No, I looked ahead 10 years and thought, I do not want to be wearing the pants in this relationship in another 10 years.
They’re really are people out here dating to just sleep around . Hence why tinder and all the other dating apps are still in business. Designed to keep the people on there single
Dating Pre-Reqs For Him - he take away the mental load?(stress free life in a relationship) - he listens to you - his action and words aline For You - learn how to appreciate a man - what do you need to stop doing?
Hey, Can some1 pls guide me here.... Recently I met this guy who gave all the Healthy Masculine vibes... but later I saw him withdrawing n I matched his energy and distanced myself with an open heart.... later as thanks giving I sent him a gratitude note too as we weren't dating or something but still as a guy frnd he stood up for me when occasion demanded..... My quest here is when he has withdrawn n me sending this gratitude note will it be considered as me playing games to get him back or am simply dng it out of my nature (sending to all gratitude notes) I know my intentions but how it comes across to the other person matters too:) Thanks❤
If he is healthy-minded then he would have just taken the note at face value. Lots of reasons why he may have stopped persuing you and unlikely to be anything personal about you but it sounds like that's what has happened and you have no control over that outcome. You need to get back out there meeting other guys
If he is healthy-minded then he would have just taken the note at face value. Lots of reasons why he may have stopped persuing you and unlikely to be anything personal about you but it sounds like that's what has happened and you have no control over that outcome. You need to get back out there meeting other guys
I just finished blocking 5 guys off of my rotational dating roster. Felt like THEY positioned themselves as the passive ones expecting ME to chase them. When they would talk to me, they'd offer me words of encouragement almost as if they wanted to INSPIRE me to take action to commit an act that leads to pursuing them 😂 NO. WAY.
That’s great! However, you’re attracted A LOT of feminine men, and feminine men get attracted to masculine women. So maybe you need to do some inner work on any wounded masculinity too ❤
Being a man I know a lot of men tend to follow the biggest Alpha males. There's a lot of dumb egoistic behavior in this. Out of frustration of not getting towards the top a lot of men tend to get sarcastic towards each other and eventually even lose their manliness towards women and/or become gay. All this behavior develops allready in most mens teenage years... Of course alpha females from the good and bad side exist as well, creating (focussing on the bad for now here..) sarcastic women (also through series like sex and the city, desperate housewives, etc.) and eventually very manly women. One very good solution for this is to choose the right friend groups!! Don't go into egoisticly, sarcastic friendgroups (no matter if you're a men or woman..). It will drain your energy and will drain your healthy energy which should be reserved towards the other sexe😊 This can be a lonely process at times, but more rewarding😎 and less lonely and draining then being around people who think it's okee to be fake and sarcastic🤢
Most males now act very feminine and wants to be pursued. Doesn’t mean you’re masculine, like someone here stated. I wear dresses, have long hair, very feminine overall and still getting those passive guys too.
I started crying when you said a man should take your mental load. I’ve been in a marriage where I’ve been carrying massive burdens and it’s been so stressful. You are definitely living your purpose! I felt so guided to start watching your videos. Learning to be in my feminine energy has definitely been a theme for me lately.
I love how honest you are. There is no bs, or only talking shit about men, but you also call women out how to behave and be responsible of our choises. It’s much more helpful and empowering to know WE HAVE THE POWER.
I like how she’s not just giving women generic cliche top tips to keep a man. She’s actually breaking down the polar energy that is taking place. Then us as the audience can figure out what to do on our own. Simple yet deep well understood points to think about.
Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone
Please please please make a part two! I’m constantly talking to my high school aged daughter about these things and you’re so helpful! She’ll watch the video and we’ll talk. It also helps to see her dad treat me like you talk about so it will help her not settle as well. Thank you!!!!!!
The dad plays a big role in how women view themselves and how they view men. Dad needs to teach confidence and show his daughter how she should be treated. Unfortunately, a lot of us are fatherless, and a lot of present fathers are feminine in their own right. It's up to the individual to seek out this info as well.
@@user_abcxyzz He treats me like a queen and she sees it. These videos help her see it from an outsider’s perspective and Vickita is much more eloquent than I.
Ohh yes I'm 22 n I certainly observe my dad and mom.... also my dad surprises me and treats me like a queen so Ik exactly wht to expect from men I see women in comment section gng thru heartbreaks it pains my heart god bless them ❤ Love Vickita pls make such videos it gives us a model in current times
Like a psychologist said "Most people want what they want, not what wants them." To me it help us all (Men and Women) to take stock of what we are attracting and make adjustments from there or at least take it into consideration in picking a partner.
I worked on myself for years, am very much a feminine, full time mom. I have standards. Haven't been asked out in two years. Just want to put it out there that there is a time limit on this. Please please learn this in your 20s when there are lots of options for husbands. I'm in my mid 40s and high value men are taken now. I refuse to change my standards and I am surrounded by gentlemen energy, but single men? None. So learn this sooner rather than later ladies
That's an illusion. They are not. They want an independent person. Not a dependent. The real high value ones are sitting their milk in the freezer. The ones feeling around are in straight simp mode with multiple prostitutes. Both are getting sicker. He just doesn't know it yet.
Please don't take it the wrong way, I don't know your situation, but I know women in their 40s or 50s who get pursued a lot. It has a lot to do with your self esteem/love for yourself and also how you visually present yourself. These women all take such good care of themselves, healthy eating, spa treatments, high quality clothing and etc. I'm just saying this, because it is definitely not too late for you to meet someone who is up to your standards!
BINGO you nailed it OP. I was out of the dating pool fir 10 years (late 20s to mid 30s) due to becoming disabled, and when I reentered, I was more mature to know what I wanted but all the high value people have partnered up. Also, let's not lie that men are more looks and youthfulness driven in partner selection, and we literally can't compete with 20somethings (though men our age should not be dating them anymore!)
I get pursued a lot as well, but not by the quality partner u would want to spend my life with. I look and feel the best I have ever felt but the real choice men are not playing any fields.
I promise you I've been watching these types of self help, motivational, whatever videos since I was 14 maybe less, I'm 21 now and it gets tiring listening to the same speeches, but istg you put things into an entire new perspective for me on each video! thank you!
I've never heard or seen the energy play between the masculine and feminine so beautifully articulated. You had my complete attention the entire time, and I was able to take in this information so easily. Thank you so much❤
I love your channel ❤ I am 46 years old & have been on my self healing journey since 2019 & have stayed single & celibate since 2020 . It was the best decision I have ever made for myself . I realized through three years of solitude that it was ME all along . I was simply attracting exactly what I was at the time . Now , I continue to work on myself & the rest will follow ❤
I am 44, on the same boat with you o. Healing and working on myself. I’m stlll on that journey and along the way the men who don’t respect me have dismissed themselves.
So when you feel the fear, instead of leaning forward and pressuring them even a little, lean back. Lean back into paying attention and healing yourself thus allowing him the space to come forward if he chooses. Mostly likely, he will sense some pain and distance and take a small step forward. This makes sense. And if you're going inward but not blocking him, just letting things be, and he still doesn't take a step forward to meet you a bit, then obviously he is not into it so you're best focusing on your own energy anyway. I hope I understand correctly.
Thanks for putting it together for us.... I feel bad when I lean bqck n the man still doesn,t step up to the occasion it almost feels like I can't have my desires met I can't do anything as a woman either a man is into me or not even though I may start having feelings for him! Damnnn
When a piece of shit walks away from you, take it as a badge of honor that you dodged a bullet!! Bad people walking away is a GOOD thing!!! We get so scared of rejection that we beg from attention from bad people smh@@girlish-y4v
The analogy about having invisible boundaries around you and an alarm goes off when they are stepped over is great. Also about knowing how you react to little things versus big things, an issue I have is not knowing how will react to certain types of boundaries being overstepped. When something small happens that I dislike I can disappear for days at a time so I suppose it doesn’t make any distinction between us something big happens
When the Student is ready, the Teacher will appear. Thank you for being right on time in my feed... exactly ready to learn this contact during this time in my journey. Feel Blessed for having found your channel. Thank you! 💖
Real Talk: In my experience, dudes who are “toddlers” are that way because they’ve been coddled by their overbearing parents - blame the parents, they’re the real culprits! I know what I’m talking about. 👑
Yes I agree, they have been spoiled by their parents. But after some point, it's an individual's responsibility to grow up n heal. In this day n age of immense knowledge on internet n various books, there is no excuse. More often dn not most ppl have childhood traumas but it's our responsibility to try to heal from it. So one shouldn't entertain such toddlers coz we ll become their enablers just like their parents were.
Yep! Their mama’s boys in an extreme and unhealthy way! They’re looking for a woman to fill that role but they probably won’t marry the woman who does OR they do and expect her to do all of the labor - physical and mental (emotional) 🤮
I’m a king & I don’t want women that are acting on the wounded feminine energy, I want a woman that makes me feel comfortable, confident, seen, heard, and loved. I would be so glad to give to a woman that takes stress away from my life rather than adding more I just want a woman that I can have good conversations with, vibe well with, & be physically intimate with. I want to be tranquil & at peace But also happy & exited every day. Great video keep up the good work 👍
As a man watching this video I wanna say I do agree with a lot that she said. My only disagreement is when she said the more you do for a man the less he will care… me personally, when my woman does things for me it actually motivates me to do all I can for her because the relationship doesn’t feel one-sided… especially in todays world where a lot of women feel like they shouldn’t do anything for a man. Having a woman that genuinely cares for a mans well being is the ultimate prize❤
You're so wise beyond your years. So much to take in. I had to slow the video speed down so my brain could really take in all your pearls of wisdom in the video girl! ❤🎉
Honestly, I'm hooked. This is the solid advice I need without the pastel wording- it boils down to being a better healthier woman, to attract better healthier people around them. But on a side note, PLEASE, where did you get that amazing top because I love it!!
I am obsessed with your videos and your knowledge! I wish Someone taught me this growing up! Thank you! Please don't ever stop making this kind of self-growth videos. It's definitely your calling.
The same for me - my dad was the first man to hurt me and mislead me BUT I was able to confront my childhood trauma and heal! Once I got through the thick of it I started dating differently and it’s glorious! It’s never too late to learn to be in the divine feminine.
I'm 27 and i feel like i really have to higher my standards immensely so i won't grt played all the time and treated like shit. Guys are just so manipulative in coming on super strong so you think they're really into you, but as soon as you show interest they're over the hill and testing your standards.. even kissing a guy without him asking you for a real date is leading nowhere.. i'm too soft for these stupid games of men -.-
The first 2 points are perfect! Most of the time of my life I attracted more feminine men. But I like it. That time. Because I was more in my masculine side. But now I want slow down and been treated. So I try to connect with my feminine energy to attract perfect masculine man.
I always affirm I'm thriving in all areas of my life and vickita your helping me through this insane . All the best things are attracted to you , keep growing and prosper 🎉
Girl, you are good. Your channel is going to blow up! So wise!! I love it❤ Im married and successfully got my husband to changed and get into my feminine energy. But at time he still acts up, this is a powerful reminder ❤
This video is so valuable and accurate. I watched it twice and I will probably watch it a third time to let it all sink in and process fully. You touch upon very real issues and the points you made are so eloquently voiced that rewatching the video is just a must! Thank you for sharing this, it's definitely an uplifting video.💜
I effed up so much but ive been a health care assistant for 10 years and its aided me to care toooooo much about everyone elses needs except my own i even cut my hours down last year bc i needed to get my life together But i will heal!! And even if its not the guy i eff up with i willll get what i need and heal
You're a great speaker! Perfect pace, clear repetitive examples. I don't get bored listening! Loved the 'come up for air', i hadn't heard that before in the pull push dance. Regards from West Australia
Was 100% here for all of this until the passport thing. Girl… if you think keeping track of your own damn passport while traveling is too stressful that you need to rely on a man to do it, you’re a literal child. That is a very important personal document. If you’re traveling, especially out of the country, NOBODY ELSE, I repeat, NOBODY ELSE should be carrying that document for you. You need it on you at all times. And if that’s too much for you, you’re not adult enough to be in an adult relationship. My god.
Bro literally. I was taking the whole thing seriously but that part made me go “😀 huh?” It was so irrelevant, got nothing to do with feminine or masculine energy. We are simply adults , why would I trust someone else with my personal, official documents? Even if that someone happens to be my husband, I could trust my own adult brain to keep tracking on my own passport, couldn’t I? What am I, a child?
This is the best video I’ve seen of dating as a feminine woman. You broke it down so clearly, you have a gift and wisdom boy! Thank you for sharing it with us ❤❤
You are amazing in how you explain the masculine/feminine energy dynamic. I tried to explain this to my, now ex-BF and it never changed things. The more he leaned into his feminine energy, the more it pushed me into my masculine and the resentment built up. It took 3 break ups for me to realize that his words didn't match up with his actions. I've done a lot of work on myself after a toxic marriage and I thought this guy would be the last relationship I'd have. I was wrong. When someone doesn't do the work on themselves or doesn't see the relationship as a thing that can evolve and change, and lets his insecurities get in the way of stepping into his masculine energy, then it's time to move on. It took me 8 years to realize this. I'm much happier now being single and still working on myself to prepare for the right man who is in the same place. Thank you for all of the effort you put into this video. I hope it can help so many women out there who have lost that polarity you talk about, that spark. You've encouraged me to keep learning how to be a high value woman who can communicate her needs. ❤❤❤
You are so lucky! At your age i was naive as hell but i am glad bcz of my strict mother i never had any physical experience with a man that is why i am still a virgin at 27 today, and i am soo freaking glad and happy about it! It makes me feel blessed not to be used by these jerk men! But there are more frogs than prince in the pond so we have to be very careful! You are already absorbing all the info and growing with it, i am sure you'll turn out like a total Queen 👑 ❤
Ive been coming across content like is recently after deciding to try dating again. These videos are really just reassurance for me that im not asking for too much and to stand up for myself. Im a recovering people pleaser and that spilled into my dating life. Im no longer doing things for people im learning to do them for me. Thank you for this video keep up the amazing work.
Excellent video. What insight into relationship dynamics. I feel this is being lost. I've experienced and seen relationships break because the woman was expected to be the provider - a woman bringing too much masculine energy to a relationship just doesn't work in my opinion. The feminine is needed to balance things. Grateful you're speaking about this.
13:48 this is such an important part of the video. ladies, men aren’t dumb or incapable. if they’re not doing something they’re choosing to do so. walk away. i think it’s very important to note that men and women are socialized to operate in these ways and thus why it can work as a dynamic. but if we can raise sons that’s don’t simply operate “logically” 🙄 and actively operate with their emotions as well because they haven’t been neglected or stored away, we’d see a much healthier world
I am HP, I am very good at noticing very complexe and even abstract subjects and link them, understand them and explain them... and I get bored, fast, but you!! You have an extraordinary Relationship and Communicative intelligence! You do not judge, you state facts, you absolutely know what you are talking about and do not just repeat what someone else said! I am sooooo impressed (And that is really really hard to do!!) !! I am not searching at all for a relationship right now. But I believe that all Feminine/Masculine Dynamics first exist within us (often influenced by our parent's dynamics + our experiences). And you just helped me understand things and motivate me for my own self, Above and Beyond! A big Thank you and might you be blessed with all the Good stuff in all parts of your life!! 🥰💛💛💛
Thank you for sharing this. Men always made me feel like I wasn’t good enough and I was always trying to be better for them. Not anymore. I know my value ❤
They have unrealistic expectations. The girls they are used to does too. Both are fake. But they come together to make babies no problem. See how that sounds and is stupid? Stay out the way.
Your videos are absolute class. You have helped me build standards for myself and in men as well as move on from men who didn't provide and where I was expecting a lot because I was in the wrong energy and I needed to work on myself too. Thanks, Vickita (:
7:44 I YELLED PREACH!!!!!! 👏 really you said it!!!! This video is exactly what I truly needed you have no idea ❤I really resonate with you and you speak with complete clarity!
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I love the video and it is very valuable. But I would like to add one thing. EXAMPLES. I really like the way you dive into detail and how u explain. You say boundaries, correct behaviour and so on. I would really appreciate examples. Love your content💗🙌
what you said was true and mainly 'What he feels about you is important' is exceptional and Let me add few things. Men and women bond differently. 1)Just ask him to do things for you it may be small as opening the jar which makes him feel like a provider (masculine energy) to you and appreciate him. don't take it for granted. 2) men bond by working together do something that requires interaction find a task in which both are interested in NOT your tasks if you doing it first time. 3)men stay in place where they feel useful and needed. he will bond to you if there is some purpose to be with you. Men bond by working together and women by emotional intimacy. 4) always be precise about your communication tell you want him to understand but not say something and expect him to understand. The HOLY GRAIL OF EVERYTHING A woman who initiates. Initiate call and messages or something but not more than him.
@@missfabidiaif you want to be vulnerable and open you have to FEEL safe, so either he’s not making you feel safe/secure enough or you might have trauma from past relationships that still needs to be healed. hope that helped a little💚
OMG!! This video is simply superb. Girl! You spoke so much hard truth and I swear this was 6 months of therapy wrapped up into 1 video. Thank you so so much for unlocking the EXACT - literally the EXACT things I needed to hear/wake up from/be reminded of. Thank you!
First of all, you are STUNNING! 💕 second...thank you so much for putting this out. Your content helped me improve so much, I am very grateful! Thank you
I'm 29 years old and always suffered in relationships because i would do anything for my man and get nothing back except trauma. I'm in therapy now and learned that my co-dependecy to my father and they way he raised me turned me into a desperate woman, seeking love and affection from emotionally unavailable men. This video helped me so much, i cried listening to you, you gave me many answers which i needed. Thank you! I'm learning and i want to do it better in the future.
Girl, this is the truth! I went through the whole phase of wanting a 50/50 partner and it was so toxic. I would constantly compare what we were doing for each other time wise and monetarily, it was so detrimental. Now I'm in a relationship where he does look out for me and takes such good care of me and it is wonderful. And in turn has made me a better person because I want to comfort him and provide for him too. It's so much more loving.
Thank you so much Vickita! This episode is very helpful. I was wondering if you could talk about how relationships work between a muscular energy women and a feminine energy man?
One of the best vedio on TH-cam Regarding femenine energy I came across... Well explained... Precise... To the point and practical.... Love your way of differentiating two energies and the polarity between them..I visualized the concept along with your explanation simultaneously❤
Hi, just wanted to let you know this video was absolutely amazing!! You’re helping so many women and raising the conciseness here on earth. Blessings on to you love 🙏🏽🙏🏽💗💗
Yes yes i love this video is a true gem. And you look absolutely adorable here. 🥰 I love this point that a real masculine man is always ready and waiting for us!!! We just have to get ready for him and stop wasting time on losers!!
I just had to comment again because your intelligence is out of this world. It sounds like I am listening to a woman in her forties LATE fortied. My hat is tipped for you Miss. All due respect to you. Quite amazed.
‘You’ll either be too high mantainence for someone who can’t provide for you or just right for someone who’s been waiting for a girl like you’
50/50 men though….. kill sexual polarity too
Why would anyone want any man who can't provide for them
Why would any man want a women like this. Thats why no one likes anyone these days😮💨
My experience, very heart breaking.
‘Doing more for them does not make them like you. How you make them feel does. It’s how you make him feel. You have to make him feel good in relation to you’
Gold. I'm finally starting to understand it!
@@MissBluebirddays me too☺️
50/50 men though….. kill sexual polarity too
My brain can not comprehend, but this is 100% true and I need to work on this.
It’s crazy because we could think that pleasing them sexually is what we should do in the moment because they do want that, but ultimately if you do it too soon it could have the opposite effect and they might lose respect for you and it sucks when that happens.
Thank you. Yesterday I had a man call me a "princess" because I told him I didn't want to go on a date after he ghosted me for over a day. He did it before too (left me on read for four days) and I gave him this last chance. When I said I needed someone communicative he said I was expecting way too much. Hahaha. Like boy, if you think texting a woman back within a reasonable amount of time is princess treatment then I know I'd never even get flowers from you on birthdays. NO THANKS.
thank u, next
Happens to me too, I block them.No thks, bye 🙋🏻♀️.
@@VickitaTrivedi hai darling💋💋💋🤎
@@Ark-ys2upyeah she's also forgetting that feminine energy will move away from masculine energy that is not strong or balanced she will feel either unprotected or smothered if they move to closely towards you because we don't want his toxically masculine energy to rub off on us I don't agree with treating men like toddlers either but I also don't agree with letting them treat you like a toddler because it's gross if that's why he's attracted to you.
And once again if that man doesn't know how to balance his emotions in a healthy way he's not going to go very far in life with any woman because the kind of woman he's asking for doesn't find him attractive and she may never will because he's looking to deeply into it that it doesn't feel natural or healthy anymore for her to continue pursuing him for any reason.
If he doesn't have his emotions in check or his shit together she will always be turned off by this because it's just dumb for a man to play dumb like that because it doesn't work for them. There trying to be someone there not and that's what's pushing women away from them is the aggression and overly loud obnoxious stories about all there ex lovers cheating on them.
I find it funny when they sit there and have the nerve to wonder why she cheated on them too some women have very good reasons for it even if it's not socially acceptable some women just don't care about men to that level because they found out it wasn't worth it.
They convinced themselves that they were the prize here and that's how they would up with a less attractive woman.
A disrespecting loser who couldn't even meet the bare minimum 🏃♀️🏃♀️
A good reminder for the girlies: It is never too late to do any of this. Whether you are in a new relationship or an old one. It's never too late.
The thing is, you have to be willing to walk away, or ur stuck and they won't change
Unless we’re married 😢
@@PandaZelda this is America, get a divorce
Exactly, never say never. Polishing up my shine ✨ at 63
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@@sayusayme7729 Absolutely stunning, you are glowing! Anyone who gets you is extremely lucky!
Work on yourself. SELF LOVE. Once you discover that, the wrong people will dismiss themselves and the good ones will rise to your level. Thats really it!
amen!
Even when you do this, for years, it doesn’t happen as easily as you think.
@@lifeofamodernwomanits because you're still not focusing on yourself so you're not getting the self love you need to carry with you.
Focus on loving yourself, being kind to yourself, healing your past and taking care of your body for the sake of loving yourself, knowing yourself and setting the standard for how you are to be loved, not for "it to work." That shows that you are focused on them, outward and not inward, drawing them close etc. and probably have that energy targeted toward someone specific. There will be people who will not level up with you, some might, but you have to be willing to let go. You're inner work also helps you to do that and lean on your faith.
Exactly 💯 💛💙💕
No one say it's easy, but you are on your way🤍. Don't worry too much about the outcome, enjoy the process✨ @@lifeofamodernwoman
The older I get, the more this realization keeps hitting me. No matter what, no matter if you do more, if you do less, if someone does not want you, or is unhappy with themselves. Nothing will change that. Nothing. Stop putting so much pressure on yourselves ladies. If you don’t like how they are treating you, as you are, just quietly leave and move on.
That's is why you have to do less, so that incase he is a player, and does not want any commitment, you saved yourself from mental trauma and emotional headache!
In fact the very first thing we ought to do is to check if he is the type for us we should have some standards and one of them is ( a gentleman and a provider mentality)
Dang as a dude this is a super good video. I’m doing the best to stop worrying about what a woman can give me and instead how can I be a good man for her. It’s refreshing hearing a woman talk about woman learning how to appreciate a man. That’s what we are starving for. I just ordered the book “Love & Respect.” Can’t wait to dig into it.
I am your first subscriber! appreciate your comment. ✨✨much abundance and prosperity and peace to you 🦋
Love this! This is the shift we need so we can have the polarity from both sides! ❤
I'm reading that book right now too. It's enlightening on so many levels ❤
The book is so good I hope you enjoy it and learn a lot
You made me search for it. I am going to read it
A whole word and then some! I'm an older woman and I am so proud of the younger generation of women speaking up about these dynamics between men and women that have become skewed over time for various reasons. This was an incredible breakdown.
I needed to hear this. My current boyfriend and I are on a break right now and hearing this made me realize he is just immature and will never give me what I truly want and need. Throughout the relationship I drove him everywhere, always paid, always planned the dates, all while i was just begging for the bare minimum that I rarely recieved. He told me he isn’t ready for a relationship right now and I just sat their and cried and begged for him to reconsider basically saying I'd do anything to make it work. I told him I would throw away all of my standards and desires just to be with him because I love him. But honestly staying in a relationship because I love him and am scared of him finding someone else while I allow him to do whatever he wants probably isnt very good. I was starting to think that what I am asking for is too much but it wont be too much from the right person, and I hope he realises what an amazing girl he is losing.
Break up already and move on! Do not wait to see him "Realize" cuz we both know if it were to happen it already would've but it wont! He had you easy and does not intend to put any efforts for you! Starting fresh with a new man with new standards is your answer! Leave this man like he never happened.. ❤️
Girl, I wish you the best! Give yourself time to get over him and to heal yourself after the breakup, and I promise, you will have so much better! He won't realize you're worth, but someone else definitely will
Yes get out of it early! I did that for 15 years it is not fun being that girl
Please pour that love into yourself
Hey,
Can some1 pls guide me here....
Recently I met this guy who gave all the Healthy Masculine vibes... but later I saw him withdrawing n I matched his energy and distanced myself with an open heart.... later as thanks giving I sent him a gratitude note too as we weren't dating or something but still as a guy frnd he stood up for me when occasion demanded.....
My quest here is when he has withdrawn n me sending this gratitude note will it be considered as me playing games to get him back or am simply dng it out of my nature (sending to all gratitude notes)
I know my intentions but how it comes across to the other person matters too:)
Thanks❤
“Is my feminine energy INSPIRING his masculine energy” someone else gave me this advice and it turned my boyfriend into my husband. 💍
There are so many women who take on the majority of the mental load in a relationship. As soon as they get married or are in a long term relationship so many men love to hand that responsibility over to their partner I see it so often and experienced this. I broke up with my fiance because I had to organise house applications, bills, repayments, handing any conflicts, No, I looked ahead 10 years and thought, I do not want to be wearing the pants in this relationship in another 10 years.
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
Dating should be with the intent to marry only. Don't give your body up until then. It cuts out so much wasted time and hurt feelings.
1000% second this comment
It’s the best ❤️
They’re really are people out here dating to just sleep around . Hence why tinder and all the other dating apps are still in business. Designed to keep the people on there single
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😂😂😂
Not exaggerating, this is the best video I’ve seen on describing these polarities when it comes to dating.
made my day
I agree! I am so impressed with her 💙💯
True
Yes in a very kind poignant and classy way. ❤
Frrrrr. Nobody explains it the way she does!!
Dating Pre-Reqs
For Him
- he take away the mental load?(stress free life in a relationship)
- he listens to you
- his action and words aline
For You
- learn how to appreciate a man
- what do you need to stop doing?
Hey,
Can some1 pls guide me here....
Recently I met this guy who gave all the Healthy Masculine vibes... but later I saw him withdrawing n I matched his energy and distanced myself with an open heart.... later as thanks giving I sent him a gratitude note too as we weren't dating or something but still as a guy frnd he stood up for me when occasion demanded.....
My quest here is when he has withdrawn n me sending this gratitude note will it be considered as me playing games to get him back or am simply dng it out of my nature (sending to all gratitude notes)
I know my intentions but how it comes across to the other person matters too:)
Thanks❤
@@girlish-y4vHe doesn't take it serious you are just over thinking.
@@girlish-y4v I would say get out now before you need him to step up and he withdraws. You withdrew, and he did not chase.
If he is healthy-minded then he would have just taken the note at face value. Lots of reasons why he may have stopped persuing you and unlikely to be anything personal about you but it sounds like that's what has happened and you have no control over that outcome. You need to get back out there meeting other guys
If he is healthy-minded then he would have just taken the note at face value. Lots of reasons why he may have stopped persuing you and unlikely to be anything personal about you but it sounds like that's what has happened and you have no control over that outcome. You need to get back out there meeting other guys
I just finished blocking 5 guys off of my rotational dating roster.
Felt like THEY positioned themselves as the passive ones expecting ME to chase them. When they would talk to me, they'd offer me words of encouragement almost as if they wanted to INSPIRE me to take action to commit an act that leads to pursuing them 😂
NO. WAY.
That’s great! However, you’re attracted A LOT of feminine men, and feminine men get attracted to masculine women. So maybe you need to do some inner work on any wounded masculinity too ❤
Can you give me an example of how they this this so I can spot this kinda of subtle stuff? ❤
Yes this is dating now so many guys want to be chased it’s unattractive cause it’s unnatural
Being a man I know a lot of men tend to follow the biggest Alpha males.
There's a lot of dumb egoistic behavior in this.
Out of frustration of not getting towards the top a lot of men tend to get sarcastic
towards each other and eventually even lose their manliness towards women
and/or become gay.
All this behavior develops allready in most mens teenage years...
Of course alpha females from the good and bad side exist as well, creating (focussing on the bad for now here..) sarcastic women (also through series like sex and the city, desperate housewives, etc.)
and eventually very manly women.
One very good solution for this is to choose the right friend groups!!
Don't go into egoisticly, sarcastic friendgroups (no matter if you're a men or woman..).
It will drain your energy and will drain your healthy energy
which should be reserved towards the other sexe😊
This can be a lonely process at times, but more rewarding😎 and less lonely and
draining then being around people who think it's okee to be fake and sarcastic🤢
Most males now act very feminine and wants to be pursued. Doesn’t mean you’re masculine, like someone here stated. I wear dresses, have long hair, very feminine overall and still getting those passive guys too.
I started crying when you said a man should take your mental load. I’ve been in a marriage where I’ve been carrying massive burdens and it’s been so stressful. You are definitely living your purpose! I felt so guided to start watching your videos. Learning to be in my feminine energy has definitely been a theme for me lately.
I love how honest you are. There is no bs, or only talking shit about men, but you also call women out how to behave and be responsible of our choises. It’s much more helpful and empowering to know WE HAVE THE POWER.
I like how she’s not just giving women generic cliche top tips to keep a man. She’s actually breaking down the polar energy that is taking place. Then us as the audience can figure out what to do on our own. Simple yet deep well understood points to think about.
Such a valuable video! I don’t often promote books, but the book women’s magic truths on borlest is an exception. It’s packed with insights on wealth and self-care that are not widely known. All the best to everyone
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@@aravoir Seriously, a bot!
Please please please make a part two! I’m constantly talking to my high school aged daughter about these things and you’re so helpful! She’ll watch the video and we’ll talk. It also helps to see her dad treat me like you talk about so it will help her not settle as well.
Thank you!!!!!!
The dad plays a big role in how women view themselves and how they view men. Dad needs to teach confidence and show his daughter how she should be treated. Unfortunately, a lot of us are fatherless, and a lot of present fathers are feminine in their own right. It's up to the individual to seek out this info as well.
@@user_abcxyzz He treats me like a queen and she sees it. These videos help her see it from an outsider’s perspective and Vickita is much more eloquent than I.
Ohh yes I'm 22 n I certainly observe my dad and mom.... also my dad surprises me and treats me like a queen so Ik exactly wht to expect from men I see women in comment section gng thru heartbreaks it pains my heart god bless them ❤
Love
Vickita pls make such videos it gives us a model in current times
You’re the best mom❤ she will grow up being really successful!
i wish my parents did that as an 18 year old
Like a psychologist said "Most people want what they want, not what wants them." To me it help us all (Men and Women) to take stock of what we are attracting and make adjustments from there or at least take it into consideration in picking a partner.
I flip that quote into “What I want, wants me!” Self confidence and attitude is everything!
I worked on myself for years, am very much a feminine, full time mom. I have standards. Haven't been asked out in two years. Just want to put it out there that there is a time limit on this. Please please learn this in your 20s when there are lots of options for husbands. I'm in my mid 40s and high value men are taken now. I refuse to change my standards and I am surrounded by gentlemen energy, but single men? None. So learn this sooner rather than later ladies
That's an illusion. They are not. They want an independent person. Not a dependent. The real high value ones are sitting their milk in the freezer. The ones feeling around are in straight simp mode with multiple prostitutes. Both are getting sicker. He just doesn't know it yet.
Please don't take it the wrong way, I don't know your situation, but I know women in their 40s or 50s who get pursued a lot. It has a lot to do with your self esteem/love for yourself and also how you visually present yourself. These women all take such good care of themselves, healthy eating, spa treatments, high quality clothing and etc. I'm just saying this, because it is definitely not too late for you to meet someone who is up to your standards!
BINGO you nailed it OP. I was out of the dating pool fir 10 years (late 20s to mid 30s) due to becoming disabled, and when I reentered, I was more mature to know what I wanted but all the high value people have partnered up.
Also, let's not lie that men are more looks and youthfulness driven in partner selection, and we literally can't compete with 20somethings (though men our age should not be dating them anymore!)
I get pursued a lot as well, but not by the quality partner u would want to spend my life with. I look and feel the best I have ever felt but the real choice men are not playing any fields.
High value men break up and get divorced every day. The things you tell yourself matter.
I promise you I've been watching these types of self help, motivational, whatever videos since I was 14 maybe less, I'm 21 now and it gets tiring listening to the same speeches, but istg you put things into an entire new perspective for me on each video! thank you!
this made my dayyyyy
Girl I watched this once….then rewinded it and watched it again! Great information as always ❤️
Yay! Thank you! ❤️
Chapter cards:
Masc/Fem explained: 3:07
High-value standards: 9:59
Pre-reqs for him: 14:45
Pre-reqs for you: 18:05
What you need to stop doing: 18:47
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I've never heard or seen the energy play between the masculine and feminine so beautifully articulated. You had my complete attention the entire time, and I was able to take in this information so easily. Thank you so much❤
She is absolutely right on this.
Divine femininity is extremely powerful 💙
I love your channel ❤
I am 46 years old & have been on my self healing journey since 2019 & have stayed single & celibate since 2020 .
It was the best decision I have ever made for myself . I realized through three years of solitude that it was ME all along . I was simply attracting exactly what I was at the time .
Now , I continue to work on myself & the rest will follow ❤
I am 44, on the same boat with you o. Healing and working on myself. I’m stlll on that journey and along the way the men who don’t respect me have dismissed themselves.
So when you feel the fear, instead of leaning forward and pressuring them even a little, lean back. Lean back into paying attention and healing yourself thus allowing him the space to come forward if he chooses. Mostly likely, he will sense some pain and distance and take a small step forward. This makes sense. And if you're going inward but not blocking him, just letting things be, and he still doesn't take a step forward to meet you a bit, then obviously he is not into it so you're best focusing on your own energy anyway. I hope I understand correctly.
Allow for a bit of space and gap.
Thanks for putting it together for us....
I feel bad when I lean bqck n the man still doesn,t step up to the occasion it almost feels like I can't have my desires met I can't do anything as a woman either a man is into me or not even though I may start having feelings for him! Damnnn
@@girlish-y4vStop leading with feelings. The walking dead do this.
When a piece of shit walks away from you, take it as a badge of honor that you dodged a bullet!! Bad people walking away is a GOOD thing!!! We get so scared of rejection that we beg from attention from bad people smh@@girlish-y4v
Only fall for men AFTER he falls for you. Limerence is a mental health issue. Only like people who like you back.@@girlish-y4v
The analogy about having invisible boundaries around you and an alarm goes off when they are stepped over is great. Also about knowing how you react to little things versus big things, an issue I have is not knowing how will react to certain types of boundaries being overstepped. When something small happens that I dislike I can disappear for days at a time so I suppose it doesn’t make any distinction between us something big happens
When the Student is ready, the Teacher will appear. Thank you for being right on time in my feed... exactly ready to learn this contact during this time in my journey. Feel Blessed for having found your channel. Thank you! 💖
Real Talk:
In my experience, dudes who are “toddlers” are that way because they’ve been coddled by their overbearing parents - blame the parents, they’re the real culprits!
I know what I’m talking about. 👑
Yes I agree, they have been spoiled by their parents. But after some point, it's an individual's responsibility to grow up n heal. In this day n age of immense knowledge on internet n various books, there is no excuse. More often dn not most ppl have childhood traumas but it's our responsibility to try to heal from it. So one shouldn't entertain such toddlers coz we ll become their enablers just like their parents were.
And the world in general
Mexican men
@@peaceandquiet1983
Actually, my comment applies to men of all races and nationalities. 🤔
Yep! Their mama’s boys in an extreme and unhealthy way! They’re looking for a woman to fill that role but they probably won’t marry the woman who does OR they do and expect her to do all of the labor - physical and mental (emotional) 🤮
I’m a king & I don’t want women that are acting on the wounded feminine energy, I want a woman that makes me feel comfortable, confident, seen, heard, and loved.
I would be so glad to give to a woman that takes stress away from my life rather than adding more
I just want a woman that I can have good conversations with, vibe well with, & be physically intimate with.
I want to be tranquil & at peace
But also happy & exited every day.
Great video keep up the good work 👍
totally agree! thanks for your perspective
but do YOU give her peace? safety and security? ur post sounds like she would be completely on her own! her feelings ARE who she is!
As a man watching this video I wanna say I do agree with a lot that she said. My only disagreement is when she said the more you do for a man the less he will care… me personally, when my woman does things for me it actually motivates me to do all I can for her because the relationship doesn’t feel one-sided… especially in todays world where a lot of women feel like they shouldn’t do anything for a man. Having a woman that genuinely cares for a mans well being is the ultimate prize❤
Sadly doing more make alot of men lose feeling
Well, it is a reality for many women that the more they do the less the men does
It’s not about you it’s about them
You're so wise beyond your years. So much to take in. I had to slow the video speed down so my brain could really take in all your pearls of wisdom in the video girl! ❤🎉
Honestly, I'm hooked. This is the solid advice I need without the pastel wording- it boils down to being a better healthier woman, to attract better healthier people around them.
But on a side note, PLEASE, where did you get that amazing top because I love it!!
I am obsessed with your videos and your knowledge! I wish Someone taught me this growing up! Thank you! Please don't ever stop making this kind of self-growth videos. It's definitely your calling.
you have no idea how much that means to me!
I used to be a softgirl but my toxic family forced me to be masculine and I hate that
Same.
Omg me too, and a few heartbreaks
Feel you!!
But never too late for us to change and be a lovergirl, we deserve love and a great man!
@@hunnysakura yesss I just hope it gets easier for me
The same for me - my dad was the first man to hurt me and mislead me BUT I was able to confront my childhood trauma and heal! Once I got through the thick of it I started dating differently and it’s glorious!
It’s never too late to learn to be in the divine feminine.
He definitely has told me “you don’t give me time to breathe” this is helpful ❤ I’m going to work on myself more.
I'm 27 and i feel like i really have to higher my standards immensely so i won't grt played all the time and treated like shit. Guys are just so manipulative in coming on super strong so you think they're really into you, but as soon as you show interest they're over the hill and testing your standards.. even kissing a guy without him asking you for a real date is leading nowhere.. i'm too soft for these stupid games of men -.-
You are the sister, mother, teacher I wish I had when I was younger. It would have saved me years and YEARS of heartbreak.
The first 2 points are perfect! Most of the time of my life I attracted more feminine men. But I like it. That time. Because I was more in my masculine side. But now I want slow down and been treated. So I try to connect with my feminine energy to attract perfect masculine man.
I always affirm I'm thriving in all areas of my life and vickita your helping me through this insane .
All the best things are attracted to you , keep growing and prosper 🎉
Girl, you are good. Your channel is going to blow up! So wise!! I love it❤
Im married and successfully got my husband to changed and get into my feminine energy. But at time he still acts up, this is a powerful reminder ❤
This video literally came right on time …. I been accepting the bare minimum way too long. 😢❤. I need to stick to my boundaries.
This video is so valuable and accurate. I watched it twice and I will probably watch it a third time to let it all sink in and process fully. You touch upon very real issues and the points you made are so eloquently voiced that rewatching the video is just a must! Thank you for sharing this, it's definitely an uplifting video.💜
Definitely want a part two! Love your content and energy
your makeup looks so good here vickita!!
Part 2 baby!!!! Love your content, it validates everything I know to be true in life.
I effed up so much but ive been a health care assistant for 10 years and its aided me to care toooooo much about everyone elses needs except my own i even cut my hours down last year bc i needed to get my life together
But i will heal!! And even if its not the guy i eff up with i willll get what i need and heal
You're a great speaker!
Perfect pace, clear repetitive examples.
I don't get bored listening!
Loved the 'come up for air', i hadn't heard that before in the pull push dance.
Regards from West Australia
Was 100% here for all of this until the passport thing. Girl… if you think keeping track of your own damn passport while traveling is too stressful that you need to rely on a man to do it, you’re a literal child. That is a very important personal document. If you’re traveling, especially out of the country, NOBODY ELSE, I repeat, NOBODY ELSE should be carrying that document for you. You need it on you at all times. And if that’s too much for you, you’re not adult enough to be in an adult relationship. My god.
Bro literally. I was taking the whole thing seriously but that part made me go “😀 huh?” It was so irrelevant, got nothing to do with feminine or masculine energy. We are simply adults , why would I trust someone else with my personal, official documents? Even if that someone happens to be my husband, I could trust my own adult brain to keep tracking on my own passport, couldn’t I? What am I, a child?
This is the best video I’ve seen of dating as a feminine woman. You broke it down so clearly, you have a gift and wisdom boy! Thank you for sharing it with us ❤❤
you’re changing lives sis
Giiirl this video completely changed my perspective. My whole life I've been in survival mode. I gotta treat myself.
This was the most informative video I think I’ve listened to! I’m 60 years old. Wow. Incredible beautiful thank you!
You are amazing in how you explain the masculine/feminine energy dynamic. I tried to explain this to my, now ex-BF and it never changed things. The more he leaned into his feminine energy, the more it pushed me into my masculine and the resentment built up. It took 3 break ups for me to realize that his words didn't match up with his actions. I've done a lot of work on myself after a toxic marriage and I thought this guy would be the last relationship I'd have. I was wrong. When someone doesn't do the work on themselves or doesn't see the relationship as a thing that can evolve and change, and lets his insecurities get in the way of stepping into his masculine energy, then it's time to move on. It took me 8 years to realize this. I'm much happier now being single and still working on myself to prepare for the right man who is in the same place. Thank you for all of the effort you put into this video. I hope it can help so many women out there who have lost that polarity you talk about, that spark. You've encouraged me to keep learning how to be a high value woman who can communicate her needs. ❤❤❤
Iam 16year old and i love how i have this mindset at a young age ❤
You are so lucky! At your age i was naive as hell but i am glad bcz of my strict mother i never had any physical experience with a man that is why i am still a virgin at 27 today, and i am soo freaking glad and happy about it! It makes me feel blessed not to be used by these jerk men! But there are more frogs than prince in the pond so we have to be very careful! You are already absorbing all the info and growing with it, i am sure you'll turn out like a total Queen 👑 ❤
Ive been coming across content like is recently after deciding to try dating again. These videos are really just reassurance for me that im not asking for too much and to stand up for myself. Im a recovering people pleaser and that spilled into my dating life. Im no longer doing things for people im learning to do them for me. Thank you for this video keep up the amazing work.
Excellent video. What insight into relationship dynamics. I feel this is being lost. I've experienced and seen relationships break because the woman was expected to be the provider - a woman bringing too much masculine energy to a relationship just doesn't work in my opinion. The feminine is needed to balance things. Grateful you're speaking about this.
You have literally the best content on explaining things so clearly.
13:48 this is such an important part of the video. ladies, men aren’t dumb or incapable. if they’re not doing something they’re choosing to do
so. walk away.
i think it’s very important to note that men and women are socialized to operate in these ways and thus why it can work as a dynamic. but if we can raise sons that’s don’t simply operate “logically” 🙄 and actively operate with their emotions as well because they haven’t been neglected or stored away, we’d see a much healthier world
I am HP, I am very good at noticing very complexe and even abstract subjects and link them, understand them and explain them... and I get bored, fast, but you!! You have an extraordinary Relationship and Communicative intelligence! You do not judge, you state facts, you absolutely know what you are talking about and do not just repeat what someone else said! I am sooooo impressed (And that is really really hard to do!!) !!
I am not searching at all for a relationship right now. But I believe that all Feminine/Masculine Dynamics first exist within us (often influenced by our parent's dynamics + our experiences). And you just helped me understand things and motivate me for my own self, Above and Beyond!
A big Thank you and might you be blessed with all the Good stuff in all parts of your life!!
🥰💛💛💛
Thank you for sharing this. Men always made me feel like I wasn’t good enough and I was always trying to be better for them. Not anymore. I know my value ❤
They have unrealistic expectations. The girls they are used to does too. Both are fake. But they come together to make babies no problem. See how that sounds and is stupid? Stay out the way.
Your videos are absolute class. You have helped me build standards for myself and in men as well as move on from men who didn't provide and where I was expecting a lot because I was in the wrong energy and I needed to work on myself too.
Thanks, Vickita (:
Fantastic! thank you!
Yes ladies it’s time we change the game!!! 3 month rule from now on and no more allowing red flags
7:44 I YELLED PREACH!!!!!! 👏 really you said it!!!! This video is exactly what I truly needed you have no idea ❤I really resonate with you and you speak with complete clarity!
Love the explanation at the beginning, finally someone explained it simple words and the visualisation with hands really worked for me, thanks!
Visual representation is so helpful. Thanks queen
The IMMEDIATE drag in the beginning was some very much needed tough love
This is the best video I've seen on the dynamics between people in masculine-feminine/dominant-submissive relationships. Thank you for this 🔥🙌
I love him so much that I know he is capable... ❤ this is awesome!
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I love the video and it is very valuable. But I would like to add one thing. EXAMPLES. I really like the way you dive into detail and how u explain. You say boundaries, correct behaviour and so on. I would really appreciate examples. Love your content💗🙌
These tips are so valuable! They're helping me avoid all kinds of people who don't fit the bill, thank you!
what you said was true and mainly 'What he feels about you is important' is exceptional and Let me add few things.
Men and women bond differently.
1)Just ask him to do things for you it may be small as opening the jar which makes him feel like a provider (masculine energy) to you and appreciate him. don't take it for granted.
2) men bond by working together do something that requires interaction find a task in which both are interested in NOT your tasks if you doing it first time.
3)men stay in place where they feel useful and needed. he will bond to you if there is some purpose to be with you.
Men bond by working together and women by emotional intimacy.
4) always be precise about your communication tell you want him to understand but not say something and expect him to understand.
The HOLY GRAIL OF EVERYTHING A woman who initiates. Initiate call and messages or something but not more than him.
This video is great for both men and women😊 you did a great job explaining all of this🤞
The green that you’re wearing is most definitely you color! You look radiant ✨🙌🏻
Vickita,
Such great content!!
Please, do put out a part II to this video!!
You’re dong a great deal good to many people out there!!!
Omg this is such a good video I love when she says chefs kiss 💋 and her big eyes are so pretty 😍😍
So many golden nuggets of wisdom and life-changing moments. The big sister I never had
Can you do a video on how to let your guard down once you are in a commited relationship with a healthy masculine man ?
Loved the idea
@@hdshjs I mean being vulnerable, opening up to him in order to buid emotional intimacy
I 2nd this. This is my current chapter in life
@@missfabidiaif you want to be vulnerable and open you have to FEEL safe, so either he’s not making you feel safe/secure enough or you might have trauma from past relationships that still needs to be healed. hope that helped a little💚
@@stargiirls Yes it is coming from past trauma, thank you that's very kind of you💓
OMG!! This video is simply superb. Girl! You spoke so much hard truth and I swear this was 6 months of therapy wrapped up into 1 video. Thank you so so much for unlocking the EXACT - literally the EXACT things I needed to hear/wake up from/be reminded of. Thank you!
Wow OMG, this is so powerful, please make more of these, I feel your energy flowing into me x
First of all, you are STUNNING! 💕 second...thank you so much for putting this out. Your content helped me improve so much, I am very grateful! Thank you
Very good info here. Please talk more about the wounded feminine and how it makes women over do things.
I'm 29 years old and always suffered in relationships because i would do anything for my man and get nothing back except trauma. I'm in therapy now and learned that my co-dependecy to my father and they way he raised me turned me into a desperate woman, seeking love and affection from emotionally unavailable men. This video helped me so much, i cried listening to you, you gave me many answers which i needed. Thank you! I'm learning and i want to do it better in the future.
I think I’m gonna save it and watch every couple of days when thoughts of a certain fboy come up
Girl, this is the truth! I went through the whole phase of wanting a 50/50 partner and it was so toxic. I would constantly compare what we were doing for each other time wise and monetarily, it was so detrimental. Now I'm in a relationship where he does look out for me and takes such good care of me and it is wonderful. And in turn has made me a better person because I want to comfort him and provide for him too. It's so much more loving.
Thank you so much Vickita! This episode is very helpful. I was wondering if you could talk about how relationships work between a muscular energy women and a feminine energy man?
One of the best vedio on TH-cam Regarding femenine energy I came across... Well explained... Precise... To the point and practical.... Love your way of differentiating two energies and the polarity between them..I visualized the concept along with your explanation simultaneously❤
Perfect timing! ❤
So glad!
Hi, just wanted to let you know this video was absolutely amazing!! You’re helping so many women and raising the conciseness here on earth. Blessings on to you love 🙏🏽🙏🏽💗💗
Not all heroes wear capes. I can feel your queen energy as you speak. Thank you sis
She's speaking really fast. Got my anxiety like 😬
@@user_abcxyzz practice breathwork, it really helped my anxiety
use playback speed 0.75!
hehe thanks lovely!!!
Yes yes i love this video is a true gem. And you look absolutely adorable here. 🥰
I love this point that a real masculine man is always ready and waiting for us!!! We just have to get ready for him and stop wasting time on losers!!
You have just opened my eyes! Thanks a lot and dont stop!
I'm glad I found your channel
keep posting
Thank You! 👑❤️
You are so welcome❤️
I just had to comment again because your intelligence is out of this world. It sounds like I am listening to a woman in her forties LATE fortied. My hat is tipped for you Miss. All due respect to you. Quite amazed.
Your content is brilliant. You go girl! 🎉🎉🎉🎉
those hands that represent the energy! great metaphor thank you for the visual!
50/50 men though….. kill sexual polarity too