I didn't see my father for 25 years due to his violent nature at times. When I did finally reunite with him, I brought my best friend, Brian, with me to be safe and have emotional support.
Not only was it strange to see my father after all that time, it was hard to reconcile how differently he was living than me.
His house was smoky, dirty, and full of random people living there that had become his family. He took pride that he had not opened his windows for over 15 years. His house was painted in maroon and gold for his Marine brotherhood. He had a Christmas room up all year (which may be kind of fun and I guess our society is trending towards anyway with stores selling Christmas things in July now).
And, he was happy. He was living life HIS way!
It was ME that had to get over the judgments of how he "should" be living. I am so happy I realized this early on because I could have spent our entire relationship fighting him to keep his house clean and force him to live a healthier life.
Instead, I got to enjoy him for being him and he got to enjoy me for being me. This did not change my preference for giving him what I felt was a better life. I just didn't let it get in the way of what we did have.
Is there somewhere in your life you could lighten up on the "shoulds" (including with yourself) and accept someone for who they are and how they are living despite your preferences?
I know it is hard, especially when come from a well intentioned place. But it is oh so worth it to not let judgments interfere with life!!!
Shuck with love,
Jessica
00:00 Reaching Out For Friend Support
00:35 Didn't Know What to Expect
01:11 Making The Best Out of It
01:38 Dutch's Best Effort
02:12 Hard to Reconcile How Different Our Lives Had Become
02:46 Perceptions Don't Define People
03:04 Everyone's Good Life Looks Different
//ABOUT JESSICA ZEMPLE//
I am a transformational coach, storyteller, speaker, filmmaker, and shucker. Shucking is my metaphor for life coaching - and life. We are all magnificent pearls created through the grit of our life. We have shells around our pearls that we close in times of fear. At some point, the shell becomes restricting and needs to be shucked open, with love, so your pearl can shine!
I have overcome A LOT of grit in my life from growing up in an abusive home due to a parent experiencing schizophrenia, helicoptered off of the mountains of Nepal with a traumatic brain injury, and caring 24/7 for a loved one through a healing from stage 4 cancer. Each of these challenging, life changing experiences has made me stronger, more compassionate, more loving, and helped my pearl sparkle even more through years of healing modalities. I found yoga, meditation, the Hoffman Process, and even earned my masters in Spiritual Psychology.
This is what I want to do for YOU - help you transform your grit in to a pearl to shine even more. I share pearls of wisdom and life skills you can apply to your life immediately to make the changes you desire.
//WHAT//
Life coaching concepts and techniques are really life skills that we can all use with each other and especially with ourselves. Whether you are a parent, friend, leader, coach, artist, teacher, scientist, barista, wealth manager, hair stylist, or really any type of human, you can use these ideas to make all of your relationships more meaningful.
You will learn to ...
- Listen to, trust, and USE YOUR VOICE
- Identify what fears or LIMITING BELIEFS might be holding you back
- Visualize your SUCCESS, define your path, and take action to get there
- LET GO of judgments and let go of the weight you have been carrying
- RELEASE shame and guilt to allow for more love in your heart
- How to FORGIVE and release any unnecessary toxicity in your life
- Create healthy BOUNDARIES to have healthier relationships
- Communicate with HONESTY and LOVE
- SELF LOVE!!!
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