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I have never heard an explanation so to a T. The gumble of trying to re-explain clearer over and over

Needed this short today. Been kinda down and really hard on myself lately and hearing someone talk about something I'm struggling with helps to help generate self-compassion and makes me not feel quite so alone.

Thank you for a very informative video.

I was diagnosed with ASD two weeks ago and that book was a top recommendation from my diagnosing doc.

I always feel that people are mad at me, but I never know why, because their hints and reasons are cowardly and make no sense. I FEEL their feelings but I don't want to, their cowardice and emotional greed are so disgusting, I begin to hate them.

This is an amazing technique, thanks!

As above as below.As below as Above the spectrum always flows in all directions at the same time We mask our hate and fear and copy their emotions They mask their love and joy and copy our thinking understand ? because the NT's don't and never will they just breed

Being in HR, I find this helpful, and I am ADHD.

Yes

Gosh it’s so refreshing to hear someone that thinks like me….thank you for sharing

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I took adhd meds (methylphenidate) and my inner monologue has been gone for years. I am off them now, still no inner monologue.

Remember everyone, your boss is never your friend.

Thank you!

You seem normal to me

Thank you for sharing your journey!

Lately I've been blown away by the amount of people who claim to have autism while being in denial of the fact that is a disorder.

Waw, thank you so much for sharing your experiences. I am currently going through burn-out and just recently discovered it is because I have autism&ADHD. I have learned a lot of the personal experiences and solutions from other people going through the same issues with their daily living, family, friends, chores, etc. But there is very little useful information about how to deal with a job and how to cope with it. It seems everyone is actually just as lost as I am on how to make a job work for us! But when you speak about your experiences it is as if I see someone else with mý brain, but actually having found solutions or how to cope with it! Literally everything you say I struggle with too and I believe have been the main reasons I got burned out. I really love to hear how you experience these issues and how you learned to either deal with them or just accept them. I especially loved the part where you differentiate between being able to hold space for the sadness of others, but really needing to remove yourself or get the conversation in a different direction if it is just anger and frustration without wanting to seek or accept solutions. This also drives me crazy and the amount of frustration I feel over this is often just too much for me to bear. But I would keep thinking and thinking over this and feeling frustrated, while I should just let this person be and stop wasting so much of my emotional energy in it. I also loved to hear what you do to try to figure out your own feelings in the ‘fog of emotions’ of yourself and other people’s feelings. Apologies for the long comment, but since this is literally only my 2nd comment ever on YT, I hope you can feel the depth of my gratitude for sharing your experiences! 😅 I hope your channel keeps growing and getting the attention it deserves!

I work in mental health and am beginning my journey to leadership. I found this info very helpful and will start applying it with my juniors. Thank you! ❤

Thank you for this video. In this scenario, we are talking about sharing in a place where you already have been hired. What about sharing during the interview process? I know everyone is different and we are to trust our instincts, but... I have less trust in myself during high stress situations. I am currently in vocational rehab trying to get a job and have a lady who is helping me with my resume, keeping me on track, giving me feedback on how I respond to questions and the like. Was at an interview where the people hiring were placing honestly way up on their list of priorities. They had asked about why the other woman was there and she explained that she is my job coach without explaining voc rehab. I took her lead and left it at that, but it felt dishonest in a way. I do not know these people, they have not asked about health or any special challenges, so I felt I answered their questions. Ones personal health is on a needs to know basis, but it felt like a lie of omission. Does that make sense? I don;t want to start employment with a lie.

Thank you for this video. In this scenario, we are talking about sharing in a place where you already have been hired. What about sharing during the interview process? I know everyone is different and we are to trust our instincts, but... I have less trust in myself during high stress situations. I am currently in vocational rehab trying to get a job and have a lady who is helping me with my resume, keeping me on track, giving me feedback on how I respond to questions and the like. Was at an interview where the people hiring were placing honestly way up on their list of priorities. They had asked about why the other woman was there and she explained that she is my job coach without explaining voc rehab. I took her lead and left it at that, but it felt dishonest in a way. I do not know these people, they have not asked about health or any special challenges, so I felt I answered their questions. Ones personal health is on a needs to know basis, but it felt like a lie of omission. Does that make sense? I don't want to start employment with a lie.

To be honest, just listening to this is giving me anxiety. Do you realize how much time you've wasted by rethinking what you've said; in the workplace? I don't think your co workers or manager really care about the finer points that are so important to you. I came here; looking for advice; about how a person can manage ADHD in the workplace. What you've just described, isn't managing. It's going deeper down the rabbit hole.

OMG this is so good!!! I’ve had such a hard time on the labour market in corporate jobs because of those things… now I have you formulated this to me, but I’m not sure I will be able to communicate it in my new job starting in a month from now. One way could be to replay this video as a mantra every morning when starting my new position to make my consciousness directing me and hopefully being able to verbalise this information to my new team! I will put this in my calendar now so I don’t forget it!🎉

Hello sir, what advice would you give to an individual experiencing harassment and discrimination in the workplace? Especially when that individual has tried for years to get it to stop, and has become hopeless that it ever will.

I just walked off the job. I can't mask anymore.

Yes, that is so overwhelming. And how to work that stuff out? Have you some technics how to work with it? Can you make normal video about that? "Neurotipical" psychology is rather helpless when comes to this problem :/

Hey, I'm sorry for the incontinence while I wrote that paragraph , I wanted to try to vent cause people are perceiveing me as alot to bear you know😅😢, I'm human as you and wanted to vent for the first time without considering how others perceive it I'm just too overwhelmed and I don't know what is most likely to happen but it is also a good thinking process for me to let the other people know about the truth form that I have a problem regarding my self worth , I always thought that self worth is what others perceive of you, now I feel alittle bit freeing of my own shackles in my life(head and heart and soul) U just want to connect even to knowing some might not want to see, that is why I don't care for the Calculations people make of what I'm as a person , which unfortunately, people aren't open to this whole Idea, where I live but by being nice alongside , while not being kind, good for them.😊😢 Thank you for your kindness Mr really was too much to bear my own thoughts at a time , but forgiveness is a winner 🏆 be kind and no i'm not a lazy person just because I have audhd, thank U.

I want to become a normal person does that different from a audhd person, I let myself down with my behaviours is this always how adhd will represent itself in community( in abnormal person which do not blend and develop even a level of interaction and intimacy towards normal people's emotional clarity and responds , and beyond curable and beyond fixing 💔 the brain right , I can't live with so much confusion and uncharitable I can't function normall, am I bad to society and to people I call friends, is it okay to have friends with out hurting them with my bluntness , am I too much to look at or bear with , am not an alien but some people looks at me with all puzzle and look down on me with my expressions and behaviour 's that they think is bit too overwhelming and go away , am too much to bear while within reach , it's to wrong to be me and fit in with the rest 💔 and be some way me, noone thinks of me as reliable, but the ones did not anymore but look of pity is horrible and heart breaking for me while do not know what's is that is wrong in me that so hard to open up to me as people normally do that look away amd I feel like iam outcast of any of their group of people 💔 who I want because they can help but frown upon , relationships are breaking for me , and I'm unreliable, why do I need to be reliable while they are not 🥲😭😢💔

I know just how much I hated myself for those it's not I'm dumb or stupid and irrelevant 😢 hurt myself and blame others for it so bad I was so bad also I did blame myself for that so bad , and still not okay with it. scolded for th emotions or lacking I beat up myself mental that I stopped all together and choose numbing the emotions which only make them worse, I will no longer wish being as normal people's emotional clarity right away. P.s, It's is that good or okay for me to want to act like normal people act and expressions?😢

The compassion with which you treat your patients with herpes infection is more effective than any medicine! Thank you Dr Ikpoko on TH-cam for being the best, truthful, trusted and reliable doctor that you are, keep saving lives sir.

This sounds so much like me, thank you 🫂❤️

Holy cow! Thank you!

I'm so glad the algorithm led me to your channel 🙌 I'm currently navigating the ADHD diagnosis process here in the UK. After my initial consultation, it's quite clear that I have ADHD, although the official diagnosis might take up to three years due to the long waiting lists. That said, everything I've learned so far makes so much sense! As someone who spends the majority of their time working in an office environment, I often find processing tasks challenging. But over time, I've developed strategies to manage my challenges. On the flip side, I’m highly creative and consider myself a strong problem solver, which has been a huge asset in my marketing career - all of which, I believe, is deeply connected to my ADHD. It’s incredibly inspiring to see people in leadership roles who are neurodivergent. It gives me a lot of hope and encouragement. You’ve definitely earned a subscriber from me! Keep up the amazing work.

I don't know a lot about autism but this describes me so much bro 😭

„thought partner“ is a great expression

I do this too. I've learned that through prayer and speaking in our Heavenly language are soul praise also and we can find ourselves a lot quicker that way plus nobody is going to get bogged down by my words or processing. Now I just got to remember to get out of earshot when I spontaneously start talking to the Lord LOL

Solidarity.

Actully im almost 100 percent certain thats ocd and not adhd

That could be ocd....

I feel that I'll end up repeating the same thing like 20 times in a different way thill they tell me to shut up

It’s also me doing that autistic need to be heard fully and with all of the context and making sure I’m not missing anything or being misunderstood

Thank God it’s not just me! Thank you for sharing!!!

Test the waters! Something I forgot to mention in the video: how well do I know the people I’d be sharing with? Understanding your colleagues' (or even your boss's) attitudes towards mental health and neurodiversity can help you gauge their likely response. If you're unsure, observe how they talk about or treat other neurodivergent individuals or mental health issues as a way to test the waters.

Fidget cube has been a life saver for masking at work. I can slip it in my pocket, and even when I'd be in face to face meetings or talking with people, I could stealthily mess with it if I sat properly.

I love stim toys that have clicky buttons. It feels like I'm sending serotonin directly into my body with each click

I do this on my phone sometimes but rarely these days. Maybe i should start again. But its actually a good thinh to make it a official tool. I did it more out of intuition but didnt value it all that much

Hey Brett I absolutely love Ur videos. I just had suggestions: would u be able to make some videos explaining how to navigate the corporate social landscape for an autistic? This is my biggest issue as my inability to befriend coworkers ruins everythinf

I find my inner monologue is gone when exhausted. It’s so odd that it prevents me from sleeping 😅

I am watching this later on, I would love to know when you are going live in the future. Does TH-cam notify when you are going live?

I don't dislike you for going well in the corporate ladder (please don't do anything unethical though) but why'd you choose to climb it? As someone who also has ADHD and Autism, it baffles me because corporations have a massive history of treating vulnerable people horribly which they still do. They even caused several genocides and famines.