Joe and Brent Philips
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SHARING RESPONSIBILITIES AS A GAY MARRIED COUPLE | Joe & Brent
We've been asked before how we split up and navigate tasks in a relationship-- who cooks, who cleans, which one of us takes out the garbage, etc.
We thought we'd share how Brent and I divvy up household/relationship responsibilities-- in both the past and the present. At first things sort of fell onto our respective laps and we learned fairly quickly that one of us was managing too much while the other didn't know how to help. With the help of a podcast and a card game (both linked below), we've learned that talking about our responsibilities as a couple has really helped us understand what each other is carrying and helps us balance our tasks to make sure we can thrive at the end of the day.
With that said, here's how we divvy up our tasks:
Joe's list:
• Dusting
• Mopping
• Cleaning mirrors
• Cleaning kitchen
• Tidying up
• Decor purchases
• Home furnishings
• Hosting friends/family
• Rent
• Car payments/bills
• Car cleaning/repair
• Budgeting
• Bills
• Financial planning/investments
• Social planning
• Travel planning
• Buying gifts for people
Brent's list:
• Vacuuming
• Cleaning bathrooms
• Dishes/running dishwasher
• Organizing
• Taking care of donations/returns
• Laundry
• Trash/recycling
• Mail
• Groceries
• Restocking necessities
• Maintenance (calling someone to fix issues)
• Charging the car
• Handling health insurance
• Moving-related planning/organizing
Our shared list:
• Cooking
• Charity/ community service
• Fostering emotional intimacy
• Future planning (family, home, etc.)
As a reminder, these aren’t set in stone for us, and the beauty of the list is that we can reassess and make changes whenever we want.
Hope this is helpful!! 💜💗
Xoxo,
Joe & Brent
External links:
The 'We Can Do Hard Things' podcast episode we referenced: momastery.com/blog/episode-06/
The Fair Play card game we used: www.fairplaylife.com/the-cards
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MY HUSBAND DOES MY SKINCARE | Joe & Brent
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I had Brent be my arms and walk through my skincare routine, which he knows next to nothing about. Chaos ensued. Products used: Cleanser: CeraVe Hydrating Cleanser Serum: ISDIN Isdinceutics Flavo-C Ultraglican Vitamin C Brightening Serum Ampoules Moisturizer: Glow Recipe Plum Plump Hyaluronic Cream SPF: Supergoop Unseen Sunscreen Lip Balm: Vaseline Healing Jelly Subscribe to our TH-cam channel:...
HELLO, 2024 | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 54511 หลายเดือนก่อน
Reflecting on our year together in 2023 and what we're taking with us in 2024! CHAPTERS 00:00 - 00:46 Intro 00:47 - 07:00 What from 2023 do we want to carry with us into the New Year? 07:01 - 15:44 What are we leaving behind in 2023? 15:45 - 18:39 What are we trying/starting in 2024? Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips #queer #lgbtq #husbands #menn...
ARE WE VLOGMAS-ING??? - CHRISTMAS VLOG | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 56911 หลายเดือนก่อน
Our Christmas weekend vlog! Christmas looked different this year, as we're not on the East Coast! We decided to explore some holiday things in L.A., had some great food, and went to a Christmas Eve party that our close friends were hosting! Hope you all have a wonderful holiday filled with light, love, comfort, and peace, and wishing the same for the world. ❤️💚🤍 Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBr...
TRYING INDIAN SNACKS FOR THE FIRST TIME | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 459ปีที่แล้ว
Introducing Brent to some of Joe's favorite Indian snacks from his childhood! Which one would you like to try the most? Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips #queer #lgbtq #husbands #desi #indianfood #indiansnacks #tryingfood #foodie #culturalfood #lgbtqindia #tryingindianfood #tastetest #childhoodsnacks
Growing Up Gay in the Church | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 2.6Kปีที่แล้ว
Discussing our experience growing up in conservative churches, why we left, and where we stand with the Christian church as a whole. CHAPTERS 00:00 - 03:27 Growing up in our respective churches 03:28 - 07:36 When did we begin to question our churches’ views/beliefs? 07:37 - 13:47 How we (slowly) left our churches and where we went afterward 13:48 - 17:57 Where do we stand with church now? 17:58...
THANKSGIVING DINNER WITH NO COOKWARE... - VLOGSGIVING | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 1.6Kปีที่แล้ว
Our Thanksgiving week vlog! Two of our close friends/chosen family came to visit us for the week of Thanksgiving from PA! We explored L.A., had some great food, and even cooked Thanksgiving dinner (despite realizing WAY too late that we had almost no cookware in our Airbnb). Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips #queer #lgbtq #husbands #lgbtqvlogs #v...
HEADPHONE CHALLENGE | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 381ปีที่แล้ว
We tried the infamous headphone challenge!! We asked each other questions while the other person was blasting music through headphones. It was...a hilarious mess. Hope you enjoy our responses! Also sorry to our neighbors for having to hear us shout early in the morning... Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips Business / Partnership: JoeAndBrentPhilip...
Q&A: ARE WE NEVER MOVING BACK HOME ?!?? | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 1Kปีที่แล้ว
Answering your questions! Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips #queer #lgbtq #husbands #lgbtqvlogs #vloggers #couples #couple #gay #qna #qnavlog #qnavideo #qanda #answeringquestions #answeringyourquestions #lgbtqcouple
COMING OUT | Brent
มุมมอง 1.3Kปีที่แล้ว
Brent's coming out story. With love, CHAPTERS 00:00 - 01:45 Growing Up "gay" 01:46 - 03:12 Coming out to Friends 03:13 - 05:46 Coming out to Family 05:47 - 08:59 Coming out in Church 09:00 - 10:19 Where things Stand 10:20 - 11:08 Final Thoughts Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips Music: Despair and Triumph by Kevin MacLeod is licensed under a Creat...
BLINDFOLDED FALL CANDLE HAUL | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 354ปีที่แล้ว
It’s 80 degrees here on the west coast, and we’re missing our quintessential east coast Fall experience. So, we decided to do a Fall candle haul- and to make things more interesting, we turned it into a game: each of us are guessing candle scents the other person picked out, while blindfolded! Disclaimer: this was MUCH harder than we thought it would be! Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhili...
COMING OUT | Joe
มุมมอง 2Kปีที่แล้ว
Hi Fam, Joe here. I've been avoiding making this video for a bit because it's been difficult for me to talk about, but I thought it was important to share my story, especially right after National Coming Out Day, in the hope that it helps others out there. Coming out to my family, for me, wasn't easy, and it definitely wasn't perfect. I made a lot of mistakes and for a long time, it was hard fo...
EMOTIONAL MOMENT FROM OUR GAY WEDDING | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 12Kปีที่แล้ว
Hi Fam, Joe here. Wednesday is National Coming Out Day. You’ll hear about my and Brent’s coming out journeys next week, but we wanted to share this moment from our wedding because it’s a moment we’ll never forget. Coming out for the both of us was hard. My family disowned me. One of the things I remember the most from my coming out is my immediate family telling me that the people who choose to...
MOVING IN TOGETHER | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 1.3Kปีที่แล้ว
The story of how we ended up moving in together, and what living with a partner for the first time was like! Needless to say, while Brent was super excited to move in, Joe definitely had a few concerns...😅 Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips #queer #lgbtq #husbands #mennonite #desi #southasian #lgbtqvlogs #vloggers #ourstory #nomads #wedding #coupl...
GAY BOLLYWOOD WEDDING DANCE SURPRISE | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 4.4Kปีที่แล้ว
Joe's college friends did a Bollywood dance the night before our wedding, and little did we know we BOTH surprised the other person by being a part of it! This took a lot of coordinating on our friends' parts, and we are so grateful! Follow us on Instagram: JoeAndBrentPhilips Follow us on TikTok: JoeAndBrentPhilips Videography: Joseph Minasi Studios Music: Nachde Ne Saare Toosie Slide Bhangra B...
MEETING EACH OTHERS' FAMILIES WAS CHAOTIC | Joe & Brent
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MEETING EACH OTHERS' FAMILIES WAS CHAOTIC | Joe & Brent
HOW WE MET | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 4.4Kปีที่แล้ว
HOW WE MET | Joe & Brent
JOE'S VOWS | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 710ปีที่แล้ว
JOE'S VOWS | Joe & Brent
BRENT'S VOWS | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 911ปีที่แล้ว
BRENT'S VOWS | Joe & Brent
WELCOME TO OUR CHANNEL! | Joe & Brent
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WELCOME TO OUR CHANNEL! | Joe & Brent
OUR GAY INDIAN MENNONITE WEDDING | Joe & Brent
มุมมอง 5Kปีที่แล้ว
OUR GAY INDIAN MENNONITE WEDDING | Joe & Brent

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  • @stuartkarp5077
    @stuartkarp5077 29 วันที่ผ่านมา

    So ... beautiful..you put...this video, together....so beautifully.. thank you

  • @tsheringdema8884
    @tsheringdema8884 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Found you guys on TikTok and yeah I am obsessed ❤❤❤

  • @davidsiemens6967
    @davidsiemens6967 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Menno Simons would turn in his grave

  • @palvd
    @palvd 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    you guys make my heart melt. You wedding video made me cry

  • @palvd
    @palvd 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Im getting married very soon.

  • @Melchizedek.shalom
    @Melchizedek.shalom 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The Mennonite church had fallen from its holiness by allowing gay marriage. ANATHEMA to all heretics and to those who have defiled the sacredness of marriage. Repent and turn to gospel.☦️☦️☦️

  • @HaTranthithu-kh6lr
    @HaTranthithu-kh6lr 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Love gay🏳️‍🌈

  • @dananjayagomez6108
    @dananjayagomez6108 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂

  • @dananjayagomez6108
    @dananjayagomez6108 7 หลายเดือนก่อน

    My dream . But here in sri lanka . It never becomes real 😢 i need lover

  • @The_Black_Caps
    @The_Black_Caps 8 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Omg an interracial gay couple? So cute

  • @timq78
    @timq78 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Congratulations Joe and Brent and thanks for sharing this video of your special day. You make such a handsome couple and your faces were filled with joy. It was wonderful seeing you surrounded by loving supportive family and friends, and being hugged by everyone. I hope and pray you are enjoying married life together now, with blessings of good health, love, joy and so much more :😊

  • @DJ-tv7zt
    @DJ-tv7zt 9 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Guys I have just watched your wedding video and I have to say the love you have for each other is so natural it will go on through this life and into many others xxx

  • @marnyfrancesca2526
    @marnyfrancesca2526 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Loved this video, Joe & Brent, great tips and a fun way to create relationship harmony! 🥰

    • @JoeandBrentPhilips
      @JoeandBrentPhilips 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

      So glad you enjoyed it! It’s been really helpful for us! ❤

  • @jodieblake7398
    @jodieblake7398 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

  • @KenyadaRobinson-p8r
    @KenyadaRobinson-p8r 10 หลายเดือนก่อน

    ♥️♥️

  • @KenyadaRobinson-p8r
    @KenyadaRobinson-p8r 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • @SaChiZDaLe
    @SaChiZDaLe 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    🤣🤣❤

  • @choli7232
    @choli7232 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😂😂😂😂

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In sickness and in health could be a HUGE commitment.

  • @eddielin6081
    @eddielin6081 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy new year. You guys seem to be full of good vibes👍❤️

  • @juanramos.jr.7948
    @juanramos.jr.7948 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Remember lndian banana chips are like our Caribbean banana chips they are made of plantain bananas which themselves are not overly sweet. They are not sweet bananas. Here in the Caribbean sweet bananas are called Guineo and the unsweet are called platano

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In Indonesia, they call it jam karet or rubber time. Every happiness to you both for the rest of your life. May your love grow deeper every day.

  • @janoska2011
    @janoska2011 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy New Year Eve is couple cute ❤

  • @АлександрДемидов-э3г
    @АлександрДемидов-э3г 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy New Year!🥳🐉🎉

  • @dugald56
    @dugald56 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I ADORE charity shopping (which is thrift store shopping in the UK). It satisfies all my latent (very) hunter/gatherer instincts AND means I can have loads of lovely clothes that I couldn’t possibly afford all of if bought new. (I’m not really a cheap store guy for new clothes so I’d have one of everything otherwise!)

  • @clausstimpfig3803
    @clausstimpfig3803 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    never throw your love away. All the best. From Claus (66 years from Germany) and Justin (53) from San Diego California). Lets overcome "strawberry blond" in November.

  • @dugald56
    @dugald56 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    The strength of mind, character and purpose for a young man to come out to a (frankly) very unchristian group of people - especially those who should be unfailingly and carefully supported and loving. You and your husband are amazing people and feel so lovely through this series on TH-cam. I agree wholeheartedly with your assertion about the place you are in.

  • @dugald56
    @dugald56 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    As the parent of a gay man, I simply don’t understand how anyone can say that to their child. I’m glad you chose you; but how hard that must have been.

  • @dugald56
    @dugald56 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Beautiful. The ceremony felt full of meaning, not just empty ritual, and everyone there looked happy for you. Fabulous looking venue as well.

  • @virtradGames4U
    @virtradGames4U 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Cool, a couple who are happy and are having fun together! My question that hopefully isn't too personal and pokey is: "Does the title of being a power couple create the good feelings you were expecting even though it is not in a church? How big will your community be to support yourselves?

  • @dugald56
    @dugald56 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This is really interesting. Thank you for sharing something so fundamental. I’m atheist - now - but was brought up Anglican Christian and it took a long time to shed all the layers of belief instilled in me. Now, I guess I’m a humanist.

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    In sickness and in health.......(so imp)

  • @freddenker9537
    @freddenker9537 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Evolution has given me a brain that has functioned well so far, I am able to distinguish between reality and superstition. As an infant I was also a member of the large sect of the RCC and freed from original sin by a grandpa in grandma's clothes, men of them It is now known that they raped children all over the world and that their organization in the Vatican protected and hid the criminal priests...if the Christian God existed...why would he have allowed this...fat proof of his non-existence. Spinoza said esa: religions are the asylum for the stupid... and I'm on his side.. Enlightenment and education are the biggest enemies of religions and theI hate them so much

  • @laurenl5843
    @laurenl5843 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Congratulations from Toronto 🇨🇦😊💜🎉

  • @janoska2011
    @janoska2011 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy Merry Christmas Eve is couple cute ❤

  • @choli7232
    @choli7232 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Merry Christmas 🎄 guys

  • @janetscott4402
    @janetscott4402 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Happy xmas to you both, enjoying your videos. All the best for 2024 xx

  • @MUZIKSPOT
    @MUZIKSPOT ปีที่แล้ว

    Why let these churches run your lives… it’s all hatred… if hatred is what god intended, exit stage left

  • @lorettacrooms4398
    @lorettacrooms4398 ปีที่แล้ว

    Brent, just remember the Church is not God. We don't have the final say, God does. I am a member of the Church, and I want you to know I send nothing but love and affirmations to you without reservations. Keep asking the tough questions. In my humble opinion and experience God does not mind. Praying nothing but good for you and your family. Blessings.

  • @FreeEnergy137
    @FreeEnergy137 ปีที่แล้ว

    You helped to bring happy tears to my eyes and joy to my heart! ❤ Bless you!

  • @miluvarghese5565
    @miluvarghese5565 ปีที่แล้ว

    ❤❤❤❤

  • @choli7232
    @choli7232 ปีที่แล้ว

    In my country, we fry plantain and not bananas. So you can have raw or ripe plantain chips which are really good. Only the raw plantain chips are salted

  • @stepheng1mall
    @stepheng1mall ปีที่แล้ว

    I can relate to SO much of this!

  • @johni0666
    @johni0666 ปีที่แล้ว

    You guys are so adorbs. 😊

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 ปีที่แล้ว

    Wow Amazing. So pleased for you both. Every happiness together.

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 ปีที่แล้ว

    So pleased for you. Have you thought of buying a house together?

  • @TommyStahr
    @TommyStahr ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm a born-again gay Jew and I know Jesus is our Messiah and He's not anti-gay. 1946themovie proves the Bible is mistranslated. Jesus said in Matthew 19:11-12 that we're born this way. Men who don't marry women because of how they're born? That's gays! 1John3:23 sums up Christianity. 1John4:20 is most Christians today, unfortunately. 2Thess2 is here. Trump is lawless. Jesus is coming soon but not one right-wing bigot will rise. Revelation 13:11-16 is USA. The Image of the Beast is right in front of you.

  • @ronsmith2241
    @ronsmith2241 ปีที่แล้ว

    What an amazing story. I so support you. I was a Baptist Pastor, married to my accepting wife for 51 years. She has now passed. I did a careful honest study of the clobber passages in the scriptures in the original Hebrew and Greek and I was AMAZED how the church had deliberately twisted and manipulated the scriptures to claim the scriptures said things it DIDN'T. I wrote a paper on it and it was published on a large website in the US. (I live in Australia). In the first month 7700 responded back to the publisher about it and 7000 agreed with what I wrote. I was shocked to read those emails. A large website in Australia also agreed to put up my paper. Fundamentalists hacked the site and took my paper down. Fundamentalists very strong opposition to gays is POLITICAL, NOT THEOLOGICAL. The fact that I am gay was medically proven during electronic shock therapy as part of 13 years of reparative therapy. Happy to explain. I then learned that the entire medical profession declassified homosexuality as an illness 50 years ago in 1973 and that period covered the entire 13 years of reparative therapy. The opposition of the church to homosexuals is POLITICAL not theological.

  • @katzgar
    @katzgar ปีที่แล้ว

    not having any proof a god exists should be one reason to leave religion.

    • @dugald56
      @dugald56 11 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Agreed. BUT the weight of millennia of religious belief, fined down to the last two, does mean a huge majority of ‘believers’ are completely blinkered and feel that the bible - or other religious text(s) - is the ‘proof’. By which token I guess I’d be a Jane Austen-ite or Shakespearean if I were to hold any texts holy! 🤣🤣🤣 In school, we were told, ‘would you walk off a cliff if you were told to by…?’ and no one, clearly, has ever said this to believers about their religious leaders.

  • @supermommy0405
    @supermommy0405 ปีที่แล้ว

    I'm also Martho, and I know exactly what you're talking about. Growing up around high school, I doubted some of the things that I heard in church, and my parents were really great in explaining things to me. After I got married and had a family it was important that my husband and I bring up our kids in the Martho church. My sister, on the other hand, feels that the Martho church is not the right fit for her family. I think the most important thing is that you both need to do what is right for you both. Church is where two or three are gathered in God's name. Hope you all have a blessed Christmas and a prosperous New Year! PS: Brent, my daughter says your nails are on point. She loves them.😊