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This is fantastic! Melissa Orlov is amazing, thank you!

I’ve seen Dr Matt Walker’s work on how the half-life of caffeine negatively impacts the non-REM deep sleep phase. But many adults with ADHD who I work with as a licensed therapist report that caffeine leads them to feel drowsy or doesn’t lead to alertness. Are there any specific studies you’re aware of that look at nuances regarding caffeine and the phases of sleep specifically for adults with ADHD not just the general population?

I would love to hear your focused take on lifestyle and habitat contaminants contributing to these imbalances within the human body that scatters our clarity. Many thanks <3

This was awesome 🤩 thanks ladies 💜 right here with you 🩷

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Oh, I've opened cards months or years later and found money and then I'm guilty because I never made a special thank you for such a gesture. I also like going through birthday cards from when I was younger, aka less than 18 years old, because I still find money in them. I'm in my forties!🤣

doesnt everyone struggle with shame?

Complaining is a form of control and a manipulation tactic. My partner is a relentless complainer. I think my 63 yr old partner has ADHD and if ONE thing goes wrong then everything is AWFUL. This is so exhausting. He is an expert at noticing what is WRONG. One wrong event will set off a tirade of complaints of things that happened years ago! He goes on and on and will not stop! He is always a victim....this is how he sees himself and it sucks for me to see him like this. Ugh. So one you tube video I watched said I have to "allow" him to "just be”..and not react. Ok but he goes on and on and on and ON...I have left the house many times just to get AWAY from him and get some peace..and this helps me calm down but if it's dark outside then I will NOT leave and so I have to endure this negativity which is depressing and horrible for ME I'm getting worn out .....agh........my blood pressure goes way up.. Life presents to everyone challenges, problems and tragedies. My view is we can take action to find solutions and create a beautiful life. Or, we choose the self destructive paradigm where our never ending self indulging lamenting, blaming, bellyaching and complaining is nothing else but manipulating others.

A lot of the resentful comments here seem to trivialize the fact that for the most part, neurodivergences if they are not just a straight-up disability, have features that are disabling in modern society. Speaking in broad generalities, people with ADHD would absolutely love to have fully enabled and fully present lives with the people they love, and generally are pretty frustrated with the parts of their condition that inhibit that from happening. There are multiple instances in these comments of NT partners shaming non-related people who are living with a disability because you think that its impact on you is worse. How fair do you think that actually is?

Very informative podcast. It was helpful to also speak about same-gender relationships.

This is astounding information. Really appreciated. (Non-adhd partner here). Thank you so much. This is really helping me to understand his reactions. whoah.

Melissa Orlov is a fascinating guest. Are you still planning to post Part 4 of the discussion with her? It doesn't seem to be in the Playlist (or at least I could not find it).

This is probably the 100th vid I have watched about ADHD, as I am married to someone who was late diagnosed with severe ADHD..... and it explains a lot...... but I am so tired. Its mentally and physically exhausting. I find its often people with ADHD making these guides and help videos, and while there's always a " Oh my poor partner" aspect, it always seems to come down to once again , " They have to understand that my ADHD trumps everything" mentality. There is never a NEED to understand just what mental and physical HELL the NT partner goes through :(

I'm listening to her book now. 😊

C-ptsd has very simolar symtoms when it comes to emotional regulation fight flight freeze! Also insecure attachment from chkldhoood?

This video has helped me very much by making me more aware of how my reactions to frustrations are different than how others react .. eye opening!

I had no idea about who you was, and how useful this would be - and in the opening moments I turned the video off and went to do other things - but then I came back and got past the first few minutes of the session essentially just 'loading' - but once you began I COULD NOT TURN AWAY! I was HOOKED and hanging on every word - never seen myself take so many notes, pausing the video, and then thinking how it applied OR when it DID NOT to me - and what could I use - and overall by the end I ended up feeling so enthused and excited - and that's not happened in a LONG TIME - so thank you for this incredible gift

And yah i mean children are pros ane cons . But even without children theres pros and cons to

I say i know yout unsure about kids but God is the one that's in control of that .

I was finally diagnosed at age 68. Oh, how different my life would've been... 😥

My wife has adhd and the emotional deregulation is destroying our relationship. It is so hard

Thank you thank you thank you🙏🙏🙏 for being so clear, so sincere, and having the respect and compassion to know this subject so well🙏 Julia Crane

Holy moly, all of this resonates with me.

I have fallen into these interviews with her. And although we know my partber has diagnosed ADD who has been telling me i struggle with ADHD but me not officially diagnosed. Its killing me that we both have medical background . Yet hes resistant to see relationship therapist..stating its hippy stuff..ugh..textbook deflective...he knows his diagnosis and lifetime struggle. But the insights here we're like someone sitting in our livingroom

With me it was 40,000

What about an Adult ADHD son/daughter and parents relationship??? I have one 26 year old who got diagnosed recently and started the first dose of medication and it is a roller coaster ride. I may have ADD which made it worse to start with I guess. Now it's going in a direction where I feel he has developed so many behavioral issues which are non reversible 😢😢

An extremely and impressively direct deep-dive into the matters at hand. I have adult ADHD and I've struggled with acknowledging it and pushing it aside my whole life, and this interview was an astonishing "WAKE THE FUCK UP" in my opinion... But also a very thorough and concise reenactment or dramatization of the thoughts that go through our heads. Also, it gave me a better understanding of what it is like to be on the other end.

What is a partner are you guys talking about a business or something I'm confused.

20:19 how do I confront these behaviors in myself with my husband. Typically, it ends up coming across as an excuse. Also....12 years into my relationship and there's a lot of lost trust from these behaviors and it's so difficult to fix

This is SO relatable. Thank you for this

I am so sorry that those mean girls did that to you. When I was in middle school, my sister said to me, "Everybody hates you. Nobody likes you." I didn't tell my parents. It broke my trust in her. After our parents died, I have made myself free of her.

As teachers we ro know but at the same time we do not have enough tools to support kids eith adhd. I attempt to give grace to my students. It is challenging but we try.what a great podcast I have a love interest eith adhd and Im trying to educate myself❤

Mi partner she its adhd me autistic..I will disagree when saying to spose " try to do this way " its not criticizing ..its a sharing of opinion and experience .. you afirmate that it is criticizm ..

what a great and helpful conversation, thank you so much!

Do you guys know what ADHD BREAKTHROUGH Dr. Oh IS SAYING? Dr, Oh says that her methods can cure ADHD without medications. What do you say?

I just watched this twice in a row. What a genuine, helpful, REAL conversation. The specific scenarios really hit me. Thank you sooo much for such honest, practical information. 🙏🙏🙏

This is so so so so soooo good, validating, and forgiving.✨🥺✨

This. Is. Me. Now … imagine someone so emotionally fiery (with the Anxious Attachment style) married to someone durn-near devoid of emotion, whom I suspect is Asperger’s / ASD1 (and has the Avoidant Attachment style). 😣 Opposites really do attract, man. 😅

Btw at the end … it will still suck. There won’t be no difference and the cycle will indeed repeat.

I think there is no teaching. Manners, respect, empathy could be taught at elementary,there just isn’t enough life teaching on how to behave with others.

This is an outstanding discussion on adhd. Thankyou so much.

What if the NT partner is totally burned out, sick, overwhelmed and unwell from years of their spouses' ADHD behaviours? Compassion is all good and well but we need to seriously include the impact ADHD can have on the NT partner as well in these conversations!