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Havard Family Autism 🌈
United Kingdom
เข้าร่วมเมื่อ 3 เม.ย. 2024
See our life as a neurodiverse family around Lake District, UK 📍Showing the spectrum of the spectrum in our family
We're making videos to help parents the way we went searching the internet for at the beginning of this journey.
Our main focus is #autismawareness making the world more understanding and showing the beautiful viewpoint of the world through the spectrum. 🌈
Doing vlogs of our days out living in Cumbria, UK but mainly in The Lake District 📍
Feel free to ask any questions or anything you want to see from us.
In our family we have:
Daddy - Edward
Mam - Rachael (autism)
Teddy - (diagnosed at 3)
Meredith - sister
William - brother
We're making videos to help parents the way we went searching the internet for at the beginning of this journey.
Our main focus is #autismawareness making the world more understanding and showing the beautiful viewpoint of the world through the spectrum. 🌈
Doing vlogs of our days out living in Cumbria, UK but mainly in The Lake District 📍
Feel free to ask any questions or anything you want to see from us.
In our family we have:
Daddy - Edward
Mam - Rachael (autism)
Teddy - (diagnosed at 3)
Meredith - sister
William - brother
Top 5 Early Autism Traits - Info #autismawareness
Top 5 Early Autism Traits - Info #autismawareness
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Day Out Family of 5 For £25 Threlkeld Train Lake District
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Day Out Family of 5 For £25 Threlkeld Train Lake District
Im the autistic middle child and I feel left out all the time. My older sister always fights with our parents but they don’t care they just stay calm. My younger sister cries all the time and blames things on me and she’s 9. Both of them pick on me and do things that I tell them not to do. And on top of that my parents always get mad at me for things my siblings do. Both of them get what they want when they want it. I try being friends with them but they always somehow find a way to argue with me. Then my parents get mad that I’m fighting with them. I CAN NEVER WIN
They are the rock of the family ❤
I was that little man, from my veiw i was avoiding having to accommodate the others needs and experience their ways of playing and noises. Its similar now (although i am quite a bit older) but i still dont want to particularly be around people who i haven't memorized yet (i learn their social patterns and what they like/dislike ect). I do get lonely though, but it's not as bad as others think, ive gotten used to it ig. I hope this helps, but every autistic person is different so it might not be the same for this chappie! ❤❤❤
I still don't get it to be honest
Think of it like this.. say you were interested in football, you'd have a go at football and really liked football, decided to pursue it as a hobby through choice. Special interests aren't choices. I hate sports, yet I could tell you lots of facts and statistics about formula one because it became a special interest not by choice and a NT person if they didn't want to do something or have interest in something would just stop and it doesn't work that way for us. Especially if it becomes a hyperfixation and you could stop eating or sleeping for a time and get obsessive about something
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This video came at the perfect time. We have a Disney trip on Wednesday and I’m a little nervous but I’m so excited for the unforgettable memories we will make
Amazing! I hope you all have a lovely time (and post some TH-cam videos of what it's like) sometimes it'll go wrong but even those times I just use as a great memory of how incredibly far he's come but I'm sure everything will go amazing 🥰
@@Our_AutismFamily thanks so much🥰 I will most definitely be posting videos ✨
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My special interests are autism, animals, making videos/editing, lego
Amazing! Animals in general or any specific types? Mine are: autism, formula 1, vampires, tudor england or english history in general. Teddys are: trains, numbers, solar system and shapes (and not squares and triangles more like dodecahedrons haha!) Eds is building computers, scifi, lego Haha we're a very neurodiverse household and forever discussing our special interests
My daughter is 24 now. She also has autism. He is so precious. Our life's blessing... 🙏🙏💗💗
Thats so lovely,I really think it changes your whole perspective on life. We really are ❤️
I don't know, I heard "in the rain"
No what you're hearing is "down came the rain" this is a snippet of a 10 minute video where hes singing it over and over again. Most kids learn language in blocks and can edit those blocks to form their own sentences. However kids that have echolalia or gestalt language processing can't edit their blocks of language and usually say it with the same candence and accent which they heard it in. Most kids you can say a word over and over again and they will learn that word. Kids with these specific comorbidities of autism won't learn language like that. Its actually rare to be diagnosed in the UK but he is. Simply put, imagine spending your entire life only talking in film quotes and expecting the world to get the context. Definitely not easy for the nuanced needs.
Thats awesome 😎
Thanks so much!
Love these videos
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thank you :) x
Love this one and the description you wrote to
Thanks my love, hope people like it. No one should feel less than for being "different" and our kids certainly aren't raised like that but it is nice to remind people its okay. I mean I remind myself when sounds are too intense or you've told me I've said the wrong thing and offended someone without realising or Ted melting down in public. Its okay, the good and the hard. X
This looks like sensory heaven!!!
Thank you! We have the same light in Teddy's room as well he loves it 🥰
@@Our_AutismFamily I have sensory things in my room as well! I have sensory lights, sensory swing, sensory toys, led lights, weighted blanket! Also if he struggles with sleep I recommend magnesium gummies
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Thank you! The foam also being a soap is so useful ❤
Love it! Breaking barriers for our kiddos!
Absolutely! Every video we do raising awareness takes us one step closer
Well said 💗
Thank you 🥰
@@Our_AutismFamily I subscribed to you, I have autism as well
I want to make a zoom meeting with all the mothers and parents with autism who want to participate in it. I want to call it a release meeting. Where we can cry, help each other out, connect with each other, listen to our stories, and see what else comes out of there. If anyone is willing to join let's set up a day I'll provide the zoom meeting and passcodes and if there's an easier way to do it, let's do it! I feel like we don't have that much and we need it. I need it 💙 Just write down the dates you think will be possible and that are most convenient to you all.
Thank you so much that's such a great idea! Might be hard for me to match up with American time but I don't mind doing the occasional late one if needs be. Let me know when's best for everyone else and I'll try to join in, thanks so much ❤️
I feel everything you're saying.
Thank you, I knew other parents would get it, although not everyone in these comments did
Aw, he is sooooo cute here 🥰🥰
Thank you it was the train for merrys birthday she loves this one that ends at the aquarium 🥰
Wow.. very well explained ✨
Thanks a lot 😊
He is not lonely as such, Autism children have social anxiety where they are simply comfortable playing in their own space away from other children which is perfectly fine. In general we should not force or feel bad for children who play by themselves and not with other children, they know their boundaries and what they are comfortable with doesn't matter if they have Autism or not and one should respect that. He will play with other children when his ready in his own time. You wish he could tell you how he feels yet you can simply read body language and the energy in the air around the both of you.
Very true but not always the case with every autistic child as it is a spectrum and some do enjoy playing and engaging with others. Body language something that for some autistic people, including myself struggle to pick up on when it's nuanced. It is a spectrum for both adults and children and this is the viewpoint of that for us as a family.
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he's doing great! I can already tell he's going to be an amazing big brother ❤
Thank you hes the best ❤️❤️
He looks perfect to me I understand about his autism my grandson has autism
Thank you so much, he really is. Aww that's lovely, how old is your grandson?
Sending love ❤
Thanks lovely ❤️
Ik many of people who r autistic they all have a special place in my heart I love u teddy
Aww that's very kind of you to say thank you ❤️❤️
Well said my love, you picked a nice video too.
Youre quite the videographer now, just need a little GoPro! ❤️
I’m autistic and these kinds of videos make me sick. We aren’t objects for peoples entertainment. Thank god my parents didn’t force every aspect of my growing up onto the internet I would hate them for it. He isn’t giving you consent for this bs
And you're entitled to your opinion. You've grown up in a totally different generation so what your parents would or wouldn't do under the current circumstances is just a judgement call. I am too on the spectrum and where this might "make you feel sick" I rejoice at every child and parent showing the world the beauty and truth of autism. You might not like it, that's why there's a dislike button.
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Thank you 🥰🥰
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Thanks 🥰
Well done for hacking 100
Thank you! 💜
Well done! I told you you could do it. Some people never get 100 subs and you've did it :)
You were right! 🥰It's hard work TH-cam but so much better than tiktok. Way less toxic. I'm so proud!! I thought I'd get like 3 people and 2 views. I know it's not a lot compared to most autism families on here but if it's helped one person thats what matters. Imagine what I'll be like at 1000 I was celebrating like crazy for 100 🤣
🖐 Thank you for subscribing, I had to come subscribe 🙏
No problem loved your channel 🙂 Thanks for the sub! ❤️
❤I love it!! I also recently started taking hikes to help with the mental health because I feel overwhelmed on a daily basis
Well done feels great doesn't it? 🥰I totally get feeling overwhelmed and taking some time to refocus and find some peace is the best thing for your kids ❤️
The simple fact that you think about how your other children might feel makes you an amazing mother ❤
Aww thank you lovely that's really kind of you to say ❤️
Yaasss! Thank you so much for educating others and me as well. Another thing about regression, is that it can happen at any stage of their development. For example, Isabelle, my 6yr old now, had a similar regression once she was dropped off from early intervention at 3years old. She was doing so great with her ABA therapist and she was thriving. Once the early intervention dropped her off, all those achievements we had during that year completely disappeared including, the eye contact all over again. Another thing about regression is your little heart hurts seeing that they had progressed and then regressed, especially when it involves affection and showing them love.
So absolutely true and thanks for sharing about Isabelle, it could really help someone! ❤️ People think of development like climbing higher but with regressions it's like dropping down and starting over and over and you're right, as a parent it is heartbreaking because all you want is them to be happy and usually after having the indepence of that skill then regressing it's really hard for them and the meltdowns get more intense. Or it did in Ted's case xx
I know every Autistic person is different but as an Autistic person myself i like beeing alone but i also like to play with my friends
Yeah thats the hard thing, everyone's so different and different needs. I wouldn't mind if he didn't want to play with people because we're like that but if he did and just couldn't communicate the want, that's what makes me worry
The thing to remember is, he doesn’t see the world as you do. His world begins in his head and only reaches out of his world when family, or therapists sit directly ahead of his gaze . Testing has shown that the part of his brain that controls emotion doesn’t really fire off when those who love him or teach him or interact with him, to the same degree as a neuro typical person fires off. But this doesn’t mean he’s unhappy. He is exploring the world in his way, not in our way. If he is playing and moving around then he is engaging with our world but in his own head. The noise and bustle in a school setting can be overstimulating and cause him physical reactions. So he seeks his quiet space. He’s not lonely. He doesn’t understand our concept of loneliness. Instead he seeks peace to allow the hyper stimulated brain to calm. As a mum, it’s hard because we are aware of the joy of companionship. Xx
This is so healthy and such a good way to get a brain reset and tire the kids out. You've got a beautiful family. I love the name Teddy so much ❤
Thank you very much 🥰 I want to make sure he has seen me use strategies that he can use himself and being self aware is a great thing to show kids to be I think. ❤️ Thank you I love the name but his names actually Edward, like his dad but his dad got called Teddy so he also got Teddy.. which isn't confusing at all 😅
I have level 2 autism and I don't feel lonely when people don't interact with me, because I'm very content with being alone. I know it's not the same for everyone, but it's like that for me. I definitely struggle to make friends and I wish I had friends to be like people my age, but I'm happy without friends and peer interactions.
See I'm the same, I've never felt that need for connection to others and I still enjoy my own company. I did try when I was younger but I found it not really worth most of the time because I was always saying the wrong thing, responding too little, too much, info dumping and people didn't like it. Until I met ed, I'd never truly felt comfort spending a lot of time in anyone's company but he's like me. Although he doesn't feel the need for diagnosis, it's why we work it's just, effortless. Back to Teddy though just because I feel comfort in being alone and yourself and many others on the spectrum doesn't mean he won't too and because he has communication difficulties I'm always worried that he may like a friend and I'm just not facilitating it well, to be honest.
I feel your pain. My autistic son is the same. He is always alone and struggles with language. My heats breaks. I remember exactly the time when he changed... going from a happy smiling baby to an isolated unsmiling stranger.
Aww that's awful, your poor boy I feel you, I really do. It's not like other kids don't try, they always say "hello teddy" he just doesn't understand and I'm just worried he won't be at the communicative level to let me know "I want to play or join in or have a friend" before he feels completely alone.
It’s shit like this that makes me feel bad for you son. Instead of pitying him maybe you could recognize he’s just different and different isn’t always negative
@@KATHERINEJANEKT no one's asking you to feel bad for him. This is an honest interpretation of parenting a child that struggles to communicate. In absolutely nowhere on any social media have I ever indicated I wished my son wasn't different. In fact I love how brilliant and different he is but no parent would ever wish for something to happen to their child and not know about it because they can't communicate something's wrong and suffer in silence. Teddy doesn't have the developmental ability to use other types of communication yet when he's struggling.
That breaks my heart. 😢
Yeah breaks mine too 😔 it's hard for him to make a friend if he can't really communicate to them and doesn't understand how to join in
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Thank you for taking the time to comment, I appreciate it ❤️
Aww that's sad i hope he finds a cool bestfriend
Aww thank you hopefully someone who really REALLY likes trains 😅
Growing up with an autistic twin that is the same pain I felt. Watching my brother eat at lunch all alone even in highschool.
Oh that must've been hard and is exactly what I mean. I can see everyone playing and talking and he's just alone. My heart breaks for him. He's always with a teacher on the photos the school puts online and it would be kinda nice for him to have just even one friend, preferably that really likes trains. 😅
He will find a super power one day an always be your superhero.....
Aww that's lovely way to put it he really is ❤️ and he's exceptionally bright with numbers and how things work. We're helping him learn beyond his years in the areas he loves 🥰
He is beautiful he has.his own way he is different he is going to be fine❤❤❤❤❤❤
yeah is is a beautiful soul and thank you for saying that he will be fine but it would be nice to know if it bothered about not having any friends ❤️❤️❤️❤️