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Because every life deserves a chance

every child should be given a chance

She is waiting for you.

She was precious. ❤so sorry sweet family ❤

Selfishly being the child to birth says the woman in the introduction. How dare she. Many parents choose this option because they don’t want to kill their own baby. Who gets to decide whether a child’s life is worth living even for a short while? Killing the child in utero is never ever right.

My son is 27today, but at the time he was born we didn't know if he would Service to this age. I was blessed by being born in a town fourth miles from the Mayo clinic in Rochester, MN. If I hadn't been there is no guarantee that Joshua and I would even be alive now. I had gotten a form of eclampsia called Help syndrome. So I was induced at 29 1/2 weeks pregnant. Josh was only 2lbs 9oz at birth. He had tubes everywhere the first time I got to hold him. But what a privilege to have the chance to do so. I have never been so happy as I was the day we got to bring him home at seven weeks old. He has had his own set of problems, but no one should have the right to say that a person should live or die. They don't know what the future holds. My name is Cynthia Raaum, may God bless and keep you.

You and your family are so very brave.

Sorry it's so sick that disabled people are treated as if they shouldn't get love or be in this world because of how they look or if they'll only be on earth for a day or 2. If a baby is able to make to full term then that are compatible with life. Yeah I'll just abort the life growing inside me because they arent a typical baby. I cant tell other women what to do with their bodies but it's just something I could never do.

This feels so selfish. Heartbreaking and selfish. 💔

I certainly hope that they are not restrictive about treating pain associated with this like they are other conditions. We need to address the torture wave an American healthcare as it is critical factor in decision making.

EVERY child is compatible with life!!! I’m so tired of horrible people that judge loving, caring parents for allowing their child to LIVE! None of us know how long we will be on this earth!!!! God bless EVERY parent that chose to care and love their baby… and not cause it extreme pain by killing it in the womb! It takes a special beautiful person to love a child so much, knowing you will probably not have it very long…. But those precious hours with that blessing are so special 🙏🏻

Compatible with Love and Joy! Yes! That is exactly right for my son with Trisomy 21, who lives with non-correctable heart defects, has survived 7 heart surgeries, and is 36 yrs old now. Being the parent of a child with special needs has it's challenges, no question. And, I can honestly say I am a better person because of my son, who is one of the best people I know! Having lost a young adult son to drowning, my heart knows loss also, and sends a hug to yours. The Love remains.

May She Rest In Paradise and watch over her parents and her brothers from heaven. She is/was a beautiful child and you are the reason she knew love.

Thank you for seeing through what God chose for you! Trust Jesus!

You are selfish to do this to your child!!!! More than selfish!!! You're grateful???? In heaven ? She died!!!

God decides.

This poor mother, this has me in tears. I can’t imagine losing a child. May God bless you and your family.

Let God be in charge

You were are wonderful mother to her and your sons, She is in Heaven now watching over your family. You will see her again one day. Much respect for your love for her. She was beautiful ❤❤❤

From looking on the outside in, rather than putting your precious little one through all these uncomfortable and maybe painful procedures, i would vote comfort care and leave it at that. But on the other hand i have never been the parent of a trisomy child so i can't really say what I'd do. 😓😔

beautiful & very well made video. Thank you for your work

When I got pregnant with my third child I was 36, and was 38 with out fourth and became pregnant again at 40 and delivered at 41. My doctor starting asking us with our third if we wanted to amniocentesis and we chose not to because we knew that whatever God chose for us we would deal with it. Would it have been difficult, absolutely especially having other children but we never once said that if the baby had issues that we would just abort/kill it. Not my place to decide who lives and who does not.

In the end it should be up to the parents to decide if they want to bring a child that could had a condition that could mean a short life span or a life full of disabilities/pain. People might say that child deserve to live even if it is brief but what about the parents and child themselves? The emotional trauma of watching their child die within a few dies or knowing that they would live maybe two decades at best or they may never live fully independent can take its toll on everyone. A child will suffer in agony for who knows how long, And if there are other children involved, well we seen plenty of stories of more "healthier" children being neglected or ignored even if unintentionally by parents who have to focus so much on their attention on the special needs children that leaves the "healthier" children feel neglected and can leave built up resentment. And don't get me started on the financial cost of taking care of such special needs children. And while people will say "give up the child for adoption if you don't want it so badly," that also has it own special mental and emotional toll and unfortunately a lot people these days prefer healthier children more than children who needs more special needs plus that is going to open another can of worms. In the end parents should decide if they want to deal with the sacrifices and the toll to bring such children to the world and if they decide they can't than that should be their choice.

So baby suffered just so you get to meet her? The “love and joy” are one sided and the baby is too sick and too young to know any of that. Her short life was just pure suffering and nothing else.

God, I cried so much watching this. 💔

When given tx like ANY other child deemed “fit to live” T13 kids live Wow what a concept My friend went thru this attempted denial of tx for her in utero baby deemed not fit The girl is 18 in a few weeks, brilliant, perfect body & health and *very glad to be alive* Shame on these MDs thinking they’re g.o.d.s. They AINT

Im not sure. I would obviously want to have my child, and fight for it, but at the same time I feel that it would be selfish to force my child to suffer, just to satisfy my longing for him or her. No one can ever say that a life of permanent medical intervention is a good one. My ( adult) best friend opted for no recussitation and palliative care only when her body was no longer able to survive without medical intervention. She was able to make those wishes known, my father too when he was ill.( and later died) I can understand their choices, even though I didnt want to lose them, but a newborn cannot tell you what it wants, it just suffers, as a way of life. I couldnt do that to a child of mine, but I understand that other people feel differently, and i respect their choices too. My condolences for your loss,.

Such a hard decision to make for parents, and understandably they could not make a decision to harm their own baby.

They are compatible with love and joy . That is the message I take from this. I’m not religious but that message is beautiful.

It was one of the hardest videos I watched. I'm so sorry for your loss

What a beautiful life! Praise God who does not make mistakes. 💗💗💗

I think parents of children with trisomy 18 should make their own decisions about whether or not to continue the pregnancy, and they need to know what the challenges will be, in order to do that. The only time anyone I knew was pregnant with a fetus with that disorder, the child died in utero.

God bless you for giving this child life and telling her about yours you will see her again

38 weeks pregnant with 4th baby in absolute, booger dripping tears.🥺

I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and family.

Thank you for sharing your beautiful babies with us.

Anyone who says a baby doesnt deserve life because they are special needs because they may not fit the perfect puzzle piece needs to mind your own. They deserve life just as anyone. We may not know why they are ment to hurt or be different but God does. We need to spend our best life with them give them love and their best life. Even if they say your baby doesnt understand. I believe they know more than we are able to see. Love your babies no matter their disabilities. They deserve it.

My heart hurts for the parents, the brothers and the extended family. This is a sad and fraught decision for many. Personally, I would not subject a child to a short time in a NICU, when I knew that an accident of nature had created an infant who could not survive without extensive and expensive medical care. In my view this is keeping a doomed infant alive because we can. I write these words with a heavy heart. In the 1950s my mother miscarried 3 times before the last of us was born. She didn’t talk about these babies until near the end of her life 45+ years later. But she loved them dearly, missed the might have been, and carried that burden silently because that’s what was done. Intellectually, I understand the whole gift of god point of view argument but I don’t accept it. I want to be respectful of people’s beliefs (well, not all beliefs.) I came of age when abortion wasn’t legal and knew 3 classmates who died from illegal abortions. When the pill became available it was so empowering for females of my generation. And Roe followed soon after; it never occurred to many of us that people would take that choice away from us because of their religious notions. It’s really very complicated and very very difficult and sad. I know these parents did what seemed best. I’m very sorry they lost their sweet daughter but I’m more sorry that the daughter was put through the inevitable.

She is suffering.. there is nothing quality of life for her. This is really selfish very selfish

Your beautiful story made me cry. You are a brave and loving momma. Prayers for peace for you and your family ❤😢❤

No this is selfish so selfish

Thank you thank you thank you. A little piece of heaven fallen from God… absolutely!

You have a mothers heart , pray for God to heal her

I would not be able to do it. I cannot in good conscience bring my child into the world knowing that they would not be able to live and thrive. There is no point. There is only suffering. I’m the mother of a 15 month old, and I cried watching them saying goodbye. Why would you put your baby through this? Why would you put your older two kids through this? Why would you put yourself through this?

What a beautiful little girl! You will be reunited in the afterlife!❤

I’ve seen a couple of people on TH-cam who are documenting their child’s short, horrible life with Trisomy 18, praising Jesus and God for their miracle. It’s incredibly selfish to bring a child like this into the world just to suffer and go through so much. I can understand religious beliefs to an extent, but it is cruel.

I personally would not do it. I would not want to be trapped like that. I don't think it's fair to trap kids in a life of pain and suffering. I wouldn't do it to mine. Edited to add: This woman's experience is just one example of why I wouldn't do this. None of the very few who live will ever have a quality of life that's worth living. They start out with no chance of living independently or being healthy and I think that's mean. It's hard enough to make it when you start out fine. Life is hard... You talk about love. Love them enough to let them go. You take the hit so they don't have too.

God bless you for loving this baby with your heart and soul. You will be together again one day. She felt your love on this earth and is watching over you.

A few weeks ago a found a speech done by an adult man with tri 18. I didn‘t know this was possible so don‘t tell moms your unborn baby is incompatible with life. Nobody really knows.

That is, by far, the most impactful video I have ever seen. Thank you so much.