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I was in full boarding from 13 to 18 at Dulwich College in the 80s/90s. Best time of my life.

A lot of Marxist freaks in Labour run councils who are hell bent on breaking families up send children to special needs boarding schools.

I was at a British religious boarding school where the temperature was cold - and the love and acceptance was even colder. It was six years of unhappiness and loneliness where I missed my parents and hated the school. I vowed my children would NEVER be shipped off to such an unloving hateful institution.

Good stuff, I wish people in the States would talk about this too (they don't start as early but there is a system in the Northeast which most people are unaware of).

Many times it is people we love or expect to have a normal relationship with like a sister, mother, husband. The concept of no contact is bizarre? Like there must be a way to fix this?? Not totally, abnormal everyone. But there is a spirit on people that destroys love. It has to prove that love can be destroyed. Because it enforces their beliefs that being selfish is the safest. When they crush someone and prove love is not the most important thing, they are satisfied.

Beautiful resonance between you. Lovely to experience ❤

Great conversation. I know I am late but really appreciate this insight. I went to boarding in a South African government school and I am only getting to understand the impact it had on me… 30 years later. I went from age 7.

Christine has an amazing love essence that resonates the healing vibration and her music is that expression 💖 thank you Christine 🦄

Great interview!!! Excellent!

I am nearly 60. This explains so much of my life... Thank you, thank you thank you!

A lot of interesting insights and I liked that the argumentation wasn’t all one sided. My particular case is that I was a boarder for only 2 years for the first two years of prep school at a Jesuit school but otherwise completed regular school in Canada. Your discussion provided me with some valuable ah-ha realisations. I have no intention of defending boarding school. But I think it’s all too easy to criticise it as trauma because it’s identifiable. We point to it as a trauma as if there was a some bliss filled alternative. I’m not saying there isn’t a better alternative, but I don’t think regular schools are less traumatic, just more random. Life is a succession of overcoming layers of self-deceptions each of which is traumatic. Life is a series traumas the greatest of which is birth - and yet it’s the greatest gift.

i really like what you guys talk about at 1:19:08 , connecting the emotional disciplining that happens at boarding schools to the running of the empire and the separation from the natural world (which is a big contributor to the current global biodeath situation we're in, imo!) i also really like what he says right at the end: "for the men: what work do you have to complete that your father wasn't able to do?"

I grew up in a close family unit. My mother, my grandmother, my older sister and ME. My father was an Officer in the Royal Navy, and away at sea most of the time. When he left the Navy and went to work overseas my sister(12) and I(10) were sent to Boarding school. As a couple of other commenters have remarked ours was not a Public School;, but a regular Grammar School with a Boarding House. I was intellectually ahead, and passed the 11+ a year early. I was allowed to attend only because my sister would be there. It didn't help, I was bullied by girls in my Dormitory from day1, and my sister only intervened when my bruises became obvious. One girl was expelled, the other excused because she "came from a broken home". She bullied me, without leaving bruises, for the next 6 years. The first Psychologist to bring up the fact that I had been abandoned by BOTH of my parents shocked the H out of me. Not my beloved Mama! After having my own children I can see it more clearly. I love them so much that it hurts, and has actually hurt both them and me, I could barely say no to them, how could I have ever sent them away! I am a pretty classic case, a string of broken relationships, the "imposter syndrome", perfectionism, the feeling of never being "good enough", a failure despite successes. I am an extrovert on the outside, and a recluse on the inside. The only person whom I trust is my sister! Even my best friend from Boarding School, with whom I am still friends, hurt me deeply when she didn't ask me to be in her wedding party. (I have been a Bride twice, and never a bridesmaid.) At 76, I am still processing it. I have been married twice, 3 times if you count my "Hippie" marriage from 1970-75. In each of them I still felt alone, still do. I always look for the hidden flaw that shows that no-one really loves me - or even likes me! How could they? I am unlovable, I expect rejection, and recognize it before it happens.

The fractal nature of our universe. As above as below.

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Great video Bryn! Lots to take in, aided by the visuals. Looking forward to sharing this with others. Thanks for creating and sharing it.

Leo Tolstoy wrote a piece 'Slavery of our time' it's written more than a hundred years ago but you'll be surprised how little had changed since then. Leo Tolstoy is one of the biggest names of his time. His words mattered. He was writing about this stuff you are talking about and how many of us who knows this name know about this peice? Maybe we just wanna talk, we don't wanna change? 😄

Ok, Richard, no-one forced me to be in a relationship with a narcissist but it's extremely difficult to figure out their play if it's an unfamiliar terrain. And as Ekhart Tolle mentioned in his book, there's no real choice if you aren't conscious. So what now, everyone who's not fully conscious is codependent? And as mentioned earlier if everyone is a narcissist then no-one is. Same goes for codependents I assume. It seems a bit of a black and white approach. How about we are all narcissists to an extent. A certain percentage, a number, an amount of traits and their strength in us. And the morals and cultures just draw the line in the sand, this is still ok and beyond that is already too much. How about we all are codependent to an extent? It's ok, same as it's kinda ok we aren't all enlightened. Looks like all we are discussing here is just where the line was yesterday and where it should be drawn tomorrow just so we can still stand each other on this bandwagon on the way to communal liberation

I like the feedback idea, however wouldn't that create a highly volatile / disruptive environment for operations and management, and potentially open to accelerationist exploitation? The hospital would need to upramp recruitment to meet the new demand, which would have a lag time in response to address that decision. Perhaps the votes should be based on desired outcomes, rather than specified issues? Unless I've missed something. Like the idea but the feedback/response part makes me feel nervous based on how they are measured for success.

Very insightful ❤

My very English parents sent me to school in Perth at 8yo, dad was a British army officer, and were shocked and horrified when I came home a few months later with an Australian accent! 🙄

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What a lovely conversation. Thank you both!

I've found that meditation has made me calmer. I've finally got back into bowling and because of this bloody epilepsy I'm also getting help from ndis which has been great. It's nice to think that someone cares

Excellent interview. Good chemistry and pleasant rapport. Thank you.

Convid is a political pandemic, not a health one.

This is SO true! We are slaves in a plantation.

It's funny how Richard says there aren't people running the "beast" in his words and then continues to describe how the people in media "loath us people " and that they see us as " cattle ". His observation is a 100% true! The people he encountered are at the complete bottom of the " beast system ". Now imagine what the people at the top think of "us people" and how people with power and money would act that have an attitude of loathing towards "us people ". Just food for thought.

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I had a brother who went in to one of these schools and got expelled. Took to crime later on.

22:56 same orphan 23:16 again cant let them down.

Fabulous exchange, thank you!

Boarding school for me really affected my sense of self-worth. I feel a lot of shame about my time there. But I feel like I was the only one, even though that couldn't possibly be true. At the time of, we were all enemies or at least couldn't trust each other, then in adulthood you either never saw them again or never talked about what happened. I don't regard the nasty guys from school as villains; it's the same behavior wherever you go. The teachers, on the other hand...

I feel such an ignoramus! I’ve only just jumped onto this charabang!!! Better late than

I actually look forward to death, I want to be able to get out of here to a place that will accept me and pardon me allowing me to be with others who accept and just be

I went to a boarding school in India, and it really messed me up. I am looking to connect to people who feel the same. Please reach out to me.

Solid video. I hadn't really thought about how codependent I've been with my job, my church, the world at large. The thing about us co-d is we volunteer for it even when no one is trying to provoke a fawn response. As I listen I've been cleaning and throwing out things I've kept unconsciously because "this is a good thing and I really should learn how to do this thing..." Well, it may be, but that doesn't mean I have to do it. Let it go, let it gooo....

Let me break it all down. Male boarding schools produce this..... Adults who Lack empathy, manipulative personality, an complete lack of emotional balance, emotions that cannot be spoken about.... so they are cowards, liars, untrustworthy because they trust no body. They lack how to be a ‘normal human being’ who is open & honest largely. Boarding schools produce people who enjoy & seek to make others miserable & enjoy seeing hurt in others. It’s basically psychopathology, destructive personality disorder. They are unable to show love because they never have. Should you feel sorry for them, yes to some extent, but one should distance them self’s from them, they are damaged goods, a stray dog always on edge & scared

Meera Finnigan is a brilliant philosophy tutor.

I'd just like to say that I was emotionally abused at home and so by the time I was sent to boarding school I was already very angry with life .apparently I was very popular but I didn't feel it as I had no self esteem - apparently the rest of the kids in the cubicles thought I was " too nice" . Really the only thing that boarding school did for me was made me very self sufficient. As my sister said to me " you don't need anyone do you" and I replied "not really " which is a bit sad when your only 18 - I'm now 65 and am still struggling to accept help as I don't think I deserve it . I felt unwanted when I was at "home" and more so when I was sent to bloody boarding school

Thank you for an confirmation conversation ;)

Silly statement that Queen Elizabeth never touched Prince Charles. there are many photos of Queen Elizabeth holding young prince Charles.....so she did touch her son. Maybe not enough, I 'll give you that.

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My time at boarding school.... well the only way I describe it is that it was the longest and hardest time in my life. Maslov's heirarchy of needs dictates that individuals need everything like food and water to survive on a basic level .... they did provide that..... but they provided nothing else. safety - i was bullied... I never knew from one term to the next which horrible people I would be sharing my dorm room with.... love. there was no love. these were people who were paid to watch you, but not love you. And love is on maslov's heirarchy of needs.

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Thank you Bryn. This was a ground breaking discussion about one of, if not 'the', most relevant topics of these times. while I've considered myself to be somewhat educated on the subject of narcissism and have been aware of Sam Vaknin's work for a while, this conversation took things to a whole new level. The look on your face in the last half of the discussion was priceless and I suspect that your viewers, like myself, were as stunned as you appeared to be. For those interested, not only in the topic of narcissism, but also its breadth of reach, this is a MUST watch. I agree with 'Over 60 So What' (in the comments) 100%. This video should absolutely go VIRAL. Idea: Do a shorter edited version, as the length may be off putting to many otherwise interested views. Just a thought.

Great lecture/conversation. Thanks so much for sharing.

Great conversation gentlemen. I really appreciate being able to listen to this, as I have no friends or family that speak my language.

As the daughter of two narcissists created in the harsh environment of boarding school and stiff upper lip childhood I really, really challenge the concept that encouraging children to express their unique differences and loving them to bits is a form of abuse which creates narcissism. My parents' narcissism was forged in an environment of privileged neglect.