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Sadly the instances you talk about are to common. Thousends of people have their lives disrupted by false allegations. These have to stop. It doesnt help the children at all. Its also about time that courts enforced orders properly.

But don’t all the countries you mention emigrating to belong to REMO? Won’t the clownshoes still get us regardless?

Contempt of men, let them learn they have not a voice

Unfortunate all very true. The CMS came after me for £11,600 they said I owed from 25 years ago. I was told I would have to prove my innocence but they ignored all the evidence I sent proving all payments were made. My complaints were ignored and my bank account frozen for two years during which they continued to demand money. In a letter to my MP they said that they couldn't prove that I owed anything as they had destroyed all the records, they had all my evidence but they were going to take the money from my bank account anyway. I was in my 60s, the 'child' nearly 40. In the end it turned out that my ex had asked them to close the case but they continued anyway, so she would never have seen the money.

I went self employed and they froze my bank accounts.

What a pleasure to discover you today. What a legend! I'm 59, Aussie & my lads are now 19 & 16. I've had 100% care of my lads, ordered by the Federal Circuit Court of Australia, going on eight years. Her Honour also ordered there be no unsolicited communication allowed by mother to her sons. I'd like anyone reading this to pause & reflect on two things: 1) what type of problems must a mother have to have recieved such a harsh outcome. 2) How the mothers' challenges affect her children & their father.

The DWP gives £23.5 million per year to HMCTS

Thank you so much for sharing experience. I really needed to hear this. Currently going through hopeless time. I think I might just take your advice mate. Pack up and get the fuck out. gonna miss my little boy.

well done mate

I want to take your disposition. You have character, integrity and substance. I've qualified as a mediation and facilitator, court fanatic, legal whip and project coordinator. I'm only a lucky penny. You are my lucky pound. Tbh, and tots honesty.... Your knowledge needs to be refined, your insights need to be processed and your failures should be explored. You are the key or a key. As a investigate journalist in the southern tip of West Cork, I've never heard such a solid but mixed up formula in all my days. Name a place... We can just discuss your deposition, referendummnmms, advise and surprising revelations. We do need to work together.

Thanks for sharing!

I haven't seen my son 19 months

So when you say go self employed how does It help as I’ve recently gone S/E but at the moment I still get paid through my bank. Could You PM me some more info it would be reslly Helping me out. Thanks so much

Absolutely brilliant and sadly bitterly true.

Dads in family court are as good as blacks in apartheid South Africa

I’m going through this exactly the same I’m 23k into it with a 3 day fact finding next I do broke

Thanks for sharing your thoughts, life experience and advice. Legend.

never thought i would ever ever give up on my child. i did. why. cos you either self delete or somehow move on. the un-uk is a complete lie. i hate you un-uk more than any outside enemy the un-uk has.............................

Thank you so much for doing this I am so grateful

Mate, sad to say, but your son is weak because he never had a father figure when he grew up. This is the result of mother's personal beef with you. Not your fault at all mate.

Mate how are you doing now? Hope you are well and your family is well

Hi mate, hope you are well. Any update on your situation?

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If you are asking whether it is lawful under the Magna Carta for the government to seize all of someone's money without compensation, then the answer is no. The Takings Clause of the Fifth Amendment, which derived from the Magna Carta, is a right against the uncompensated takings of property. In simple terms, if the government takes one of your property interests away-like the right to exclude others from your land-it must immediately pay a fair price for the value of that property interest. If one person wants a baby but the other dosen't. The UK and USA are the only places on earth that unlawfully force a person with a Y chromosome into farther hood.

I wish we had rights but yea if your q dad ans you dont have money then your screwed my son i can see Stockholm syndrome in my boy to

I think young males in secondary schools need to be educated not in just being taught the mechanics of sex education but in the profound emotional investments required when they become parents. And to be assertive in the their own notion of genuinely wanting children and NOT to go along with WHAT she wants. It will save severe grief in the long run. Also let them understand male and female are so totally different it does make me wonder if its worth investing in heterosexual long term partnerships when young (18 to 45) and for males to hook up later in life when she cannot push out kids anymore. Maranatha

I have been arrested many times for false allegations brought by my ex partner whom I have a son. She purposely rang police many times for things as trivial as being asked to leave her flat and because I'm just trying to explain myself, she will ring the police and have a record on the incident. She would ring the police if I turned up at her flat trying to see my son. On occasions she would invite me round, then after a mood swing she would ring the police again. There is close to 15 incidents on record none of which resulted in an conviction on my record. after many lies she managed to get a restraining order on me, she allowed me to come around and see my son even whilst a restraining order was in place because at the time, that was the only place she would allow. Then ring the police again when I turned up and see didn't feel like letting me in that day. Now when I get into a new relationship social services notify my new partner and produce a Claire's Law, as if I am a danger to women. I sympathize and relate with you alot. After nearly 2 years of not seeing my son, I'm going to try and represent myself in court. I have no doubt it will be a long hard road

Don't every blame yourself. This is the fault of the system. They like to empower women and fu*k the fathers. Because, they want to control

For any woman who wants to abuse the law made to protect them - part TWO of two. 12. Remember - making him homeless is your priority - how can he possibly move house, pay short term things like internet by the week - when not on long term contract they often cost well over £30 per week, same with phone contracts etc. And he'll have to find deposits and try to work through all of this. Who can defend themselves when working full time, suddenly expected to have solicitor meetings etc, with no secure place to put files and printers and no 'home office'. or space to relax in a bedsit or temporary quickly sourced accommodation near the children. If he’s self employed or successful and has loads of stuff - where’s going to put his tools or his chattels? In hos van to get stolen, out on the street? In a mate’s garage? Got him, he’ll have to sell it all off for nothing and won’t be able to concentrate, look after his stuff or carry on with what he did. 13. Don't bother to turn up as required for mediation which is the gateway to legal aid - you as a woman will get support anyway, they won't check and the man will just turn up like an idiot. Sit and home and laugh. Relax, have a glass of wine. 14. Use your children - remember 'because you're worth it' - you are what counts above all else. 15. Say what you want - turn up, threaten him, even chase him around the house in front of loads of witnesses trying to grab a tape recorder with the proof you're lying on it, and has you laughing at how stupid the courts and judges are - the chances are he'll never be allowed to make any representation, but he will have to spend some £300 per started half day in getting a licenced agency to get it all transcribed- keep his cash-flow dire, even better, drive him into debt - more worry makes him perform worse, as you know. 16. Come round to his place every day and seduce him - make sure he can't tell you to sod off by bringing your children round and tell him if he doesn't sleep with you he will not see them. Don't worry, not matter how many witnesses there are, the police won't touch it and the courts won't check - they have no one to do that job, even. Oh and steal what you like - the police will say it's a civil matter as you had a relationship, and even if you steal belongings obviously which are the property of someone else they'll just say it could have been a mistake - so you can mess up his new girlfriend, out of sheer spite, too. Smash the house up - no one will believe it was poor frightened little you. Just go there with some witnesses, leave it in good order then say you forgot your handbag and trash the place quickly alone - it only takes 5 minutes. 17. Sorry forgot another good tip or two: when he tries to fight the non molestation order it's a full blown hearing, days long, you will win it anyway, so keep up the hours so it will cost him a fortune - he will have to pay his solicitor, yours, expenses and admin and so on - make sure you spend 13 hours crying to your solicitors down the phone (or at least make sure they say that) - he will have to pay for those 13 hours at what, £600 per hour? but the best bit it, it’s all PLUS VAT! You can always remind him with an SMS (remember, if he replies he's a criminal straight away!) how you've stuffed him over. 18. Ohh and another one a friend's ex did - if he gets away with anything you don't happen to like, say, seeing his children to take them on holiday once a year - just go to a court in a different county and say he's snatched the children - Interpol are immediately informed, it even gets priority over child sex rings, people and drug trafficking by the look of things - and not only his own properties abroad or his hotel, but all the properties of his family will be raided in dawn raids by groups of armed police - and you'll have the court order and Interpol to back you up! Again, nothing will happen to you, that's the best bit, and it will cost him friendships, embarrassment, family quarrels, maybe even an elderly relative hospitalised with a severe heart attack - bingo! It works, tried and tested! 19. Avoid obeying Court Orders just for japes! You can always say you got the dates mixed up or that you were unwell - no one will do anything. Even better if he has to travel a long way or if your children are messed up for the rest of their lives! Better yet, just tell him 'tomorrow is better' - day after day, guaranteed the idiot will care and come back time and again, paying for hotels in between, off work, rebooking expensive treats he can ill afford yet has promised the children - actually you can do it day after day until it’s time for them to go back to school - it's a great laugh! If he then has to let the children down badly due to money totally running out, even better! 18. Debts - by claiming abuse, get an order to sell the house after a few years of renting it out (best to a friend then it’s just that bit ‘easier with paperwork’). Claim you paid the majority of the deposit and mostly paid the mortgage (do some crying) - get some family to lie for you and maybe even give them a backhander. You know what most hardworking men are like with paperwork - they ask you to do it as they’re dog tired when they get in, year after year! By making sure your ex man is in debt paying to travel to see his children, paying maintenance, spending money on hotels etc just to see them, and keeping him delayed a day or three each time, paying for courts and solicitors and short term accommodation and day to day bills, possibly unable to hold down a job, especially if he’s been worried sick and/or having to leave to go to court for days on end, it will mean the court orders his half (well, one third if he’s lucky) of the sale value will be ordered to be paid to creditors, and your solicitors could take well over a year to make those payments, meaning he will have his first and only (but forever!?) bad credit record and won’t be able to get a mortgage and the debt will spiral with rents, hopelessness and all the rest. Even better the children probably won’t be allowed to stay in a bedsit (keep him paying through the nose, remember) so he will have to pay for accommodation which they won’t like anyway as it’s not a home in any sense, with none of their things there that they have at hone, nor their friends nor habits, so they might not want to see him anymore and think of him as a loser. Gotcha!

For any man accused, or for women wanting to abuse the law made to protect them: Part One of two: Girls: 1. make as many allegations as you can, to make defence awkward, time consuming overwhelming and difficult. As they say, sling enough mud and some of it will stick - ergo the court has all its focus on the bloke and lie as much you like. Don't worry, even if he has proof about his person that you're lying, he'll probably never be allowed to speak or show it anyway. 2. Make police allegations so that the man will be in his back foot and worried/scared and arrested possibly for the first time in his life - don't worry, no one can prove you're lying as long as you keep it to rapes and beatings and anything interpersonal - no hang on, I could prove she was lying but the police retained evidence and won't touch it - so just pile them on, there is no disincentive. 3. First step is to get a Non Molestation Order - they only cost a few quid, the paperworl is suspiciously easy, no proof (or even evidence) is necessary and the man won't even be informed until it's too late and in force. It's guilty until proven innocent - he will have to spend his time and money to challenge it and in the months it will take him to get a hearing you will have default custody as 'the children are settled with you'. Again don't worry about lying, no one is going to check up. 4. Lie to the police as much as possible, even right in front of them when they see you lying - we live in an age of such sexism against men that they won't touch you or look into anything you do. 5. Break into the man's house, steal, go round and see him - provoke him and the best way is to deliberately hurt your children - just remember, he only has to call you once and he'll be charged criminally with an indelible and lifelong criminal record for a breach of the Non Molestation Order. And if he so much as once raises hi voice, he's the bully, so go for it! 6. Cry a lot. Judges love it - you'll get about £600 per tear (literally), so make sure you practice - if you do it on your solicitor's shoulder, you might get bonus points. 7. Just lie and say you're homeless to get the house in your name - then rent it out. Doesn't mater if you are already shacked up with some other man - no-one is going to check - do you seriously think the judge will rock up at your address to check? He's on a roll - good salary, no responsibility - why should he or anyone else care? 8. You can get loads of court orders against the man without him ever knowing - just make applications to court and say you don't know where he is. The more orders you get the better - he will be told they can never be used against him, but they are by courts and police alike, time after time. 9. Use social services - just claim abuse, they're mostly zealots and/or man-haters justifying their existence or meeting targets or political aims, so the more you cry the better again, but be careful - some of them are so overdone and will try to take your children anyway, no wrongdoing actually necessary, let alone proven. 10. Keep up the pressure, the better the man is, the more likely he will play fair and do the best for his children - these are the ,en who are best milked and likely to be the hardest working and conscientious - the perfect target. And remember - your sisters have been doing this so long now that all courts now believe their own statistics - it's a self-sustaining fallacy - so the man has no chance. 11. If you make enough and serious enough allegations, the judge might push (or unlawfully force) a man to get a solicitor - firstly there's a chance there isn't one available in his area, then there's a chance he can't afford it or is just breaking down with fear for his children, or can’t get the time off work for proper full meetings or updates - then you've got him!

Just the first step though in seeing lying women in prison.

So many dads asking for help now, just my opinion om what to do, through experience, for anyone asking: It is hopeless even to protest in court: the courts and solicitors reap in vast amounts of money from each father trying to see their children - a solicitor can make his career on just a few of them - it's destruction of justice to such a degree that these orders against men cannot be an accident but are the result of sheer evil. You have a few options - 1. we need a Union of fathers so big that the state has to listen, which has yet to be started. 2. Gather and publish the story of a different father daily and making sure it gets into a national newspaper/TV and is on the internet and is handed to every embassy and consulate in London to show how corrupt the UK really is - that requires time and dedication. 3. Emigrate so as not to lose all you have. 4. Arrange public protests outside courts and police stations showing proof of immorality/corruption/ineptitude 5. Campaign for the total dissolution of Social Services who arguably cause more problems than they fix and more importantly publicly flout the law and the courts (proven). 6. Challenge every police officer you see with proofs of what the police do and don't do - so that they feel ashamed of what they ultimately represent. 7. The best piece of advice I can offer you personally is to never, ever for one second believe you will get good advice from solicitors or fair representation in court in the UK or reason from social services or CAFCAS or any official organisation - look for a second route - to embarrass and draw attention to the total failure and corruption of the system. 9. Fathers tend to stay quiet for fear of being 'punished' by a judge in court for something they consider inconvenient to them (and by God they do!) - forget that - you will not get justice in any case, so try something else and go loud, go public - they can't arrest and keep us all! You will be told that by kowtowing and doing all you are told, time and again, that everything will work out best for you and your children - it's total rubbish, and why nothing has changed so far - it just make you subservient and easier for the crap and inept/corrupt system to process. The faster you realise this, the faster you/we will get things changed. 10. Note on paper with time and date EVERY event from a mad ex and from any official body, date, time, signature and write every event in sequence in a hardback quality notebook so that no editions or additions can every be made and you cannot be accused of making any = no spaces, no margins, names of witnesses at the time noted, etc. - ask any present officials to sign your notes as correct, and note and identify who they are if they refuse - I guarantee you that official records will be lost or destroyed. ONE BOOK FOR ALL NOTES and make regular copies of it in case she breaks in / manipulates/charms her way in to steal evidence (not uncommon). 11. My thoughts were always to remain calm and assume the woman will calm down - talking to psychologists, Narcissists and people with mental disorders related to accusation do not get calmer over the years, they get worse, so don't kid yourself or be lulled. 12. Get video security on your house for when the mad ex visits (they often/usually do, no matter what orders they have in place). If she ever calls and asks to meet you no matter how calm sounding - it's a trap, a manipulation for something they want in their game - never forget that - report it to the police by email immediately (and don't forget the police destroy/lose evidence and lie commonly, so KEEP PRINTED COPIES OF EVERYTHING AT A FRIEND'S HOME WHERE SHE CAN'T GET THEM OR SEE THEM). Buy a hidden tape recorder and record ALL conversations, from with exs to officials to police to courts and film any events you can - that way they have to behave a certain way on video (or at least they will be recorded quietly, too). 13. Remember, virtually ALL officials will lie and evade answers to save their skins when the time comes. 14. Remember the maxim that people (mad women) who cannot control themselves try to control others. 15. You may even consider a hunger strike, public events etc - not easy but they probably do far more good than harm, and interest in this issue is at last slowly rising - you can help it along. 16. Never swear or lose your temper, 'they' will try to provoke this, to try to make you look like an aggressive loony (it's a common Barrister court trick) *no matter what they themselves have done*. 17. Always remember that the courts are NOT there to provide justice but to follow the law - but they can't even manage that - and often don't know it, ignore it, make stunning omissions, stonewall or manipulate it to suit - they are a total farce in the UK (provably). 18. Never forget that your solicitor/barrister is not 'on your side' - they are there to make money and to guard or further their own career (they won't stand up and speak when something is blatantly out of order in a hearing for fear of upsetting a judge, for example) - hearings and paperwork is what they do, day in day out, they do this daily and do not care, for them your case is like going food shopping, and as humans they become 'normalised' to listening to bullshit and lies, women winning all by lying, and children being hurt - it doesn't affect them - you are fighting people already thus psychologically damaged and also some downright psycopaths (people who like power over others) - some of them very intelligent, some of them so stupid it's beyond creedance, but they say the right things and keep their jobs. 19. There are exceptions, of course there are, but betting on that is not good odds and not a good strategy, no matter how much you fear for the wellbeing of your children and hope that decency, reason and justice, as most of us do, will win (mistakenly!). And good luck.

Well done Martin, so well done, I'm in tears... you've done better than I in having achieved some promising results. Seeing the vast corruption and stunning ineptitude in the 'family courts' I can only empathise, and still have a serious doubt of anything approaching justice or proper implementation, but we can only hope, and thank you again. My experience was perhaps comparable to yours (actually if you'll pardon me, not knowing all the facts, I'd say it was a lot, lot worse from what you have said, and that many men go through far worse, daily). An important point is that some fathers have total, absolute, unequivocal proof of ongoing abuse of police and courts, yet even when the police have seen it and have every power to investigate and prosecute, they simply refuse. Indeed the police have seen my e lying to them repeatedly, two female officers were shaking with anger at the blatant child abuse in front of them by my ex, one was weeping as she walked away - personally they helped me at that moment, but the police as a organisation will do NOTHING. In my case, the blatantly criminal actions by my ex *includes* perjury, child abuse, repeated assault and battery, thefts, criminal damage. Social services assaulted my 3.5 year old son, and destroyed evidence by stunning stupidity, the police refused to release crucial evidence which was absolute proof of her lying about the THE most serious of allegations, I was NEVER at any point allowed to speak or to make representation in court. A judge put my ex and son in mortal danger (by sheer stupidity) and made an order that banned me from the entire town where the family court was - ergo by attending court I was committing a criminal offence. A solicitor gave e such wrong legal information that I was laughed at by the judge, and he subsequently tried to blackmail me to protect himself/his firm, the CAFCAS woman put her hand over the proof I offered her in writing that my ex was lying about *everything* (87 allegations) and refused to look at it, the court lost evidence (I have copies, but that's by the by), there are missing records of official meetings *in the court premises*, the police (unlawfully) arrested me for peacefully and lawfully trying to obtain (even further) independent witness evidence - and there is FAR more. I once served for my country, have a totally clean record and was never in trouble, yet every complaint I have tried to raise has been rebutted or stonewalled. An MP kind enough to help me was lied to in The House (at which point he withdrew). And so on... I will be in touch by email at the address given on TH-cam - I only hope my story will be of help as further evidence against the utterly crap, deprecated and sexist system in place. I left the country out of sheer disgust and hate to go back. Most importantly, my childrens' lives have been absolutely destroyed - they saw my ex coming round daily, blackmailing me for sex on pain of not seeing my son, after her obtaining a non Molestation order the strongest the judge had ever issued, as he said himself - and now my children have no trust in society, the police, their country, or indeed in their parents (me) who could not protect them - and was prevented from doing so at every juncture. Please readers consider what this does to a child. Two of my sons have seen their little brother tormented, used and hurt deliberately by someone I believe to be a wholesale Narcissist and/or psycopath - and it has simply killed them inside. Oh yesh, forgot to mention - 10 hearings I was never even told about (TEN!) but found out about years later - she'd just go and get a court hearing, saying she didn't know where I was (she was in phone contact DAILY and knew precisely - there are loads of witnesses, photos, the lot, plus all the call records). Best wishes to you and thank you again.

TOTALLY INEPT and CORRUPT UK COURT SYSTEM: I stated clearly, repeatedly in a Family Court in England (Eastbourne) my wish to represent myself to be shouted down by the Judge who said repeatedly, louder each time "Mr XXXX I SUGGEST you get a lawyer". I believe this is unlawful - isn't it? But then the Judge was so hopeless that he put a woman and child in danger and issued a court order banning me from the entire town where the hearing was - ergo by attending civil court I was committing a criminal offence. At no point whatsoever was I allowed to speak or make representation in Court, because I physically couldn't get a solicitor at all at first, then was told by two firms they could and would represent me who then they backed down at the last minute (as they didn't know Legal Aid rules), and I had to accept a firm who turned out to be so bad that they gave me totally, blatantly wrong legal advice which made me look a fool in front of an already biased judge: Then the same firm couldn't tell me if I had representation or not in Court at the last minute for a hearing, due to some to-ing and fro-ing with Legal Aid paperwork. This is only the tip of the iceberg of provable ineptitude, deliberate corruption, even loss of paperwork by the Courts, CACFAS, Social Services - who destroyed crucial evidence by stunning stupidity (and their blatantly refusing to examine other proof that my accuser was 'lying her tits off'). My ex was blatantly manipulating the Courts and a Non Molestation order (coming round to see me daily, bringing our infant son as long as I promised to f...k her), even leaving our son with me for one weekend, though the Non Mol order stated that I was "so violent that if I saw her I would hospitalise her or worse, and/or snatch our son". I have loads of witnesses, photos, recordings, printouts of SMS messages, you name it, but the police refuse to look into it, even though she committed crimes from blackmail to repeated assaults to criminal damage to perjury (constant, blatant, provable!). An MP kind enough to help me was blatantly lied to in The House of Commons (at which point he withdrew, which I can understand, as it's a career wrecker persuing these matters). The Legal Department of the Chancellor of the Exchequer's Office committed very serious breaches under the Data Protection Act. The solicitor firm who gave me the wrong advice tried to blackmail me and made sure I cannot speak with/contact the solicitor who gave it (who left the firm), and honestly there is far far more... yet EVERY attempt at complaint has been stonewalled. The UK courts are in total disarray, I have never seen such ineptitude in any other service worldwide. In terms of representing oneself, the Fathers for Justice organisation recommend this as it keeps greedy, inept and half interested lawyers at bay. But much use is their advice and their publication on how to go about representing oneself if one is anyway disallowed. My childrens' lives have been totally destroyed, they are now psychological wrecks, as they saw all this happening - her coming round daily and my fear of arrest, even the police seeing her lying to them, to their faces - two female officers were shaking with anger (and one weeping as she walked away) at the child abuse that went on right in front of them, and these two helped me as best they could at the time, but as an organisation the police refused to help officially and refuse even to issue a report number, despite the wasting of police time and lying to them, this having been seen by them directly and repeatedly. In fact, on one occasion they arrested me for peacefully and lawfully trying to obtain the evidence of an important witness (I had my own witness with me) and the police would not release a copy of her (my exs) statement to them which was absolute and irrefutable proof that she was lying both to them and to the Court about the most serious of allegations. The UK does not have a functioning family court system and the police function on pure, unmitigated sexism against men (this was Sussex Police whos information centre at Lewes didn't know who their Chief Constable was (I kid you not!)). Name and shame Judge Robinson sitting at Eastbourne, for total ineptitude, preventing me from representing myself and stopping all attempts at providing evidence (rather, total proof of persistent lies by my accuser), and for putting a woman and children in danger, and Helen Ingledew of Brighton and Eastbourne Social Services for destroying crucial evidence (through stupidity), manipulating the courts (which she has been proven doing by Judicial Enquiry), assault on a 3.5yr old child and falsifying a court report. Just how low can these people stoop? (EDIT:) oh yes, and I forgot to add that there were 10 (TEN!) hearings I was never even informed of ones I only found out about years later. Oh yeah, and all this because I left her as she was sleeping with another man - whilst pregnant with our son. Her name is Caroline Heather White and she lives in Sussex with her lying husband Roshan Dias Jayasingh, who even drove her to meet me, having signed statements against me to stop me seeing my son, who she is unfaithful to (I know, because one of them was me, time after time (witnessed, severally)). Now that my other children have left home I can say what I like and go and live in Russia if I have to - I'm going to expose the scum and the cesspit that the UK has become. Video coming soon. Thanks for this one - it's great to know others are standing up and fighting what the Lord Chief Justices and Directors of Public Prosecutions and successive governments are too cowardly, selfish and low to organise themselves.

martin is there anyway i could contact you for some advice atall ? really could do with some help right now

My x has stoped me seing my 2 young boys.. who r 3 an 1... shes hooked up with this new guy an hes moved in with her an there engaged already.. been together 4 months.. shes ripped my heart out an ruined our family... shes a narcissist aswell so shes done nothing wrong in her eyes.. but shes booked 2 go on holiday in feb a day b4 my sons birthday, which hurts.. didn even ask me if its ok 2 go untill after thed booked it. but the things she has said an done 2 me r appuling! An shes enjoyed an he has watching me lose it all... im completely drained mentally, physically an financially.... an just dont know wat to do anymore.. i just wana c my kids an b a good dad.. but according 2 her im not right mentally, an her an her family wont let me c them now.. so i just gota keep a cool head an do things the right way.. which i was doing anyway. But any lil slip up an they use it against me . so to c your vids shows that this is happening day in day out.. an its the worst feeling an time ever.. i hope your ok yourself mate and ill take wat i got from your vids an try an use it to help me through this...

Hi, could i meet with you in person? im having troubles myself

I am in a very similar position right now. Joke of a system.

I recently lost dad 2 covid in October, then mam to a heart attack in jan, then my gf left me for a twat she works with end of feb, i had a complete breakdown, i have a 3 year old with her an a 1 year old, now the things she an him av said an done 2 me is appuling, i cant write it all. But she did stop me seing them, then sent me times which suited her so i agreed 2 keep the peace, but that maggot of a man is now living with her an my kids, my youngest is still breast fed an i know hes in bed with her an my son. Which kills me, an as much as i wana go over there an drag him out i cant, coz i b worse of for it.. so im trying 2 keep my cool.. but reading wat other dads have gone through its horrific, so its good to av these sites coz we need 2 stick together, shes nearly destroyed me with wat shes done. But i try an b the better man for my kids. Coz i dont trust him or her, an the fact hes around my boys more than me now an going on holidays with them tears me apart.. so any help or advice i will gladly take.. thank u.. ✌

Top man. I had a CSA worker laugh out loud on the phone when I asked if I could get food vouchers or food/clothing instead of money as the mother had/has a drug habit and used to spend all my bill money on gear. They’re a absolute bunch of pricks

How about my ex wife ex boyfriend he is always trying to get in my children life it’s my turn to be a dad to my children please tell what I can do about this

I’m going through this now. My partner took my daughter and left 2 weeks ago. I have videos where she’s screaming at me and I’m not doing anything apart from sitting there. She’s ignoring me now and I feel devestated

The British family courts are bastions of abuse, injustice and lunacy beyond measure, the lawyers and judges are corrupt privileged prats who have never done a real day's work in their life. Totally out of touch morons. I have been the victim of EXTREME domestic abuse (proven in court, videos, police records - ie HARD EVIDENCE) - the courts don't give a s**t, not interested in truth or any sort of justice. The sooner the vile disgusting family courts are destroyed the better, so now totally good and hard working people like me without even so much as a parking ticket deeply respectful of police, risking my life for 2 years as a key worker thinking society was worth the risk. I'll tell you now if anarchy came tomorrow I would be delighted.

I am going through the same situation at the moment and don't now what to do any help or suggestions would be appreciated My daughter is 19 months and the mom is trying everything to just get more money out of me. Just because I don't a want a relationship with her any more. I love my daughter and want to be with her as much as possible. She is trying to distroy my life and relashship with my daughter Thanks any tips please Js

I am so very very sorry. My heart goes out to you. It is simply not fair and makes me so bloody angry, very angry that these girls / women get away with this!!! 😡😡😡😡😡

Hi I’m going through a lot with my kids mums too 5 years of seeing them on and off to now not seeing them at all I’ve just started miesiation I just want to say that ur inspirational people just don’t understand how much this goes on I rate you fella

Please can you help me I'm in family court next month I've been alienated from my son for the past 8 months. My son's mother has made false allegations against me and I've been charged with assault 😐 I'm going through a scary period.

I was never given a chance to meet my son even though I got access in court

For me my son is about to turn 3 on Xmas Eve I went to court in February 2019 and and I was given 2 days access a week but all she has ever done is ignore it I don't see him for months at s time she taught my son to call her bf daddy I have no friends no family and I'm dealing with it on my own i don't want to be here anymore at all she is nasty and vile I wish I was dead

This is happen same shit to me this country is estúpidamente as fuck célibe in the woman just because she is a woman disgusting law .dads are better than mums