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The worst was having my boss compete with me. My first red flag among many should have been when she told me she is a very jealous person when I first started the job. I got tired of her taking my ideas and holding me back so I left. She got promoted. I loved the job…good pay flexibility, etc. but I left after the higher up boss left because there was no longer a buffer between me and my direct supervisor.

I see a therapist because of this. Also complicated PTSD from a previous life in uniform. Military blues to corporate blues isn’t an easy transition. It’s terrible actually.

People compete for alphas attevtion favor. Doesnt have to be male..ive seen the man get ignored by the whole straight group. I hate leaving home

If u think about it its survival in the wild it would be not good for another woman to take your man..nature is brutal.😢i watched an eagle fly off with a mouse ...evolutionary psychology she just said it..😂

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Wow this is good

Great advice about not confronting them or making remarks, it only makes you look bad. My strategy is to inundate the micro-mgr with a play-by-play of my work and time. Even bathroom breaks. They eventually leave me along and focus on something/someone else.

It’s usually a nit picky insecure unfocused woman manager just work for a man. None of these methods work. These people lead out of fear. Nitpicking isn’t because of being new and you waste all your time trying to appease them.

It all sounds good but women who undermine another females’ success, upward mobility comes from place of insecurity, low confidence. I believe the core issue to address is find ways for these insecure women to build up their self confidence .

I love this. As a recovering codependent, I need to let go of this idea I can make them change but to minimize and cope until I can get a new job is probably better lol.

Step 1: walk.

If someone is really set in their ways this can be a cause for micromanagement in partners especially after moving in together and adapting to different way each does things. My partner watches me do simple tasks like boil an egg. I grab a pot fill it with water turn on the stove, he can't help but jump in and turn on the stove fan and pop a lid on my pot like i would have forgotten to do these things on my own. Its annoying and belittling. To the people that jumps in during others' train of thought before they can even get there to complete the task "correctly". Stop doing this.

They just want all white colored employees at Lowe’s Lehi! If you’re black or brown skin colored employees then start looking for another job! Bad or good white Americans are the only acceptable in Lowes Lehi! Too much racist right? White American kids, adults and senior citizens are the only employees allowed to work at Lowe’s Lehi! You can just smell the environment! 😂😂😂😂😂

Sounds like you’re encouraging the micromanager’s staff to enable this toxic and unhealthy behaviour.

Thank you for posting

a micromanager should be sent back to univ to learn a course again. A micromanager always focus on tiny things, forget about the big view.

#womenveteran #femaleveteran #shesaDr I'm late to the party but this is a great video. 👍

Well said sister

I have been with my manager for 5 years and she was always happy with my work ethic and said things like "just keep doing what you are doing" as i was top sales person. However, recently she employed new staff and now find myself micromanaged with new staff. While i understand i am part of the team i feel somewhat disrepected and not trusted. How do i approach this...i dont want to be ostracised by my team but i feel pressured, overworked and micromanaged...boss is pushing them to see what they are made of...

My job has policies for workflow that are micromanaging so my manager must micromanage by default, but he's a micromanager himself naturally, so it's like a double whammy lol

Many workplaces are noting that it is difficult to hire competent workers since the COVID epidemic. Many of those in management bubbled up from lower positions due to worker shortages. They are less experienced and tend to either micromanage or rely on coworkers to manage others. It is creating a hostile environment in many workplaces. Upper management needs to take a good look at the competence of their new managers and create better training programs.

talent has nothing to do with being competent,it takes tremendous effort to be competent at anything,and it is the easiest way to fool the other person saying he or she was/is talented and couldnt do anything,nobody does anythig solely with talent,thats idiocy in itself

Don't think lowering yourself is part of a toxic group of any find is good for you.

I’m sorry but this was a guide on how to be a doormat. The micromanager was centered completely… so after the micromanager has dumped all their anxiety onto the person then this person takes all of that home to their family. It’s incredible to me how we tell ppl to be honest but on the workplace you’re to live in constant fear and lie to survive it.

My manager does not micro manage because of a sorry childhood or an abusive husband or anything negative. She does it because as she always says "I grew up a spoiled brat and got everything I wanted". She got everything from her parents and gets everything from her husband. She is used to having things her way.

Women rivalry is awful.. It's the reason why men tule the world. Women can be ruthless and very mean.

I don't have any sympathy for micro managers becuase they choose to act this way and if they cannot lead a team in a healthy competent way they shouldn't be in a leadership role, period. If they are not fit to lead they should not be doing the job.

One reason girls feel the need be constantly watching and competing with someone is because some are still dealing with unhealed mother wounds. Do the work, fix the problem. We are women & we are beautiful.

You’ve charmed me…

This is unrealistic. The good old boys club were I worked had to do with drugs and sleeping with women in the work place. It was my dream job in the film industry, and I was the only woman there who didnt sleep my way to the top. Very uncomfortable. Sometimes its not all about smoking a cigar with your male colleagues. Sometimes the boys club has an admission fee: Sex.

Also, micro-management doesn't always come from a place of the need to control, sometimes it's a micro - aggression because of a disdain for a certain person. You have to use wisdom to determine if this is fixable. If not, move on to another workplace that's a better fit for you. It never ceases to amaze me that people in Corporate spaces never consider 'pure evil' as a reason why people do some things. Some people are simply mean spirited with no conscience. I've worked with these kinds of people and HR and others around them make these business excuses for them. In my opinion, micro-managment should not be tolerated no matter the reason. It's toxic.

Sometimes an employee is not as skilled or as good at their job as they think and when someone observes them that person is able to pick up on mistakes. In the care sector most carers are inadequately trained for the health condition of the client and due to shortages in this sector these types of inexperienced carers have to be hired and then unfortunately end up being micromanaged for a while until an employee is upto par and got more knowledge for the job. But the carer usually is resistant to hearing any mistakes being pointed out since they themselves do not consider their lack of knowledge as an issue. Critiquing these employees is hard work due to a reluctance to hear criticism. A carer who had to wipe eyes of a disabled person had shown up with 1 inch nails. And when explained that this could scratch the eye the carer said how they hate the Manager. A great video would be how to handle constructive criticism as an employee. Rarely people get observed in their work and so they dont like hearing feedback which is negative. Teachers are more accustomed to being observed during training and on the job so they do not get offended to their work being critiqued. Micro managing is the equivalent of being observed and getting constructive feedback like a driving instructor does when teaching how to drive. But employees usually do not like this at work since even if they haven't been properly observed they assume they know best. Teachers get observed every day in the teacher training phase. And are I guess what u refer to as micromanaged but really getting trained. Learning to be open to constructive criticism is really the video that people should be watching. But yes there may be occasions when a micromanager is inappropriate. If their skillset is lower. A carer once chopped an onion and put into the fridge without a lid on it. Stunk the whole fridge out. When told to put a lid on the container in future they took offense. Since they did not like to be micromanaged. And then started pointing out mistakes of their manager. Tit for tat. Really? Sometimes constructive feedback has to be given and learned how to take.

I've always said that I prefer and have got on better in my career having male bosses. With women bosses I always find are competitive, critical and rarely supportive and tend to set unrealistic deadlines.

So they have an excuse? Who cares?

Love this discussion. So many gems, like preparedness is key and making the changes necessary to evolve and advance. Thanks for sharing!

I confronted an Abrasive female, "Denise B" ( not her name) and said, Talk respectful to me, she was DEFENSIVE AND STUNNED. it went Further South( bye!)

I had a micromanager, I didnt had the chance to remove my coat and put my work shoes on, and she was already at my place waiting for me to do this and that, It was constant pressure. One day, I was fed up, I told her that I already have a Mom and didnt need a second one. It landed me at HR 🤡

I do not say these things, because I am trying to be a "Debbie Downer", but when I say it multiple times, and am ignored, because I am not the type of person to go off on people, I understand that I am being maligned.

I said these things years ago, and I am completely undervalued.

So funny. My name is Debbie. I don't like people to steal my ideas and take credit for it. They can care less.

You can tell volumes about a person by the energy that they radiate along with evil eyes...

Gross. Sorry. Gross. Sorry. Gross. Gross. Gross. No, just no, not sorry. Yes, all the things required to "join" require you to do the things you mentioned not "having" to do. Just...gross. No, thanks. "Good old boys club" is a cutesy phrase for "oppressive patriarchy". If you can't beat 'em, join 'em? Yeah, no thanks. I particularly avoid women who have subscribed to this b.s. (or, try to convert them, obvi).

My manager is amazing. He never tells me what to do, as he trusts me to do my job. My issue is with an equal level coworker who loves to micromanage. I just got a note today telling me to clean the bathroom during my shift. Why didn't she clean it during hers?

what if the good ol boys club runs your town and sexually assaulted you and robbed your home, then spread rumors about you so you cannot get hired anywhere? i live in an empirical good ol boy run town. the good ol boys running things now are the same misogynistic entitled rich kids that i stood up to in high school when i was bullied. now we are all grown and the bullying has continued but now effects my livelyhood. I want to take down the business model, not join it for more of the same public suffocation of truth.

I am Team lead , i am handing my team from last 4 yrs. My process is pilot process, i bring the process and in next 4 yrs my process grown so much my team member increase and now suddenly management appointed new manager because the process grown big and this person dont understood the process and want to micro manage everything its so frustrating. I dont know what to do , i work so hard on this process i dont want to leave this process.

I have ONE now it's awful they are relentless .

these are all great tips, but it feels easier said than done, especially when you're already walking on eggshells with them, and the chances of miscommunication is sky high, and they're nursing an ego. these tips would probably work with someone who's open to feedback (and isn't just claiming to be) and is objective, but they're tough to apply to those on the passive aggressive spectrum. at what point do you stop bending over backwards for them? it simply goes against self-preservation to continue to make it about them when you're emotionally drained yourself because of their behaviour. i really didn't sign up to be someone's nanny.

Join them how? They like smoking, vaping, talk about soccer? Am I suppose to take up smoking now?

What do you do when it’s your equal co worker (who most likely but hopefully not will become manager)? I hate that it forcing me to face conflict when I’d rather just not have to.

My favorite thing is when it’s not even a got dang manager doing it