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This is so good!

The entire purpose of this culture in the west is to segregate and isolate each other, stress us out, and make us fear going anywhere, because they want us to just make profits for them, and buy their products for ever-increasing prices. I'm going to go to a country that values people, socialization and a way of life that is based around a slower, and less achievement-seeking, materialistic and consumer rat race. There's way better places out there, but the propaganda is strong here. Most people don't realize how evil the west is.

Solitude ≠ loneliness. I find the tranquility to be comfortable, even addictive. Maybe this trend says something about the general quality and desirability of people. Maybe it’d be enlightening for people to recognize that they’re being displaced by video games, streaming, dirty pictures, pot…

The internet needs to better facilitate going out. The internet seems bustling only because it pools content from creators all over the world. If I am interested in things that are happening in my neighborhood or want to know where the parties are at, that information is sparse. If the internet can be leveraged to better inform people about their neighborhood it would be a boon to local businesses by promoting more activity outside of the home, and people will have a better time in their communities too. It is a win-win. We have just become too accustomed to monopolies and centralized information that that is what we consume, what we mostly think about, and as a result it strangles local communities and businesses.

I agree with what you're saying and this was deeply uncomfortable to hear ! Being someone who loves getting lost in creativity especially after a 10+ hr per day. I don't really find most of my "friendships" meaningful, I mean they're great people, but I don't get a lot of value from them.

The loss of 3rd spaces.

America values materialism and consumerism.

All I want to do is sit on the couch with my wife and two cats and have coffee and talk about the meaning of life

I truly believe we have evolved to realize humans suck.

With thr cost if rent is best spend our 100 dolars hour/rent well and enjoy the 60% of your income

A lot of factors play a role in it but honestly just feel like I never knew how to make genuine connections with ppl, I don't feel comfortable around anyone but myself, even if I love that person

It’s not just staying at home that causes social isolation. Working 5 days a week with little to no social interaction with people outside of work leaves almost no room to plan or visit with friends. Especially if you’re in service industry working on weekends.

Before the internet, it was easier to lose touch with friends. You either had no way to keep in touch if their phone number changed, or felt that making a call was a bit awkward. So, it is ironic that in this time period, we are isolated. Looking back on the 1970s, my social life would have been richer had there been an internet.

Women would rather be with a rich attractive man that has a harem of women than be with a struggling man. This isn't love as we see with all the celebrities getting divorced.

Maybe more people working in lower wage /mind-numbing / burnout jobs with irregular hours?

Yeah, well. I still have to commute to work every day. 🤷‍♂️

People are figuring out. Its better to be along thrn go out and be hypnotized against your will. They arliliars and decivers and theives to keep usery system in place. No worth mingling with enslavers.

some people are just wired this way. its called being neuro-divergent. their is no free will. i can prove it.

Even proficies don't need anyone to fullfil them...

We live in too much of a police state. I mean it's not even a conspiracy at this point. Everywhere you go there are just cameras everywhere, everything is just so watched. Everyone seems to be on edge as well. I can't blame them, I am one of them. Like just the other day I was driving home with groceries and a cop was behind me and it stressed me the hell out. I was guilty of nothing I was just worried about getting messed with. Went to the bank the other day and there is a guard with a gun in there, tellers behind bullet proof glass. Too much violence, too much aggression. Political climate is horrible. Racists, misogynists, exploiters, are all around. People are so damn inconsiderate it's insane. Look how people acted during COVID. Everything is so expensive and it just feels like people are pitted against one another because, well, we are. All that said, I just played an online game (WoW) with friends and had a blast. Laughed so hard, we had a lot of fun. Us being in each other's physical presence takes nothing away from that for me. Even this vid and watching you. I appreciate it. You conveying your thoughts to me through the computer takes nothing away from you but if we had to meet in person it would just be a burden with cars, parking, money, surveillance, it would just be draining. People are great, but from a distance. They wear me out. It's mainly like this in the USA, by the way. Other places are much better. This place is just stressful, the belly of the beast, Babylon, the Empire. It can drain your energy. All that said, you make a good points. I am not disagreeing with you or anything, just sharing my thoughts based on your compelling presentation.

Solitude can be good. Let's face it there's a lot of faking it has to be done for some of us to get along. We need mutual interests and causes etc.to bond over because a large part of community is exclusion and rejection of people "not like us" Two edged sword aye.

Hate to say it but you could have just ended the video after a couple of minutes. “The” pandemic isn’t over, and even if it was, most folks can’t afford to socialize with 40 hr work weeks and poor pay. The only people really participating in “the economy” are the 4Runner/jeep weekend lake Airbnb managerial caste.

Thank you for the book rec. I have had these discussions with friends/acquaintances where I'm practically begging them to just go places or go do stuff. They'll also complain about being tired and feeling like their life is boring, etc. It's also been hard convincing people to lean into being uncomfortable. I'm the type that I will find fun in almost any situation. If a friend invites me to something, even if it's not something I'm into, I will still try to go. - Also, the icky, sluggish feeling is a feedback loop; the more you lean into the "homebody" thing the more you'll choose that over other options.

I hear there is a state where one can marry their hand. Don't know if that's true though.

- People are not worth the effort as they are too wrapped up in their own things. I've been burned too many times. Capitalism brought much of this on. - It's too expensive to go anywhere and you get a mediocre experience anyway. - I think a lot of this is extrovert whining. As an introvert who had to live in an extrovert's world for decades, and now it's been flipped around, I say keep it this way. - The thing about others not liking us is valid - I've had people not like me behind my back and not say it to my face. It's a very real issue. -Others assign a pecking order to you in regards to friendships. I've been a "b" or "c" tier friend and didn't know until I found out the hard way. So all of my efforts in building up a friendship were all for naught because it was impossible to create anything meaningful.

I don't mean to sound negative, but quite simply there is nothing to do and no reason to do it. People are profoundly exhausted, drained, especially if they work full time and/or have kids. Many of the leisure-related businesses that would've been around back in the early 2000s are gone anyway. Space is commodified. If you have to spend money just to hang out somewhere less comfortable and less welcoming than your house, why WOULD you go out? You could always go to a park or something ofc, and that's nice every once in a while, but it's not the answer. I don't think many people can afford to go out at all. We're paid too little; we don't have time for rest, let alone adventure. We don't have energy to invest in building new relationships.

I wonder why we can't just be a home body without someone telling us we're not a home body. Some of us are stressed by the outside world & don't even mention the dating world

I feel alone in a crowded room, and I am literally in a spotlight. I sing and play music, and once I step off the stage I become invisible. Loneliness is contagious and I feel constantly infected by the lonely people all throughout society. I would love more content like this, and I hope your message grows. It’s desperately needed in the collective consciousness.

Being alone doesn't always mean your lonely. Some of us prefer our own space, without the chaos and noise of the world we live in. I enjoy doing lots of things at home and have had enough of people in general. After 50 years of dealing with the workplace and the public, my alone time is precious. Never got much of and I was "dying inside" all those years. I'm active, alert and "comfortable" without all the nonsense of socializing.

It seems that extroverts get frustrated very easily by being alone. I'm so happy that I never get that feeling of crushing loneliness (or any kind of loneliness) that extroverts get.

WOW ❤ I'm going to say that this was an amazing episode 😊 I mean truly.

This is for me 🥹❤️

15:37 yet again boys' statistics are ignored lol

After hearing lots of discourse on US public transport, I wonder if it is because of the extreme low trust society state that would result in that

Americans are so quick in getting friends.

If.you have to ask that question first..you already know the answer, and its not what you're seeking

If you need a padded blanket just to have a conversation you have a way bigger problem on your hands

Weather, sports, popular tv shows, food, job, school or kids.... Seems pointless, but can also help the other person to get comfortable and open up, allowing you to also open up and discuss the things that really matter to you.

Thank you for this 🙏🏿

I guess in your 12 years of school, you never heard the saying “never say never, never say always”? I guess you mean “every normal person, as opposed to psychopaths as sociopaths because of course they’re not people, right?

I know that no matter what at the end of the day, even if I don't feel this way with my family. God does.

As to motivations. If someone i already know well and like asks me for help i am likely to help them. If the person is not well known to me or unknown to me i am unlikely to help them or even consider it. Are you going to help the guy you met at the party last weekend move? I am not. The truth is we don't live in tribes anymore and won't die if we don't surround ourselves with others to protect us. At one time i would invite people over on a regular basis. The problem is most were no show which hurt me, so i decided that it was ok that they didn't show. Long story short it ended up with me deciding that it's a time saver to not invite people over at all. No straightening up the house for guests, no food prep, no waiting for people to arrive that never show up.

😮😮that right 😅😅😅

nobody knows anything to talk about! ball games, tv shows, video games, that's it. They dont know history, economics, philosophy, geography, nothing.

You look German

"Studies have been done" .... sign of a bull$hitter!

I never ask for help I usually will help people but I’ll never ask

So we discard truth when it does not fit the other criteria. The truth is often unkind and sometimes it's not helpful.

I have people I could call but would not want to.

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