Clare (BeThatHealingGirl)
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How You're Ruining a Good Relationship with Self Sabotage
Hey Girlies! It's your girl Clare back at it with another episode of the BeThatHEalingGirl Podcast where we're diving into the real and sometimes messy parts of our love lives. 🌟 This weekis all about self-sabotage. Yep, been there, sabotaged that-especially with those sweet, secure types who just wanted to love us, right?
Wondering why things seem to implode just when they're getting good? Girl, you're not alone, and this episode is here to unpack all of that mess with you. We're talking about the signs, the whys, and how to finally stop self-sabotaging our love lives. 🚫💔
Whether you're the queen of 'big city moves' but can't seem to hold down a city boy, or you're married and picking fights over who left the cap off the toothpaste-this chat is for you. Plus, I'm sharing some super personal stories and client experiences that'll make you say, "Omg, that's totally me!"
Ready to kick those bad habits and start owning your love story? Press play, and let's get into it! And hey, if you love what you hear, don't forget to hit that subscribe button 🎧✨
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Healing Anxious Attachment & The Important First Step
มุมมอง 29119 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา
Hey Girlies! 🌸 Today, we're diving deep into something super close to my heart - healing anxious attachment. Ever caught yourself overthinking every text or just feeling all the relationship anxiety? Trust me, I’ve been there too! In this episode, I’m unpacking my journey, sharing those “aha” moments that totally changed the game for me, and showing you how to find that chill vibe within yourse...
Attachment Theory Basics
มุมมอง 2714 วันที่ผ่านมา
Welcome back girlies! This episode is all about Attachment Theory basics. I’m breaking down everything you need to know and tips for navigating and healing your attachment style. If you’re new here, I’m Clare and I love helping overachieving, perfectionist girlies who are killing it in their careers but struggling in the love department. This episode is perfect if you’re looking to understand y...
Anxious and Avoidant Style of Fighting
มุมมอง 6914 วันที่ผ่านมา
Hey girlies! Today we're diving into relationship fights. If you find yourself picking little fights, having the same argument over and over, or maybe it's like clockwork where every two or three weeks there's a big blowout-this episode is for you! Trust me, save it, send it, download it because we’re about to get real! Okay, let’s get into it. My first couple of years with my husband were roug...
Relationship Intuition What is blocking yours?
มุมมอง 7428 วันที่ผ่านมา
Hey girlies, welcome back! Today we're diving deep into relationship intuition and how you might be blocking yours. Let’s talk about why trusting your intuition matters. It makes life easier and less overwhelming. You can be present and trust the process instead of overthinking and planning every detail. I used to be out of touch with my body and intuition until I moved to Denver. One day, I sa...
Is it intuition or are you overthinking in your relationship
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🎙️💫 Hey, girlies! Today, we're sorting out a massive mix-up: Is it intuition or just plain overthinking in your relationship? 🧠❤️ Let's turn on your relationship intuition on! Click here to signup: tinyurl.com/intuitionchallenge2024 Have you ever found yourself wondering if that nagging feeling in your gut is real intuition or just another anxiety spiral? Oh, honey, you're not alone! This topic...
How to heal your anxious attachment and enter your soft girl era
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🎙️💕 Hey girlies! Today, we're turning down the anxiety dial and stepping into our soft girl era. If you're constantly asking, "Why isn't he stepping up?" or feeling like your relationship plot is turning into more of a drama than a romcom ... this episode is for you! We’ll dive into why those high-stress environments we grew up in might be sabotaging our softness and how we can actively choose ...
Communicating Your Needs & Common Mistakes
มุมมอง 198หลายเดือนก่อน
🎉🍹 Hey heyyyy healing girlies! Today, we're unpacking all things miscommunication and diving into the do's and don'ts of expressing your needs without turning it into a full-blown drama series. 🎭🧳 If you've ever felt like you're speaking a foreign language when telling your S.O. what you need, or if the thought of having 'the talk' makes you giggle nervously because, let's be real, it's usually...
Healing Your Anxious Attachment - Ways you’re hurting your healing journey
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Hey Girlies! Today, I'm spilling the tea on all those sneaky ways you’re throwing wrenches into your own healing journey. If you’ve ever found yourself in a post-therapy glow that fizzles faster than a cheap candle, or you're the queen of midnight Googling trying to psychoanalyze bae's latest text-girl, this one’s for you. 🌙📱 Let's be honest, if you've been doing the most, but still feeling the...
Meditation for Healing Relationships
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🎉🎙️ Hey beauties! Let's get real for a sec - If you told me six years ago I'd be a meditation queen, I would’ve LOL’d so hard! I was too booked and busy, convinced that meditation just wasn’t my jam. But babes, let me tell you, hitting rock bottom with my relationships changed EVERYTHING, and now meditation is my secret superpower! 🌟✨ 🚀 Today, we’re diving deep into that magical “blip” - you kn...
How to Stop Overthinking Relationships
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Hey Girlies! It's Clare, your go-to gal for navigating the rollercoaster of emotions that is modern dating and relationships. This week we're diving into a topic that I know way too well, and I bet you do too: overthinking in relationships. You know the drill - analyzing texts, second-guessing feelings, and playing out scenarios in your head that haven't (and probably won't) happen. In this epi...
A Sneaky & Early Sign of Anxious Attachment
มุมมอง 4152 หลายเดือนก่อน
Hey Girlies! 🌈✨ This week we're diving deep into the world of anxious attachment... and trust me, we're not just skimming the surface; we're uncovering those sneaky, early signs you've probably been overlooking. If you're the queen of overthinking every text (or lack of), constantly spiraling into a black hole of "what ifs," or just feeling that tug of insecurity in your relationship, then this...
How to “Cope” with Relationship Anxiety
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We're diving deep into the world of relationship anxiety. Forget just coping - we're here to transform and thrive! 🚀 If you've ever found yourself overanalyzing every text, fretting over their social media activity, or just feeling that constant worry about your relationship, this episode is your new best friend! 🔍 Inside This Episode: - My personal journey from anxious attachment to secure lov...
What To Do if They Are Not Ready for a Relationship
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Hey girlies! Today we're diving into the heartache and confusion of hearing "I'm not ready" from someone you're falling for. Inspired by the rollercoaster of emotions from Love is Blind Season 6 (no spoilers, promise!), this episode is a deep dive into what to do when they're not ready for a relationship, marriage, or moving in together. 📺💔 Whether you're a high-flying entrepreneur, a corporate...
What To Do When Your Anxious Attachment is Pushing a Good Person Away
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If you've ever felt like you're pushing a good person away because of your anxiety, or if you're caught in the same argument cycle every few weeks, this episode is a must-listen for you. Whether you're dating, in a relationship, or even married and finding those anxious triggers popping up, I'm here to guide you through it. 💖 In today's episode, I get real about my own journey with anxious atta...
What are healthy dating and relationship expectations
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What are healthy dating and relationship expectations
Love is Blind Season 6 Relationship Coach Breakdown
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Love is Blind Season 6 Relationship Coach Breakdown
Are you anxious when he's out of town?
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Are you anxious when he's out of town?
How to NOT be disappointed on Valentine's Day
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How to NOT be disappointed on Valentine's Day
What is a 'healthy amount' of communication?
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What is a 'healthy amount' of communication?
Healing After a Relationship Ends
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Healing After a Relationship Ends
The One Word Stopping You From Healing Your Anxious Attachment
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The One Word Stopping You From Healing Your Anxious Attachment
The Subtle Signs You're Self-Sabotaging Your Relationship
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The Subtle Signs You're Self-Sabotaging Your Relationship
Make 2024 your year for LOVE (without a resolution)
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Make 2024 your year for LOVE (without a resolution)
How to have Peace and Safety in your relationship for 2024
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How to have Peace and Safety in your relationship for 2024
Holiday relationship survival guide (part 2)
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Holiday relationship survival guide (part 2)
Holiday relationship survival guide (part 1)
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Holiday relationship survival guide (part 1)
Anxious and Avoidant Styles in Relationship #podcast Ep. 5
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Anxious and Avoidant Styles in Relationship #podcast Ep. 5
Fix your overthinking in relationship #podcast Ep 3
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Fix your overthinking in relationship #podcast Ep 3
When you feel things are distant in relationship #podcast Ep 2
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When you feel things are distant in relationship #podcast Ep 2

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  • @foxydapirate9747
    @foxydapirate9747 13 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Only said just enough substance for people to relate so she could sell her program.

  • @SummerLove27
    @SummerLove27 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Forth❤

  • @SummerLove27
    @SummerLove27 12 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Forth❤

  • @alyssajade_n
    @alyssajade_n 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Very timely. Thanks Clare :)

  • @RyanDainjur
    @RyanDainjur 16 วันที่ผ่านมา

    In my case, she left and stonewall. In hindsight, I am flabbergasted that I remained stagnant in not knowing how her thoughts worked and allowed myself to be frustrated that we didn't try different methods of communicating. Ugh, I could write for 12hrs straight. I am a wreck. Yet, I can't hate her. I can only stick with, "I understand." Because I knew nothing about attachment styles before our 4 year break up. She's textbook FA. There's possibly BPD, Depression, Ptsd.... oof :( It makes me so sad. I had no idea what I was doing or how to talk to, react to, express feelings to her in a certain way. Could've saved us. God, I miss her. If only I didn't say or do a handful of hurtful things, ALMOST ENTIRELY from that MF Alcohol! :( Ugh. Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter if "it's not me," I agree that might fly once. Personally, I'd have a lot more patience than she did, but that was her out. We planned a "whole new us" date, and get serious about future, etc. Felt like we were 100% locked. I felt more love than ever in my entire life... then, boom. The day of.... gone. Poof. I shared this for the next man/woman that will be in my situation. I don't hate her. I can't hate her. How can I belittle her when she is this way because of how her parents brought her up, or was almost never there, or how she was taken advantage of, or how the shitty girls treated her throughout public school? Does your partner or recent ex have a similar story? Be sensitive! It's not their fault. My point is... stop and think. CONSIDER THERAPY! At the absolute very least, which is great if you're hear and reading this. I give a massive THANK YOU to reputable, good hearted therapists like Clare and countless others on TH-cam that offer life changing/SAVING information like this. There's endless videos related to this and all the other heart killing emotional and mental problems. FREE. I might've have ended my time on this planet if I didn't dive head first and take initiative to understand the pain. I've learned more about her, myself, why I am the way I am, why she ran, why she sugar coated things to "not hurt me," and just general psychiatry itself in the last 3 months of the worst heartache of my life. TH-cam has been my gateway drug to in person therapy. I'm going to make it, guys.

  • @TracyKennedy-yq2wx
    @TracyKennedy-yq2wx 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Capricorns ♑️ Has entered the chat! 😅 (we are the ultimate over thinkers)

  • @TracyKennedy-yq2wx
    @TracyKennedy-yq2wx 24 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Capricorns ♑️ Has entered the chat! 😅 (we are the ultimate over thinkers)

  • @alexisgentry7851
    @alexisgentry7851 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Can I ask you your opinion on letting someone you are seriously intersted in about escorting occasionally even if it doesn't affect your current relationship? Because it might cause more damage... been needing to ask another girl.

  • @alexisgentry7851
    @alexisgentry7851 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    OMG Thank you

  • @joanneclark8256
    @joanneclark8256 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Is this somanic top up work or shadowing or decency work???

  • @joanneclark8256
    @joanneclark8256 25 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Is this like somanic top up approach ?

  • @Virvepaulina
    @Virvepaulina 26 วันที่ผ่านมา

    That's a good distinction. Attachment to what we need it to be or how we need to be makes us ignore reality, and that's the discomfort.

  • @IAMJENESKA
    @IAMJENESKA 28 วันที่ผ่านมา

    This is soooo true. Thank you

  • @alyssajade_n
    @alyssajade_n หลายเดือนก่อน

    Makes me teary eyed to hear your story and the potential for my own anxious-avoidant attachment relationship. Really looking forward to the 3 day sprint

  • @lisalove1491
    @lisalove1491 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am so grateful for you. I have tears. to be understood and have a safe - soft- healing space to go - is so helpful.

  • @katyabakh6501
    @katyabakh6501 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Hi. I could't get to the point of this video unfortunately, had to turn it off

  • @xoxjelloxox
    @xoxjelloxox หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do you know if it’s anxious attachment or your gut

  • @mayast.1310
    @mayast.1310 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You have knowledge but unfortunately it takes you waaaaay to much time until you go straight to the point. People are losing interest in watching a very long video. Try shorter videos and straight on the subject.

  • @malavikarnair
    @malavikarnair หลายเดือนก่อน

    How does one repair it from the root versus repairing and soothing in the moment

  • @pasmetha
    @pasmetha หลายเดือนก่อน

    How do you go about creating a longer runway?

  • @Arkenva
    @Arkenva หลายเดือนก่อน

    “In the venting, we tend to attract people at the level of our healing. That’s why it’s important to have people in your circle that are a step ahead… “ 💯💯

  • @BigPubez69
    @BigPubez69 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    2+ minutes in and you haven't even got into the subject. If you want more likes and subscriptions, dont take people's time and attention for granted. If you feel entitled to likes and subscriptions simply because you put out content for free, you'd be wrong.

    • @RyanDainjur
      @RyanDainjur หลายเดือนก่อน

      WhooOoo, boy... you really showed her who really needed to be taken down a peg. You won, Craig a.k.a. BIGPUBEZ69

    • @bro7269
      @bro7269 22 วันที่ผ่านมา

      How about getting an attention span that lasts longer than 2 freakin minutes.

  • @kaitlynnsantos1393
    @kaitlynnsantos1393 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    9:42 thank you for being so real, needed this <3 love all your content already

  • @kaitlynnsantos1393
    @kaitlynnsantos1393 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just found your channel today through TH-cam recommended, and it couldn’t have come at a better time! Look forward to learning from all of your therapeutic videos<3

  • @BeThatHealingGirl
    @BeThatHealingGirl 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Struggling with Love? Slide into My DMs on Instagram for a Chat! 💌

  • @kzn1630
    @kzn1630 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Just discovered your channel and have been on a binge! A million times yes, can relate to all of it. Thank you so much for sharing your personal story, it gives me hope! 💕❤

  • @inthedetails5467
    @inthedetails5467 2 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Could you go into further detail about how you blew up a relationship with someone secure?

  • @sofiaguerra3793
    @sofiaguerra3793 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    i think this video literally saved my relationship with such an amazing guy. i send a message sayig "hey", and while i was typing a keep-score kind of text when i refreshed youtube and this came to me (seemed like magic). thank you.

  • @uba51
    @uba51 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Good stuff! 😊

  • @latowyaownshertruthministr4799
    @latowyaownshertruthministr4799 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Powerful ❤

  • @kentonjubborjudd4203
    @kentonjubborjudd4203 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    😥 *promosm*

  • @bellsbathandbodyessentials
    @bellsbathandbodyessentials 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    LOVE THE TRANSPARENCY

  • @StacyAldridge-py9gp
    @StacyAldridge-py9gp 3 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thanks for helping me see I am the mountain! I don’t want to be anymore. I want to put the work in to stop overthinking.

  • @mkaur1155
    @mkaur1155 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Pls help

  • @mkaur1155
    @mkaur1155 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    That was an amazing in depth information pod, please make more on trust and over thinking,

  • @catherinebaldry5907
    @catherinebaldry5907 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Mind blown! Hear me out…the simple act of rephrasing how we are or what we do when we tend toward anxious attachment in that video, from being in control to being in charge had an energetic (literally) shift for me. When I thought on it, I came to…what is charge? Charge is energy. Energy doesn’t DO anything, it just exists. It only does something when it is focussed or transferred somewhere, and then is absorbed into the place where it is focussed. So turning our energy from an active state of controlling (or attempting to) and instead turning it into a being state (in charge…or in energy), we can sit in a state of peace and vitality (energy), rather than a frantic state of constant action (even if the action is only in the mind). #lateNightPonderings #languageIsSoCool

  • @chantelwalker571
    @chantelwalker571 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You are absolutely correct 💯!

  • @user-wx4vg6ve8i
    @user-wx4vg6ve8i 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

    CT ! 31 ready to try

  • @anmareeerickson5476
    @anmareeerickson5476 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Clare I LOVE your content. Every time I see a video or a tiktok from you it feels like you're talking about my exact problems /feelings. Thank you so much for helping girlies like me. I really appreciate you ❤

  • @malavikarnair
    @malavikarnair 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Super super helpful! In a bit of a weird situation right now and the insight here is really helping me

  • @aracelibarrios1003
    @aracelibarrios1003 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I am thoroughly enjoying all your content and is 100% relatable. I appreciate your honesty and understanding of what is created by attachment insecurities. I look forward to hearing more from you !

  • @user-oy8de4pc3t
    @user-oy8de4pc3t 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sadly realizing that maybe I'm the problem....

  • @user-oy8de4pc3t
    @user-oy8de4pc3t 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Thank you for sharing this. My long distance partner has pulled away due to work stress and it's really hard for me to not over think

  • @chantelwalker571
    @chantelwalker571 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    OMG! This made so much sense. Some of the things you mentioned as being the root from past experiences are things that I can relate to. This gives me an idea to write it out on paper which is acknowledging what it is.

    • @BeThatHealingGirl
      @BeThatHealingGirl 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      Awww Chantel this message is so sweet, thanks for being so patient for my reply. How was that exploration around the root of your past experiences been going?

    • @chantelwalker571
      @chantelwalker571 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

      @@BeThatHealingGirl Honestly I haven't sat down and really put pen to paper yet. I have to block off some time to do it. I'm sure it's probably going to take time to cover everything I come up with, but that's ok. It's all a process.

    • @chantelwalker571
      @chantelwalker571 4 หลายเดือนก่อน

      ​@@BeThatHealingGirl***Update** Seeing my list on paper really is something. I'd say the root of my anxious attachment stems from childhood trauma, having low self esteem, and seeking validation. Fear makes me anxious as well. I can say that those experiences may have contributed to who I am today, but I am not my experiences. Hopefully that makes sense. 😂

  • @fatimahalhadbani2365
    @fatimahalhadbani2365 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I couldn’t find the audio is it in the caption or?

  • @mlbeem
    @mlbeem 5 หลายเดือนก่อน

    I will show up better for myself so I can show up better for my husband. ❤

  • @shirinaziz9754
    @shirinaziz9754 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    This was so helpful

  • @angelfiben89
    @angelfiben89 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Your podcast save me this days please do more❤

  • @melissaechols1975
    @melissaechols1975 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    Sooo good!

  • @user-st8vm9xy3d
    @user-st8vm9xy3d 6 หลายเดือนก่อน

    You’re such an Ate (big sister). Great advice from you