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I find it extraordinary how under viewed your important work is, especially considering trauma healing is all the rage now. You're one of the best. I only found you by doing my own search in the interest of healing my mother wound, knowing of the "death mother" archetype from reading Robert Bly's work decades ago. I wish I'd addressed the mother wound long ago, but one's mother is held in such regard I didn't realize until middle age what a gnawing cancer it has been, that's deeply affected my relationships with women in adulthood.

qualities of islandness among the Tao and other islander are similar. 1. Independence: small boats and social circles demand it if a personality is to sur- vive. 2. Loyalty: ultimate mutual care and generosity even between ostensible enemies. 100 3. A strong sense of honor easily betrayed. 4. Polydextrous and multifaceted competence or what islanders call “handiness.” 5. A belligerent sense of competition interlaced with vigilant cooperation. 6. Traditional frugality with bursts of spectacular exception. 7. Earthy common sense. 8. Opinionated machismo in both the male and female mode. 9. Live-and-let-live tolerance of eccentricity. 10. Fragile discretion within a welter of gossip. 11. Highly individualized blend of spirituality and superstition. 12. A complex oral tradition, with long memories fueled by a mix of responsible record keeping and nostalgia. 13. A canny literacy and intelligence. (Putz 1984, 26) Putz (ibid.) uses “aquarium” as the metaphor of inhabited islands associated with ecological systems and natural resources. Putz a However, I'm not too surprised that such an effect exists: it is very much part of adult social dynamics, and is clearly a major part of children's social dynamics (in that children use it a lot amongst themselves). Why it should be so widespread is an interesting question, though some of it may relate to the importance of laughter in social bonding and how we create laughter events [in this case, by creating a scapegoat]. Jokes [in the stand-up comedy sense] often have this structure: what an idiot for saying/doing this. R.I.M. Dunbar MA PhD DSc(Hon) FRAI FBA Emeritus Fellow, Magdalen College Professor of Evolutionary Psychology Department of Experimental Psychology University of Oxford New Radcliffe Building Radcliffe Observatory Quarter Oxford OX2 6GG United Kingdom

In THE ONES WHO LEAVE OMELAS by URSULA… the torture of a scapegoat daughter… is a lovely deliscious death mother, maltreatment, healing, experience for the whole village… the scapegoat daughter from kangaroo island suffered a long painful ostracism and death , book Scapegoat by Ava Keyes and the book mobbing daughters

My mother had blissful childhood and beautiful looks… her scapegoating abuse death 💀 mother behaviour came from entitlement and extremely spoilt by everyone around her… she had no needs… her choice was to abuse one scapegoat child as it was fun for her and perhaps at times created a mild kind of sexual cohesion between mum and dad … dad adored narcissistic mom and provided her well and still does… these upper class areas are filled with huge island community and bill village supports and sometimes like the human just wants to. Abuse one daughter for fun and giggles 🤭

In south Australia we have had 3 mothers kill daughters and it’s death mother behaviour… or family scapegoating behaviour patterns… police have launched a huge investigation… Charges have been laid over the deaths of three South Australian children - aged between six and 15 - after an "unprecedented" investigation into alleged child neglect. Three parents were charged today with manslaughter relating to the deaths of three different children after a task force was established in July last year to investigate the death of Charlie Nowland. The six-year-old was found unresponsive in a home in Munno Para and later died in hospita

This is excellent thank you. Would have liked more discussion of Medusa and marion woodman experience of the death mother at about 35 minutes… felt like the derailment of focus by him onto in uter o uterous in body pre birth cortisol focus totally derailed the most important part about the death mother collective conscious? Thank you both brilliant for a severely family scapegoat Ed female daughter of a death 💀 violent nurse 👩‍⚕️ manager mother

Thank you - this is such powerful and important work you are doing.

Thank God for Thais Gibson at University Personal Development, it is a great help for all attachment styles.

Really interesting conversation - thanks.

I found that really valuable. Your conversation brought up lots of thoughts about me and my parenting that I hadn't considered before. Thank you.

we must understand how the unconscious process emotions and what the meaning behind the emotions and how to handle them to heal

Thank you!!

This is a re-posting of a video I accidentally deleted. The original posting had over 1000 views and a host of interesting and rich comments, so I'm really sad to have lost that. Please do comment if you'd like to.

Is very good thank you. I think trauma does have an end. If it had a beginning then it will have an end. And it may not take a lifetime to end. We have adverse experiences but in one day and perhaps one event triggers and imprints the original trauma. If true then trauma can be reversed in more or less the same amount of time. This is my best guess.

brave woman!

Very interesting Daniela really makes you think 👍

Authentic, captivating and evocative. Thankyou so much for sharing such insight. This has helped in many, many ways. Time for reflection. Kindest regards.

Thank you for sharing this excellent talk. C.

Daniela--Really well thought out and beautifully presented talk. The examples you offer illuminate the full meaning of what you speak about. As a Jungian Analyst, your work has helped me in my clinical work. I find your formulation of the concept of the "trauma world" useful because it offers a containing name to the "place" into which we fall when triggered by a trauma. Thank you for your work and your wonderful book.

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This was a pleasure filming this lecture on Understanding And Healing Emotional Trauma how it effects people in all walks of life. We have had all sorts of Trauma at one stage in our life with great understanding bringing awareness on how people are affected. A great talk Daniela and I learned a lot going through an experience in my life. Marcus, Many thanks xx. gemstonesvideography.co.uk gemstonesvideography@gmail.com

Thank you for a profound, informative and embodied lecture. There were various verbal and non verbal layers in which I experienced the new information that was transmitted in this lecture. The intellectual explanation framed and contained the topic verbally, at the same time that the images encapsulated, with the utmost simplicity, the poignancy of how deeply human beings can experience trauma. Congratulations on handling such a difficult theme with so much presence, knowledge and lightness of touch.

thank you very much great talk. As a person who came from a trauma childhood and now a Dance Movement/Psychotherapist it is one of the most straight ward and clear talks I have heard. blessings to you