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Just one humble word of advice Live for today But plan and save somewhat incase you make it to 2mrw ❤

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Great to catch up mate.

Their first interview, she said they were waiting an hour and half to get on the ride, is that the time they first thought? I know after a traumatic event things are not always clear, only until someone tells you. Well done for standing by each other, you both clearly are meant to be together x

Thanks for sharing and good luck on your journey💚

58 years old male and yet hardly a day goes by without some memory of 14 years of SA throughout the foster care system, foster homes and then even my adopted family. Thank you for sharing. Even through the trauma it gives me hope that the secrets are being revealed. I wish the best to both of you on your adventures through your lives.

Brave young man!

In awe of Ryan 💛 he is incredible - thank you for platforming his story and message Tom

Thank you for sharing your story Ryan. May peace and love surround you.

Where we getting money from?? Errrr you are millionaires. Ffs

4th holiday this year i get 28 days minus bank holidays and Xmas shutdown not everyone got paid out n able to just do it

Was abused from 8 to 18 years old. Difficulty in coping terribly depressed

Narrative over the truth, control over one's actions. They're over history this is happened over Romans Egyptians and other cultures in the past. Put the 21st century makes it easy for people to have access to their desires and a click.

It takes so much courage to come forward and go to the police and they lose the files!!! Cannot believe how useless they are!

So brave to share and a very articulate conversation between 2 men

Hi. I grew up in Barnsley and Penistone in the 70’s-80’s and I’m really happy that I came across your page. I have realised in my 53rd year that even though I didn’t actually suffer sexual or physical abuse I still developed trauma due to being gay. It was hammered home that parents and grandparents were very anti gay and the comments that were just thrown around just caused depression. I would wake every day and hated that I still had the gay feelings and was worried that they would find out. It led to me trying to take my own life and had to get married to try and be normal. Even though I’m in a same sex relationship I still suffer with depression. I have now realised I don’t have to dwell on the past and I need to own my future. The level of Ryan’s emotional intelligence is way past his years and the way he has coped is mind blowing.

Thanks for sharing your story. I was sexually abused as a child and I struggle with PTSD every day of my life, sometimes just about manageable at best and other times requires mediation, therapy, panic mitigation. I wish I could be as strong as this guy.

The most powerful conversation I've ever heard on the internet. You 2 survived horrible life experiences. You don't need to do anything to prove yourselves as good men. You deserve love, honesty, and admiration just for being born. The good works and self-healing you are both involved in are icing on the top of the great cakes you already are.

gosh you are gorgeous! 😍

So heartbreaking! Such a brave young man to speak out. I can’t imagine hurting a child.

Great convo. Thanx for your openness and honesty. Your sharing the story does make a difference for others.

This is such a sad and tragic story. I give Ryan so much credit for his courage and honesty. Tom, you are an amazing interviewer...Kind, empathetic and extremely articulate. I hope this story helps other that have gone through anything as horrible as this. You both are true survivors..

Thank you for having this discussion and being so courageous.

Turn bad to good.

Thank you for sharing guys both handsome just asking what does Ryan do now for future plan did he finish college? 🙏🙏🙏❤️❤️❤️🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰

What a fantastic interview - I was spellbound. Tom, fantastically put questions and Ryan so many people are going to be helped by you. I wish you both well in whatever you do in the future. If I can be of any help to either of you, in any way, then please get in touch.

He will never get past this. Thanks to therapy he will forever have professional victim as his identity. "I am a Sex Abuse Victim" God is not in him

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Why would someone make this up? It does happen and needs to be exposed 😢

I listened to the whole discussion and I watch you, how you handled the questions and there was no hatred or anger in your eyes. Your eyes didn’t alter from that a decent lad with a trusting heart. You even gave this person the respect of recognising his position within your family. A position that he abused! Strange that this thread should come up but well here goes: When I was 15yrs old, I stopped at a mate’s house over the weekend. This mate was 21yrs old. I was just a kid and didn’t really pull my weight that weekend. My mate’s dad didn’t like me as they were a religious family and I was gay. Same as my 21yr old mate. His dad packed my bag up and told my mate to go hand me my stuff and don’t come back. I had to leave. If I’m being honest, I could have got the train home but I wanted to stay in the town I was at. I was a kid. So I rang another mate and he said I could stop there. Again, his mum didn’t like me because I was gay and I can’t stay, despite my 20yr old mate being so. I was stuck. The trains had finished for the evening (just local ones that didn’t run all night). Bearing in mind, I’d told my mum I was safe and not to worry, that I was going to stop at a different mates house. I looked older for my age with a tache! So I could get into the local social club and we went as there was a party. Some bloke (35yrs old) took a shine. My 20yr old mate fancied him, I was not active in any way like this. The 35yr old offered to drop my mate and me off at his house and the plan was we sneak in, while his mum was asleep. When we arrived at the house, my mate got out and the bloke in the car told me to sit in the front for a second. I could tell he was drunk so I gave my mate my bag as I wasn’t stopping in the car. The bloke drove off with me. From Ormskirk to Wigan! Each time we stopped at some lights, I wanted to jump out. I was petrified and sat in silence. The further we drove, the less likely I was to jump out as the streets were deserted by this time. I was taken in his house and despite me telling him I hadn’t done anything like that, he attacked me in bed nine times over and over until about 5am. He told me to do something to myself that I now know as an adult, had the police been involved, it would have been hard to prove I didn’t welcome the attacks. The following day, I woke up and he was apologetic but I hated him. I had to shower, and to this day I still remember him telling me “At least you’re clean”! 🤬 He drove me back to Ormskirk for me to collect my stuff then drove off again telling me to tell no one or else. My mate wouldn’t talk to me like I’d taken his date the night before! I told him what happened to me and he told me I deserved it. I got the train home and never told a soul for 5yrs. I couldn’t tell my family as they used to ridicule me for being gay. I returned to that social club when I was 20yrs old to meet up with my mate who said this stuff. We had got in touch and I was ok with him. We’d made up. When I arrived at the social club I’d heard this person got wind of it and told my mate he wants to do me again! That he was doing the rounds in the town and he would return. I was ready for him. He didn’t return. Fast forward and I eventually told my family. They were horrified. I couldn’t tell them, my reason for not telling them was due to ridicule. I had to go through many counselling sessions decades later because it didn’t leave me. It did eventually. I remember this piece of shit’s name, the name of the social club, the car he had and even the lean-to he had outside his front door. The one he made me crouch down as he took me into his house so the neighbours didn’t see me. I don’t get flashbacks anymore but I’d still love to tell him what he did to me that one night, changed my life for good! You are a remarkable person and I wish you nothing but happiness in your life. What happened to me was one night. How you cope, I’ve no idea. You will deffo be going to heaven lad! 😉😉😉👊🏼

It's so important to hear survivor stories, including those of men who experienced CSA. Thank you.

Why on earth would you name yourself a name that reminds you of your sexual abuse? Make it make sense

met at a church....

New sub here , what a very articulate emotionally intelligent young lad wow ! This is incredible I wish him all the best in the future! I would be so proud of him if he was my son 😊

Its odd that the step dad was straight but chose to abuse a boy (and perhaps his prior victims, his step grand children were male too?). The sexual orientation is very confusing .

He misinterpetred the study on the brain chemistry of pedophiles. Yes, the study scanned pedo brains and found they lit up when shown images of children. That does NOT indicate they were born like that, or that pedophilic attraction is innate or immutable. The brain activates when we like what we see. What we like changes as we age, and acquire experiences. People acquire new fetishes all the time, people change belief systems. If you showed a high-heels fetishist high heels, then his brain would light up. That doesn't mean he was born as a baby desiring high heels. Its an acquired, experiential fetish, that they grafity and cultivate.

I can't hear past the accents. 50% unintelligible.

EUROPE RIGHT. ! 🍀

"You never expect it to happen" - not really, if there was no thought that a crash/ incident could happen a lot of people wouldnt go on them! The fear that it could go wrong then relief that it doesnt is the point of going on a ride like that. If you were 100% certain nothing could go wrong, you would lose the fear factor

I so wish i had your strength, you're so strong. I find it easy to message or talk to a counselor over the phone about what I went through, which was similar to you but in a way i brought it upon myself because i was working the streets to feed a drug habit, the most violent of the situations still haunts me and it was somebody i didn't even know. You were hurt by somebody who should have cared for you, somebody i assume you loved as a family member. I can't even begin to imagine what you went through, the confusion, the betrayal, i hope you continue to heal. You really do shine and glow despite whats happened to you ❤

Very brave young fellow. As a survivor, I'm 68, my abuse started around age 10. You will get stronger over time.

This was painful to watch.

I have never or ever will go on that smiler ride at Alton Towers

I need to sort my self out ive lost 5st twice then they put it straight back on its coming to a point now I'm 20st I can't even walk round the block near mine without my back killing

Thank you for sharing your story. i admire you for speaking out. well done you

I have a similar story. However I dissociated while they were sexually abusing me. So for many years I didn't exactly know why I felt the way I did about them. Then at 32 flashbacks started happening and thankfully I got right into therapy and discovered that I had D.I.D. which I was in denial of for almost the next 20 some years. I've been in therapy most all of my adult life and have learned a lot that I wished I'd learned earlier. Things like self esteem and confidence, but they've been steadily coming finally. It's a journey I had no choice in, other than choosing to get help. Which I'm glad my younger self did and stayed with for now 37 years. Just wanted to share that it does get better. Still healing, still discovering, still here. Thank you for sharing yours!!

“You took my little boy away from me & for that, you’re gonna pay.” I kept hearing this phrase over & over while watching this video- & it was the voice of an uncle who abused me first sexually then physically. Come shortly after the 30:09 mark of this video I had to pause. The first time Ryan stated his abuse went from sexual to physical & verbal, my uncle’s voice & statement kept going through my head. I began to recall sessions w my counselor, feeling confused about why he became physically violent & disgusted w me whereas he treated me more favorably & lovingly during the period of my childhood years when he was sexually abusing me. I remember the confusion I felt, trying to make sense of why/how things changed like that in his treatment of me. My counselor theorized that my uncle’s resentment of me which led to him becoming physically violent towards me was that I hit puberty & started maturing. It made the most sense considering that this started during the time I returned home after being out of state at a boarding school for two years. My mum sent 3 of us away at the suggestion of a friend of hers after my dad’s passing. My uncle was very active in our lives. I just remember not being able to understand why he was so emotional at my send off only to be disgusted & hateful towards me upon my return. I have to wonder now if such was the case w Ryan. I’m sorry just felt I needed to comment. Going back to the video now & will log off afterwards.

It’s obvious from the two men still in jail for killing their parents what society wants victims to do. They want us to be silent victims. The message is don’t complain don’t report.

damn this guy is hot af

Both of these lads are such an inspiration, so humble and transparent, it's almost like two distant friends catching up an putting it all out there, the feeling of saying it out loud can be phenomenal, trust me, I know