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I just ended my friendship of three year

So sad that this is the reality. I JUST made a video about this on my channel, trying to get people to understand that STRANGERS can and will help you more. Crazy that your own people wont help or support you!

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Hey Besties!!!!

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My mother told me in high school to "never let a man waste all of your good years".

Happy Anniversary to the Tucks!! Your transparency and authenticity are beautiful and inspiring! May God bless your family with many more anniversaries to come! ❤

Happy Sunday Besties!!! The ashy heel intro had me so weak 😂

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Happy anniversary to the Tucks! Loved hearing you alls story and how you both show up for each other in your marriage!

Great episode. Happy Anniversary

Happy Anniversary to the Tucks❤

Happy Sunday Besties!

We have to be cautious and discerning in mixing groups of friends or acquaintances. I had never considered that people might switch up on me so drastically in a different context. In my early to mid-20s, I encountered this issue mixing high school and university and work associates. I also became involved with my partner got married in this time and introduced some my husband's friends and family at times. It did show me a lot about how some of these individuals really felt towards me and the narrative they created. I am actually thankful for that experience because it made me cut the weeds from life that were attempted to limit my growth. However, I fear that it may have pushed me to be a bit too concerned for these types of mixed interactions in the future.

This popped just when i was thinking about this topic. Thank you for the insight. ❤

I am literally experiencing this right now. I connected a high school friend with a friend of about 8 years (both living in a different state from me) 2 years ago. I connected them because my friend had just moved to the new state and had trouble making friends so I connected her with my friend. They went out twice in 2 years but didn’t hit it off. Fast forward to me moving to the state they both are in 6 months ago with my daughter as a single mom needing a change. We all hung out together a couple times in the beginning. I fell out with the hs friend within 3 months of living here. Surprisingly following the fall out now all of a sudden the two that never made a connection are now hanging out every weekend…🤔 I did like you and tried to give it the benefit of the doubt for a while, but after seeing pics posted to IG every weekend of outings that did not include me I had to vocalize my frustration. I feel like I’m typing too much lol but needless to say I was very hurt and confused by the sudden connection.

I’ve been in a season of isolation for a while lately. This was good

Preach the scriptures Val!

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Y'all and this intro! 😆 My friend group is 20+ years in the game, and I love the understanding that we have... I feel that being alone is sometimes needed and necessary ... All of us are busy, busy with the demands of outside careers, home life, community involvement, kid sports, hobbies, traveling, and so on..... none of us are needy and we extend grace- and we are always just one call away 💞

Loving this conversation! I married my high school/college sweetheart. We got married right after college at 23/24 and while our marriage is amazing there were some groooowwiiinng pains! I don’t think we were full individuals before tying the knot so we had to do a lot of growing up in the marriage that would’ve happened before that step.

In this day and age, children should focus on becoming a well rounded, mentally sound, secure, healthy and happy person- because things are so weird now ... pour into yourself and make some amazing experiences ... marriage doesn't have to be the ultimate goal

Dating should be a time of getting to know the person and asking the hard questions. It should be very intentional- not just about vacations and taking pics ..... Sis, it's a no. It's doesn't take 15 years to recognize "sunshine" ... we, as women, have to love ourselves more

Val....give us the secret for 3 week press ons!

I got married “late” at 33 and we did it very simple but it was perfect

Yes can’t wait for the wedding episode!

Yall give such great advice. Yes I think the caller/emailer needs to now have a real tough conversation to ensure her desires are heard and then move accordingly.

Good morning and Happy Sunday Besties!!!!

When you have kids meaning more than 1 it can get hard trying to be on time for anything. I'm not saying it's not possible. I can totally relate to Tasha as far as being late because of the kids and popping up to my house and it not being spick and span and looks as if no one lives there. When she said "this is my reality" I totally get it. We're a family of five so if I'm late and say it's because I have 3 kids that's the truth and my reality. It's not that I'm blaming the kids for me being late but as a Mom that's just the reality of things.

I'm reading this book called Sisterhood Heals...there is a chapter in the book that speaks directly to this. Great conversations.

Wow. Y’all wild lol

Adulting and friendships can be alot. I’m too old to question motives, intentions, where you stand. I’d rather compartmentalize and know the box you’re in to minimize the shock and awe.

Hey Besties! Loved this convo. My daughter had a time last year with friendships in 4th grade last year. It was a hard lesson last year but I’d rather she learn early than struggle in middle/high school.

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No not that fake laugh Val 😂

It's okay to ghost - it's better for your mental health -at this big age people know what they're doing .... this episode flowed a lot better

Hmmm.... I'm with Tasha ... I would have been done once the loyalty was lost .... not sure why the hurt was so deep and it took so long- especially since it wasn't a childhood friend

90% of my friend dates and dates with my husband are unplugged. I try to do better to capture the memories but I do my very best to give them my full attention because as busy adults with kids, etc. that time is soooo precious!

Idk if I would pop up unannounced but definitely a text that I’m in the area

Yes Tasha I’m no longer doing above and beyond or stressing myself for the expectations of others but being purposeful

How about 3~way calls from the besties. Or Call Waiting.

This was a good episode! I have a few points to add here. I did take a couples trip to Cancun during valentines 2 years ago and did not post anything. Legit took only 2 pictures the entire trip. Then as someone who had 10 bridesmaids I definitely communicated to them up front what to expect As far as the budget and what we would be covering. Me as the bride was the more conservative one I wanted them to spend the least out of pocket and they all let me know that should not be my concern, their main thing was let us do for you and for me to just worry about getting married. I will forever appreciate all of them wanting to love on me in their way and willingly wanting to do it all (bridesmaids duties, bachelorette trip, the additional African attire, etc) without hesitation. However there are people like y’all explained that expect the world from their friends and then fall out if that’s not the end result. Also, slowly I’m relearning that social media is definitely a highlight reel and I have to remember to separate it from reality.

You can tell Val does her homework and is ready to talk lol .... Tasha seems to just go with the flow .... good episode

Y’all are so intentional in your friendship and I love it! Sidebar: I too, talk in song and TikTok lol 😂

Happy Sunday Besties!!!!

The bloopers 🥰

Love it! I’m here for these podcasts!!

This is awesome! Tasha, I’m a Scorpio and I heard that loudly! My bestie is a Leo…😂

Loved episode 1!! Can’t wait for the next!

I enjoyed this so much! Congratulations ladies! I look forward to more content about the lonely season! I'm excited for more :-)