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I didn't identify with the trans label for about a year despite knowing I'm nonbinary. However recently that changed when it truly hit me how different my experiences are from cis people. Cis people (generally) don't get discomfort with their sex characteristics. They don't have the label man/woman falsely imposed on them with all the expectations that come with it. They don't always feel out of place in binary gendered spaces. They don't have to transition in any way to feel okay with their bodies. These are my reasons why I personally feel I'm trans af even though some people might not agree. Idc. I know many trans ppl and we understand each other on a different level. whatever man 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️💛🤍💜🖤

Thank you

If it's alright, I'd like to tell my gender story. Please don't send any hate. I am currently 16 and I identify as Non-Binary and go by he/she/they pronouns. I realised the Non-Binary label comforts me more than the Female gender I was labelled at birth just over two years ago now, but lately, some-things been bugging me. I don't mind any of the pronouns I go by and I never really have. But I've realised that when people use he/him pronouns for me, I get a little giddy. Same when using more traditionally more masculine words like handsome and mate. I've also become interested in chest binding and looking more masculine in general. I have my hair cut short and I wear clothes that are considered to be more "masculine", though I do have my fair share of skirts. I'd like to start binding my chest, but would never consider top surgery. I like wearing suits one day and wearing skirts the next. I've now starting questioning if I'm Non-Binary, Trans or even Gender-Fluid. I'm a little confused and would like some insight please.

I'm an AFAB trans genderfluid. I started dressing like a guy when I was 11 but also dressed like a girl. I still to this day dress in both mens and womens clothing. I consider myself trans because i did not stay a cis woman i am genderfluid [out since 2017.] Thank you for summing things up. I needed to explain to my (trans man) fiance that I am also trans as well. I just don't get surgery and take medicine to transition. It was hard to explain to him that I am trans as well. So thank you for your video it helped a lot.

Using the "umbrella model", everyone is transgender. First, I was not assigned a gender at birth. My birth certificate says "male" (sex), not "man" (gender). Second, I have transitioned from "boy" to "man" to "husband" to "father" (with a few others in there).

It helps to have words to define these confusing feelings, but I dislike the idea that everything has to be an identity. Those for whom these words resonate are those people who struggle in general, particularly with forming relationships. Many of these so-called attraction types will blur together with time as people experience life and learn what they want. Your repeated assertion of living in a society clearly indicates how societal expectations mold, even if superficially, our ideas of what we think we are and want. With time, it becomes clearer what we actually are and want.

I might think that language is not hard of their self but from how peoples are handle her.💛🤍💜🖤🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

Wow, you really put into words everything I have been experiencing lately, in a very educational way too, congrats <3

What the f* is romantic attraction actually?

Gender binary | A system in which gender is constructed into two strict categories of male or female. Gender identity is expected to align with the sex assigned at birth and gender expressions and roles fit traditional expectations. Femininity/Masculinity: Ideological constructions whose human manifestations (women and men, girls and boys) are recreated in each generation according to the intermeshing requirements of social, cultural, economic, and biological necessities. People rely on cultural constructions of these to indicate their membership in their sex/gender category. Gender identity One's innermost concept of self as male, female, a blend of both or neither - how individuals perceive themselves and what they call themselves. One's gender identity can be the same as or different from their sex/gender assigned at birth. Gender roles The interests, behaviors, and mannerisms that a society or culture assigns to a particular gender or to the things expected of a person based on their assigned, perceived, or actual gender. Gender roles change over time and across cultures. Gender nonconforming This term is used to describe people with a gender expression or presentation that’s different from cultural or social stereotypes associated with the person’s perceived or assigned gender or sex. It doesn’t convey any information about the way someone experiences gender internally. More accurately, gender nonconforming is a term used to describe physical traits in relation to socially and culturally defined gender categories. People of any gender - cis, trans, or nonbinary - can be gender nonconforming. Gender expression | External appearance of one's gender identity, usually expressed through behavior, clothing, body characteristics or voice, and which may or may not conform to socially defined behaviors and characteristics typically associated with being either masculine or feminine. Gender transition The process by which some people strive to more closely align their internal knowledge of gender with its outward appearance. Some people socially transition, whereby they might begin dressing, using names and pronouns and/or be socially recognized as another gender. Others undergo physical transitions in which they modify their bodies through medical interventions. Social dysphoria A specific type of gender dysphoria that manifests as distress and discomfort that results from the way society or other people perceive, label, refer to, or interact with someone’s gender or body. Being Transgender is when someone's gender identity has an incongruence with or doesn't sit comfortably with their sex/gender assigned at birth. Being Nonbinary is having a gender identity that has an incongruence with or doesn't sit comfortably with the binary gender system. There are Nonbinary people who receive HRT and gender affirmating surgery. Nonbinary people are trans enough.

I'd love to learn more about normativities. I feel like for me there is something missing. Clearly I feel the neuronormativity a lot, but I also feel like...there is so much normativity going into relationships that I can't even begin to describe. I've been feeling some pull towards relationship anarchy. I experience things like alterous attraction, sensual attraction. I have wants to connect with people that I can only describe as kinky. Both monogamy and polyamory doesn't want to make sense in my head. I have intellectual attraction that for some reason feels like sexual attraction. It's not that "oh I am just attracted to a different gender" or "oh I want poly instead of monogamy". My experience is just so inherently queer I don't have the words for it. And a lot of it isn't not having or having sexual attraction, like geing asexual or allosexual. It's the mass of other stuff outside of it that apparently people cannot connect to.

I like the academic style. I feel excluded from academia due to accessibility reasons, but also from the queer community from just being, ironically, too queer and not fitting into the boxes. I'd love to find just a little connection to anything where I could feel included.

Oh. I feel like this is a very interesting thought to connect to how I feel like I "should" be bi. I'm bigender. I'm non-binary. Whelp.

Misgendering isn`t transphobic. It`s people outside the community showing they have no interest in the ideology. And quite rightly. Are you all going to force us to gender correctly? It`s obviously immature nonsense.

I didnt question my identity until a few weeks ago, and im 26. It definitely feels weird to realize this stuff so late in life. Coming from rural texas i didnt know you could be anything besides man or woman. As a child i desperately wanted to destroy the binary LOL and to this day i have very much "dude" energy. Its quite hilarious that i never once considered i might be anything other than cis

At first i thought i was pansexual, but now im leaning more towards bi sexual. Like your so right when you say it can change in a year. And i might just be in the phase of im attracted to women right now. Im still struggling with experiencing a women, ive been takeing little steps like talking online first. I think im almost ready to actually meet up with a girl and maybe do more. Ive also have only recently come into exceptance that i can just have sexual connections and i dont have to have an emotional connection to sleep with someone. Growing up in a very religious family, subconsciously i searched for a man to get married to and have kids, and i never slept around because i feared judgement from my family. But now i view it as, if your communicating thats all you want is sexual intimacy, then you have nothing to feel guilty of. So now im able to except this more, im able to actually move myself into a new direction of actually exploring my sexuality physically and not just mentally. This video helped, thankyou 💜

"Binary" and "Non-Binary" have reference to the sex spectrum. Gender has nothing to do with the sex spectrum as "it is all in one's head", totally independent of the person's sex.

incredible cover!

„You can be affected by comphet and still have a genuine capacity to be in a happy and healthy, fulfilling relationship with a men” - I don’t exactly know why but this sentence alone made me realise that I’m sure I’m gay - had questioned that, but seeing it from this perspective made things soooo clear - I realised relationships with men definitely wouldn’t make me feel fulfilled thank you 🩷🩷

I am trying to figure out if I’m a demigirl or gender-fluid I don’t want people to think that I’m faking it

What a word salad! If a person gives respect they receive it in return. Being butch, fem, gay, tran is not an identity, it’s part of our identity.

Jesus died for your sins, and he is the creator of everything, and he loves you, when you look at the cross understand that is a torture device that he went on for you so you and I can be reconciled to God. We have all fallen short his glory and are sinners. He who knew no sin became sin so we could become the righteousness of God. Ask for the holy spirit... call unto him in truth and he will come to you, open his word and come to life. Jesus said unless one is born from above he/she cannot enter the kingdom of God. He loves you...run to him. John 10:10, the enemy comes to kill, steal and destroy but Jesus came to give you life and life abundantly. He created you fearfully and wonderfully. We all struggle and only he gives life. Run to Jesus and surrender your life to him he will save you. 1 John 1:9

ive been listening to the song for these last few days. part of the "new music i just found that i like" group rn. i really like it and feel moved by it, feels relatable some parts of it too, so thx for that :)

Very nice ❤

nice video 😇 i'm enby myself, and trans, because... they both feel applicable to me in my measure! the contrast between the ethos of the "movement", being radically one's own self and not compromising by pouring one's self into one of the Traditional Societal Moulds provided, is like, an intrinsically counterintuitive thing to the ubiquitous, very literal, uncompromising beauracracy of the western world 😆 you know what i mean? i def want that X gender marker though uncle sam does NOT need to know more about what i have going on in my life LOL

I can't wait ❤

This is so good!! Can't wait to hear the full song!

If there are not two Binary sexes Male and Female you can't be Non-Binary. You can't be not something that doesn't exist. If there are two binary sexes then again you can't be Non-Binary. Nothing hard or complicated about biological reality. You can fantasise or imagine you are something other than a Male or Female but maybe stop being so self obsessed and accept you are no different than anyone else born a Man or Woman. Why you lot are so self obsessed is baffling.

I love your analysis. It’s super succinct yet meaty ❤ love the academic flair. I was actually a bit scared it wouldn’t include any theory.

5:38 Omg you know what also made me existentially question my bisexuality? The lesbian master doc. Fml I have so many issues with that whole mess of a document. It never even floats the possibility that you could feel many of these things and still be bi. It sent me spiralling.

Omg i love that bees are queer culture even more than they are already (Bee is spelled bi in a lot of European languages 🐝 💖💜💙)

I can't believe this video was uploaded 5 years ago

This is no different than a religion. "It is because I feel it is." It's super natural and doesn't adhere to reason. A person can believe in any religious beliefs that makes them feel good, yet they must acknowledge that it’s not based in reality, but instead on faith and dogma.

Low key did better explaining this than my professor :/

I love this song so much! It's such a specific feeling and you have captured it beautifully 💛

the aromantic version is having platonic and sexual attraction to someone and then suffering from severe imposter syndrome because you have no lense with which to understand what "romantic attraction" is and you've just assumed your whole life that its just platonic + sexual attraction, and now you think you're faking your identity for attention. call that romcom...p

No, enby have gender incongruence, we tran transgender people have gender dysphoria.

Nice vibes~~ :) also what fidget is that? It looks so cool! Did you make it? If so please could you tell me how or what the method was called?

The fact is no one respectfully cares what gender you are. It's a boring obsession. I tried to listen to you but it gave me an instant headache and impending depressive episode. I feel very sorry for you. I hope you can eventually get on with your life and the gender obsessing hobby doesn't define your life.

You look very unwell.

Why the heck do you all need a label and then you parade around flapping it in front of everyone's face expecting an epiphany. No one cares do you realise. It's not what you are but what you do that people will remember you by. Do a random act of kindness for another human. Don't live in your head rotating on your own axis of confusion. It's a waste of precious time. Do something meaningful for someone else and stop obsessing about yourself.

No, I'm sorry but you are making a straw man argument. That is not the only way to define transgender. You could have a definition that just isn't as inclusive as the first "umbrella" model. Trans is someone who identifies as the other binary from what they were assigned at birth. You don't have to include anything about medically transitioning. You are setting up a false argument in order to argue against it. For people who identify as trans who actually transition being seen as their new binary gender is extremely important to them. And their experience is absolutely nothing like being non-binary. And they not only transition their gender they also transition their sexuality. This is something that simply doesn't happen to non binary people. To be honest I think it would be better if we returned to using the term transsexual for people who identify as the other binary gender... because they see themselves in a body with the wrong sex. Then non-binary people could do what ever they like with transgender as a word.

Thank you for this video! I am nonbinary and intersex. I don't like identifying as trans because I believe I'm nonbinary because I'm intersex. I'm definitly not cis. But I'm not trans.

WHAT! I call myself Lu too, birthname Tallulah. Genderfluid. I can't believe this🤯

I swear we're on the same life frequency. Like every time you post about your doubts, your sexuality, your gender, EVERY TIME I'm going through a similar period. It's so reassuring to not be alone and to have someone that can put into words what I'm going through. ❤️ We're here, we're queer, and we're constantly questioning the state of ourselves and how we fit in the world 😅

u were part of my internet deep dive a few years ago and i can't even begin to express how the gender euphoria emanates off of u❤️ it is so lovely to see u so happy in ur current posts

You’re so beautiful 🫶 love the song!!

hmmmm.... well... I identify as a gender other than my birth sex, so I am trans... but I am agender, I have no gender, my gender is -?- , if i were trans I would have needed to change my gender from something to something else, correct? but I have deleted my gender and never chosen a new one, so where is the transition? am I trans? to claim the label "trans" feels very like having a gender to me? philosophers please answer because I don't know... (great video BTW)

This is amazing! Relatable lyrics and a beautiful sound... can't wait to hear the full song :)

I know I'm agender, so I'm not in that path personally. But I deeply resonate with the song as someone who never had a voice of her own or say in her life and that it's just starting to find it lately. But in my country as of lately, I'm deeply terrified of the future so this song is so comforting and freeing ❤