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watched this video a couple of weeks ago, and I just lost my best friend. I hate that this videos points hit even harder now.

No one uses cheugy lol, it was mostly made up by the NYT based on a couple of obscure uses of the word on social media. The times killed cheugy before it had time to actually become slang.

Thank you so, so much for this beautiful, honest, and deeply vulnerable video.

Thank you for this. My friends and I subscribed to the Broadway shows and we saw Dear Evan Hanson without knowing what it was about or knowing the songs. When it was over, my friends and I did do the standing ovation. We weren’t sure what we saw. There are so many things wrong with DEH. I was a single mom during most of my son’s childhood. I worked, I went to school. My son’s dad was in the military and never lived closer than a 4 hour flight to us. But my son didn’t wish he was in a different family. I never felt small. I softened my son’s glove and pitched to him. The only Black character is a typical “token.” The racism and the sexism in this show are appalling. In addition to the disdain for Connor’s suicide. My sister killed herself last spring. I miss her everyday. My other sister and I are her son’s support. He is in the state hospital due to his mental illness. Singing you will be found will not help him with losing his mother, who was his best friend. Anyway- Reddit users also dislike deh. They say it won the Tony for one pop song- waving through a window. Anyway- thank you for doing such a great job explaining the problems with this show and film.

I am talking for all gen z when I say I never used or heard this, personally I have nothing against millenials and never noticed any off these things about millennials.also don't touch lasagna

For me, this musical/film is not a commentary of all mental illness but a story of a one troubled young man. Evan selfish not because of mental issues but because of his point of view, because of his focus on himself. Of course, Hollywood trying to make this story "bigger than mounts". They love it. They love money. I understand what it is like to have a depression, anxiety (god blessed me with dysthymia and schizoaffective disorder if my doctor was wright). And yes, I know what it is like to have this urge, this buzzing sound in the back of your head, this dreadful thoughts about suicide. I am twenty-eight now, and I am still struggling with it. Sorry, my point about film only in the first paragraph. It wasn't meant to turn into a song of self-pity. Sorry.

My sister just shed this video with me. I know this video was from a long time ago but I'm not surprised. I was friends with him up until before I moved to the Midwest. So I haven't spoke to him since 2014. But I knew him since I was in high school. I didn't notice until I moved to the Midwest how much worse he was getting.

They seriously hit a wall taking out “Part of Me”, it’s ACTUALLY impactful and got me through living through a friend’s attempt + that near loss

hi. havent seen your videos in a million years. im sorry you're down on your luck.

I think the most ironic part of the messaging in "You Will Be Found"... Is that he wasn't. Evan's great tragedy, the thing he unhelpfully uses to excuse a lot of his actions, was a situation where he wasn't found. Hell, Conner wasn't found either. I dont entirely know my point here, but the fact that they can act like it's this hopeful, truthful band-aid you can slap on when *their own story disputes it* is baffling.

This is such an insightful way of looking at the app, you really know your stuff!

I am so glad that you are back!! I missed your videos

This video was chuegy

No one in gen z is saying "cheugy"

I'm so sorry for your loss, and thank you for making this video. I lost a family member to suicide at 14 too, and that feeling of "I should have known" resonated so much with me - even though we were just kids, and we couldn't have known. And even if we had, we may not have been able to do anything much to help. You are such a talented person, and so full of life. I'm sure your father would be really proud of you, and see his own sunshine reflected in you. ❤

Such a good video essay, but what probably struck most with me was the part about "even the right words from a friend or family will not cure depression" because it is so true, and at first its so dark, but then it also is oddly hopeful, because it means it is okay, not weak, to take medication and/or go to therapy, which WILL help in most cases. Slowly, and it still will be so, so hard, but it does not mean you failed. Just that you have a very hard and difficult fight

bro, no one changed our ideals of beauty, we were just able to get closer to them => standards rose

Yup. Yup yup yup yup freaking yup. Thank you for this. I have anxiety, like bad anxiety. I have PTSD and can't be around almost any loud noises or in crowds of people. I have what was called B2D. Depression. Bad panic attacks. And more. I didn't ask for it and just want to be normal. I wish a single person or even a group of people could make this all go away. I wish it were just i could be "found." Man I'm standing right here. I know what it's like, and I've been in that tree before. This show and film hurt so much. I hate it. Thank you for your video. And your bravery in sharing what you did.

Nobody says cheugy

wtf is cheugy? Cheugy is a millennial word. Fucking millennials.

Most of the criticism in this video doesn't actually apply to the original musical, which goes out of it's way to point out that Evan is an asshole and a bad person.

Disappointed to see the number of views and likes. This was really good and stylistic content.

I hate this movie! I don't have to elaborate since you've already explained everything wrong with Dear Evan Hansen.

This is a really good video essay

This is really well spoken, and I’m sorry for your loss. No one should have to go through that. This movie/book actually really got me curious about mental health, and if you take away the main plot, the characters and songs tell a different story. But it’s true that the plot itself isn’t right on levels.

Great video! Thank you so much ❤

You’re stretching it, but fun essay nevertheless. And i would say cheugy is not necessarily trying too hard but rather about being oblivious about that what you think is trendy is really a relic.

This was sadly beautiful, thank you

I haven't lost someone to suicide but I did recently just lose my nana in a wrongful death incident. Your passion in this video made me sob. You spoke so beautifully. I was one of those kids with horrible anxiety who loved You WIll Be Found and DEH when i first came out, looking back on it now and hearing your explanation, I am angry at the show.

Whilst I agree with the points of this criticism, I'd say perhaps the one thing to consider is that there's more than one message, I'd say in terms of its main message, the execution of that solely is poor, however we need to consider other messages as well and meanings that the musical communicates (I.e., not wanting parents of a dead person to feel like their child meant nothing to anyone). I would argue that perhaps this musical isn't supposed to be meant as a message for people with mental health issues, but moreso a commentary of reaction over one's passing, or at least that's what it should mean. Alongside this, the scenes discussed were in my opinion analysed individually as opposed to being in reference to the whole musical, as context over future scenes would create different meanings on current scenes. That's not to say the points made in this criticism aren't correct, moreso putting a different perception on the musical. I will concede that regardless representation is mid at best, and needs to be worked on. Extra: this is just my Media and English brain working together lol

This is dumb. Alot of ppl Don't understand what the movie was really about It makes me sad for my country.

You will be found was in the original stage shoq

I honestly don't think it's supposed to be about making him a symbol of hope but how a lie can get out of control especially with social media and what a person can do to feel accepted. I don't think it's just a ploy to get popular or a relationship with Zoe. I have experience with therapy and at times it can feel like it can focus on delving into your own feeling. I personally found CBT more helpful. I think it was complicated how the song reflected a deep wish of Evan but was ultimately a lie in the context of the movie. I didn't find it hopeful but uncomfortable but I did feel for Evan too. I don't know anything about the marketing of the movie btw. I also think that they employed the classical story trope of a lie getting out of hand and needing to be resolved but there isn't any real resolution, I wish that they showed the consequences of the lie and Evan trying to make amends and perhaps accepting that he won't be forgiven but trying to be a better person anyway.

Thank you for making this video! This explains extremely well what I have trouble explaining.

The sign language offends me. The whole show offends me. THE GREATEST SHOWMAN IS WAY BETTER!

If I was Jared, I would have sang like a canary about what Evan was doing.

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Pausing to put emphasis on "is a thing" is cheugy.

Tbh it’s a good story but how it’s promoted is that I have a problem. Evan Hansen shouldn’t be seen as the hero in this story.

I can see how we share certain subset of the darkness. You are still a ballerina - as always. You just do not perform for mortals. Dance, Alexandra.

This is a powerful video that calls out the empty platitudes and exploitation of Paul and Passek's work. The fact that Dear Evan Hansen got so popular despite how terribly written and dangerous its message is boggles my mind. I guess the songs sounded pretty enough to gloss over how it actively uses suicide as a plot device without any sort of sensitivity.

Did you ever consider, that with GOD all things are possible. I have a child who has battled mental illness for over 30 years. It's put our family through Hell, but we've stood together, helped him fight through it, and at long last we see the light at the end of the tunnel. Do people make mistakes? Constantly. Does that mean you give up on them? It shouldn't. Does it suggest that getting a little sunshine blown up your butt from time to time is so terrible? Well I guess that just depends on how cynical and hopelessly defeated you feel yourself. As for me and mine, we have, and always will. serve the Lord. And any message of hope, forgiveness, and love, is good enough for us, regardless of how aesthetically offensive it may be to others.

I'm gen z and eventhough sometimes I make jokes at the expense of millennials (mostly for their fashion) I truly respect and like that generation , I think they really try their best despite the the socioeconomic limitations , I also admire how millennials try to have empathy even if they don't always "get it". I think gen z and millennials are very similar and can learn from eachother, I don't think creating a "vs" attitude is healthy and it's just repeating the cycles of looking down at younger generations.

2014-2019 cheugy time

There is actually a cut song called 'Part of me' That was replaced with You Will Be found. Instead of just saying 'Things will totally get better!, Part of Me has more of a message along the lines of, even though your presence may seem insignificant, your absence will be noted and missed. “I was on the same bus as him” “My son went to school with him” The kid on the bus knew he was there, he might not have paid attention to that, but once his presence was absent it was clear.

What about the fact that the “average face” on social media is edited, therefore making “average” progressively more unattainable

90% wow

Even though the broadway version didn't exactly handle him getting called out for his actions either perfectly, it at least had ' Good for You'. Of course, wouldn't you know it, they cut this out in the movie. The one shred of exposing his faults and why his actions were so harmful to others was taken out. :/ I have to admit however, that 'You Will Be Found' is more just about hope and hanging on, I don't think they're necessarily saying that everything is 100% going to get better. The flipside, however... I do kind of wish they would change the lyrics a bit? Cuz it sounds like someone is just got to come save you. From my perspective, you usually have to go out and get the help, people aren't going to come to you.

Great video and analysis. I have one question though. If you had to rewrite this musical, what would you change in both the story and the songs?

Remember, we are in a Fourth Turning. Si vis pacem parabellum.