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You have a great delivery and presence. Keep going. Just remember that the average american has a 7th grade reading level and a 3rd grade math level. Unfortunately for our people, its even lower. So to reach the masses of sisters, you have to really keep it surface level. That might be hard for you because I can tell you're college educated but I can really see you with 100k followers in no time because your topics have such broad appeal among women.

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Regarding your statement that you saw yourself with a football player, the problem is that black American people primarily associate black "success" or wealth or whatever through the lens of sports and entertainment. If we go by the numbers there are more black millionaires who are not athletes and entertainers. They own theaters, real estate, software, clinics and run small businesses of various kinds. So from a practical standpoint black American women are not even maximizing their opportunities to meet "wealthy" men because they don't even know what to look for outside of sports and entertainment. 9:53 sold a lie. I'll give some pushback for this, I simply don't think we're "sold" a lie so much as we don't take the proactive steps to be educated. This is the age of information at your fingertips. We're not limited by school districts and textbooks anymore. Time to take some agency. 10:47 dreams and aspirations. Again, women can want what they want but do they have the "qualifications" to get it. Do they know what to look for? If you're only looking at athletes and entertainers you're severely limiting yourself to a neighborhood pool of men when there is lake over yonder. 15:06 giving settle. Exactly as you said many of these women put up with complete nonsense just to be with a man they consider high status. When you look at it objectively that is a form of settling. They solely measure success, happiness and fulfillment through the lens of money and perceived status. 18:55 career vs purpose. I really like this insight. Many of us conflate our careers or perceived image or status with fulfillment. They're not necessarily mutually exclusive there can be some overlap but we should all take the time to reflect and investigate if we're making the proper distinction.

Some women aren't worth the risk...

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How can one find a quality in someone that doesn't exist? If it is not within them, then it will not come from them. Have you heard the statement " believe them when they show you who they are"? As a Christian, I believe that God is pure and good, therefore, goodness comes from him. Sincerely, a domestic violence survivor ( I wanted things to work out...)

And sometimes other people are giving you good advice because you're in an abusive/unhealthy/toxic relationship. Her wanting to get married doesn't mean she wants to be in YOUR relationship or one like yours or that she doesn't believe in marriage. If she's telling you to leave, there's probably a reason. If there isn't, you have poor taste in friends.

I'm going to come at this two ways in total agreeance. Relationship wise, some older black women, including family members, give younger black women bad advice when it comes to dealing with men because what they ultimately don't want to see is you succeeding at marriage and family as a young black woman in her 20s and 30s. For a older, lonely, and bitter black woman to see a young black woman succeed at marriage and family, it goes against the narrative that many older black women use to explain why they are single such as "men are all dogs", or "men are not marriage oriented", thus shining a light on the older woman proving that her own approach to relationships and the type of men she chose were all wrong in her younger years. Rather than let this happen, they rather give you bad relationship advice, causing you to blow many good options in men during your 20s and 30s so that you can end up lonely like them, and thus make their false narrative against men and relationships seem true. Education and career wise, some older black women give young black women bad advice when it comes to pursuing higher education and careers, simply because they don't want that young black woman to succeed beyond them at a younger age, again, especially some women in your family. For older black women in your family or neighborhood to watch a young black women do the seemingly impossible and become a well educated and well paid Nurse, doctor, lawyer, pharmacist, engineer, scientist, technologist, psychologist, accountant, veterinarian, politician, educator, business woman, etc., makes them question what they did with their own youth and breeds jealousy and envy. Rather than watch young black women succeed and become envious and jealous of them, many older black women rather discourage younger black women from their educational and career ambitions. I am a educated black man, and by me not being narrow minded I can clearly see what's going on in my community for both black men and women. Even when I was in college, I could see the older educated women who were professors and administrators trying to dim the light of the younger black women that were students. The older educated career black women did not want to see any of the younger black women succeed at a faster rate than they did back in the day. Some older career black women on campus didn't want to watch young black women achieve in 5-10 years what took them nearly 30 years to achieve, so they try to either slow down or completely destroy the success of younger black women. Please don't mistake this as a generalization, but some (not all) black women were taught to see men as the 'opps', the enemy while trying to pursue successful careers and relationships. These women never realize or at least want to admit openly that many of their own women will try to destroy their ability to be successful and have healthy intimate relationships, sometimes more than men do.

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Totally agree with all of your points

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Yeah over the past two years I've pretty much completely eliminated processed or food with preservatives. I didn't realize how bad the processed food is until after I started eating fresh food regularly. I also eat poke pretty often as well.

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😂😂 well you look 17 but it's not a bad thing and some of us 40+ look younger not because of immaturity 2) we give advice if you take great ya don't well then you don't.. 3 ) we grew up in a time where we weren't allowed to Express ourselves or our opinions growing up or we have had to be out parents parents when we were young y'all couldn't have handled what we went through or lived through ... Y'all younger ones express selves and if you had gen x parents many of us allowed our own kids to express themselves ... And while society has shamed aging that's also their problem not ours we are taking back ourselves and doing what we gotta do

Because you aren’t doing the right things…. And you are not suppose to you are still learning and we call you out because we once made a mess too… it’s seriously the pot calling the kettle black…… we do better because we know better and so will you

Thanks for doing this. You're a community builder. Please don't stop.

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women (especially white women) can be the benefactors of patriarchy too

Religion is a tool for mind control, which in the form of Christianity or any non-African religion, upholds white supremacy. It also siphons money from people individually and the black community as a group into the pockets of fraudsters and scam artists.

The Powers That Be promote only one "storyline" or legitimate way of experiencing life as a black person in America for many reasons: 1) it is a pressure relief valve for black people's grievances and gives false hope to those in those circumstances that there is a way out if only they are talented enough or work hard enough 2) they want to perpetuate negative stereotypes of the group to society at large 3) they want to keep black people stuck in particular way of thinking or interacting with one another and not looking for real solutions, etc. I'm not sure if this is where you were going with the video but those are my thoughts.

Yes. Take time to read books and study. But with so many cheating using AI don't know they're just cheating themselves.

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Maybe it’s narcissism but some people have confidence and hard work.. I’ve met plenty of success doctors who have confidence through the roof and the skills to match..

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When should we cease using the misnomer of black, red, white, yellow people? Who started this misnomer? WHY? Are there various skin tones on The Continent, even without miscegenation? Are all peoples' skin tones between very dark brown to very light brown?

Ever been mistaken for Alicia Keys.

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Jealousy=insecurities

I don’t see the point of a college educated boulee-est type person talking about POOR CRIME RIDDEN black issues. You are so far removed from it that. You wouldn’t survive in those conditions yourself. Focus on issues of people of your race at your wealth, income or status. Let’s those who have a connection to growing up toting a gun or selling c rock talk about that struggle. Street 🥷 ain’t tryna hear that from a college educated weak appearing black person. It’s not going to resonate with the street. *Let someone who made it out and changed their life have the platform to speak!!!*

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💡 the biggest issue is that it's white supremacy that promotes degeneracy in the black community and demonizes black excellence. Black people aren't dumb they unfortunately take advantage of this situation and ws has capitalized on the different circumstances of black people while constantly making them fight each other. What black people see as fun, games or humor, ws project this as degeneracy or factual in the culture in a demonizing way which leads to Clout chasing.

It could be heavy but why to live in an illusion? You can live happily if you've found peace even with yoga's and etc philosophy realisations :)

6:00 Much of our historical and cultural experience has been underlined by struggle. I believe it has had a catch 22 effect; on the one hand it's inspiring to recount the obstacles we've overcome collectively, on the other hand we're consumed by this struggle mentality and we nurture it to the point of it being to our detriment. This mentality is further promoted by rap where every rapper will have you believe they're "from the streets" when many of them are actually suburban/middle class and will go out of their way to sabotage their own lives just to fulfill this "struggle" image and narrative. As you said the middle class black is seen as "whitewashed", "less black", "black boulee(or however you spell it)". Take that guy Quavo for example; he's an internationally recognized rapper in one of the most successful rap groups yet he's shooting dice with riff raff on a Saturday night. He loses some money somehow the situation escalates and his cousin Takeoff is unalived. This was an unnecessary altercation and death. No other genre of music has artists unaliving every other month. This is a cultural deficiency and we have to stop tiptoeing around the issue and trying to be politically correct. It was vhuqing u1QQ3r stupidity. I'm sorry to talk like that but it's out of control at this point. I can edit the comment if you don't like me talking like that. 10:29 black American culture in general does not value education outside of the assumed perceived status it gives. We're obsessed with appearances, faux or perceived status and feel good or empty symbolism. This can be alienating to the more scholarly and intellectual black leading them to form these relationships with people outside of Black American culture. This has a cultural brain drain effect. While I can acknowledge that dwight zupr3m@c has played a role of course in all forms of our social engineering, there is a point where we are complicit.

Sociopathy and Narcicism are behind a lot of success in this world. When you lack empathy you have nothing holding you back from doing underhanded things to climb up the ladder. I believe facing constant criticism can encourage narcissism in some cases. I also think that in a lot of cases people are just born with a lack of empathy as it is a natural disorder. I also think there's a difference between narcissism and creative delusion. I think a lot of creatives can be discouraged by others time and time again and still work toward their goals without developing sociopathy because I think most creatives are just born delusional lol. Thus, they have no need to develop a social coping mechanism like narcissism to deal with discouragement. No offense to creatives btw as I'm speaking as one. I think creative delusion and narcissism delusion are two similar patches in the same quilt yet different as one aims to creativly exspress itself which can in extention service others. While the othet only aims to service the self.

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No its your experience lol you compare in your head instead of having fun with your friends you are entitled and think you DESERVE Black American Billionaires only 1 Robert Smith is light skin all others are dark or brownskin so what are you talking about? You are light skin so what is your issue? You are rich?? this woman has hang ups don't let her give them to you. I am around rich old money white people daily behind my back she ask omg how is he so confident? she is a billionaire white rich old money pretty young zero confidence don't listen to this woman I am sure she is nice but she needs to get it together internally before she can help others. Oh but I haven't had social media in 6 years so....she may have a point people are getting nuts.. Her self worth is low she said it 10 different ways stay off social media and see how crazy you sound right now when you are 6 months removed. i am around the richest people in the country every day money will not save you you will be making videos about how you have no friends they only want your money still with low self esteem.

So, you're saying that you don't think it's a response to the way they've been treated? Okay. Would you also blame the victims of sêxual assăult based on how they're dressed or the people they hang out with? I just want to understand where you draw the line.

I'm not too sure about this take, because this could possibly implicate or even passively "justify" that black female domestic violence survivors tend to have a loud "ra-ra" disposition and are also weak... As if somehow that is a general correlation, and that can be a harmful presumption. I would however agree that the loudest, most boisterous individuals are most likely lacking in self-esteem or a healthy self-image...or acting out as a trauma response.

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Regarding the loudest...I would say it is so with about 97% of them; and very much so re violence it is 🖤 men and 🖤 women. There are the few loud ones (in a soul transition) that are figuring out who they are, maybe trying to bury trauma and talking/doing to keep people from getting close to them because rage is there. Beware. ⚠️This just came to mind this very moment...it's a caution for someone.