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Why Men Don’t Dare to Dress Well: The Fear of Standing Out
Many men feel the desire to dress elegantly, yet hesitate to step out of their comfort zones.
Why is this? In this video, we explore the psychological barriers, social pressures, and personal insecurities that prevent men from embracing a refined style.
Discover how to overcome these obstacles, reclaim your confidence, and dress in a way that truly reflects your personality and values. It’s time to break free from fear and make elegance your own.
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  • @carlsbad9000
    @carlsbad9000 6 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    My rebellion has adopted this cause. It is not a lingering thought of mine, ever, to dim myself down but I also benefit from exquisite taste so 😅

  • @lordexcellent5610
    @lordexcellent5610 8 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Today’s casual clothing makes you look like you don’t care about the way you dress even if you do.

  • @Z.94pe_Japanese_Phalerist
    @Z.94pe_Japanese_Phalerist 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Ironically, casual fashion, which began as a rebellion against the dominant adult society, has become so dominant that it excludes other fashions. What we truly want is a world where each person is free to choose and no fashion is dominant.

  • @segovax2852
    @segovax2852 9 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    At the job I work. Dressing more formal is required. I honestly started to feel more confident and and better about myself. Self improvement, even with little things can really help self confidence and overall happiness.

  • @mRahman92
    @mRahman92 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    14:00 the guy in the stock footage had his pants button undone lol Great video man! It a;; started with me with trench coats other long coats. Suspenders are overdue for a comeback and are much more comfortable than belts!

  • @douglasstrother6584
    @douglasstrother6584 10 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    A kilt is always an attention getter!

  • @paleriderpublishing451
    @paleriderpublishing451 11 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    I typically dress well I don’t care if I stand out haters gonna hate no matter what you do

  • @rex-rant4322
    @rex-rant4322 12 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Usually the way I feel like dressing, I'll throw stuff together and feel good about myself and go about my day. That's about it.

  • @lovalona7389
    @lovalona7389 15 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Thats so true, haha

  • @touhidislamemon5178
    @touhidislamemon5178 21 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    tell me the name of this voice AI ❤ It's really great.

  • @michaelle8384
    @michaelle8384 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    My daughter buy a pair of shoes for $50.00 she walk about 5 minute the shoes fall apart right at the mall I buy an Italian shoes for $400.back in 89 I still wear it 2024 nice when you buy cheap stuff they don’t last do you research before you buy bdxy best quality

  • @michaelle8384
    @michaelle8384 22 ชั่วโมงที่ผ่านมา

    Bdxy the best by Luke evans good quality my husband love love them

  • @MultiWatcher1000
    @MultiWatcher1000 วันที่ผ่านมา

    You just got a new subscriber.

  • @MultiWatcher1000
    @MultiWatcher1000 วันที่ผ่านมา

    13:15 Very good tip. This is also the way I did it.

  • @dimitriosmoreis2933
    @dimitriosmoreis2933 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm not. Too late to be scared.

  • @lyontanisawesome1258
    @lyontanisawesome1258 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Well said! 🥹

  • @mr.aesthetic272
    @mr.aesthetic272 วันที่ผ่านมา

    China

  • @Carl-x8y3c
    @Carl-x8y3c วันที่ผ่านมา

    Im in my sixties. I dress for comfort now , more than style. But some men are colour shy with dress. And i think that is one reason why men dont like dressing up. I know a guy and he put on a pink shirt that he bought one day , and his daughter remarked to him , dad you are wearing a pink shirt , have you turned gay.

  • @smackroscoe
    @smackroscoe วันที่ผ่านมา

    It’s always better to look good than to feel good. Always err on the side of MARVELOUS!!

  • @user-my6ss4mz4l
    @user-my6ss4mz4l วันที่ผ่านมา

    Hmmm...maybe because we live in a society where wearing a suit isn't required by most of our jobs?

  • @godo_denims
    @godo_denims วันที่ผ่านมา

    I’m scared of the prices

  • @TomášJedno-p2f
    @TomášJedno-p2f วันที่ผ่านมา

    People are drawn to newer styles because they're often more comfortable and practical. It's easy to get caught up in the "newer is better" mindset, but ultimately, wear what you feel good in. Don't force yourself into a "classic" style just to appear cool. Be yourself and express your own unique style!

  • @TheMrMRsmoke
    @TheMrMRsmoke วันที่ผ่านมา

    Lol this is just propaganda so shop can sell more suits

  • @thiago2000.mp4
    @thiago2000.mp4 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I love being left out by using a little bit of updressing. While everyone is wearing running shoes and nike shirts, im wearing matching belt and shoes, a good pair of jeans and a nice tucked in shirt, casual but updressed for others

  • @CS_1989
    @CS_1989 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I would argue it's more about the ratio between $$$ & status. if I had the $$$ I would def like to have a couple tailor made suits but then I don't have nowhere 2 go vice versa if I had the status unless I'm going out for business or high profile events, imma be in sweat pants & hoodie going 2 grocery store #TheStruggle on top of the fact that allot of men R overweight & outta shape which makes dressing elegant even more uncomfortable

  • @sbentsen2714
    @sbentsen2714 วันที่ผ่านมา

    As I'm thinking about it now, it's weird how our culture has shifted to if I go to Starbucks to work on my computer or walking around our local town, people would probably ask if I were wearing a suit or a blazer, what's the occasion? Like an hour day currently we need a special occasion to dress up more formally. If theres no occasion just wear whatever. Even wearing pajamas is acceptable sometimes now in public, its crazy! Lol idk if thats the norm but im not teaching my kids to look that way in public.

  • @andybatista412
    @andybatista412 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Well I drive a semi truck for a living and I do have a desire to dress elegant so I guess I'll be on my way to doing my job in a tailored suit (I'm not joking)

  • @agabsnl3607
    @agabsnl3607 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Elegantly stand out today by wearing leather jacket+white shirt, leather belt, blackjeans+biker leather shoe ALL EYES WAS ON ME✨ I do wear leather when riding wear formal while driving

  • @JoshThewhiteDad
    @JoshThewhiteDad วันที่ผ่านมา

    Caring what other people think of you’re outfit is one of the most unmasculine things lol Just put that shit on and rock it If you feel insecure in an outfit it’s probably because it ether doesn’t fit right, doesn’t match the occasion, or you’re over weight/ out of shape,

  • @devilslayerthesaintofkille1317
    @devilslayerthesaintofkille1317 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    It's not just about how men dress, society wants men to set the bar lower for everything.

  • @DJOttmar
    @DJOttmar 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If opposition (or just attention) from people you don't even engage with is something that inhibits you, you are no man. You are a woman. If you don't take financial advice from a person, why would you give a damn what they think about you in general? What alphabet people in rags with pink hair and metal in their faces think about what you look like just shouldn't be a concern...

  • @TheElectricCheeseProductions22
    @TheElectricCheeseProductions22 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I disagree, people just don't give a fuck and don't think or they just wanna wear the low brow "street wear" their braindead peers do (young people)

  • @Mickyfrench65
    @Mickyfrench65 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I wear suits etc, bespoke items, and I don't care what anyone says .... I once had a female say "huh, can tell who you voted for" looked me up and down and smirked while her friend called me a loser .... I was wearing a suit, white shirt, black tie and black shoes with tie pin etc.. they walked off with a mock laugh, they were dressed in I can only describe as miss matched second hand looking rags and training shoes, they smelled too, of B.O. and their hair looked dirty.... Here in the UK if you don't "fit in" you are targeted, for mocking and smirking... I immediately went to my tailor and ordered a new jacket ... And went home to shower. Youth culture here is non existent, it's ALL trackeis (track suit bottoms, tight, worn short) huge expensive but cheaply made trainers (Nike Adidas etc) and an ill fitting one size fits all black puffa jacket worn with the hood up to look "gangsta" or a black hoodie, (that isn't even "puffa" and incredibly poor quality) they ALL dress exactly the same...grown men aren't much different, they are generally told what to wear by their partners or peers ... I refuse to do this, I was "dressed" by my ex, and I was miserable, I fell into that mould of being told what to wear to suit her (for her peers, after all a man is just another possession to these females to show her status and bleed dry, ok I'm generalising, but prove me wrong...) as soon as I divorced her I immediately ordered a suit, threw all my old clothes in a bag and donated them to charity, I completely filled my wardrobe with fine wool sweaters, Italian knits, tailored trousers, jackets and suits, and bespoke shirts, quality shoes and underwear, (no supermarket 5 pack of boxers) and socks, accessories like a decent quality gents umbrella, etc, I bought hand made coats, and I refuse to wear trainers except for working out (she saw weeks later and her face dropped, it was wonderful)... At home I'm in men's lounge trousers and t shirt, but I'd sooner die than be seen out in them ... I get looks, comments etc ranging from "you look smart? Going some special?" to "uhg who does he think he is?" And "saddo" from very scruffy dirty looking miserable people who are only happy if EVERYONE is miserable too, again generalising, but the resentment is often palpable from both sexes, my gay friends also lament the day men stopped looking like men, not all homosexual men are ultra feminine and they personally despise the "straight gay men" as they described them to me, they too dress classy and refined, but they'll tell you it's rare in their community too... I dated a female who told me I tried too hard apparently by wearing trousers and not jeans and I actually shaved!! I walked out. . Fk that, I don't want my best dressed day to be when I'm lying in my coffin and I certainly won't be dictated to for any reason esp personal choices like clothing.. You are what you wear. Smart, clean, masculine, stoic, capable, fresh, or scruffy homeless looking drop out who obviously doesn't wash in the morning before going to the local shop for their can of monster, critical I know...but I fight back.... It IS a choice. You just have to step out of the hive mindset. Sadly until the fat cats sat behind the desks tell them what to wear it'll never change, I truly believe we have seen the last of the masculine, clean showered well dressed stylist gentleman.

  • @SteveW67
    @SteveW67 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Reading the comments I like the thought "dressing up is the new non-conforming" at 68 years old I've been too guilty of blending in to casual t-shirt, jeans, overshirts etc. Time for change I think. Many thanks for this video.

    • @AllureSecretary
      @AllureSecretary 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Thank you for your kind words! It’s never too late to embrace elegance. Your perspective adds so much depth to this conversation. Wishing you all the best on this stylish new journey!

  • @Parcother
    @Parcother 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    even saitama said when he first wear his hero suit. he is embarrass at first but everyday he wears he will get used to it.

  • @loganyang1207
    @loganyang1207 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    To hell with society’s “norm” 😂😂😂

  • @dormantrabbits
    @dormantrabbits 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I broke the unwritten casual dress code at work once and won't do it again. Nothing but negative attention from people all day.

    • @moorshound3243
      @moorshound3243 วันที่ผ่านมา

      That's because they were jealous

  • @Redasurc
    @Redasurc 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Ok to be fair these guys look like they’re from 1910 not dressing elegantly

  • @richr0b375
    @richr0b375 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    bro the gays are not hating on your suit 😭

  • @holmbergaudio
    @holmbergaudio 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    With coddling of criminals, and going bankrupt from a self defense case in court, men dress like homeless. It's the educated liberal way of society.

  • @THETURKISHKEBAB1
    @THETURKISHKEBAB1 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Its more like tryna not get mugged in the uk

    • @moorshound3243
      @moorshound3243 วันที่ผ่านมา

      I'm too old to be getting mugged

  • @DarkCloudGather
    @DarkCloudGather 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Good list.

  • @samaelauneor
    @samaelauneor 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I'm 35 and decided to level up my clothing this year. People mock me saying it's mid-age crisis, but my wife's and other women looks says otherwise.

  • @locks4
    @locks4 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I have personal issues about when men go out with their women to important gatherings and wear street wear while she is dressed in a dress and heels..it urks me

  • @EttoreSAAB900
    @EttoreSAAB900 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    Me and my buddy are used to dress well since the first years of high school. Recently I got a job as a warehouse/sales-office worker and always wear a shirt, tailored trousers and oxford shoes,which is basically as my manager dresses. The other day the owner's son came in and pointed out the way I was dressed and told me to put on jeans and "twenty-year-old shoes". The way I took it is that he feels so insecure that he wants me to dress down, and that's why I'll keep dressing well.

  • @voornaamachternaam5745
    @voornaamachternaam5745 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    AS A BLACKMAN ITS EVEN WORSE ,YOU SUPPOSE TO WEAR HIPHOP CLOTHING !

    • @moorshound3243
      @moorshound3243 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Have you not seen ask oaky?

  • @viktorkabrt5513
    @viktorkabrt5513 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    I started to dress well everywhere, especially in my working place, many people judge me or even called me on that: "I'm overdress and asked me if I'm going somewhere - like wedding" and btw I'm working in office, so this thing should be normal, but it's not, even our high manager don't dress that well, in my eyes, most of the times I overshadow him with my clothes. Most of my colleagues wear simple clothes, nothing to stand out. After some time, most of my colleagues get used to my new style, but they will always judge you. For all guys, that want to wear something better, it's hard from the beginning, but you will get used to it and after some time, you will never want to wear those "simple" clothes again.

    • @McCarthy1776
      @McCarthy1776 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Because your value as a worker is in how well you do your job not in how you dress. Y'all are being shallow and acting like women obsessing over fashion

    • @AllureSecretary
      @AllureSecretary 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@McCarthy1776 I think you may have misunderstood the idea. It’s not about an obsession with fashion. In fact, it’s not about fashion at all. It’s about timeless masculine elegance, a concept that transcends trends and fleeting styles.

    • @Mickyfrench65
      @Mickyfrench65 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@AllureSecretarythere's always one.... Haters are everywhere.

    • @viktorkabrt5513
      @viktorkabrt5513 วันที่ผ่านมา

      @@McCarthy1776 Dressing well will give you respect and that could you rlly help you with job it self, I can say this same about you, you are obssed with gym, it's clear from your picture, good body will not open you all the doors that you need, you have to be complex person and dressing nice is also good benefit.

  • @locks4
    @locks4 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    We havevto make the distinction between men and boys. Men dress how they want. Boys dress to fit in and for validation.

    • @McCarthy1776
      @McCarthy1776 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      Actually all humans except for one's with disorders like Autism for example, naturally conform to a culture. Its what holds society together. You haven't noticed the ones who always dress completely different and wear fedoras and all are always very weird socially awkward kids, usually overweight or underweight, acne, live at home until 30...

    • @locks4
      @locks4 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

      ​@@McCarthy1776understood, but there does come a point as to where conforming suppresses an individual

  • @McCarthy1776
    @McCarthy1776 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    If you're larping as a peaky blinder it doesn't make you "masculine" it doesn't make you an "alpha" or a "sigma" it just makes you an autistic weirdo. This isnt going to get you laid, get you paid or improve your health, fitness or education. You're pretending to be a self help masculinity channel but you're childish. I'm betting you're no older than early 20s, probably not very wealthy, or born into wealth, and probably can't even bench 225. I highly doubt you're anyone with any credibility to be preaching personal growth and masculinity.

  • @ponderbot34
    @ponderbot34 2 วันที่ผ่านมา

    In a nutshell: We're afraid of being labeled a "dandy man" if you know what i mean