Its a hard no for me. My child will not be allowed to sleepover at their friend's home. My reasons are the same as others who have mentioned why they won't allow their child to sleepover at anyone's home. Safety first.
As an African i agree this is a very American issue. Even when my aunt was out of town she would get someone to stay with me at the house instead of me staying at my friends’
I'm not a mom but I was a child and I used to get angry at my mom for not allowing me to go to my cousins homes for a sleepover. I have many cousins and all of us are women so imagine I was the "weird" kid that never felt part of the group because I didn't know what they said and did at night. Now I'm an adult and I understand my mom. She was right.
My mom didn’t let me sleepover at nobody’s house, I did not let my daughter sleepover either, I see alot of stories about children being molested by close friends and family members, as a mom I have to protect my daughter, and I explained to her why she couldn’t sleepover and she understood
Just use discernment. I used to allow my child to have sleepovers at our home, but wouldn’t allow her to go to anyone else’s home. I thought that was a bit hypocritical. So I used discernment, got to know the parents and any siblings, etc., and then allowed her to go to a select few. She had a great time! I used to go to sleepovers frequently and have never been mistreated in any way. My daughter had a great time at the few sleepovers she’s gone to. Also, most cases of any type of abuse happen inter-family, so it’s usually not going to be at a friend’s sleepover that a child may get abused. It may be at grandma’s house when the Uncles or cousins come around. Just some food for thought. Protect your children, use discernment, and pray over them.
Sleepovers were definitely normal for me. But being molested at 5 year's old by my 16 year old cousin was also normal. If you are going to let your child go you have to be able to have an established relationship with the people whose home they go over and have a lot of role play for different scenarios. My suggestion is JUST DON'T DO IT!
I’m so sorry that happened to you. It proves my point that most cases of abuse are inter-familial and not from going to the best friend’s house for a sleepover there.
@@candicane1abuse can happen anywhere.. All it takes is that one time and I wouldn't want to risk it. You don't know who's coming and going in other people's houses. And sometimes children abuse other children because they themselves are victims too..
The 7 of us weren’t allowed to sleep over unless it was at our grandmothers(both grandfathers passed before we were born). My parents said we know them but we don’t know what’s going on in their house. My son was only allowed to sleep over at his grandmothers(ironically both grandfathers passed before he was born). Even then my ex MIL allowed him to hang with some relatives that she trusted when he was about 10. Those “trusted relatives” thought it would be funny to see his reaction by letting him watch R rated movies🤦🏾♀️.
Hard NO when I was coming up too, I’m 60!!! Grandparents house with cousins during the holidays, that’s it!!! My boys had like 4 boys over in the living room on their birthday,,, not planned, “can they spend the night “ I was in an apartment, knew the parents down the hall,,, it was ok, couple times,,,, no sleep overs for my grandkids unless they are at my house,,,as an OG, my advice, better safe than sorry, your kids will be fine,,, it’s ok to say HELL NO
My kids sleep at one house and the children of that house sleep at my house. We have 3 kids that family have two kids,dads know each other,mom and me know each very well. We travel together they took care of our two big kids when we had our 3 rd.
I don’t think sleepovers are necessary. I never did this, but ai was permitted to go to school week long trips - similar to camp. So, thee are different opportunities for developing independence.
Tamron has a serious point, though, and you should never let anyone spend the night or have a sleepover at someone's house, you know. 🏠 No, that wouldn't be right at all.
Back in the day “ sleep overs “ We’re the thing and it was over night and safe we had safe fun beside it was only three of us and only parents were there
The female therapist sounds like she is preparing her children how to handle something happening vs the male is preventing the likelihood of something from happening.
You can’t helicopter kids so much. You’ll take away what made childhood fun for all of us. That’s why you never see kids playing outside and in the street anymore. Helicopter parenting
“Silent Singing Windmills blowing hot fire on scented ashes. Unadulterated Christian funk! They need more starch in their dresses to keep me quiet. Stars close their eyes to escape a promotion. I only want the bruises to glow. No price tags hanging around! She can only get so many hats! How could she wear them all? Her stockings changed a shade darker, every month. She just sat there pretending. The call and response took skill to sound uncoerced, but her face showed it! She eludes her true self, to mask the bruises under her skirt. Her skirt hides her shame! They will never know! Never know! She prays with thunder in her voice! The same kind that meets her back, while she cooks. His fist grows mightier! The kitchen floor holds all the evidence. Someone with good lungs, should speak for her! Yes in the daylight, its sin! But crime has its place in court! When can we stand and form a line for healing? I would like to be Heard! This has to stop! This has a name. Domestic violence should never hide out in Church! Men with anointing, should ask for deliverance! To “death do us part”? Does it have to take that? Loose fist, bloody handkerchiefs, bruised knees and deaf ears. I’ll take a stand! No more, no more! So I set my faith on fire, hoping they will see. Yes! Hoping they will see!” - Searching For Sandra by Sandra Northard a.co/eC8LkHe
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Thank you Dr. Mitnaul for sharing the truth concerning sleepovers!
Its a hard no for me. My child will not be allowed to sleepover at their friend's home. My reasons are the same as others who have mentioned why they won't allow their child to sleepover at anyone's home. Safety first.
What about like cousin sleepovers?
this was normal when I was growing up in the 90s early 2000s though times have changed since then
Times haven’t really changed changed. We’re just more aware of the isolated incidences due to the internet and social media.
As an African i agree this is a very American issue. Even when my aunt was out of town she would get someone to stay with me at the house instead of me staying at my friends’
There’s no reason to do sleepovers.
And my kids
Won’t be either.
My family didn't allow this either, people are crazy!
No!
I'm not a mom but I was a child and I used to get angry at my mom for not allowing me to go to my cousins homes for a sleepover. I have many cousins and all of us are women so imagine I was the "weird" kid that never felt part of the group because I didn't know what they said and did at night. Now I'm an adult and I understand my mom. She was right.
My mom didn’t let me sleepover at nobody’s house, I did not let my daughter sleepover either, I see alot of stories about children being molested by close friends and family members, as a mom I have to protect my daughter, and I explained to her why she couldn’t sleepover and she understood
I wouldn't let my child nor my cat sleepover.
Just use discernment. I used to allow my child to have sleepovers at our home, but wouldn’t allow her to go to anyone else’s home. I thought that was a bit hypocritical. So I used discernment, got to know the parents and any siblings, etc., and then allowed her to go to a select few. She had a great time! I used to go to sleepovers frequently and have never been mistreated in any way. My daughter had a great time at the few sleepovers she’s gone to. Also, most cases of any type of abuse happen inter-family, so it’s usually not going to be at a friend’s sleepover that a child may get abused. It may be at grandma’s house when the Uncles or cousins come around. Just some food for thought. Protect your children, use discernment, and pray over them.
Keep telling yourself that until one day the worst will happen to her.Anyway just be careful.Predators come in all forms and shapes
You don’t know what goes on in anybody’s house 🏠
Sleepovers were definitely normal for me. But being molested at 5 year's old by my 16 year old cousin was also normal. If you are going to let your child go you have to be able to have an established relationship with the people whose home they go over and have a lot of role play for different scenarios. My suggestion is JUST DON'T DO IT!
I’m so sorry that happened to you. It proves my point that most cases of abuse are inter-familial and not from going to the best friend’s house for a sleepover there.
@@candicane1abuse can happen anywhere.. All it takes is that one time and I wouldn't want to risk it. You don't know who's coming and going in other people's houses. And sometimes children abuse other children because they themselves are victims too..
@@candicane1 thank you for your kind words. I'll be 54 in a month and it feels like yesterday. 😔 😟
@@avasd59 facts 💯
The 7 of us weren’t allowed to sleep over unless it was at our grandmothers(both grandfathers passed before we were born). My parents said we know them but we don’t know what’s going on in their house. My son was only allowed to sleep over at his grandmothers(ironically both grandfathers passed before he was born). Even then my ex MIL allowed him to hang with some relatives that she trusted when he was about 10. Those “trusted relatives” thought it would be funny to see his reaction by letting him watch R rated movies🤦🏾♀️.
No.
Are used to do sleepover all the time at my friend house
I still do have sleepover. I’ll go over my friend house and have sleepover.
Not!!
Thanks for having me!!
I allowed my child to go over to sleepovers. Never again. As parents we must be on the same page.
I am from Jamaica, we don't have sleepovers
Hard NO when I was coming up too, I’m 60!!! Grandparents house with cousins during the holidays, that’s it!!! My boys had like 4 boys over in the living room on their birthday,,, not planned, “can they spend the night “ I was in an apartment, knew the parents down the hall,,, it was ok, couple times,,,, no sleep overs for my grandkids unless they are at my house,,,as an OG, my advice, better safe than sorry, your kids will be fine,,, it’s ok to say HELL NO
No sleepovers, period!
My professor is in here omg
My kids sleep at one house and the children of that house sleep at my house.
We have 3 kids that family have two kids,dads know each other,mom and me know each very well.
We travel together they took care of our two big kids when we had our 3 rd.
I don’t think sleepovers are necessary. I never did this, but ai was permitted to go to school week long trips - similar to camp. So, thee are different opportunities for developing independence.
Tamron has a serious point, though, and you should never let anyone spend the night or have a sleepover at someone's house, you know.
🏠
No, that wouldn't be right at all.
Back in the day “ sleep overs “
We’re the thing and it was over night and safe we had safe fun beside it was only three of us and only parents were there
I don't know why she even asks questions, she never let's them finish their answers. She cuts them off and throws in her 300 cents.
The female therapist sounds like she is preparing her children how to handle something happening vs the male is preventing the likelihood of something from happening.
You can’t helicopter kids so much. You’ll take away what made childhood fun for all of us. That’s why you never see kids playing outside and in the street anymore. Helicopter parenting
“Silent Singing Windmills blowing hot fire on scented ashes. Unadulterated Christian funk! They need more starch in their dresses to keep me quiet. Stars close their eyes to escape a promotion. I only want the bruises to glow. No price tags hanging around! She can only get so many hats! How could she wear them all? Her stockings changed a shade darker, every month. She just sat there pretending. The call and response took skill to sound uncoerced, but her face showed it! She eludes her true self, to mask the bruises under her skirt. Her skirt hides her shame! They will never know! Never know! She prays with thunder in her voice! The same kind that meets her back, while she cooks. His fist grows mightier! The kitchen floor holds all the evidence. Someone with good lungs, should speak for her! Yes in the daylight, its sin! But crime has its place in court! When can we stand and form a line for healing? I would like to be Heard! This has to stop! This has a name. Domestic violence should never hide out in Church! Men with anointing, should ask for deliverance! To “death do us part”? Does it have to take that? Loose fist, bloody handkerchiefs, bruised knees and deaf ears. I’ll take a stand! No more, no more! So I set my faith on fire, hoping they will see. Yes! Hoping they will see!”
- Searching For Sandra by Sandra Northard
a.co/eC8LkHe
This TC (Tara) she's so hypocritical. Y'all couldn't find anyone else but her?
TARA HUCK!!!! 👏🎉👏🎉👏🎉