Honorable mentions: Tiredness Hormonal hunger Hydration (and no, I don't mean grab a glass of water to stave off hunger pangs, but simply ensuring you are drinking enough throughout the day).
Lets talk about the role family relationships play with being a bottomless pit. I faced a very traumatic event in my childhood at the hands of family members and the bottomless hunger came from trying to fill my broken heart with something. That traumatic event wouldn't have been so traumatic if it wasn't compounded with my needs after being neglected. Ive learned that cortisol due to an extended stressful situation increases using something to cope. I became a food addict. Im on the process of healing.
100% So many people are not aware of how their family dynamics or early childhood adversity/trauma can impact their relationship with food later in life. We have started asking these types of questions with our clients and it has led to so many meaningful conversations and healing
Sister, we’re on the same path. Let’s do this - it’s our time and we deserve wellness and happiness! Thanks to Sarah for all the help and the community here ❤️
This is a very valid point that I absolutely resonate with. I feel like I have a bottomless pit when it comes to food, yet I know I am trying to fill all the voids I did not receive in childhood, which were a lot. So here I am, 16 years into a binge eating disorder, food addiction, compulsive over eater. Sarah, I would love for you to speak more on this, when we use food to fill us up emotionally. I volume eat in order to feel full, versus empty.
@@steph4160 well to combat the binges that where uncomfortable I began purging too. Because I could feel full, but also relive the feeling of being overstuffed. My reality was I felt more alone in the presence of people that claimed to love me than I did alone. It was composed by my mom giving me dirty looks as a preteen every time bi put food in my mouth during family celebrations. This made me feel very lost and alone with nobody in my life actually loving me. Food became love. The food of corse because it was celebrations was party food so chips and cheese and crackers and all the junky foods eaten at Christmas Easter 4th of July and birthdays. Had my mom cared about me at all she would have known how much her actions where controlling and causing me to feel ashamed and that fed the binge eating
Thank you for making such respectful content for us, binge eating patients. Your content teaches long-term skills to heal. Please continue to guide us throughout our journey.
Thank you for this great video. Found you yesterday on TH-cam, and am feeling so much relief since starting to learn from you. Also, that flannel shirt is so awesome. Love it.
I have been overweight since I was very young-a toddler even. The only time I was at a healthy weight was when I fasted for about 9 years of my life. When I stopped, the weight came back. I’m trying to get back into fasting because it’s the only thing that works for me. Am I hungry? Yes, but that’s who I am the majority of the time anyway. No matter how much food I consume, I’m still hungry. I have emotional ups and downs like everybody else, but the reason I eat so much is because I’m just plain hungry. Some of us don’t get full like “normal” people. It is what it is.
My 42-year-old daughter never feels full either. I can’t hardly understand that because I feel full so much of the time but she can eat and she never feels full. Even if she’s over eating, she doesn’t feel full.
I can speak from my own experience but some of the things she says are true on the physical level even if you are already recovered on the emotional and psychological level. I had to address depression and anxiety with medication to stop continuously gaining weight and binging episodes on sweets and carbohydrates and treat underlying trauma with therapy. To address binging patterns I saw a nutritionist over the period of three years because I had to undo the bad eating patterns I brought from home and learn how to get properly full in the first place by eating enough at my main meals, especially lunch and dinner and to get in more protein and fiber
Just want to say thank you! I've been wondering about this for many years and I always tried to threaten the symptoms. I got into very strict diets and rules knowing the impact of food, but I denied my emotions and feelings. I've been depressed for around 10 to 15 years, but now knowing this, I know things will get better as long as I pay attention to this. Have a good day.
I used to feel this way, never “full” until I’d eaten so much I felt sick. My solution is to drink a glass of water before I eat a meal, then to have a mug of bone broth with collagen with my meal. I no longer graze my way through the day. No snacking. I sit down at the table for complete meals.
Fatigue 100%. I have M.E. When I'm super fatigued,not just my 'normal', Not only do I crave refined carbs,but I also don't have the energy to fight/ stop, the need to go and demolish chocolate, crisps, whatever.
I’m so tired (not sleeping well and pms fatigue) and it’s so hard to feel full. Not only do I feel empty, but I use food to try and give me more energy, sometimes it works and sometimes it makes things worse.
I often don't feel full b/c I'm vegan & right now I don't have enough money to buy all the produce I need. I also overeat for the reasons you give in your video. Guilt, anxiety & lately anger too. And the point you made about the body having a set point also seems relavent to me. Thanks for this video! Very interesting!
I am also vegan and broke right now. Remember that canned and frozen veggies count and they can be cheaper. Grains and canned beans are cheap too. Nut butters can go a long way to providing a good hit of protein. Tofu, tempeh and products like TVP and Soy Curls are great too. No matter what I eat though, it seems the days I do best is when I keep myself busy. Best of luck.
My friend, it's not about having "all the produce you need". It's not about your budget. It's about how restrictive your diet is. You overeat because your body lacks fats. Now, you can glug down a full bottle of the best olive oil on the market, take a handful of supplements a day, eat a large bag of nuts every day...and your body will still crave fats. Your body will still crave proper nutrition- something vegan diet lacks and will always lack: animal fats. There is no substitute to dairy, oily fish, chicken or beef. Even true herbivores (e.g. equines) do enjoy a good dose of fish oil in their diet. Horses go nuts for a bucket of oily pony nuts (with added fish oil). You can guilt-trip yourself into a diet. You can tell your brain what you think you need. But ultimately, your body (and not your opinions/ideas) is the one to tell you what you need.
I am pretty sure my issue is from growing up eating so many processed foods, I never taught myself a good nutrient/full signal. Follow that up by a tendency to substances like alcohol and smoking (in my younger years), and now I still have no off signal for eating. I spend a lot of time making sure my nutrition is good for athletic performance, I eat plenty, but still struggle with binging.
I strive for satisfaction not fullness. I am always satisfied when I am nourished. Ever noticed when you eat high volume high calorie processed or fast food, you still crave and still want to eat. It's because you can fill your belly to the brim and still be seeking something to eat if your body has not been nourished.
My distraction was me not believing in my own ability to feed myself. Not being able to talk with myself like a loving parent created raging guilt and loneliness. That changed when I heard the term "standing up for myself" on yours and Stefs podcast. BTW love the shirt.
I’m 54 and I’ve been this way my entire life ….i used to eat that much as a child I would be physically sick ….ive yo-yo …I’ve tried many fat loss programmes …strict …not strick….guides ..pts ….and every time I’m back to the same old …..I do believe disconnections..as it’s been from an early age …..I then would manage with excessive exercise .(this has stopped now more balanced) I then realised I was a compulsive eater …and there is a support group called overeaters anonymous ….which opened my eyes and made me realise it’s not just me ….i did 2 sessions and quickly stopped …I realised I also steal food ….and apparently this is common ….i eat other peoples food ….or steal it in shops ….ive just finished a 5 days water fast ….all Or nothing again ….i felt great ….hit then feel shit and it’s only 1 week on I’m back to my base line shit again ….any guidance would be great hence why I’ve come across this channel …Thankyou xx
Thank you so much for everything you do. ❤ Every video that comes out I feel like is tailored to me lately. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in all of this. My 11 month old has been waving and telling you “hidey!” 👋 through the whole video so I thought I’d pass on the message. lol 😂
I need help. Can you advise on my situation? I was anorexic for over 10 years in my early teens through to twenties. My weight stayed stable and healthy for another 10 years after recovering. Then I got into exercise in my mid thirties which helped burn excess off but then when my father became ill I gave up my previous life to help him and it took it’s toll on me mentally and physically as I struggled to make time to exercise so the weight has piled on and I am three times what I weighed when I was at my lightest. All I do now is think about food. I obviously have always had an unhealthy relationship with food. It’s like an on/ off switch either on or off. I have gone from one end of the spectrum to the other. I have always cooked from scratch and rarely eat out as I have some intolerances that affect me for days if I am caught out by eating them unawares. I can go all day if I need to when working without much to eat but it’s when I get home it’s hard then not to overeat. I just have a bottomless pit as you call it. Every day I eat different amounts. Some days I only have two meals. I have never snacked as it would turn into a meal for me.
It isn't ethical for me to speculate on your specific situation as I don't know you, but if there is a question more generally I can try to offer some thoughts or point you to other content.
Would recommend you consider meeting with a dietitian specializing in eating disorders to take a more comprehensive look at what might be going on for you. Our genetics, experiences, behaviors and mental health are all very unique, and contribute to our relationship with food. We find people have the best outcomes when they find the most individualized solutions! Good luck in your journey
Unfortunately this is outside of my professional competence to advise on as this is a physical thing and my area is psychology. Are you able to speak to a medical doctor about this? ❤️
Thank you for this video. I can list how many times ive been full in the last 4 times ... its 3. Ive always had an issue with consuming fibre, so it must be that although dieticians tell me i dont need any improvement. Mind over matter!
I'm 65 and have spent a lifetime fighting this. I just want something that tastes good! I can force down salads and then it's like, now what? It tasted like nothing. I want chips and cake.
I am on a 1136 calorie plan and I struggle with getting all my protein in, I'm doing ok with fats and carb numbers. I feel like I would need to just eat meat all day to reach the protein number.
I’m not recommending a particular number and if you find yourself not feeling full…I guess I’m conscious here of giving an unsolicited opinion, but my first though at your comment was that your calorie intake seemed awfully low 💙
@TheBingeEatingTherapist Oh! I used a tdee calculator. Calorie counting is something that works for me since I have adhd. Otherwise, I am an unattended child in a candy store.
Eat protein. No not a take out hamburger but real protein eg egg. That'll help. And don't eat when miserable. Do something else eg talk to a counsellor or watch your fave show.
Honorable mentions:
Tiredness
Hormonal hunger
Hydration (and no, I don't mean grab a glass of water to stave off hunger pangs, but simply ensuring you are drinking enough throughout the day).
I find that my tummy is full but my mouth is still craving.. thats if the food tastes good and activates a pleasure pathway.😊
Definitely-I know what you mean!
The food tastes great then I feel sick.
Lets talk about the role family relationships play with being a bottomless pit. I faced a very traumatic event in my childhood at the hands of family members and the bottomless hunger came from trying to fill my broken heart with something. That traumatic event wouldn't have been so traumatic if it wasn't compounded with my needs after being neglected. Ive learned that cortisol due to an extended stressful situation increases using something to cope. I became a food addict. Im on the process of healing.
Thanks for sharing your experience and yes, this is absolutely another reason. I wish you so well as you navigate your way to healing ❤️🩹
100% So many people are not aware of how their family dynamics or early childhood adversity/trauma can impact their relationship with food later in life. We have started asking these types of questions with our clients and it has led to so many meaningful conversations and healing
Sister, we’re on the same path. Let’s do this - it’s our time and we deserve wellness and happiness! Thanks to Sarah for all the help and the community here ❤️
This is a very valid point that I absolutely resonate with. I feel like I have a bottomless pit when it comes to food, yet I know I am trying to fill all the voids I did not receive in childhood, which were a lot. So here I am, 16 years into a binge eating disorder, food addiction, compulsive over eater. Sarah, I would love for you to speak more on this, when we use food to fill us up emotionally. I volume eat in order to feel full, versus empty.
@@steph4160 well to combat the binges that where uncomfortable I began purging too. Because I could feel full, but also relive the feeling of being overstuffed. My reality was I felt more alone in the presence of people that claimed to love me than I did alone. It was composed by my mom giving me dirty looks as a preteen every time bi put food in my mouth during family celebrations. This made me feel very lost and alone with nobody in my life actually loving me. Food became love. The food of corse because it was celebrations was party food so chips and cheese and crackers and all the junky foods eaten at Christmas Easter 4th of July and birthdays.
Had my mom cared about me at all she would have known how much her actions where controlling and causing me to feel ashamed and that fed the binge eating
This is real advice for real people! Its given in a kind, comprehensive way. You are so helpful to so many ❤
Thank you for making such respectful content for us, binge eating patients. Your content teaches long-term skills to heal. Please continue to guide us throughout our journey.
Thank you for this great video. Found you yesterday on TH-cam, and am feeling so much relief since starting to learn from you.
Also, that flannel shirt is so awesome. Love it.
I am so glad I found your channel, thank you so much !! I just received my copy of I can't stop eating and I can't put it down.
I have been overweight since I was very young-a toddler even. The only time I was at a healthy weight was when I fasted for about 9 years of my life. When I stopped, the weight came back. I’m trying to get back into fasting because it’s the only thing that works for me. Am I hungry? Yes, but that’s who I am the majority of the time anyway. No matter how much food I consume, I’m still hungry. I have emotional ups and downs like everybody else, but the reason I eat so much is because I’m just plain hungry. Some of us don’t get full like “normal” people. It is what it is.
My 42-year-old daughter never feels full either. I can’t hardly understand that because I feel full so much of the time but she can eat and she never feels full. Even if she’s over eating, she doesn’t feel full.
@@Nan-59 I totally relate to that.
May your content continue to reach more people. Thank you, I relate to your experiences in many ways ❤️
I can speak from my own experience but some of the things she says are true on the physical level even if you are already recovered on the emotional and psychological level. I had to address depression and anxiety with medication to stop continuously gaining weight and binging episodes on sweets and carbohydrates and treat underlying trauma with therapy. To address binging patterns I saw a nutritionist over the period of three years because I had to undo the bad eating patterns I brought from home and learn how to get properly full in the first place by eating enough at my main meals, especially lunch and dinner and to get in more protein and fiber
Oh gosh, I’ve had so many last suppers 🙈 you talk so much sense……thank you 🙏
Just want to say thank you! I've been wondering about this for many years and I always tried to threaten the symptoms. I got into very strict diets and rules knowing the impact of food, but I denied my emotions and feelings. I've been depressed for around 10 to 15 years, but now knowing this, I know things will get better as long as I pay attention to this.
Have a good day.
Amazing!!!👏 thank you for your work!
I used to feel this way, never “full” until I’d eaten so much I felt sick. My solution is to drink a glass of water before I eat a meal, then to have a mug of bone broth with collagen with my meal. I no longer graze my way through the day. No snacking. I sit down at the table for complete meals.
Makes a lot of sense, thank you
Thank you for this video. I found it very helpful and it makes a lot of sense ❤ 🥘
Fatigue 100%. I have M.E. When I'm super fatigued,not just my 'normal', Not only do I crave refined carbs,but I also don't have the energy to fight/ stop, the need to go and demolish chocolate, crisps, whatever.
I’m so tired (not sleeping well and pms fatigue) and it’s so hard to feel full. Not only do I feel empty, but I use food to try and give me more energy, sometimes it works and sometimes it makes things worse.
Exactly. I get heart burn from caffeine so when I’m tired I just can’t load up on coffee.
But does your weight set point keep going up as you age?
It's the food imo!
Convenient ultra processed foods, fast foods and junk food are scientifically created to keep you coming back for more!
I often don't feel full b/c I'm vegan & right now I don't have enough money to buy all the produce I need. I also overeat for the reasons you give in your video. Guilt, anxiety & lately anger too. And the point you made about the body having a set point also seems relavent to me. Thanks for this video! Very interesting!
I am also vegan and broke right now. Remember that canned and frozen veggies count and they can be cheaper. Grains and canned beans are cheap too. Nut butters can go a long way to providing a good hit of protein. Tofu, tempeh and products like TVP and Soy Curls are great too. No matter what I eat though, it seems the days I do best is when I keep myself busy. Best of luck.
My friend, it's not about having "all the produce you need". It's not about your budget. It's about how restrictive your diet is. You overeat because your body lacks fats. Now, you can glug down a full bottle of the best olive oil on the market, take a handful of supplements a day, eat a large bag of nuts every day...and your body will still crave fats. Your body will still crave proper nutrition- something vegan diet lacks and will always lack: animal fats. There is no substitute to dairy, oily fish, chicken or beef. Even true herbivores (e.g. equines) do enjoy a good dose of fish oil in their diet. Horses go nuts for a bucket of oily pony nuts (with added fish oil).
You can guilt-trip yourself into a diet. You can tell your brain what you think you need. But ultimately, your body (and not your opinions/ideas) is the one to tell you what you need.
Hi. This is pure gold❤❤❤❤❤
thank you, you help me (I am 15) with this video a step forward in my life.
I am pretty sure my issue is from growing up eating so many processed foods, I never taught myself a good nutrient/full signal. Follow that up by a tendency to substances like alcohol and smoking (in my younger years), and now I still have no off signal for eating. I spend a lot of time making sure my nutrition is good for athletic performance, I eat plenty, but still struggle with binging.
I strive for satisfaction not fullness. I am always satisfied when I am nourished. Ever noticed when you eat high volume high calorie processed or fast food, you still crave and still want to eat. It's because you can fill your belly to the brim and still be seeking something to eat if your body has not been nourished.
My distraction was me not believing in my own ability to feed myself. Not being able to talk with myself like a loving parent created raging guilt and loneliness. That changed when I heard the term "standing up for myself" on yours and Stefs podcast.
BTW love the shirt.
I’m 54 and I’ve been this way my entire life ….i used to eat that much as a child I would be physically sick ….ive yo-yo …I’ve tried many fat loss programmes …strict …not strick….guides ..pts ….and every time I’m back to the same old …..I do believe disconnections..as it’s been from an early age …..I then would manage with excessive exercise .(this has stopped now more balanced) I then realised I was a compulsive eater …and there is a support group called overeaters anonymous ….which opened my eyes and made me realise it’s not just me ….i did 2 sessions and quickly stopped …I realised I also steal food ….and apparently this is common ….i eat other peoples food ….or steal it in shops ….ive just finished a 5 days water fast ….all
Or nothing again ….i felt great ….hit then feel shit and it’s only 1 week on I’m back to my base line shit again ….any guidance would be great hence why I’ve come across this channel …Thankyou xx
Ground beef huge bowls of it ...everyday ...I lost tremendous amount of weight and feel stuffed...no carbs...feel happy most of the time
I've always had the thought that there won't be food for me later on.
Thank you so much for everything you do. ❤ Every video that comes out I feel like is tailored to me lately. It’s nice to know I’m not alone in all of this.
My 11 month old has been waving and telling you “hidey!” 👋 through the whole video so I thought I’d pass on the message. lol 😂
☺️☺️ Awww, cute!! 😍
Thank you. This really helps. X❤
Thank you 😊
I need help. Can you advise on my situation? I was anorexic for over 10 years in my early teens through to twenties. My weight stayed stable and healthy for another 10 years after recovering. Then I got into exercise in my mid thirties which helped burn excess off but then when my father became ill I gave up my previous life to help him and it took it’s toll on me mentally and physically as I struggled to make time to exercise so the weight has piled on and I am three times what I weighed when I was at my lightest.
All I do now is think about food.
I obviously have always had an unhealthy relationship with food.
It’s like an on/ off switch either on or off. I have gone from one end of the spectrum to the other.
I have always cooked from scratch and rarely eat out as I have some intolerances that affect me for days if I am caught out by eating them unawares.
I can go all day if I need to when working without much to eat but it’s when I get home it’s hard then not to overeat.
I just have a bottomless pit as you call it.
Every day I eat different amounts. Some days I only have two meals.
I have never snacked as it would turn into a meal for me.
It isn't ethical for me to speculate on your specific situation as I don't know you, but if there is a question more generally I can try to offer some thoughts or point you to other content.
Would recommend you consider meeting with a dietitian specializing in eating disorders to take a more comprehensive look at what might be going on for you. Our genetics, experiences, behaviors and mental health are all very unique, and contribute to our relationship with food. We find people have the best outcomes when they find the most individualized solutions! Good luck in your journey
Good content 😊
Especially in PMS weeks! Breakfast, lunch , dinner, desert and snacks in a few hours time after I feel relief from restless craving eating more ✌️
Hello, I have a huge problem, I can't digest fibers and it is getting worse with time. Can you recommend a solution?
Unfortunately this is outside of my professional competence to advise on as this is a physical thing and my area is psychology. Are you able to speak to a medical doctor about this? ❤️
Thank you for this video. I can list how many times ive been full in the last 4 times ... its 3. Ive always had an issue with consuming fibre, so it must be that although dieticians tell me i dont need any improvement.
Mind over matter!
I take pills that make me hungry and cause weight gain how do I keep my weight while taking pills that have a side effect that cause weight gain?
We all have this problem
Or, perhaps, the food is tasteless. One more bucket load just might provide the flavor that would please and end the stuffing.
I'm 65 and have spent a lifetime fighting this. I just want something that tastes good! I can force down salads and then it's like, now what? It tasted like nothing. I want chips and cake.
What about type 2 diabetic with an A1C of 6. Always hungry for salty foods?
May need foods with magnesium. Or magnesium glycinate supplement.
I am on a 1136 calorie plan and I struggle with getting all my protein in, I'm doing ok with fats and carb numbers. I feel like I would need to just eat meat all day to reach the protein number.
I’m not recommending a particular number and if you find yourself not feeling full…I guess I’m conscious here of giving an unsolicited opinion, but my first though at your comment was that your calorie intake seemed awfully low 💙
@TheBingeEatingTherapist Oh! I used a tdee calculator. Calorie counting is something that works for me since I have adhd. Otherwise, I am an unattended child in a candy store.
@@susanegley4149that’s your BMR, not your daily requirements. 1200 cals are for 2 year olds. Take care!
I feel u
Eat protein. No not a take out hamburger but real protein eg egg. That'll help. And don't eat when miserable. Do something else eg talk to a counsellor or watch your fave show.
On carnivore this now doesnt happen anymore
Its called a crappy diet.