I would insist on payment every week. If mom gets paid weekly, that means mom has the means to pay for two weeks ..... she just needs to learn how to budget and put aside the second week's childcare payment on the side and not touch it.
As a babysitter, I notice sometimes I allowed parents to get over on me because of the soft spot I have for kids because of how I was raised I never want to make a child suffer over a few bucks
I have made cash envelopes, since time immemorial. There’s a “save for Christmas” envelope,” “save for car insurance,” etc, and I _never_ touch them! They’re secretly stashed in the last place a thief would look, but are the first thing I’ll grab if the fire alarm goes off ~ lol. I wrote in my book, _When my Mom’s apartment building fire alarm set off, she grabbed her fur coat, divorce papers and cigarettes._ 😆
@@aries4901 I wouldn't want to cheat someone who looks after my kids. If she's using being a single mom as an excuse you'd expect her to prioritize her children's wellbeing while she works to provide for them
Nowadays, single motherhood is a disability . You mention it in an interview, when you don't pay bills/debts on time when committing crime, etc . Tears is the ultimate topping
That was so fair, she took in consideration the single mom situation but still reasonably allowed the babysitter to get her earned money. Love Judge Judy!
I actually believe that she paid the woman cash. Maybe not the amount she requested, but it doesn't make sense that someone would work for almost 3 months and not get paid. One of the few times I disagree with JJ.
My first step in determining fake crying is checking if the voice cracking comes first. Natural crying starts with tears. Some people *can* fake crying starting from tears, but most either can't, or don't understand that it's a giveaway.
My mother had the same experience when i was a kid. She used to babysit for our family friends everyday from 8am to 6pm mon-fri and they would pay her weekly for the first few weeks, but then suddenly they'd conveniently just forget. Shed follow up on the payment, most of the time they'd pay the next day, but sometimes they just kept "forgetting". One day she just had enough and stopped babysitting without notice. The following morning, they'd arrive with their child, with the full backpay for the days missed - Mum didn't even ask for it at this point cause she gave up... they just knew and clearly didn't forget!! The rate in Melb for childcare is average 150 per day, my mum was charging 100 per week, they'd be out of pocket x7 if they dropped their child to a childcare. One lady i remember never paid my mum.. At all. Her excuse was "ohh but i was just asking for you to look after my kid as a favor". A favor is one day, not 3 days a week for the next month. Its alarming how common it is for babysitters not to be paid.
i help my sister with her kid for 1 year and i gain 80lbs ,lol ,it took me 2 years to loose the weight , im out of the babysitting business FOREVER ,LOL
@@asianconnection7701 Not surprised, see it happen a lot! It's a lot of responsibility and stress to look after someone else's kid. Need to keep an eye on them fulltime. Very easy to gain weight!
@@BNR_248 watching a kid is harder then losing 80 lbs ,lol , i have never scream at anyone in my life until i started watching my 2 year old niece ,lol ,i have a lot more respect for single mother now,
I know of so many siblings whom the parents expect to look after the children. It is slightly off topic, but the siblings often resent having to miss social activities because the parents often shoulder these children with parental responsibilities. While the parents go out, it is expected that one or two of the older siblings look after the younger ones. This has caused a lot of friction in so many families.
That’s why I don’t babysit anymore. I stayed nights and days. She ended up owing me over 500 bucks. I decided not to come back. The children started crying for me on the phone and she told me she will pay me 200 and to come back. I said no. She kept bombarding my phone I said nope!!
Fcken sick to death of people abbreviating there's no need for it her name is Judge Judy surely you are not so busy that you can't actually write her name ? it is disrespectful I believe
No, the moral of the story is don't have babies when you can't afford it and have no stable relationship to share the reaponsibilities with. As if being a single mother is a badge of honor. It's not. But for that fact, the plaintiff would not have been babysitting in the first place.
@@Langley_Ackerman19 100% agreed with you. Girls should not have babies if they can't afford to financially care for it. Also, atleast be married so there is two income to pay bills. Girls need to stop opening their legs to any bums that comes their way. Unless it's rape, females hold the key to their vagina, don't just let any losers in. We need a license to drive yet anyone can pop out a human being.
I do believe the mom paid SOME money, otherwise the babysitter wouldn't have continued working without pay. And I do believe the notebook story, but because of that the mom can't prove the amount she paid. And that's why the babysitter is suing for the entire time she worked, she knows the mom can't prove it.
I basically just said the same thing. No way would she keep going back for MONTHS, unless she is dumb. I suspect she's not since they were in court. The girl started crying for Pete's sakes. Always get proof!
though according to the moms words she stopped paying because of not getting cpr services, also she stated in her written report on it she didnt pay at all because the baby sitter didnt get the classes she said she would get. The mom deffiantly was lieing because she said stuff directly against what she wrote down.
You are a wonderful parent. You view life exactly how my mother does. Even though I don’t have any kids (yet) my mother still has the same view as far as helping any of her children out as long as they are being productive in life. Whether that’s with work or school. Kudos to you 👏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
I offered this to our children as well and my daughter in law wouldn’t allow me to do it for free so she pays me whatever they can afford. It was the principal of her not taking advantage of me. I definitely make out on this deal because I get a ton of grand baby time.
@Liberty family That still costs time for her in which she cant work for money and pay her bills. So I understand why people charge family money for babysitting on a regular basis. You cant pay bills with love.
@@LipstickNWhiskey I am going to pay my mother to watch my kids because time she has to spend watching my kids is time she could spend making much more money elsewhere. She isn't charging I'm doing what's right.
I had babysat my grandchildren for several of my daughters and I never charged them. I knew, from experience, how hard it is to raise a family on your own. I have wonderful memories with them and my daughters.
@Jax Jax Great for you your daughter and children that you were all able to manage that, like in the old days. Very enjoyable memories for all of you 😁🤗😊
Good for you but your daughter should have paid you. They used you for free child care . People with kids have the responsibility to pay and care for a child no excuses
If you had a working spouse, good for you because the money to cover the grandchildren's food etc would have came from granddad, provided you were a stay at home person. Personally if you wanted to look after your grandchildren for free that's up to you, but if you were on a pension, yes, your daughters are taking advantage of you by not paying.
Even if the babysitter was paid, she was definitely severely underpaid. There's no possible way mom could afford private childcare working for $10/hour
I make more than twice than what she makes and feel like I barely make more than living paycheck to paycheck and I live in the Midwest. Idk how people live and have children and make it off of so little.
i notice something about these lazy a--- people , they hate watching their own kids but they expect other people to watch their kids for free because they think they are a good person now that they have a "job" and people should show them respect because they are being such a good mother because they are working and providing for "their" kids,lol
@@rogersmith7808 I have seen a lot of Grandparents run ragged by their children trying to care for their grandchildren. They end up paying for everything, have no privacy, property damage and have the children 24/7. People take advantage of the situation and the Grandparents and Grandkids suffer as a result.
JJ decision was right in this case. However, I do feel sorry for the defendant. I think she struggles a bit and is ashamed to admit it. It's a tragedy :'( I hope she is doing well now.
@@SVIIVII You make a great point, however, it is unrealistic. If most people waited until they were financially able before having children many of us would have not been born...
@@pianissimoforte4576 And would you say that makes their lives easier or harder? You should want your children to have the best. There's plenty of different kinds of birth control options to prevent it from happening.
I don't believe that she paid her mother to watch her children. Ten dollars an hour is pretty low wages for a single parent and her mother was helping her out.
May be because am Asian I can't process the fact that the people in the western nation charges to take care of their own grand children 🙄 Here in my opinion if the Grandma is spending time to take care of her grand children then the mother should take care of the Grandma's needs.. they should come to a middle ground.. where is the compassion, relationship feeling if people start to treat their family relation as a job.
It’s not an Asian thing imo. It’s common for grandparents to watch their grandkids for free just cuz of the fact that it’s family. It’s definitely odd to see family charge each other for babysitting but it depends on how people see it. I’ve known/heard of very cheap and greedy people who charged fees for little “favors”
I started to feel bad for the mother because I somewhat believed her story, but then I remember the TV show pays the judgement and I don't feel bad anymore!
@@8213apice no they don’t, that’s the catch of the show, the monies awarded are paid by the network. But in exchange you get humiliated by Judge Judy I front of millions of people.
My mom has never charged us kids to watch her grandkids 😒.. she's wrong for not paying that girl but had no problem paying her mom.. which I don't believe for a second..
It just seems odd to me that the woman would keep babysitting, for months even, if she hadn't been paid anything at all. Huh? The girl may have paid her a few times, but she didn't record it. I guess the moral of the story could be "trust nobody-get proof every time."
Grew up with a parent as a judge. If you're ever going to court it helps you so much to 1. dress appropriately and 2. ALWAYS answer with yes, no, etc. your honor. This stuff just shows respect. It bothers me when people say "yeap" to Judge Judy. How do they NOT know after this show's been on the air for decades to answer her questions formally. Judge Judy wants you to sit up straight, make eye contact, no "um's, basically, hearsay, talking to the other party, approaching the bench, lying, telling long winded stories - get straight to the point!," and always tell the truth - she knows if you're lying!
Young people need to learn logic. If you’re giving or paying someone cash, even if it’s _under the table,_ still *retain proof* that you gave your money away!
The state makes it abundantly clear that it will not pay for any services rendered unless and until a criminal background check, TB screening, and CPR training and certification have been obtained. The caregiver must pay for these out of pocket, and is partially reimbursed after s/he has been on the job for a certain period of time. Under no circumstances will the state pay retroactively for services rendered prior to certification.
It sounded as though the defendant wanted the plaintiff to get CPR certification so that the state would pay, instead of her, so she didn't pay her while waiting for that to happen. But when the plaintiff refused it made the defendant responsible for paying.
@@stonew1927 she could’ve look for a facility or another registered caregiver to watch the children that already took government payments meaning they were licensed and certified
I believe the mom gave (if not paid) the sitter for her time. She might have been crying because she realised she didn't have proof. The sitter doesn't look kind at all
You can't close the barn door after the cows get out. Besides, the fact that the defendant is a single mother has nothing to do with the case she didn't pay the plaintiff for looking after her kids.
@@123451248ify Hence EXACTLY, WHY my statement is both perfect & applicable! People play house ALL the time…even I played house! When the honeymooon’s over & it’s time for the real work, guess who’s left holding the bag 9 times out of 10? Luckily, we never got that far! Although kids shouldn’t be made to think it’s a mistake that they were brought in to the world, & TRULY it’s not their fault, once they’re here, THEY’RE, HERE! And, they ain’t cheap, starting w/diapers & FORMULA! Now the lady was GODLY BLESSED w/a SAFE HAVEN whereby which she can leave her kids & have rest of mind to do things she needs to do, but she thinks that both the cow & milk are FREE!?!? (no pun intended….the babysitter’s BEYOND an angel! And way undervalued! $250/2 weeks is awesomely cheap! YIKES!!!!😳)
Say it with me family DOESN'T equal free childcare. An emergency situation once ok. Or if the person agreed and is financially stable ok. But not if $250 means that that person doesn't go hungry, loses a roof over their heads and bills aren't paid. Not everyone is financially blessed
But it does. Either yes or no but it should always be free. I watched my niece and baby cousins for free. I watch my best friend child for free. It's called love. I want them to do better and I want the kids to be safe so I'll keep the kids. Kids are a blessing and are funny
@@missindependent4711 I don't think you understand. This is about watching kids *full time*. You can't have a job if you do that. If someone asked you to quit your job to watch over their kids, and they weren't going to pay you for it, would you say yes? I don't think so. It's the same reason parents need others to watch over their kids in the first place. In an ideal society, there'd be some way to get around it. Child-care would be free, somehow. Our society, unfortunately, is not ideal.
I watched my 2 nephews all the time. Considered it an opportunity to spend time with them. It was a blast. I got much more enjoyment from it than a paycheck would give.
The babysitter pulled a scandalous move on the young mom. Quietly accepting cash and grocery for babysitting knowing the mom didn’t keep records of this payment. Took the young mom to court and awarded more cash. That’s why the young mom cried. Some people act friendly in the beginning but for there own selfish gain will not hesitate to destroy your life. You gotta carefully pick and choose who to trust.
If she did paid her she would've put that on her answer. She didn't that's why Judge Judy didn't believe her. If someone sues you for non-payment and in your sworn statement you don't make any statement that you really paid it's because you didn't pay. That's why Judge Judy is the best because she is a truth machine.
@@lomelyo Judges are not about the truth. They work for justice meaning based on evidence, the winning party with more convincing evidence wins. Anyhow, I also believe in truth that the young mom was robbed for being young and naive. She will be more careful in the future for the majority of the legal system doesn’t care if you’re a victim or criminal, only if you have convincing proof. Hope the young mom learns and things work out better for her and her family.
matt call I agree. she seems so sad. working for 10 dollars an hour. and not an easy job. and her own mother charging her for looking after her own grandchildren.
Not all jobs are meant for you to raise a family on. You truly have to understand that. The job pays on skill/difficulty/need, not because you have a family.
Several years ago I had a friend who was a single mother (divorced) to three small children, who would want to, occasionally, go out on a date with someone, trying to find a new husband, and I would agree and not charge her anything because I knew she needed the time away from the children, she only got welfare and a small amount of child support (although I doubted her first ex paid anything at all) to feed and house them, she was a very dear friend and had helped me out when I needed it a few times, and the children were well behaved and I loved them as if they were my own. Also, I'm a giving person. Also, it was only for a few hours at a time, and very rarely did it happen, so it didn't feel right to charge anything. All three of the children are grown adults now, but they all consider me to be an (adopted) uncle to them, although there is no blood relation.
@@Newbalance0311 : Pardon me, please, but a real what? I'm not sure if that's an attempted compliment or insult, as there are no clues such as voice inflection and tone.
That didn't sound nice coming from that person 😕. When my granddaughter's were babies I had them every weekend. I didn't charge my son to watch them, they are my flesh and blood. I'm the one that told him to bring them over on a Friday and my son pick them up Sunday evening. It was about spending time with my granddaughter's not as a babysitter. I enjoy looking for every weekend! I was also their learning tool throughout the years! Now they are teenagers and how I wish I could turn back the hands of the clock. I would do it in a heart beat! My first granddaughter is in college to become a Nurse, cause I'm retired RN. My 2nd granddaughter I taught her how to draw and she in college for fashion designer and home decoration designer. I read your comment and I think you are a wonderful person for caring for your friend, that was so nice of you to do that. Now days single mothers are Struggling to find reasonable child care on minimum wage and try to feed and keep a roof over their heads. If my health was better, I would help out a single mom, just because I'm a caring person and love children. You have a bless day!
If you want to help out then great. Thats a good deed done and Im sure you got much enjoyment from that. I know I did with my 2 nephews. But that wasnt the deal this woman had. She clearly expected to get paid.
Government benefits in addition to wages. WIC, food stamps, and Medicaid. She doesn't have to worry about food and medical. Is it hard? Yes. Have I been there? Yes, but I used it as a hand up and did not remain there. Some folks live like that indefinitely due to a variety of reasons....lack of motivation, skill, or opportunity among them.
Suing $1,086 for 60 hours of babysitting... that's $18.1/hour Single mom works at Subways and makes $10 an hour. What went wrong was that she didn't set an amount on pay and pays more what she earns cause the sitter randomly came up with a number. Stay in school kids and learn your basic math.....
She worked part time for the first month, then full time for two months. Fulltime is 40 hours a week. She is getting paid $250 every two weeks for fulltime work. The babysitter and Grandma are getting $3.12/hr to watch two kids. I hope they have another source of income.
I somehow feel bad for both of them. Being a single mom is so hard. We don’t know how she got in that predicament. I’m a single mom and it is very tough. You really can’t work because what this poor lady was making went to child care. Then of course the sitter needed to be paid for her bills.
@Hannah R wow you are judgemental much. I was married I did the right things. They are not mistakes ever. No comment more because you are not worth my time
I can't believe her mother would charge her money to look after her own grandkids though.. in asia, all grandparents help out with grandkids, pick them up from school, look after them etc.. that part is a little crazy
When I was broke and alone the last thing I would have wanted is a baby but women seem to think it's a great idea to have babies alone with zero job skills. My problems aren't others problems so why are other people's problems mine?
My wife watched a few children over a 5-6 year period and it was a hassle trying to collect from about half the people. They'd say I paid you last week when I was paid when I didn't accept that, it'd go to let me check my records as f they had any. The good people stay the others didn't stay long. Glad she quit it decades ago.
I run a small kindergarten and people like that come often. Usually they put hold for 3-4 days and leave when we ask for the money. Other wouldn’t pay their kids’ final month and would just turn off their phone when we call. It really harms the business. It’s a shame because we do believe in karma in Asia. And usually the kids will be the ones who get karma from their parents’ do
@@suicao4980 You need to get the money up front for a business, as you'll have to pay your suppliers up front too. You need to be buisness-like if you're running a business...jus sayin😉
@@MC-in8mc it is clear fact. Yet I would ask you to kick the kid out or refuse to accept the kid when their parents fail to pay on time. They prey on your moral as a teacher sadly
"She looks like the type" is not evidence. If you pay somebody, get any kind of receipt and have them sign it. The very fact that they know you have that will mean they won't try anything.
What is your evidence that she paid her something and that the babysitter is a liar? Are you just going on gut instinct? That’s not the way the law works, or anything in life for that matter.
I don’t think it’s “wrong” to charge a relative to watch their kids. People often become grandparents in their 40s when most of us are still working a job. My paternal grandma kept me without charging my parents however she still had teen children living in her house so she wasn’t having to buy food for me that she wouldn’t normally buy. And my teenage aunts also helped with me so my grandma wasn’t having to not go to work to keep me. On the other hand my maternal grandparents watched me and my cousins no charge but my grandma was a housewife while my grandfather paid all the bills. But not every grandparent has money to pay bills and not work to keep kids. I would hope if they charge it would be much less but let’s not demonize them. ✌🏽
Most ppl expect relatives to provide free child care which is wrong. It really grinds my gears. If you have kids, take care of them! And if your family wants to help then be grateful.
I agree, if you have to pay an inexperienced 13-year-old to watch your child, you should toss your family a couple bucks. If you watch the kids Mon-Fri, 9-5, it's a job and it's going to cost you to watch them.
I agree, I've spent a lot of time watching my younger cousins, and my nephew while they were growing up and it was always understood I'd be paid at least something, because we all have mutual respect for eachother and eachother's time. I'm not talking like the going childcare rate, but you know what I mean.
@@bkmartinez123 my mother in law won't take care of my son even after offering to pay. She initially said no because she wanted to work and earn, so we offered to pay her and she still said no, later she wanted to start a small business so she can work at her own time, so we offered to help her financially and also helped her setup her business, in return she agreed to take care of my son for 4-5 hrs a day. But after everything was settled she didn't keep her promise. And also kept the money. She returned it after a year. And after that when we stopped approaching her, she shut down the business and now lives her life like a young single. Some people are lucky to have supporting parents. Some not so lucky.
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. True saying. Even if her mother gave up a job to take care of her grandchildren (perhaps she needs the money), the plaintiff wasn't working for fun. By the way, has grandma had the training demanded of the babysitter? Just asking.
If the dad doesn't have money he's irrelevant to the outcome. If he's dead, in prison, broke, a deadbeat or she doesnt know who the father is so no father's name on the birth certificate then it's pointless bringing up the father.
As much as I'd want anyone caring for children to know CPR, it was REQUIRED to get childcare assistance by the state. The parent wasn't requesting it. see the difference?
Here in the Philippines some grandparents would volunteer to babysit their grandchildren without receiving money from their children as a compensations for the babysit.That is the way of showing love to their children.Lucky to those grandparents who have children who knows to payback the effort/help given by their parents.
I can't help but feel sad for the Mom. I understand the babysitter must be paid but when u have small children & u must work it feels like the world has u over a barrel. It gets better.
@@El_Nombre-e3x no Terrie Smith has a point. If you can't care for a child why have one? Adoption, abortion, familial help,...etc many options. Why take the option where they can starve to death or be in a terrible home inviorment ? That's just stupid and narcissistic.
So the defendant could afford to pay her mother out of pocket, but required the plaintiff to jump through hoops so that the state could pay her instead?! There is just zero consistency to that woman's story. I bet from how the defendant describes the situation that she left the plaintiff with groceries and money for taking care of her kid, with the added statement that she could keep whatever was left over afterwards. Defendant considered that "payment", while the Plaintiff was here on planet earth with the rest of the world.
@@EmmaofEngland but grandma wasn't required though. B*tch just wanted grandma to do it so the state can pay her mom. That wasn't the agreement. Just pay that old woman. 😑
Culture in America astounds me to think that a grandmother would get paid to look after her own grandchildren ... Me being an Indian there's nothing more a grandparents wants but their grandchildren with them all the time
Financial conditions make it that way. Grandma could be a widow and living alone and might have to pay her own bills that her daughter can't. Elderly people don't have jobs.
Young and trusting is costly. Letting baby sitter, write a receipt/cash received in her own book is a mistake. Think JJ got it wrong here. This young lady has learnt a bitter lesson here.
Disagree. The mom herself filled in an answer card with no i did not pay her because she didn't get the cpr license. I think the mom wanted the grandma to get that license so she wouldn't be on the hook for the money anymore. The state would pay. But grandma didn't get the license. So that's the point. Grandma still has to get paid and now mom's on the hook for the costs
That's good pay. You expect people can afford to pay someone else a full salary while trying to make a living for themselves? Do you have kids? I'm guessing not. Typically full time babysitters sit more than one child. So two kids is 20 an hour see how quick that happened
@@sconex8072 anywhere. That's 80 a day, 400 a week, 1600 a month, 19,200 a year... I've never known ANYONE that pays that much. Typical full time sitter makes about 350-500 a month tops. Mind you, like I said they typically sit more than one kid a day. So to pay someone ten bucks an hour to babysit full time is absolutely a very very high price. You know people that can afford to pay a sitter 20 grand a year? No way, unless that person is making 120 grand a year at the least. And in that case, paying that much the kid better be learning something not just being watched.
I feel like it’s unfair to assume a friend would charge the same as someone’s mother. The plaintiff isn’t the defendants mother and doesn’t have any moral responsibility to babysit for her. As someone who has babysat many kids before, it is super exhausting to do full time for only $500/month!! Yes she is a single mom but that shouldn’t cause harm to the plaintiff. She should have continued to search for someone who would take the cpr course so the state could pay!
I'll never charge to watch my grandchildren. If my kids are struggling to make ends meet and they are working hard at a job I would cut them some slack.
That lady was on the verge of tears in the most pathetic way bc she couldn’t get away with finessing that poor lady who watched her bad azz kids. Ugh! People are so irritating
I have noticed something about pathological liars : both here on JJ and the two or three I have worked with in my career. Whenever they are caught in a lie , and their double talk fails them? They start to cry , and deflect ….with yet another lie !
I did daycare for over a decade in my home, I provided all the meals, diapers, formula, everything. I finally had to come up with a legal binding contract because unfortunately the babysitter is the last person on the totem pole to receive their check! People would come up with SOB stories why they couldn't pay me, but I had to tell them I became a single mother and this is how I raise my children and I did have to report one couple and I came out ahead. So people that think they can rip off their babysitters shame on you!
It's funny how parents can always afford hair and nail salons, cigarettes, weed, alcohol and cellphones but can never seem to produce money for the real necessities in life...🤔
Judge Judy has the ability to see right through that. When the litigants have a genuine reason to be upset, Judge Judy usually acts with compassion, especially when the case is about a sensitive topic.
@@UKImmigrationLawGeek im not talking about judy though. The show wants reactions like this. They draw more viewers when people cry or flip out etc.. so in this case u can see the cam start to zoom in as soon as she starts crying cuz they wanted to focus on it in an attempt to garner the attention of more viewers.
Well it's not like she charged her for a womb rental fee with interest. Let's not get carried away. There's nothing wrong with a grandparent getting paid for doing work they would have to pay someone to do regardless. Grandparent doesn't mean free babysitter.
@@dianaevans6725 so who is the father and where is he? He's not mentioned so he's not relevant to the outcome. If he was then he'd be next to the mom and also on the hook for the money. Maybe he's dead, in prison, a deadbeat, broke or there is no dad mentioned because mom doesn't know who the dad is. Either way he's not relevant if he was one of the examples
$10.00 per hour. ? I'm an Australian and that is less money than a paperboy here gets paid. That is disgraceful. No wonder people can't afford to pay babysitters or eat properly because your grocery prices are not that much cheaper than ours.
There are SO many people who cheat their babysitters!! My college professor asked me to babysit. He and his wife had the sweetest 2 y.o boy. Once, they left to attend a wedding around 3 pm on a Saturday and never returned. I was frantic when they were 3 hours late. Finally, they called and asked me to stay overnight. They didn't return until 7 pm on Sunday. When he dropped me off at home, he handed me 20 bucks!! That was over 20 years ago, but still. They were terrible people!! That was it for me! I stopped babysitting after that.
Omg when she started crying and the camera cut to the plaintiff and her nonchalant expression, I LOST IT! 😂😂😂😂 Obvious crocodile tears! You still have to pay someone for their services sweetie.
Wait wait.. Did I see that right.. Did this girl REALLY come to court in PINK OLD NAVY FLIP FLOPS. I mean damn I know you're only making $10/HR but walmart has more appropiate court shoes for close to nothing.
To the Plaintiff Cry me a friggin river. Daycare $900 month!!! Mom do NOT babysit for a month. Let Entitled daughter pay $900 at daycare..bet SHE will appreciate YOU then.
I believe her and I wouldn't be surprised if JJ believed it too, but the defendant really screwed herself leaving all the money and the proof of payment in the plaintiff's hands. This show has taught me not to pay humans payments in cash lol.
I really feel for this struggling woman. fix this horrible system that works against working class people. And then she just gets berated by JJ on top of it
@@toosense I agree with you but you shouldn't have to make hundreds of thousands of dollars a year to have a family. Only a small percentage of people should have a family? Thats a sad point-of-view.
@@brandiphillips5775 No one said you have to make hundreds of thousands a year to have a family. But no one said min wage is meant to raise a family on either.
The thing is the mum needed government assistance to pay for childcare and was not able to claim it after all because the woman was not qualified and it sounds like she agreed to get the qualifications when they planned the arrangement? . The mum should have found another qualified carer instead so she could claim the assistance.
Why would she continue to babysit and not get paid as she claims she must have gotten something, or why else would she keep working for her? Something doesn't sound right in this case. I believe the defendant gave her some money.
Why wouldnt the grandmother be paid to watch the kids full time?? Plus the mom is on welfare so the state is paying for the “daycare” The grandma is getting paid, but not by the daughter
"Guess what. I'm not getting paid for my job" "No way! You gonna quit until they pay you?" "No I'm gonna keep working and just hope they get around to it' "OK?"
Wow classless grandmother. Didn't know how blessed I was until I watched this. My mom watches my kids for free and she provide food for them. My grandmother was the same. I could not imagine taking money from my already struggling child... The grandmother must be on drugs.
Or she can be struggling financially. It's nice that your family members are financially stable but not everyone is, if keeping the children means the grandma won't be able to work for the money she needs, then yes, she is right to charge. How's grandma supposed to pay her own bills?
@@neisci she should've done better but taking you child to court when she is already financially struggling is wrong. Does she want her grandkids to go hungry because their grandma is a terrible person.
@@jsmith-u5i lol my grandmother watched us for free. What grandmother charges to spend time with their grandchildren. A classless one. Most grandparents love spending time with their grandkids and vice-versa. I've never met a grandparent that does not enjoy spending time with their grandkids. The grandparents that don't are broke and mostly live in the projects.
What is it with parents feeling entitled to having grandparents take care of THEIR OWN children for free? Did you ask your mom/dad for permission before making that child? No! Now you expect them to take care of the kid that YOU made. Your parents are done raising kids, it's not their responsibility to continue taking care of more just because YOU decided to have some on your own. I say this as someone with a new born. I would NEVER expect my mom to HAVE to take care of her just because she's grandma. My mom loves the baby and would gladly take care of her all day every day, but it's not her responsibility to do so. If you would let you're parents babysit your child for 40 hours a week and you don't pay them a cent, you're selfish and entitled and a ungrateful.
If i wasnt paid the first 2 weeks I wouldnt watch them the 3rd week
I would insist on payment every week. If mom gets paid weekly, that means mom has the means to pay for two weeks ..... she just needs to learn how to budget and put aside the second week's childcare payment on the side and not touch it.
She probably WAS paid in the first two weeks
If you don't get paid within 3 weeks you should always quit. It's a good rule of thumb to go by
As a babysitter, I notice sometimes I allowed parents to get over on me because of the soft spot I have for kids because of how I was raised I never want to make a child suffer over a few bucks
I have made cash envelopes, since time immemorial. There’s a “save for Christmas” envelope,” “save for car insurance,” etc, and I _never_ touch them! They’re secretly stashed in the last place a thief would look, but are the first thing I’ll grab if the fire alarm goes off ~ lol.
I wrote in my book, _When my Mom’s apartment building fire alarm set off, she grabbed her fur coat, divorce papers and cigarettes._ 😆
Just because you’re a single mom doesn’t excuse you not paying others for their work
Exactly!!
I would NEVER expect anybody to babysit for FREE.
Exaaaactly
@@aries4901 I wouldn't want to cheat someone who looks after my kids. If she's using being a single mom as an excuse you'd expect her to prioritize her children's wellbeing while she works to provide for them
@@nthabix
Exactly!!
Nowadays, single motherhood is a disability . You mention it in an interview, when you don't pay
bills/debts on time when committing crime, etc . Tears is the ultimate topping
Some parents think babysitting is not a real job, it’s a very hard job with long hours and ungrateful parents.
That was so fair, she took in consideration the single mom situation but still reasonably allowed the babysitter to get her earned money. Love Judge Judy!
That part!!♥️
I actually believe that she paid the woman cash. Maybe not the amount she requested, but it doesn't make sense that someone would work for almost 3 months and not get paid. One of the few times I disagree with JJ.
@@jadediamond03 ya sometimes courtrooms are cruel when you can't produce any proof. But, no doubt there is a reason for those standards of proof.
Yes. JJ is super fair, as well as being insightful and a truth finder. She never gets old ~ lol.
@Hades So you would work for 3 months and not get paid anything??
I love how JJ doesn’t feel sorry for them when they start crying. It seems to make her angrier!😂😂😂
I love judge judy she don't play games
but women are naturally good at putting on the tears and expect it to work and it usually does1
She doesn't fall for the crocodile tears
That was some fake-ass crying, and I'm sure JJ has seen plenty of it. No actual tears.
My first step in determining fake crying is checking if the voice cracking comes first. Natural crying starts with tears. Some people *can* fake crying starting from tears, but most either can't, or don't understand that it's a giveaway.
My mother had the same experience when i was a kid. She used to babysit for our family friends everyday from 8am to 6pm mon-fri and they would pay her weekly for the first few weeks, but then suddenly they'd conveniently just forget. Shed follow up on the payment, most of the time they'd pay the next day, but sometimes they just kept "forgetting". One day she just had enough and stopped babysitting without notice. The following morning, they'd arrive with their child, with the full backpay for the days missed - Mum didn't even ask for it at this point cause she gave up... they just knew and clearly didn't forget!! The rate in Melb for childcare is average 150 per day, my mum was charging 100 per week, they'd be out of pocket x7 if they dropped their child to a childcare.
One lady i remember never paid my mum.. At all. Her excuse was "ohh but i was just asking for you to look after my kid as a favor". A favor is one day, not 3 days a week for the next month. Its alarming how common it is for babysitters not to be paid.
i help my sister with her kid for 1 year and i gain 80lbs ,lol ,it took me 2 years to loose the weight , im out of the babysitting business FOREVER ,LOL
@@asianconnection7701 Not surprised, see it happen a lot! It's a lot of responsibility and stress to look after someone else's kid. Need to keep an eye on them fulltime. Very easy to gain weight!
@@BNR_248 watching a kid is harder then losing 80 lbs ,lol , i have never scream at anyone in my life until i started watching my 2 year old niece ,lol ,i have a lot more respect for single mother now,
I know of so many siblings whom the parents expect to look after the children. It is slightly off topic, but the siblings often resent having to miss social activities because the parents often shoulder these children with parental responsibilities. While the parents go out, it is expected that one or two of the older siblings look after the younger ones. This has caused a lot of friction in so many families.
@@UKImmigrationLawGeek called parentification
$500 for 4 weeks of full-time work? Excuse me? That's $3 per hour. In what universe is that fair?
As a former babysitter that has been stiffed more than I care to remember, I say HELL YEAH. Love JJ!
That’s why I don’t babysit anymore. I stayed nights and days. She ended up owing me over 500 bucks. I decided not to come back. The children started crying for me on the phone and she told me she will pay me 200 and to come back. I said no. She kept bombarding my phone I said nope!!
Fcken sick to death of people abbreviating there's no need for it her name is Judge Judy surely you are not so busy that you can't actually write her name ? it is disrespectful I believe
This just shows how difficult it is to make ends meet on a min wage salary. I wish them both the best.
Actually, Minimum wage is $7.25 an hour. It is impossible to make ends meet on that small of an amount.
But was she receiving day care $ from the state and keeping it?
No, the moral of the story is don't have babies when you can't afford it and have no stable relationship to share the reaponsibilities with. As if being a single mother is a badge of honor. It's not. But for that fact, the plaintiff would not have been babysitting in the first place.
@@Langley_Ackerman19
100% agreed with you.
Girls should not have babies if they can't afford to financially care for it. Also, atleast be married so there is two income to pay bills. Girls need to stop opening their legs to any bums that comes their way. Unless it's rape, females hold the key to their vagina, don't just let any losers in.
We need a license to drive yet anyone can pop out a human being.
Minimum wage was never meant to be a living wage.
I do believe the mom paid SOME money, otherwise the babysitter wouldn't have continued working without pay.
And I do believe the notebook story, but because of that the mom can't prove the amount she paid.
And that's why the babysitter is suing for the entire time she worked, she knows the mom can't prove it.
I basically just said the same thing. No way would she keep going back for MONTHS, unless she is dumb. I suspect she's not since they were in court. The girl started crying for Pete's sakes. Always get proof!
I agree
Exactly!!
though according to the moms words she stopped paying because of not getting cpr services, also she stated in her written report on it she didnt pay at all because the baby sitter didnt get the classes she said she would get. The mom deffiantly was lieing because she said stuff directly against what she wrote down.
@@lolzXD101 you realize you agree with OP right?
As long as my children are working, education or something productive... I will babysit all day and night for free.
You are a wonderful parent. You view life exactly how my mother does. Even though I don’t have any kids (yet) my mother still has the same view as far as helping any of her children out as long as they are being productive in life. Whether that’s with work or school. Kudos to you 👏🏾🙌🏾🙏🏾
Not me! They made the kids is their responsibility.
@@steak6336 i also understand your view.
Good for you. They made the kids abs need to take care of them.
I offered this to our children as well and my daughter in law wouldn’t allow me to do it for free so she pays me whatever they can afford. It was the principal of her not taking advantage of me. I definitely make out on this deal because I get a ton of grand baby time.
I’m not babysitting NOBODY’S kids without getting paid that same day 😂…if you don’t pay me, don’t show back up tomorrow ✌️
JJ was firing shots when she said you pay your mother 250.00 a week to watch Her own grandchildren. Just say it JJ “who are these people”
The plaintiff is guilty right off the bat with that hair doo. 😆
@@airwolf3607 It’s giving Peggy Bundy honey! 💀
@Liberty family That still costs time for her in which she cant work for money and pay her bills. So I understand why people charge family money for babysitting on a regular basis. You cant pay bills with love.
@@LipstickNWhiskey I am going to pay my mother to watch my kids because time she has to spend watching my kids is time she could spend making much more money elsewhere. She isn't charging I'm doing what's right.
@@justinenicole3926 ok? I mentioned nothing about that. I mentioned the plaintiffs hair. So what’s your point?
I had babysat my grandchildren for several of my daughters and I never charged them. I knew, from experience, how hard it is to raise a family on your own. I have wonderful memories with them and my daughters.
Must be nice 🙂. Some ppl like to show appreciation through money. Some mothers can’t afford to watch their grandchildren for free.
@Jax Jax Great for you your daughter and children that you were all able to manage that, like in the old days. Very enjoyable memories for all of you 😁🤗😊
Good for you but your daughter should have paid you. They used you for free child care . People with kids have the responsibility to pay and care for a child no excuses
If you had a working spouse, good for you because the money to cover the grandchildren's food etc would have came from granddad, provided you were a stay at home person. Personally if you wanted to look after your grandchildren for free that's up to you, but if you were on a pension, yes, your daughters are taking advantage of you by not paying.
@@elizagaskell7957 I agree
Even if the babysitter was paid, she was definitely severely underpaid. There's no possible way mom could afford private childcare working for $10/hour
I make more than twice than what she makes and feel like I barely make more than living paycheck to paycheck and I live in the Midwest. Idk how people live and have children and make it off of so little.
I agree, $250 a fortnight working full time is severely underpaid! The babysitter would be better off getting a job at subway herself!
I would feel sorry for mom but she’s a liar. She should’ve just been honest and said she couldn’t afford it
i notice something about these lazy a--- people , they hate watching their own kids but they expect other people to watch their kids for free because they think they are a good person now that they have a "job" and people should show them respect because they are being such a good mother because they are working and providing for "their" kids,lol
True working at Subway wouldn’t give her enough money to pay for child care.
@@christienelson1437 With so many places are hiring at around $20 an hour, why in the hell is she working at a damn Fast Food???
And the grandmother is a POS for requiring to be paid to babysit her own grandchildren knowing her daughter was just scraping by.
@@rogersmith7808 I have seen a lot of Grandparents run ragged by their children trying to care for their grandchildren. They end up paying for everything, have no privacy, property damage and have the children 24/7. People take advantage of the situation and the Grandparents and Grandkids suffer as a result.
JJ decision was right in this case. However, I do feel sorry for the defendant. I think she struggles a bit and is ashamed to admit it. It's a tragedy :'( I hope she is doing well now.
What's "tagity"?
So refreshing to read a compassionate comment. Thank you for that ❤️
Sorry but I don't really feel that sorry for her. she wanted to have kids. The smart thing to do was to wait until she was stable enough
@@NadrianATRS That has nothing to do with what I just said ...
That plaintiff is guilty beyond any doubt of having a bad hair doo. 😆
Ten dollars an hour... Oh dear... How to survive...
It would help not to have kids until you're financially able...
@@SVIIVII
You make a great point, however, it is unrealistic. If most people waited until they were financially able before having children many of us would have not been born...
@@pianissimoforte4576 Exactly. Being born into poverty sucks.
@@nikkilynn4000
Many babies are conceived during a couple's lowest moments in life, notwithstanding being impoverished...
@@pianissimoforte4576 And would you say that makes their lives easier or harder?
You should want your children to have the best. There's plenty of different kinds of birth control options to prevent it from happening.
I don't believe that she paid her mother to watch her children. Ten dollars an hour is pretty low wages for a single parent and her mother was helping her out.
@CinCin l don't think JJ believed her either.😊She laughed out loud when she said that😂 lol.😆
@@MC-in8mc I had to rewatch it to see that JJ giggle. Thanks for pointing that out!
Her mother wasn't helping her out. That woman agreed to pay her mom out of pocket to watch the kids vecause the hours are those of a full time job. 😑
I don’t believe the babysitter didn’t get paid at all. She looks like a dishonest sort. 😏😏
May be because am Asian I can't process the fact that the people in the western nation charges to take care of their own grand children 🙄 Here in my opinion if the Grandma is spending time to take care of her grand children then the mother should take care of the Grandma's needs.. they should come to a middle ground.. where is the compassion, relationship feeling if people start to treat their family relation as a job.
OMG my ex wife is Asian from Singapore and that is exactly how her family was they took care of each other
I am not asian. My sister watches her grandchildren for free
Grandama's needs aren't going to be met by someone earning $10. an hour. What happens when grandma has a full time job and a life of her own?
It's not normal for a grandmother to be paid. It's a blessing to be with my grandchildren 🥰
It’s not an Asian thing imo. It’s common for grandparents to watch their grandkids for free just cuz of the fact that it’s family. It’s definitely odd to see family charge each other for babysitting but it depends on how people see it. I’ve known/heard of very cheap and greedy people who charged fees for little “favors”
If your own mother charge you that much to watch her grandkids, you might as well take them to a home daycare provider.
I started to feel bad for the mother because I somewhat believed her story, but then I remember the TV show pays the judgement and I don't feel bad anymore!
She has to pay the court back though it anit all easy
@@missantonia14goldsby oh they have to pay it back? 😳
@@missantonia14goldsby ohh really??
YALL think this is free 🤣🤣 no she has to pay it back
@@8213apice no they don’t, that’s the catch of the show, the monies awarded are paid by the network. But in exchange you get humiliated by Judge Judy I front of millions of people.
My mom has never charged us kids to watch her grandkids 😒.. she's wrong for not paying that girl but had no problem paying her mom.. which I don't believe for a second..
It just seems odd to me that the woman would keep babysitting, for months even, if she hadn't been paid anything at all. Huh? The girl may have paid her a few times, but she didn't record it. I guess the moral of the story could be "trust nobody-get proof every time."
Grew up with a parent as a judge. If you're ever going to court it helps you so much to 1. dress appropriately and 2. ALWAYS answer with yes, no, etc. your honor. This stuff just shows respect.
It bothers me when people say "yeap" to Judge Judy. How do they NOT know after this show's been on the air for decades to answer her questions formally. Judge Judy wants you to sit up straight, make eye contact, no "um's, basically, hearsay, talking to the other party, approaching the bench, lying, telling long winded stories - get straight to the point!," and always tell the truth - she knows if you're lying!
Young people need to learn logic. If you’re giving or paying someone cash, even if it’s _under the table,_ still *retain proof* that you gave your money away!
The state makes it abundantly clear that it will not pay for any services rendered unless and until a criminal background check, TB screening, and CPR training and certification have been obtained. The caregiver must pay for these out of pocket, and is partially reimbursed after s/he has been on the job for a certain period of time. Under no circumstances will the state pay retroactively for services rendered prior to certification.
I didn’t have to take a cpr class to be paid
It sounded as though the defendant wanted the plaintiff to get CPR certification so that the state would pay, instead of her, so she didn't pay her while waiting for that to happen. But when the plaintiff refused it made the defendant responsible for paying.
@@stonew1927 she could’ve look for a facility or another registered caregiver to watch the children that already took government payments meaning they were licensed and certified
I didn't have to be certified either
@@tawainagaither9586 it probably depends on the state. Some are more strict.
I have never seen a defendant cry. Wow.
I believe the mom gave (if not paid) the sitter for her time. She might have been crying because she realised she didn't have proof. The sitter doesn't look kind at all
@@jaeldartey1380 agreed
@@jaeldartey1380 Which is why when you pay, you demand a signed receipt in return. No money should exchange hands untl then.
As it SHOULD BE!
Babies are expensive!
“If you can’t afford babies then you probably shouldn’t HAVE THEM!”- JJ
You can't close the barn door after the cows get out. Besides, the fact that the defendant is a single mother has nothing to do with the case she didn't pay the plaintiff for looking after her kids.
@@123451248ify
Hence EXACTLY, WHY my statement is both perfect & applicable! People play house ALL the time…even I played house! When the honeymooon’s over & it’s time for the real work, guess who’s left holding the bag 9 times out of 10? Luckily, we never got that far! Although kids shouldn’t be made to think it’s a mistake that they were brought in to the world, & TRULY it’s not their fault, once they’re here, THEY’RE, HERE! And, they ain’t cheap, starting w/diapers & FORMULA! Now the lady was GODLY BLESSED w/a SAFE HAVEN whereby which she can leave her kids & have rest of mind to do things she needs to do, but she thinks that both the cow & milk are FREE!?!? (no pun intended….the babysitter’s BEYOND an angel! And way undervalued! $250/2 weeks is awesomely cheap! YIKES!!!!😳)
The babysitter s hair is gorgeous. Glad she finally got paid
Grandma charges to watch her grandchildren😂😂🤣
Say it with me family DOESN'T equal free childcare. An emergency situation once ok. Or if the person agreed and is financially stable ok. But not if $250 means that that person doesn't go hungry, loses a roof over their heads and bills aren't paid. Not everyone is financially blessed
But it does. Either yes or no but it should always be free. I watched my niece and baby cousins for free. I watch my best friend child for free. It's called love. I want them to do better and I want the kids to be safe so I'll keep the kids. Kids are a blessing and are funny
@@missindependent4711 I don't think you understand. This is about watching kids *full time*. You can't have a job if you do that. If someone asked you to quit your job to watch over their kids, and they weren't going to pay you for it, would you say yes? I don't think so. It's the same reason parents need others to watch over their kids in the first place. In an ideal society, there'd be some way to get around it. Child-care would be free, somehow. Our society, unfortunately, is not ideal.
I watched my 2 nephews all the time. Considered it an opportunity to spend time with them. It was a blast. I got much more enjoyment from it than a paycheck would give.
The babysitter pulled a scandalous move on the young mom. Quietly accepting cash and grocery for babysitting knowing the mom didn’t keep records of this payment. Took the young mom to court and awarded more cash. That’s why the young mom cried. Some people act friendly in the beginning but for there own selfish gain will not hesitate to destroy your life. You gotta carefully pick and choose who to trust.
If she did paid her she would've put that on her answer. She didn't that's why Judge Judy didn't believe her. If someone sues you for non-payment and in your sworn statement you don't make any statement that you really paid it's because you didn't pay. That's why Judge Judy is the best because she is a truth machine.
@@lomelyo Judges are not about the truth. They work for justice meaning based on evidence, the winning party with more convincing evidence wins.
Anyhow, I also believe in truth that the young mom was robbed for being young and naive. She will be more careful in the future for the majority of the legal system doesn’t care if you’re a victim or criminal, only if you have convincing proof. Hope the young mom learns and things work out better for her and her family.
Right. I think that plaintiff was lying.
Well the mom fault even she pay her she has no proof.
I feel sorry for the mum here trying too make a living on $10 an hour 😢
Exactly why we need livable wages because who the hell can survive off of $10/hour and probably no benefits. It’s truly disturbing.
matt call
I agree. she seems so sad. working for 10 dollars an hour. and not an easy job. and her own mother charging her for looking after her own grandchildren.
Not all jobs are meant for you to raise a family on. You truly have to understand that. The job pays on skill/difficulty/need, not because you have a family.
Unless she was raped. She chose to have kids. Deal with the consequences of your choice.
She should have never had kids in the first place.
Several years ago I had a friend who was a single mother (divorced) to three small children, who would want to, occasionally, go out on a date with someone, trying to find a new husband, and I would agree and not charge her anything because I knew she needed the time away from the children, she only got welfare and a small amount of child support (although I doubted her first ex paid anything at all) to feed and house them, she was a very dear friend and had helped me out when I needed it a few times, and the children were well behaved and I loved them as if they were my own. Also, I'm a giving person. Also, it was only for a few hours at a time, and very rarely did it happen, so it didn't feel right to charge anything. All three of the children are grown adults now, but they all consider me to be an (adopted) uncle to them, although there is no blood relation.
@@Newbalance0311 : Pardon me, please, but a real what? I'm not sure if that's an attempted compliment or insult, as there are no clues such as voice inflection and tone.
That didn't sound nice coming from that person 😕. When my granddaughter's were babies I had them every weekend. I didn't charge my son to watch them, they are my flesh and blood. I'm the one that told him to bring them over on a Friday and my son pick them up Sunday evening. It was about spending time with my granddaughter's not as a babysitter. I enjoy looking for every weekend! I was also their learning tool throughout the years! Now they are teenagers and how I wish I could turn back the hands of the clock. I would do it in a heart beat! My first granddaughter is in college to become a Nurse, cause I'm retired RN. My 2nd granddaughter I taught her how to draw and she in college for fashion designer and home decoration designer. I read your comment and I think you are a wonderful person for caring for your friend, that was so nice of you to do that. Now days single mothers are Struggling to find reasonable child care on minimum wage and try to feed and keep a roof over their heads. If my health was better, I would help out a single mom, just because I'm a caring person and love children. You have a bless day!
@@jacklow9611 it's a compliment.
@@HelTra91: Okay. Thank you for clarifying that. It is appreciated.
If you want to help out then great. Thats a good deed done and Im sure you got much enjoyment from that. I know I did with my 2 nephews. But that wasnt the deal this woman had. She clearly expected to get paid.
$10 an hour with two small children. I honestly do not know how she and those babies survive.
Government benefits in addition to wages. WIC, food stamps, and Medicaid. She doesn't have to worry about food and medical. Is it hard? Yes. Have I been there? Yes, but I used it as a hand up and did not remain there. Some folks live like that indefinitely due to a variety of reasons....lack of motivation, skill, or opportunity among them.
Especially with a mother who charges you to watch her own grandchildren!
The state most likely is paying for child care services thus the CPR requirement not met.
Key thing, if you hand someone cash, ALWAYS get a hand written receipt, ALWAYS.
When the tears start I know they're lying
Suing $1,086 for 60 hours of babysitting... that's $18.1/hour
Single mom works at Subways and makes $10 an hour. What went wrong was that she didn't set an amount on pay and pays more what she earns cause the sitter randomly came up with a number. Stay in school kids and learn your basic math.....
No, what really went wrong is that she did not present proof. The burden of Proof. Never go to court with a story...
@@scsg11 yea, I think she did pay her. She just didn’t have proof.
She worked part time for the first month, then full time for two months. Fulltime is 40 hours a week. She is getting paid $250 every two weeks for fulltime work. The babysitter and Grandma are getting $3.12/hr to watch two kids. I hope they have another source of income.
I somehow feel bad for both of them. Being a single mom is so hard. We don’t know how she got in that predicament. I’m a single mom and it is very tough. You really can’t work because what this poor lady was making went to child care. Then of course the sitter needed to be paid for her bills.
@Hannah R wow you are judgemental much. I was married I did the right things. They are not mistakes ever. No comment more because you are not worth my time
I can't believe her mother would charge her money to look after her own grandkids though.. in asia, all grandparents help out with grandkids, pick them up from school, look after them etc.. that part is a little crazy
When I was broke and alone the last thing I would have wanted is a baby but women seem to think it's a great idea to have babies alone with zero job skills. My problems aren't others problems so why are other people's problems mine?
@@mikez650 I wish your mom thought that, so i wouldn't have to read your comment.
We know exactly how she got in that predicament. Pro tip: If you can't make ends meet, don't have kids.
My wife watched a few children over a 5-6 year period and it was a hassle trying to collect from about half the people. They'd say I paid you last week when I was paid when I didn't accept that, it'd go to let me check my records as f they had any. The good people stay the others didn't stay long. Glad she quit it decades ago.
I run a small kindergarten and people like that come often. Usually they put hold for 3-4 days and leave when we ask for the money. Other wouldn’t pay their kids’ final month and would just turn off their phone when we call.
It really harms the business.
It’s a shame because we do believe in karma in Asia. And usually the kids will be the ones who get karma from their parents’ do
@@suicao4980 You need to get the money up front for a business, as you'll have to pay your suppliers up front too. You need to be buisness-like if you're running a business...jus sayin😉
@@MC-in8mc it is clear fact. Yet I would ask you to kick the kid out or refuse to accept the kid when their parents fail to pay on time. They prey on your moral as a teacher sadly
She absolutely did pay her something. The babysitter is a liar and probably got partial payment but is suing to get it all - she looks like the type.
"She looks like the type" is not evidence. If you pay somebody, get any kind of receipt and have them sign it. The very fact that they know you have that will mean they won't try anything.
What is your evidence that she paid her something and that the babysitter is a liar? Are you just going on gut instinct? That’s not the way the law works, or anything in life for that matter.
I don’t think it’s “wrong” to charge a relative to watch their kids. People often become grandparents in their 40s when most of us are still working a job. My paternal grandma kept me without charging my parents however she still had teen children living in her house so she wasn’t having to buy food for me that she wouldn’t normally buy. And my teenage aunts also helped with me so my grandma wasn’t having to not go to work to keep me. On the other hand my maternal grandparents watched me and my cousins no charge but my grandma was a housewife while my grandfather paid all the bills. But not every grandparent has money to pay bills and not work to keep kids. I would hope if they charge it would be much less but let’s not demonize them. ✌🏽
Most ppl expect relatives to provide free child care which is wrong. It really grinds my gears. If you have kids, take care of them! And if your family wants to help then be grateful.
It disgusted me that I have a Co-Worker that is 29 years old who is a Grandma.
I agree, if you have to pay an inexperienced 13-year-old to watch your child, you should toss your family a couple bucks. If you watch the kids Mon-Fri, 9-5, it's a job and it's going to cost you to watch them.
I agree, I've spent a lot of time watching my younger cousins, and my nephew while they were growing up and it was always understood I'd be paid at least something, because we all have mutual respect for eachother and eachother's time. I'm not talking like the going childcare rate, but you know what I mean.
@@bkmartinez123 my mother in law won't take care of my son even after offering to pay. She initially said no because she wanted to work and earn, so we offered to pay her and she still said no, later she wanted to start a small business so she can work at her own time, so we offered to help her financially and also helped her setup her business, in return she agreed to take care of my son for 4-5 hrs a day.
But after everything was settled she didn't keep her promise. And also kept the money. She returned it after a year.
And after that when we stopped approaching her, she shut down the business and now lives her life like a young single.
Some people are lucky to have supporting parents. Some not so lucky.
That's some heartless grandma.
The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. True saying. Even if her mother gave up a job to take care of her grandchildren (perhaps she needs the money), the plaintiff wasn't working for fun. By the way, has grandma had the training demanded of the babysitter? Just asking.
Not necessarily heartless. Maybe her mom has her own bills and is keeping her grandchildren instead of working another job to earn money.
grandmas getting paid by the state... bet on that.
@@mrbombastic2485 yep if u listen closely thats what the CPR classes were for! So the state would pay for the babysitter and not the mom!
People in these comments seem to believe that women get pregnant all by themselves.
If the dad doesn't have money he's irrelevant to the outcome. If he's dead, in prison, broke, a deadbeat or she doesnt know who the father is so no father's name on the birth certificate then it's pointless bringing up the father.
Oh boy! Here comes the 🐊 😭! When it looks like she’s losing, she busted out the sympathy cry. Pay the lady!
I wonder if she made her mother do CPR course in order to watch kids?
As much as I'd want anyone caring for children to know CPR, it was REQUIRED to get childcare assistance by the state.
The parent wasn't requesting it.
see the difference?
Here in the Philippines some grandparents would volunteer to babysit their grandchildren without receiving money from their children as a compensations for the babysit.That is the way of showing love to their children.Lucky to those grandparents who have children who knows to payback the effort/help given by their parents.
I can't help but feel sad for the Mom. I understand the babysitter must be paid but when u have small children & u must work it feels like the world has u over a barrel. It gets better.
How about don't have kids if you can't afford to care for it.
@@terriesmith2616 you sound like Mr Eugenics, Bill Gates
@@El_Nombre-e3x no Terrie Smith has a point. If you can't care for a child why have one? Adoption, abortion, familial help,...etc many options. Why take the option where they can starve to death or be in a terrible home inviorment ? That's just stupid and narcissistic.
@@terriesmith2616 heres an idea dont assume you know the situation of what lead her to be a single mom
She didnt abort it a x take the easy way out. Maybe she made mistakes but shes clearly trying and deserves respect for that.
So the defendant could afford to pay her mother out of pocket, but required the plaintiff to jump through hoops so that the state could pay her instead?!
There is just zero consistency to that woman's story. I bet from how the defendant describes the situation that she left the plaintiff with groceries and money for taking care of her kid, with the added statement that she could keep whatever was left over afterwards. Defendant considered that "payment", while the Plaintiff was here on planet earth with the rest of the world.
The grocery money probably all went for the kids. That plaintiff can’t pay her bills with groceries.
CPR classes are often free or very low cost.
@@EmmaofEngland but grandma wasn't required though. B*tch just wanted grandma to do it so the state can pay her mom. That wasn't the agreement. Just pay that old woman. 😑
Culture in America astounds me to think that a grandmother would get paid to look after her own grandchildren ...
Me being an Indian there's nothing more a grandparents wants but their grandchildren with them all the time
Financial conditions make it that way.
Grandma could be a widow and living alone and might have to pay her own bills that her daughter can't.
Elderly people don't have jobs.
Judge Judy Rock's may have a longer Life with good health to continue her good work 🙏❤
I would love to babysit my grandchildren for free. Her mom charged 250$ per week!!!
I would love to babysit my grandchildren for free and even more so for 250 $ per week. I'd use that to do fun activities with them 😅
Young and trusting is costly. Letting baby sitter, write a receipt/cash received in her own book is a mistake. Think JJ got it wrong here. This young lady has learnt a bitter lesson here.
Disagree. The mom herself filled in an answer card with no i did not pay her because she didn't get the cpr license. I think the mom wanted the grandma to get that license so she wouldn't be on the hook for the money anymore. The state would pay. But grandma didn't get the license. So that's the point. Grandma still has to get paid and now mom's on the hook for the costs
I pay my sister right away. They make bank. I pay my mom too. Pay people to ensure everyone is in good attitude and comfortable
We will never know the truth whether or not she was paid, the mother was quick with her answers and facts, im 50/50 on this one.
$10/hr?!! Oof 😞
That's good pay. You expect people can afford to pay someone else a full salary while trying to make a living for themselves? Do you have kids? I'm guessing not. Typically full time babysitters sit more than one child. So two kids is 20 an hour see how quick that happened
@@groowanderer good pay where?
@@sconex8072 anywhere. That's 80 a day, 400 a week, 1600 a month, 19,200 a year... I've never known ANYONE that pays that much. Typical full time sitter makes about 350-500 a month tops. Mind you, like I said they typically sit more than one kid a day. So to pay someone ten bucks an hour to babysit full time is absolutely a very very high price. You know people that can afford to pay a sitter 20 grand a year? No way, unless that person is making 120 grand a year at the least. And in that case, paying that much the kid better be learning something not just being watched.
Ikr. You want me to babysit your damn kids I'll expect at least 15$ an hour.
@@groowanderer if you can't afford to pay a babysitter then don't have damn kids. That simple.
I feel like it’s unfair to assume a friend would charge the same as someone’s mother. The plaintiff isn’t the defendants mother and doesn’t have any moral responsibility to babysit for her. As someone who has babysat many kids before, it is super exhausting to do full time for only $500/month!! Yes she is a single mom but that shouldn’t cause harm to the plaintiff. She should have continued to search for someone who would take the cpr course so the state could pay!
Those crocodile tears don't work with JJ..lol
I'll never charge to watch my grandchildren. If my kids are struggling to make ends meet and they are working hard at a job I would cut them some slack.
That lady was on the verge of tears in the most pathetic way bc she couldn’t get away with finessing that poor lady who watched her bad azz kids. Ugh! People are so irritating
She's probably used to crying whenever she was caught getting in trouble as a teen, which I'm sure happened a lot.
Bad azz kids?
Where is the father?
Or maybe because some people cry when stressed and going to court is stressful. I don't think she was trying to be manipulative
She knew JJ was on to her crap so she tried to play with JJ’s emotions.
I have noticed something about pathological liars : both here on JJ and the two or three I have worked with in my career. Whenever they are caught in a lie , and their double talk fails them? They start to cry , and deflect ….with yet another lie !
I would’ve started crying at 3:09 too. Judge Judy was scolding her w/ a bunch of questions which would’ve frightened me too 😢😅
The crying was just a drama display and manipulation tool. She knew she was wrong. JJ busted her wide open.
I did daycare for over a decade in my home, I provided all the meals, diapers, formula, everything. I finally had to come up with a legal binding contract because unfortunately the babysitter is the last person on the totem pole to receive their check!
People would come up with SOB stories why they couldn't pay me, but I had to tell them I became a single mother and this is how I raise my children and I did have to report one couple and I came out ahead. So people that think they can rip off their babysitters shame on you!
That hair and blazer!! She is stuck in 1993
Sounds like that young lady needs to go after the father of that child for support .
I felt $250 every two weeks is too much money for someone who makes minimum wage.
Most daycares charge $260/week.
Well she didn't have to take her children there!
I have to pay $2000 a month. Plus we had to pay to be on multiple daycare waitlists for months
don't have kid if you can't afford it
@@darkclouddc634 Life happens
It's funny how parents can always afford hair and nail salons, cigarettes, weed, alcohol and cellphones but can never seem to produce money for the real necessities in life...🤔
3:09 i love how the camera starts slowly zooming in when she starts crying so they can exploit her emotions for ratings LOL
Judge Judy has the ability to see right through that. When the litigants have a genuine reason to be upset, Judge Judy usually acts with compassion, especially when the case is about a sensitive topic.
@@UKImmigrationLawGeek im not talking about judy though. The show wants reactions like this. They draw more viewers when people cry or flip out etc.. so in this case u can see the cam start to zoom in as soon as she starts crying cuz they wanted to focus on it in an attempt to garner the attention of more viewers.
Well of course, it's a TV show and the litigants even know that drama sells.
What's up with Yep and Nope in front of a judge? 🤨
Her mother CHARGED HER for watching her own grandchildren??
Well it's not like she charged her for a womb rental fee with interest. Let's not get carried away. There's nothing wrong with a grandparent getting paid for doing work they would have to pay someone to do regardless. Grandparent doesn't mean free babysitter.
Why aren’t you complaining about the father of the kids not helping????
@@dianaevans6725 so who is the father and where is he? He's not mentioned so he's not relevant to the outcome. If he was then he'd be next to the mom and also on the hook for the money. Maybe he's dead, in prison, a deadbeat, broke or there is no dad mentioned because mom doesn't know who the dad is. Either way he's not relevant if he was one of the examples
$10.00 per hour. ? I'm an Australian and that is less money than a paperboy here gets paid. That is disgraceful. No wonder people can't afford to pay babysitters or eat properly because your grocery prices are not that much cheaper than ours.
Subway is a job for a high schooler… not a single mother trying to support a family 🙄🙄
Single mothers are the WORST when it comes to trust.
There are SO many people who cheat their babysitters!! My college professor asked me to babysit. He and his wife had the sweetest 2 y.o boy. Once, they left to attend a wedding around 3 pm on a Saturday and never returned. I was frantic when they were 3 hours late. Finally, they called and asked me to stay overnight. They didn't return until 7 pm on Sunday. When he dropped me off at home, he handed me 20 bucks!! That was over 20 years ago, but still. They were terrible people!! That was it for me! I stopped babysitting after that.
Who in the world charges their daughter for babysitting??!
Omg when she started crying and the camera cut to the plaintiff and her nonchalant expression, I LOST IT! 😂😂😂😂 Obvious crocodile tears! You still have to pay someone for their services sweetie.
Wait wait.. Did I see that right.. Did this girl REALLY come to court in PINK OLD NAVY FLIP FLOPS. I mean damn I know you're only making $10/HR but walmart has more appropiate court shoes for close to nothing.
Your heart is missing
I was too distracted by the black hair extensions under her blonde hair to notice so I will have to take your word for it, lol.
@@El_Nombre-e3x So is your sense of humor.
And she's got a point.
Who cares…ITS NOT A REAL COURT. When will you people learn this? Yes Judge Judy is a fun show but it’s just entertainment. It is NOT a court of law.
@@sconex8072 lmfao who hurt you?
$10 and hour? That’s terrible! That’s £8.30 here. Way below our minimum wage by law here. Shocking!
$10/hour every two weeks. Ouch.
Good Judgement
$250 every 2 weeks is outrageous
That is $3.125 an hour.
For two kids
To the Plaintiff Cry me a friggin river.
Daycare $900 month!!!
Mom do NOT babysit for a month. Let Entitled daughter pay $900 at daycare..bet SHE will appreciate YOU then.
I really have doubts that Ms Wall would babysit without pay during weeks 5, 6, 7… Why wasn’t the CPR class issue handled in advance?
Never change your statement you will be deemed a liar to judy
I kind of believed the mother in this one.Why would she make up the fact about the women having a notebook/ledger that she keep as record of pay?
Ppl lie all the time not to pay. That’s easy
I believe her and I wouldn't be surprised if JJ believed it too, but the defendant really screwed herself leaving all the money and the proof of payment in the plaintiff's hands. This show has taught me not to pay humans payments in cash lol.
If there is no proof it doesn’t exist.
The mom has to prove this book is real. But she can’t. This is why she has to keep records
My mother would never take money from me to babysit
I don't charge my daughters for babysitting either, it's just not right.
I really feel for this struggling woman. fix this horrible system that works against working class people. And then she just gets berated by JJ on top of it
The system didn’t tell her to have children she couldn’t afford. I highly doubt she would have worked at subway for free.
Go after the kids FATHER!!
@@dianaevans6725 no, no.. it can’t be the parents fault or responsibility ..it’s the “system”.
@@toosense I agree with you but you shouldn't have to make hundreds of thousands of dollars a year to have a family. Only a small percentage of people should have a family? Thats a sad point-of-view.
@@brandiphillips5775 No one said you have to make hundreds of thousands a year to have a family. But no one said min wage is meant to raise a family on either.
I had to check what year this was because subway paid her $10/hour!!?? 🤢 sickening
The plaintiff needs to get her money back from the hairdresser
😆 🤣 😂 😹 😆
Cheap and nasty.
Just goes to show that you've got to keep a record when it comes to these things.
Boy these ppl age bad af😫
So many look decades older- Strange
@@dinahbrown902 right lol
They do
Homegurl needs to do something with those bangs. 😂
The thing is the mum needed government assistance to pay for childcare and was not able to claim it after all because the woman was not qualified and it sounds like she agreed to get the qualifications when they planned the arrangement? . The mum should have found another qualified carer instead so she could claim the assistance.
Did her mother take CPR classes 😒 Exactly!!!
I miss to see Byrd in court ...
Why would she continue to babysit and not get paid as she claims she must have gotten something, or why else would she keep working for her? Something doesn't sound right in this case. I believe the defendant gave her some money.
This is the first I’m hearing a mother charging her daughter money to babysit her grandchildren
Why wouldnt the grandmother be paid to watch the kids full time??
Plus the mom is on welfare so the state is paying for the “daycare”
The grandma is getting paid, but not by the daughter
"Guess what. I'm not getting paid for my job"
"No way! You gonna quit until they pay you?"
"No I'm gonna keep working and just hope they get around to it'
"OK?"
Wow classless grandmother. Didn't know how blessed I was until I watched this. My mom watches my kids for free and she provide food for them. My grandmother was the same. I could not imagine taking money from my already struggling child... The grandmother must be on drugs.
Or she can be struggling financially. It's nice that your family members are financially stable but not everyone is, if keeping the children means the grandma won't be able to work for the money she needs, then yes, she is right to charge. How's grandma supposed to pay her own bills?
@@neisci she should've done better but taking you child to court when she is already financially struggling is wrong. Does she want her grandkids to go hungry because their grandma is a terrible person.
@@missindependent4711 that's not her mother that's the babysitter.
@@neisci your right.
@@jsmith-u5i lol my grandmother watched us for free. What grandmother charges to spend time with their grandchildren. A classless one. Most grandparents love spending time with their grandkids and vice-versa. I've never met a grandparent that does not enjoy spending time with their grandkids. The grandparents that don't are broke and mostly live in the projects.
What is it with parents feeling entitled to having grandparents take care of THEIR OWN children for free?
Did you ask your mom/dad for permission before making that child? No! Now you expect them to take care of the kid that YOU made.
Your parents are done raising kids, it's not their responsibility to continue taking care of more just because YOU decided to have some on your own.
I say this as someone with a new born. I would NEVER expect my mom to HAVE to take care of her just because she's grandma.
My mom loves the baby and would gladly take care of her all day every day, but it's not her responsibility to do so.
If you would let you're parents babysit your child for 40 hours a week and you don't pay them a cent, you're selfish and entitled and a ungrateful.