I’ve never been married but don’t want kids but live in Mn which a lot of people live here cause it’s a good place to raise a family but I was raised here. So it’s hard to find guys that don’t have a child in their 40s. The guy I’m with has kids but they’re all grown.
In Toronto, the average woman is in her mid to late 30's when she had kids. When I had married and had 3 kids in my 20's, people acted like I was a teenager. No regrets, we had a lot of fun. Our third child died of cancer at 12 years old and at 41 years old, my husband and I are expecting our 4th child. It's funny to be starting over again. The expectation seems to be you lose a pre-teen or teenager and that's it. Your parenting years are over. When people realize I'm pregnant and already know about our loss, it seems to throw people off. We were done at 3 and happy with our 3. We're not ready to be done being parents yet. I've always worked for an airline and loved taking my kids everywhere and showing them as much of the world as I can and I'm not done with that yet. I can't say I felt restricted as a parent in my 20's. My parents travelled a lot when I was growing up and it drove me to make sure that I could travel with my kids a lot. I've never thought that everyone should have kids or that there is a right age to have kids. My parents had a couple of us in their early 20's and a couple of us in their late 30's. The right time is IF you want to and when you can afford to.
I got married at 37, had my first baby at 38 and second at 40. I knew myself, had a wonderful, full, established life, and waited until the right man came along. Best decision of my life!
Its bad age to have kids, much harder for your kids down the road, by 30 they are already worried about their parents health, many reasons to not have kids at that kind of age
@@danykonyohov3418 many people's parents die before they turn 30. Many people's parents go through health issues and their children worry. That's life.
@@danykonyohov3418agree and I am a childfree female in my late 30s. My mom had me at 26 so I had a lot of time with my grandparents and my parents had time to saving after I was financially independent at 21 for their own retirement. It doesn't have to be before 30 but waiting after 37 for women and 40 for men increases risks of health issues for the child and mother.
I am about to turn 39, single no kids, and let me tell you the pressure is on me , all my sister have grown kids, my friends same, I feel sometimes a failure, and even when I haven't had the urge to become a parent is mostly about feeling different and scared of wanting kids when I am no longer fertile, Is always inspiring to know this is a relatable issue and when woman after 40 find love and live a happy life.
@@brendacastillo8146 If you succumb to the pressure you are going to eff it up and end up with someone wrong for you. I waited for the right one because,even though i wanted to be a mom,i had no interest in marriage. It all came together when i was 33. Got married and had my kids at 35 and 38 years old. When you least expect it is when it will happen. If it's meant to be,it will.
🥺 needed to hear this today. At 34, no prospects for family, and everyone around me starting theirs or well established already, it's been hard to believe it could happen past this point. This is an important conversation. Thank you 💜
Hey, turning 34 next week and same here. Yes, it's good to hear that it's possible and can happen later on in life. It's hard not to get discouraged though :/ I'm becoming more cynical as time goes by and I definitely want to change that
I am in tears. I am 36, I have been so anxious. Thinking am late. I honestly was never ready. Now am ready, emotionally, physically and financially and finding posts all over TH-cam saying am late. I am about to hit the wall. Then I find such beautiful stories. The man am inlove with is 2 years younger. That's a story for another day. This story blew hope into my lungs.😻
Yup, it’s important to have these convo. I won’t be surprised Julianas kid is either through IVF or a surrogate. Besides, she mentioned herself picking wrong people. So, I’m happy that she met someone at 41. But, for many of us our clock stops at 29.
I got married at 34 almost 35 and afrer a miscarriage i had my baby at 35. Dont lose hope. It just takes more time for some people. I always wanted a family but i couldnt meet my husband in my 20s. Simple as that. Life is different for everybody. Until your 40s there is always a chance for pregnancy, even though it can be harder to conceive. If not science can help you. It wont be the end of the world. Remind yourself there is always a way if this is really what you want
My husband is also 6 yrs younger, and we got married when I was in my mid thirties, and we didn't have our son till I was 40. I relate so much to this. All of this.
I had my only daughter at 40. My husband was 40 as well. I’m from the south and I live in Alaska now. All of my friends are grandparents now. We didn’t wait by choice, I had some fertility issues. My pregnancy was considered a geriatric pregnancy. My daughter is happy and healthy so life is good.
Yeah geriatric lol sexism is alive and well.. this is about the one billionth Lie society has told 😂 Doesn’t matter because more and more women will be increasingly having their first kid in their 40s. times have changed and will continue to change
as someone who’s 37 with no children and not sure i ever want them actually ,; it was really nice to hear this talk. it’s so refreshing to hear that life is not over at 40 and that also it’s okay if you don’t feel the constant desire to be a mother. some of us enjoy our freedom, and that’s okay to say. (it doesn’t shame those that do have children, but it makes it okay to choose)
I'm 37 too! I've been having feelings of having kids and getting married. I never wanted those things until I met someone who wanted them. I don't think we are working out though, but after him I hope to find someone
I agree, it's about the right to choose. Some women want marriage and/or children when they're younger, some women want to wait until they're more established and with the right man, abd women don't want marriage and or kids at all. To each their own!
@@janedo-re-mi2738absolutely well said!! Everyone has their own unique journey and desires. It's about supporting women's right to choose what's best for her and not shaming. Too many people judge and try to impose what women should be doing and then making them feel not enough if they don't or haven't by a certain age.
I love how Kelly is so genuine and this question coming from someone else may come off as rude, but Kelly is so real that you know is asking because she is genuinely curious and happy to show there are different ways to live your life.
We have to change the double standards society has about age. As a single woman over 40 your made to feel like something is wrong with you, yet no one bats an eye at men that age or older that remain bachelors.
@@ever7672 Marriage simply isn't for everybody, just like having children isn't for everyone. However, I've observed many 40+ year old bachelor men either suffer from Peter Pan Syndrome, or they're serial daters out looking 4 the prefect woman
Very true. We, women get a lot of heads and perceptions. People sometimes forget that every individual has different needs and wants. I always praise my friends with kids. I wish they would reach out sometimes.
Amen preach sis 🙌 👏. And the majority of people judging and preaching how you should live your life are miserable!! Women should do what's best for them and not to please others.
Life is easy with him. That just makes sense. My divorce was predetermined bc the relationship was so dramatic with all the toxic behavior- def not easy.
What a great example of two incredible women in the industry who you can look up too and be in awe of. Julianne has be inspiring me since ER and I've been supporting what she does after that. I'm so blessed to have something to watch that will still inspire me today. And Kelly's songs that she has done have been my fight songs to becoming a woman to take seriously so thankyou for that. Thankyou for letting us be a part of your world. Thakyou for reading this peeps and always remember to stay humble and kind. 😊😊❤❤
I love Julliana and watch reruns every night of The Good Wife on Start TV at 12 midnight. She is one of the best actresses out there and Im just hoping she will get another series on the books real soon.
I’m 39 and I was just asked by idiotic man why if I’m such a good woman, why am I not married? Well, I am a good woman of God and I also did not have a good example of a man, having an abusive dad. I was busy attracting the wrong man and pursuing a Doctorate and career. As this woman said, through my healing journey, I was not ready before now! I am proud to be who I am and what woman I turned out to be. If God’s will it will be, I’m letting it go for now because I refuse to feel powerless.
My mom was getting ready to turn 30 and my dad was 47 when I was born and for the first 20 years of my life I had the benefit of having at least one parent I could count on to be around for a real long span of my life. And then cancer decided to take my mom away from us as she died within a month of her 50th birthday. So I still have my dad obviously and I realized I needed to create as many memories as I could and not waste a single second of whatever time my siblings and I have left with him cause tomorrow is not guaranteed
bottom line for me is, we should try our hardest to listen to what WE want, not what society defines as the "norm." you don't want kids? perfectly fine! you're going to be a single mom? totally fine too!!!
It’s so painful to watch when an interviewer talks forever with their question as though they are more interested in saying something instead of asking something.
Omg totally!! So annoying when she said that she got married/pregnant at 31 and thought she had a full life at that point and couldn't understand why Julianna waited so long. Wth!!
@@fithrianalestari7569 Yep I was actually like wtf? You were TEN years younger, how is that the same thing. Sure a few years, I get it but not a decade like. She is always waaaay too desperate to find something in common with her interviewee. A skilled interviewer doesn't need to do that, they just let the person being interviewed be heard while asking the questions that really open them up or help us learn more about them.
@@fithrianalestari7569 TBF I think that she was asking the question that the audience would've asked. However, it still did spring from her own experience. She IS very chatty, overly so for me, but I she's considered likeable and relatable, so any skills she lacks as an interviewer don't really matter.
Age is just a number. You have to do what feels right for yourself, and shut out the noise. Also, I don't believe there is a 'right' person - what does that even mean, and it's vague too. It's more about the right time in your life, and that right time can come to us at different phases of our lives. Ultimately live your life for you, and stand by your choices, and don't let others dictate to you how you should/shouldn't live your life. You do you, I do me!
I totally stand for what Julianna is saying about mature women waiting to decide if they want marriage and children, there should be no shame in young women wanting to marry early and have a family while they are young. 40 isn’t over, it’s just beginning when we know more about what we want and who we are. But that shouldn’t negate the experiences of young women of 20 knowing who they are and what they went. There are many things I wish I could’ve done, but I have NEVER regretted having my children nor did I blaming them for my “missing out” on something. Many young couples go on to have long strong marriages. And many mature adults keep making the same mistakes with a mate or partner and switch them out like new outfits. People grow and learn new things about who they are at any stage. How they handle them and incorporate them into their current situation is key. Let’s be supportive of ALL women of all ages.
Right and that’s what they’re saying. It’s about what’s right for you and not about how old you are. It’s just that society tends to do this more to older women yet the divorce rates are high for people who marry younger than that. Of course there are couples who have been together since high school and still going strong as well - you can find that in all age groups
I'm going to be single for life. I thought I wanted a family and wanted a husband. No, it's tough out there with like millions of people. Also, the stress that comes with it. I love children, but having one yourself is not for everybody. From where I'm from, divorce is at a high rate and people are scared. That's what I think.
Juliana shares my birthday geminis r tough when it comed to commitment tend to delay marriage but i fully believe its worth waiting for the right person plus divorce rates r much lower when marriage is delayed
So true like being in your 20-49s in the 2000-2010 is really not what it has been all the decades before and why are many people only taking serious by sociteiy after having a stable job and a ring on their fingers ?
I wish this interview and story had been as viral as those clips of "alpha male podcasts" saying women hit the wall after age 30 and are no longer able to get married or have children.
I turn 40 in five months, just got out of a toxic relationship and focusing on GOD and myself. To me, it'll happen if and when it's supposed to happen.
@@s.elizabeth1753 You have to remember who you was before him! Also its normal to feel confused and miss him ..however don't forget how he treated you.
It is in society's best interest to help females grow up and feel like FREE individuals and urge people of both sexes to marry for the RIGHT reasons. I can totally understand what Julianna says, that she had to get rid of the narrative that she was born into and raised with, as to how a marriage feels like and is and more importantly ,especially women, cause they are the driving force of a family, they need to find themselves first, before they decide to raise a child. Of course, people who are not kind hearted, hence really mentally sick imo, will always rush to a marriage with the wrong spouse, because of desperation, because they want to show off to the others, 'look at me I am the first one to get married from our group of friends' and they will make you feel like garbage, because you chose to do things the hard but right way and you waited until you were sane enough to find a decent human being or you chose to have a family on your own , instead of marrying a man you loathe or are not in love with, so that you can have sby to pay your bills and your kid or kids have a father , one however that you , the mom , do not love or even like. The important thing is to be raised by a loving parent or parents.And good people can be loving parents. Bad people cannot.
I wholeheartedly agree with the entirety of this statement. I've known people that married simply to be first or to make a public statement that they were wanted by someone. Insecurity is an enormous driving force into marriage for some people. I have always felt quite secure on my own.
I love this, except for the blurb in the description about "society tells women life is over after 40..." but does it though? 🤔 The narrative alone annoys me..can't we also normalise Julianna's experience as a path many women are choosing these days as opposed to making it seem so rare? I really dont think it is..
After I got married at 36 we tried to have a baby at 37 and it never happened. I’m 4 years older. We never got our happy ending and I wish I could turn back time to have tried to have a baby sooner. It’s different for everyone. Words cannot express how crush and heart broken I am.
Sadly it doesn't work out for all women. I got married at 35 and I'm 37 now and haven't managed to concieve despite trying to over a year now. I'm also 6 years older than my husband.
Sometimes I feel like I’m ready to settle down .. sometimes I don’t . Sometimes I want to have another kid .. sometimes I feel I’m done . But I think I better figure it out soon. Freedom is amazing tho. Idk 🤷🏻♀️
Kelly: Why did you wait SO LATE? (judgement 🙄) The rest of the world: Why did you wait SO LATE? (more judgement) Her: (responding with more maturity& sophistication than Kelly 💪🏽😊)
I think a conversation about egg freezing should be had with girls at a young age so they're aware that it's ok to live life and still have the option to reproduce later in life. I thought about freezing my eggs at age 35 (I was kinda old, would have been better to do it B4 I was 25 to get better egg quality) I ended up not doing it. I've never really wanted kids anyways but for some reason, now that I'm almost 42 I kinda wish I did have some "eggs in the freezer" just in case I end up changing my mind when I'm 50 or something.
Egg freezing is a load of shite. Why should women have to pay an extortionate amount of money on an invasive procedure when there are no guarantees anyway. Sick of seeing this advice everywhere. Tons of women could never afford it anyway.
It is roughly 10000$ to freeze, varies depending on the facility, but there are no guarantees with it, I read there's roughly a 40% success rate of getting a baby out of frozen eggs. I am 32 and have looked a bit into it, but do not even have that kind of money saved(yet), and I would have to go "deposit" my eggs in a foreign clinic(I live in Eastern Europe). Some clinics I looked at for instance won't offer services to single women or gay couples(yey, discrimination)
@Nonchalant M Thank you. You mean no point in doing it at 40?I would say it is worth a try. My mother got pregnant with me at almost 36, by accident. She said she didn't think she would get pregnant again at "a late age" 😂. Times are changing. My mother actually reached menopause at 50. So technically, she could have had more children, but she didn't want any. It varies from person to person.
Orio W. I agree I heard a nurse say they don’t even use those eggs when you come in for the treatment and that they actually take eggs from you again and use those instead lol.
My grandma had her four youngest after 47 no problems what so ever with homebirthing as most women do. I know for sure any medical Harmon prevention does so much harm so use condoms even with your husband Rather. Why do I want to go anywhere else when living a luxury home. I live in an apartment work from my corner home office I don't like to go anywhere unless I have to.
I wonder if JulianM & AngelicaHustson would be ready to go on the TV show? A Discovery of A Witch? And JulianM can't kill-off the main "Wee-Rrr-zS!" on the show.
Start checking your ovarian reserves in your early 30’s. If you want to wait, freeze some of your eggs, then take all the time you need to find Mr.Right, grow up, experience everything. (It’s not your uterus that fails you, it’s your ovaries) That way you won’t miss out on motherhood. Most woman having a baby in their 40’s are doing it through fertility clinics and may be using donor eggs, sperm, or even embryos. It’s costing them a ton of money if they don’t have the right insurance. Sometimes they can’t have children because they have waited too long. Hollywood stars have the money and time off to do what the average woman can’t afford to do. Don’t give up your choices. Test your ovarian reserves. It’s a blood test that costs a couple of hundred dollars, and then you know.
@@TheEntilza If you watched the interview Juliana said to her partner at that time then I don’t know if I even can have children because of her age was a fear that was what she was implying. She got pregnant totally accidentally thus naturally at 41.
@@TheEntilza At Orla my mother got pregnant naturally and easily with me at 40. Had me at 41. My great aunt got pregnant naturally and easily at 43 had her child at 44. Many of my mothers friends got pregnant naturally and easily in at 37, 38, 39, 40-42. My tutor got pregnant naturally and easily at 39, had her first child at 40, then pregnant again naturally and easily at 41 had her second child at almost 42.
So... Julianna Margulies did the selfish thing, she took the time to reflect on herself and grow... Most selfless thing one can do. More people should do this instead of putting their "wants" first.
I seriously cringed at that. The interviewee was way too polite. There is a massive difference between 31 and 41 for a woman. Kelly loves to make it about her.
At what moment did you Americans become so old-fashioned as to consider the most normal thing to get married and have kids in your TWENTIES?? 😦😁 I'm always astonished when I hear you people talk about this subject. I mean, the girl finds that she became a mom "late" at 31! 🤯 Even for us Latin Americans, it is more and more normal to get married and have babies in the 30s, not in the 20s!! I can't even imagine how funny all this can sound to Europeans 🤭 -since in their case, it's more and more normal to have babies in their 40s, not in their 30s. I mean, listening to you guys, one has the impression to be in the past century.
Freeze your eggs. Then you won’t feel rushed. When you find the right guy you can still have babies. It’s not you uterus that gives out on you it’s your ovaries that stop producing eggs. You can be a mama at 45 or 50. I know from experience. Good luck!
Im 36 and got pregnant on the first try a month ago. I am sick to my stomach now but that's beside the point. You will find someone. Write a letter to the universe outlining the things you want in a partner and finish the letter with "so be it and so it is." Then repeat the letter every night before you go to sleep. Believe you will find this person, believe you deserve it. Then, when you least expect it, they'll pop up! Believe and you will achieve. Blessings❤😘
Wow so simiiar of a life I had like her, felt the same, saw things the same...and the age thing is a myth. The only difference would be she had a lot of love growing up and I didnt. No marriage and no babies unless a prince charming falls into my lap like her. But at 54 I dont think I care about all that
It's such a joy to listen to an adult women describing her making conscious choices and not just following the society norms.
Absolutely!
I’ve never been married but don’t want kids but live in Mn which a lot of people live here cause it’s a good place to raise a family but I was raised here. So it’s hard to find guys that don’t have a child in their 40s. The guy I’m with has kids but they’re all grown.
In Toronto, the average woman is in her mid to late 30's when she had kids. When I had married and had 3 kids in my 20's, people acted like I was a teenager. No regrets, we had a lot of fun. Our third child died of cancer at 12 years old and at 41 years old, my husband and I are expecting our 4th child. It's funny to be starting over again.
The expectation seems to be you lose a pre-teen or teenager and that's it. Your parenting years are over. When people realize I'm pregnant and already know about our loss, it seems to throw people off. We were done at 3 and happy with our 3. We're not ready to be done being parents yet. I've always worked for an airline and loved taking my kids everywhere and showing them as much of the world as I can and I'm not done with that yet.
I can't say I felt restricted as a parent in my 20's. My parents travelled a lot when I was growing up and it drove me to make sure that I could travel with my kids a lot. I've never thought that everyone should have kids or that there is a right age to have kids. My parents had a couple of us in their early 20's and a couple of us in their late 30's. The right time is IF you want to and when you can afford to.
I got married at 37, had my first baby at 38 and second at 40. I knew myself, had a wonderful, full, established life, and waited until the right man came along. Best decision of my life!
Thank u for sharing. I needed to read that.
Its bad age to have kids, much harder for your kids down the road, by 30 they are already worried about their parents health, many reasons to not have kids at that kind of age
@@danykonyohov3418 many people's parents die before they turn 30. Many people's parents go through health issues and their children worry. That's life.
@@danykonyohov3418agree and I am a childfree female in my late 30s. My mom had me at 26 so I had a lot of time with my grandparents and my parents had time to saving after I was financially independent at 21 for their own retirement. It doesn't have to be before 30 but waiting after 37 for women and 40 for men increases risks of health issues for the child and mother.
I'm over about to turn 42 still single with no kids yet crying at what these ladies are saying. Happy tears cause they speak the truth!!!
There is loads of alternatives to help you get pregnant.
I am 58 no kids and was a widow at 38
It's never too late. It will come when you least expect it.
I am about to turn 39, single no kids, and let me tell you the pressure is on me , all my sister have grown kids, my friends same, I feel sometimes a failure, and even when I haven't had the urge to become a parent is mostly about feeling different and scared of wanting kids when I am no longer fertile, Is always inspiring to know this is a relatable issue and when woman after 40 find love and live a happy life.
@@brendacastillo8146 If you succumb to the pressure you are going to eff it up and end up with someone wrong for you. I waited for the right one because,even though i wanted to be a mom,i had no interest in marriage. It all came together when i was 33. Got married and had my kids at 35 and 38 years old. When you least expect it is when it will happen. If it's meant to be,it will.
🥺 needed to hear this today. At 34, no prospects for family, and everyone around me starting theirs or well established already, it's been hard to believe it could happen past this point. This is an important conversation. Thank you 💜
Hey, turning 34 next week and same here. Yes, it's good to hear that it's possible and can happen later on in life. It's hard not to get discouraged though :/ I'm becoming more cynical as time goes by and I definitely want to change that
I am in tears. I am 36, I have been so anxious. Thinking am late. I honestly was never ready. Now am ready, emotionally, physically and financially and finding posts all over TH-cam saying am late. I am about to hit the wall. Then I find such beautiful stories. The man am inlove with is 2 years younger. That's a story for another day. This story blew hope into my lungs.😻
Yup, it’s important to have these convo. I won’t be surprised Julianas kid is either through IVF or a surrogate. Besides, she mentioned herself picking wrong people. So, I’m happy that she met someone at 41. But, for many of us our clock stops at 29.
I got married at 34 almost 35 and afrer a miscarriage i had my baby at 35. Dont lose hope. It just takes more time for some people. I always wanted a family but i couldnt meet my husband in my 20s. Simple as that. Life is different for everybody. Until your 40s there is always a chance for pregnancy, even though it can be harder to conceive. If not science can help you. It wont be the end of the world. Remind yourself there is always a way if this is really what you want
@@Andtherewaslight427 did you end up having a baby?
My husband is also 6 yrs younger, and we got married when I was in my mid thirties, and we didn't have our son till I was 40. I relate so much to this. All of this.
This conversation is so much mature and healthy. The pressure to do things in our society is immensely draining
Married at 35, first baby at 39, second baby at 41. (And I'm 5 1/2 years older than my husband.)
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I had my only daughter at 40. My husband was 40 as well. I’m from the south and I live in Alaska now. All of my friends are grandparents now. We didn’t wait by choice, I had some fertility issues. My pregnancy was considered a geriatric pregnancy. My daughter is happy and healthy so life is good.
Yeah geriatric lol sexism is alive and well.. this is about the one billionth Lie society has told 😂 Doesn’t matter because more and more women will be increasingly having their first kid in their 40s. times have changed and will continue to change
This is absolutely beautiful and so comforting to watch when you are in your 30s and single.
I had my first baby at 35. Wanted one more, and got pregnant easily at 41!
as someone who’s 37 with no children and not sure i ever want them actually ,; it was really nice to hear this talk. it’s so refreshing to hear that life is not over at 40 and that also it’s okay if you don’t feel the constant desire to be a mother.
some of us enjoy our freedom, and that’s okay to say. (it doesn’t shame those that do have children, but it makes it okay to choose)
I'm 37 too! I've been having feelings of having kids and getting married. I never wanted those things until I met someone who wanted them. I don't think we are working out though, but after him I hope to find someone
I agree, it's about the right to choose. Some women want marriage and/or children when they're younger, some women want to wait until they're more established and with the right man, abd women don't want marriage and or kids at all. To each their own!
@@janedo-re-mi2738absolutely well said!! Everyone has their own unique journey and desires. It's about supporting women's right to choose what's best for her and not shaming. Too many people judge and try to impose what women should be doing and then making them feel not enough if they don't or haven't by a certain age.
I love how Kelly is so genuine and this question coming from someone else may come off as rude, but Kelly is so real that you know is asking because she is genuinely curious and happy to show there are different ways to live your life.
We have to change the double standards society has about age. As a single woman over 40 your made to feel like something is wrong with you, yet no one bats an eye at men that age or older that remain bachelors.
And often it’s the bachelors over 40 that are the strange ones…
@@ever7672 Marriage simply isn't for everybody, just like having children isn't for everyone. However, I've observed many 40+ year old bachelor men either suffer from Peter Pan Syndrome, or they're serial daters out looking 4 the prefect woman
Exactly! It drives me insane!
Very true. We, women get a lot of heads and perceptions. People sometimes forget that every individual has different needs and wants. I always praise my friends with kids. I wish they would reach out sometimes.
It's true but it's also called biology.
Thank you for this. I turned 40 two days ago.
Such a great actress who is so genuine, earthy and not pretentious at all
So much wisdom in this clip. Understand "your" narrative.
I"m so over the judgement on women with age, marriage or no marriage, kids/no kids. Mind your own business....
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Amen!
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Amen preach sis 🙌 👏. And the majority of people judging and preaching how you should live your life are miserable!! Women should do what's best for them and not to please others.
Great convo! I like that Kelly's show can do light hearted fun and then some real consequential conversations with depth.
Thanks for sharing the story and knowing that it’s not over at 40 👍
It's only because society tells you too, everyone is different. But then again, the biological thing is real.
Life is easy with him. That just makes sense. My divorce was predetermined bc the relationship was so dramatic with all the toxic behavior- def not easy.
Yeah that was my favourite bit as well
Maturity on having kids will be something that will save the world. We need better humans and that comes from good mature moms.
This is such an important interview. It always reassures me. There are so many narratives - we don't have to resort the default ones.
What a great example of two incredible women in the industry who you can look up too and be in awe of. Julianne has be inspiring me since ER and I've been supporting what she does after that. I'm so blessed to have something to watch that will still inspire me today. And Kelly's songs that she has done have been my fight songs to becoming a woman to take seriously so thankyou for that. Thankyou for letting us be a part of your world. Thakyou for reading this peeps and always remember to stay humble and kind. 😊😊❤❤
This is very real and very honest life advise from true women
Thank you
I needed this
I love Julliana and watch reruns every night of The Good Wife on Start TV at 12 midnight. She is one of the best actresses out there and Im just hoping she will get another series on the books real soon.
Please can you talk name of her books? And thank you
@@mushtaaqahmed2466 Sunshine Girl: An Unexpected Life
@@oscarfun100 thank you so much from heart
She will be on Season 2 of “The Morning Show”.
I’m 39 and I was just asked by idiotic man why if I’m such a good woman, why am I not married? Well, I am a good woman of God and I also did not have a good example of a man, having an abusive dad. I was busy attracting the wrong man and pursuing a Doctorate and career. As this woman said, through my healing journey, I was not ready before now! I am proud to be who I am and what woman I turned out to be. If God’s will it will be, I’m letting it go for now because I refuse to feel powerless.
My mom was getting ready to turn 30 and my dad was 47 when I was born and for the first 20 years of my life I had the benefit of having at least one parent I could count on to be around for a real long span of my life. And then cancer decided to take my mom away from us as she died within a month of her 50th birthday. So I still have my dad obviously and I realized I needed to create as many memories as I could and not waste a single second of whatever time my siblings and I have left with him cause tomorrow is not guaranteed
Hugs, that is rough
Thank you for sharing your story! You are amazing:)
Today more than ever I understand this. 💟
I love Julianna. She is so smart, funny and beautiful.
She said "life is just easy with him" that is the same thing fumi says and I love that.
Fumi as in the beauty guru on TH-cam?
@@yaclilly yes. She does these sister to sister talks
@@OhJanney I love her! It was a pleasant surprise seeing her name mentioned.
@@yaclilly yeah me too
This a great conversation. Thank you both!
What a beautiful interview! I truly enjoyed it ♥️👍🏻
34 and no prospects of a relationship (yet) so I really needed to watch this. Thanks for the encouragement!
34 as well. Wanna get married and have a kid? 🥰🥹
bottom line for me is, we should try our hardest to listen to what WE want, not what society defines as the "norm." you don't want kids? perfectly fine! you're going to be a single mom? totally fine too!!!
Love it love it loooooveeeee it! Thanks for those words ladies
It’s so painful to watch when an interviewer talks forever with their question as though they are more interested in saying something instead of asking something.
Everytime. She always makes it about her too.
I very much feel the same way. Being a chatty person is not always indicative of being a skilled interviewer.
Omg totally!! So annoying when she said that she got married/pregnant at 31 and thought she had a full life at that point and couldn't understand why Julianna waited so long. Wth!!
@@fithrianalestari7569 Yep I was actually like wtf? You were TEN years younger, how is that the same thing. Sure a few years, I get it but not a decade like. She is always waaaay too desperate to find something in common with her interviewee. A skilled interviewer doesn't need to do that, they just let the person being interviewed be heard while asking the questions that really open them up or help us learn more about them.
@@fithrianalestari7569 TBF I think that she was asking the question that the audience would've asked. However, it still did spring from her own experience. She IS very chatty, overly so for me, but I she's considered likeable and relatable, so any skills she lacks as an interviewer don't really matter.
Age is just a number. You have to do what feels right for yourself, and shut out the noise. Also, I don't believe there is a 'right' person - what does that even mean, and it's vague too.
It's more about the right time in your life, and that right time can come to us at different phases of our lives.
Ultimately live your life for you, and stand by your choices, and don't let others dictate to you how you should/shouldn't live your life.
You do you, I do me!
I totally stand for what Julianna is saying about mature women waiting to decide if they want marriage and children, there should be no shame in young women wanting to marry early and have a family while they are young. 40 isn’t over, it’s just beginning when we know more about what we want and who we are. But that shouldn’t negate the experiences of young women of 20 knowing who they are and what they went. There are many things I wish I could’ve done, but I have NEVER regretted having my children nor did I blaming them for my “missing out” on something. Many young couples go on to have long strong marriages. And many mature adults keep making the same mistakes with a mate or partner and switch them out like new outfits. People grow and learn new things about who they are at any stage. How they handle them and incorporate them into their current situation is key. Let’s be supportive of ALL women of all ages.
Right and that’s what they’re saying. It’s about what’s right for you and not about how old you are. It’s just that society tends to do this more to older women yet the divorce rates are high for people who marry younger than that. Of course there are couples who have been together since high school and still going strong as well - you can find that in all age groups
I respect and appreciate what both these women have said here!🙂🤗
I love her story sooo relatable
My parents got married at 35yo. It's never too late.
That’s not old for couples to get married. It’s quite normal, not an example of being late!
35 is young!
I'm going to be single for life. I thought I wanted a family and wanted a husband. No, it's tough out there with like millions of people. Also, the stress that comes with it. I love children, but having one yourself is not for everybody. From where I'm from, divorce is at a high rate and people are scared. That's what I think.
Juliana shares my birthday geminis r tough when it comed to commitment tend to delay marriage but i fully believe its worth waiting for the right person plus divorce rates r much lower when marriage is delayed
That's wonderful, there is no upper age limit to get married and have children ( if your physically able to)
And having kids in your 40s is nothing new lol
Love this!
Loved this interview other than interuptions
Yes! Kelly talks waaaaaay too much.
Amazing Interview. ♥️
So true like being in your 20-49s in the 2000-2010 is really not what it has been all the decades before and why are many people only taking serious by sociteiy after having a stable job and a ring on their fingers ?
I wish this interview and story had been as viral as those clips of "alpha male podcasts" saying women hit the wall after age 30 and are no longer able to get married or have children.
I turn 40 in five months, just got out of a toxic relationship and focusing on GOD and myself. To me, it'll happen if and when it's supposed to happen.
❤️❤️
Glad u got out. I got out of one also I'm 39..life has just begun . .a new life!
@@chandchand5355 I'm 37 and just got out of one, but I'm struggling right now. I can't stop thinking about him 😩 he went back to his ex girlfriend 💔
@@s.elizabeth1753 You have to remember who you was before him! Also its normal to feel confused and miss him ..however don't forget how he treated you.
@@chandchand5355 thank-you
It is in society's best interest to help females grow up and feel like FREE individuals and urge people of both sexes to marry for the RIGHT reasons. I can totally understand what Julianna says, that she had to get rid of the narrative that she was born into and raised with, as to how a marriage feels like and is and more importantly ,especially women, cause they are the driving force of a family, they need to find themselves first, before they decide to raise a child. Of course, people who are not kind hearted, hence really mentally sick imo, will always rush to a marriage with the wrong spouse, because of desperation, because they want to show off to the others, 'look at me I am the first one to get married from our group of friends' and they will make you feel like garbage, because you chose to do things the hard but right way and you waited until you were sane enough to find a decent human being or you chose to have a family on your own , instead of marrying a man you loathe or are not in love with, so that you can have sby to pay your bills and your kid or kids have a father , one however that you , the mom , do not love or even like. The important thing is to be raised by a loving parent or parents.And good people can be loving parents. Bad people cannot.
I wholeheartedly agree with the entirety of this statement. I've known people that married simply to be first or to make a public statement that they were wanted by someone. Insecurity is an enormous driving force into marriage for some people. I have always felt quite secure on my own.
I absolutely love this
Everything she said is exactly what I believe. Marriage is about finding your person not about children.
Its okay Julianna, you are great and it was all worth it.
I still have hope then. I am 37 now.
Absolutely! Keep hope alive!
I love this, except for the blurb in the description about "society tells women life is over after 40..." but does it though? 🤔 The narrative alone annoys me..can't we also normalise Julianna's experience as a path many women are choosing these days as opposed to making it seem so rare? I really dont think it is..
Yeah I was rolling my eyes at the title of this video because it’s not new at all for women to have kids or be married in their 40s lol
I love Julianna Margulies!
Love it!
She's beautiful ❤
Julianna Margulies is Magnificent.
Happy birthday julianna from italian boy live in rome
That is awesome.
I just turned 30 no prospects…:( feel hopeless but then again I M hope
I love margulies she is my sweetheart 😍😍😍
Julianna is still gorgeous
Love her!
After I got married at 36 we tried to have a baby at 37 and it never happened. I’m 4 years older. We never got our happy ending and I wish I could turn back time to have tried to have a baby sooner. It’s different for everyone. Words cannot express how crush and heart broken I am.
😢 sorry. I had my son at 39 and 44 now and trying for another. Please don’t give up. I pray you heal.
Hermosa entrevista
thank you
Sadly it doesn't work out for all women. I got married at 35 and I'm 37 now and haven't managed to concieve despite trying to over a year now.
I'm also 6 years older than my husband.
I turned forty this year and I’m having a very difficult time with it 😞
Don't worry.. embrace your life.. Don't think of the number
I'm sorry it's hard.. I turn 38 in a few weeks and am struggling with it too. You're not alone.
Sometimes I feel like I’m ready to settle down .. sometimes I don’t . Sometimes I want to have another kid .. sometimes I feel I’m done . But I think I better figure it out soon. Freedom is amazing tho. Idk 🤷🏻♀️
Ray of hope
Kelly: Why did you wait SO LATE? (judgement 🙄)
The rest of the world: Why did you wait SO LATE? (more judgement)
Her: (responding with more maturity& sophistication than Kelly 💪🏽😊)
Am 37,I desire a good husband..I pray that one of these days God brings a good godly man my way
I am unmarried at 43 for the same reason
I love Kelly 🥰🥰
I think a conversation about egg freezing should be had with girls at a young age so they're aware that it's ok to live life and still have the option to reproduce later in life. I thought about freezing my eggs at age 35 (I was kinda old, would have been better to do it B4 I was 25 to get better egg quality) I ended up not doing it. I've never really wanted kids anyways but for some reason, now that I'm almost 42 I kinda wish I did have some "eggs in the freezer" just in case I end up changing my mind when I'm 50 or something.
Egg freezing is a load of shite. Why should women have to pay an extortionate amount of money on an invasive procedure when there are no guarantees anyway. Sick of seeing this advice everywhere. Tons of women could never afford it anyway.
It is roughly 10000$ to freeze, varies depending on the facility, but there are no guarantees with it, I read there's roughly a 40% success rate of getting a baby out of frozen eggs. I am 32 and have looked a bit into it, but do not even have that kind of money saved(yet), and I would have to go "deposit" my eggs in a foreign clinic(I live in Eastern Europe). Some clinics I looked at for instance won't offer services to single women or gay couples(yey, discrimination)
@Nonchalant M Thank you. You mean no point in doing it at 40?I would say it is worth a try. My mother got pregnant with me at almost 36, by accident. She said she didn't think she would get pregnant again at "a late age" 😂. Times are changing. My mother actually reached menopause at 50. So technically, she could have had more children, but she didn't want any. It varies from person to person.
Orio W. I agree I heard a nurse say they don’t even use those eggs when you come in for the treatment and that they actually take eggs from you again and use those instead lol.
How many times does Kelly say ...yea
I am still single at 28 and starting to panic a little
My grandma had her four youngest after 47 no problems what so ever with homebirthing as most women do.
I know for sure any medical Harmon prevention does so much harm so use condoms even with your husband Rather.
Why do I want to go anywhere else when living a luxury home.
I live in an apartment work from my corner home office I don't like to go anywhere unless I have to.
Age is just a number . People get married even in 90's.
Yes!
I wonder if JulianM & AngelicaHustson would be ready to go on the TV show? A Discovery of A Witch? And JulianM can't kill-off the main "Wee-Rrr-zS!" on the show.
Start checking your ovarian reserves in your early 30’s. If you want to wait, freeze some of your eggs, then take all the time you need to find Mr.Right, grow up, experience everything. (It’s not your uterus that fails you, it’s your ovaries) That way you won’t miss out on motherhood. Most woman having a baby in their 40’s are doing it through fertility clinics and may be using donor eggs, sperm, or even embryos. It’s costing them a ton of money if they don’t have the right insurance. Sometimes they can’t have children because they have waited too long. Hollywood stars have the money and time off to do what the average woman can’t afford to do. Don’t give up your choices. Test your ovarian reserves. It’s a blood test that costs a couple of hundred dollars, and then you know.
Yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Preach… I am 37 ttc with Ivf… it been a struggle, I wish I knew this!!! So on point
She like many women have healthy babies naturally in their 40s. Stop spreading anxiety and panic.
@@orlaw.8213 If you believe actresses and not fertility doctors then you are in trouble.
@@TheEntilza If you watched the interview Juliana said to her partner at that time then I don’t know if I even can have children because of her age was a fear that was what she was implying. She got pregnant totally accidentally thus naturally at 41.
@@TheEntilza At Orla my mother got pregnant naturally and easily with me at 40. Had me at 41. My great aunt got pregnant naturally and easily at 43 had her child at 44. Many of my mothers friends got pregnant naturally and easily in at 37, 38, 39, 40-42. My tutor got pregnant naturally and easily at 39, had her first child at 40, then pregnant again naturally and easily at 41 had her second child at almost 42.
I think Julianna margulies would play zatanna if theirs a dceu in the 90s
Julianna is INTERESTING....
Got damn she is so fine 🥺
So... Julianna Margulies did the selfish thing, she took the time to reflect on herself and grow... Most selfless thing one can do. More people should do this instead of putting their "wants" first.
World would be a much better place
Kelly talks too much about herself. And you can't say 31 is like 41, that's insulting.
I seriously cringed at that. The interviewee was way too polite. There is a massive difference between 31 and 41 for a woman. Kelly loves to make it about her.
Well in the south it’s true lol but yeah I could see her kinda envy Juliana because Kelly is divorced and could have waited lol
🙌 some guys see straight and don't put the cart before the horse.
This host is kuku if she thinks that doing everything till 30 is ok
My life just started at 40
Now im 51
Does Kelly ever let her guests talk? The first 40 seconds of this are her talking about herself instead of just asking the question, so I stopped.
At what moment did you Americans become so old-fashioned as to consider the most normal thing to get married and have kids in your TWENTIES?? 😦😁 I'm always astonished when I hear you people talk about this subject. I mean, the girl finds that she became a mom "late" at 31! 🤯 Even for us Latin Americans, it is more and more normal to get married and have babies in the 30s, not in the 20s!! I can't even imagine how funny all this can sound to Europeans 🤭 -since in their case, it's more and more normal to have babies in their 40s, not in their 30s. I mean, listening to you guys, one has the impression to be in the past century.
so weird hear them talking about the man asking the woman
Almost looked like Jenma Dewan
Waiting is fine. But if you want children then freeze your eggs or be fine with adopting.
I'm 35 and feel I will never find anyone
Freeze your eggs. Then you won’t feel rushed. When you find the right guy you can still have babies. It’s not you uterus that gives out on you it’s your ovaries that stop producing eggs. You can be a mama at 45 or 50. I know from experience. Good luck!
@@noracharles80 freezing your eggs is so expensive
@@sarahhelmer7902 $50 a month. Medical expense. tax write off
Women over 35 can conceive & have perfectly healthy babies ☺️
Im 36 and got pregnant on the first try a month ago. I am sick to my stomach now but that's beside the point. You will find someone. Write a letter to the universe outlining the things you want in a partner and finish the letter with "so be it and so it is." Then repeat the letter every night before you go to sleep. Believe you will find this person, believe you deserve it. Then, when you least expect it, they'll pop up! Believe and you will achieve. Blessings❤😘
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Wow so simiiar of a life I had like her, felt the same, saw things the same...and the age thing is a myth. The only difference would be she had a lot of love growing up and I didnt. No marriage and no babies unless a prince charming falls into my lap like her. But at 54 I dont think I care about all that
Julianna was born on wednesday as today
Julianna, You are a resident of New York what do you think of DJT?