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They always knew, they always deny, play the martyr-poor people a cop and lovely spouse, good people good parents struggling with a "horrible, stealing, addicted, abusive,...... even dangerous" child. Still no one believes....any and all escape options always sabotaged, newest thing.... flying monkeys stop near my home (golf cart community) point, laugh, and talk/whisper loudly..... repeating narc parents false narratives and gossip.... thank you I'm learning so much AND im not in jail or the hospital..... I'm quite, observing, documenting what's necessary, and......🤫 packing 🎉!! Oops 🤫 🤞 hopefully 🔜
Wow i like when you said “respect your own privacy.” I have not heard that before. And it makes so much sense. I have not respected my own privacy around him. Wow. I need to respect myself. I am mad he doesn’t show me respect. And he never did when we were together. When I start to respect myself I won’t care maybe that he doesn’t respect me. And therefore maybe take it less personally when he tries shaming me for being human.
You are the best!!! I went thorough my separation holding tight to each of your videos and that gave me the power to be strong so the narcissist coudn't destroy me . THANK YOU DEEPLY 💪💪😘😘🤗
Thank you Tamie for validating feelings of victims who felt ashamed by narcissistic bullying. I know these people are very angry, insecure, competitive and jealous. For decades I have dealt with narcissistic female friendships. It’s one thing to be bullied in middle school but I actually experienced some of the worst bullying in my 40’s and 50’s. Mean girls turn into mean women. When I dumped them it is exactly what you’re describing. They are so painfully hurt that I left them. They can’t acknowledge their nasty behavior has hurt us. The smear campaigns they did to me were horrible. My 87 year old narc mother is still bad mouthing me because I won’t talk to her. The worst personality disorder that literally destroys lives.
I believe the shame-based narcissists are that way because they know how wicked they have treated others and instead of repenting and becoming cleansed of their sin, they justify it and become worse because the guilt piles up over the years. Rather than confessing to be cleansed, they grow worse hoping they will get a reaction out of their targets. They feel justified if we blow up in anger over their rudeness.
10 Secretes all Narc keep 1. They know perfectly well that they are abusive. 2. They are insecure, fear and shame base people 3. You have other options. 4. They need u more than u need them 5. You intimidate them 6. They jelousyand resentful 7. The extent to which they gossip about you 8. The ease with which they lie 9. Where all the money is going 10. The relationship crimes they've create.
Being involved in a three year dynamic/relationship with a covert narcissist was indeed the most challenging experience that I have confronted over the last 12 years for so many reasons. Took a year and a half through that before I began to get information and understanding of what was happening. Etc. Clinical parameters and manifestations etc. Although it totally sucked (still does in a way) I see now; it has brought forth a kind of superpower and recognition that shines light to a dark area of experience I am now immune to. Once you see it in one place; you cannot unsee it wherever it rears its head. Going through it with one person has answered many questions I have long since been scratching my head about with other types of relationships (family etc) that are now clear. So glad we have such readily available access to such professionals (who also have weathered like storms and confusion) on the healing path!
😊 Thank You, I’m seeing this After 23yrs… Generational Patterns, Ugh, Extended Family.. Have to operate In silence around him, I am not better, I Don’t Have any More Energy For Petty, destructive Behavior 🙏
👏another homerun! 6:52 The narcs in our family are insensitive, judgmental, critical , and mean! My answer to one of them once was,“ stop taking yourself so serious, no one else does”! He flipped out more. My reply was,” still fighting mental health”! We stay out of their game, and we do not validate the truth!
Greetings, Tamie .. Your presentation has given me a greater clarification of the traits of the narcissist of which I have a basic knowledge. Their reasoning & motivation is insane, to say the least. These people are really damaged goods. I have encountered several narcissists in my life. Thank you for your outstanding tutorial !
Your video was extra extra welcome today Tamie! I confronted a person at work in a private conversation about the things that hurt me. She said she didn't remember saying that and saying that, etc. etc. Thank you so much for sharing, it helped me a lot.
Thank you for this sometimes I start to think I’m crazy. They can’t be that calculating an evil. How is it possible? But you are bringing it all too late and helping to cope.
Thank you...youve validated my decision to let them go.....the malignant narcissist brother and his flying monkey siblings....good bye forever. I deserve better
Ms Joyce love this and hate this cause I’ve been bested. I guess I’ve the book smarts… can’t even read faces. It’s very much like emotional indigestion
I'm realizing now how many narcissists I've worked with and worked for. One of the last jobs I worked at, I got constantly criticized at quarterly reviews, even though I was the most productive person in that department. LOL! I understand now how insidiously narcissists work in the WORKPLACE, not just in "romantic" relationships. After I failed to get coverage during a family emergency, I gave them my resignation letter. OMG! Suddenly I went from the department pariah to "Can you stay another month?" LOL! I didn't. In other words, what Tamie said was true: "They need you more than you need them."
So good to hear from you again. My husband has dementia / cognitive decline. However even at this stage he is lying and envy my personality. He gossiped me out of his family circle which is a blessing. Presently they banded him as well. Our life is better now than ever! Thank you Tammy
Hey Tamie! My daughter's soon to be ex is the epitome of an alcoholic narc. They're currently in a 2 yr. custody battle over their toddler. He's blocking her request to relocate back to her hometown w/ max support system. He refuses to negotiate & will stop @ nothing to punish her because she left him. It's challenging...
8:25 Because ma'am, if the narcissist gets everyone to think(especially if they publicly degrade the one their with, which is nothing more then blatant disrespect.)that the one their with has problems or issues, then not only will they get the emotional gratification from those that believe them but also they then feel justified in the store they have created in their mind. I personally believe that the great majority of individuals are soon to awake to this and start calling them out for what it is. In fact Miss Joyce, do you think it would be wish or safe for the one who is being abused if advice was given on how others can call the narcissist out for them. I am sure it would be discretionary thing, yet the narcissist from what I have learned don't reveal their full colors unless it is private situation normally, so that they safe face with their circle of enablers?
My best friend turned out to be a covert narcissist and all her ugliness came out when she got a man in her life for the first time in middle age. I would love to hear your thoughts on that dynamic.
You’ve been so helpful in my understanding what I’m up against with the person I live with and have for 44+ years. Everything you share about narcissistic personality is spot on.
I recently have cut all ties with my family. Just suck's that the Holidays are around the corner and my wife's Family is gonna ask if I'm going to my Families get together. I don't really wanna explain 😕
Tamie M Joyce 😘🥰😍😇!!! I agree with everything you said because I experienced everything you said when dealing with narcissistic people!!! Your speaking the truth!!!
Everything your saying is true to the very point. she knows I know what she is! Right now she is targeting me big time anger but she needs me still so only talks to me for work only! I can feel she trashes me and she has slipped a time or too!!
💯😁🌹 I discard them all , family and exes with radical acceptance and indifference, so happy cutting the cords for a fulfilling life with and for myself, Creator, Earthly Mother and Animals with the Violet Flame of transmutation and I AM affirmations , and your empowerment solutions, I AM absolutely SUCCEEDING and I AM THRIVING without them 🌞 Thanks again Tami❤❤❤🔥💜🔥🎶🙏🏼😇🌠🌈🕊️💫
This video describes my brother to a Tee. My narc evil brother literally lived in my parents basement for 47 years and never got a wife. No kids and stayed there literally to talk trash about me and me youngest brother until my parents signed the house over to him last July. Disgusting human who didn’t have anything going was brought to another deal while he waited to get a lawyer and then robbed me of millions
I know this pain, all I could do was stop immediately and go grey rock, just keep it really neutral, nothing interesting or deep. I wish I could take back all the things I shared, but it is too late, damage is done. I will take this lesson to heart and learn to stay more silent until I am 100% sure it is safe to reveal anything anymore.
My narc sister got power of attorney and made herself sole beneficiary to my dad’s money. When confronted she tried the innocent game and when that didn’t work, the rage fits and smear campaign was under way. It’s been a year and a half of hell. I knew my sister was always manipulative with her triangulation, but I overlooked and forgave because it’s my sister. I didn’t even know what narcissism was for decades. Now all the red flags make sense.
Same here. I have two narc sisters. I put up with it (I'm the target of both of them) because 'we're family'. I beat myself up about all that I put up with before going no contact. No one should have to put up with their crap.
Same here. The narc brother who never left our parents home and he’s 47 was brought into a real estate deal and then used every trick in the book to get revenge and rob me of millions. Then my parents signed over the house which would have been our inheritance to him all without any family discussion. I haven’t talked to them all in a year
Hey Friends! Thanks for watching!! If this resonated with you, you'll want to sign up for the FREE WEBCLASS I'm offering on how to heal and recover from codependency and narcissistic abuse so you NEVER fall prey to emotional manipulation and psychological abuse ever again! HERE'S THE LINK: www.tamiem.info/freeclass
They always knew, they always deny, play the martyr-poor people a cop and lovely spouse, good people good parents struggling with a "horrible, stealing, addicted, abusive,...... even dangerous" child. Still no one believes....any and all escape options always sabotaged, newest thing.... flying monkeys stop near my home (golf cart community) point, laugh, and talk/whisper loudly..... repeating narc parents false narratives and gossip.... thank you I'm learning so much AND im not in jail or the hospital..... I'm quite, observing, documenting what's necessary, and......🤫 packing 🎉!! Oops 🤫 🤞 hopefully 🔜
When is a narcissist lying? When their lips are moving! 🤣 Spot on with that.
Tamie brilliant breaking all their BS down 💯% accurate and they really do believe their the best thing since sliced bread
Glad you liked it, John! Thanks for watching!!
I always find a great deal of value in your videos.
I wish I'd known these things 35 years ago but better late than never. 🌻
Wow i like when you said “respect your own privacy.”
I have not heard that before. And it makes so much sense. I have not respected my own privacy around him. Wow. I need to respect myself. I am mad he doesn’t show me respect. And he never did when we were together. When I start to respect myself I won’t care maybe that he doesn’t respect me. And therefore maybe take it less personally when he tries shaming me for being human.
You are the best!!! I went thorough my separation holding tight to each of your videos and that gave me the power to be strong so the narcissist coudn't destroy me . THANK YOU DEEPLY 💪💪😘😘🤗
Thank you Tamie for validating feelings of victims who felt ashamed by narcissistic bullying. I know these people are very angry, insecure, competitive and jealous. For decades I have dealt with narcissistic female friendships. It’s one thing to be bullied in middle school but I actually experienced some of the worst bullying in my 40’s and 50’s. Mean girls turn into mean women. When I dumped them it is exactly what you’re describing. They are so painfully hurt that I left them. They can’t acknowledge their nasty behavior has hurt us. The smear campaigns they did to me were horrible. My 87 year old narc mother is still bad mouthing me because I won’t talk to her. The worst personality disorder that literally destroys lives.
Tammy is such an inspiration to our generation. The world needs to know what she has to say and what is happening in the world.
I believe the shame-based narcissists are that way because they know how wicked they have treated others and instead of repenting and becoming cleansed of their sin, they justify it and become worse because the guilt piles up over the years. Rather than confessing to be cleansed, they grow worse hoping they will get a reaction out of their targets. They feel justified if we blow up in anger over their rudeness.
10 Secretes all Narc keep
1. They know perfectly well that they are abusive.
2. They are insecure, fear and shame base people
3. You have other options.
4. They need u more than u need them
5. You intimidate them
6. They jelousyand resentful
7. The extent to which they gossip about you
8. The ease with which they lie
9. Where all the money is going
10. The relationship crimes they've create.
"Again, please." ♥
Very good video. All “need to knows!”
Glad you liked it, Deb! Thanks for tuning in!! 💕
Being involved in a three year dynamic/relationship with a covert narcissist was indeed the most challenging experience that I have confronted over the last 12 years for so many reasons. Took a year and a half through that before I began to get information and understanding of what was happening. Etc. Clinical parameters and manifestations etc. Although it totally sucked (still does in a way) I see now; it has brought forth a kind of superpower and recognition that shines light to a dark area of experience I am now immune to. Once you see it in one place; you cannot unsee it wherever it rears its head. Going through it with one person has answered many questions I have long since been scratching my head about with other types of relationships (family etc) that are now clear. So glad we have such readily available access to such professionals (who also have weathered like storms and confusion) on the healing path!
😊 Thank You, I’m seeing this After 23yrs… Generational Patterns, Ugh, Extended Family.. Have to operate In silence around him, I am not better, I Don’t Have any More Energy For Petty, destructive Behavior 🙏
Yes you're nailing it to a tee!!!
Absolutely true...I found out the hard way.
When you parents talk bad about you behind your back since childhood: Insanity.
They would talk badly about me to people that have not event met me.
Indeed.
My mom talks about me behind my back
@@ghs9725 it is very childish and sad.
People would tell me what they have been told
@@ghs9725same, and my sister.
It’s a spiritual thing, they envy what you have and they don’t.
Every single word is so true 💯
👏another homerun! 6:52
The narcs in our family are insensitive, judgmental, critical , and mean!
My answer to one of them once was,“ stop taking yourself so serious, no one else does”! He flipped out more. My reply was,” still fighting mental health”!
We stay out of their game, and we do not validate the truth!
You’re right, my spouse is a monster that I could never imagined, I’m with her just over 13 years.
Excellent information. Encouraging
Glad you liked it, Stacy! Thanks for watching!! 😉
Greetings, Tamie ..
Your presentation has given me a greater clarification of the traits of the narcissist
of which I have a basic knowledge. Their reasoning & motivation is insane, to say the least.
These people are really damaged goods. I have encountered several narcissists in my life.
Thank you for your outstanding tutorial !
100% sad, very sad truth. Thank you for elucidating this information!
Your video was extra extra welcome today Tamie! I confronted a person at work in a private conversation about the things that hurt me. She said she didn't remember saying that and saying that, etc. etc. Thank you so much for sharing, it helped me a lot.
Thank-you. You nailed all of the points but Point #1 ... is so rarely spoken of. The TRUTH has finally been said.
Thank you for this sometimes I start to think I’m crazy. They can’t be that calculating an evil. How is it possible? But you are bringing it all too late and helping to cope.
Thank you...youve validated my decision to let them go.....the malignant narcissist brother and his flying monkey siblings....good bye forever. I deserve better
Ms Joyce love this and hate this cause I’ve been bested. I guess I’ve the book smarts… can’t even read faces. It’s very much like emotional indigestion
I'm realizing now how many narcissists I've worked with and worked for. One of the last jobs I worked at, I got constantly criticized at quarterly reviews, even though I was the most productive person in that department. LOL! I understand now how insidiously narcissists work in the WORKPLACE, not just in "romantic" relationships. After I failed to get coverage during a family emergency, I gave them my resignation letter. OMG! Suddenly I went from the department pariah to "Can you stay another month?" LOL! I didn't. In other words, what Tamie said was true: "They need you more than you need them."
It definitely resonates with what happened to me
So good to hear from you again. My husband has dementia / cognitive decline. However even at this stage he is lying and envy my personality. He gossiped me out of his family circle which is a blessing. Presently they banded him as well. Our life is better now than ever! Thank you Tammy
Tamie, Actually All of Your Videos have been Very Helpful to me. 😊
Take Care Tamie ❤
Spot on ❤❤❤
You nailed it.
I sometimes think they really believe their lies. My father and younger sister are exactly alike. Fake as hell and make me look like the lunatic.
Can you please do a video on adult narcissistic sisters? 😊
Great video!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Thank you!
Yes ma'am everything u have said is true can this type of people can ever change at all
Hey Tamie! My daughter's soon to be ex is the epitome of an alcoholic narc. They're currently in a 2 yr. custody battle over their toddler. He's blocking her request to relocate back to her hometown w/ max support system. He refuses to negotiate & will stop @ nothing to punish her because she left him. It's challenging...
8:25 Because ma'am, if the narcissist gets everyone to think(especially if they publicly degrade the one their with, which is nothing more then blatant disrespect.)that the one their with has problems or issues, then not only will they get the emotional gratification from those that believe them but also they then feel justified in the store they have created in their mind.
I personally believe that the great majority of individuals are soon to awake to this and start calling them out for what it is.
In fact Miss Joyce, do you think it would be wish or safe for the one who is being abused if advice was given on how others can call the narcissist out for them. I am sure it would be discretionary thing, yet the narcissist from what I have learned don't reveal their full colors unless it is private situation normally, so that they safe face with their circle of enablers?
Thanks!
THANK YOU FOR THE TH-cam THERAPY FOR TODAY!
Soooo true!!
Best thing ever on those in-roads of realistic realism Narcissism. ☮️✌️
My best friend turned out to be a covert narcissist and all her ugliness came out when she got a man in her life for the first time in middle age. I would love to hear your thoughts on that dynamic.
You’ve been so helpful in my understanding what I’m up against with the person I live with and have for 44+ years. Everything you share about narcissistic personality is spot on.
I recently have cut all ties with my family. Just suck's that the Holidays are around the corner and my wife's Family is gonna ask if I'm going to my Families get together. I don't really wanna explain 😕
My entire lif just flashed before my eyes.
100% truth. Thanks for another powerful video, Tamie!
Tamie M Joyce 😘🥰😍😇!!! I agree with everything you said because I experienced everything you said when dealing with narcissistic people!!! Your speaking the truth!!!
All so familiar and true!! Lived with it all and more for 50 years!!😢
Everything your saying is true to the very point. she knows I know what she is! Right now she is targeting me big time anger but she needs me still so only talks to me for work only! I can feel she trashes me and she has slipped a time or too!!
🎯💯💜
I knew he needed me, he used me to humanize him at his job, (gay) i had 2 kids and with me, me made a family, showed he was JUST LIKE THEM….
💯😁🌹
I discard them all , family and exes with radical acceptance and indifference, so happy cutting the cords for a fulfilling life with and for myself, Creator, Earthly Mother and Animals with the Violet Flame of transmutation and I AM affirmations , and your empowerment solutions, I AM absolutely SUCCEEDING and I AM THRIVING without them 🌞
Thanks again Tami❤❤❤🔥💜🔥🎶🙏🏼😇🌠🌈🕊️💫
Thank you Tammy ❤️🙏🕊️
Hey, Denise! You're so welcome! Thanks for tuning in!!
Thank you!
You're so welcome! Thanks for watching!!
Don't quite know what to do at this point I can't leave work and she's not going anywhere soon, I'll just stay away as much as I can!
This video describes my brother to a Tee. My narc evil brother literally lived in my parents basement for 47 years and never got a wife. No kids and stayed there literally to talk trash about me and me youngest brother until my parents signed the house over to him last July. Disgusting human who didn’t have anything going was brought to another deal while he waited to get a lawyer and then robbed me of millions
Problem is we have been working together for the past 24 years I've already said way o much
I know this pain, all I could do was stop immediately and go grey rock, just keep it really neutral, nothing interesting or deep. I wish I could take back all the things I shared, but it is too late, damage is done. I will take this lesson to heart and learn to stay more silent until I am 100% sure it is safe to reveal anything anymore.
🙏🙏🙏
Evil demonic creatures!! Thanks Tamie 👏💪🤗
Indeed
Spot on! Thank you for brilliant observations and advice Tamie 😊 ❤
My narc sister got power of attorney and made herself sole beneficiary to my dad’s money. When confronted she tried the innocent game and when that didn’t work, the rage fits and smear campaign was under way. It’s been a year and a half of hell. I knew my sister was always manipulative with her triangulation, but I overlooked and forgave because it’s my sister. I didn’t even know what narcissism was for decades. Now all the red flags make sense.
Same here. I have two narc sisters. I put up with it (I'm the target of both of them) because 'we're family'. I beat myself up about all that I put up with before going no contact. No one should have to put up with their crap.
your not alone
Same here. The narc brother who never left our parents home and he’s 47 was brought into a real estate deal and then used every trick in the book to get revenge and rob me of millions. Then my parents signed over the house which would have been our inheritance to him all without any family discussion. I haven’t talked to them all in a year
I have to re-watch this video a 1000 times. God bless you!
Thank you for this video
Hey, Crystal! You're so welcome! Thanks for watching!!
I enjoy listening to Tamie.