Very helpful teaching! Thanks a lot. Yes, it's so important to stay connected to being while you are in contact with your family. And Eckart showed it brilliantly how it feels and looks like.
I clicked instantly when I saw this on my recommended. Family is something not many people talk about because you’re just supposed to put up with their behaviour without being given the tools to deal with it efficiently because they’re ‘family’. But additionally I think family members forget that we are all individuals and should be treated as such
Just encountered family member with active painbody, worrying about the future, money etc. Workplace full of unconscious people, negative energyfield... Because of these teachings I recognized the pain body & and was a light of presencenin that situation. Hope I made positive change. 🙂Lets spread loving awareness, namaste!
I think that's what its about isn't it, sharing what has helped us with others who want to listen. I was trying to explain to someone this week that in my job i meet 3 kinds of people, 1 those who don't have a victim mentality and accept they themselves have made some mistakes, 2 those who do have a victim mentality but are willing to let go of it make a hugely positive changes to the outcomes and happiness in their lives and 3 those who have a victim mentality but refuse to let go ot it. Working with the people in groups 1 and 2 is fantastic as together we achieve some wonderful things that can give them a wonderful fresh start in life, while for those in group 3 all you can ever do is make a very small temporary change in their life's that might if your really lucky make them happy for an hour before they find another reason to support their right to consider themselves a victim. If people want to change then its wonderful to help them achieve that change but if people are determined to be victims who are we to say they cannot do so, no matter how much we see that its spooling their lives. 🙏🙏🙏
I know where she is coming from, especially when you are trying to run defense for a child with another adult/parent. It can feel overwhelming dealing with all those personalities and being protective of a child and overwhelmed by the forcefulness of another adult. I understand what Eckhart is saying but it isn't easy in practice. This is one of the harder situations to stay present in. Bless this Mom.
I am also facing this challenge daily, what i've learnt is don't expect too much, change takes time, lifetime habits are ingrained...Each time you practice presence you may last 10 seconds, 20 seconds without getting involved, forgive yourself for if you do and create a new intention to stay present gor as long as you can...Over time like Eckhart says you find you remain calmer for longer and longer time without having to defend anyone as they play out their scenarios to a mutual conclusion...This is exactley what i've been working on this week...Thank you Eckhart for the confirmation that i'm on the right track...As long as no ones killing eachother everythings solvable...💖
@@Gaurav.P0 only if one is able to cope with it,..spiritual growth rarely happens overnight and if the challenges are too great for ones level of presence then more harm can be done than being in a calmer environment with wiser people.
You have to feel yourself, feel your being, then you can affect the entire room. You don't fight darkness. You turn up the dimmer. Be vigilant, alert present. It's consciousness with little or no thoughts. Thanks Eckhart. 1 September 2022.🎁🤠👍🐧🌹🌿🐘
I remember a dinner that I attended many years ago, in which there was a loud and aggressive atmosphere among the other guests. Drama all over the place. I was quiet, and I felt quiet, until I suddenly surprised myself by shouting: "SHUT UP!", and then continued eating my dinner. The others were so stunned, that they forgot their drama, and proceeded to eat their dinner as well. I had no particular emotion other than: "mmm, this food tastes good".
To deal with the difficulty family members, is to allow their "limitations" to unfold in the present moment,it's part of this present moment, it's not good or bad ,just is the burden is not created by this people, the burden is created by your mind, by believing in the story in your head. There is a saying that says , if react to the" toxic energy " you become part of the "toxic energy "❤️🙏🇿🇦💯🤗
As far as I remember, the saying goes: "What you fight, you become." And it's from "A course in miracles". Or an other saying: "What you fight, gets stronger. And what you resist, persists."
This is another reason why I think it’s important to teach everyone how to do this at an early age in grade school or high school so we can create a new more informed era of awakened human beings who can continue this for ages and decades and help turn the divorce rate, angry and depressed, around to happy! 😊🙏
I'm a phd student in chemistry with my advisor, whose ego is huge though he is more than 60yrs old. When it turns to the point that I need to defense and graduate(very enough publications), he refused again and again even threaten me by words that I'll be kicked out from the lab. He behaves like an infant that is constantly needy and grab, grab and grab, take, take, no satisfaction. And I was unconsciously taking his responsibility throughout years. I feel completely drained with him and at the point when I need to write my thesis, I was not given any time if he came to me, as what has been throughout years, as long as it's not he wants, he doesn't care. I learnt so much during my graduate study not only my major and degree, but also human nature. Some are deeply dark and some are bright. Though hard, I'll still get through this process and I wish and I hope all good luck with people in this world. Our life is so previous and all hardships can turn into essence joy. Bless~
"I basically jz wanna run away..." I guess lots of ppl can relate to this... Being the black sheep in the family...it's really not easy to be the only light...n to shine alwiz. Since my higher self has chosen this path, I'll do my best 😌
@blancalobo3217 Hi thx for yr mesg. Didn't realize I dropped this mesg a year ago. Things do change n u'll evolve if u do the work. Sending love n blessings to u. ❤️ U've got this. 💪🏻
I think learning to become non-reactive can really help in challenging spaces. When things become dramatic or whatever the case may be, turning off the emotional reaction allows you to not get swept away in what is happening then becoming disempowered. Just my 2 cents. Thanks Eckhart!
I totally agree Jessica, none of our thoughts are real they are just Fantasy imaginative stories created by our minds. Facts are definitely real but its always worth reminding ourselves thoughts are not facts, ni matter how strong the thoughts or beliefs 🙏🙏🙏
I used to have a horrible relationship with my mom, and I thought she was operating from ego. When I matured and started to ground deeper into the Present Moment, I realized that actually it was ME that in was in ego, and I was BLAMING and JUDGING, and FEEDING into the energy I didn't want. Now my relationship with my mom is great and I see her for who she actually is : ) Great video Eckhart ! Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos every single day ! Much Love 🙏
For a long time my adult daughter would get very combative with me for no reason . I never say anything in reply or try to argue against her aggressive comments. I just listen and try to smile. I remind her that only she is in charge or her happiness, not me and not others. In the last couple of months things have gotten much better. I believe she is realizing that she is in control of how she perceives life. It is so much nicer to be around her now!
Just seeing this woman’s question has helped me so much. Maintaining consciousness as a mother in situations like that is Jedi level. All we can do is our best. What else could we possibly do, you know?
True, and our best is always enough! Sometimes we can have seemingly limitless patience with others and at other times absolutely none at all, we can't give what we don't have to give at that moment in time but what we can do is know ourselves and accept we are not at our best and do as little as possible to cause unhappiness for others at that moment and of course regret ajd remorse for ourselves later 🙏🙏🙏🙏
The other side of the coin of course is being in the presence of people who are relentlessly positive! No negativity allowed! The energy required to push away any so-called perceived pain or negativity if that's what you want to call it is wasted. It seems it only serves to reinforce rather than dissolve. Like seeing someone who professes to be happy happy happy and realizing that what they are experiencing is the opposite and they simply will not acknowledge it.
So many instagram moments lol. I agree with what you. There was an interesting book some years ago that explored this of what you speak: The Dark Side Of The Light Chasers
Need to have a good grip of yourself with so much of self love and plan your day with attention, presence awareness. Nothing out of the way is going to annoy you as you are prepared for the unexpected as a way of life. Have some time for yourself to do what you like. ❤️❤️. We are all face this situation and thank you so much for your question l question that many can relate.🥰🥰
@RestWithin that's a very good observation! It could help to overcome fear to communicate! One hand on our sensation, breath, the other in direction to others. Body language is helping a lot as well to reconciliate being and doing for people who suffers in silence
Nothing wrong with living in a fantasy world on occasions as long you and not your mind is creating the fantasy! Daydreaming about being on a beautiful island is a wonderful place to visit but allowing our minds to daydream for us in order to create worry and fear is not good. The present moment? Its a nice town to visit but a rather dull place to live in 24/7 in my opinion 🙏🙏🙏🙏
The best way to deal with malicious family members, is to get a new number and don’t tell any of them. Delete their contact and never reach out again. Life is too short. It’s not worth it.
It can be very challenging not to be drawn in to fights, us vs them, drama etc. - especially with family dynamics that play out a certain script each and every time. What helps is refusing to take sides, watching without interfering and only interfering by rerouting towards the present. So e.g. when someone is complaining heavily and dragging everybody down they usually refer to the past or an imagines future. A question like "how about now, do you feel the pain now?" sometimes helps.
As far as I have experiences every day too I can say that staying awake requires a lot of energy. And this if making me tired of course. And be prepared for the time of dinner for example or meeting with the daughter. It s not easy. But an example for exercise of course every day again, so tyring! from my personal experiences... Hope I will get used to it, this is the cross I have to take....again and again and to experience the Light to shine and stay present, vigilant.... Only the light pierces the darkness,
I wish it was that simple. My dad has a heavy pain body. While he is still able to display some acts of kindness, he's also a bona fide chauvinist who verbally abuses my mother, and often makes racist and homophobic comments. When I am in a deep state of presence, I can overlook all his defects and be empathetic towards him. But I also realized that my state of presence doesn't nullifies all the wrong things that he says and does. He feels entitled to act like that with his wife and sons, so, even though being in a state of presence is very beneficial to myself, it is not enough to stop his terrible behaviors. Some people are just very deep in that rabbit hole, and they will drag others to their level of unawareness. How do you reconcile all of that on a day-to-day basis? How can you always be present and empathetic towards someone that is constantly causing harm to you and others? Because if you don’t confront them at some point, they will continue to believe that their behavior is justified, and they will never be able to transcend this state of unawareness. And how do you confront someone so close to you without losing your own awareness?
Sounds a lot like my dad , I had to separate from my dad as his behaviour toward me was so bad that no matter how present I am , I still refuse to be around that type of energy without it making me unwell ,so I put it to him for the first time in my life to that his behaviour hurt my feelings , and told him I love him so much but at this moment I cannot be around him , and maybe someday when I am a little stronger we can re connect . I believe it awakened him a little hearing this as for the first time he didn't not answer with violence or anger and was just very quiet , we didn't speak for almost 2 years and my dad died suddenly in March this year before we could speak again or make a mends ,which made me very sad ,as I love my dad so much , but I don't regret my decision as I think it's important to let people know that their behaviour is not acceptable to you , without of course you acting emotionally to it , and I believe this can help the other person immensely if you just point out calmly why their behaviour feels damaging to you ,no matter how present you are you are still entitled to say how you feel , Hope this helps 🙏🙏🙏good luck
@@jodie4183 I am deeply sorry to know that you couldn’t make amends with your father. I fear that if I just cut bonds with my dad, the same thing might happen to us. Relationships with close relatives usually are the toughest ones that we must deal with it. They push us to our limits, but they also teach us more than any other thing on this life. Thank you for your kind words, I’ll keep trying to do my best to stay present around his pain body. And I hope you can find peace and closure after such a sad loss. I wish you the best.
Number 1 you cannot change others..not even a Buddha could..all we can do is change our own reactions and of course with such a difficult person it is very hard and why the Buddha said that for growth the company of the wise is so beneficial. I also currently live with 2 unconscious family members and when I get away to stay at a Buddhist monastery, I see a massive difference and it helps so much. As such I endeavour to be in a wholesome environment as much as possible…when it isn’t, space, meditation and Byron Katie worksheets do help and it does take a lot of effort ….also forgiving is helpful..forgiving them and ourselves. I had the good fortune to hear a wonderful 82 Cambodian nun speak..her husband was killed by the Khmer Rouge and she asked them for forgiveness for the hate and desire for revenge that she had. This gave her the peace of mind she was seeking. Very best of luck …
@@theinngu5560 Thank you for your words. I do not live with my parents anymore, but I know what's going on over there, and that makes me sad... I agree with you, we can only change ourselves, and that itself is already a wild journey. I guess that some of my sadness has to do with the fact that I'm far away from them and I can't help them as much as they need it. It's a tough pill to swallow, to know that your loved ones will go through so much pain and confusion at the end of their lives. I wish you the best of luck with your family as well.
My son is toxic and he lives with me and hes now 31 and im 57. He rants about others all day long and its so hard not to get triggered because after a few hours its so draining. Hes autistic and also has some other mental health issues that are undiagnosed. I know if he lived on his own, he would be so isolated but i just dont know how to deal with his toxicity after a length of time. Its really hard to stay present as i am his venting point otherwise he wouldn't talk to anyone. I leave the room when it gets too much
It's the greatest challenge I've encountered. I'm not strong enough to lighten up two energies at a time ..one stuck in negativity and painbody and the other is mind consumed and unconscious ...to much at once , I get lost. Any suggestions are appreciated because it's thick and heavy
I understand and myself can get caught up in the drama. Sometimes while I am present and being yelled at or what not . I feel as though I'm a door mate. Then other times when I stand up for myself I feel like I'm a ego and losing consciousness. I go back and forth between the 2. However there are moments when I am paying attention to the drama and in that moment I wake up and remember wow I was doing this year's ago to them and now they are to me. And it's the exact same thing but we switched places. It's very eye opening when that happens and freaky.
Wow why did it take so long to click? This entire time it felt like it was something you had to "achieve" or "get" but in reality its within us at all moments....
Aka how can I remain present with a narcissistic partner. If you feel like running away then more than remaining present is needed. That lovely lady needs a day to herself or day that’s all about her.
I think he means just living in the stories in your head which go round and round…past and future eg thinking ‘He shouldn’t have done this, blah blah blah ‘ over and over and not say being aware of the body, feelings, or other senses in the present moment
I "penalize" myself everytime I lose my cool or like this woman get caught up in the drama of others. I learnt this method from atomic habits that you should make the cost for a bad habit public and painful.
Simple remark, wasn't the family the place where you were supposed to be relaxed and at ease, to recharge your batteries, without all this alertness and intense vigilance...? If this isn't possible in one's family i suppose that environment is marred by some deeper problems, wouldn't it be better to work on the root cause and address those first? Otherwise all that vigilance and intense attention at home will eventually strain & drain you, most likely
Im still looking for answers regarding motherhood. When I just became a mother unexpectedly with a traumatic birth and then after that no help , the next years no help and being very sick . Also a post partum and no help. Sitting with my baby with so much pain in my body and feeling exhausted and completely out of balance with hormones. My son also had no rest and as a baby almost didnt sleep , so every hour he slept I fell imeediatly asleep. It was absolutely horrible. How do you cope with that? I really wonder what the answer to that is?
As a lifelong Zen practitioner, I object to Mr. Tolle. He speaks of what amounts to SATORI; awakening, and thus breaks important rules of Zen. "He who speaks does not know, he who knows does not speak". He could lead one to false Satori. In the parlance of Zen, "He stinks of Zen."
I guess this video was recorded live a couple of years ago. I wish I could know if the woman in the video finally accomplished that goal... The goal of _dealing (in difficult or challenging situations) with family members while maintaining inner peace_ . Just curious ☮️✌️✨✨
He might have added that, at first, she might not be very good at what he is suggesting. It might even be a good idea to laugh at yourself for how poorly you practiced his instructions. Humor is useful in developing awareness.
His teaching is exactly like ancient zen master in China except he talks a lot more. That Zen master who always raised one finger and spoke nothing when people sought lesson from him was from ancient china according to what I read. Interesting backstory... His student repeated that to stranger seeking lesson (out of ego) when master was away got his raised finger cut off according to history... 😱 Why? 2 versions of stories. 1. stranger felt insulted & got angry with this phoney (might be a good swordsman). 2. master got back, told what happened, asked student to repeat what he did, when student raised finger he quickly cut it off with scissor to shock the student into awakening (Don't do this unless u are 2000% sure it will work)
🤣 Random words, trying to be sophisticated type of sentences . All of them to deceive people and make these gurus earn money . People need to find God. God bless you all....
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A beautiful reminder that the work is on ourselves only. It’s our job to remain present , not to try to change the outer or the other.
Exactly
True words 🙌
Well said, Elizabeth.
But they try to push you to do what they want
Listening to her makes me thankful for my quiet and peaceful life. The only drama that I experience is from the outside world.
Having a family with children and nervousness all over the place isn't always a gift. I'm with you here... Enjoy your quiet and peaceful life!
You don't fight the darkness you just shine your light brighter....such wisdom...thank you Eckhart.💚🌌
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.
John 1:5
Where there's darkness, let me sow light.
Where there's sadness, let me sow joy.
from within, where I am that which just is. be well!
This man is a soulful genius
- I just want to let anyone who’s reading this, and going through a tough time know that it’s going to be okay. You’ll get through it! ✨
Thank you boss
Thank you. I feel your presence in your message. I needed that :)
Thank you
Thank u
Very helpful teaching! Thanks a lot.
Yes, it's so important to stay connected to being while you are in contact with your family.
And Eckart showed it brilliantly how it feels and looks like.
I clicked instantly when I saw this on my recommended. Family is something not many people talk about because you’re just supposed to put up with their behaviour without being given the tools to deal with it efficiently because they’re ‘family’. But additionally I think family members forget that we are all individuals and should be treated as such
Yes, I totally agree. 💛
Just encountered family member with active painbody, worrying about the future, money etc. Workplace full of unconscious people, negative energyfield... Because of these teachings I recognized the pain body & and was a light of presencenin that situation. Hope I made positive change. 🙂Lets spread loving awareness, namaste!
I think that's what its about isn't it, sharing what has helped us with others who want to listen. I was trying to explain to someone this week that in my job i meet 3 kinds of people, 1 those who don't have a victim mentality and accept they themselves have made some mistakes, 2 those who do have a victim mentality but are willing to let go of it make a hugely positive changes to the outcomes and happiness in their lives and 3 those who have a victim mentality but refuse to let go ot it. Working with the people in groups 1 and 2 is fantastic as together we achieve some wonderful things that can give them a wonderful fresh start in life, while for those in group 3 all you can ever do is make a very small temporary change in their life's that might if your really lucky make them happy for an hour before they find another reason to support their right to consider themselves a victim. If people want to change then its wonderful to help them achieve that change but if people are determined to be victims who are we to say they cannot do so, no matter how much we see that its spooling their lives. 🙏🙏🙏
I know where she is coming from, especially when you are trying to run defense for a child with another adult/parent. It can feel overwhelming dealing with all those personalities and being protective of a child and overwhelmed by the forcefulness of another adult. I understand what Eckhart is saying but it isn't easy in practice. This is one of the harder situations to stay present in. Bless this Mom.
The harder the challenge is, The greater the opportunity is for spiritual growth.
I am also facing this challenge daily, what i've learnt is don't expect too much, change takes time, lifetime habits are ingrained...Each time you practice presence you may last 10 seconds, 20 seconds without getting involved, forgive yourself for if you do and create a new intention to stay present gor as long as you can...Over time like Eckhart says you find you remain calmer for longer and longer time without having to defend anyone as they play out their scenarios to a mutual conclusion...This is exactley what i've been working on this week...Thank you Eckhart for the confirmation that i'm on the right track...As long as no ones killing eachother everythings solvable...💖
@@yasminkausar5186 Yes, It is so true Yasmin.
@@Gaurav.P0 only if one is able to cope with it,..spiritual growth rarely happens overnight and if the challenges are too great for ones level of presence then more harm can be done than being in a calmer environment with wiser people.
And being non reactive, incense even more those looking for a fight
You have to feel yourself, feel your being, then you can affect the entire room.
You don't fight darkness. You turn up the dimmer.
Be vigilant, alert present. It's consciousness with little or no thoughts.
Thanks Eckhart. 1 September 2022.🎁🤠👍🐧🌹🌿🐘
I remember a dinner that I attended many years ago, in which there was a loud and aggressive atmosphere among the other guests. Drama all over the place. I was quiet, and I felt quiet, until I suddenly surprised myself by shouting: "SHUT UP!", and then continued eating my dinner. The others were so stunned, that they forgot their drama, and proceeded to eat their dinner as well. I had no particular emotion other than: "mmm, this food tastes good".
You just literally made me laugh out loud. I love this story. Thank you. I've had a pretty full on week. Great holy humour ;)
Wow.🙏🏼The ability to do that shows some skillfulness in Being. And I imagine the dinner guests will never forget that teaching.❤
Wow.
I once did that in meditation group 😂.
I probably sensed their inner noise and drama . Though externally they were quiet 😂😂
To deal with the difficulty family members, is to allow their "limitations" to unfold in the present moment,it's part of this present moment, it's not good or bad ,just is the burden is not created by this people, the burden is created by your mind, by believing in the story in your head. There is a saying that says , if react to the" toxic energy " you become part of the "toxic energy "❤️🙏🇿🇦💯🤗
Wise words 🙏
True words 🙌
As far as I remember, the saying goes: "What you fight, you become." And it's from "A course in miracles". Or an other saying: "What you fight, gets stronger. And what you resist, persists."
This is another reason why I think it’s important to teach everyone how to do this at an early age in grade school or high school so we can create a new more informed era of awakened human beings who can continue this for ages and decades and help turn the divorce rate, angry and depressed, around to happy! 😊🙏
I'm a phd student in chemistry with my advisor, whose ego is huge though he is more than 60yrs old. When it turns to the point that I need to defense and graduate(very enough publications), he refused again and again even threaten me by words that I'll be kicked out from the lab. He behaves like an infant that is constantly needy and grab, grab and grab, take, take, no satisfaction. And I was unconsciously taking his responsibility throughout years. I feel completely drained with him and at the point when I need to write my thesis, I was not given any time if he came to me, as what has been throughout years, as long as it's not he wants, he doesn't care. I learnt so much during my graduate study not only my major and degree, but also human nature. Some are deeply dark and some are bright. Though hard, I'll still get through this process and I wish and I hope all good luck with people in this world. Our life is so previous and all hardships can turn into essence joy. Bless~
Amen and congratulations on your graduation from unconsciousness. 👍😇
I wonder if your advisor is a Narcissist. What you describe sounds exactly like it
Blessings to you also, Xiang.
Good luck. Learning how to handle and protect ourselves from these types is essential
I profoundly love Etckart Tolle! I follow him since several years! He is a really life’s teacher! And I hope he comes in Italy one day!🙏🏻♥️
Attention is wonderfully explained by cats. All we have to do to learn , is to observe cats behavior.
💯 agree. 😳
Eckhart once said “I have lived with several Zen masters. All of them cats”.
🐀💭🧀 .. 🐾🐾💥🐈💥
@@thecalicoheart7946I love your reply. I have heard that he said this when families are hurtful move on and spend Thanksgiving with your cat😊
Thank You for shining the Light on our world 🙏💖
Thank you Siham!
Good timing - I'm just about to speak to my dad who I haven't had a conversation with for almost four months
🙏🌟♥️💥👁💥♥️🌟🙏
"I basically jz wanna run away..."
I guess lots of ppl can relate to this...
Being the black sheep in the family...it's really not easy to be the only light...n to shine alwiz.
Since my higher self has chosen this path, I'll do my best 😌
@blancalobo3217 Hi thx for yr mesg. Didn't realize I dropped this mesg a year ago. Things do change n u'll evolve if u do the work.
Sending love n blessings to u. ❤️ U've got this. 💪🏻
I think learning to become non-reactive can really help in challenging spaces. When things become dramatic or whatever the case may be, turning off the emotional reaction allows you to not get swept away in what is happening then becoming disempowered. Just my 2 cents. Thanks Eckhart!
How to learn to become non-reactive ?
So true!!
@@Gaurav.P0 Eckhart: Reacting is from the conditioned mind; responding is from the present.
I totally agree Jessica, none of our thoughts are real they are just Fantasy imaginative stories created by our minds. Facts are definitely real but its always worth reminding ourselves thoughts are not facts, ni matter how strong the thoughts or beliefs 🙏🙏🙏
@@Gaurav.P0 Meditation with a teacher who knows ( many don’t) helps or the work of Byron Katie.
I call it “✝️living with the Holy Spirit within you”
Yes. Reminds me of actingfrom spirit like a soul from the spirit world helping would do
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. John 1:5 NIV
I used to have a horrible relationship with my mom, and I thought she was operating from ego. When I matured and started to ground deeper into the Present Moment, I realized that actually it was ME that in was in ego, and I was BLAMING and JUDGING, and FEEDING into the energy I didn't want. Now my relationship with my mom is great and I see her for who she actually is : ) Great video Eckhart ! Thanks for being one of the people that inspires me to post videos every single day ! Much Love 🙏
i i i i me i i i i me
We all have ego. I am glad things are better with your mom.
Great comment!
For a long time my adult daughter would get very combative with me for no reason . I never say anything in reply or try to argue against her aggressive comments. I just listen and try to smile. I remind her that only she is in charge or her happiness, not me and not others. In the last couple of months things have gotten much better. I believe she is realizing that she is in control of how she perceives life. It is so much nicer to be around her now!
This sounds exactly like what I’m going through. I’m still trying to get through it and still learning but getting there slowly :)
Just in time for Labor Day weekend with the fam! Wish me luck! Also, thank you for the captions!
Have a nice holiday weekend.
Good luck! Hope it went ok ;)
“Lovely challenge” :) love how Eckhart labels things
Love and light!
I got better when I organized my mind and keep priorities. My children first, husband, house, my music students, and others.
Just seeing this woman’s question has helped me so much. Maintaining consciousness as a mother in situations like that is Jedi level. All we can do is our best. What else could we possibly do, you know?
Meditation
True, and our best is always enough! Sometimes we can have seemingly limitless patience with others and at other times absolutely none at all, we can't give what we don't have to give at that moment in time but what we can do is know ourselves and accept we are not at our best and do as little as possible to cause unhappiness for others at that moment and of course regret ajd remorse for ourselves later 🙏🙏🙏🙏
The other side of the coin of course is being in the presence of people who are relentlessly positive! No negativity allowed! The energy required to push away any so-called perceived pain or negativity if that's what you want to call it is wasted. It seems it only serves to reinforce rather than dissolve. Like seeing someone who professes to be happy happy happy and realizing that what they are experiencing is the opposite and they simply will not acknowledge it.
So many instagram moments lol. I agree with what you. There was an interesting book some years ago that explored this of what you speak: The Dark Side Of The Light Chasers
So true, I've been around too much positivity. It is draining too.
This is my problem with my siblings exactly!
This posted today, now I'm standing next to someone's ego ,, breathe 🙏
Love it ..the daily drama, the nervousness of that....yes 8 choose to not be part of that, calmly with presence. Thank you Eckhart. 🌌💚
Need to have a good grip of yourself with so much of self love and plan your day with attention, presence awareness. Nothing out of the way is going to annoy you as you are prepared for the unexpected as a way of life. Have some time for yourself to do what you like. ❤️❤️. We are all face this situation and thank you so much for your question l question that many can relate.🥰🥰
With all my ❤️ I really hope people perceive the TRUTH of these immensely PRECIOUS Tolle ' "words"...💓❤️💓❤️💓❤️💓❤️💓💓💓❤️🙏
React consciously, that's the key! Don't walk away on what youre feel because it always come back by the back door. Live in real life
I think real life would have to meet me halfway lol. I expect more from me than you.
@RestWithin that's a very good observation! It could help to overcome fear to communicate! One hand on our sensation, breath, the other in direction to others. Body language is helping a lot as well to reconciliate being and doing for people who suffers in silence
Nothing wrong with living in a fantasy world on occasions as long you and not your mind is creating the fantasy! Daydreaming about being on a beautiful island is a wonderful place to visit but allowing our minds to daydream for us in order to create worry and fear is not good. The present moment? Its a nice town to visit but a rather dull place to live in 24/7 in my opinion 🙏🙏🙏🙏
"React consciously."I will remember this when seeing difficult family. ❤Thank you.❤
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The best way to deal with malicious family members, is to get a new number and don’t tell any of them. Delete their contact and never reach out again. Life is too short. It’s not worth it.
But it's also important, to foregive them and to generate compassion for them, while on the external level you distance yourself from them.
Thankful and grateful for Eckhart sir 🙏🏼
It can be very challenging not to be drawn in to fights, us vs them, drama etc. - especially with family dynamics that play out a certain script each and every time. What helps is refusing to take sides, watching without interfering and only interfering by rerouting towards the present. So e.g. when someone is complaining heavily and dragging everybody down they usually refer to the past or an imagines future. A question like "how about now, do you feel the pain now?" sometimes helps.
I love the sharing of the Zen Essence as @ this time As the fix it mindset is so draining
This video is very important to me, thank you for releasing it
As far as I have experiences every day too I can say that staying awake requires a lot of energy. And this if making me tired of course. And be prepared for the time of dinner for example or meeting with the daughter. It s not easy. But an example for exercise of course every day again, so tyring! from my personal experiences...
Hope I will get used to it, this is the cross I have to take....again and again and to experience the Light to shine and stay present, vigilant.... Only the light pierces the darkness,
Ideal for the holiday season!
Your whole life is a meditation. The practice is your entire life....
EKCHART shining upon us the brightest in here!
🌸Thank you very much, for this interesting video, it’s very helpful.🌸😘🙏🕊
This is perfect ...I completely agree! Thank you Eckhart Tolle
Thank you for that message it really helps.
Just the light🌟🕊🌟
The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it. John 1:5 NIV
Practice, practice, practice, and practice.
How long does it take
so many many thanks for the subtitles.
I wish it was that simple. My dad has a heavy pain body. While he is still able to display some acts of kindness, he's also a bona fide chauvinist who verbally abuses my mother, and often makes racist and homophobic comments. When I am in a deep state of presence, I can overlook all his defects and be empathetic towards him. But I also realized that my state of presence doesn't nullifies all the wrong things that he says and does. He feels entitled to act like that with his wife and sons, so, even though being in a state of presence is very beneficial to myself, it is not enough to stop his terrible behaviors. Some people are just very deep in that rabbit hole, and they will drag others to their level of unawareness. How do you reconcile all of that on a day-to-day basis? How can you always be present and empathetic towards someone that is constantly causing harm to you and others? Because if you don’t confront them at some point, they will continue to believe that their behavior is justified, and they will never be able to transcend this state of unawareness. And how do you confront someone so close to you without losing your own awareness?
Sounds a lot like my dad , I had to separate from my dad as his behaviour toward me was so bad that no matter how present I am , I still refuse to be around that type of energy without it making me unwell ,so I put it to him for the first time in my life to that his behaviour hurt my feelings , and told him I love him so much but at this moment I cannot be around him , and maybe someday when I am a little stronger we can re connect . I believe it awakened him a little hearing this as for the first time he didn't not answer with violence or anger and was just very quiet , we didn't speak for almost 2 years and my dad died suddenly in March this year before we could speak again or make a mends ,which made me very sad ,as I love my dad so much , but I don't regret my decision as I think it's important to let people know that their behaviour is not acceptable to you , without of course you acting emotionally to it , and I believe this can help the other person immensely if you just point out calmly why their behaviour feels damaging to you ,no matter how present you are you are still entitled to say how you feel , Hope this helps 🙏🙏🙏good luck
@@jodie4183 I am deeply sorry to know that you couldn’t make amends with your father. I fear that if I just cut bonds with my dad, the same thing might happen to us. Relationships with close relatives usually are the toughest ones that we must deal with it. They push us to our limits, but they also teach us more than any other thing on this life. Thank you for your kind words, I’ll keep trying to do my best to stay present around his pain body. And I hope you can find peace and closure after such a sad loss. I wish you the best.
@@dimibolhas Thankyou so much 🙂
Number 1 you cannot change others..not even a Buddha could..all we can do is change our own reactions and of course with such a difficult person it is very hard and why the Buddha said that for growth the company of the wise is so beneficial. I also currently live with 2 unconscious family members and when I get away to stay at a Buddhist monastery, I see a massive difference and it helps so much. As such I endeavour to be in a wholesome environment as much as possible…when it isn’t, space, meditation and Byron Katie worksheets do help and it does take a lot of effort ….also forgiving is helpful..forgiving them and ourselves. I had the good fortune to hear a wonderful 82 Cambodian nun speak..her husband was killed by the Khmer Rouge and she asked them for forgiveness for the hate and desire for revenge that she had. This gave her the peace of mind she was seeking. Very best of luck …
@@theinngu5560 Thank you for your words. I do not live with my parents anymore, but I know what's going on over there, and that makes me sad... I agree with you, we can only change ourselves, and that itself is already a wild journey. I guess that some of my sadness has to do with the fact that I'm far away from them and I can't help them as much as they need it. It's a tough pill to swallow, to know that your loved ones will go through so much pain and confusion at the end of their lives. I wish you the best of luck with your family as well.
Funny how often "practice" requires difficulty, isn't it? Choosing my actions rather than falling into reaction remains a challenge.
It's how the sound goes into another head if it's not said nice u don't get the rite reaction bk so the intent or emotion u say it makes a difference
Loved this one....very clear. 🙏💕💐
Beautiful video 🤩
To be present is to be aware. To be lost in the moment is different than being awake in the moment
Thank you
Please could you do a video of how to stay present when doing physical work?
I work in construction and I find it difficult
We r awake always
No not just sometimes. In most cases sadly its the best to leave the conversation.
Thank you!
🙏🙏🙏Thanks so much for sharing 🙏🙏🙏💕💕💕🌻🌻🌻🌴🌴🌴🥀🥀🥀very Important bless you 🌿🌿🌿
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4:30 But people tend to become more overthinking if they see a Zen master raise the finger without explanation.😆
Eckhart is coming to Adelaide!!
Feel your inner being…
did he ever explain how the bigger consciousness become aware of itself to create the universe?
My son is toxic and he lives with me and hes now 31 and im 57. He rants about others all day long and its so hard not to get triggered because after a few hours its so draining. Hes autistic and also has some other mental health issues that are undiagnosed. I know if he lived on his own, he would be so isolated but i just dont know how to deal with his toxicity after a length of time. Its really hard to stay present as i am his venting point otherwise he wouldn't talk to anyone. I leave the room when it gets too much
I agree!
It's the greatest challenge I've encountered. I'm not strong enough to lighten up two energies at a time ..one stuck in negativity and painbody and the other is mind consumed and unconscious ...to much at once , I get lost. Any suggestions are appreciated because it's thick and heavy
Highly recommend you to watch this, helped and liberated me after years of struggle
I understand and myself can get caught up in the drama. Sometimes while I am present and being yelled at or what not . I feel as though I'm a door mate. Then other times when I stand up for myself I feel like I'm a ego and losing consciousness. I go back and forth between the 2. However there are moments when I am paying attention to the drama and in that moment I wake up and remember wow I was doing this year's ago to them and now they are to me. And it's the exact same thing but we switched places. It's very eye opening when that happens and freaky.
Easier said then done my dear Eckhart... 😅
Wow why did it take so long to click? This entire time it felt like it was something you had to "achieve" or "get" but in reality its within us at all moments....
Lovely Eckhart: “…it’s a lovely challenge too…”
Me: 🥴
Aka how can I remain present with a narcissistic partner. If you feel like running away then more than remaining present is needed. That lovely lady needs a day to herself or day that’s all about her.
What is the meaning of "mind dominated"?
Thanks in advance.
I think he means just living in the stories in your head which go round and round…past and future eg thinking ‘He shouldn’t have done this, blah blah blah ‘ over and over and not say being aware of the body, feelings, or other senses in the present moment
Presence 6:36
I "penalize" myself everytime I lose my cool or like this woman get caught up in the drama of others. I learnt this method from atomic habits that you should make the cost for a bad habit public and painful.
Simple remark, wasn't the family the place where you were supposed to be relaxed and at ease, to recharge your batteries, without all this alertness and intense vigilance...? If this isn't possible in one's family i suppose that environment is marred by some deeper problems, wouldn't it be better to work on the root cause and address those first? Otherwise all that vigilance and intense attention at home will eventually strain & drain you, most likely
Im still looking for answers regarding motherhood.
When I just became a mother unexpectedly with a traumatic birth and then after that no help , the next years no help and being very sick . Also a post partum and no help. Sitting with my baby with so much pain in my body and feeling exhausted and completely out of balance with hormones. My son also had no rest and as a baby almost didnt sleep , so every hour he slept I fell imeediatly asleep. It was absolutely horrible. How do you cope with that? I really wonder what the answer to that is?
As a lifelong Zen practitioner, I object to Mr. Tolle. He speaks of what amounts to SATORI; awakening, and thus breaks important rules of Zen. "He who speaks does not know, he who knows does not speak". He could lead one to false Satori. In the parlance of Zen, "He stinks of Zen."
Start with active meditations
Que maravilla!
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I guess this video was recorded live a couple of years ago. I wish I could know if the woman in the video finally accomplished that goal... The goal of _dealing (in difficult or challenging situations) with family members while maintaining inner peace_ . Just curious ☮️✌️✨✨
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quite ok to run away make shure you have running shoes???
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He might have added that, at first, she might not be very good at what he is suggesting. It might even be a good idea to laugh at yourself for how poorly you practiced his instructions. Humor is useful in developing awareness.
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Thanks for understanding
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They call me mental for being sain 😆
Me too! The cheek of it
His teaching is exactly like ancient zen master in China except he talks a lot more. That Zen master who always raised one finger and spoke nothing when people sought lesson from him was from ancient china according to what I read. Interesting backstory... His student repeated that to stranger seeking lesson (out of ego) when master was away got his raised finger cut off according to history... 😱
Why? 2 versions of stories. 1. stranger felt insulted & got angry with this phoney (might be a good swordsman). 2. master got back, told what happened, asked student to repeat what he did, when student raised finger he quickly cut it off with scissor to shock the student into awakening (Don't do this unless u are 2000% sure it will work)
NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!
Türk var mı?😂
🤣 Random words, trying to be sophisticated type of sentences . All of them to deceive people and make these gurus earn money . People need to find God.
God bless you all....
Eckhart, please, do not smack at speaking, that is disgusting.
NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!
NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!
I'm interested. Can you explain your experience?
NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!NO ENLIGHTENMENT HAPPENS WITHOUT PURPOSE!!!!