Assalam O Alaikum! Dr. Qadir, this is one of the most important lectures I have listened to and needed so badly in our large family. Shukran. Always enjoy and learn from every lecture of yours.
So. I'm divorced, convert and had some questions about implementing Islam in my family. They weren't raised religious, ages 7 and 4. I just heard about, "pray at age 7 force them to pray at 10." I was wondering if this was hadith or Koran? Also, I'm not comfortable keeping my kid up past 10 to pray Isha or waking up at 4:30-5 to pray Fajr… I realize that Islam is submission and my concern is largely cultural, children in western societies are protected from the realities of life that have traditionally forced children to mature. I don't really know any Muslims to ask parenting questions to... How do you handle Fajr and Isha with your Kids? Kids go to daycare and are at mom's a lot who was raised in a semi-Christian cult called living stream ministries, I've got no clue what that is. The point being, her relationship with organized religion as a child was adversarial, she isn't supportive of faith or my wishes in terms of religious observance for the kids. Does anyone have experience with this or advice? Should I be setting out 100% observance standard from the get go and trying to get them to observe as much as I can? The conflict that I see, is that especially in the beginning, there is no way my child is going to willingly observe Fajr and Isha times; it is hard for adults to do that. I want my kids to embrace Islam and not have it be something I am forcing them to adhere to, though minimal expectations about blasphemy, respecting the signs of Allah etc are set. And they are happy getting involved today just through seeing me set an example, praying out loud, praying in English and Arabic, praying out loud after Salah asking Allah to bless my children, protect my children, help the Ummah, comfort people etc. I want them to see and know everything I'm doing when I pray so they can benefit and see that they should have empathy, feel remorse and apologize, recognize blessings and be grateful for them etc. My Kids do sometimes interact with me when I do Salah/Wudu, already. My 4 year old son stands by me copying my actions, and my daughter always tells me when it is time to pray when Athan app goes off. They know the etiquette of respecting a person at prayer and not interrupting them with trivialities, they respect the Quran and will wash before handling it, though full Wudu they don't really get yet. I am pleased with my progress so far, but as I said, my daughter is 7 now and I want to get them to the next level of involvement. When my daughter is with me, should I be getting her up super early for fajr even if it is not good for her health in terms of sleep? How do people handle Fajr and Isha with your young kids? Can I pray Fajr any time before Duhur? Are kids allowed to pray early at all? Because the X is not supportive, I cannot just force my will on them because the majority of the time they aren't with me and I fear if I do that, they will pray with me but NEVER at her place. If I do it right and provide the encouragement and example, maybe they won't be doing 100% correct observance at my house, but they will be doing SOME observance at their mother's house and they spend more time there. It seems beneficial to me to try to do as much observance at my house with the Sharia known and being the goal, but I will not be forcing them to observe 100% or do it all 100% right. Go for involvement, get the engaged and IF you have to force them to do it, you do it right along side with them... Anyone have thoughts?
For young children, teach them to pray fazr when ever they usually wake up in the morning before going to school, and like wise, teach them to pray esha right before going to bed at night or right after dinner. Teach them everything with ease, no stress no pressure. In my family, the only time kids had to wake up at 4 am for faze was if they wished to keep fast during ramadan, and they were always excited to join in.
The age recomended for teaching kids is between 7 and 14 years old. So we should start teaching our kids everything from age 7, and proceed gradually so that by 14 they are implementing everything by themselves. And teachings should be gradual, and gentle, and not a crash course done overnight. Mosques usually hold once a week classes for teaching all the ettiquettes and manners, etc. We all usually try to send our kids to saturday/sunday schools at mosques
I am not married but when I look in the society that I live in there is so much corruption especially in the west where people tend to have harram relationships, listen to music involved in drugs and what not it puts serious doubt in my head about marriage
ur right brother it exposes women plus music and etc... so the money through it would not be halaal.. And Allah is pure and he accepts only which is pure... And one of the five question on the day of judgement is where u earned ur money from...
I wished my family could understand this thing... They love me ofc, but their way Is wrong.. They make assumptions of what I think of then which is wrong... I love them too,, I have my own regrets big regrets which I didn't say them.. I hope Allah forgives me but they don't treat me like an adult they treat me like a child-adult... I don't know what to do anymore... I even thought of self harm but it's not my body...thank God I know self harm is wrong... But I'm really tired
I want to thank you for no advertisements...most muslims post the videos and do that..and its commercials for mormans or credit cards or liquor -_-! pointless don't you think?
but i dont understand how they were muhajirs in an islamic way? They could practice their religion in pakistan? It wasnt like the quraysh of makkah that beat the people up for praying. But alhamdulilah that they moved because otherwise i wouldnt benefit from their son yasir.
Really wish sheiks especially men would not make a great deal about getting married just to have children Some women can not have children for whatever the reason maybe So heartbreaking for the wife not being able to have a child or give her husband a child Too much pressure is put on women to conceive as soon as she marries Give her a Chance to be a wife first before being a mother for eternity
When u call them muhajir i hope u are meaning it in a literal way. And not in the islamic way. Literal way = moving from one place to another. Islamic way = moving from a place of fitnah where u cant practice ur religion to a place without fitnah and where u can practice ur religion.
But what can a person if they are born in like the uk. knows all the good of Islam without all the culture mixed in, and then their parents take them to get married to a relative from their parents homeland country? And all they know is islam with all the culture mixed in? How can you have a good relationship with that spouse to raise pious children when they dont believe in everything your trying to tell them and all the culture the they have mixed in the islam they grew up with in their country they came from.
Rabbana hablana min azwaajina wa dhuriyyatina qurrata A’yunin waj’alna lil- muttaqina imama.
Alhamdulillah, from indonesian worker in japan
Assalam O Alaikum! Dr. Qadir, this is one of the most important lectures I have listened to and needed so badly in our large family. Shukran. Always enjoy and learn from every lecture of yours.
SubhanAllah may Allah increase ur knowledge n reward you with highest level in jannatul firdous
Very good khutba for Muslim parents. Jazakallah Doctor sahab.
Alhamdulilah! Allah bless you YasirQadhi very useful video for all muslimas
Jazakallah khair Sheikh
MashaaAllah nice khutbah barakallah
Alhamdulillah very beneficial lecture.
SubhanAllah jazakAllahkhair my brother for this beneficial lecture. Ya Allah continue to use you for the service of His perfect Deen, amen.
Mashallah. Tabakarallah.
this is the one of best khutbah in yasir qadhi
SUBHANALLAH ....................I WILL CERTAINLY TRY RTO FOLLOW
Ameen Ya Rabb.
JazakAllah khairan
May Allah put barakah in our nikkah and our families. Ameen. Jazakallah for this lecture.
MashaAllah very nice
Alhamdulillah
Thank you so much
yes, I am aware of that. but a reason why we should not set it up. we should not do it for money but to please allah :)
mashallah xayakallah
So. I'm divorced, convert and had some questions about implementing Islam in my family. They weren't raised religious, ages 7 and 4. I just heard about, "pray at age 7 force them to pray at 10." I was wondering if this was hadith or Koran? Also, I'm not comfortable keeping my kid up past 10 to pray Isha or waking up at 4:30-5 to pray Fajr… I realize that Islam is submission and my concern is largely cultural, children in western societies are protected from the realities of life that have traditionally forced children to mature. I don't really know any Muslims to ask parenting questions to... How do you handle Fajr and Isha with your Kids?
Kids go to daycare and are at mom's a lot who was raised in a semi-Christian cult called living stream ministries, I've got no clue what that is. The point being, her relationship with organized religion as a child was adversarial, she isn't supportive of faith or my wishes in terms of religious observance for the kids. Does anyone have experience with this or advice? Should I be setting out 100% observance standard from the get go and trying to get them to observe as much as I can? The conflict that I see, is that especially in the beginning, there is no way my child is going to willingly observe Fajr and Isha times; it is hard for adults to do that. I want my kids to embrace Islam and not have it be something I am forcing them to adhere to, though minimal expectations about blasphemy, respecting the signs of Allah etc are set. And they are happy getting involved today just through seeing me set an example, praying out loud, praying in English and Arabic, praying out loud after Salah asking Allah to bless my children, protect my children, help the Ummah, comfort people etc. I want them to see and know everything I'm doing when I pray so they can benefit and see that they should have empathy, feel remorse and apologize, recognize blessings and be grateful for them etc.
My Kids do sometimes interact with me when I do Salah/Wudu, already. My 4 year old son stands by me copying my actions, and my daughter always tells me when it is time to pray when Athan app goes off. They know the etiquette of respecting a person at prayer and not interrupting them with trivialities, they respect the Quran and will wash before handling it, though full Wudu they don't really get yet. I am pleased with my progress so far, but as I said, my daughter is 7 now and I want to get them to the next level of involvement.
When my daughter is with me, should I be getting her up super early for fajr even if it is not good for her health in terms of sleep? How do people handle Fajr and Isha with your young kids? Can I pray Fajr any time before Duhur? Are kids allowed to pray early at all? Because the X is not supportive, I cannot just force my will on them because the majority of the time they aren't with me and I fear if I do that, they will pray with me but NEVER at her place. If I do it right and provide the encouragement and example, maybe they won't be doing 100% correct observance at my house, but they will be doing SOME observance at their mother's house and they spend more time there. It seems beneficial to me to try to do as much observance at my house with the Sharia known and being the goal, but I will not be forcing them to observe 100% or do it all 100% right. Go for involvement, get the engaged and IF you have to force them to do it, you do it right along side with them... Anyone have thoughts?
Maybe try asking on reddit at r/islam and ask for parents advice?
For young children, teach them to pray fazr when ever they usually wake up in the morning before going to school, and like wise, teach them to pray esha right before going to bed at night or right after dinner. Teach them everything with ease, no stress no pressure. In my family, the only time kids had to wake up at 4 am for faze was if they wished to keep fast during ramadan, and they were always excited to join in.
The age recomended for teaching kids is between 7 and 14 years old. So we should start teaching our kids everything from age 7, and proceed gradually so that by 14 they are implementing everything by themselves. And teachings should be gradual, and gentle, and not a crash course done overnight. Mosques usually hold once a week classes for teaching all the ettiquettes and manners, etc. We all usually try to send our kids to saturday/sunday schools at mosques
Indian, from Lucknow.
I am not married but when I look in the society that I live in there is so much corruption especially in the west where people tend to have harram relationships, listen to music involved in drugs and what not it puts serious doubt in my head about marriage
ur right brother it exposes women plus music and etc... so the money through it would not be halaal.. And Allah is pure and he accepts only which is pure... And one of the five question on the day of judgement is where u earned ur money from...
I wished my family could understand this thing... They love me ofc, but their way Is wrong.. They make assumptions of what I think of then which is wrong... I love them too,, I have my own regrets big regrets which I didn't say them.. I hope Allah forgives me but they don't treat me like an adult they treat me like a child-adult... I don't know what to do anymore... I even thought of self harm but it's not my body...thank God I know self harm is wrong... But I'm really tired
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I want to thank you for no advertisements...most muslims post the videos and do that..and its commercials for mormans or credit cards or liquor -_-! pointless don't you think?
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but i dont understand how they were muhajirs in an islamic way? They could practice their religion in pakistan? It wasnt like the quraysh of makkah that beat the people up for praying.
But alhamdulilah that they moved because otherwise i wouldnt benefit from their son yasir.
Really wish sheiks especially men would not make a great deal about getting married just to have children
Some women can not have children for whatever the reason maybe
So heartbreaking for the wife not being able to have a child or give her husband a child
Too much pressure is put on women to conceive as soon as she marries
Give her a Chance to be a wife first before being a mother for eternity
Is this dude Bengali?
When u call them muhajir i hope u are meaning it in a literal way. And not in the islamic way.
Literal way = moving from one place to another.
Islamic way = moving from a place of fitnah where u cant practice ur religion to a place without fitnah and where u can practice ur religion.
I am so thankful I dont believe this anymore.
But what can a person if they are born in like the uk. knows all the good of Islam without all the culture mixed in, and then their parents take them to get married to a relative from their parents homeland country? And all they know is islam with all the culture mixed in? How can you have a good relationship with that spouse to raise pious children when they dont believe in everything your trying to tell them and all the culture the they have mixed in the islam they grew up with in their country they came from.
Pray and make intention to bring your children up to be good muslims and allah will do the rest