Should You Be Friends With Your Ex? (Dangers Of The "Friend Zone")
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This is a question that I get asked all the time. It's really easy to be friends with your ex. After all, it's better than nothing, right? However, this usually isn't the best route to go if you actually want to get your ex back.
The first reason why you shouldn't be friends with your ex is because it prolongs recovery. You need to move on after your relationship, and you can't do that if you're still friends with your ex.
The second reason is that you need to make your ex miss you. You won't be able to do this if you're still around your ex all the time. In order for them to miss you, you need to vanish! Just disappear off their radar.
Let's talk about science for a second... relationships and breakups are kind of like drug addiction. Seeing your ex again is like having a hit of a drug -- and it's addicting. In order for your ex to miss you, you need to stop seeing your ex, cold turkey. That will make your ex miss you more.
The final reason is that you don't want to become their emotional dumping ground. You don't want to be their "breakup friend"... you want to be their lover, right? That is not helpful at all.
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I totally agree with you. Befriending with your ex is just dumb.
Yep. :-)
I mean, why would they say that to you? Won't they think that you'll get hurt more if you become friends with them and be stuck in the "friendzone" or "friends w/ benefits"?
yea very true😓
they seem dumb and selfish
What if your ex is ur best friend?
Being friends with your ex doesn't work.
That's right.
The Cowboy 3 years ago I ended a long term relationship with a guy who is now my best friend and like a brother to me
Sammi did you know befriending exes is a trait mostly shown by narcissists and psychopaths....
The Cowboy my ex called me his Bestfriend..😐 I was confused 😭
Your girlfriend is probably the luckiest girl on earth since you know a lot about relationship. Thanks a lot for all the advice :)
+Jemilyne Claire You meant my wife, right? :-) Thanks!
Jemilyne Claire yes
true..
@@BradBrowning Hey Brad what if you have kids together, and you need to keep taking the child there??Oh and what if he already come asking for you to get back in a week or so?Is that legit or not to be trusted?
In my quizz, I stated that we had daily contact, but this is over a yr later. We didn't have any contact at all for over a month. Then we gradually got started talking again. Now we talk or text about every day, but sometimes it might be a week before we actually see one another. We have never talked about relationships with someone else to each other.
What Brad is saying is absolutely true. That's what happened to me when I tried to stay friends with my ex after 7 months passed of being apart ( he was dating someone else when I wanted to get back ) so making them miss you is the key.
Thank you for the support, Sercan! :-)
@@BradBrowning my ex girlfriend getting to her girlfriend why she want be me part of wedding what I do ?????????.
I love this channel just because he actually cares! There's so many times i've seen a comment with his reply just below it. You're a wonderful man Brad!
Although not always on a timely manner as I've been very very busy recently. haha Anyway thank you for your support, I truly appreciate it! :-)
God bless the girl who told me to search your videos
:-)
Hello can you help me!!
My mom left my dad one month ago because she don't love my dad any longer. My dad has done no contact because he loves her and want her to come back. My mom want dad in the friend zone and she is texting and calling my father every day to see what he doing and she gets angry when his not response and texting angry and coming to our house.
What can my father do?? he wants my mom to move back but my mom will not! He loves her very very much please help!!
Hi Kim! You may be too young to handle this. Perhaps share my videos to your parents or your dad? This link in particular: th-cam.com/video/P-6MMmmObcQ/w-d-xo.html
Brad Browning should I tell
My
Ex I don’t want to be friends before I disappear?
Thank you for this video. I suggested friendship, after he broke up and he accepted it. I then offered to go to the movies together, he refused by being busy. I am now in no contact period. And it makes sense, really. Why would we place ourselves so low as to plead with someone to be with us. It shows lack of self-respect. I offered to meet, he refused, and that's all I can do. The ball is in his side of the court.
You're welcome! I'm glad you're starting to see the importance of doing this. Keep it up and always love yourself first. Anyway if you haven’t already, please like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
You said everything I needed to hear.
I took this advice and stopped being friends with my ex. I’m the kind of person who tries to make things a bright story but I’m so happy I didn’t stay friends with him :) I’m happier now than when I was in a relationship even.
That's good to know!
This situation is actually happening to me right now,,
Then you'll know better than to be friends with him. Avoid that like the plague and get out of the friendzone, okay? Stay strong!
Brad, I have a complicated one. my ex and I were together all throughout high school. we talked about marriage, kids, a life together.
I recently moved a state over due to a nasty divorce between my mother and father.
she promised she'd come and visit since I was so far away.
she worked and I made music for a living.
In her free time, she started to not respond to my messages for days and always hung with her friends and never wanted to spend any time with me so I ended it.
she didn't even really care and started throwing tons of things in my face like not being there for her when I always was and was one of the only ones there.
she recently started smoking weed and drinking alcohol with her coworkers and has become an entirely different person. she used to be down to earth and loved talking to me and spending time together when we could. Now, the only time she messages me is when I message her first. I miss her so much and love her more than anything. she tells me she "Loves me in a romantic way but never wants to date me again" but she wants to be friends. what do I do?
I'm very confused and need some advice.
any reply would be appreciated.
thanks.
Hey man, sorry to hear about the breakup and the situation with your parents. From the looks of it, both of you are having a hard time adjusting to this distance. How long have you been in this long distance dynamic? I say to give yourselves the chance to both adjust to this change, since it's a major one. Cut off contact and let her miss you first, all right? The distance may have frustrated her which caused her to act up since thinking about being in a long distance relationship is very different to being in one, when you experience it firsthand. So stay strong. Watch this, too, to help guide you further: th-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/w-d-xo.html
My now ex-girlfriend and I broke up earlier today. She’s the one who ended the relationship, and she got more emotional than I did. But before we started dating, we were really close friends ever since we were kids. I mean, I’m not gonna go into extreme details, but as friends, we were both always there for each other during our some of our hardest times when we were younger, we always talked out our problems with one another, etc. And hell, that was just us as friends; we were just very close and supportive of each other like that. But her and I really don’t want to throw all of that away😓. Is it still a bad idea to stay friends with her?
It is a bad idea. You both need to heal first. You both have to process the breakup first and go through all that pain and slowly let go of the bad memories...It is a process, but this is what the "no contact" rule is for, to help both of you move forward from that pain. A reconciliation with an ex means there will be a new relationship between you two where the lessons of the past are taken into consideration in order to resolve it to create a better relationship in the future. Does that make sense? Give your ex time to let go of the bad memories, however, this won't happen overnight and for sure takes time, so don't rush. Follow the tips on my other vids, especially this one: th-cam.com/video/FLeP1eRCkCk/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
My first experience had a boyfriend who broke up with me, on August 8, 2020, because of his pleading and using his aunt’s demise as a bribe trick me into this friend zone, and I still feel trap by it. I was forced to be a friend and I want to get out of this friend zone, his ex-girlfriend Anna ( the girl before he met me) used these video tactics on him and frankly hurt him badly.
she did the right thing and for me will do that on him.
Yeah, don't be friends on him for reasons I already mentioned in the vid.
so .... i have a question how are they going to miss you if they tried to find someone else ... like if she has company and comfort how are they going to miss you?
That's a great question, Sam. Typically "no contact" will make your ex miss you regardless of they've found someone new or not. However, if there's a new person that's filled the void for them, there are certain tactics that you can employ to ensure your ex thinks of you in a positive light. Go to www.breakupbrad.com
Brad Browning I'm friends with my ex boyfriend and I still wan't him back how do I do that if I wan't him to miss me?
Cara D'agostino Seriously the video above answers to your question. Unless you are deaf, I think you really should listen to the video.
***** >:( I did listen AND I'M NOT DEAF IF U DON'T HAVE SOMETHING NICE TO SAY THEN DON'T SAY ANYTHING AT ALL!!!!!!!!!!
So why are you shouting? O_O
Me and my ex did no contact for a month. Its been 4 months since we broke up. The first two months I was not aware of the no contact rule. I begged to get back together and she wanted to but wasn't 100% sure. We sort of faded away and certain things happened (Met new people). We were both furious at each other, so i Insisted on no contact for awhile. We have broke the no contact after 1 month and she said she does not want to make things work right now. But she doesn't want to have me out of her life completely. Being friends feels like it will build more attraction then not talking at all, because If there Is no contact between us, I know for a fact that she will forget and move on.We aren't like most couples, we were insanely close. I've checked out a lot of your videos, but it seems like no contact did no good for me and my relationship with her, so being friends seems like my only other option. I told her we should start fresh and put the past behind us and focus on the future and happiness.
The "no contact" rule is just the first phase of a three-phase process in getting your ex back. It's not the end game. Anyway if you're very close, then being just friends wont' work. Not until at least you've healed and/or no longer want her back as your girlfriend. You both need to transition accordingly since feelings can't be switched off just like that. So you ought to make a tough decision whether you want her back as a friend or as a girlfriend. Remember, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at th-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Hi Brad, I am a gay man. Me and my bf broke up a month ago but he has been contacting me for a while. We play volleyball in the same sports complex and one evening he just came all of a sudden and gave me a hug surprisingly to which I gave a very cold reaction because I was shocked. He wanted to catch up on dinner but he canceled it because of my cold reaction on volleyball court. I somehow met him for coffee and apologized for my cold behavior but I also told him that I cannot be "just friends" with him because it's hurtful. He was crying a lot and said that he wants me in his life but I told him that I won't stay as just friends. Me and my bf are taking this week to think whether we want to be with each other or not and will be meeting on Saturday for dinner to express our decisions. If he says no, I will stop all contact with him. Do you have any suggestions for me?
Basically give yourselves time first. Based on your story, I don't think you both went without contacting each other yet? That should be a priority, instead of confusing yourselves more by meeting up and stuff. For the meeting itself, this should help: th-cam.com/video/JbEoz81in-Q/w-d-xo.html
Hi Brad, we met and he decided that he doesn't want to be with me because he thinks we are incompatible. I told him that if we can't be together in a relationship then we can't be friends as we both need time to heal and move on. Since then, we haven't been in contact at all. It has been two weeks. DO you think I still have a chance to have him back? I am not sure if he will contact me. I really love him :(
This so true I tried the friend thing at work and no 👎 bad idea so we just went cold turkey 🦃 now it’s as if we dont now each other 😔and we both said being friends not best idea so here we are 3 months broken up and no hope of giving it another try ... slowly moving on I feel it’s getting better I no longer cry 😭 and I think of him lesss
That's what they always say, breaking up is hard to do.
I wasn't friends with my ex for a well but it seem like she got over me so I said let's be friends and we're friends but she does the same things we use to do when we were dating
Well, have you been actively trying to get your ex back? Don’t wait for this person to have an epiphany. Keep track of what you've been doing to see if it's productive or not, as far as getting your ex back goes. Have you checked out my guide yet? It may be time to revamp your techniques. Before anything else though, take the free quiz on my website to gauge your chances of getting your ex back. Answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
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Hey Brad, so my and my girlfriend ended on a bad note a few days ago and she had a negative view of me as a insecure and jealous guy. I just landed a job as a therapist and my confidence is riding super high. I asked her if she was already dating someone new and she replied "This is the kind of behavior that separated us apart" and I told her "I'm not asking out of insecurity, right now I'm riding very very high on life and I just landed my job as a therapist". She said "I am happy for you and you are in a great place. good luck to you and take care". I said "Hope all is well for you and the boys. We don't have to end this on a bad note. We're both good people. We can always be friends.". She replied "Yes, friends would be wonderful". Then I reminded her that disneyland is having the pixar fest this friday and if she wanted to go together and just chill. She replied "Sorry, but I'm not ready to hang out as friends. The break up is still new and I need time to heal." I replied "You know somewhere down the line if you're willing to give it a second try, I'm always open to it. Have a great day at work!".. Usually before when we broke up and I said something about giving a second try.. she would say "no thank you", but this time she didn't respond to that one and said "Thank you!" which is over course a reply to "have a great day at work!"
I'm wondering if being able to go out with her as "friends" which she knows I'm not trying to.. since we ended as me being very negative and lack of confidence.. she didn't ask to be friends. So if we were to go out one day and I showed the super fun confidence when we went on our first date (we were friends before we dated). What do you think?
Is that a good sign that she didn't shoot down that offer of giving a second try? and I am also starting my no contact rule starting today since I ended my text showing a very happy side of me.
What you're saying is so true. Great video thanks.
Hyeryeong Park You're welcome! Make sure to subscribe, I'd really appreciate it! :-)
This is my current situation.
He asked me, can u plz be a friend, and I want to restart our relationship. But now now my complete romance and attraction gone away. I feel be friends. I still love ur look, character every thing. But i don't feel u as my partner.(.like thiz.and he was sad and painful at that time.) There is no other relationships for him.. Plz help me i love him alot😪
Your ex is most likely lying about the reason of the breakup so try not to fall for that. Discussed that here: th-cam.com/video/ZuHWCWeG1xs/w-d-xo.html However, the bottom line is your ex has significantly lost attraction. Watch what I’ve explained here and watch the entire length of the video to gain full understanding, as well as know what to do: y2u.be/E9wG_ErBQoI It’s important to rebuild the attraction naturally so your ex will be amenable to working things out, eventually. This is what my guide is for but you can also learn the basic principles of my 3R system here and watch the vid til' the end so you don't end up missing the important points: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and the golden rules here: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html
So should I ask my ex now immediately after she broke up with me, to be friends or should I wait, like end of no contact-phase?
Hey Brad, my ex and I just "broke up" a few days ago and after a day or two, we started talking to each other in a fun and happy manner similar to that of when her and I were together. She made a sort of joking question to be friends and I responded in a pretty unusual way. I told her that I have already made plans to help myself and become better, that being said, I think we can be friends under the impression that I do very much want you back, but we can be friends until we see that have worked on those things. I have asked her if my proposal is clear and she does completely understand that I want her back. According to her best friend (who is also my friend too) she said that my ex still loves me, it's just that she started to feel like it wasn't as strong as it used to be. She also told me that she wanted to be friends for now because she didn't want to hurt me anymore and make the relationship too one-sided. To my surprise, the past few days after becoming friends has brought out the nice and sweet side of her again and one thing I noticed is that she has a sparkle in her eye again when we look at each other (in the end of the relationship, she would hardly ever look me in the eye) and I notice her looking at me more often when we're together. She makes kind of a joking reference to things like "we can't do those things, we're 'friends' remember?" I feel that there is 90% sarcasm and maybe 10% seriousness to it. I don't really know what it going on, but could this be a good thing or a bad thing that me and my ex are going through?
NightMareOSU Hello there, this is a tricky situation that you're going through because people don't change emotions overnight... and this is the part where having no contact comes in, to make you both (especially her) think from a clearer perspective. She also hasn't gotten the chance to miss you and you're at risk for being taken for granted if you technically are always there for her. Make sense? The reason for the breakup, most of the time, is likely due to a loss of attraction and from there, it becomes a process to get her back, sometimes a long one at that, but never to be friends right away after a breakup. You need to rebuild it naturally and that takes time as well. There's just too many things that can go wrong and it's usually too much trouble than it's worth if you stay friends right away. It's also important that you don't overanalyze what she says or do -- again, much better to cut off contact first. I have a full-length video at my website that explains how this process works, so I suggest you watch that presentation at @
Hey, brad! just wanted to say I love your videos but i need your input on something so please do reply. I did no contact with my ex for about a month and after a month he called me saying oh we should start to text again and talk on the phone etc etc. btw this is long distance. I live in NY and he lives in florida and we have hungout a handul of times. i played it cool and didnt show too much interest and he didnt hit me up for a whole week and then he texted me saying how he doesnt want to be in a relatioship right now but i am the girl he wants to marry. Then didnt talk to me for a week and he calls me in a very rude tone of voice saying how he wants to be just friends and wants nothing from me other than friendship. i acted a little emotional because i was hurt and he still flat out said i want to be just friends and thats all. too play it cool i texted back saying ok yeah ur right we can be just friends, so whats up? and that came off of desperate because its like ok ill be whatever of yours just talk to me and he never texted me back and since that day we havent spoke at all and its been about 5 days. please reply and tell me what to do brad. Please and thank you so much!
It's important to give each other space, especially in this case where your ex is showing signs of confusion. A plethora of emotions coming from an ex is somewhat expected when a breakup is still fresh and this is why I tell people to cut off contact for at least a month first and NOT deal with this ex. You both need to clear your minds first, all right? A breakup hurts both people in it regardless of who has done the breaking up. This is something I've discussed here, watch it to learn a few tips to understand your situation better: th-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/w-d-xo.html
Great video Brad, makes sense. I recently reconnected with my ex girlfriend since October 2020. We've known each other for like 12 years since 2009. I helped her out financially and she paid me back abit. We agreed to be friends. But I still like her and have feelings. Once I got news that she had a boyfriend the whole time and I thought that I might have a chance to rekindle, I was wrong. I Confronted her. Long story short, I did everything for that girl. And if she can't give me what I want, better I fade away slowly and not do anymore favors for her. She wants to remain friends with me. I took it again but I know in my mind I want more. No ultimatum here, me and her booth feel down because I spent way more time with her then her boyfriend these past 5 months. I didnt have sex with her because of covid 19. And I'm waiting on my vaccine first. Should I keep her around still, go cold turkey and not eliminate her completely yet and back of to have another chance with her?? The long history is what keeps this alive?
So in essence, you helped her out financially but what do you get out of it? If you want to take a risk, try to ask her out on a friendly date and see where it goes.
Brad, dating this guy 5months in Riyadh,he went to meet my family to make our relationship official to my parents while on vacation but when i was back discovered he was with another while im away...i left did not freakout..eventually they broke up after a month..now my Ex occasionally hitting me up but ignoring him..now he stopped contacting me...i believe i love him and want him back but reluctant to make my 1st step...what should i do?
Sorry to hear that. Learn the basics here to help guide you: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html and/or read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting, and the psychology of how a man thinks and understanding men in general. Good timing is essential! Check it out at www.breakupbrad.com
Be only friend with an ex if both of you have no romantic feelings for each other. Be 110% sure no romantic feelings exist at all. Then you can be friends.
But if some of you or both have romantic feelings, don't be friends.
The goal about not be friend with an ex, is not about get your ex back. It's about get yourself back.
But if you really want your ex back don't be friend.
Do you really want your ex talking about their new partner and they will be hang out together this weekend? No you don't. It will hurt like hell.
I agree. Thanks for your input!
Brad, I don't talk or contact my ex at all anymore, but she still follows me on Instagram and Snapchat and see's the stuff I upload (which is usually me having a good time with friends and some girls). Does this count as "disappearing"? Should I block them from these things so they don't see what I upload and totally disappear, or is this even better?
checkmyformplease1 As long as you're not contacting her in any way, then yes, this is considered as the "no contact" or what I'd like to call the recovery phase. It only gets bad if you keep looking at her profile to see what she's up to as it can go downhill for you and of course, you'd want to avoid that. :-)
My ex and I broke up just over a week ago after dating for just over 5 months and being friends since before then. She told me why and after a few days of zero contact and told her I was making an effort to change and asked if we could fix/start over with our relationship. She said no but wants to stay friends and said we can call/text each other whenever. We aren't on bad terms whatsoever. I still love her very much so I accepted which I now know could've been a problem. She contacted me first and did so a few times throughout the week. She did things like ask to borrow a movie from me, told me about something going on outside my dorm (we're in college), a snapchat of a song that came on that read "thought of you," asked to borrow a phone charger and we hung out for a bit the other day which was weird to say the least. I don't know what to do, and while I've been told the best move is to ignore her, she and I have class together twice a week so seeing her is inevitable. Again I still really love her and I'd do anything to get back with her, especially now that the semester is ending. What do I do?! I really need some help
JeRkEy952 I don't suggest being friends with her. It will only let you become stuck more than you allow and yes, that's a wrong move. Watch my other videos on how to get out of the friendzone if you think you're already deep in it with her. You can't ignore her since you're at the same class, but don't go out of your way to talk to her. Again, this stuff is in my videos where you'll get some tips: th-cam.com/video/ydeES3WU1Uc/w-d-xo.html
hey brad I see my ex every Friday and sunday for church activities how does that work
Hey Sean, you should be watching this. All the tips are here and follow it down to a tee: How To Act Around Your Ex (6 Tips For Handling Post-Breakup Encounters)
Absolutely not!!! When my ex sent me a breakup text he immediately asked me to be his friend. I told him we cannot be friends now that it's over. He became irate and told me me he was blocking my me and to do the same. I replied "Block executed!." Not only did I block him, I called my mobile phone carrier and had him placed on no outbound/inbound text list. NEXT!!
Sorry to hear that. I guess you're moving on? You did great by avoiding falling into the friendzone though. Watch this to help you out: th-cam.com/video/01wvLSaS9_I/w-d-xo.html
Brad Browning Yes. it was best gor me to move on as much as i love him. He was very narccistic, selfish and immature at 70 years old. You can't change anyone but yourself. Thank you for your valuable advice and kind words. You are awesomeness!
You're sooo for real my brother!!!! Lol
I struggle to find any one video that involves no contact that applies to my situation;1) He started leaving me in July and came back over the summer for 3 weeks (separate occasions) and we were sleeping together over 2 months, he was saying he loved me and wanted to come home.2) We have 3 kids together. So he comes over every morning for the school run and every evening because I work in London.3) I don't know if I count the July era as the start of the break up or when he officially said he was done. exactly one month ago...4) I started no contact for 2 weeks (only speaking about the kids) and then he said "I want to stop all this and aim to be friends", since then we've been messaging jokes back and forth and acting almost like we were except for the elephant in the room , us not talking about feelings. I offer him a coffee each morning and then some days we text back and forth all day, other days we don't text much at all...5) We have been together 8 years, married for one. We have disabled children and debts together. He's moved in with his mum. I've watched so many videos and read so many books, now I'm all confused as to where I am. I sort of did no contact then he said he wanted to be friend, I agreed because us ignoring each other during the kid swap would leave me in tears each time when he wouldn't look at me or come in the house. I am a natural peace maker. So I'm guessing I should try no contact again and fade away like you said?
Sorry to hear that. If things seem hopeless and you're wanting to save the marriage on your own, my clients found their peace by having applied the tips similar to the ones I mentioned on these videos: th-cam.com/video/F1nFUvtof7Y/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/lvH0STXVqdI/w-d-xo.html If you're still having trouble, consider signing up for my Mend the Marriage coaching program so I can help take a look at all the other factors at play and find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular, ongoing basis at www.marriageguy.com/coaching
this one happened to me and ot doesn't help at all it makes things miserable
Were you friends with your ex or have you cut off contact yet?
Brad Browning on and off slowly I Turning off my phone it's a good way for me
Brad Browning again I appreciate you giving me a little help or hope thanx
Hi Brad, how do I apply 30 days no contact if we are coworkers, and have to see each other everyday and talk? I am now only talk about the projects we are working on.
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
I just wanted to say thank you. Your videos and program helped me a lot !
+Kayla Shane I'm glad to hear that and you're welcome, Kayla! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I was only friends with her for 3 days. I couldn't do it because I wanted us back together. So I sent her a heartfelt message that I'm letting go. Though I didn't want to, it was only way we can move forward with growth. Do I wish I can still see her like I used to? You're damn right. She was a damn fine woman, but her insecurities and jealousy just pushed me away so bad. It's about to be a month since I last talked with her.
Hey man, I think I've just answered your concern on the previous/the same video with you asking similar issues in those comments, so please refer to those. :-)
Here's an update, she contacted me after 2 months and she's into a new relationship with this guy who was waiting for us to break up. She's been trying to be "friends" but I didn't really give that vibe. I think the only thing I said to her leaving the door extremely open was im here if you need anything. She tried contacting me again the next 2 weeks and I only gave her a one word response. Haven't paid too much attention to her because I only would want her romantically, and not just friends.
Hi Brad... this really a learning for me.. thank You.
+Irish Grace Araño You're welcome! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
Sure Brad.. thank you..
Can ALL this apply towards a Long, truly invested relationship? I'm 2 and a half years out of a Almost 12 year relationship - birthdays, family deaths, anniversaries.. You name it. We talk on occasion, have even had some "Encounters" to get a quick fix in the intimacy department, have talked to one another About our current or new relationships and even share memes on occasion too. I was the one who ended the relationship due to a family death that hit me too hard and i was doing stupid, stupid things - I never felt like i could redeem myself and i was tired of her being hurt for so many years even After i was working towards making peace with my past. Now, almost 3 years later, i can't simply Move on, go cold turkey or think about my life in the future without her, not something i can shrug at after All that time was spent with her and move on to better things.. May be in denial or just stubborn here. It's such a complicated thing. She's with someone and I'm Happy for her, really.. But i find myself comparing myself to the new guy or wondering what he's got, ect. One thing i Did do was have that "One last talk" with her in person. I let somethings come out that was heard as a ultimatum now looking back But wasn't my intention, we talked about the uncertain future in regards to the both of us and it eventually boiled down to her needing to give this new guy a shot. So with tears in my eyes, i gave her a hug and we both went our own ways. Fast forward, I'm holding on to this.. Somewhat unrealistic idea that we'll get back together eventually.. But it's hurting me constantly. God, where's Steve from the Jerry Springer show to come haul me away? Haha!
These tips are for long, serious/committed relationships, yes. For now, though, you ought to check with a few tips here first: th-cam.com/video/9LC1ewgBkIQ/w-d-xo.html My other videos should help out a bit, too but if you still need my help further on this, however, then you and I both ought to take a look at a lot of various factors at play, so sign up for my coaching program so I can help take a look at all the various factors at play including your overall relationship history, issue/s, among many other elements, and to find out what’s really going on, monitor your situation, and guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis. Please check on availability first because I only have a limited number of clients I can realistically manage before I go into spontaneous combustion. :-) Here’s the link: www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
the breakups made her really depressed and reckless so i was thinking that staying would help her come back to me.. i thought staying would have her keep venting her emotions to me and we'd still be talking and then she'll start finding safety with me and then choose to get back with me
I understand what you're saying, man. I really do. The harsh reality, however, is that most dumpers already have the "moving on" mentality or looking to a new direction by the time a breakup happens or even way before they drop the bomb on you. It’s to your best interest to accept that there's nothing you can do about that for the time being. Cutting off contact for around a month is the best choice because doing the opposite will make you look pathetic or clingy... and those traits are very unattractive…as opposed to being happy. If you act happy, your ex will wonder what he/she’s missing. Quite frankly, who doesn’t want to be around happy/fun people? Make sense now? The bottom line is you ought to show that you respect their decision and you're mature enough to deal with whatever comes your way and that you're taking care of yourself and putting you first - irrespective of what your ex does. Read my Ex Factor Guide so you'll know how to go about this at www.breakupbrad.com and pay attention to the stuff I talked about here: th-cam.com/video/T_W_ilf9x6w/w-d-xo.html
She's saying that she broke up with me so she wouldn't be a burden to me anymore.. She sees that I'm doing better and it seems to push her further, making her think that I'm better off without her.. I don't know how to stop her from feeling that way
They can't feel what you're feeling if they're a sociopath.
Yeah, that's a given, I think?
Hi brad first I already said yes for become friends but after I text this to her and cut off contact to her ..Hi , I'm sorry .Actually I was thinking . Being friends is not good at all . I was happy being in a romantic relationship with u . If that wasn't working out then It's probably a better idea spend some time apart . I wish you all the best..take care .please tell me is I did right ??
She said if you want I can delete your number 😰. What should I do ??
As long as you follow through and really cut off contact for at least a month, then yes, that was a good message.
This is so true.. i am trying hard to forget my ex, but still. Cannot because we are still good friends and help each other’s when needed, but sometimes, I am curious if he has someone in his life and start bothering too much about him. As long as he doesn’t have someone I am happy, but always have doubts if he gets someone. So, we shouldn’t be friends at all. Further, before my ex, the first boyfriend I had, had a bad breakup with me and I completely blocked him for more than a year, after that my feelings were fading away and now I have nothing for him, but for my ex, still have feelings because we are good friends and everyday reminds our past.
I think you both need to give it a time off, too. When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at th-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
smart guy
+deshawn anthony Thanks! Feel free to like, share, and subscribe to my channel so you won't miss any of my upcoming videos. I'd really appreciate it! :-)
I’m currently friends with my long distance ex who broke up with me a few months ago (she already did no contact on me, before returning and asking to be friends) and considering doing no contact due to some recent friction. The problem is, we’re in a chatroom with a mutual group of friends, and I don’t really want to forfeit my space to her.
If I talk in the chat, she usually responds. We both have the more dominant personas in the group, so often when we interact we end up defaulting into this flirty banter mode that takes over the chat. Sometimes it goes smoothly, sometimes she seems to pull back mid conversation - like she suddenly remembered we aren’t together anymore, and other times she teases/taunts me in some rather hurtful ways (although she did that in the months leading up to our relationship too, so I don’t really know what to think).
Sorry to hear. The distance will always be a major culprit. Is this long distance scenario temporary? Because if it isn't, then it's good as over. Watch/review and apply the pointers here first: th-cam.com/video/GQY4N04uvtA/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/5nfWRJRrnAs/w-d-xo.html
Hi Brad, My name is Al. I have a unique/weird situation. I was in a relationship for 10 years and my ex express that she wasn't happy. She has insecurities and trust issues. I even suggested that we go to couples therapy and she didn't want to. In March of this year we broke up because she wanted space. I didn't want to do this but I respected here wishes. In the beginning of the split she would call me but the conversations were very short but now the conversations are longer (15-30 mins) but mostly about her job. We don't see each other (No Contact). Just the other day she told me that she's dating and moving on with her life. She been on several dates and none of them have worked out. She blames me for that because she doesn't trust anyone and she lies to her dates when they ask her if she still talks to me by saying no. I told her don't call me if its causing you problems. Her response was I can't stop just like that and you're my best friend. I love her a lot and she means the world to me. I'm respecting her by giving her space I want her back. I'm so lost. I don't understand how she's moving on so fast after 10 years. Do you or anyone have any advice?
Hey Al, she may be forcing herself to move on. As much as you want to help her with her issues, understand that only she can work on that herself or if she wants to date around and however she copes with it, it's her choice and certainly not your responsibility. I don't recommend being friends with her. You need to heal and make her miss you and what it's like not to have you in her life. Watch the free video presentation about this on my website at www.BreakupBrad,com
Hi Brad. But if I stop being friends with her how can I get her back then? Should I wait until she reaches out first or something? I'm already on the reattraction phase and it seems like nothing works. She only wants to be friends. What should I do?
I suggest you employ the FULL 30-day "no contact" rule and be mindful of the tips in the following videos to help you out: y2u.be/gUBNd6pDINM AND make sure you don't make the number one mistake here : y2u.be/1cBpNrDDHnw
So once you've completed the no contact phase, watch my texting tips on how to re-establish contact with your ex. This is only one among the many texting tips posted across my channel. Start with these: th-cam.com/video/XonMtLFo000/w-d-xo.html AND y2u.be/RggluigF74E but if you're still lost about what to do despite the tips sprawled on my channel, then you may want to sign up for my one-on-one email coaching at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Best of luck!
I agreed to be friends with my ex after the break up and I fought for 4 months for it. We were together for 4 months, he had get divorced a few months earlier and has a child. Since October we were on really good terms. I was patient and I was so happy about the progress. I thought we would be back together, because we ccommunicated like before. Iam so foolish. After 2 weeks of Christmas break he didn't have time for me. I texted him that I was missing him. "What do you want? We're just friends". He's been avoiding me since. He was away for another 2 weeks and he doesn't care to meet me. I love him so much and miss him. What did he think? That I stopped loving him? That I was so committed because I just want to be friends? I cannot stop thinking about him and I am hurt every time he doesn't want to see me. It is like being broken up with again and again :( Why can't I stop caring about him and his son? Why am I so stupid to think that he would fall in love with me!? I know that I should let him go before he finds another girl.
Ah, not very subtle, are you? :-) Go by the golden rules here as much as possible: th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html It may or may not be too late, but it’s definitely time to move forward from those mistakes and not repeat those! Don’t be so hard on yourself, though, since this is a fairly common issue and most people are guilty of this at some point. If you'd really want to gauge your chances of getting back together (it may not be all doom and gloom after all) I suggest you take the free quiz on my website and answer as honestly as possible, at www.breakupbrad.com/quiz Good luck!
Hi Brad,
Decided to ask this here as it’s the video with the most relevant topic to my issue, I’ll try to keep it short.
Had a relationship, started really well, just rocketed sky-high in the first few weeks and was amazing for the first 2 months. Following that, she detached, possibly because she knows we’ll both be leaving the city we’re in now at the end of June and wanted a less-involved relationship. I couldn’t adapt that quickly to this new thing and we started arguing, finally broke up. she wanted to stop talking for a couple of weeks and then try to be friends when we’re back in town as we both left for holidays.
2 questions: 1. Does the fact that we agreed not to talk diminish the influence of the no-contact strategy? Should I keep in no contact for slightly longer then? And 2. We’re sharing the same group of friends here. Matter fact, we’re in a way holding it together and it almost impossible to imagine that we won’t be spending time together because of this. Supposing that after this no-contact phase, she doesn’t want to get back together. Should I go ahead with the ‘let’s-be-friends’ thing and in time try to get her back or should I reject the idea?
Thanks for your time and consideration
David Alan Hey David, most, if not all relationships start out great because that's the stage where two people are in a "honeymoon phase." Incompatibilities show up later around a year or two and that's where you can see if you two are really compatible and if you have "staying power," so to speak. Anyway it doesn't really matter whether you agree to the "no contact" phase or not, what matters is the benefits you get when you both go through it. No, it's not a good idea to be friends with an ex. Get my Ex Factor Guide so you'll know how to go about it at www.breakupbrad.com
I tried no contact rule for 30 days then I tried to talk . But I get emotional any express my love . He just want to be friends. Because his ex girlfriend also want him back . She is nice girl. He don't want to hurt both of us . He want both of us as friends. But I miss him 🥺.
Be less available and continue to work on yourself. Apply the tips here: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html
Hey! I am so frustrated right now! He asked me to be friends with him but i denied ...but i end up missing him like hell ..and now i am screwed.
Hey, so my boyfriend broke up with me after a 8 year relationship (6 years living together). Right after the break up i made a lot of the mistakes your other video talks about. ( texting, calling, begging ext) We still have to see each other a lot this month to move all our stuff out of our apartment (which he currently is not stay at with me at this point- but most of his stuff is). When he comes over we usually end up talking and the conversations are nice and not about the relationship (a lot of smiling and laughing) and we sometimes hangout after he comes over (go get drinks). He also said once (after about a week apart) that we maybe could rekindle things with time (said this when meet in person), but then about a week and a half later said " its friendship or nothing" ( in a text message) . I agreed to be friends, and now i'm going to have to see him a lot and every time i do i feel great, but after he leaves i feel down again. Should i tell him i can't be his friend? how should i do that, if i want more then friends, and to get him back (and he said friendship or nothing)? advice?
Sonja f As I've said in many of my videos, including the one you've just watch, do not be friends with him right away. Cutting off contact is very important here since both your emotions, especially his, are still up and down and (which is to be expected) things will only get more confusing for you if you stay in touch. I suggest you get my Ex Factor Guide so you'll have a better understanding of things and why you ought to be doing it to increase your chances instead of sabotage it, dear. Things don't look grim as you think it is, six years is a long time, so use that as leverage by playing your cards right and not do the things I suggest not to. Okay? :-) The link is here: www.breakupbrad.com
Thank for the advice , I have more issues now , he told me he is hanging out with anyother girl and they kissed. :-( . He says he unsure about her. And I even told him I don't think I can be friends with him , if there no chance of more. This seemed to change his tone a bit , because now he is saying he is unsure about me that right now he can't say he don't love me or does. He's unsure, even cried talking to me about it. I'm trying now to just go limited contact ( because we still have to see each other once an while at least this month) I took all our pictures down, stopped looking at his Facebook, stopped texting (unless it's bills or apartment related) , stopped calling. I feel discouraged because of this other girl, but I think he need to know what it's like to be without me completely ( because it seems to affect him - the thought of being without me in his life) Any advice on this?
Sonja f Then all the more reason to cut off contact, Sonja. Believe me, you don't have to hear about what he's doing or who he's seeing right now. Don't be friends with him! Have you watched my other videos or better yet, get my Ex Factor Guide? These materials will help you have a better understanding of why you need to do the things you have to. Emotions at this point are up and down, so you two shouldn't be talking unless you want to have more confusion and arguments. Take care!
My ex just gave me texts today after 1-half weeks of No-contact, she wanted to know more what I have meant when proposing us to 'still try' and that she keeps thinking us again and again which is bad for her, after brief discussion where I elaborated what I meant, I noted that she's seeing already someone new and I respect that. She proposed us to not burn all bridges and still be friends, I almost copied the line from Brad here.. And she got angry unfortunately. But indeed us being friends ISN'T good for her neither, if she wants to try her luck with the new relationship she's looking into I'm just in the way! I want her to realize this way that we were the real deal.. I understand her being angry is the "not having control over me".
Ok I feel bad of breaking the no-contact, couldn't stay CASUAL & Funny, but I guess if she brings up relationship stuff, one must discuss that. With authority.
Jaska Mäkynen It's too soon to be discussing relationship topics at this point and yes, agreeing to stay friends with her is a bad idea, and I say, a little selfish of her to ask of you, considering that she's already dating someone new.
I am so fucked... I have to live with the ex gf who dumped me for 6 months til our lease ends. Is there anything I could do?
If you still live with your ex, then do limited contact with your ex where you only discuss the essentials. Apply the tips here, too to help you out further: y2u.be/STL7ru4uSQk AND y2u.be/GTjEAGJWTuA I know it's hard, but lots of folks have managed to follow the tips and succeeded. So if they can do it, then so can you! Good luck and be strong!
Just the day she broke up with me ,she is asking if I’m angry with her how should I ignore the message?
Just ignore. It's a rhetorical question. Being broken up with not only produces that kind of reaction but a lot of hurt as well.
@@carolinaevelyn5824 okay
Great, i did everything wrongly. I befriended him from next day he dumped me. 2 months thinking we'd get back together. Being as best friends, or a proper couple without the deep intimacy. And after two months he is suddenly in a new relationship. Amazing. What to do know? Still wants to be friends... But obviously he isn't so close to me now
Do what you should've done from the moment you got friendzoned. Apply the tips here: th-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/w-d-xo.html
Hey Brad,
I did the no contact rule after my ex boyfriend broke up with me for a week and a half and reached out to him again through text. I didn't talk about the past and kept the conversation upbeat and positive. We've been talking more again but he still seems cold and kind of distant to me. I think he still wants to talk because he always says at the end of the conversation to text him in the evening "if I want". He's also been complaining to me about how sad he is about having lost a "good friend" at the university he is attending and last night he was going on about how bored and lonely he was. He makes no mention of appreciating my support or saying he misses me though...yet he seems to want to stay in regular contact. Not really quite sure what to do at this point? At this point he's treating (and thinks of me) merely as a friend and I don't know what to do to get him to "open up" like he used to. And I don't want to overdo or push anything. He also seems to want me to contact him first and he's only reached out to me first once, what does that mean? I haven't brought up anything about the past and have been just keeping the conversations happy and positive even though he seems to be the depressed one now and it used to be the other way around before the breakup. Do you have any pointers about what I can do to get him back?
kuhlekatze Hello there, a week and a half is too soon to be talking again. Realize his words where he referred to you as a "good friend." I hate to say this but you're making things complicated and in danger of getting in the friend zone or becoming an emotional tampon so he can get over this very breakup with you. 5 Mistakes That Ruin Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Back Emotions during the first 30 days of the breakup is up and down, and this why it's best to stay away from him and not interact for a good while. You've simply haven't given him enough time to miss you. I suggest to cut off contact right away and stick to within the time I recommended. There is a time to be talking to him again, but it's not now because as I said, it's too soon. Get my guide so you'll get the complete details (it's too long to discuss on here) as to how to go about getting him back. Right now I really suggest cutting off contact for a month. Watch this free in-depth video presentation on my website for starters: www.BreakupBrad.com
Hey, me and My girlfriend broke up about 3 months ago, and we started talking after a month. We talked about getting back together, but she said she was afraid, so we decided to see what happened. She wanted me to show her that I changed, so I did, I showed her everyday that I thought of her, that I love her and that I'll never make the same mistake. We kissed, went on dated, told each other that I love you. And 1 day she told me she got invited out by her friend.. and that she liked him a little, so she decided to go on that date, and then she told me that she wanted to see how it goes with him, something new... and I was heartbroken.. but I told her that I respect her and will always love her. And later she said that it didn't quite feel right to be with him, but she still wanted to try it out.. and I told her that she should just follow her heart and take some time to think about what she really wants. And she said that her heart lead to me, but she still wants to test something new with that new guy :( She confuses me, but I told her that I'll wait. But she does not want me to meet new girls and she said that I am her number 1, that nothing can come between us..
What should I do?! Help please
Sorry to hear that, man! Go through the basics of my 3R system here anyway. It's your best bet since your ex is likely rebounding: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
BCPlays I know I’m too late, but she has you on a leash. Run!
Brad I have been on and off with this person for three years. When we started out he showed signs of thinking about future etc. But when I asked him about it after going out for a year, he flipped out. He said he didn't mean to give me false expectations. And later we decided to stay friends only, which never worked, as we kept getting back. He cares about me a lot but he has some family problems which can't let him plan about the future yet. So he tries to never say he misses or loves me, but he doesn't mind meeting up. I recently told him I hated that. We got into an argument and I sent more messages. Then I deleted him from BBM and re added him so he would not read the messages. Now he has not added me back. Should I just let it go? Is it possible he has missed the invitation? I emailed this evening with no response yet. I am tired of the repeated hurt and break up but he really was a good friend too. Please help.
+Green Chilli Hi there! Try to see what's causing this on-again and off-again dynamic which has become a cycle. It's possible that you're both too close to the situation to really see what's going on. So, take some time apart and give each other space for at least a month, okay? Don't be friends as it will only blur the lines more and make things more confusing. Go and do your own thing instead while you let him do his and make him miss you as well, in the process. So stay strong, all right? Watch this: th-cam.com/video/5G1IRS-lCvc/w-d-xo.html
+Brad Browning thanks Brad. Yes that's what I am doing. I have been thinking long and hard about it, and I believe I don't want to get back with him again. A difficult decision but a right one. Wish me luck ☺ thanks again for your help
My ex said she wants to be just good friends with me...but now I have started the No Contact period...is it ok?
She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
Kinda difficult since me and my ex work together..
Do limited contact instead and keep any limited conversation you have strictly work related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
I have same Problem with my ex girlfriend now,she asked me to be friends,and i said ok, but now i don't feel comfort and she tried to control me ,she wait my text if not she don't text me first,since yesterday i have changed ma mind i quit texting and calling her and i will continue at least 30 days and i will see what will happen, hope it will work ,Thank you Bro..
She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
@@BradBrowning thank you bro🙏🙏🙏
What if we have kids together, should we still be no friends ?
Do limited contact or what I call the dynamic "no contact" rule. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
It's not the friend zone if you've already been a couple before.
It's a different thing of course if you're the one who dumped this ex... but not if you've been the one who's dumped, man.
My boyfriend still in contact with Ex wife. Mind you they have no. Kids together. They follow and like each others posts on Instagram. I have told him countless times that I am very uncomfortable with them being friends. But it looks like I keep talking to myself. I most of the time feel disrespected. He always assures me that he is over her and he's not going back to her no more!!!
That's something that only you two can settle. If this is a dealbreaker for you, you can give him an ultimatum than constantly suffer because of what he's doing.
I have been friend with my ex for 3month during this time she once said she miss me ....but today I jus texted her saying "our breakup means alot to me, it has motivated me to make some changes in my life .I'll be off for a while u might not hear me for somtimes" can u plz suggest something on this
I'd still suggest to give the "no contact" rule a shot because that's still really your best bet, which will work in a sense where you BOTH will get to clear your mind to be in a better position to deal with each other when the time comes - instead of letting emotions overrule everything, risking things to get blown out of proportion even further. Makes sense? But will no contact ALONE work to get your ex back? Sometimes it does, but other times (especially if your situation is unique) it won't, because the no contact phase is only part one of the three-step process I teach in my Ex Factor Guide. Learn the basics here: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html I also made a quick vid to those who are seemingly lost and could use a reminder on what to do: th-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/w-d-xo.html
This was extremely helpful. After 26 years of verbal abuse in our marriage I divorced him. I saw him a few days ago for the first time since court. He was so distant and cold and was singing his live in girlfriend's praises. I asked him to look me in the eye and tell me he doesn't love me.....He cried and said he will always love me. I broke down too. He asked me if we could be friends???? I had no idea what that meant until I watched your video(I thought he was brushing me off) He said he's moved on but he said he loves me?????
The thing with exes, especially the one who's doing the dumping (or in your case, abusing), is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? You risk too much by staying in touch. Watch this, too:th-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/w-d-xo.html
Thanks, Brad, so much for caring. I really appreciate you!
he knows what it's like; I stayed away for 2 years before the divorce was final hoping he would 'wake up' instead he has in his words" moved on" and is living with someone else in our house.
I tried to tell him I didn't want to be friends, but he kept insisting and wouldn't take no for an answer. I'm confused about how to move forward, and why his behavior is like this.
Stand your ground and don't respond unless you really have to. Your ex may be slowly easing himself away from you.The thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important. You risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html
We were committed for 2 years and then suddenly we ended. But IAM still loving. Now iAm in the 4th year. So I want to get him back 😭 so I tried to be friendly with him. So I had enjoyed a lot the moments by being friendly with him but he was dating an another girl who was my friend. Now iAm very sad. So i stopped messaging , liking and commenting . But he still sending messages . Does. No contact rule work here . Docter
The no contact rule should've been done right away, not 2 years after the breakup. I hate to be the one to break it to you, but it's time to move on. Discussed that here: y2u.be/k1myDIp0gSc
Hey Brad,I have been with my ex friends till like,yesterday when I decided that I can't do it like this forever hoping he might want finally get back with me. the only way to not talk to him through what's app or Facebook it was to block him from what's app and unfriend him on Facebook because every time when I said to myself I don't want to talk to him and want to move on and didn't had the power to tell him I have to stop talking to him,he would text me after two days and ask me how I'm doing and turn the world up side down for me again and made me talk to him again and be friends. Yesterday I made the mistake to tell him that I miss him and of course I didn't received anything back and I told him he is playing tough,he said he doesn't want to hurt me with what he could say back,so he didn't answer. that made me sad and I said to myself that it's better to hurt bad once than keep hurting every day. Do you think I did good? Do you think I should apply the no contact rule now? I wish I could just forget about him but,my heart refuse and I'm still thinking maybe I might have another chance to make him want me back like before because he said he loves and care very much about me but he is not in love with me. I need you and your advice again. Thank you for the last video. I love what you saying and your advices are important to fallow. Have a magnificent day Brad and thank you again.
+Stela Enache Sorry to hear that and I do understand where you're coming from. Anyway yes, your best option is still to cut off contact and at least let him feel what it's like not to have you in his life first, otherwise, he'll just take you for granted, okay? Take care!
I am In Different Situation I am following No contact from 2 months MY Ex wished me on My birthday And Asked Me that She Wants to have Fresh start As A freind.. But She Is Dating Another Person.. And I know That.. So I Just Asked Her That It would Be Hard For both us Now I dont Wanna Be Your freind.I wish You do Well and Wish you best. Take Care of Yourself. Tell Me Sir Am I right or Not. I have Lots Of confusion in My mind
Wait for a better time before contacting your ex. This should help guide you on what to do for the time being: th-cam.com/video/hlikXIfMYN8/w-d-xo.html However, make it a point to be really productive with your time being apart. Follow the tips here to help guide you further: th-cam.com/video/gUBNd6pDINM/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/1kJ1ybuFIHE/w-d-xo.html now when the time comes where your ex is free or is constantly contacting you, check out my other videos here in TH-cam to help you with a lot of texting tips. Good luck!
my girl & I have been apart for a couple months now. she works at the same gym I train at & I started just not acknowledging her or talking to her last monday. after a couple days passed she messaged me saying she missed me & acting like there was a chance she wanted us to be back together. when I gave in & started talking to her she started acting like she then just wanted to be friends & "didn't know how she was feeling". she's now telling me she was us to be friends & "see what happens" "like we did in the beginning". I should say no, right? my case is pretty unique so idk if maybe she is being for real & I should actually be friends with her & see if our romance rekindles itself.
Tyler Jones Being friends is reserved for someone new so you can get to know them better and it's certainly not advisable for exes unless both parties are okay and don't really care either way whether they get back together or not. Ironically, the best way to get an ex back is to be friends in a sense where you are back in touch and are hanging out. The trick is how you escalate things from these events so she can't help but be subconsciously drawn to you. :-) My Ex Factor Guide offers just that; a step-by-step process of how to get into her psyche so she'll be drawn to you. My advice to you depends on where you are with her as far as progress is concerned. Have you recently started hanging out? If so, then definitely DO NOT bring up the topic of your relationship and just focus on showing her a good time. You need to strike a balance between not being available and not ignoring her. In short, build the attraction back up slowly, you need to be patient on this one. Check out my guide at www.BreakupBrad.com
So my situation is hard . Me and gf dates for 10 months and just broke up last week . She said she still wants to be friends & we can still text & hang out as friends . But she said I didn’t try enough for her or put her first in the relationship & she said the guys that she’s been snap chatting recently , she said those guys actually try for her & she said it feels nice to have someone actually try for her . Should I try to win her back or should I fall off the map for a few weeks completely and make her miss me organically and do the no contact period for like 2-3 weeks ??? Thank you for your time & response
Trying goes both ways when it comes to being in a relationship. Unless you've ignored her in the past or didn't put any effort, I don't really see it as not trying. With regards to being friends, don't do it, man. She's lost attraction for you and it's a terrible idea to be friends with her. You need to cut off contact for at least 30 days first. Silence is key and here's why: th-cam.com/video/zw0ChuXCEmw/w-d-xo.html If you continue being friends right away, the boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates a rebound in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch these two videos so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, respectively at th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html and th-cam.com/video/sS4V4IOcOgs/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
hey Brad. I didn't make really any mistakes. I didn't beg or cry I just offered suggestions such as councelling. he agreed and then a week later he said he was done. I just let him walk out. was this a mistake? this was about 6 days ago. I think he's panicked because we dated a year and found out I'm 4 weeks pregnant. he said he loved me but wasn't ever in love with me and then asked to remain friends and I said no. I have initiated no contact and have only contacted him to grab me something when I was dealing with morning sickness. he stuck around and looked after me the entire night and leaned into me and subtle touched me. I could feel sparks there then he leaned away and sat somewhere else. I made the mistake and asked if he was back to dating and online dating again. he lied and said he wasn't. why would he lie? I got somewhat angry at him and he was on his way out the door and I apologized for my behaviour and told him I really appreciated his help that night. I he then said "we're still up in the air" and that he hasn't told anyone about us breaking up. he has contacted me a few times with jokes and asked me over but mainly for a booty call. I rejected the first time and then just ignored any further sexual advances. I went out and posted pictures on my Facebook using covert jealousy. but I'm wondering if I should just remove him from Facebook as well?
+celesteagw2 Hi there, sorry to hear that. What type of counseling? Was it couples or individual? Him freaking out due to your pregnancy may be considered a red flag. He may still need some growing up to do or he may not be ready for a committed relationship yet for whatever reason. It's hard to tell without knowing more of the story... consider signing up for my coaching program at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching Re Facebook, watch this for answers: th-cam.com/video/_3tnSYEy0W0/w-d-xo.html
what if you and your girlfriend were working on something possibly very lucrative then she leaves but wants to keep a friendship/business partnership
In my opinion I think being friends with your ex is not bad it really depends on what really happen in the relationship. If the problem wasn’t you at all of the break up than being friends is better than leaving her alone. Some relationship have problems, some relationship are ment to fall apart and some break ups can be build right back up even if it has to be friends because bonds are ment to be built and bonds are ment to grow and become stronger making that bond become into love. Nobody wants to lose a person when it’s a bond between each other and also being friends can help get your ex back. Think about it, be positive don’t be negative all the time it shows a bad example of you and will make you less attractive to your ex. You have to show your strong and you have to show that your willing to do anything to be with them again. You think it won’t work but did you even bother trying ? Did you bother to try to be more positive and less negative ? Nobody wants to be with a negative person. You fear that you won’t get that ex back ? Well face your fears put your self and for that person first over your fears. If you want something, go get it
Being on friendly terms help, after all, the second phase of getting your ex back is to establish contact. But the first phase is ALWAYS the 30-day "no contact" rule. If it's any consolation, all of the clients I've coached who have successfully gotten their exes back have always went through this phase of being alone. After all, how could you be with someone else if you can't even stand by yourself? You have to learn to stand up on your own first before you can form a healthy relationship. Some people who stay friends even after a breakup will only go through so much heartache as they learn things are really the same as they were and they've been used as an emotional tampon, then ended up getting mad at their exes. It's a downward spiral from there.
hi brad. He broke up with me a month ago. I had a short temper that got a little bit over control. He said that he needed time to find himself and to work on his business. Wasn't going to see anybody any time soon. he said that he didn't love me just loved me as a friend. when that past week he was telling me that he loves me and i was his. i begged and pleaded him to take me back. He said we either be friends or nothing at all. so after that night I sent him a text agreeing with him that we both need to work on ohrselves. a week later I didn't have a ride to the airport and his mom sent him a text asking if he can take me. Well enough he took me. by the time I was getting ready to leave I broke down and asked to take me back again . He told me the same thing. We still talk. ice been gone for 3 weeks now. But the thing that has me confused was that he's hasn't taken down that Facebook photos or status in a relationship.. But on instagram yes. our mutual friends don't know that we ended things.
Use the time apart to work on your own issues, but never be friends with an ex this early on. It's simply a bad idea to be friends. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at th-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
It's kinda hard since we have to work together. So I have to be friendly instead of being cold like I want to be.
I hear you. It's tough indeed. Do your best to keep your conversation strictly work-related. You've got a long way to go but for starters, you can follow the tips here to prevent things from getting even more awkward than it has to be: th-cam.com/video/GTjEAGJWTuA/w-d-xo.html AND th-cam.com/video/dDZrnNh8LOg/w-d-xo.html
Hei i contacted my ex to day after 1,5 Month, he dumpt me bye the way. I asked if he want to just hang out some time. He Said yes wi can, but remeber that we are not in a reallationship, and i dont want to give you false hopes... What do i do? 😭
This is why you have to be subtle and not jump the gun when it comes to meeting up. You're obviously too smitten by him and that's never going to work. Focus on texting and try not to meet up when you both aren't ready yet. The phase you're on is the second phase where you're rebuilding attraction. It's part two of the 3-phase system in my guide but here's q quick overview to help you understand better: y2u.be/7JtmVbDkblw but as you go on this phase, you'll notice one or more signs here: y2u.be/nmRM3dZAzDA and the best you can do is to continue to play your cards right and move to the third phase when you're ready. Good luck!
The way you get your ex back is simply by working on yourself and becoming the best version of yourself. Once you become high value she will want you back and even if she doesn’t want you back, there will be plenty of girls that may be even hotter then her that want you
Exactly. Never get stuck to the old version of you that's still pining for an ex, even though you are open to reconciling, it should not be your main drive.
Being friends with the ex means someone wants the other person. When a relationship fails, it's done and dusted. It is recipe for disaster. Just as much as I do not feel comfortable with my bird chatting up with her ex, I also do not like chatting up the bird was seeing.
I agree! This is why it's a bad idea. It blurs the boundaries and is just too much trouble than its worth.
It's been 19 days Brad, the boyfriend.. The real problem in our Relationship.. Has gone over the edge, he doesn't know it, but he's been showing up at my sister's job and has been.. Disrespectful to say the least to her, he doesn't know that we're related.. But overall it's been so so lately, I've gotten a second job, so it's taken up some time and making money.. But sometimes.. Those songs come on, that reminds me of her, especially that "say something".. It hits me hard but I can't be a pussy about it.. I just don't know what to do when the time comes and how it will go..
Take time out until he calms down before talking. If you feel like contacting her, then do so. But not until a certain period has passed. Watch my video presentation at my website to know what I mean: www.BreakupBrad.com
Hi Brad,
i should have watched ur vids earlier. I broke up with my ex last week and the next day i figured i still love him and wanted him back. i called him once and he texted me "you broke my heart" "give me few days". few days later i started to panic and getting so emo then i went find him. He told me that he misses his night life, hanging out in club and not ready to settle down. My act was kinda emotional that night but i tried to be calm and convinced him that he is not that kind of person. He was kinda insisted though. He said we can still be friends and all that kind of BS. I agreed and asked if we could treat each others like usual (romantic relationship w/o title) for a while. And he said okay. I wanted to trigger and arouse his feelings towards me, so i dated him to a short trip this weekend(overnight). After watching your vids, i kinda confused what to do now. Would the 30 NC works in my situation? (not sure if he still gonna miss me while he is having fun in nightclubs) Should i just cut him off now(we are still texting each other, but he is kinda cold), or disappear after the trip?
Appreciate your advices!
we were serious back then, met both parents, talked about getting a family...just he doesn't seem like he was telling the truth. would the NC trick works for us?
I guess I won't have to tell you that the main mistake was heading straight towards being friends without giving each other space first. It's still important to put the "no contact" rule into priority because if you've been in touch after the breakup too soon, then you BOTH aren't taking the time to process the breakup and been acting like it hadn't happened. Burying the problems which had caused the breakup in the first place is the first step towards a doomed relationship. Make sense now? Sign up for my coaching program so I can help assess your situation clearly, look at all the other factors at play and see things you might have missed, then guide you accordingly on a regular, ongoing basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
shit watching half way into this video made me feel slightly sadder because it's been like months since she pretty much found a new guy and i've stayed too much in contact already. i'm pretty sure i've already been replaced. this video kinda just made me think that when she and her BF breakup she'll feel this for him not me...god damnit. ah well... damaging life moments...
You always grow through the hard times. Stay strong!
shes getting serious with her rebound. Everyone told me she was stringing me along and using me as a plan B whenever he wasn't available. She would send me nostalgic things sometimes but mostly just complaining about her day. The last time she came over she said she couldnt stay the night and I saw she was texting him. She said he was out with friends. He lives across from her so hes over a lot. I told her that we probably shouldnt be friends right now so that I can move on and that I wish her the best and ill be here if she needs me. she responded with "I understand. I know. I wish you the best too" then a couple of hours later "My heart is broken but I want you to be happy". I didnt respond...I feel like I fucked up but it was killing me she blew me off several times and it was pretty clear that they were having a lot of sex (shes very sexual and last time I was at her place I saw beer and lube). I felt like I was just the shoulder to cry on not the sexual interest. I needed a power move but maybe I shouldve just stayed with not responding but I felt like they came across immature.
Like I said, man, try to put your focus elsewhere because your ex is likely rebounding and you're only wasting precious minutes of your life worrying about something that's out of your control. Watch this: th-cam.com/video/TBtb34gy6zw/w-d-xo.html This should hopefully get you back on track with what you ought to be doing during this time: th-cam.com/video/obBIttQSak4/w-d-xo.html
What if you don’t love your ex anymore but still want to be friends or be a part in each others life could it work ?
Watch the vid for guidance, especially this latest version: th-cam.com/video/pv_cjzhVKAY/w-d-xo.html
This is so simples if both parties don’t want to be in a relationship it is possible to be friends 😊
It's best when both parties have completely moved on before that can happen so as not to create drama to you or vice versa and the people around you.
What should I do if I already accepted my ex to be his friend? I already did the No Contact Rule and updated my profile picture, but I don't what else I should do
Peppermint Cookie currently I’m in the same situation. All I could say is think about yourself make yourself better. Yes it’s tough. During the no contact focus on your own betterment meet with new people as he says . Definitely your opinion will change. You will be independent.
You just don't be friends with him. You don't have to honor it just because you agreed. it's what's best for you.
Maggie M. I accepted him to be his friends but idk what to do. I’m still doing the no contact and bettering myself and focusing on my studies
Since you've already completed the full 30-day "no contact" rule and assuming you did it correctly, then the texting tips here will be a good starter: th-cam.com/video/uN_XAgHjaFM/w-d-xo.html but make sure you tick off the checklist here first: th-cam.com/video/BAhMrmw3Sms/w-d-xo.html This means you take time focusing on the second phase and eventually the third phase when the time is right. This won’t happen overnight, of course, but it’s something you ought to continue to work on to the point where you’re gradually building attraction again. This is what my guide is for. Have you checked it out yet? It's too complicated to explain everything on here, but here's an overview of these phases and what to expect in each one: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Good luck!
@@peppermintcookie5531 Honey, don't pay this dude any money. Do indefinite no contact because you can live without your ex.
I said yes to him for a friendship and I see him often but even though me and him are friends, he doesn’t put much physical effort to keep the friendship going. I still want him back and I’m a straightforward person which is a bad idea in this fragile situation between me and him also he does not wants to date me I am looking desperate. He got over me already and I kind of begged to get him back and he came but then he ended it saying “it’s not you, it’s me. I can’t handle this. It’s better if we are just close friends because I will still need your support and I still love you but dating can’t happen between us, I feel forced” I don’t know what to do in this situation brad, I still want to be with him as a girl friend by overlooking all the differences we have had. Help me!
it's hard I also want my ex back, but she only wants to be friends I never cheated on her ,not even once life is unfair.
When a breakup happens, most of the time this means he has lost attraction for you, hence, it's a bad move to be friends with him. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at th-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/w-d-xo.html but read my Ex Factor Guide since that’s much more detailed and so you'll know how to go about it, what to do after each phase (there are three phases in total), including what to say, do or not do, along with free bonus materials for texting. Good luck!
hi I've been in a relationship with this guy for awhile we talked everyday planned for marriage in the future .everything was great we had a long distance relationship in Oct I went back to my orginal state and we spent time together it was great. he was upset because his financial situation and then out of the blue he calls me and says we can't be together. some revelation he got that I wasn't the one for him. i was so confused and hurt . i returned home and he texted me saying now he can't love me in a relationship right now. that he loves me as a friend. i told him i will delete everything with our memories and he asked why would I do that. totally more confused. he said want us to be friends for right now ( what does that mean) one minute he's calling me beautiful and the next he is hardly texting me. the hard part is that his mom loves me and texts me everyday ,my ex and myself are in the same mentorship program and we still have still business ventures we started together. I have no idea what to do or why this has happened. I really need advice I still love him and his mom out of the blue told me he still loves me even though he says he doesn't. it's easy now for him to move on because I went back home to the state I currently live in. I'm just confused 😢😢😢😢
+nicole harris Hi there! Sorry to hear about the breakup. You really ought to cut off contact completely first, for at least a month. Just so you know, your ex asking to be friends and/or giving mixed signals is completely normal and I ought to warn you that those who remain friends never got their exes back. Don't confuse your ex wanting to be friends with him wanting you back, because while the former is usually instant (right after a breakup), the latter usually happens weeks, months, or sometimes years down the road. Okay? I posted a video about mixed signals from an ex, watch this: th-cam.com/video/RN6ndJZ0J-w/w-d-xo.html
Sign up for my coaching program so I can take a look at all the other factors at play, monitor your situation, and guide you on a regular basis at www.breakupbrad.com/coaching
My ex broke up with me yesterday, she says she loves me but not “in love” with me and we were both heartbroken, she said we can be friends.
It’s funny because we started off as friends as I always liked her, and she fell in love with me this way.
But I’m going to give it a month or two to give her a break.
Yes, give it time and stop forcing things. Try to have self discipline and remember, love should never be forced. Otherwise it becomes an obsession, so be very careful of going that route. If your ex dumped you and showed you he/she doesn't want to be in your life at the moment, you ought to respect that, okay? For most dumpees that is the case. It doesn't mean that will be the case forever but at the moment, it surely is, so respect your ex's need for space and have some self discipline. Focus on yourself instead. Okay? This vid is for you: th-cam.com/video/WVB0_l60SpM/w-d-xo.html
BRAD. We broke up like 4 days ago to focus on god and college and he told me he wanted to still be friends and later 10 years from now we will get back together if it’s gods will. But he still hangs around me and tries to find every little way possible to talk to me he got grounded and now he doesn’t have a phone so there’s no contacting over the phone but in person yes. He’s so desperate he got on his friends phone to contact me. He told me he still likes me.. I’m just afraid to do no contact (which I’m trying and it’s not working cause we have a class together and plus he wants to walk me to class like when we dated. I asked him why? He said “we are still friends”) hell forget about me or loose feelings... I’m scared because I now have his feelings in my control and I don’t want to loose that because I want to get him back😔😔
Don't mistake him contacting you for having feelings for you. I can almost guarantee you he'd stop trying to contact you once he's healed. See the thing with exes, especially the one whose idea is to break the relationship, is they also struggle with the breakup and finding all means to cope...including talking to someone they're used to talking to, a.k.a you. What that leaves you, however, is unknowingly becoming their emotional sponge. So if you want this ex back, you ought to let him/her feel what it's like not to have you in his/her life first, so employ the 30-day "no contact" rule, okay? An exception is if your ex is trying to contact you about something really important. You risk too much by staying in touch and you best not respond unless it’s about something important. Watch this, too: th-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/w-d-xo.html
I met him 2 years ago just after his divorce we became close then into a relationship We broke up a week ago as have had a couple of bad arguments it's like our past is still hanging over us. he said to just be friends as he needs to heal and doesnt want to feel rushed. I said it will be hard for me to be friends as I want more but I respect the fact he needs to heal he said I was selfish. But he said he loves me and cares for me a lot I haven't been in contact but he texts me daily I have responded but not sure the best way to handle it as I know he needs to heal. I've been working on my self healing but on another note we already booked flights to travel overseas and if we cancel them we lose money
It could very well just be your ex's way of coping, so try not to get too affected by that. If they continue to message, however, then this really depends on the frequency and nature of the contact from your ex and whether or not you've reached the phase where you're supposed to be talking again. If your ex continually messages you, then it’s important to put your ex’s messages into context, more so if this happened during the “no contact” phase. Is your ex trying to contact you about something really important, like an emergency, unpaid bills, or something equally urgent? These are reasons to respond, including messages where they get angry due to your lack of response. If this does not describe your situation, however, and your ex is really just texting some useless random stuff and/or asses his/her power over you, then you can just ignore and continue on with the 30-day "no contact" rule. Use your discretion. Watch and follow the tips here: th-cam.com/video/bgOG9s1fac8/w-d-xo.html
What if he says he doesn't hate you but doesn't say we should be friends. It was a ugly break up
That's a blessing in disguise for you to really focus on yourself! Here are the basics to getting an ex back, it helps if you're familiar with it: th-cam.com/video/aeGNPBdpnsI/w-d-xo.html Employ the 30-day “no contact” rule first. In order to fully understand how this concept works, you ought to know why you're doing it in the first place, otherwise you’re just following blindly. So watch the free in-depth video on my website to learn some psychology techniques and understand how giving each other space for around a month can benefit you (and why you’re supposed to be doing it) than otherwise, at www.breakupbrad.com
look I'm 17 and I really love my ex. and cannot stop thinking about her. she calls me every single day... video call and everything, but swear she don't like me....but shows every signs she does. she gets jealous and everything.....so what do I do...really want her back.
+Denziel Proctor The answer is staring you right in the face, man. Let her miss you, first. Okay? Watch this: th-cam.com/video/bSs5qL85cSc/w-d-xo.html
we were together for 2 years and two weeks after our 2 year anniversary, he broke up with me. I still don't have a clear answer why he did. It's been 2 months since our break up, I haven't moved up but he has because he's the one that broke up with me. he has never been partying and stuff like that, but after our break up, he has. he wanted to stay as friends and I was iffy with it after the break up. I haven't talked to him in a while but we recently contacted since we had a school trip together. he was so sad that I said I didn't want to be friends so I occasionally talked to him throughout the trip. but whenever we talk, he's always an asshole to me even though he's the one who suggested to have a friendship after the breakup. It's so confusing and inconsiderate of him and now I'm going to go back into ignoring him and not contacting him. I'm back in the difficult stage where I'm overthinking and I don't want to have tension but for me to not be hurt, I have to not care about what he is doing and move on. Why is he making me feel so shitty and hurt?
It's a terrible idea to be friends. The boundaries won't be clear and you're technically both free to date other people. Wouldn't it be pure torture if your ex dates someone else in front of you because you're only "friends" now, don't you think? So it’s not a good idea, especially if you want this ex back. Watch this video so you’ll know why being friends won’t lead you anywhere you wanna be with your ex and how to get out of this trap, at th-cam.com/video/yd6pvNVeHjI/w-d-xo.html but whatever the case may be, act responsibly yet try not to take things too seriously now since you may be in a period of growth and lots of changes, including preferences in attitude, personality, etc. Focus on your studies instead, all right? Take care!
I'm still with my boyfriend but he became friends with his ex it literally happens on and off everyear . I don't feel that much important to him. He tells me me and her are friends and every time he friends with her. He texts a bit slower . I told him this friendship is going to ruin our relationship he thinks it won't. I'm not sure if he's talking to her right now. But he did say I'm friends with my her a few days ago. It doesn't feel very fair to me at all. I was friends with her middle School not really the best of friends though. I mean I know her too. My boyfriend even knows i have trust issues. He he still says he loves me saying were good. It doesn't really feel that much good in finding out hes friends. I dont like this friendship I don't enjoy it. It feels to unfair to me. She also tells my boyfriend she has family issues
Hi! Sorry to hear that. As mentioned in this vid many years ago, I think it's a bad idea to be friends right after the breakup. I suggest you bail out. He's not going to value you as a friend especially if you still have hopes to get back together one day. Apply the tips here first and see the difference it can make: th-cam.com/video/SWERv_y3c5w/w-d-xo.html
what if your ex-boyfriend uses you as a friend, but when you were together he never used you were his Queen?
+girly-drama-life!! lovely Hi... sorry, not sure I understand... what did you mean by uses you as his friend?