Would You Date a Guy Who's Been with Guys?
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- Bethenny posed a question about dating a guy who has slept with another man. Who do you agree with?
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Thanks GOD for that elderly woman who was open minded and spoke her mind!
OkayItsJ yessss
Fuck you, don't equate sexuality to sex where the one side can't consent. You're a homophobic monster and I hope you never breed.
Ellen Crabtree // please get sterilised.
Jordan now now, calling someone a "homophobic monster" only makes you a monster yourself. This is not a cult, we don't call people who disagree with us "monsters".
Yep...she needed a standing ovation!
I am a bisexual guy and it really pisses me off that girls can't accept the fact. If I love you, I love you. I am faithful to you. End of story. My past is my past.
I would date a bisexual guy
I have a very real question about that though. Doesn't that mean that as a bisexual man that you don't just stop being open to men, even if you're with a woman?.. That's why it's called bi.sexual.
Being bisexual just means you CAN be attracted to male and female. When a bisexual person is in a relationship, that means they're attracted to THAT person. Bisexual doesn't automatically mean "cheater".
No, I don't care. I wouldn't date any guy who is bisexual. Deal breaker for real. I have to worry about you sleeping with men and women. Not only do i have to worry about female friends but the male friends as well. I wouldn't be comfortable, I'll always wonder about if you slept with him or not. And what if he does cheat on me with a guy, that's embarrassing for me.
I don't trust bisexual men, my male friend is gay and he looks for men who are in relationships with women to have sex with. Do you know why? Because they will keep the relationship a secret and give him everything he wants as long as he don't tell the woman. If they don't give him everything, he will dress up in a dress and go to that woman and tell about that relationship and he has done that before.
I'm telling you ladies, leave those bisexual men alone unless you want the drama. And gay men will tell you, that those men are actually gay. Most gay people will say, no such thing as bisexual. I don't care either way.
Jeannette Draper I'm gay and that's bullshit. Bisexual men exist and your friend is completely wrong sleeping with someone he knows is married, and a man being bi has nothing to do with whether or not he can be monogamous. A straight man can cheat on you too if he's not loyal.
when the audience exposes their biphobia except the ELDERLY woman
Christelle Calixte It would be a heterosexual couple... A man and a woman = opposite sex = heterosexual. Saying you wouldn't date a bisexual because they're bisexual is ignorant (biphobia).
Christelle Calixte Of course you have the right to refuse to date a bisexual but I have the right to tell you you're ignorant for doing so. I still don't understand how it wouldn't be a heterosexual relationship if there was monogamy but whatever.
Rookielove1 The LGBT community basically ignore the BT. Quite a few gay people have bought into the whole "it's not bigotry even though the only reason to turn down a bisexual purely because they're bi is because of small minded ideas about bisexuality" so basically we don't even belong in the "community" either.
that old woman looks like a lesbian
The elderly woman has nothing to lose, which is why she can be "open" to all kinds of things. Women who are looking to start families with men don't tend to be "bi tolerant", for good biological reasons.
you could just call this episode, "are you biphobic?"
And the answer seems to be yes for most of these women no matter how they try to sugar coat it.
Why cant people just accept the fact that there are people who just want to stick with man and woman and woman and man? Why does it always have to be a "homophobic", thing? Gay men dont want women. And gay women dont want men. But nobody calls them "Heterophobic."
Elizabeth B. Y
Brianna Dabriel You are not recognizing bisexual people (lgBt)
Elizabeth B.
This is such a disgusting segment.
@Manuel Figueiredo DC has been the glen for coming years to the point of America in a few hours and a new year for a few weeks to come and shag the glen of America for coming up with the new York times in a nutshell and the American dream of America and shag is not going to happen in a very short time and that Sam-I-am
Why does a guy need to have a car can't women drive.
True, true. This is the modern era, most ppl have cars.
Obviously these can't they are too stupid. Like the woman who said "if he wants me he has to invest" ok yeah and "how about you , are you investing in him ....?"
This is why MGTOW is growing FASTTTTTTTTTT
Shayek Miah for real, cold digging b
i was thinking the same thing, like have your own car if you don’t want to get on a bike
Wow, ignorance is still very much alive and well!
For real
Considering the host, it doesn't surprise me from her audience ... LOL
@ howudoin135; Ignorance aboout what?
lol shut up ...wendy watcher ....because it would be in the back of many women's minds.... How YOU doin? lol
howudoin1
the question here is not "would you date a guy that's been with guys" the question is; "would you date a guy that ADMITTED, he had been with other guys"
Exactly.
he chit. The real question is why can't the woman have the car.
1000%!!! You'd have to keep it under wrwaps FIRST but it also depends on how Good looking the guy is, I'm openly bi sexual, and women chase me all the time more than if I hadn't been open about my bisexuality. I just hate dating I prefer keeping my girls for sex and friendships, but they seem to throw themselves willingly whatever
@Drk RE how you know most men are straight?? Can you read minds?
@Drk RE so scientist can read minds too. Ok
Ugh being bisexual myself I feel so offended and hurt
+Kati G serious question, have you found that any of those guys are straight? or do they turn out to be either gay or bi?
Nicole Nunya No I'm taling about straight guys who only date girls.
i wonder how many of those girls have had a girl/girl fantasy, lol
Kati G and you should with your nasty ass bumping uglies with another lady
Christelle Calixte & Strange Boy // we are upset that we're being told that we might cheat, are fantasising about someone else, are somehow less desirable solely because of our sexuality, aren't actually bi and are just hiding in the closet (the most harmful of the accusations), etc.
those are accusations that actively hurt us as people. they damage our reputation long before someone even gets the chance to know us. we're being treated as barbarians incapable of devoting ourselves to a partner. don't date us if you don't want to, but don't paint us in a harshly negative light just because of a sexuality we had no choice in developing.
does no one know the definition of bisexuality or pansexuality?
Z Colin. People don't care. I am pansexual and I get nothing but annoying questions on the differences. I just tell them google it.
GigaRex 201 😂😂😂🤣🤣🤣🤣
They don't
Not everyone goes on Tumblr.
Bisexuals like/get attracted to both men and women in sexually
Pansexual like all genders not in a sexual way but because of character
Thats my definition
"It's not a security thing, but..." -oh yes it is!
Why the hell would that be a dealbreaker? no more so than him having an ex-girlfriend being a deal breaker. open your minds people.
boxerini They can date whoever so they please. bisexuals are not entitled to date whoever they want. their reasons were a bit mean but still, you can't force them to date a bi man as you'd be no better than them
boxerini sorry but I'm straight and am into straight guys... it's not biphobia
@Sunflower Rose Not liking bi men is fine, but I’d be curious to hear your reasons
What’s actually toxic is calling somebody homophobic and biphobic every two seconds. If someone doesn’t agree with a lifestyle, opinions so what?! How does that effect your life in anyway there are plenty of people who live the same way you do and will accept you 100 percent for who you are and how you choose to live. Keep it pushing! Everyone’s entitled to their own free will, opinions, beliefs wether you agree with them or not. It is what it is.
@@katiedougherty4458 genuine question, why would you prefer people based on their sexuality? I mean if there's a guy who's hot and y'all click together but you find out he's bi why wouldn't you date him?
That girl who said it wasn't a security thing. It is a security thing.
Most likely although it could be a preference thing or something.
No she just finds it appalling and would much rather prefer heterosexual men. She was being nice with her wordings with the security thing, it’s far from security.
@@mayasquaw2254 it's a security thing
@@Ultimate_316 to you, but it doesn't change the fact that it's because you aren't secure enough to think you're good enough for a bi person. It has nothing to do with the bi person.
@@Ultimate_316 I did. I literally just said it, you're not making sense. Just say you're insecure and go.
It hilarious to see that how some women probably consider themselves modern and still need to date a guy who definitely has a car and has enough money to "invest". What are you? A property? Can the guys bargain your price down? Can't you really see how sexist, judgemental and shallow you are? And probably go along, and talk about true love and how much you love romance. Such hypocrisy that the only thing you care about is actually money and muscles. And I am not even going to talk about how biphobic you are cause I can't, I just can't.
Thank you! The only important "investment" you should do in a relationship is time, trust and dedication, not buying fancy dinners or having a car. Do you want do go to a date with someone by car, or eat somewhere fancy? Pay for yourself (and your partner)!
I agree with you about the bisexuality part as well, not even going there.
@Manuel Figueiredo Hey, it's okay. Keep dating men, women don't want you anyway.
I would date a bisexual guy without any problem
I mean if a guy doesn’t have a car, that usually means he is a bum and isn’t ambitious and doesn’t have goals. The guys I know that don’t have cars, usually aren’t good men.
The amount of biphobia on this show is really gross. I would have smacked that girl who said stay in your lane....
So you're violent
@@aspiknf that was 5 years ago dude... i was a teenager
@@Daisy2177 No probs :-)
Well Ofcoursesir i wouldn’t expect an idiot to understand :)
Bi what? Good grief. This world...
I wouldn't date a bisexual man because I'm a lesbian. I would date a bisexual, but not a man.
I dunno who asked
@@justicethedoggo3648 i did
Fair enough
As a bisexual man, that's an acceptable reason.
@@Juviasuperfan u rll didnt
I just watched a clip where this woman said that guys "should" accept women "however" they are. The audience agreed. So this is very telling.
No one is obligated to date anyone. Doesn't matter the reasons. Dating is inherently discriminatory. As long as that discrimination doesn't extend beyond dating, it's perfectly fine.
Thank you!! I thought I was the only one here with common sense
So why do y'all attack men when they ask about your body count?
Don't they have a right to not date a person with a high body count?
@@speedythings7396 I think it's seen as invasive and women with sexual history don't want to feel slut shamed esp if they've been with many. But ya, truthfully people have a right to choose...even based on someone's history. If it's a problem then likely the man or woman aren't compatible.
@@LeratoM98 It's not even about slut shaming or invasive. Men are simply dismissed as "Insecure". If any preference is valid then why not this, women lie to most men about their experiences and project it on men as being "Slut Shamed".
Even if men reject it on that basis they correlate it to being "Slut Shamed"
I hope men's attraction towards women completely dwindles down. It's a losing game for most men.
Maybe instead of expecting a man to have a car you should go buy a car of your own
weykmanfr -No.
Praise for the old lady . I'm bisexual myself and ppl always make it hard for us guys
I have a question for you, hopefully you would like to answer it. If you're in a romantic relationship, do you ever feel the need to be intimate with someone from the other gender than your partner? I just started dating this great guy, and he's very open and honest to me about the fact that he has had sex with men in the past. I hate to admit it, but I was quite a shock to me. He told me that it was only for sex, and that he wouldn't be interested in a relationship with a man. I really don't want to let him go, I just have to get used to the idea of him in bed with men. I'm just scared that if we follow through this relationship, he would start to miss being with men, and maybe at some point cheat on me. I'm pretty open minded, but if I'm honest, it does bother me somehow. Maybe because it's still such a taboo and we don't hear a lot about this
@@lindaslinger4413 I'd say each Bi is different, like each straight or each gay, talk about it through and through with him, make him feel secure so that he tells you how he really feel, and see if you can live with whatever sexuality/romance he personaly wants. If your desires match his, then voila! Otherwise it's unfortunate, but you can stay friends and meet people you match more with!
@@lindaslinger4413 I've been with a bi man for the past 12 years and all is well. I was also a little worried at first and I'm realizing that's extremely common for women who are dating bisexual men. I'm sure he may fantasize from time to time. But I'm pretty sure all men fantasize in general. It's whether or not they're going to act on it. You have to trust him the same way you would if he were straight. It's personally brought my partner and I closer together because he knows he can trust me with his most intimate, private thoughts and moments. He knows I'm not judging him. He knows I love him exactly as he is. I hope things worked out for you either way!
People have their preferences. You can’t be made that people don’t want to be with a bi person.
not really
There is nothing wrong with a straight woman only liking a straight guy. Not everyone has to like everyone it’s just preferences.
no because they EXPLAINED why. and their arguments were all offensive and dumb.
@@stephanepresley yea I agree their reasonings could be offensive but my original comment is just a general statement and still stands.
@@madisonpatriarca6690 you are right. i just felt like it needed to be mentioned. i hate bigotery and as you can see on here its not preferences. sadly. this does represent todays society. I've also watched other videos where women give their answers. its always bad. I'm happy im just gay cause oof. bi guys are rejected left and right. they are mentaly so strong.
@@stephanepresley yea I hate bigotry but I think the general public does. But their answers weren’t that bad. I dont think bi men have such a plight compared to other struggles around the world. The people of first world countries are spoiled. But yea I’m sure it’s hard getting rejected by the gays and the straights that must be so tough🥺😂
I'd happily be with a guy who's slept with another guy.
Strange Boy how
toothless nightfury lol why do you care?
And get cheated on.
@@lupitavalenzuela6206 you bisexual and you running around and be against bisexual men?? You think you Better than bisexual men because a very few straight men fantasize about you?? Gtfoh??
@@lupitavalenzuela6206 as a straight guy, I won't date bi woman because of same reason fear of being cheated.
why is it acceptable if a woman has been with a woman but not if a man has been with a man?
Glenn White because straight women dont want to be with a bi/ gay man ew
You'd be surprised by how many women did go as far as to marry a gay man because they loved their husband's particular "sensibility". Consciously or unconciously.
Who said it was acceptable? I've heard opposite most my life.
Because men and women are ....DIFFERENT.
The physiological differences have psychological implications. The sex roles are NOT (purely) social constructs.
The "Were you on top?" remark by that one woman ( 5:20 ) should provide a strong hint, right there. ....These women, most of whom obviously have not been so thoroughly brainwashed by political correctness in school, are giving a very natural, gut-level response to the idea of being with a man whom they do not regard as a "real man".
They UNDERSTAND that men and women are NOT totally equal. This is a dominance and submission issue. They understand that femininity and masculinity relate to the issue of dominance and submission in the sex act; and the prospective male mate who reveals that he may have "submitted" to being used like a female is someone disqualified to be her "man" - on the count that he has "lowered" himself (and obviously can't be her MAN).
...In contrast with WOMEN who have had sex with women, such a woman is already on the lower tier ("the woman"). So, this wouldn't be objectionable to a man. He is seeking a WOMAN (someone to SUBMIT to him).
They grasp intuitively what the modern leftist elite wishes to eradicate: an understanding of the PROFOUND difference between the male and the female in mammalian-level creatures. The leftist agenda of destroying all NATURAL hierarchy in the name of TOTAL EQUALITY obviously has not made much of an impression on these ordinary women (especially the black women - who regard this nonsense as typical WHITE feminism).
To answer your question, think about what a woman is seeking in a "man". Is it just a penis? ...She can just get a dildo, can't she? ...It's the whole package of a man - a genuine man - that she seeks, with ALL of the qualities of his masculinity. INDEPENDENCE (psychological as well as material) is one definite aspect of masculinity. A man should be "master of his domain". ...His MASCULINE AUTONOMY (in relation to his fellow men - think of the psychological aspects of the "band of brothers" [..."brothers"? ...why "brothers"? especially considering the rank hierarchy inherent in a military unit?...] or the idea of "male bonding", which is thought to be jeopardized when you introduce sexual desire AMONG those men) - his autonomy would obviously be compromised in a very profound way if he SUBMITTED to being sodomized by another man (particularly if by choice - not as a victim of rape). ...The qualities she is seeking in a MAN would instantly evaporate in her eyes as soon as she grasped that he allowed himself to be compromised like that.
When men are seeking a woman, he wants a WOMAN.
When women are seeking a man, she wants ....a MAN.
And the differences are real and profound.
Glenn White that's ewww too
5:42 this woman is the boss
Maze And she's older, too! You'd expect the older generation to be less accepting, but she actually knew what she was talking about.
There's a path you take and a path not taken
The choice is up to you my friend.
Nights are long but you might awaken
To a brand new life,
Brand new life,
Brand new life around the bend.
Okay listen, not everything is discrimination. People are Allowed to have their own opinions and preferences. Stop trying so hard to find things that offend you.
own opinions and preferences? no it’s just a double standard
@@sirsobrepensador double standards aren't discrimination tho... There's not reward, just a preference for girls and a preference for boys.
Private sources are allowed to use all preferences to decide body autonomy.
Also dating as a whole is an example of double standards goofy.
I don't date men, just women... That's a double standard durrr
@@sirsobrepensador , it's still a preference.
It depends on the reason.
Yes you can have a preference but if it's based on bigotry and misinformation you're going to be called out on it.
Same with businesses, you're free to deny service but not for the reason that you don't like their race or because they're disabled.
"No" is a full sentence, you don't have to explain your reasons if you just end up being biphobic. Stop trying so hard to find faults.
1. i would also get a bike and go on trips together, that sounds nice and it saves gas money
2. If the man was bisexual I'd 100% accept it, but if he was in fact gay and was forcing himself to be what they call 'normal', then no thats cruel it'd be torture for both parties,
lastly, people are done with sexist expectations rn, if i was dating a guy and he chose to take me to a fast food restaurant on a date, the only argument would be about who gets the last pizza slice.
where we can find woman like you. iak really trying hard never met any other women like you
good for you that’s awesome 😎
This clip is so incredibly biphobic..
This sentiment of yours is so incredibly biphobic-phobic.
(Just declaring that someone dislikes something - even a whole category, what does that accomplish?)
@@MrJm323 fuck off bigot
and this may be why there are many down low fellas. so much for honesty
This segment is offensive as hell, y’all are making a joke out of it
This is how I see it: if you require me to have a car to drive you around, then I require you to clean my house and make me a sandwich....since you want to be sexist and all....
Michael Davis hell yeah, now that's a comment! The smartest comment I've read all day.
I have an apartment and my boyfriend cooks for me. Gotta love gender roles.
@@lumyb9064 Gotta love cute doges
Fair enough. I hate to drive and love to cook.
I don't really believe what that one girl said about say they guy is gay for doing that or, my think he is gay. Just because he had sex with another man does not mean he is gay. He could be bisexual, or pansexual or there are other sexuality out there. Also he could have been confused about his sexuality at the time or just experimented with it.
For me I would be ok with it.
You said exactly what I was thinking
as long as he is turned on by men that guy is GAY, no if And's or But's about that
no..a lot of men experiment...how shallow
Strange Boy how do you know what you like if you don’t experiment ?
@@Ava-rh7oi C'mon that's a silly question, you don't need to experiment to know your sexuality
Christian Soehring u don’t need to experiment, watch gay porn n u will know
@@aspiknfyeah but still alot of men have frot their dick with other men as pre teens. That's experimenting.
It's ok not to want to be with a man who has been intimate with another man. I am sorry to offend anyone but I still think it is ok not to be forced to comply.
Yeah. I agree. I think what has people mad, though, were their reasonings. The first woman basically said her opinion defines someone else's sexuality. The last woman was kind of confusing to me. How come the level of mistrust is heightened when he's been with other men but the fact that he'd been with other girls doesn't bother her? Her reasoning just seems like straight up insecurity.
It makes me sad that people think this way, or rather don't think.
"It makes me sad that people think this way, or rather don't think."
Which one?
They mean that some people are aware of why they don't accept bisexuals for who they are, but other people would be fine with bisexuals if they stopped to analyse and fix their misconceptions. I think most people fall into the latter camp.
It makes me sad that people judge women for what they like.
It sucks that Bisexual females can get away with anything and get praised for it and cheered on, yet a Bisexual man is punished for it like it's a crime
It's totally backwards and a bit unfair, however, there are still some women that are really open minded like that old lady and i have to say that is awesome that she stood up and said that with honesty
I Love My Beard, you can be open minded and only want a straight man.
its ignorant to say that it would be in the back of her mind because a man can feel the same way about a woman hes with if shes bisexual but this goes to show you even women set double standards.this society is so hypocritical and stupid
rafael esquivel exactly
Yessss
rafael esquivel, it is not ignorant and it is not stupid or hypocritical. It's the truth. It's ignorant to judge them for it.
Womyn are hypocrites, nothing else
I think because men on men sex they is penetration involved which can lead too 🦠 .. atleast at an higher risk . Y woman to woman dosent have such or much risk for 🦠. I will assume that's y many women are so against it.
As a bisexual man I can understand a woman's perspective because of the HIV rates on the other hand heterosexuals are no different I mean not all use condoms having babies some have diseases not to mention downlow men.
That's the trouble there's so many people who think HIV is only a gay men disease and don't be cautious in straight relationships.
And like you said men who are downlow are possibly more likely to spread disease than someone who is openly bisexual and takes precautions.
@@G1NZOU yep that's right
Love the woman at 5:40
Saying you wouldn't date a guy because he's been with guys is like me not dating someone because they've been with someone who's black! that's the level of ridiculous! own up to your biphobia
The color of a person's skin has nothing o do with sexual preference, It's a woman's prerogative to share her body with whomever she choose, if she not in to bisexual men they need to accept it an move along. let them find a bi woman to date
Teri Lynn Of course it does, they are exactly the same. You're saying it's okay if I sexually prefer not to be with someone who has been with someone black. This isn't specifically about women though. This is about everyone. Everyone has the right to choose who to sleep with and that includes the example I gave.
Heyayup Black people tired of you guys always USING us in this argument.
I am black and I accept that I am not everyone's cup of tea and move on. You should do the same.
@@joyclarke335 Agreed
If not being attracted to bisexual men in itself is wrong, so is not being attracted to men with children or anything of the like. It's not a big deal. Plenty of women would date a bisexual men. And the ones that wouldn't, I doubt they're losing any sleep over those that are crying over their sexual preferences.
yea and I believe 75% plus men living are either gay, bisexual and pansexual and only 25 % ish are full heterosexual.
Listen people are ENTITLED to their preferences. I personally don't think I could never date a guy who had sex with another man because I don't want to be in a relationship, or have kids with a man who is bisexual. That is just ONE of my many preferences. I also prefer; tall guys, Black guys, financially stable guys...etc. People make it seem as though you HAVE to accept and cosign *everything* they do or say, and if you don't that somehow makes YOU close-minded and judgmental. People should spend their time trying to date people who already accept them for who and what they are instead of wasting it "shaming," and trying to control and manipulate the views and beliefs of those who do not accept them for who they are.
*Hypocrites.*
That's not a preference. Because that has nothing to do with you. It's biphobic.
Angela Carlsson I couldn't care less about you thinking that me not wanting to date a bisexual is "biphobic." Call it whatever word you want. I don't have to date any person I don't want to, for any reason I choose. My *preferences* do not need validating or explaining, least of all to you. Who tf even are you? Do you call gay people "heterophobic" because they prefer to be with people of the same sex? No, because that would be idiotic.
Oh my god, well said. I’m tired of hearing this bs when we are allowed to have preferences to and if it doesn’t comply with their BELIEFS than we are homophobic. That is them trying to shove their BELIEFS and preferences down OUR throats. I personally wouldn’t date or marry a BI man either for my own reasons and that IS my preference.
Amen! We all have prefences.
@@ilovelabradors998 Agreed!
Double standards much???
"Double standards much??"
False equivalence much? ....It's called SEPARATE standards - because there IS a difference between woman and man. There are particular needs for each sex.
@Christian Soehring they get over it in atlanta women cant do nothin about it when their dudes do those bi stuff,they will accept in few yrs..
I don't know why so many people are so angry in these comments. Nobody can force someone to have a preference. If a woman only wants heterosexual men then that's their decision. That's like being angry because someone only likes short women, that's their thing. And the people with the comments about that's the reason guys are on the dl???? Boy bye, that's just a selfish shady man. You are who you are, if that person won't accept it then take it like a man and move on. And also everybody is not giving the okay for women to be bi, all women have not experimented, nor do we want to.
As a bi guy this is so disappointing.... like, do people not know bisexusality exists?
The joy is that you can get with women anyway! This nonsensical show isn't representative of the reactions I've had when women know I'm bi, not at all.
Glitter Grasshopper these people must be educated
Glitter Grasshopper, ...What a peculiar thing to say. .....Did any of these women say that bi-sexual men DIDN'T exist? What do you think the topic was about?
The majority of the women in the audience were saying that they didn't VALUE such a man as a romantic/sexual partner. They were saying that they had particular needs when seeking a man for that role, based on their NATURAL feminine psychology. ...They were acknowledging what political correctness actually forbids them to acknowledge: the NATURAL and PROFOUND differences between males and females (physiologically and psychologically).
As to the particular reason why they didn't value such men as romantic/sexual partners, pay close attention to THIS woman ( 5:20 - 5:37 ); but particularly what she says here: 5:32 - 5:35 . ....And, that's not a frivolous matter for a feminine woman who is seeking a "real man". ....Interestingly enough, it's not entirely unrelated to the issue of whether or not he has a car. Masculinity requires a certain spiritual and material AUTONOMY in his relations with others. A man who SUBMITS to another man, sexually, is a guy who has become a "bitch" - something less than a man - or a kind of "fallen" man. ...Not an unimportant issue in the mind of an authentically feminine woman.
What are you talking about?! One of the women cearly said "if you have sex with men you are gay".
Strange Boy
So you’re prejudice, discriminatory and racist. Wow you’re a real nasty bitch aren’t you
Wow, these women still think that a male has to tend to their every need? Can't they have a car and drive him around? They aren't pets or children that need to be taken care of by someone.
I'd leave a girl IMMEDIATELY if I found out she's bi or she'd been with other women. Call me homophobic all you want idgaf, my preference is straight women only and I have a right to date my preference.
Yes Indeed! You speak the Truth
I think it's quite unfortunate the stereotypical attitudes around sexuality. I should lead with, I used to have those same attitudes until I became good friends with a few people from the GLBTQ community. The thing is a guy who is bisexual deserves the same trust as a man who was not a virgin when you married him. Further, you should never marry or maintain a relationship with a man you don't trust to NOT cheat on you period. If he loves you enough to marry you, like any marriage, you should trust and believe that he's not going to go and sleep around and if he loves and trust you enough to reveal something like that to you, as a supportive wife you should be making an effort to understand why he did it or at least his opinions about sex because, after all, its these same attitudes that push these men into secret encounters of the gross kind and how you get burned. Just sayin.
This🖤
Anon Ymous, and women deserve to not to be judge for only wanting straight men.
Anon Ymous, a bisexual man should be honest from the start.
I only date guys who have dated other guys lol!
Andrew Amidala so you are gay
Jessica that's the joke, smarty pants.
then congrats, you're just as trash and biphobic as the audience!
she said, "was you on top?" lmao and i blew coffee through my nose... was you on top lol
Frottage exists
I can't believe how close-minded and ignorant these people are.
I can't believe how people judge people for wanting a straight man. Isn't that close minded and ignorant?
Didn't know Take Me Out had a US version ??? Thought it was only in the UK
I wouldn’t mind dating a bisexual guy
Lies
Why is the girl like “if you’ve been with another man, then you’re gay”. What’s the reasoning behind it, like you know people can like more than 1 gender duh. That’s bisexuality, pansexuality. Just admit you’re projecting your insecurities on your partner, that’s it
Exactly. That's her own fear of him turning out to be gay. I don't understand how so many women hear bisexual but interpret it as gay..when in reference to a man. Yet when they hear a woman is bisexual they seem to grasp it just fine.
@@ashleykristina2964because they think only women can be bisexual.
I love how everyone is just openly biphobic with smiles on their faces because its still socially acceptable…
Sure weirdo policing ppl who to date nowadays.
@@royalblood9381 It's not policing who to date, it's exposing the reasoning behind their decision not to date.
If someone is your type and is attracted to you, and you're attracted to them, them being Bisexual should not be the dealbreaker it apparently is to these people.
If they're worried they might cheat because they have double the chance of being attracted to someone else to potentially cheat with, that's biphobic, because the chance of them cheating is not dependent on the number of people to cheat with but whether they're committed and honest in the first place, which has nothing to do with their sexuality at all.
@@G1NZOU idgaf🙄🙄.
@@royalblood9381 Seems like you do.
Such a lame comment 🙄
That's rude, if he's bisexual than it isn't his fault..
Strange Boy most intelligent comment so far
He isn't bisexual. He is using women to cover up his homosexuality.
@@lupitavalenzuela6206shut up .men don't choose their sexuality .no man will leave women for men ,have u seen women ? They are stunning.they are 100% born that way.
I don't think I would date a woman who dated a man who had sex with another man. Just thought I'd throw that out there...I'm pretty desperate too so....
Very valid point. Thank you.
guys are more sexual than girls, & a guy could easily pick up another guy without even trying...so no. i don't like the sound of that!
7 years later.. Did u change ur mind.. Hope u doing great..
I don't see the problem with a man experimenting with the same sex in the past. Men see past women having sex with other women, I don't get why women can't do the same.. is it an insecurity thing?
I don't think it's just insecurity, I understand that I may sound narrow minded but for me I like the idea of my man being somewhat masculine and if a guy has sex with another guy it will emasculate him in my eyes, especially if he was in the receiving end. I understand how bigoted it might sound but honestly It would always be in the back of my mind especially during guys night
And guys usually like the idea of a threesome which is why they like the notion of women experimenting with other women. I never encountered a women who would like to share their guy with another guy during sex...
Annelvine
Well I've been with a couple (male and female) where it turned on the female that I was with her guy. I've had other people interested too that I never took them up on the offer. It is a double standard that women get to experiment but men don't.
sandcastlecollapsing I believe you and I am honestly glad that there are women who don't think the way I do. I also agree that it is a Double Standard and I wish I was not part of it. I don't have a problem with the lifestyle b/c I am a strong believer of to each its own. But when I think of my significant other being with another a guy it's just a deal breaker for me…sorry
I understand. Thanks for your insight.
yeah cos' having wings with dan is so much different than having wings with stefani
I’m a bisexual 27 year old guy. I feel like I have to hide my bisexuality towards women because of this stereotype and the emasculation. When it has came out I get ghosted. So I’m at a point in my life now where I’m not necessarily done dating women but I’m just done looking. Like at the end of the day a person whose heterosexual can be the worst partner when it comes to fidelity or they can be very faithful, same with bisexual or pansexual people. Our sexuality is not mutually exclusive to fidelity.
You should not hide your sexuality from your partner no matter what. I hope you find some one who deserves your love btw why don't you try the other lane too ?
honestly that lady who said any sexual gender is fine, we root for you. maybe her talk show would he more successful than bethenny’s
Mylo, you should root for everyone.
As a bi girl I would love to date a bi-guy. Also yikes.. The biphobia and ignorance is strong in this one. 😬
There’s no biphobia and what ignorance do you speak of? This should be interesting. 🤔
1) Being in an open relationship and dating a bisexual ARE NOT THE SAME THING
2) Being unfaithful and being bisexual ARE NOT THE SAME THING
Shallow women , see if he focused on his self and focus on his purpose now women mad 😠
When I was still in the closet I had sex with a woman and my current boyfriend doesn't have in the back of his mind like "my boyfriend might be straight, and I don't want to risk when he has friends over, because they might have sex." And even if he did think that, trust is everything in a relationship
Even for the straight men they pursue, this is a red flag. It's screems insecurity, they wouldn't trust you have platonic relationships with anyone conventionally attractive
Then you should go with that attractive platonic dude or chick. That phrase insecure is just an exuse for cheaters
@@VAZAX7 And always has been.
I know so many girls whose type is gay. Guy after guy after guy turn out to be at least curious. I think the unavailability and emotional asd actually attracts many women.
I think the most hurtful comment was you're just gay and the general distrust. I really regret watching this even though i knew what I was getting into by watching this.
Bethenny was right, i would also have gone with the guy with no car. I mean come on you're not gonna turn him down just because he doesn't own a car. That's mean !
Kudos to that older woman 💜
God, she's disgustingly judgemental.
Grandma is a whole freak! Also the bi people are MALDING in these comments LOL
The old lady is the only intelligent person in a sea of narrow minded people who think in black and white
I'm so glad this show was canceled.
Why you say that?
The Prime Minister of the UK, Boris Johnson, rides a bike you doughnuts
Most people in the world are bisexual only if your incapable of love would someone's gender or sexuality influence your dedision to love that person. We are all souls, souls have no sex, sexuality or race just pure conciousness. It's the soul your attracted to not the body, if it's the other way around that's not true love.
slick willy Well aren't you a shitty person?
Most people in the world are straight
People have preferences. That doesn't make them bad people. Bi men aren't entitled to anything.
Not true. Most people are straight.
the old lady fresh asf. drippy and sensible
I am a straight women and I personally think bisexuality in men is hot
Not much I can say other than that this hurts and a lot of humans are disappointing
As crazy as it sounds, bisexuality is a thing. The more you know ladies.
This why so many women are single ... men don’t wanna deal wit it reason I get y’all straight men
"was he on top...?"
Oh my god.
The audience is so hypocritical i mean earlier Bethenney asked the question about is it for men being other men but when a lady stated her opinion they applauded.
Isn’t it ironic a elderly woman spoke up against all the hate and ignorance and she’s from a older generation which is notorious for said hate and ignorance
Mckai, it's not hate and it's not ignorance. Bisexual people seem to hate people who don't want them.
@@renealexander2703 no…we just want to be accepted for something we can’t change such as a persons race you can be killed for being black and America just as much as you can be killed for being gay bisexual trans etc. but also I’ve noticed you have gone on a tirade of spreading hate and ignorance in the comments section so I’d recommend to educate yourself before you make yourself look even more ridiculous than you already look right now with basic facts and easy to disprove narrative.
@@mckai4717 , being accepted does not mean that people have to date you. And I am not spreading hate. We just want to be accepted for what we like. If most people want a straight person, then respect that. Isn't it hate and ignorance to call someone a bigot for what they like and what they freely chose to do with their bodies? If you want to be respected for what you like, then do the same for others. Accept them. And it's ridiculous to call people ignorant and hateful for not wanting to date you.
@@renealexander2703 it’s not about wanting to date someone it’s about human decency now please go do something else except responding to literally every single comment in the comment section with your nonsense
@@renealexander2703 Absolutely. They want acceptance and to have their way only. Life does not work that way.
Those girls couldn’t date a guy who lives in Northern Europe, almost everyone has bikes.
Lmao, I thought you were gonna say "almost everyone is bisexual." 😂😂
it’s not a phobia it’s just a preference, and if it takes away from his masculinity in your eyes then that’s just what it is. y’all have got to stop attacking ppl for not jumping on the LGBTQ bandwagon
Most preferences for not dating bi guys are rooted in biphobia. Do you have a preference outside of not believing in bisexual men or fear that they'd cheat on you with a man ?
@@prehistoricwatergun0136 Bro she's right. It's just not natural for two men to fuck eachother up the arse. Get over it bro.
@@prehistoricwatergun0136 Yes. Women aren't enough for them.
@@lupitavalenzuela6206 " I wouldnt date a guy thats into fat girls and skinny girls cause skinny girls arent enough for him so he finna cheat" thats how you sound
@@prehistoricwatergun0136 , not true. Most women just want straight men.
isn't it just insecurity that because a person in a relationship is bisexual that the non bisexual partner just assumes that they are thinking of someone else other than them and that they are more likely to cheat, it is absolute nonsense
women don't like that lesbian thing either miss girl
Why are people judging women for their preference? If they're not comfortable, let them be.
There are millions of men in the world who wouldn't date or marry a non-virgin woman, nothing wrong with that, it's an individual choice.
Exactly!
Ladies, if your man confessed to you that he had sex with a man and you guys keep your relationship and if that thought is still in the back of you head, I don't think you truly love him. I think it takes true courage to admit to something like that and that's showing real love. If you think that will bug you for the rest of you life, then you need to break up with him because you're not in love.
Jake S, if he was in love or respected her, he would tell her he is bisexual immediately.
Lol a guy HAS to have a car and money to take you out, wtf do you have to offer? A pretty smile and a summer dress? I cannot believe how materialistic they are. I buy my girlfriend things all the time, but she doesn't EXPECT me to buy it or tell me to buy it, I do it because I want to. Some women need to know their worth. I guy can't buy you things in the situation he's in, so you keep on dating until you're in your 40s and wonder why you're still single?
that "yes" was so offensive. they should shut the hell up. my god theyre PEOPLE.
Old vid, but wanted to add appreciation for the older woman being open-minded, and honestly more reasonable than all the women immediately dismissing a bi man. Hopefully, things have changed since this vid was posted, although I don't think I would've thought it would be this bad in 2012...
Do you mean in 2022 instead haha, you’re 10 yr behind !
@@KhandyVongxay Did you not notice that the video was posted in 2012?
Nicka Lah, just because a woman does not want a bi man does not mean she is not reasonable.
okay this is absolutely disgusting. like wtf? I hate how the moderator-lady was all like "yeesssss"...no. just no.
(except the elderly woman, bless this queen)
I've dated someone who was on the dl and it's just wrong... I don't mind a guy being gay or bisexual, but not as my mate. I want them to be only into me...and I can't supply what men supply so I wouldn't want to even try to compete with a man.
It's not about what you supply. It's about the fact that you trust and love your partner enough to only want to be with you. Just because a guy is bisexual doesn't mean he's going to want to get drilled every other day, and then be with you when he isn't having hot gay sex. Chill out.
It's called a strap-on, and it's called pegging. There are even straight guys who like getting nailed by their girlfriends. Really, are people that clueless about sex, even these days? I mean, my god, society grants so much power to the penis it's pathetic. Just look at the relationship-based stereotypes that still exist concerning sexuality... Do straight guys care if their girlfriend is bisexual? The vast majority don't, why? Because it's perfectly fine to love the pussy, pussy is no threat. However there are a ton of lesbians who have issue with girls that are bisexual. Why? Because, OMG, that girl actually might want THE PENIS, and they don't want to have to compete with THAT! Do gay guys care if a guy is bisexual? Most don't (half of them will simply assume the guy is really gay and just not completely out yet anyways), because they have no fear of competing with pussy, no fear the guy will leave them for a girl, they assume the guy likes dick more anyways. However, do straight girls care if a guy is bisexual? So very many do. Why? Because, OMG, that boy might actually want THE PENIS, and they don't want to compete with THAT! Basically, nobody cares if someone might like girls. But if there's a chance someone might like guys? Massive threat they can't handle. Which essentially tells us two things. One, as I said, society grants way too much power to the penis. It's not that big of a deal, strap-ons were invented for a reason. Second, this distorted perception as to the power of genitalia has caused women to become way too freaking insecure. Guys don't care about competing with girls, because they don't see vagina as some inherent threat. But girls freak out over the idea of competing with guys, because THEY HAVE DICKS! It's as if they assume that the possession of a penis, or lack thereof, makes or breaks every relationship with a bisexual, ever. And that inevitably, if someone is bisexual, that doesn't *actually* mean they could be satisfied dating either gender, no, it somehow means they'll inevitably wind up with the dick. Women of America, it's 2014, WAKE THE FREAK UP!
As a bi person I can say that once a person is with you, they are with /you/. Not for what you have or haven't got. If I think a girl is cute I don't think, "man I wished she had a penis!" hehe Whoever you date is of course your choice but I can safely say that just because someone is bi it doesn't mean that they're unfulfilled or looking for something else. I can't help but feel a little hurt by seeing comments like this and I'd be heart broken if a man chose not to be with me because I likes girls too
Lisa C I wholeheartedly agree with you, and wish other people could see it this way too. Maybe one day! :)
***** Thank-you so much, I don't know why I started reading down through the comments because I already knew that it was going to upset me. I think that people who feel that way are insecure, a lot of people express distrust which is insane. If a person is going to cheat, they're going to cheat. Just because you're bi it doesn't mean that you're automatically unfaithful. Thank you for your lovely reply! And fingers crossed for that day :)
How horribly close-minded of a lot of them. It does not mean he's gay. If he's interested in you sexually, then he's bi.
It's not close minded.
@@renealexander2703 it is.
@@Smartass8504 , it's close minded to not respect other people's dating choices.
@@renealexander2703 nope. Your partner having been with other men prior to you is none of your business and does not make them less of a man. Your issue with that is something you need to unpack. Closeminded as I said.
@@Smartass8504 , no. It's your business if they want to date you. And if that's the case, if a woman does not want to date a bisexual man, it's no one's business but her own. Calling women names for what they like or don't like is closeminded and rapey. It's something that should be unpacked. If the LGBT wants to like what they like or don't like and not be called names, then do the same for others. Otherwise, it's hypocrisy, bullying and closeminded.
Thats biphobia. I dont get it.
There's a difference between saying you personally wouldn't date a person who has slept with someone of the same sex and being biphobic all these people aside from the older lady were being ignorant and rude, including Bethenny. You don't have to be rude about it. This makes me hate your show. I am very disappointed in how hateful this episode was and at the lack of consideration you have for your bisexual and Homosexual Viewers.
Biphobia from the straight & gay community is so disappointing. I’m a gay man and could never imagine holding that trait against someone I was dating.
It's not biphobia.
Have these people ever heard of a bisexual person before?
if he is bisexual then fine, as long as i know he is interested in me. if a guy is going to cheat on me im done with him regardless on if its a women or a man he does it with. if hes bi and hes likes me the who he has sex with before is not important unless STI are involved, but that would stand for if he only has sex with women too
There's a plus to being bi or gay, not having to deal with someone that won't accept you or love you because you ride a bike and prefer specials.