I experienced severe anxiety and depression all throughout jr. high & high school right into my twenties. I'm sure it was from growing up in the church along with all the name calling and bullying I got from other kids. I never got help I because I also had crippling shame and didn't know how to ask for help. I think I also hated feeling like a "case" when it seemed like everyone else around me was okay. Too much of my life was eaten up with issues that should have been addressed so much earlier. I'm glad he got the help and is on a better path now.
This stories are sooooo important: even in my 30s, I draw a lot of inspiration and love from this interviews: I can only imagine how important it is for younger guys struggling with all sorts of issues. Keep it coming!!
Act fast when you notice something wrong...very good advice. Unfortunately for me the first time I ran into problems, like Joe, I let it go on too long because I didn't recognize the warning signs. I didn't have that experience. I didn't even know I had a problem until it was too late. It's good to hear someone else's experience to help us recognize when to act. Thanks for posting this.
Awww poor dude. That is an incredible story of how human nature favors honesty and goodness. I came out in high school, but nowadays, now that I'm working as an architect and developing my career, I feel a real uncertainty about what it means to come out: to co-workers, to clients, to my boss etc... everyone assumes I'm straight and most of the time I don't bother to tell new people about my sexuality, despite the fact that I'm also married to a man. I realize that something I thought I would never again have an issue with has resurfaced.
I grew up and came out in Placerville in the 90s. By the time I got to the stage in my life where I could get places like New York City, something in my trauma and just my age just kept me boyfriendless and I struggled to find dates there too. I’m glad New York City worked out for you but relocating to a city doesn’t always create the connection opportunities for all of us that we really need from adverse mental health conditions we endure being raised in less supportive environments.
What a handsome, wonderful guy. As a fellow 21 year old gay man who is struggling with the hardships of being a gay man in this world, I needed to hear this. Although I have been out to virtually everyone in my life since I was 13, the other aspects of gay life have impacted me vastly, and I it is so important for gay men to have platforms to share their experiences with other gay men. :)
Illuminating & important! We MUST SUPPORT each other regardless of race, creed or orientation. Only one negativity may be the straw that breaks the camel's back. Guys, you were the toughest at that! Thanks for sharing your stories!
Joe, fantastic. About two minutes into this, I said to myself "he needs to see a counselor." Good for you, man, that you did. This will help many who felt like you did..........love you, bro..........Ray
We are also living in NYC metro area. We've tried to contact lots of therapists but none of them would ever pick up the phone! We really need help and I'm just sad that things like this are happening.
Wooo, did this one ever hit home. It's like he's telling my story. Except, I haven't been able to move to that "oasis' yet and live my best gay life. Please, god, let me find my oasis and my inner peace....let me find me.
I love your story. I'm so glad you made it through and got help. I'm straight and can totally relate to having anxiety and finally getting help after suffering for a long time.
There is a real calmness within you it’s called love stay in touch with that power and utilize everyday to benefit yourself and others...love the red hair!
Going through some of this myself, though not as extreme. Also struggling to embrace my sexuality. I like his last name: it’s Portuguese like mine. God bless.
An important message from a seemingly nice man but like so many of his generation he would be a more effective communicator if he did not incessantly use the word "like". By actual count he said the word "like" seventy times in this clip.
Folsom is a suburb of Sacramento. California's capital, metro area of 2,500,000 with a "gayborhood" called Lavender Heights and one of the most gay cities in the country as a percentage of the population. Please don't make it sound as if you grew up in the middle of nowhere with no access to a gay lifestyle or support.
I came out in Sacramento back in the 90s and grew up in Placerville 50 miles away. Sacramento is a very mixed bag and Folsom and other areas of the suburbs could be quite conservative. But yes, this man had it a lot better when they had a short drive to get to where there was a supportive area in Midtown Sacramento, and even San Francisco, which was less than 100 miles away. Placerville in the early 90s coming out was just really scary.
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Are we just going to ignore how majestic his red hair is?
LJLY -- Oh you noticed it, too?? Magnificent!!!
lesbian Jesus loves your your username is fucking amazing
-j- why thank you!
You kidding. I love gingers. Why I even clicked. 😂
djbrianc
Same, special people. in his case the hue is particularly attractive.
Beautiful man, brave sharing, ...and that is a great colour shirt for you. 👍
Lucky Henry totally agree, everything about him blends well.
I experienced severe anxiety and depression all throughout jr. high & high school right into my twenties. I'm sure it was from growing up in the church along with all the name calling and bullying I got from other kids. I never got help I because I also had crippling shame and didn't know how to ask for help. I think I also hated feeling like a "case" when it seemed like everyone else around me was okay. Too much of my life was eaten up with issues that should have been addressed so much earlier. I'm glad he got the help and is on a better path now.
This stories are sooooo important: even in my 30s, I draw a lot of inspiration and love from this interviews: I can only imagine how important it is for younger guys struggling with all sorts of issues. Keep it coming!!
He is beautiful! I'm glad the anxiety is finally over and he can be himself. He inspires me. I love the ginger.
Act fast when you notice something wrong...very good advice. Unfortunately for me the first time I ran into problems, like Joe, I let it go on too long because I didn't recognize the warning signs. I didn't have that experience. I didn't even know I had a problem until it was too late. It's good to hear someone else's experience to help us recognize when to act. Thanks for posting this.
I like his fiery red hair.
Awww poor dude. That is an incredible story of how human nature favors honesty and goodness. I came out in high school, but nowadays, now that I'm working as an architect and developing my career, I feel a real uncertainty about what it means to come out: to co-workers, to clients, to my boss etc... everyone assumes I'm straight and most of the time I don't bother to tell new people about my sexuality, despite the fact that I'm also married to a man. I realize that something I thought I would never again have an issue with has resurfaced.
I grew up and came out in Placerville in the 90s. By the time I got to the stage in my life where I could get places like New York City, something in my trauma and just my age just kept me boyfriendless and I struggled to find dates there too. I’m glad New York City worked out for you but relocating to a city doesn’t always create the connection opportunities for all of us that we really need from adverse mental health conditions we endure being raised in less supportive environments.
Coming out is all well and good, but you need to live your truth to be happy with yourself, so glad you got the help you needed.
This guy is GORGEOUS! Beautiful red hair!!
What a handsome, wonderful guy. As a fellow 21 year old gay man who is struggling with the hardships of being a gay man in this world, I needed to hear this. Although I have been out to virtually everyone in my life since I was 13, the other aspects of gay life have impacted me vastly, and I it is so important for gay men to have platforms to share their experiences with other gay men. :)
Illuminating & important! We MUST SUPPORT each other regardless of race, creed or orientation. Only one negativity may be the straw that breaks the camel's back. Guys, you were the toughest at that! Thanks for sharing your stories!
Joe, fantastic. About two minutes into this, I said to myself "he needs to see a counselor." Good for you, man, that you did. This will help many who felt like you did..........love you, bro..........Ray
We are also living in NYC metro area. We've tried to contact lots of therapists but none of them would ever pick up the phone! We really need help and I'm just sad that things like this are happening.
Wooo, did this one ever hit home. It's like he's telling my story. Except, I haven't been able to move to that "oasis' yet and live my best gay life. Please, god, let me find my oasis and my inner peace....let me find me.
@Lynda Anthony blesss you, so sweet. Here's hoping 2019 is my year (and yours) :) xxoo
I Hope you have found it now! You are seen and loved ❤ 🌈
His problem is common, he had a guilty conscience. The process of searing it is painful and the consequences are hell.
I love your story. I'm so glad you made it through and got help. I'm straight and can totally relate to having anxiety and finally getting help after suffering for a long time.
he's gonna burst outta that shirt.
There is a real calmness within you it’s called love stay in touch with that power and utilize everyday to benefit yourself and others...love the red hair!
Wonderfully articulate young man. 😀
Wow. So inspirational, I'm a Jamaican that is going through similar situation but just don't know what to do😭
Tilda Swinton is taking method acting to a whole new level
I think they were just waiting for you tell them your truth. They already knew/assumed about your sexuality
Finally a real Beautiful Portuguese red head. I have only seen that color when I was in Portugal admiring the natural sexiness of the Portuguese male.
Lovely story and wonderful lesson. (And Oh my word...Gingers are so dreamy...)
Just be yourself don’t worry what others say about you you are unique
You lose social anxiety a soon you stop puting in you head you are gay you choose to be it!!!!
Can bevileve this could willingl happen 😮
But why not talk it out with your partner and with your friends?
Adorable! Will you marry me? 😁 And I LOOOOVE your Red hair.
Looks like Rod and Todd
Congratulations on finding your way. You were very brave !
Glad he's on the right path.
Such a nervous girl.
Good point.
Thanks.
This is so good to share. Thank you.
Honey it's time for bed...
Going through some of this myself, though not as extreme. Also struggling to embrace my sexuality. I like his last name: it’s Portuguese like mine. God bless.
Well I’m so glad he was able to reconcile himself to who he is.
Im so scared and shy, i want feel free and just ask for help, but i cant. i have nobody
So inspiring to see his pee pee covered in poo poo!!!! 😂😂
Hey! I'm from Folsom!
Yeah, interesting how he spoke of Sacramento like there's no gay scene there so he had to move to NYC. smh
Can I just say something about your upload schedule? Why???
An important message from a seemingly nice man but like so many of his generation he would be a more effective communicator if he did not incessantly use the word "like". By actual count he said the word "like" seventy times in this clip.
ok and what about it?? if you have anything else to criticise about him just say it. that's not something we worry about any more thanks
I didn't know ginger exists in america
RyanA BOI there’s are so many gingers in America is there some thing going around saying Ginger’s don’t exist in the USA if it’s a joke sorry I’m slow
Joey Kelly 01 lol ok
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That tshrit is small for him
Folsom is a suburb of Sacramento. California's capital, metro area of 2,500,000 with a "gayborhood" called Lavender Heights and one of the most gay cities in the country as a percentage of the population. Please don't make it sound as if you grew up in the middle of nowhere with no access to a gay lifestyle or support.
I came out in Sacramento back in the 90s and grew up in Placerville 50 miles away. Sacramento is a very mixed bag and Folsom and other areas of the suburbs could be quite conservative. But yes, this man had it a lot better when they had a short drive to get to where there was a supportive area in Midtown Sacramento, and even San Francisco, which was less than 100 miles away. Placerville in the early 90s coming out was just really scary.
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