THRIFTING ALONE IN NYC (i’m going through an identity crisis)
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- เผยแพร่เมื่อ 2 ส.ค. 2022
- I'm undergoing a style/identity/confidence crisis. So i went thrifting :p
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i can relate to that. you're style doesn't have to be "unique", it just has to be a part of you. the real you. i always thought you were fashionable. i hope you feel more like yourself soon
update: im so sorry that man catcalled you and was creepy. he's disgusting.
Thank you for this
girl, I literally follow you because I think your style is unique lol. maybe you don't get it cause you don't see yourself from other peoples prospective. but trust me, you stand out and I'm sure that people on the street notice your outfit aswell + I love your hair. love from italy
girrrl literally like i’ve always loved her outfits!
@@morgansai7852 I know right? she's so cool
Omg same!
@@unam0611 yes girlll
yess her hair is like my inspoo
Dude I relate to this problem so much and I feel like I'm going through the same thing. I only ever feel confident when I dress up/well, but right now I don't know what clothes/style makes me look best (if that makes any sense) or good even. I feel like clothing used to help me feel so confident but now it will make or break my day. Thanks for bringing this up because I thought I was being dramatic
Omg i get what you're saying because same! And i think it's mainly because of so many trends that are represented in social media at the same time, it's exhausting really..
I feel you
have the same thing after dying my hair a dark brown. i love it on its own and didnt think it would make a difference style wise but my whole wardrobe looks off now and like im still dressing as a blonde ?
it's so crazy how much of our confidence is rooted in how we feel towards our own looks, whether it be through fashion, hair, or weight. although i also feel the same way, it's hard to not get caught up on those feelings and tear ourselves down. but in reality, i think we're all too harsh on ourselves. like many other people commenting, i think that your sense of style is so well-put together and unique that i sometimes think, "oh only she could think of an outfit like this or pull this off". you really are amazing so please remember to give yourself the credit you deserve.
If she's Asian she's my type
basic is unique in a way babes. your style can change everyday, you don't have to look a certain vibe all the time. you don't need other people's attention, you only need to know that everything that makes you you are what matters individually.
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i’m so happy that you posted this video because it’s a very common feeling to put your self-worth into things that just do not define you. i appreciate you for this video & i hope you understand how cool you are, because of who you are ♡ ♡
The age-old struggle. I’ve been vlogging about it too lately. I think a lot of us 20-something struggle with self-worth 🥴😩
@@dovenicolevlogs girl no definitely i feel you
@@morgansai7852 nobody prepped us for this
I’m going through this at 26, because I don’t look like a teenager anymore but I also don’t want to give off super mature vibes. I’ll save that for mid 30s lol it’s a crisis 😭😂
Me too being alternative at 25 is weird because I don't wanna look childish and I don't wanna look old 😂
@@Mmakeup mature goth vibes are pretty cool though
Same im 23 and i wanna wear stuff that i like but im worried it will look like im dressing too young
You look addictive by the way
I'm late to the party but this is such an interesting topic, honestly. We're constantly bombarded with pictures of influencers and trends, and aesthetics and vibes and it can be difficult to figure out whether you actually like something for yourself or whether you just like something on someone else, or because you just think 'this is what the cool people are wearing and I also want to be part of that crowd'. It's really easy to impulse buy stuff, and then never wear it because it looked great on someone else, and it's just not really 'our own' style. Or practical. Here's my take and how I am figuring out what I want to wear: (but I mostly wrote this to think about it myself so sorry for taking up comment space haha, its ok if no one ever reads it!!!!)
Influencers have the time (and money) to build outfits and make the best, creative, flattering photos, with awesome brands, often with sponsorships (so things can be expensive). And maybe they don't have to stand on their feet all day for their work, so they can wear heels or something revealing or whatever. That's their real job, to inspire us with creative ways of looking at fashion, to share new and cool brands and ideas around trends, aesthetics, vintage or sustainability. An important thing here of course is that next to this, which I think is very valuable, it's also marketing with product placement, aiming at selling a lot of clothes to their viewers. Which is what we have to be conscious of.
I try really hard nowadays to firstly not do any impulse buys, to really picture wearing something outside (to work, on free days, vacation, parties, etc), and whether I would feel like myself (and comfortable) wearing it in 'real life', specifically my own life. Which doesn't involve a lot of cool events or red carpets (or hot weather). It's not always bad to buy something just because it beautiful of course, you can also enjoy fashion as an aesthetic thing instead of it always having to be practical.
Then secondly, I've been trying to really think about what suits me and what fashion builds up my identity and I what I feel myself in. For example, for me that would be early exposure to skate culture/hiphop (I'm a millennial hehe. so dickies, vans, oldschool styles of adidas and nike, streetwear), menswear (blazers, knits, academia grandpa style), but also pinks/poofy/girly, 90s/00s.. which also corresponds to how I feel day by day, sometimes I feel more feminine and chill to wear a dress (which makes me feel a bit vulnerable at times), sometimes I need a protective layer and wear looser stuff, or I feel a bit more 'boyish' that day, or I really need a balance of feminine/masculine vibes that day, etc. Figuring out what colors I feel most myself in also really helped. And don't forget you can have and mix many aesthetics, pretty much no one is just one thing. And we also constantly change, as does our style and what we have a need for (comfort, quiet or actually standing out and experimenting).
recently, Ive had too completely overhaul the way I approach exercise. My whole childhood, I was obsessed with wanting a flat stomach, felt like I couldn't wear anything because of my body type. I know it came from family - brown, immigrant families have no filter or awareness of the impact of their comments. Now I try really hard to work out because its medicine for my depression and try to remember its not about pushing myself to oblivion every time I get on the mat. I live my the notion of consistent mediocrity now, just a consistent 60% effort for my brain.
I began posting my workouts on my channel, so I'd have a visual to SEE with my own eyes, that I'm getting stronger, and better at yoga/pilates and exercise isnt just about trying to be thin.
this made me feel validated like i’ve felt like this before and i’m glad i’m not the only one. thank you
I just randomly found this channel and I think that it’s really interesting to do this kind of video since most of the content creator are just trying to show the good part of their life and not that one bad part that anyone can through. Also good luck to the people who are struggling with identity crisis or any bad stuff :) !
your video was honestly so relatable. I literally felt the same as you. Really glad I found your channel
I loved hearing the story of your fashion journey, especially as another quiet Asian girl in high school who got known for her cute outfits / being the fashionable one. Fashion (especially styling hand-me-downs & thrift store finds, since I was lower income and that was the only way I could afford new clothes) definitely became part of my identity because of those years. And it’s so true that there are moments when you lose your sense of style because you lose touch with yourself, but you’ll find that joy in your style again! Like with life there’s always ups and down. Thank you for taking us along your journey
hi!! i discovered your channel only like two days ago but i need to say thank u. thank u because i literally related to every SINGLE WORDDD of your talk about style & confidence, it made me feel so understood. + i really appreciate how in your videos you don't just show aesthetic moments and produce inspiring content, you actually talk about your fears and doubts and insecurities and that's really special
Wow dude I resonate this what you say in this video so much, from a young age I remember constantly changing outfits in order to find something that was cute or better and never feeling like I had anything to wear because my style was consistently changing which only got worse the older I became because I was influenced by other styles and so what I’m wearing can depict my mood so drastically and it leads be to have breakdowns because I don’t know what to wear or I feel like what I want to wear is too much somehow, but I really loved this video it’s nice to know that I am not the only person who has struggled with self confidence issues due to clothing, you are so beautiful and unique I wish you the best of luck
to me, i think your style stands out, that’s the main reason i started following you but it’s understandable to feel that way when you’re surrounded with different people and environment
Thank you for being so honest here! I hope you get into a nice flow state between self expression and feeling good about yourself!
dear Lindsiann
I’ve been watching your videos for quite some time now and, yes, I discovered your channel because I absolutely adored your style and still do, I think it for sure is unique. But I eventually kept on watching all of your vlogs as I just really enjoy listening to the thoughts you share, your humour and storytellings. It seems you reflect a lot on yourself and your environment and even though that can sometimes lead to overthinking, I am convinced that it’s also required for self growth. You look stunning with your new red hair and whatever you wear - yet I believe it is more importantly your whole aura that makes you so special and beautiful.
Honestly thank you so much for posting this. You put into words just how I’ve been feeling lately. As an introverted teen also living in nyc it’s so hard for me to do things by myself while I’m trying to find what I like. Thank you ❤️
i love youre onesty and how you speak with us. it is really relaxing and it helps me with my metal state alot to hear how other peopel feel
I relate to this so much dude. Honestly, if I don't look good I literally don't feel good. It's horrible. Even with style stuff, I really beat down on my style and want to be unique and different. But then I see trends and stuff and follow them and feel a lil good and better. And even though I know I do it, and it's kinda bad, I still do it because of habit and I find it soothing. And all the other stuff like patriarchy, consumerism etc that affects why we care about our appearance. Ugh just ugh. But thank you for being honest and creating a safe space. Sending love Linsi xx.
You are unique, and I think that’s why so many ppl enjoy watching your videos is because that’s what makes you an individual, different. There’s no harm in experimenting with your style or hair, the worst that’ll happen is you’ll know what u like and don’t and from there you go out of your comfort zone, maybe layering clothes or other possibilities you haven’t even considered will present themselves, it’ll take time but one day you’ll look back on these moments and know how far you’ve come. Love the video
omg loved hearing your perspective on this, I'm moving to London for uni in a few weeks (at an art school) and I have found myself stressing and overthinking my style, tiered of my clothing. However I think its mainly the pressure I put on myself is irrational as I hear you say the same however I think you outfits are always cute!
Girl, I'm going throught the same about my style, and I thought I was being stupid , but now I know I wasn't. Thank you for sharing it!
I relate to this so much, been hating my hair and my clothes lately and I feel like I'm stuck with no freedom of my style. Hope your doing better xx
i feel like this conversation was very important and not vain. a lot of people, including my friends and i, have felt this way. this video validated a lot of emotions. don’t be so hard on yourself, you’re doing great.
Your video popped up randomly and honestly your outlook on fashion and confidence…and the toxic duality of the 2 really hit home
Girl, I feel u when you say you find comfort in walking around department store shopping when u already walked in knowing you are not going to buy one item. Whenever I feel stressed and I want to unwind myself and feel safe, I do that :)
First time watching one of your videos and I just want to say I love your transparency and the aesthetic of your video. The way you present yourself makes me feel as if I'm talking with a friend. You make the world seem more free and open; honestly, I love that. Your cool dude.
girl i love your hair, res siuts you so well, and you’re style is also so inspireing
this is my first time watching your videos and i love how your so vulnerable it’s inspiring! i completely understand your crisis too! but nyc will inspire you enough to get through it!
thank you so much for this video… this really helped me bc i’ve been in a creative block lately and for some reason this completely struck up tons of inspiration for me? also: your style is so so cute & i totally understand your feeling of not being good enough compared to other people and their outfits! thanks so much for sharing
I’ve been thinking the exact same thing, especially since moving to NYC recently this has been on my mind x10. I feel like I overcompensated starting in HS with fashion because I was unsatisfied as being seen as the “quiet girl” and I wanted to stand out in another way. I thought moving here would spark my confidence and creativity but it’s so much easier to feel like I fade into the background. I think if I saw you out and about I’d think, what a cool girl !
I love your vibe and trust me you’re so unique yourself!! P.s : we want more NY vlogs 🥺
this was too relatable. also i immediately subscribed in the first minutes of the video, mostly because i thought your style was unique and cool af! sending love xx
Girl, this is so relatable today. Somehow this video was recommended in the list and boy it clicked immediately. Tq for making this video. A much needed one today. Bless you and good day/ evening to all.
no because I’ve been feeling the same way. I’ve been obsessing over having a certain style and vibe just to feel good about myself. It is a huge part of my identity as well.
your feelings are literally so valid, like I relate so much to this. Literally girl I feel you.
This video is comforting like… I always abt things like this but don’t give myself credit cz it ‘shouldn’t matter.’ Makes me feel good like I’m not the only one who stresses over little things
You’re so beautiful and your style is so amazing! Pls don’t let anything affect you! Lots of love❤️
the way i relate to the segment about finding your voice in fashion...almost made me tear.
all I can say is experiment, don't try to conform or limit yourself to one look, just wear what you want and if you don't know what you want try everything
okay i literally also struggle with identity crisis because i care so much about what people think since i’m going into highschool (freshman year) and i’m so nervous so i tried staying basic but still cute you know ? i honestly love that you aren’t scared to dress however you want and it may be easier since you’re out of highschool and no one can really gossip but i admire you for your fashion and i love your hair so much.
Girl,no ur litterally so pretty and your style is so unique!
Girlie, you’re one of my fave youtubers! Love your vibes and fits. Although you don’t think your style is unique, don’t worry because it will come by time!
You are so, so pretty! Just remember, we’re all unique in our own way. Keep your head up high and remember that you are YOU, and that is beautiful in itself.
lin you're so inspirational and you're doing great
lidsiann's "alone" vides radiate an emma 2.0 vibe. love them both! ❤🔥
My friend was going through a moment where she hated her hair after she paid enormous amounts of money for it to get done. So then she obviously started talking about how bad it looks so don't be discouraged that you're not the only one experiencing this problem. But it made me think of the time where this girl in middle school said that her hair plays a big role in her mood. Which is literally so validdddd we look at ourselves all the time so it's easy for us to put ourselves down on our appearances. Other people might not think your style is basic/un-unique because there's a lot of unstylish people out there! So be more compassionate with yourself and try not to think what you deem is important in your life as ~stupid~ Identity is what makes us who we are so don't water yourself down or discredit your style journey. I suggest writing down 10 things you like about your style and that way you'll grow an even deeper appreciation to your identity in the fashion aspect!!! Love your content :)
for me, confidence is not only tethered to how you look externally but how you feel internally and if you dont feel good in either aspect then maybe its good to try and take a step back so that you can regain the lost understanding of who you are and who you want to present yourself as. even if you are wearing "basic" or "copycat" outfits of other people, you are still unique in the fact that you put the outfit together and added your own touch/flair to it. the uniqueness stems from what you do with what you have, rather than what it looks like. kind of like if its a basic outfit but theyre pieces you love yk, its something that is unique to you because of how toy feel about it and what you did with it.
tldr: everyones unique and you dont need to prove anything to anyone in order to show your uniqueness. how you feel right now might just be something you need to work on, but that doesnt mean that itll be a forever thing. you make things what you want them to be :)
sending all the love !! your hair looks amazing and i love your style too !!
Thoroughly enjoyed this video! Love hearing your honest thoughts, thank you:) continue being you!
Girl you are beautiful just the way you are it’s about what’s on the inside not the outside and you are really pretty dont think about yourself that way ❤❤
this is the first vlog that i am currently watching from ur channel today and i think u look so pretty !!!
omg babe i hope you'll keep doing some vlogs like this bcs you literally give me like boost my confidence and get rid of my "anxieties" :)) love you !!!!
you are genuinely so cool!! i love ur hair and style.
I relate so so much btw I literally just woke up from a nightmare and this video made me feel safe plus I felt understood since clothes has been my armor to protect & express myself 💖
Also dude you’re editing skills are amazing. You’re content is so good. Keep going!
this video made me feel soo much better im going to school in london and ive been feeling all the same things as you!!! and wanted to hear someone talk about it tooo! Thank you
lindsiann makes any outfit look good
girl, i’m with you but i actually love your style! i work in fashion in nyc and hate all my clothes rn and am having a fashion crisis
Yo, I've been feeling shitty about myself too. I hope you start to feel better and find what you're looking for sooner or later!! It's hard trying to be somebody in a sea of somebodies. The internet has fucked with us so much but you keep doing what you love.
I felt the same way whenever I go to NYC. Everyone's so rich, fashionable, and pretty and I would always end up feeling so bad about myself.
I loved the way VC is because VC is unique and I love how you share your day with your followers and I'm sure that when you pass on the street a lot of people look at you and think "wow how stylish she is"
you *
I literally love you so much you always know the right things to say.
i think its totally valid to have this kinda crisis over your appearance, especially if youre walking around a place like new york, even if its not a competition, you just feel bad for not looking so nice, so its super valid to not feel good abt yourself
You’re style is amazing!!! You look gorgeous and I honestly love the colour on your hair🤍 so much inspiration for nice fits
Lots of love from Germany
I feel you. I started trying to find my style in 8th grade, and now I’m starting senior year, and I’m still struggling. I feel like the wind blows and I suddenly want to dress in a different style. I’m honing in on my true niche, but it’s going to take awhile. Perhaps my whole life- but people are always changing, so of course our taste changes, too.
You are the person I always come back to look at lol.. idk how to explain it but I always think to myself „wow she’s so pretty“ and „oh this outfit looks so amazing“
i love your vibe and how real you can be, much love
Im so happy that i found ur channel never felt so understood in my life! btw love ur style
So glad the algorithm recommended this to me 💗 immediate subscribe. I relate so much to everything you spoke on and absolutely love your vibes
What u said about ur breakdown or ur style crisis is so well said and easy to understand, that I could relate. You made me realize that I was kind of going through the same thing, thank u! I appreciate u and i hope and pray that we can finish going through this:) btw I love how u look wearing this top (2:24)! Anyway have a good day
i’m going to NY at the end of this year and i CANNOT wait love you girlie
your desire for more and willingness to introspect is what makes you unique love. just take this vid for instance-never i have watched a youtuber address the discovery/question of self-worth via thrifting. BUT YOU DID. yes, a love for fashion is indicative of a heart that fights to keep passion and beauty alive, but you alrdy possess passion and true inner beauty in itself. truly, your vulnerability transcends what any outfit can express.
Girl I can relate lol, it’s so hard to explain like I hate what I’m going through but I kinda used to it + you’re so pretty and I love your style!
You remind me of bestdressed
Your hair is sooooo good though 😩takes me hours and luck and perfect weather to make my hair look like yours for a few minutes, you’re blessed. Love this video 💕
hi :) im from Germany and now I moved in my own apartment. I feel really lonely sometimes but u videos give me energy, hope and a reason to smile. thank u so much! 😊
Your honesty is refreshing. 🤍
Lindshian you looked so beautiful in that dress with pink flowers 🌹 at the table :) you talk about identity crisis so I wanted to tell you something nice and positive. This dress looked so good on you. Well done girl.
i relate to you so much on the style crisis. i’m born and raised in ny so that imposter- syndrome feeling walking around the city is so heavy.
First time seeing your channel and I'm very intrigued btw love ur fashion style and I love ur hair too ❤️✨
You are way too hard on yourself! I love your style. Don’t view yourself in someone else’s light, just be yourself and you will be UNIQUE!! Oh and the pictures of little Lindsiann were cute!
ur vids are sooo inspiring
I understand the issues with style and identity. I go through a lot of shifts of dressing down or not doing my makeup because either I don't have time for it or I try to make myself efficient without necessarily needing to "look good". It goes okay for a while but recently I haven't been liking my clothes or my makeup and I've been getting to a point where I realized I am not treated as nicely without it. It is not great that people are ruder to those they don't view as attractive but these interactions, matched with me not wanting to dress up better have been kicking me down more and more. The other day I decided to wake up early like I would when I was in school; with extra time to do my makeup, pick an outfit, etc. and while it felt great I realized I don't know what my style is at the moment. Clothes are something I fluctuate with all the time so this isn't a surprise that an outfit I pick out at 7am doesn't feel right by noon but the frustrations are real and affect your confidence and just how you feel day to day. I want comfort because I have long days where I am out and about for 12-14 hours but I don't feel like me because of this. I want to find a middle ground but comfortable styles are not necessarily my style lol. Anyways, it may feel silly to have an identity crisis over clothes but if clothes and appearance and that sense of individuality matter to you then it is important! I hope you are able to improve on how you've been feeling but sometimes a little crisis helps build you, it just takes time :)
Your identity crisis is not stupid. Idk how I found you but I like your aesthetic. Im 39 yr old lady from TX. I understand the identity thing. Your content is lovely.
gurl you literally look so good in everything like can i BE you
I never have related so much to a YT video. It's a hard thing to explain, being obsessed with your appearance/choice of clothes( most times being good at it) but also feeling confident or not because of it
oh my gosh, you looked so good in the dark purple outfit :) and the sage green top too :) I understand the feeling of an identity crisis lol. I ended up settling nicely into like a hippie kind of vibe
your style is literally amazing 😭
The unique style will come!! Don’t force it and just wear what you like in the meantime. Everything will be ok! The thing that stood out to me MOST in this video is how many times you said you hate your hair 😂 I feel like your style confidence has gone down ever since getting your hair done and not liking it…I think you alluded to that in this video as well. Although a style rut is frustrating for sure, I am having a spidey sense that you will feel a million percent better if you just redo your hair one more time so that you don’t hate it so much! HAIR IS KEY! ❤️❤️❤️
Just give yourself time to figure out your style! I was always insecure about wearing unique or bold vintage pieces and now I'm 27 and don't care anymore what people think of my outfits! They don't have to wear it, just be you♥
To be honest I have the same crisis you have. Your not alone. Sometimes I wonder if my style is actually good and just going through the city and looking at attractive people makes me question myself all the time. But remember. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. And even if you don’t have a good style you have an AMAZING PERSONALITY that makes your own style so much more unique. We love you
if i was in new york i would go back to see you, your style is amazing.
I promise you so many people feel the same way. We all at some point have a hard time feeling ok with ourselves and that’s ok. It will get better. Just stay positive and remember to always treat yourself nicely💓. Last thing DO NOT ever feel bad about expressing yr feelings for a “stupid thing”. If something bothers you it’s important. If someone can’t under that it’s their problem. Take care and stay positive ♥️
I have the same kind of feeling that you have whenever I go outside, and I´m not sure if this may help but whenever I have a wrong feeling about my clothes in public I just remember that the same way I think "wow that person´s outfit slay and I look like shit" someone else is thinking the same about me, at least one person. so take and deep breath and relax bc people who don´t slay are the ones that jugdes others about their style and confidence
First video I watched of yours and instantly love … SUBSCRIBED ❤
I'm studying English right now and you know learning the foreign language is quite difficult,, and also because of other social problems I'm having confidence crisis too.
But after your advice, I can do more love myself then before. And you should know that I want to speak English like you someday and your voice is so cool! (sorry if my grammar is wrong)
Your grammar looks good :)
I myself am also going through an identity crisis, so I know how you’re feeling right now. I go to a private school, so we all have to wear uniforms. Sometimes I have to look at someone again because its like “Why does she look so good and I don’t? I’m wearing the same clothes as her.” And it drives me crazy.
She's so pretty- Her style is so cool :)
This video came out better than i thougth it would be, like, Just a girl in NY, but i identify with almost all the things you said about how you feel with the way you dress and feel, keep going, I'm gratefull i know your channel :)